First Breath, Final Breath | Kim Vesey | TEDxDayton
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.พ. 2025
- The two most sacred moments of life are birth and death, yet they are approached in very different ways. Kim’s talk shares how to honor the final breath of life as beautiful and to approach it with both your head and your heart.
Kim Vesey believes she was put on this earth to care for the dying and their families. She has been a hospice nurse for 30 years, providing care to over 1,000 patients and being present during the death of over 100 patients. She is currently Vice President of Mission Support at Ohio’s Hospice of Dayton. Her professional and personal experiences have taught her to be present and live in the current moment. She has a BS in Nursing and a Master’s degree in Health Administration. Kim is also a certified spiritual director.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
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God, that was powerful. Tough to keep a dry eye. Thank you for your words Kim. Thank you
Very moving, I've been witness to both first and last, so much joy and then 24 short years later... unimaginable pain and grief.
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Brought tears . I could relate to her story. Blessings to all. AMEN.
Man, this really hit me hard, and I'm at work currently and it's EXTREMELY tough to keep from letting a tear go. Beautiful talk.
It reminds of my wife's death. I crawled into the ICU bed with her while family, and friends were there. I stayed with her until after her last breath. Even some of the nurses were crying.
You are a gifted speaker, and im glad that I stumbled upon this talk. Your opening had me laughing, in the middle I teared up and at the end I felt calmness wash over me. You have made me better for a future someone, and for that im ever grateful. Thank you.
My auntie had a lovely death. The family made the room next to the kitchen into a bedroom and, although she slept through the last week of her life, she was still part of the household. We ate dinner in there, the dog was under the bed, people were in and out. My mum, a year later, had a horrible death. She was in hospital, in pain, and, because of Covid, I was the only one allowed to be with her. She really struggled in her last hours and the memory still haunts me.
Hi Maggie. Thank you for sharing about the loss of your mom and aunt. It sounds like your aunt was able to die in a way that she and the family still felt connected. COVID took so much from us, and I'm so sorry it left you with such a difficult memory. I can't say I know what that feels like. If this might help even just a little bit though, I'd like to share a story about my near death experience. If not, feel free to stop reading here :) When I was 14/15 I spent a year in the hospital, part of it in quarantine. During my time, I went into septic shock and almost died. Even though I'd been in so much pain, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually...when I died, it was the most blissful, peaceful, warm, loving experience I've ever had. It's hard to put into words. Ethereal, divine, love embodied. There was no pain, no worry, no loneliness, just pure, overwhelming love. I'm not sure what you believe as far as the afterlife goes, and I know there isn't anything a stranger on the internet could say or do that would make the loss of your mom less painful. I hope you've been able to find some peace, sending love
The algorithm suggested this talk to me and I'm so glad to have watched it. I've been listening to talks on death as a way of coping with losing my father in law last week. What I did not expect is the story like I had, I lost my father to cancer about 6 weeks before my high school graduation. We all were in denial of what was happening. A day before he passed we were still hoping he'd make it. I remember graduating with honors and excellency, and being so sad throughout the ceremony. My mum didn't make it either because she was still abroad arranging to bring his body for burial. At the end when everyone was celebrating with family, I remember breaking down and all I could say was "He didn't see me, he didn't see me". I am so glad your family story was different.
November 29th 2019 at the emergency room a doctor came in and told me after I had a CT scan
I’m sorry I have bad news you have cancer
That’s a night I will never forget
It’s 4th stage cancer and although I’m doing well after 20 months of treatment I know eventually it will overtake me
At 64 I’m living my life much differently than I have in my previous 63 years
So everyone please tell your loved ones how much you love and appreciate them
Love blessings and prayers Don, ❤️🙏❤️
This was just part of my orientation for Hospice . I definitely had tears !
Thank you. Brought tears
Great video, I just love Hospice of Dayton and the fine staff that work there! A wonderful organization!
Yes, please feel free to use it. Will you share your findings with me? I have had many people reach out to me saying it helped them to truly be present and say what was on their heart! That is exactly why I did the talk! Good luck!
So Beautiful :).
Thanks for sharing. I needed this information so much, as will countless others.
I love conversations about death that don’t involve religion.
So Beautiful, thank you so much for sharing
Thank you !
God Bless !
Before I watch this, my first breath was taken the second I was born, and it was an inwardly breath , my last will be outwardly, and in between there is LIFE
Thoughtful one.
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We would NEVER KNOW when our Mother had her last breath. COVID 19 took that away from us. Mom did not die of this virus but isolation and distancing kept us out of comforting her at the end. July 17/20 worse day ever.
So sorry
Thank you.
I wasn’t there when mom died or my sisters, moms death I was not told of her pending death only afterwards. The death of my sister I rushed to get to get there. Cold rainy morning we stood by the bed we told her it was ok to go when she left the sun came out raindrops twinkle like diamonds on the leaves. She quietly slipped away my heart was happy she was 33 three small children aids took her. Her husband lived long enough to raised the kids to adulthood and passed ten years later with full blown aides. He was the one who gave it to my sister.
afterwards
That is just so sad and beautiful at the same time! ❤️🙏❤️
Breathing in is life, breathing out is death. Every breath, every second could be the last one. Remember death in every moment to live your life fully in the moment. Death gives depth to life. Death gives value to life. Death gives meaning to life.
Memento Mori.
God gives meaning to life. The Father of Jesus the Christ!
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I remember seeing a talk by the author of Mutant Message Down Under. She claimed that Aboriginal people would tell their newborns, “We love you and support you on your journey.” And as these same people are dying the surviving family would say, “We love you and support you on your journey.”
Very touching...
Great woman!!!
Excellent.
Thank u
beautiful
A promise fulfilled!
how can this have so few views?
So very sorry!
It's peaceful to know The continuation of Life is REAL indeed...The Light and Love of Jesus who is with us in this life and the continuation/eternal.
Lucky you. My mother died of covid19 and we, her family, could not be with her.
I have been through the same agonizing situation, my mom left three months ago of Covid 19 , I can't get over the fact that I wasn't there to kiss her farewell 😥😥😥 it breaks my heart over and over again every wee second and deepens the amarulence of her departure. The sole comforting thought that soothes a little of my pain is the wishful belief of meeting her in the other dimension and side of this ephemeral world.
@@achinglyintrovert2633 bless you Cherifa, I am so sorry.
I feel your pain. My grandma did not have covid-19, however she was in a nursing home, and since I wasn’t immediate family, I couldn’t see her because of the pandemic restrictions. I wasn’t able to be with her for her final moments. She was always there for me, but I couldn’t be there for her. I feel like a failure, I hope she understands why I wasn’t there. I wanted to be there so badly, I just wanted to break the doors down and fight my way to her, but i couldn’t I’m so sorry grandma, I hope you understand and I hope you can hear me.
@@Lexi-te5mq I'm so sorry Lexi.
Question, what is sacred about birth? I would disagree with that. And preparing for death, no you should look forward to death, it is the only way to leave this place! It is all you are guaranteed when you are born. But do you know what happens after death, where you go, what takes you there, and what is it that leaves. For that matter, who and what are you? Death is no more than a transition, a potential cycle, are you ready. All the answers are waiting for each person who seeks them out.
Powerful God Bless
Hello Kim, I just wanted to know if it would be ok to use this I am doing an Experiment to see if your talk would change a group of subjects & how they view Hospice care.
Hi Donna, wondering if you saw my initial response, which I just noticed, showed up as a new comment a year ago, versus a reply to yours. I had shared that I was happy to have you use it for your experiment. If indeed you did use it, I would love to hear your results. Kim
"Like birth, death can be beautiful" Nope it sucks, but it's a reality we cannot avoid. It is what it is. Watching my mom die before me was not beautiful, not at all.
There is no peace or beauty in death without God!
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Would you believe God's Word if it says that soon there will be no more wickedness on earth? Psalms 37:9-11. If God's Word says that only righteous, meek Christians will be left over in the earth? Psalms 37:29, Proverbs 2:21,22. That God's Kingdom Government will be the only government left on earth? Daniel 2:44. Do you believe God's Word? Titus 1:2; Psalms 83:18.
Hello Carol, Is this your interpretation of the scriptures or is this doctrine taught by teachings of men? I don’t see it Unless you play scriptural gymnastics would you come up with those teachings. Reading the scriptures in full context which is reading the entire chapter before and after a text will you ever get the true understanding. Cherry picking scriptures to fit a man made doctrine is how people are mislead. I encourage you to read several translations as well.
How very modest of her.
If intelligent understand irony in previous sentence.
Hello,
i lost my Mum. Is there something after Dead?