Cultural thing... they tend to grow up working hard in school and prioritizing their work and hence they dont have the time to be in relationships for most of them...just look at the entertainment industry
Their government needs to crack down on some work policies that allows them earn money under humane work hours and yet also allows them to have a personal life outside of work.
OH NO!!! RESPONSIBILITIES!!!! I spent 10 years working 18 hour days. Because of this I had a 5 bedroom house at 30 years old, now married with kids. Find a partner as hard working as you and you’ll thrive. Sit around and complain and you’ll forever be poor waiting for your socialist overlords to give you something they taxed from productive people.
I'm pretty sure it's the idea of approaching someone that they find scary, especially when your goal is to form a relationship with them; theirs a fear of rejection in that. That's why it can be easier to just talk to strangers that you won't see again, especially if they're the one that approaches you, as with Yunjee.
I think what he meant is "approaching a stranger" or "attempting to form a personal relationship with a stranger". I have social anxiety, and this guy clearly does too.
Percentage of dating maybe going down but not in numbers Korea is copals country copals are everywhere and to Korean dating is part of there life but they not taking it as seriously.
As an exchange student in Korea, I had the chance to talk about this issue with my Korean friends. I've been told by many of them, men and women, that they don't want a child because they don't want their child to go through what they had to endure with the Korean education system. There's so much more to the low birth rate and putting off marriage in Korea than "dating is scary"
@@vgxezo7371 Its not bad, they're consistently ranked in the top 3 in the world in education. It is just very competitive and strict. Kids go to school normal 8 hours then they go to private academies after regular school and learn/study until very late in the night.12am or even later isn't unheard of, then home to sleep for a few hours than back at regular school.
@@GeorgiaGrown90 Imo rankings arent everything I think schools should still prioritize student's wellbeing. Students should still have time for their family and other passions. School isnt suppose to be someone's entire life just another facet of it and I think this is where many education systems go wrong.
Same thing for me and I'm not even from there. I want to have a stable income before creating a family but a lot of people believe that if you're a woman, you should have kids as soon as possible. If it was so easy to raise a child nowadays...
The last time I thought about holding someone's hand was like when I was 16. Now 24 and single still.... Now thinking about that, I have been living a pretty depressing life.
When the guy said "It's the dread of wasting emotional energy and investing your feelings to someone and you end up breaking up" I felt that in so many levels..
@@Eric-hz8qd hahaha...100% correct..Asian dude especially Korean are simp btw..and current feminist movement A.k.A men hating movements amplify the stereotypes
@@D0x1511af Yea it's pretty sad though because most women don't know this. The sad thing is that these majority beta chumps are also the ones who will jump at the chance to protect women but women put the blame on men in general so these men also find it frustrating and over time it turns to anger and resentment and this leads to all these gender hatred we see in the world today...
It is very insightful. Especially now with the case of that kpop idol who tried to kill herself after having a legal battle with her ex about him filming them having sex without her consent/knowledge. This guy in the video said "you spill your deepest secrets to someone and then dread if they will use it against you when you break up". It is so sad we have to keep that in mind now. Never revealing too much, or open up too much in case they will use it hurt us later.
The romance genre in kdrama is getting pretty boring too since every kdrama seems to have a romance aspect to it, it'd be nice to see a drama that doesn't focus much on romance
Exactly my thoughts they are talking about competition it makes me laugh as they think they are the only one facing competition seriously 😂 here in India some institution are only offering 1000 seats and more than 4 lakhs students are competing for it 😒 Just imagine the pressure we go through so just don't mindlessly say that you people are going through more stress And in some entrance exams more than 14 lakhs students are competing against each other just for some limited seats 😢
@@ritzsing1552 couldn't agree more. I'm giving my Law entrance exam on 7th June and the number of seats available for the whole state is only 50!! just 50 seats available for the whole STATE.
I think people need to date/marry when they’re ready. I’m turning 30 in 4 months and single with no kids. If I had gotten married in my 20s it would have been a disaster. I suffered with OCD and had a hard time finding my way. I feel immense pressure to marry but I know I won’t until I meet the right person. Stay single until you’re ready bcuz relationships are not easy
In the 40s and 50s, a person with a high school diploma could afford a beautiful house, 2 new cars, a stay at home wife, and yearly vacation. Today, a person with a master degree can bearly afford a decent apartment and many of them would not dare to take a vacation. It is a sad world.
A list of reasons: Hyperindividualism, poverty, easy access to new people prevents long term relationships, gender dynamics, relationship expectations, interaction work, the time investment. Our culture, and the Koreans as well, is dictated by money. It’s simply easier to buy someone’s love as opposed to win it over. So people are waiting until after college when they can just pull up in a sports car. Men are more wealthy at 35 than they are at 25. Women are more desperate at 35 than they are at 25. Unfortunately, the problem works itself out in the way we see.
@Sumit Naiding don't worry, you're right. He's considered hot if you don't buy into western stereotypes meant to keep guys like kintaro hayakawa being a sex symbol in the early 1900s and taking away "our women" (cause they're a possession to them) from happening again.
I know this is gonna sound kinda messed up but I have that mind set and im Mexican-American. I always think to myself "what will I gain from dating this person? I could be spending more time working and bettering myself rather than trying to get to know someone." Time is literally money and investing time in something you will most likely throw away or something that will brake soon isnt a smart investment.
Manggae Tteokki Yeah but you need children in order to build and grow the society. No/less babies means no/less future employees, employers, and money spenders, meaning, the people who should be dating, getting married, and having children will essentially need to work until they die, or start having a lot more children. That doesn't sound enjoyable. People argue for increased immigration, but that won't work well in such a homogenous society.
@@deckcadetmiles Platonic parenting is starting to become popular in the United States. Shoot, I already talked to a friend and we agreed on having a kid together without having to date each other. We are just waiting to have better paying jobs and a tad more free time.
Sadly I feel like this is all over the world. Even for myself I want to focus more on me first and my work or studies, before finding my significant other.
Chacha: Indeed, if you have to live with the fear of having your partner break up with you and expose you, then what’s the point of having a relationship you’re not free in? May as well not date at that point, defeats the purpose.
fetchstix™ fetchstix™ yeah :/ it sucks that there are people like that can ruin your life. Nowadays all the youngin’s are rushing to date only to not understand what is dating. We all look to social media for advice but that sometimes can make it worse. We all want to protect our hearts. Can’t trust many people these days either 😔.
After few days...... Asian boss: "Can you give us an interview, we were asking koreans about..." Random Korean: "No, no no way, I dont have time for these things..... bye!!"
Same problem as in Japan. Less free time to have a social life and if dating is expensive, you can only imagine how costly having a family is. You often need two working parents.
Her:-*"Can you imagine what it could be like not be able to go out on a date"* Indians:- *What the hell is that? It's all about Arranged marriages, isn't it?*
Dating is building memories, being romantic and playful, getting to know each other, to see if one's compatible! Arranged marriage, too often is about marrying a stranger, and probably, an unhappy marriage!
@@lenitaa7938 Well, but that's not the case here. Arranged marriage here doesn't mean just marrying off without giving thoughts or asking the boy and girl whether they wanted to get married or not after giving them enough time to know each other. It's like a blind date but with the whole family. Arrange marriage also take time like a year or two or sometimes even more. (Of course this is not always the case) But this is how it is done mostly. (Maybe not much in rural areas)
The reasons why I have never dated (22) are : 1. Study and internships caused me to move around a lot. 2. I'm not financially independent yet, I feel guilty using my parent's money for dating.
I'm 28 y.o and have been being single for 5 years. This is one of the best experience in my life. No stress, no tears and freedom to do what I want and go where the place that I want to visit alone 😂😂😂
@@UltraGamer9999999999 Because I have tried it. I have some ex-boyfriends and realize that to be in a relationship that I should be with someone that he is a good match and meet with my standard. Not because you are alone.
@@wixoss9893 Yup. We should have our ideal standard in a relationship. For example: 1. Are we have the same vision and mission in marriage/in dating or not? 2. How can we respect each other when we have a different perception? 3. How about financial management? Etc.
@@R3IMU .. The amount of emotional energy invested in meeting a new person and the frustration that comes from losing it - If a teenage girl can understand this and make wise choices, I would appreciate that!
It's not about how many there are overall, Just how many there are in a small space. That giant metro has 26 million people in it. Seoul in the center has ten million in 600 square kilometers. I grew up in a metro of 5 million people in about 23500 square kilometers... they're really stacked up in Seoul. Your joke still made me laugh though.
@@GermAntibody agreed! But i still think India has one of the most densely populated metropolitans. For instance, i live near (not even in the main city but near it) Mumbai, which houses 24 million people in 604 sq. km :)
@Alan Deutsch oh no, you're very wrong if you think India doesn't value high paying jobs. A reason is because our large population does not get enough employment opportunities. Mlst Indians don't date, they still get arranged to marry a significant other. Indians are one of the most overworked people in the world.
@Alan Deutsch yes it is..if you see the population growth between 1950 to 1980 is crazy.I am Indian and ashamed to say this that our previous gens did not do anything other than make children..now younger ppl living in metro cities are afraid to get married, divorce rates are high, mental health issues are on rise..etc.
@Alan Deutsch i dont think that would happen any sooner cuz in india even if you dont 'date' ur parents would force you to marry anyways like an arrange marriage
The soldier guy deserves a tight hug he was totally on point especially when he said "Dread of wasting emotional energy" well couldn't have related better
I'm a introvert....I think people who aren't born introverts are just turning automatically into introverts now Edit:Leave us introverts be and u extroverts stay u Edit edit:THANK YOU FOR THE LIKES😍😙❤❤
Is it weird that seeing many ppl in their mid 20s single made me feel good? Im 22 and many of my old classmates got married and im still single so i felt anxious lately but seeing this video made me feel better
I don’t think it’s just South Korea that’s dating less, I feel like it’s gen Z and millennials all around the world that barely date. And I feel that it’s down to social media and today’s current pressures. People no longer have to talk to someone’s face, they can just message someone online making everyone lazier. And because of social media everyone’s mental health is suffering. The lack of jobs and the high cost of education are also huge factors.
Perhaps, too much emphasis is on money, instead of romance and caring! Dating doesn't have to cost a lot! A walk in the park, going swimming, dancing, having tea and sandwiches, making cards, etc.. all build fun memories!
@@DELTA-ib2iu I get what you're saying, but for them it's just unrealistic. They have to do what they gotta do to make ends meet at the end of the day.
@@bluepinixy That's right. You have to provide for yourself first, and a lot if the times after you do that, there is no time or energy left for dating.
/ DELTA I mean I would want to make sure my basic needs are fulfilled like housing, food, clothing etc. love can’t buy you these things and you can certainly lose love if you struggle to have these basic needs met.
Kookie~ sorry I couldn't help it lmao. But yeah, that's really true. Personally, I'm merely 14 yet I'm really worried about my future (especially in the job aspect) and success too. I've only thought about dating but... after buying a mansion lol.
Hello Asian Boss! Firstly, I wanted to thank you for all your very interesting videos because they are very insightful and give western countries the possibility to "understand" more Asian cultures. We often tend to have misconceptions about them and your videos allow me to see things from a different angle. Personally, I come from France and, as a 19-years-old girl, I feel like my generation is dating a lot without understanding the true meaning of having a relationship. On the contrary to South Korea, I dare to say that people prefer dating than focusing on their career. Very frequently, people are going out with their friend and they don't care if they kiss a stranger. In a way, they call that "experience" but from my point of view, kissing has become something without much importance. I think that what prevent people from dating in my country is the lack of seriousness. I might be a little bit conservative too but when I hear my friends speaking about relationships, I fear that we are not evolving in a good way.
Yeah, dating seems so transactional in western Europe, casual dating is rife (not bad in itself, but sometimes it's all the person you're dating is willing to give so it seems so shallow and ....pointless to me). Better to just develop friendships in that case.
7:07 Ah, it's never good to see a man dismissing the issue of sexual assault. Just because it doesn't happen much to us, doesn't mean it's not happening. It's not unique to any particular country, but each country handles it differently.
In Indonesia the competitive is high too,but people would still go on date because it can release their stress with someone they loved and keep support each other. Dating isn't something expensive here. Just my opinion😊
I think that that would be the same in any country. Men don't experience it much compared to women, or discuss the issue with with women like women do with their friends. So for your average guy who is generally a nice, non rape-y person he is not going to have the same awareness as an average woman.
@@letterstosumin3693 Men experience on the same level as women, they just don’t talk about it and aren’t encouraged to since there’s no resources and since it’s seen as a women’s issue, they don’t report it since society doesn’t see them as vicitms
@@monkeyming5545 Sexual assault of anyone is terrible and I support all survivors. I think most women would feel sympathy for male survivors. Did you know in Korea until recently sexual assault was only defined as PIV penetration. Men and boys were not protected by legislation at all. MEN determined that, not women. Until very recently there were few female legislators. MEN need to support male survivors by making laws that help men get help and by funding support services for them. Women should too, but why don't men support each other seeing as men often hold the power in these situations? It's terrible. I feel awful for male survivors too and would do anything I can to help.
I feel like im one of them .. I'm worried about my future than finding love .. i think if you have stable job, settled and earn right . Love will come then..
Im not a korean but as a young female doctor who have been single since my later half or my med school life till now, i think people nowadays dont really date cuz they have other big commitments in life making them dont have time to date. Yes it’s sad somehow, but sometimes, im just too busy to feel sad bout my lonely life. Only when watching stuffs like this remind me of how true that people these days in dont really date anymore due to certain reasons.
@Sesky Bae where did I mention I want to date him because he looks good, the reason can also be that the way he answered the questions was impressive n also he serves for his country.
Sounds like young people are forced to put school, jobs and future ahead of dating and close relationships. Seems like very lonely and sad life. Hope they can figure out what is most important to have a happy life. It’s not money for sure. You can have everything you need without having everything you want. Theirs a big difference.
You make it sound so easy 😢 What about supporting your parents? What about the fact that housing is so expensive most of your pay goes to it? If you are average you have to work very hard just to live average. Replacing that with having a relationship may end up with you raising a family on the street 😢😭
I cant judge...I'm literally the same...I have a "bf" but I see him physically thrice a year😂....we started dating when I was a undergraduate, so we used to see each other every day. Now I'm just maintaining the relationship because i dont want to be alone...
InDstructR wish I had the answers for you. I’m American so the problems your culture experiences are so different from what I see here. Theirs a lot that I love about your culture and wish it was part of culture here, but is not.
They're wise to wait until they have their lives together before settling down. There are so many people here in the USA who are very young, can barely feed themselves, and have no secure relationships, but having babies with various men or women. And those kids grow up in poverty, usually with no father around, and make the same mistakes as their parents did.
It's all about priorities, who wants to drain all their emotional energy on one person, there's sm to do and so much to experience in life other than dating
For me personally I just cannot find the will to invest so much time and energy on another person. There's always so much going on. So it's always been.
Yeah *ME TOO* {kind of} . Is no1 going to ask why the woman interviewing that guy assumed he's heterosexual. Maybe he's gay OR bi? Never stereotype someone OR group. Sad for that guy *THAT EVEN IF* he wasn't afraid of meeting new people, that while on deployment overseas he'd have no real time to going looking for romance {with someone local living in the foreign country he's been deployed to}. 🙋♂️ 👩🏫💔 ▶️🔞🇰🇷
0:43 tall guy was really good looking maybe that has something to do whit why he said my friends are dating fine.....(in korea overall good looking people are more confident and not all but many friends they have also good looking so they are more confident to date)who knows...
Honestly, I think this is everywhere. As someone in my 20s it is stressful working and going to school while also balancing a social life. The idea of dating seems like a chore. I don’t have time nor the drive to pursue a romantic partner. It is usually more work than it’s worth and it hurts everyone’s feeling when we inevitably break up.
I'm 23 years old and I can relate to this issue..I have never dated a guy cs idk if it's some Asian trait but I've been solely focused on studies and it doesn't help when all your friends are single too 😂😂 our goal is to graduate and focus on our future and dating isn't a top priority..it's becoming an issue in Asia cs we all focus more on work than relationships.
Too expensive. Plus, there could be robots in the future. I could get myself a robot bf. I never dated so I’m sure having one would be more comfortable.
It looks fine to me as well. From seeing a lot about Korea or interviews and stuff like that. I do see people still dating and with people. But who knows. I might be wrong. 🙂
The thing I am thinking about is if people are having sex? its bin like 10 years since I was in high school but allot of people may not of bin dating all the time but they definitely short to 1 night flings and as an adult that still seem pretty common
The way I do them they at least have that element in there and allot of short term/ long term relationships have sprouted from one night stands. I definitely know the one where you can't even talk to each other over the loud music and speaking to each other isn't really the point but in my life bonding is the name of the game with any person I talk to. If it is a one night stand then I also find it helps with talking and the possible awkwardness and walks of shame
Mending Wall 15 hours? Are you joking or is this a real amount of hours one works in South Korea? Please tell me you are joking. I’m an American and get irritable over 8 hours of my day lost for 5 days a week
I agree with both the army guy in tan and the guy in blue with the hat and mask, I think they are both very smart and not so easily swayed by things they hear
I think the one guy had a point about everyone having access to lots of info which means people get an idea of what they want in a person, but it's a fantasy man/woman. It's difficult for the reality to live up to the idea you've created for your "perfect" match. Therefore, you can't find what you're looking for and give up. Just a thought....and Korea has a VERY high beauty standard for both genders. I think you'd have to be an anime character to attract someone.
In the 1980s I worked long hospital hours and still found time to have boyfriends, we partied hard and worked hard with not much sleep, caught up on some sleep on days off if necessary. We had to socialise face to face then as we didn’t have any computers, iPhones etc, not even a basic mobile phone. You had to communicate by person or landline phone and I think this is part of the problem, it’s too easy to text etc. Society and schooling has really increased the pressure to succeed as well, we were quite blasé about school, only the minority were really high achievers, I did enough to scrape through exams and no more. I wouldn’t like to be young and trying to find my place in today’s world, there’s far too much pressure put on young people today, suicide and depression is at an all time high, something has got to give or I fear for the future of the next generation. Kids and young people can only take so much!
i love to work just like them, there is days that i work +12h AND i'm in a relationship for 3 years, one thing have nothing to do with another, you just need to manage, relationship even helps you to grow in your job
This!!! I was wondering why people can't work or study AND be in a relationship at the same time. It's not like you have to spend all hours of the day with your significant other. To me, it also doesn't seem to be important that you always spend time together in expensive places. Maybe the issue is more with how people perceive relationships and that less people are able to successfully work things out with their partner resulting to quick breakups when conflicts arise.
Of all the Korean street walking videos I've watched, I've noticed several things: 1. Cars are mostly brand new and produced locally. 2. People wear nice clothes of popular brands, most of which are not cheap /to say the least/. 3. Restaurants are full in the evenings /90% young people/. So, please some korean explain to me, how exactly is it expensive to date?
I hope they find the courage to date! I think, one of the best things in having a relantionship is that after a long and hard day at work, you come home ( or talk on the phone) with your loved one. Whether you talk about the bad things or the good things, you feel better afterwards. I know I do! Fighting!
As a Korean myself, I personally think that the biggest reason is the lack of options for meeting new people in Korea. Usually, it's mostly through 소개팅(so gae ting), which is when someone you know sets you up on a date with another person. Almost zero mingling chances out there.
Title should be "Are people really not dating anymore?" This issue is sadly now common everywhere. US, Japan, China, Korea... people are all desperate to make something out of their own lives (school, careers, survival), but at the same time people in general are also beginning to lack social skills due to how society has changed (cell phones) so many are afraid to and refuse to socialize on a bigger scale... so they go back to their busy lives and so the downward spiral goes. Then you have the internet, online/social media, and dating sites/apps... double edged swords. They COULD make dating easier but also end people's chances just as easy. People are now more judgemental than ever and just by looking someone's profile up, they can make a first impression and just write off the other person without ever having to meet or actually talk to each other. So yea, dating (or any social activities) dwindling throughout the world shouldn't come as a surprise.
Regardless of arguing and debating over percentages, if this stays the trend or slowly gets worse, then like Japan, South Korea will soon experience a situation where there are more elderly and less adults and even less children. The whole feeling of needing to work, needing to study, etc for one self is very problematic. This is exacerbated by the money problem. Another contributing factor I think is the mandatory military service for males. Like the US, the prospect of trying to get a job let alone a career after spending a lot of money and time going to college to get a degree is yet another problem that contributes to this issue (in my opinion). Being mentally and physically stressed and not having much money or any money is yet another big problem. If you are not feeling physically or mentally well, you lack motivation and the will to do much; let alone thinking about dating, marriage, and even kids. South Korea being generally very traditional and conservative makes this situation more problematic. So things like the gender gap growing everyday, spy cam worries, "date porn" ... In many regards South Korean society (in general) is very naïve to these kinds of social problems and these problems becoming more and more prevalent is probably like a social shock to the general public in South Korea. There are similar societal problems in the US like most countries around the world. I just feel like the US society and culture is not as naïve, conservative, and traditional as (generally) South Korea. Thee social expectations in South Korea (often unspoken but expected) need to stop as well. Women are still (in many regards) less than men in terms of what is socially acceptable and sometimes presumed. So (for example) if a woman in South Korea were to have tattoos and piercing, many people in South Korea would give that woman _the stare_ to express disgust, pity; very negative impressions about that individual whereas going by US culture, it's not viewed in that manner (not as much). I also think that it's messed up how you need to include a picture of yourself when applying for a job in South Korea. Although not explicit, many times the employer hires what he/she considered to be more _beautiful_ so many women *and* men in South Korea opt to undergo plastic surgery (some minor, and some major). That phenomenon needs to just stop. Seriously. That's basically _low key_ discrimination. In addition, I feel like people in general these days look at what is being talked about and shown in the news and putting these issues out of proportion. On top of that, many people foolishly only use 1 sources for _the news_ when in actuality, the best way to go about learning about what's going on is to watch/read the news from *multiple* sources and then formulating your own opinion. Anyway, the gist of this situation is that there's less stress-free, free time available to many South Koreans and not as much expendable income. Therefore, many South Koreans (male and female) spend more time worrying about what they need to do for their future, what they need to do to make a living wage, and while school aged, what they need to do and what exam they need to pass to have a higher chance at getting into x school. These are all problems that stem from a very traditional and conservative nation. There are pros to doing things like they've been doing, but the expense is a regularly decreasing population, less motivation + money + time for younger people to _hook up_ let alone have kids. Problems that need to be acknowledged and resolves, but have mostly gone ignored for years upon years.
@ameasdf I know that those things are common. My point is that there are still a lot of very conservative and traditional people in South Korea that view things like tattoos and piercing as things that only thugs, crooks, etc...social degenerates.
I think youngster nowadays arent dating for serious relationship but just for fun and benefits, so it cant be considered actual dating. Older people at around 30 yrs old are those that r actually daring to get married.
Not dating in the year 20-29/30 is not a problem... because dating won't feed you in the future so everyone need to get a stable job first & later they can date any man/woman
I start to think that Koreans enjoy love and compassion experiences through something else. Like, I listen to their musics and find them absorbing the lyrics deeper than any other country does. Like in any music program, they really enjoy listening to songs and sympathize with it, like way deeper and harder. Even the variety of the storyline of the song is very much colorful and they visualize it better than any other country in term of that. For example, a person can only had 2 relationships through his/her life, but they "extract" it soooo much, and when they find the music that match their story, they just dive into the memories all over again, and satisfy themselves until no more passion and energy left for the actual dating to do in the future. Same thing happens to korean drama tho. I admit their passion for drama (one of the main genre is romantic comedy), is far greater than the possibilities of the real case of it happens and being realistic love experiences for Korean people.
8:29 Guy with mask is right, people want to hold onto an ideal type and it's very specific so they bypass anyone who doesn't perfectly fit that mold. I used to be that way and when I realized what I was doing, after I met a certain guy who I found attractive and nice, I focused on things about him I liked even though he was different from my ideal. We've now been married 8 years and have a beautiful son.
what? who says u have to go visit an expensive place for a date? wth? no, i think its just that nowadays couples have better things to do than going to an expensive place together. . .
Also you are forgetting that in Korea most young adults still live with their parents because rent is very expensive. So if you have date and want to get it on (if you know what I mean) couples usually go to "love motels/hotels" for one night. And the cost of those hotels adds up if you're doing it more than once.
I think there is misconception of love. You don't "need" to find your other half, and if you're alone that doesn't mean you'll be mentally sick. It is the obsession of wanting someone and feeling that you aren't what you're expected to that makes you sick (in the first place your ego).
"I think we would evolve into a more individualistic society like Japan." ...Japan... individualistic? Since when? I think they're more of a collective society than Korea! Both countries suffer from a lack of individualism and really need to fix that.
Japan is actually quite individualistic. They are famous for being respectful to other people/not sticking their noses to other's business to the point if someone gets sexually harassed in a street they wont help that person.
Individualistic societies should not be romantisized so much. Humans were not meant to live by themselves evolutionarily. That is why the rise in isolation leading to loneliness and depression.
Same problem here in China.Most of my friends are either single or in unhappy relationships. Dating is so expensive and Chinese girls have such unrealistically high expectations. And for the guys who do pursue girls,the only motivation for them is sex...
周杰伦 same in Philippines too. but the expectations is too low. they don't care if the guy have no future or money or looks, as long as they believe and fear "God" lol
From what I know and based on my friends' (korean friends) opinions, they do date and sure it's hard to have a proper dating time but they still date at least once a week. But the problem is, my friends are not even thinking for further marriage because the competitiveness in getting a job >> money, having a marriage is not easy and we have to be stable in terms of economics especially when the couple decided to have a child. I think koreans still do date but they are afraid of the marriage in the future especially having kids (low birthrate in kr is a serious issue) due to the expensive cost and the responsibility to have a stable economics in a family. And I pretty much agree and understand their opinions because I feel that too.
I think it's less about spending money on the date, though you tend to spend money when you date, and more about being ready to settle down. I think most Koreans still have the mind set that you're dating to find a spouse and if that is your intention, then you wouldn't want to come to a relationship with no money or way to provide. If you're dating to enjoy the experience and grow with that person to possibly get married in the future, that's a mind set that is more compatible with being broke.
Hmmm.. it seems to me it has a lot to do with mindset. Less people are seeing marriage or relationship as something that is teamwork. It has become more like something that needs to provide for or be provided for.
@@galaxywanderer5455 I think that is quite the opposite. Marriage as team work is a fairly new concept in most cultures and is the result of not having such strict gender roles. In most conservative countries or countries where the expectation is that a woman will quit her job and take care of the kids, it's reasonable for there to be an expectation that the person who she is going to marry will provide. In Japan at least, I've heard that expectation that a woman will quit her job is enough of a deterrent on its on. Many women are happy being independent and don't want to give it up. Also, as someone in the video mentioned, young people are making so little they are scared that even a two parent income won't be enough to provide for a child. I think in these countries getting married is still very closely tied to having children and that would deter a broke person from wanting to date.
@@JessieBanana I get where you are coming from. From my perspective, team work is not necessarily sharing the roles between partners, but making sure they put an effort into the relationship from their part. In the contemporary developed world people are becoming selfish and lazy that they do not make much effort for the relationship. However, they have higher expectations which heavily impacts the relationship. Everything is becoming complicated.
Wow, their reasons are reflective in the minds of youth all over the world...especially where communities are highly urbanized and competition is fierce concerning jobs.
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it's sad to see that people in their 20s feel they can only focus on their job since society is so competitive.
Cultural thing... they tend to grow up working hard in school and prioritizing their work and hence they dont have the time to be in relationships for most of them...just look at the entertainment industry
So true! And dating apps suck.
Their government needs to crack down on some work policies that allows them earn money under humane work hours and yet also allows them to have a personal life outside of work.
@@Meimoons capitalism: not on my watch
OH NO!!! RESPONSIBILITIES!!!! I spent 10 years working 18 hour days. Because of this I had a 5 bedroom house at 30 years old, now married with kids. Find a partner as hard working as you and you’ll thrive. Sit around and complain and you’ll forever be poor waiting for your socialist overlords to give you something they taxed from productive people.
Talking to a stranger: "It's just scary talking to strangers."
Jimmy Liaw exactly my thought lol
you can see he is terrified with the reporter lol
I'm pretty sure it's the idea of approaching someone that they find scary, especially when your goal is to form a relationship with them; theirs a fear of rejection in that. That's why it can be easier to just talk to strangers that you won't see again, especially if they're the one that approaches you, as with Yunjee.
I think what he meant is "approaching a stranger" or "attempting to form a personal relationship with a stranger".
I have social anxiety, and this guy clearly does too.
Lol
honestly i'm not surprised. with such a competitive society, there's no time to worry about dating.
Korean here. Can confirm. It’s just too expensive to hang out with anybody. I’d rather invite my friends to my house if I could
well im in usa but rather spend the money on me rather than my girl lol
But in all societies (especially East Asia), it's looks very bad if you are not dating or married by 30 years old, so it makes it even harder to live.
kruton93
In my Asian ( not oriental ) culture if your not married by 25 people start getting worried that you’ll never get married in ur life lmao
@@sarax9178 wait. What country? South east asia?
So that's why there are so many romance Kdramas. To compensate for the lack of romance in their real life.
Percentage of dating maybe going down but not in numbers Korea is copals country copals are everywhere and to Korean dating is part of there life but they not taking it as seriously.
Hahahahah comment of the year 😂
Totally agree! We enjoy the relationship on tv instead ahahah....
but when do they watch it if they are so busy?
@@tiborrigo5667 and how they are the best online games players? 😀
As an exchange student in Korea, I had the chance to talk about this issue with my Korean friends. I've been told by many of them, men and women, that they don't want a child because they don't want their child to go through what they had to endure with the Korean education system. There's so much more to the low birth rate and putting off marriage in Korea than "dating is scary"
when the education system is that bad...
@@vgxezo7371 Its not bad, they're consistently ranked in the top 3 in the world in education. It is just very competitive and strict. Kids go to school normal 8 hours then they go to private academies after regular school and learn/study until very late in the night.12am or even later isn't unheard of, then home to sleep for a few hours than back at regular school.
@@GeorgiaGrown90 Imo rankings arent everything I think schools should still prioritize student's wellbeing. Students should still have time for their family and other passions. School isnt suppose to be someone's entire life just another facet of it and I think this is where many education systems go wrong.
Same thing for me and I'm not even from there. I want to have a stable income before creating a family but a lot of people believe that if you're a woman, you should have kids as soon as possible. If it was so easy to raise a child nowadays...
This looks like eren Jaeger ultimate plan
*_Japan has joined the chat_*
Japan is the moderator
😂😂😂😂
@Rerin Lunghar perhaps 2D girls are much better than the 3D. Who knows.
@Rerin Lunghar
Dont let her go alone
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This makes me feel a little better about being single still at 24.
Yo me too!
Why are you guys single at 24? Go date people, lol.
me too dear im 24 and still a single.. sometimes i got pressured because i dont have bf, but who cares? i need to own my own life first
The last time I thought about holding someone's hand was like when I was 16. Now 24 and single still.... Now thinking about that, I have been living a pretty depressing life.
kai's honey Hate to burst your bubble but you don’t have as much time to “look around” as men do
This is pretty much a trend going on around the world!
my thoughts exactly 😅
People are getting poorer
People tend to find love from movies, songs, idols, or any similar kinds.
@@AntonnyTan and their pets are more important too
The world is overpopulated anyway.
When the guy said "It's the dread of wasting emotional energy and investing your feelings to someone and you end up breaking up"
I felt that in so many levels..
Interviewer: is dating dangerous?
Men: no
Women: yes
Gender gap found.
I mean...i'd answer like that too given that scenario, doesn't mean I don't care about sexual assault victims though(I am one).
only one guy thought it wasnt dangerous at all, the others just thought it wasnt the main reason people dont date
@@Eric-hz8qd hahaha...100% correct..Asian dude especially Korean are simp btw..and current feminist movement A.k.A men hating movements amplify the stereotypes
For sure it is dangerous
@@D0x1511af Yea it's pretty sad though because most women don't know this. The sad thing is that these majority beta chumps are also the ones who will jump at the chance to protect women but women put the blame on men in general so these men also find it frustrating and over time it turns to anger and resentment and this leads to all these gender hatred we see in the world today...
I liked the man's comment about dread of wasting emotional energy. I'll be using that line when people ask me why I am still single🤣
i was thinking that too....
Isn’t that true
@@mathematicalninja2756
yes ofcourse!!! Since I'm single
XDxdXDxdXDxd
It is very insightful. Especially now with the case of that kpop idol who tried to kill herself after having a legal battle with her ex about him filming them having sex without her consent/knowledge.
This guy in the video said "you spill your deepest secrets to someone and then dread if they will use it against you when you break up". It is so sad we have to keep that in mind now. Never revealing too much, or open up too much in case they will use it hurt us later.
@@KS-ck8ht
r u single, man???
ur writing seems so.... sorry no offence
hahaha XDxdXDxd
K-drama Genre -Romance left the group...
That...so true
Well reality hits really hard
LOW KEY hahahahahaha
The romance genre in kdrama is getting pretty boring too since every kdrama seems to have a romance aspect to it, it'd be nice to see a drama that doesn't focus much on romance
@@astraea857 yasss, it's time for k-dramas to fully mature
3:45 "Its because of our large population"
Sister, let me introduce you to my country India and our neighbours China.
@Jason K Thats actually sad. Make's life robotic without much interaction with people
@Jason K Europe is the same people always act hostile and sheltered against new people.
Exactly my thoughts they are talking about competition it makes me laugh as they think they are the only one facing competition seriously 😂 here in India some institution are only offering 1000 seats and more than 4 lakhs students are competing for it 😒
Just imagine the pressure we go through so just don't mindlessly say that you people are going through more stress
And in some entrance exams more than 14 lakhs students are competing against each other just for some limited seats 😢
@@ritzsing1552 couldn't agree more. I'm giving my Law entrance exam on 7th June and the number of seats available for the whole state is only 50!! just 50 seats available for the whole STATE.
@punit p Now 60%
I think people need to date/marry when they’re ready. I’m turning 30 in 4 months and single with no kids. If I had gotten married in my 20s it would have been a disaster. I suffered with OCD and had a hard time finding my way. I feel immense pressure to marry but I know I won’t until I meet the right person. Stay single until you’re ready bcuz relationships are not easy
Don’t worry too much ... only you know what’s best for you. Be strong, be decisive and enjoy your precious life ✌🏻
Same
Dude
I've OCD as well
Is it that common nowadays
In the 40s and 50s, a person with a high school diploma could afford a beautiful house, 2 new cars, a stay at home wife, and yearly vacation. Today, a person with a master degree can bearly afford a decent apartment and many of them would not dare to take a vacation. It is a sad world.
💯% agree
You mean live in maid? it’s was a male centered society at that time. Glad it’s not anymore
I’m a sociologist from California. This phenomenon is present everywhere. Particularly developed nations.
Why is it happening?
A list of reasons:
Hyperindividualism, poverty, easy access to new people prevents long term relationships, gender dynamics, relationship expectations, interaction work, the time investment.
Our culture, and the Koreans as well, is dictated by money. It’s simply easier to buy someone’s love as opposed to win it over. So people are waiting until after college when they can just pull up in a sports car.
Men are more wealthy at 35 than they are at 25.
Women are more desperate at 35 than they are at 25.
Unfortunately, the problem works itself out in the way we see.
I agree. This is not a problem In my third world country where the population is blooming. Poor people hit and breed dozens like rabbit.
I would assume that especially in California there would be a lot of dating because of the open culture.
Id say one of the key reasons is the rise of porn consumption in the last 15 years.
That army guy knows EXACTLY whats up. Smart dude.
@Sumit Naiding no offense but nope
@Sumit Naiding don't worry, you're right. He's considered hot if you don't buy into western stereotypes meant to keep guys like kintaro hayakawa being a sex symbol in the early 1900s and taking away "our women" (cause they're a possession to them) from happening again.
@Sumit Naiding - I'm a German woman in her 20's and I think he is really handsome! :)
@Sumit Naiding what about the guy with the mask? 🤣
I disagree with him on the idea there is no way to raise the birthrate. It takes a change in social norms and expectations.
"Work is a priority than dating" im not surprised but that's so sad; generally speaking.
Why sad? Some people find joy in work.
I know this is gonna sound kinda messed up but I have that mind set and im Mexican-American.
I always think to myself "what will I gain from dating this person? I could be spending more time working and bettering myself rather than trying to get to know someone."
Time is literally money and investing time in something you will most likely throw away or something that will brake soon isnt a smart investment.
Manggae Tteokki Yeah but you need children in order to build and grow the society. No/less babies means no/less future employees, employers, and money spenders, meaning, the people who should be dating, getting married, and having children will essentially need to work until they die, or start having a lot more children. That doesn't sound enjoyable. People argue for increased immigration, but that won't work well in such a homogenous society.
@@deckcadetmiles Platonic parenting is starting to become popular in the United States. Shoot, I already talked to a friend and we agreed on having a kid together without having to date each other. We are just waiting to have better paying jobs and a tad more free time.
Why sad?? Work is rly important rather than those sucks relationship 😂😂
Sadly I feel like this is all over the world.
Even for myself I want to focus more on me first and my work or studies, before finding my significant other.
I totally agree. I was thinking this, too
i think finding vs meeting is a big thing. when you meet the right person
Same here
Surprisingly, I see myself reflected in the interview as to why young ppl don't date nowadays...
Cuzz they are gayy😂
I see the wise words of this man reflecting the people around me 7:40.
Chacha: Indeed, if you have to live with the fear of having your partner break up with you and expose you, then what’s the point of having a relationship you’re not free in? May as well not date at that point, defeats the purpose.
feminism
fetchstix™ fetchstix™ yeah :/ it sucks that there are people like that can ruin your life. Nowadays all the youngin’s are rushing to date only to not understand what is dating. We all look to social media for advice but that sometimes can make it worse. We all want to protect our hearts. Can’t trust many people these days either 😔.
After few days......
Asian boss: "Can you give us an interview, we were asking koreans about..."
Random Korean: "No, no no way, I dont have time for these things..... bye!!"
I am sure they experience that a lot.
meanwhile in america, they just stare and left
Same problem as in Japan. Less free time to have a social life and if dating is expensive, you can only imagine how costly having a family is. You often need two working parents.
हाना सुगिसाकी杉﨑華
It’s four now.
is that hindi ??
हाना सुगिसाकी杉﨑華 yes
हाना सुगिसाकी杉﨑華 same in India also
Hana Sugisaki
How do you know both
Hindi and Japanese
Her:-*"Can you imagine what it could be like not be able to go out on a date"*
Indians:- *What the hell is that? It's all about Arranged marriages, isn't it?*
Dating is building memories, being romantic and playful, getting to know each other, to see if one's compatible! Arranged marriage, too often is about marrying a stranger, and probably, an unhappy marriage!
Oh that's worse
@@lenitaa7938 Well, but that's not the case here. Arranged marriage here doesn't mean just marrying off without giving thoughts or asking the boy and girl whether they wanted to get married or not after giving them enough time to know each other. It's like a blind date but with the whole family. Arrange marriage also take time like a year or two or sometimes even more. (Of course this is not always the case) But this is how it is done mostly. (Maybe not much in rural areas)
Huh???
@@lenitaa7938 Arranged marriage nowadays are so much like dating..you can choose yourself and hangout and decide..
The reasons why I have never dated (22) are : 1. Study and internships caused me to move around a lot. 2. I'm not financially independent yet, I feel guilty using my parent's money for dating.
Bingo. Especially since I am going for PhD
This.Inhate that people in my country doesn’t understand this.
2nd reason is quite valid. If you gift your bf with Ur mom's money. It would be like your mother is gifting Ur bf🙄😬😬
Your second reason is why I’m not dating.
Also cause no one will date me
I'm 28 y.o and have been being single for 5 years. This is one of the best experience in my life.
No stress, no tears and freedom to do what I want and go where the place that I want to visit alone 😂😂😂
thats nothing compare to all your life being single!
How do you know being in a relationship isn't better if you haven't tried it?
Too SAD
@@UltraGamer9999999999 Because I have tried it. I have some ex-boyfriends and realize that to be in a relationship that I should be with someone that he is a good match and meet with my standard. Not because you are alone.
@@wixoss9893 Yup. We should have our ideal standard in a relationship. For example:
1. Are we have the same vision and mission in marriage/in dating or not?
2. How can we respect each other when we have a different perception?
3. How about financial management? Etc.
Hey! Kdrama protagonists meet their "soulmates" at age 30+ so why bother dating at a young age. How can you meet a CEO at a young age? 🤣🤣🤣
now this is a perspective for motivation that i needed! 😍😍😍😍😍
@@EHLAiNEEE better start building those connections for now 😁
@Abigail Waud that is a basic clichè😆
Hahaha, then I'm leading here because I'm close to 30...✌✌✌
You should work to become a CEO not waiting for someone else.
7:32.. He has some really deep thoughts! Well said ☺
Omg he knows my deep dark thoughts😶😶😶
It's not deep at all, it's what edgy teenage girls think is deep...
@@R3IMU .. The amount of emotional energy invested in meeting a new person and the frustration that comes from losing it - If a teenage girl can understand this and make wise choices, I would appreciate that!
Akshatha yes
Thats what i think as well. Im scared of falling in love and being broken bc i know it hurts so much
Finally a video that makes singles feel good. 😂
Haha so true
😂😂😂 true
Haha same here
same here. I feel relieved.
Korean: "It's because of our large scale population"
Indian: *sweats*
It's not about how many there are overall, Just how many there are in a small space. That giant metro has 26 million people in it. Seoul in the center has ten million in 600 square kilometers. I grew up in a metro of 5 million people in about 23500 square kilometers... they're really stacked up in Seoul. Your joke still made me laugh though.
@@GermAntibody agreed! But i still think India has one of the most densely populated metropolitans. For instance, i live near (not even in the main city but near it) Mumbai, which houses 24 million people in 604 sq. km :)
@Alan Deutsch oh no, you're very wrong if you think India doesn't value high paying jobs. A reason is because our large population does not get enough employment opportunities. Mlst Indians don't date, they still get arranged to marry a significant other. Indians are one of the most overworked people in the world.
@Alan Deutsch yes it is..if you see the population growth between 1950 to 1980 is crazy.I am Indian and ashamed to say this that our previous gens did not do anything other than make children..now younger ppl living in metro cities are afraid to get married, divorce rates are high, mental health issues are on rise..etc.
@Alan Deutsch i dont think that would happen any sooner cuz in india even if you dont 'date' ur parents would force you to marry anyways like an arrange marriage
The soldier guy deserves a tight hug he was totally on point especially when he said "Dread of wasting emotional energy" well couldn't have related better
2 reasons
Too much work
And introvert forcing environment
Its feminism and mouse utopia, watch Happy Humble Hermits video "Enjoy the Decline: South Korea"
francis chow I agree 💯
I'm a introvert....I think people who aren't born introverts are just turning automatically into introverts now
Edit:Leave us introverts be and u extroverts stay u
Edit edit:THANK YOU FOR THE LIKES😍😙❤❤
@@omgwtfbbqstfu yes, blame feminism when you're just naturally unattractive.
francis chow lmao what does this have to do with feminism
Is it weird that seeing many ppl in their mid 20s single made me feel good? Im 22 and many of my old classmates got married and im still single so i felt anxious lately but seeing this video made me feel better
I don’t think it’s just South Korea that’s dating less, I feel like it’s gen Z and millennials all around the world that barely date. And I feel that it’s down to social media and today’s current pressures. People no longer have to talk to someone’s face, they can just message someone online making everyone lazier. And because of social media everyone’s mental health is suffering. The lack of jobs and the high cost of education are also huge factors.
bahaha i'm not dating enough because nobody wants to date me.
EuRice Queen True😭
@@debbieameliamunandar8533 aaaahhhh let Momma give you a hug. Come here.
Mood
Omg😂😂😢
Loll true 😭
I'm only 20 seconds into the video but this is definitely not just South Korea
It’s all over the world. People are to busy with studies and work.
@@SOFTCOCOGIRL out here in the 3rd world , not so much
@@erenmademewritethis9833 3rd World :
Dating is a luxury.
LoL
Make sense
Perhaps, too much emphasis is on money, instead of romance and caring! Dating doesn't have to cost a lot! A walk in the park, going swimming, dancing, having tea and sandwiches, making cards, etc.. all build fun memories!
@@lenitaa7938 Wish everyone thought like that, everybody wants to date a CEO nowadays
excuses!
@@icecoolguita Koreans all about that paper!
I mean if you are worried about getting work and making it in the competitive society how are you gonna date?
Guess the question is: At the end of your life, will you be happy that you worked in an office for youre entire existence?
@@DELTA-ib2iu I get what you're saying, but for them it's just unrealistic. They have to do what they gotta do to make ends meet at the end of the day.
@@bluepinixy That's right. You have to provide for yourself first, and a lot if the times after you do that, there is no time or energy left for dating.
/ DELTA I mean I would want to make sure my basic needs are fulfilled like housing, food, clothing etc. love can’t buy you these things and you can certainly lose love if you struggle to have these basic needs met.
Kookie~ sorry I couldn't help it lmao. But yeah, that's really true. Personally, I'm merely 14 yet I'm really worried about my future (especially in the job aspect) and success too. I've only thought about dating but... after buying a mansion lol.
I thought all the koreans are dating, because i always see the couples holding hands in the street, that's painful 😭for me as a single girl.
Hebael el
It’s too painful for me too as a person who just broke up with a somebody recently :(
hahaha totally.i always see couples when i go there
You guys should meet up and walk down the street holding hands.
nahh, i'm single since i was born
Maybe they weren’t dating
You can tell that the guy who said “its scary talking to strangers” has had some major heartbreak
oof i felt that
Hello Asian Boss! Firstly, I wanted to thank you for all your very interesting videos because they are very insightful and give western countries the possibility to "understand" more Asian cultures. We often tend to have misconceptions about them and your videos allow me to see things from a different angle.
Personally, I come from France and, as a 19-years-old girl, I feel like my generation is dating a lot without understanding the true meaning of having a relationship. On the contrary to South Korea, I dare to say that people prefer dating than focusing on their career. Very frequently, people are going out with their friend and they don't care if they kiss a stranger. In a way, they call that "experience" but from my point of view, kissing has become something without much importance. I think that what prevent people from dating in my country is the lack of seriousness. I might be a little bit conservative too but when I hear my friends speaking about relationships, I fear that we are not evolving in a good way.
Yeah, dating seems so transactional in western Europe, casual dating is rife (not bad in itself, but sometimes it's all the person you're dating is willing to give so it seems so shallow and ....pointless to me). Better to just develop friendships in that case.
You are not conservative you are right
is no one going to mention that girl in blue shirt can easily pass as interviewer sister
Yea I think all asians look alike too.
How? They look so different.
Is that supposed to be a snide remark on how all Asians look a like or the Korean penchant for plastic surgery?
@@TheJustinHit Well the west has high obesity rate but we can't say that all of you weigh the same right?
She's a trans. The interviewee
China is becoming this as well. Pressing F for all these countries
F for China, Japan and Korea.
F for China, Japan and Korea 🙏
F for the world
@@цветок-ш7п what is F?
Well, I think this is good for china, but not for japan and korea as they already have lower population than china
Its really just a matter of South Koreans being simply practical, sensible, and a whole lot of sense of self preservation... as a collective.
Tina: "Can you imagine what it would be like to not be able to go out on a date?"
Me: "Unfortunately"
7:07 Ah, it's never good to see a man dismissing the issue of sexual assault. Just because it doesn't happen much to us, doesn't mean it's not happening. It's not unique to any particular country, but each country handles it differently.
In Indonesia the competitive is high too,but people would still go on date because it can release their stress with someone they loved and keep support each other. Dating isn't something expensive here. Just my opinion😊
noticed that the men didnt think sexual assault was an issue but the women did
I think that that would be the same in any country. Men don't experience it much compared to women, or discuss the issue with with women like women do with their friends. So for your average guy who is generally a nice, non rape-y person he is not going to have the same awareness as an average woman.
@@letterstosumin3693 Men experience on the same level as women, they just don’t talk about it and aren’t encouraged to since there’s no resources and since it’s seen as a women’s issue, they don’t report it since society doesn’t see them as vicitms
@@monkeyming5545 Sexual assault of anyone is terrible and I support all survivors. I think most women would feel sympathy for male survivors. Did you know in Korea until recently sexual assault was only defined as PIV penetration. Men and boys were not protected by legislation at all. MEN determined that, not women. Until very recently there were few female legislators. MEN need to support male survivors by making laws that help men get help and by funding support services for them. Women should too, but why don't men support each other seeing as men often hold the power in these situations? It's terrible. I feel awful for male survivors too and would do anything I can to help.
I think less people are dating in the US as well. People are just more focused on economically stressful things than dating these days.
@@ubuntuber1619 stand in line and wait for your turn
@@plantiron yes, with my stiff upper lip as it were, i shall do that.
I feel like im one of them .. I'm worried about my future than finding love .. i think if you have stable job, settled and earn right . Love will come then..
Im not a korean but as a young female doctor who have been single since my later half or my med school life till now, i think people nowadays dont really date cuz they have other big commitments in life making them dont have time to date. Yes it’s sad somehow, but sometimes, im just too busy to feel sad bout my lonely life. Only when watching stuffs like this remind me of how true that people these days in dont really date anymore due to certain reasons.
If the dating rate in Korea really is going down, that's such a bummer, because I thought the guy in the military was really cute... 😭
Same here I just wanted to date him but after knowing he's not interested in such stuff my heart broke
Amen to that, sister.
@Sesky Bae they want to date him in their fantasy... if that guy knew....
if that isn't weird lol
@Sesky Bae where did I mention I want to date him because he looks good, the reason can also be that the way he answered the questions was impressive n also he serves for his country.
@@filzafathima4017 lmao sis shut up.
Sounds like young people are forced to put school, jobs and future ahead of dating and close relationships. Seems like very lonely and sad life. Hope they can figure out what is most important to have a happy life. It’s not money for sure. You can have everything you need without having everything you want. Theirs a big difference.
You make it sound so easy 😢
What about supporting your parents? What about the fact that housing is so expensive most of your pay goes to it? If you are average you have to work very hard just to live average. Replacing that with having a relationship may end up with you raising a family on the street 😢😭
I cant judge...I'm literally the same...I have a "bf" but I see him physically thrice a year😂....we started dating when I was a undergraduate, so we used to see each other every day. Now I'm just maintaining the relationship because i dont want to be alone...
InDstructR wish I had the answers for you. I’m American so the problems your culture experiences are so different from what I see here. Theirs a lot that I love about your culture and wish it was part of culture here, but is not.
At first I thought I have commitment issues but to be honest I am comfortable with being single.
They're wise to wait until they have their lives together before settling down. There are so many people here in the USA who are very young, can barely feed themselves, and have no secure relationships, but having babies with various men or women. And those kids grow up in poverty, usually with no father around, and make the same mistakes as their parents did.
It's all about priorities, who wants to drain all their emotional energy on one person, there's sm to do and so much to experience in life other than dating
The soldier in 7.55, he is very protective of his emotions despite being cheerful and outspoken.
He's probably speaking with wisdom gained through personal experience or the experience of someone close to him.
For me personally I just cannot find the will to invest so much time and energy on another person. There's always so much going on. So it's always been.
I dated my wife but that’s because I forced her to do that by having my guards kidnap her
Your wife is really pretty!
fair enough ...
also i prefer to make money than fall inlove, people is too complicated those days
money is simple and never breaks my heart
you should be more positive about that, maybe you will find someone that wont break your heart and that you will share love with!
I agree. Love can be emotionally draining and complex.
The military guy is just like me, I’m afraid of meeting new people 🤣
Yeah *ME TOO* {kind of} . Is no1 going to ask why the woman interviewing that guy assumed he's heterosexual. Maybe he's gay OR bi? Never stereotype someone OR group. Sad for that guy *THAT EVEN IF* he wasn't afraid of meeting new people, that while on deployment overseas he'd have no real time to going looking for romance {with someone local living in the foreign country he's been deployed to}. 🙋♂️ 👩🏫💔 ▶️🔞🇰🇷
Then prepare to stay single for life
0:43 tall guy was really good looking maybe that has something to do whit why he said my friends are dating fine.....(in korea overall good looking people are more confident and not all but many friends they have also good looking so they are more confident to date)who knows...
Maybe he's good looking. But how do you know his friends are? Some people hang out with ugly people so they can be the pretty ones. It's a thing.
Who the hell cares about dating nowadays? Like, I'm in my life right where if there's someone who likes me is okay and no one is still okay. 😂
*If i ask you, you can send my one replay with a link from youre Profile Picture ? I really love ChaeTzu to xD*
@@NoGyiEa Hello :) I got this picture from their twitter account.
ayyy you speak fact
Aren't All Cities Like That Nowadays?
Honestly, I think this is everywhere. As someone in my 20s it is stressful working and going to school while also balancing a social life. The idea of dating seems like a chore. I don’t have time nor the drive to pursue a romantic partner. It is usually more work than it’s worth and it hurts everyone’s feeling when we inevitably break up.
I'm 23 years old and I can relate to this issue..I have never dated a guy cs idk if it's some Asian trait but I've been solely focused on studies and it doesn't help when all your friends are single too 😂😂 our goal is to graduate and focus on our future and dating isn't a top priority..it's becoming an issue in Asia cs we all focus more on work than relationships.
Too expensive. Plus, there could be robots in the future. I could get myself a robot bf. I never dated so I’m sure having one would be more comfortable.
haha i would like that 😂
it me
Haha everyone would
Just curious.. Are you watching "my absolute boyfriend" these days😄
Wanna date 😂😂
LMAO
It looks fine to me as well. From seeing a lot about Korea or interviews and stuff like that. I do see people still dating and with people. But who knows. I might be wrong. 🙂
The thing I am thinking about is if people are having sex? its bin like 10 years since I was in high school but allot of people may not of bin dating all the time but they definitely short to 1 night flings and as an adult that still seem pretty common
The way I do them they at least have that element in there and allot of short term/ long term relationships have sprouted from one night stands. I definitely know the one where you can't even talk to each other over the loud music and speaking to each other isn't really the point but in my life bonding is the name of the game with any person I talk to. If it is a one night stand then I also find it helps with talking and the possible awkwardness and walks of shame
Very hard to date when one works 15 hrs a day, 6 days a week.
So true!
unless the person you're dating is working right next to you working 15 hr a day, 6 days a week. LOL
@@Steven-xf8mz Yup then you break up and one ends up quitting the job.
Mending Wall 15 hours? Are you joking or is this a real amount of hours one works in South Korea? Please tell me you are joking. I’m an American and get irritable over 8 hours of my day lost for 5 days a week
Some people work 15 hrs in IT sector or huge business firms.
I agree with both the army guy in tan and the guy in blue with the hat and mask, I think they are both very smart and not so easily swayed by things they hear
I think the one guy had a point about everyone having access to lots of info which means people get an idea of what they want in a person, but it's a fantasy man/woman. It's difficult for the reality to live up to the idea you've created for your "perfect" match. Therefore, you can't find what you're looking for and give up. Just a thought....and Korea has a VERY high beauty standard for both genders. I think you'd have to be an anime character to attract someone.
In the 1980s I worked long hospital hours and still found time to have boyfriends, we partied hard and worked hard with not much sleep, caught up on some sleep on days off if necessary. We had to socialise face to face then as we didn’t have any computers, iPhones etc, not even a basic mobile phone. You had to communicate by person or landline phone and I think this is part of the problem, it’s too easy to text etc.
Society and schooling has really increased the pressure to succeed as well, we were quite blasé about school, only the minority were really high achievers, I did enough to scrape through exams and no more. I wouldn’t like to be young and trying to find my place in today’s world, there’s far too much pressure put on young people today, suicide and depression is at an all time high, something has got to give or I fear for the future of the next generation. Kids and young people can only take so much!
i love to work just like them, there is days that i work +12h AND i'm in a relationship for 3 years, one thing have nothing to do with another, you just need to manage, relationship even helps you to grow in your job
This!!! I was wondering why people can't work or study AND be in a relationship at the same time. It's not like you have to spend all hours of the day with your significant other. To me, it also doesn't seem to be important that you always spend time together in expensive places. Maybe the issue is more with how people perceive relationships and that less people are able to successfully work things out with their partner resulting to quick breakups when conflicts arise.
Of all the Korean street walking videos I've watched, I've noticed several things:
1. Cars are mostly brand new and produced locally.
2. People wear nice clothes of popular brands, most of which are not cheap /to say the least/.
3. Restaurants are full in the evenings /90% young people/.
So, please some korean explain to me, how exactly is it expensive to date?
I hope they find the courage to date! I think, one of the best things in having a relantionship is that after a long and hard day at work, you come home ( or talk on the phone) with your loved one. Whether you talk about the bad things or the good things, you feel better afterwards. I know I do! Fighting!
As a Korean myself, I personally think that the biggest reason is the lack of options for meeting new people in Korea. Usually, it's mostly through 소개팅(so gae ting), which is when someone you know sets you up on a date with another person. Almost zero mingling chances out there.
Yes I have seen that in kdramas
But in "Marriage is a Crazy Thing" (2002)
They got mingled pretty fast like the Americans
I was in Korea last year and I saw so many couples everywhere!
*looks at thumbnail*
Wow, they really know how to get the clicks 😂
Title should be "Are people really not dating anymore?"
This issue is sadly now common everywhere. US, Japan, China, Korea... people are all desperate to make something out of their own lives (school, careers, survival), but at the same time people in general are also beginning to lack social skills due to how society has changed (cell phones) so many are afraid to and refuse to socialize on a bigger scale... so they go back to their busy lives and so the downward spiral goes.
Then you have the internet, online/social media, and dating sites/apps... double edged swords. They COULD make dating easier but also end people's chances just as easy. People are now more judgemental than ever and just by looking someone's profile up, they can make a first impression and just write off the other person without ever having to meet or actually talk to each other.
So yea, dating (or any social activities) dwindling throughout the world shouldn't come as a surprise.
*The people who think Koreans are not dating. Watch again this video but focus on the background instead of the people are interviewing.*
Maharin Shoshi To be fair, they are interviewing in 신촌, which is a college city.
You should come and try to work in korea before you make such statements like these
@@김정현-p2o8f I'm not blind or deaf, I'm just saying what I'm watching.
lmao
"work" has taken over the young generations lives
Regardless of arguing and debating over percentages, if this stays the trend or slowly gets worse, then like Japan, South Korea will soon experience a situation where there are more elderly and less adults and even less children.
The whole feeling of needing to work, needing to study, etc for one self is very problematic. This is exacerbated by the money problem.
Another contributing factor I think is the mandatory military service for males.
Like the US, the prospect of trying to get a job let alone a career after spending a lot of money and time going to college to get a degree is yet another problem that contributes to this issue (in my opinion).
Being mentally and physically stressed and not having much money or any money is yet another big problem. If you are not feeling physically or mentally well, you lack motivation and the will to do much; let alone thinking about dating, marriage, and even kids.
South Korea being generally very traditional and conservative makes this situation more problematic. So things like the gender gap growing everyday, spy cam worries, "date porn" ... In many regards South Korean society (in general) is very naïve to these kinds of social problems and these problems becoming more and more prevalent is probably like a social shock to the general public in South Korea.
There are similar societal problems in the US like most countries around the world. I just feel like the US society and culture is not as naïve, conservative, and traditional as (generally) South Korea.
Thee social expectations in South Korea (often unspoken but expected) need to stop as well. Women are still (in many regards) less than men in terms of what is socially acceptable and sometimes presumed. So (for example) if a woman in South Korea were to have tattoos and piercing, many people in South Korea would give that woman _the stare_ to express disgust, pity; very negative impressions about that individual whereas going by US culture, it's not viewed in that manner (not as much).
I also think that it's messed up how you need to include a picture of yourself when applying for a job in South Korea. Although not explicit, many times the employer hires what he/she considered to be more _beautiful_ so many women *and* men in South Korea opt to undergo plastic surgery (some minor, and some major).
That phenomenon needs to just stop. Seriously.
That's basically _low key_ discrimination.
In addition, I feel like people in general these days look at what is being talked about and shown in the news and putting these issues out of proportion. On top of that, many people foolishly only use 1 sources for _the news_ when in actuality, the best way to go about learning about what's going on is to watch/read the news from *multiple* sources and then formulating your own opinion.
Anyway, the gist of this situation is that there's less stress-free, free time available to many South Koreans and not as much expendable income. Therefore, many South Koreans (male and female) spend more time worrying about what they need to do for their future, what they need to do to make a living wage, and while school aged, what they need to do and what exam they need to pass to have a higher chance at getting into x school.
These are all problems that stem from a very traditional and conservative nation. There are pros to doing things like they've been doing, but the expense is a regularly decreasing population, less motivation + money + time for younger people to _hook up_ let alone have kids.
Problems that need to be acknowledged and resolves, but have mostly gone ignored for years upon years.
아부지 뭐하시노?
Ah here you are again, mr. Celestial being
@ameasdf I know that those things are common. My point is that there are still a lot of very conservative and traditional people in South Korea that view things like tattoos and piercing as things that only thugs, crooks, etc...social degenerates.
South Korea gotta improve they attitude before dating let alone focus on themselves instead of being RACIST and Discriminatory to FOREIGNERS!
@ameasdf piercings and tattoos should be for MEN only!
I think youngster nowadays arent dating for serious relationship but just for fun and benefits, so it cant be considered actual dating. Older people at around 30 yrs old are those that r actually daring to get married.
Not dating in the year 20-29/30 is not a problem... because dating won't feed you in the future so everyone need to get a stable job first & later they can date any man/woman
I start to think that Koreans enjoy love and compassion experiences through something else. Like, I listen to their musics and find them absorbing the lyrics deeper than any other country does. Like in any music program, they really enjoy listening to songs and sympathize with it, like way deeper and harder. Even the variety of the storyline of the song is very much colorful and they visualize it better than any other country in term of that.
For example, a person can only had 2 relationships through his/her life, but they "extract" it soooo much, and when they find the music that match their story, they just dive into the memories all over again, and satisfy themselves until no more passion and energy left for the actual dating to do in the future.
Same thing happens to korean drama tho. I admit their passion for drama (one of the main genre is romantic comedy), is far greater than the possibilities of the real case of it happens and being realistic love experiences for Korean people.
8:29 Guy with mask is right, people want to hold onto an ideal type and it's very specific so they bypass anyone who doesn't perfectly fit that mold. I used to be that way and when I realized what I was doing, after I met a certain guy who I found attractive and nice, I focused on things about him I liked even though he was different from my ideal. We've now been married 8 years and have a beautiful son.
"Nowadays, people are very depressed" Omg I felt that
Boloney. I live in Korea and I see couples all the time everywhere. Sometimes it feels like being single in the streets is more taboo.
what? who says u have to go visit an expensive place for a date? wth? no, i think its just that nowadays couples have better things to do than going to an expensive place together. . .
Also you are forgetting that in Korea most young adults still live with their parents because rent is very expensive. So if you have date and want to get it on (if you know what I mean) couples usually go to "love motels/hotels" for one night. And the cost of those hotels adds up if you're doing it more than once.
Or because of no time because of school and work .. the standards there are crazy
I clicked because the guy in the thumbnail is cute.
he looks like my toe
I think there is misconception of love. You don't "need" to find your other half, and if you're alone that doesn't mean you'll be mentally sick. It is the obsession of wanting someone and feeling that you aren't what you're expected to that makes you sick (in the first place your ego).
When I went to seoul I saw young couples EVERYWHERE. i've never seen such a sheer number of couples in one place at a single time
"I think we would evolve into a more individualistic society like Japan."
...Japan... individualistic? Since when? I think they're more of a collective society than Korea! Both countries suffer from a lack of individualism and really need to fix that.
Japan is actually quite individualistic. They are famous for being respectful to other people/not sticking their noses to other's business to the point if someone gets sexually harassed in a street they wont help that person.
Individualistic societies should not be romantisized so much. Humans were not meant to live by themselves evolutionarily. That is why the rise in isolation leading to loneliness and depression.
Same problem here in China.Most of my friends are either single or in unhappy relationships. Dating is so expensive and Chinese girls have such unrealistically high expectations. And for the guys who do pursue girls,the only motivation for them is sex...
周杰伦 same in Philippines too. but the expectations is too low. they don't care if the guy have no future or money or looks, as long as they believe and fear "God" lol
From what I know and based on my friends' (korean friends) opinions, they do date and sure it's hard to have a proper dating time but they still date at least once a week. But the problem is, my friends are not even thinking for further marriage because the competitiveness in getting a job >> money, having a marriage is not easy and we have to be stable in terms of economics especially when the couple decided to have a child.
I think koreans still do date but they are afraid of the marriage in the future especially having kids (low birthrate in kr is a serious issue) due to the expensive cost and the responsibility to have a stable economics in a family.
And I pretty much agree and understand their opinions because I feel that too.
This is very interesting I think to some extent this is happening in other countries too, because of the economy situation
Why is dating expensive..? You don't need money to spend time together with someone. You can go on a walk or simply watch netflix together.
Likely because certain dating standards need to be meet otherwise people wont waste their time.
I think it's less about spending money on the date, though you tend to spend money when you date, and more about being ready to settle down. I think most Koreans still have the mind set that you're dating to find a spouse and if that is your intention, then you wouldn't want to come to a relationship with no money or way to provide. If you're dating to enjoy the experience and grow with that person to possibly get married in the future, that's a mind set that is more compatible with being broke.
Hmmm.. it seems to me it has a lot to do with mindset. Less people are seeing marriage or relationship as something that is teamwork. It has become more like something that needs to provide for or be provided for.
@@galaxywanderer5455 I think that is quite the opposite. Marriage as team work is a fairly new concept in most cultures and is the result of not having such strict gender roles. In most conservative countries or countries where the expectation is that a woman will quit her job and take care of the kids, it's reasonable for there to be an expectation that the person who she is going to marry will provide. In Japan at least, I've heard that expectation that a woman will quit her job is enough of a deterrent on its on. Many women are happy being independent and don't want to give it up.
Also, as someone in the video mentioned, young people are making so little they are scared that even a two parent income won't be enough to provide for a child. I think in these countries getting married is still very closely tied to having children and that would deter a broke person from wanting to date.
@@JessieBanana I get where you are coming from. From my perspective, team work is not necessarily sharing the roles between partners, but making sure they put an effort into the relationship from their part. In the contemporary developed world people are becoming selfish and lazy that they do not make much effort for the relationship. However, they have higher expectations which heavily impacts the relationship. Everything is becoming complicated.
Actually, They do dating but do not marry.
Wow, their reasons are reflective in the minds of youth all over the world...especially where communities are highly urbanized and competition is fierce concerning jobs.
I love when she does interviews. She is so sweet and her voice is so relaxing.