The Narcissist's Game of Hot and Cold
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The hot cold routine is basically the addiction withdrawal routine, it's the hot that gets you hooked and the cold that makes you feel withdrawal. A sick sick feeling. Great video!!!
Olympia Sophie,hope you are not with a narcissist cause you are too precious!
This information is so helpful,sad I had to learn it so late in life,but better late than never
After final disgard your head is messed up for ages..Get our before if you can..Trauma bomd kills u
"at the end of the day you're going to have to choose who you love more: yourself or the narcissist" it's just striked me, thank you very much!
Narcissists are also emotionally immature (no matter what their age is) and are unable to show empathy. That's usually when they cut the person off. The partner/friend/spouse tries to explain his/her side of the story, and the narcissist will not hear it.
And then there is the love bombing that occurs. After a period of time (could be days, weeks, months, or longer), the narcissist comes back out of nowhere and love bombs, drawing their prey back in. The cycle continues over and over until the abused person finally makes the decision to get out. (Although that won't stop future love bombing). Cutting all contact forever is the only way to be free of them.
Is there a difference btwn a narcissist and a person who is bipolar? both are abusive.
I couldn't agree more..
@@cassandram.2390 He'll come back to you.. then leave you again.
You deserve better.
@@cassandram.2390 Oh, he's a real playa alright. To feel better he urinates in your coffee cup and expects you to drink it, which you do. It hurts, I know. I've been through it. But the sooner you see him for what he truly is, the less painful the future will be the sooner you drop this sack off to the side of the road. Otherwise you're allowing him to repeatedly rip off that bandaid on your heart.
@@cassandram.2390 Understood, but I hate seeing people be so mistreated. The world is big, which translates to plenty of people you will meet in your journey in life. There will be that guy who will appreciate what he has in front of him............meaning you.
I've dated several narcs in the past. Defeating them is actually quite simple. Once you realize the game and whats going on, you simply abandon them during their cold phase or whatever. This is at their core what they fear most and is seriously damaging to them in so many ways. Before you know it they will be chasing you down doing everything they can to win you back, but you don't let them. suddenly you have them on the leash. :)
O god you're right. Mine came back unexpectedly on a new number and I stupidly thought what's the harm in platonic reconciliation. He knows he has pissed me off but I fear he will try to come back again and I just don't want him to..Ever! He's toxic . I should play with him like he did me so he's so wound up he will NEVER want to return to me again is that the right move?
This is scary accurate. This is what my ex did to me. I called him out, asked if he wants to be with me because his behaviour showed otherwise, he gaslighted me by saying "I wanted to be with you until you had to bring this up. Now I am not sure." And when I asked when can we talk face to face he ghosted for days and then broke up with me. Plain sociopathic narcissist.
When you start to have boundaries, they gaslight and leave you. Smh. Either way if he is a narcissist or just a jerk. You deserve more than that, hon. ♥️
Yes!!! It's crazy how many women/men go thorough this! He tried to come back again but finally I had the strength to say NO! These people NEVER change.
so true run from that
That Bastard. He will get that very same behaviour from Someone else. Spiritual Mental Vultures is what they are
Geez. To my knowledge I've never encountered (dated) a narcissist because by the second sign of "crazy" I'm out. Insecure guys that try to make me jealous by bringing up other women? Yes many of those but I'd cut contact at that point. If they thought they were giving me the silent treatment then I gave them the block treatment. If I begin to feel down about myself in the presence of the person I'm dating, I know they aren't for me. Best to not stick around and see what other damage they can come up with. Thank you for pointing out this behavior.
Girl they got smarter
@@kitten_582 lol right? they put a ridiculous amount of effort into the game playing when they should improve themselves!
Wow you’re amazing
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So a narcissist is like an abusive, controlling, parasite?
They feed off your energy.
that's one of many descriptions I would use. yes.
exactly
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I just cut out a narcissist. Thank god. I feel so much better emotionally and spiritually now.
OMG. I was the host. You are so right!! He was punishing me during the cold. Holy Hell!!
Oh my goodness! I just can't with all the games. I have a feeling that I will continue to be single forever.
Yup that's how its going to be for men and women lack self love and a fear to surrender to our partners for fear of being hurt justifiably so because of past experiences, will keep us single, I got stories😊 who doesn't in this game we play with our hearts.
I am at least happy that I'm not miserable being single. I'm happy with myself and love my own company. Being alone should allow me to hopefully work on my ability to quickly discern the right people for me. But honestly, I have never felt hurt: neither betrayed nor heartbroken while living alone&single. I have never felt as happy in a relationship as I have staying alone&single. And I have never felt lonely being alone&single while I always ended up feeling painfully lonely in a relationship. So, why would I not want to be single forever? I wouldn't mind staying single forever till the very death....I'm not sure if it's healthy or not. Some people claim it is a bad thing and they say I became cynical about human nature. Some people say I'm just an introvert. But I am not complaining. And I am not theoretically against a relationship. I am just really happy on my own: I don't feel any suffering or confusion! All I feel is peace and clarity of mind and I want to keep that state of mind forever. It's too good to not want to keep. Why is it that bad?
Yes m’am
Men started playing games and now women are playing them back. When men stop playing games, then women won't have to.
There is no one on TH-cam quite like you! You provide the best advice/information/input. You're incredibly calming as well!
I've dealt with hot and cold and it's the WORST. When you think they're gone, they sneak back in. I was caught in a cycle for over 2 years with someone. It takes a lot of strength to ignore them and move forward but it's the healthiest avenue to take. If you stay, you'll slowly go insane lol.
The next time a narcissist pulls one of their “routines” on you, send them this link. You only have one life, live it for you and not for someone else’s amusement.
I was married to a diagnosis psychopath for 5years. I've been no contact sense March 29th 2017. It's the only way.
I just fully recovered April 2018. So a full year Wowzers. I'm proud of myself!
I spent 8 months with a Narcopath. It was totally mind Fu..ery! Cognitive dissonance!
You can never be enough for a Narc.
Trust me a narcissist will contact you back and if you let them into your life once again then may be you'll regret this decision later.
I use to believe that everyone deserves a second chance so i trusted her words but guess what she returned back after 5 years just to take her revenge (since i walked out of her life because she use to treat me like a piece of shit)
So this time she took away every single thing that I use to love about my myself. I ended up being hospitalised with a broken back. I couldn't even walk for months and at the same time she left me. With such thought and unanswered questions in mind, being bedridden, immobile, dependent, and alone was extremely depressing. At this point, you become your own worst enemy.
Life is funny isn't it! Sometimes someone teaches you a lesson just because you love them the most.
Im so sorry to hear that... I went through something similar.. He came Back to take revenge.. Now I feel like a crap again for giving him another chance but ok he is blocked, this time forever!
Anurag yadav Omg 😳 !!! Sorry to hear this! Thank you for sharing! I did give the narcissist a 2nd chance and it was “hell broke loose” he turned evil 👿 and did his revenge crap just like you said! Listen to us people! Donot give narcissist a 2nd chance!🤣😂😅👊🏽💥💥
I chose loving,myself then the narc
The fact that you don’t edit is amazing. I wish I had a fraction of your communication skills and not least your wisdom. Many thanks 🙏
denise hall,hope you are not with a narcissist cause you are too precious!
I honestly wanted to die during the cold phase. The neglect got even worse.. he would do the tit for tat. He would avoid my presence and “do his own thing” after giving me 4 hours worth of off and on crumbs. he stopped giving me even crumbs towards the end. At this point 90% of worth was gone. I wanted to die. I even committed acts of self harm and he wasn’t even compassionate. He acted like an annoyed security guard at a mental hospital. I can’t believe people like this exist, considering he was so different in the beginning. Every time I thought something was good and we were okay, there he went confusing me again.. I would ask him what happened what’s wrong, what are we? His response was “this is just how I am right now. I can’t do this alone”. Vicious cycle over and over.
So sad. What a vicious hurtful waste of your precious time and feelings.
So totally with my ex. Storm out the door, never talk about issues. All because I stood up to him.
yup mine too
Same!!!!! 🙋💯💯💯💯💯💯
I have been watching narcissistic/codependent TH-cam videos for eight months now. This video hands-down said it all. I wish I saw this back in July
Mimi Mimi,you looking good
Susan, thank you for making these videos about narcissists. I've been waiting for it for a very long time because I've always wanted to hear your sophisticated view point on this evil, insidious emotional abuse .
I appreciate that, SimplePleasurz12
thank you so much suzan for the amazing videos, however do narcissists also revenge ? ive had that done to me
Thank you so much for this video. It provided me with what my narcissist ex wouldn't which was closure and common sense.
You are my favourite...meditation to get back to myself in the narcissist world around. Thank you for these free lessons.
This literally gave me chills....NAILED IT! everything you said, just as you said it...wow, thank you for validating who that person really is. Broken hearts = Clearer vision. THANK YOU Susan!
This lady makes so much sense. I hate it that she is so right.
I don’t know what I would do without your straight to the point videos Susan! Thanks!
I’m currently in a situation where I can feel insane amounts of mutual attraction between myself and my work colleague, but unfortunately I’m that cold person who prefers to not show the them how much a care and I end up suffering in silence, but over time after seeing Susan’s videos and trying to learn I’ve noticed how great it feels to be warm to your crush and do things for them, you can also see how happy the person feels when you finally aren’t that cold hearted person you pretend to be, I do sometimes still find it incredibly difficult to be warm and affectionate but I am still learning.
always remember, “When in doubt, love.”
Another great video produced by the Susan Winter Machine. Dear, might I add the following: Give thought to suggesting to your viewers some good books on this (narcissist) subject matter. Doing so, will support what you have to say and may help some of your viewers get started on the road to awareness and permanent recovery.
Final word: Bail out of the Narcissist/Supplier relationship. Feel your pain. Find the best therapist you can afford and start working on yourself. Explore, "why you valued this underdeveloped person over yourself." Much love, Zaum
Zaum, you've made some great points. Thank you.
Susan I watch so many of your videos they have helped me so much. Thank you. This is exactly what happened to me. I'm so frustrated with myself for not seeing the blatant red flags. I've been involved with narcs before. I have been available for him for 4 months at his convenience. Huge connection on meeting soul mate stuff. Plays the victim for sympathy, but I think he wanted to move in due to dire financial issues. Just recently I told him I wanted to move ahead if not with him, I must respect that, but I need to move on. As he was not committing. I took some space, but he didn't fight for me. When we chatted eventually he said how he saw us living together as we have no drama. I felt like I was being a band aid for him getting over his ex and told him. Last week I texted for us to chat, he agrees. Next thing, posted all over Facebook is clear as daylight he's with another. I have played friend, counsellor, spiritual advisor and lover and I am left in absolute destruction..so cross with myself for doing it again. Clearly I didn't do enough self work the last time to heal properly. 💔😥
Hello! I let go of a narcissist over a year ago, as I did he was so startled and wasn't expecting me to go no contact. I haven't looked back. Your videos I just found today are clear and concise. Especially the insight where you talk about letting go of thinking about them. Wow! Still working on that one.... Thanks a million for your sound advice!
Jesus, and I just saw the end of the video, too. Stonewalling me when I simply asked when/if he wanted to meet was his hallmark! In fact, the day I ended up cutting it off with him, I had asked him a simple question in the morning. "Do you want to meet at my place tonight at 7?" It was a yes/no question, but he literally ignored it for 8 hours. And he did that at least once a week the entire time we dated!
yup same exact thing. Want to meet this evening? End of relationship. What do you want to do New Years Eve? End of relationship. crazy people
My ex did just as you said! I called her out on her hot/cold. 2 weeks of silence and she comes back in a jealous rage then tries to hurt me. Next day says “we will never be together” and cuts contact. A week goes by and she’s stalking me at the beach. Mind you, I have been doing 100% NC while this all unravels. Thank you Susan ❤️
I am goin though the same thing during a 4 month semi-dating relationship. I called her out and asserted my boundary over Thanksgiving. She tried to use reverse psychology on me and play victim. She refused to answer my call to discuss things rationally and like adults. I told her I would email her and she sent me a text stating that she knew I was going to end this and blame her...Mouth open, I decided right then to get off the damn track. I had had enough of the hot/cold BS and just told her she had said it all and that she clearly knew me. I applied No Contact 10 days ago and haven’t heard a word...
Ces from her perspective you were ignoring her with silent treatment. Isnt that what nc is, a nice word for something rlly cruel
This is so accurate to the T. Breaks my heart
Girl, I hate hate these GAMES!! 😩
This is the best video on Narcissism I've ever watched. Down to a T!
You are literally saving my life right now. You have no idea
Susan, i love your topics, amazing, you are a real down to earth woman, you have my total respect and i admire your work as well, thank you for helping people all around the world.
On point Ms.Susan. went through this. I picked up on it immeditely and dumped him. He is losing his mind!!!
Fabulous video. I left my narc a year ago. He is still pulling the hot and cold on me - definitely a punishment. Seven years I went through the hot and cold cycles of punishment. It left me a wreck with terrible self esteem. Took up with a girl young enough to be our daughter, thats done my head in. He knows it too. He used his new supply to punish me too (classic triangulation!). My silence unnerved him so he came skulking back cap in hand to apologise. I can't go total no contact (kids, dog🙄) but being in my own power is helping me recover. I still love him. That's hard.
Thank you Susan for your expertise!! You are such a CLASSY LADY......and BEAUTIFUL as well!! Again, thanks for the insight! ♥️🔥♥️
Thank you!
Hi. This is all new to me (5years) and I'm learning so much. I am in so much pain. But by watching and reading it's bringing it all to a head. I would like to thank you for giving of your time and knowledge to educate people like me.
Because I now understand my life as it's been, I know I need to make a very important decision.
You are such a blessing!!! Because of you, I have a much better understanding of my situation! I'll continue learning from you, thanks.
You help me a lot to identify w what I’m dealing with. So many things you say are so spot on. This is EXACTLY how someone I talk to is.
MetalMan I know how you feel. I would forgive myself for falling so deep, I can’t explain my situation but it’s not real, never was. Forgive yourself and try to carry on, chin up, and be your own kind of happy. Best luck for you.
BINGO!!!!!!! Thank you very much. It has taken me 10 years, but I am finally learning how to use this relationship to become stronger by understanding and building upon my strengths. To all whose lives are difficult because of your relationships with narcs, remember who you are. Stay true to yourselves. Your potential is far greater than you realize.
lack of responding. This shed a light
I remember you did a video about trust and various reasons why you won't get their trust, I smashed the like button and kept it as a reminder for me especially when I heard you saying that they are holding back on trusting you because they themselves are dishonest, and that hit the nail on the head for me and I feel like that and narcissism come hand in hand, they can't trust anybody, they think everybody is out to get them (they probably are) so they can't let you get close because trust to them is a vulnerability, so they will let you get somewhat close and at a certain point push you out and they have to be this shiny object that people desire because that's better than the people who know them too well because they don't have to put an act on. The mask comes off for the wife and their families and they really are a terrible, abusive person who needs to control everybody. They even go so far as to install cameras to make sure the wife isn't cheating, tap your phone start listening to your conversations because they think you're going to betray them... It's like they have to be a step ahead of you. They have to know what your next move is going to be in order to know what to do with you they have to feel like they are in control because it makes them feel good, it makes them feel better about their selves
Why would any mentally healthy person want to be with a narcissist? They are sick, evil, and dangerous, especially if they are psychopaths, or sociopaths as well. They will gaslight you, and rob you blind. Run, run, run for your life!!! Also, praise the Lord I never loved that one.
They feed on co-defendants and empathy.
Dear Susan, thank you so much for all of your wonderful videos. I love the dress you are wearing in this video. It makes you look so warm and sunny 🌞😎.
I watched so many videos of yours about Hot and Cold until I realized he was a narcissist. It wasn't that he was confused. It was that he was hoovering me. An argument could be made that anyone who willingly employs hot and cold is a narcissist. If they are trying to control you, you don't need to stick around and find out whether they are a narc or a player.
I am soooo glad I came across your videos they are truly helping me I take notes as I watch so that I can implement your advice into my every day life I am going through some troubles in my relationship it’s either going to work or we have to go our separate ways as much as it hurts to even fathom but I love me more.
this video made me realise that I've been with a narcissist for 3 years and suffering and I thought it was about me being too sensitive. Hell no. The punishments... the making me feel bad.. the insecurities... and then the hot game... subtle flirting, touching, etc... and then cold again whenever I criticise him. Now we've been 3 months without intimacy,.. I bet it's another punishment he uses against me. I'm done. susan's words made me realise that I'm in a toxic relationship with a narcissist.
Hi Susan! Great explanation as usual! I would appreciate if you could make a video about that group of confused guys who are controlling their potential of falling for someone. Thank you in advanced!
thanks for the idea. We'll add it to our list.
Thank you Susan. This video is so awesome! It explains so much! One of my all time favorite of yours!
God bless you, Susan, for spreading your wisdom. You are an amazing woman =*
Thank you so so much ! You have no idea how much this helped me. I will listen to it often when I feel at my weakest.
This explains what my crush has been doing to me: once showing really warm attitude, next time denying my existence, treating me like a piece of crap, just like that, without any reason! Everytime he would get close to me and show me affection, the next time he would make me feel not good enough, boring, annoying, uninteresting. I called him out on his tactics on messenger, dumped him and he blocked me right away. The next day he appeared with a gorgeous lady, to make me jealous. Every single time he showed affection, he withdrew it afterwards. I could see the pleasure in his eyes when he hurt me and left me confused, he was feeding off my suffering!
you are so straight down to the point with a good details.
Dam i really did end up dating another narcissistic man. 29 days of no contact now...
Your videos are well- presented, thank you.
Oh yea went through this in my last relationship hot and cold he used to say he couldn't help it. It normally happened when i said i loved him he would go cold, so i stopped saying it, and other times it happened out the blue yep also if i asked to see him he would go cold then silence! It was a horrible roller coaster am glad im off it!
Heyyyy
When you tell a narc you love them, they will be triggered and it will begin the devaluation phase. They hate anyone who loves them.
@@JonathonDenson God yes i never understood why when i told him i loved him he would go cold (devalution) then nearly always (discard) me but then weeks later (hoover) me but of course i didn't know what all them actions of his where then! I think its because they know your loving there false self not them.
That's a good point! I never thought about that. We are loving their false selves, which angers them. They want to be loved for who they really are, but they don't have the courage to be that person.
@@JonathonDenson Exactly!! 👍
I love hearing your pup 🐶 walking & drinking, sooooo cute🐶❣️
Well this makes so much sense now. I’m being punished all the time it seems like. 🤔😑😒
Thank you, Susan. Not only do you give wonderful advice, but the right one always seems to find me at the right time!
You give amazing advice , short to the the point and sensible . Thanks for your generosity
I’m going through hot n cold for over 2 years, n yes everything you just said is the story of life word by word 🤦♀️ thank you for letting me know I’m not crazy unworthy n loyal n a cheater. Thank you so much
After listening to this, I am sure I’ve been dating a narcissist for the last 2 years.. He’s been hot n cold this whole relationship and any little disagreement or argument, he wants to break up..
Omg same with my ex!!! Every conflict or negative feeling I had , he would wanna break up 😂
Thank you susan for this great video , and yes yes yes they're excatly behave like you said.
I appreciate the effort you put into sharing your experience, as well as the effort in presenting your physical presence. Well done.
I adore her voice...realistic and strong woman 💓
Have been suffering this after my ex gf finally reveled her true form about 2 months or more ago. And then turns around and accuses you of everything they’re doing. It’s pure evil as far as I’m concerned.
I'm going through this :(( .......Once again, Thank you so much Susan
Same. High standards protect you from low quality experiences. You have to be strong to walk away when they don't meet your standards and needs.
If only I knew about you and your videos a year ago... So much pain could have been avoided, so much time could have been saved.
Wow. This is the answer of what happened to me. Thank you
I am going thru a divorce with a narcissist. I did not know what was happening to me. 16 years of hell.
Omg! Right to the point! Exactly true! Love you Susan ❤️
Thank You So Very Much
For Sharing You Are Absolutely
Right Ur Videos Are So Incredibly Helpful.
I Have Been In A Relationship With A Malignant
Narcissists For Over 5 Years He Continues To
Punish Through Our Relationship.
It’s So Very Hurtful
Thank you for this. I’ve never looked at it from this perspective. The SOB is punishing me. Cause I don’t do what he wants, and I call him out on his bs. Thank you for opening my eyes more.
Thank you for this video. This was my marriage. I finally got divorced. Now I keep attracting this kind of man, so now I’m alone. I can’t believe it happened to me. I didn’t meet my ex husband until I was in my late 30’s. Toughest thing I’ve ever been through. Advice for not attracting the same patterns?
Self love and self awareness are your only protection without that your nothing
Susan!
Thank you, you are so right with everything you say and you are able to guide me through letting go. Yes, I've talked to so many people and it is about CONTROL! I went through this many times last year with this guy, and he came back last week later thinking he could play with me again, controlling my emotions and also he is a narcissist. Attention seeking...he also has deep self esteem issues I am gathering. He wouldn't give me attention and when I would threaten walking away he would push back show a little bit of effort, then I'm back in the cycle of giving love. Also couldn't commit after a year of dating..but wouldn't let go. OVER IT!!! They are not worth it and will end up alone after his long line of girls give up.
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now at this very specific moment, yeah Narcissist ! That's what I had to deal with, Thank you soooo much for all your videos.
I have just discovered you on TH-cam and think you are absolutely marvelous in your analytical analysis. Never knew that the world was such a screwed up place but in reflection, so much of what you say rings true. And so does your advice. How can we as mothers help the men in our lives to cope better with theirs and our, natures?
Your videos are outstanding. Thank you Susan!
I’ve even had “friends” on the narcissistic spectrum. It has just been SO one-sided with these people! I only hear from them on their terms and it’s all very superficial. Hot and cold sums it up, but really it’s more like cold and luke warm… I’ve learned to focus entirely on myself, because I tend to be a narc magnet! It’s all very frustrating. I’ve also been accused of being frustrating to them, but they are never upfront about things and there’s always seemingly an underlying agenda!
Btw, we ❤ Nika and want to see her more often in these videos! 🐶
I have plenty of these type of “friends”. Hot n cold then if you distance yourself they draw you back in. The friendship is also one sided
thank you for your insightful videos, u r so so right about everything u say, explain, have a very nice weekend Suzan :)
What a video this is a perfect description of my sons mom.
The guy I was in love with exhibited this behavior. I literally felt hot/cold showers but never knew then of hot/cold terminology. He killed romantic attraction w/this. I do still love him as a person and actually feel bad f/him. W/out being shy, I was a great catch f/him-much younger and really loved him.
Love hearing Nikkos nail tappings❤️❤️
Yes, and I’ve also found that dating someone with adhd and kind of mimic this a bit, so if you’re dating them be sure to talk openly about it to them. The person I was dating also had bpd, but a lack of sincere apologies and gas lighting also makes me think she has some overlap with vulnerable narcissism, from what I’ve been learning. My point, if this person only has adhd they can get fixated on you and the relationship but then change focus not too long afterwards, so keep in mind that it’s not the same as narcissism, but! They also need to be able to work on communication about issues in the relationship because of it. Learn each other, if they aren’t willing it really doesn’t matter what they have, it won’t work. Just try to stay respectful in case they aren’t the narc, even then, be your best self when the crazy making begins:) good luck out here!
Powerful, to the point. Good work Susan..!!
Thank you Susan. I was with a Narc. Finally got out with no contact. I'm here to say that they do such horrible damage on a persons psyche. I'm still dealing with anger and resentment but am doing better. I would rather stay single( and I'm no spring chicken lol) the rest of my life than be subjected to such trauma.
A very useful video, thank you :)
Candice Powdrill,hope you are not with a narcissist cause you are too precious!
Thank you so much. Such an eye-opener. 💕
Great insight, thank you!
Just binge watched a bunch of your vids. Quite insightful and you are a doll! ;0)
SO ON POINT!!!!!!!!!!
Omg this is so crazy
You're a healer.
Hearing the background noise of traffic in your video reminded me how much I don’t miss urban living!
Thank you I needed to hear this.
I was seeing a guy and he was giving me hot and cold vibes. I just went to see him this past weekend and we had our fun. But he went cold after, no text, no call just radio silence. After 2 days I texted him,’hey did you get my text Monday?’ No response. It’s now Thursday so I finally text him for him to at least acknowledge that he got my messages by a simple ‘ok’ well he bombed me with ‘I’m busy and I just don’t want talk to anyone, you’re too much, just let things flow’ And I’m just so confused by this. I texted him that I just want to understand if he was still alive or did he get sick, why he wasn’t responding. He messages back ‘why was I controlling? Am I a narc?’😳
Like Seriously? I was so genuine with him and we had such a great time that I wasn’t about playing games so after he called me a narc, that did it for me. Deleted and blocked. Next!
Please make a video about women who bring with them bad habits from prior long-term relationships, why it happens and how to deal with it.
Susan Winter !!! I love you ♥️