Before you MARRY A THAI GIRL watch this
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 17 ต.ค. 2024
- You read the title right! Before you marry a Thai Girl, watch this!
It might be important to note that before you marry any girl that both of you speak the same language. If you are not fluent in the language of your spouse, and if your spouse is not fluent in your language, it could spell a recipe for disaster. so before you marry a Thai Girl, watch this.
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When your wife starts calling you stupid farang it's time to put down the hammer. That kind of language breeds contempt and once you go down that road there's no turning back.
I agree. Well said.
Why do you think he drinks?
@@evgenymukhin because he likes it and that is not your fuc..ing business
He got married to her.
Nothing he can do about it now
She got him by the curlies
What if she’s right. 😮
You are the best, thank you for all your honesty, including enjoying beer!
I appreciate that!
Sounds like a nightmare! Being polite, kind and respectful is free.
When Harry grows up he can be the family communications person.
As he is growing with the English and Thai languages.
I see situations where he says:
"No mom, dad means this" and "No dad, mom means this"
One of the biggest problems with this situation is that both parties involved tend to assume the other understands way more than they actually do. It is definitely a catch-22 situation that needs acknowledgment and patience from both people.
Enjoyed the video, loved the gulp of beer in the begining. My favorite part of the video was that you mentioned that it was your responsibility to learn and speak Thai since you are in her country, great mindset. Wish you continued success in your relationship.
Next time she is disrespectful and calls you stupid tell her to pipe down and remember who pays the bills.
She does pay the bills that's why he puts up with her he hasn't got a pot to piss in
And how do you know that?
If you follow him you'd know
@@josephbrophy8113 I follow him and I think he makes a living and not living off her. But in any case It's nothing to do with us and unfair for you to say he hasn't got a pot to piss in . Got it?
She has a good job (bank manager). I would be careful saying that. Lol!
I have been married to a Chinese Malaysian wife for over 50 years. She came to the USA 56 years ago. Her first language is Cantonese but all of her education through technical school was in English. She still doesn't understand English idioms, or slang. I have to avoid it or I bring problems unto myself. This is off subject - but you do have to understand your wife's HARD boundaries. For example, in child raising and especially with dealing with the house, some things have to be done her way whether I like it or not. She had not problem following me around the world as we moved every few years for my job. Or choosing new cars or new homes so I had a lot of freedom to make decisions but not in some areas which are very important to her.
You must be ancient
This is interesting Dave, but hand on heart, can such a relationship be a good one when two people are unable to communicate/understand eachother properly.
Let's face it, even a relationship with both sides speaking the same language, it's hard enough.
Of course it can be good. Much of a relationship is emotional. At best, emotions can be poorly expressed in words. Language is an approximation of thoughts. Verbal communication is only one part of all communication.
@@JohnArmstrong_
I agree with that, but verbal communication & that of what it entails, plays a huge part in any relationship. Not only that, but the understanding of eachother through it, which would not come through no communication or lack of...just as Dave says in his vlog.
100% correct. This is a major issue even with partners with better than the average Thai English, Eg: Filipinas who speak English reasonably well. Another issue is that it makes one reluctant to even try and get across more complex concepts meaning communication is diminished - not a good thing.
I enjoyed the language barrier. Made it more interesting. I've been married to my they wife for 26 years and all hell has never broken loose.. there are always issues but I never experienced anything like others have. She doesn't go crazy or get violent. Just depressed. Lol . I was crazy marrying someone nearly 5 years older than me at 21..
When it comes to the crunch I always decide pretty much everything we do and how we do it. She defers to me
Thanks for sharing 👍 We all have different experiences 🙏
After 3 divorces, I hv adopted telepathy as a mode of communication
I assume telepathy, to the untrained eye, looks a lot like 100% "yes ma'am" agreement.
This is similar to the problem I have with my Thai wife. I am fluent in English and my wife's English is pretty good for a Thai person so the communication skills are NOT the issue. Rather, whether it's a Thai thing or a female thing, in a conversation my wife often only tells me, let's say 30 percent of what is necessary to understand, and expects me to fully understand. Needless to say, I don't know WTF she's saying so I lose my temper. My wife needs to try harder to fully communicate or I need to become more patient or both. International marriage is tough.
im married for 15 years w thai and know exactly what you mean .. yeah and were stupid right ;) heheh. We stupify our english to a point that it leaves room for misinterpratetion etc. Makes a man feel like having a beer at times. Greetings from the NL!
I can totally agree with you and back it up with my personal experience .
Don't ever take it for granted when you speak English to her that she comprehends what you said .
I always double check but the problem is when she did comprehend she gets pissed off that I don't respect her English skills by double checking . Like she loses face assuming I think she is stupid,when in fact I don't,I just don't want to end up with miscommunication resulting in friction just like you described .
The two languages don't lend themselves to good translation unless you're fluent either way .
I don't regret marrying her just because of possible miscommunication as I'm quite patient in explaining over and over until it's clear but it's her who gets irritated as it reflects on her "face".
We farangs don't care too much about face,they do. I remember back when we were in Australia once a stranger stopped us in the street asking for directions and addressed himself to her. She then sent him in the opposite direction because she couldn't utter the words "I don't know, where it is.".
Loss of face , like I talk to her and she nods but I can see she doesn't understand and I need to try to rephrase it. Eventually it should improve ,you have been together ,what..11 years. It should be better than what you described.
I agree that the simple default solution is to over clarify, but there analyze the pitfalls of making the other feel stupid. 🤦 It is a difficult challenge for both.
@@SantiSabaiLife you're right .
Managing a mixed cultural relationship has many challenges.
Language is just one of them. I have had a few long term relationships here and 44 years of connections to Thailand so I'm quite used to hiccups.
Now I tell my better half that I want a peaceful,stress-free life. Mostly she obliges, at times she is feisty . Another thing which may come into it is an upcoming menaupause sometimes in the not too distant future . Phew!
echoing another comment abt harry's role. I cannot recall the last time I witnessed a woman "going off" in public. maybe that's a key to peacekeeping. when a guy senses his partner is about to erupt, seeing if there's a way to delay it by getting to a place among other people. kind of goes with "saving face". in public, the woman may search for a way quiet her anger. it just might work, or mmmaybe NOT! stored up frustration isn't good either. sigh!
I cannot understand why ANY man, ANYWHERE, would get married in 2023 to ANYONE, thai or farang. Doesn't matter, same disaster waiting down the line. I really don't understand. What's in it for a man to get married? Please explain it to me.
Agreed. Marriage is a bad contract for a man.
Well, if you're American, it is the only way you can get her to the US (via K-1 fiancée visa). Since the government doesn't grant tourist visas, for the most part, if you ever want her to set foot in the US you have to tie the knot. Great? No, it's like the government holding a gun to your head. But it is what it is.
Great video, yeah fully understand. Spot on i have had a few of those with my GF
I've been married to captain evil for 14 years ,her English is OK its better than my Thai.
I got one too. Little miss nasty.
But not married and never will.
But got 2 kids with her.
I get it, Thais don't do "On the way" like doing multiple errands, they will go somewhere, then want to come home, rest and then Macro was another adventure separate and later
I got one that goes crazy too. Not through lack of english language though.
Just got a drama queen.
Such a good point. It boggles my mind how do such couples coexist. A couple of days ago I spent some with a Ukrainian/Thai couple its recipe for disaster I strongly believe.
Your spot on, if your going somewhere you will stop at 3or 4 places first .
I appreciate the info sir. Keep up the good work 💪🏾😎
Thanks, will do!
Very interesting. One thing important is that english is your mother tongue. Thanks for sharing your Leo
Yes, thanks
Now THIS!, my friends, is what we black folks call... "REALL TALK!" Thank you my friend for this because I think many people are often blinded by their beauty, forgetting the everyday, real-life prosibilities, like miscommunications and arguments. Again, "REAL TALK" (a bit of street slang for you). That's when you're speaking seriously about the 100% reality of whatever it is that you are talking about.
Hi Buddy! Thank you for sharing. I am happy that you enjoyed the video.
Language is a factor, but I think the greater worldview can potentially be an even bigger one. I've found many westerners don't get the concept that when you marry a Thai or a Filipina, you're marrying her entire family. That can involve a whole lot of things, mostly involving the phrase "you pay." 🙃
It also needs to be said that far too many farangs look for love in the wrong places and convince themselves "mine's different."
You make a very good point.
Thank you so much for this video, . Gold, just gold -exactly what I have experienced with my thai partner of 20 years and there i was thinking 'is this right'? My experience has been one of tolerance, acceptance- she will tolerate alot, but , believe me, she is in no way the stereotypical asian woman that unnformed , inexperienced westerners seem to believe in- and on our holidays in Thailand, she will encourage me to get out at night and go to places that western women would not allow thier signifigant others to go alone . But the belters of arguement we have had, the crazy, senseless arguements , and her responses are exactly as you describe-I must be stupid for not understanding, but it doesn`t occur to her for a moment that perhaps both of us are not understanding .Yet we`ve stayed together 2 decades. some might have names for this situation but i can catergoricaly state that she is the best thing that has happened to me . she`s older than me, which straight away smashes stereotypes that so many people have. A long time ago i stopped being suprised at the people who had absolutely no idea at all yet seemed to think they knew because they watched a show on tv, had talked with other people who "knew" or watched a couple of youtube videos. Cheers from Australia
Remedy = NEVER get married 😂
It's nothing to do with getting married, it's all about the communication between two people. Good or not so good.
Yep
Of course there will be misunderstanding because of not sharing the same mother language but as long as the people are aware of that and they are ready to accept that they may have misunderstod, there will be no fight
Well a wife that talk"stupid farang" to her husband, means how much they love us...0
Kris in San Diego here. My dude, that video was absolutely awesome! I laughed my ass off. When you whipped out that Leo and said you couldn't do the video sober, I knew this was going to be great. Anyway, on my last visit in late November, I went by Terminal 21 a couple of Thursdays and checked to see if you were there to say hi. (Isn't that the day you often film there?) Hope to catch you next time in late February. BTW, as a sharp viewer noted elsewhere here, you can probably enlist Harry as translator in not too long. Hang in there buddy!
Cheers, mate. I look forward to meeting up with you when you get back here 👍. I hope to have Harry on board in the next few years.
Hi, interesting video, i just wanted to give me feedback. I've been with my gf for about 2 years and she's from bkk and works as an account sales at an IT recruitment company and I'm a programmer, so luckily her english is fairly good already and so is mine even though it's not my native language. We've had miscommunications, but i dont think we've had major arguments because of them. So to me it seems like a lot would depend on how you approach the interaction with eachother: if you both know the communication is potentially flawed and try to understand eachother then issues will be minimal. If not then... things will be more difficult. And then i would try to discover why they are not trying or arguing so quickly. Something like your example would never lead us to argue, we would just laugh about it. So to me it sounds more like she is already maybe not so happy about other things (aka maybe 'you turned her off' to put it crudely). Best wishes.
I have a word for this. Tinglish. It is Thai attempt at English with best intention but due to contraints, cant pronounce the word. eg: farrang= fallung, oil= oya, etc. 😊
Another great, informative video! Can you do a video on how you and your wife met?
but their broken English is hot and half the reason I am attracted to her, but I have found that I need to slow down and listen and ask the question over and over. Too clarify the conversation with her, but will they shut down and then rant if you say the wrong thing. It is all fun and life.
Love it. Yes, you are hanging in there. More than just hanging in there. So interesting. How long have you been together? (Talking to my Thai g/f now.) How long together? I'd like to know. tyu
Lots of thai university girls speak fluent english now.
From my experience, about 30% of Thai University students speak English but far from fluently
I met a Thai girl in a bank on my last trip we are still in contact I have been to Thailand many times but have never considered having a relationship with one my question is what are the stats as the bad stories are far more common that the good ones .
Should I give this girl a chance
Any successful stories welcome .
Thanks for the video this was a great one 😊
Thanks!
Thank you
Great utuber indeed,
Cheers Mate!
Merci pour tes vidéos 😊
Welcome
Thumbs up 👍 Alpha
Cheers mate 👍
From time to time arguments flare up with your Thai wife. Better than arguments flaring up daily with a Western wife
I agree
My wife will say one thing but mean something completely different to what I interpret it , according to her, can't win😂
I think this was not only lack of language understanding, the problem is you got married with a Karen😂😂😂
Fuck me how many of you lot are there?
Too many mugs here. That is how many.
60,000 living in issan province alone.
I don’t like the culture of lies even when it doesn’t involve saving face. It’s such a normalized thing to lie even when they do understand the English. I’m German-Irish and lying is one number one on my list of which buttons not to press. It tends to get my Irish up, if you know what I mean.
One thing your wife should teach you is how to pronounce " how old are you?" In Thaï language...Most of the Time, girls look at you as if you spoke hebrew😊!
Bro, I think if you spent a year or two learning Thai you would save yourself a lot of headaches.
The problem is NOT the language, the problem is that you talk to a LADY.
Don't marry. Problem solved.
Easy as that 😄
That is one solution
They do this as they have zero patience and want to understand the other ...
These Thai girls will go with absolutely anything with a pulse and pocket full of baht even this guy will get a ride here that’s y he’s here
Thank you for your feedback, but you're wrong. Most Thai girls are not interested in money. I interview Thai girls every night on one of my other channels. You should watch those interviews.
Low EQ is the issue with her me thinks
Dude, what you're describing isn't a language issue. It's a profound lack of respect for YOU. How about being a man and telling her in no uncertain terms that toxic freakouts are unacceptable. She's expressing disgust, and disgust is a marriage eraser. You really dropped the ball.
Talk about stating the bleeding obvious