JazakAllah khair, Ustadh, for the reminder to focus on deen, good character, and istikhara + istishaara when it comes to choosing a spouse. I may be biased as a woman, but it seems to me that due to the media propagating so many images of filtered and perfect women and society's obsession with perfection and youth that many good sisters who maybe 30 or older are overlooked as flawed or expired. I know so many beautiful sisters who have never been married who are patiently waiting for a good Muslim man. They may have received many proposals or none at all but due to family expectations, illness in family, or simply not finding someone compatible etc, their marriage has been delayed. They pray on time, they are beautiful and have taken care of themselves, they are chaste and they are educated and also come from good respectable families. Also, many of these ladies are busy with their professional lives and community service, but they know that each stage in life has its priorities so they are more than willing to shift their focus when married and put in the effort to be a good wife for their future husband/family. How can we make sure these sisters find good God-conscious men? Are Muslim leaders doing enough to help practicing sisters get married? Many of these sisters are dignified in their approach and you will rarely see them mingling with men. They are mostly at work, at home taking care of their older parents, at the gym and buying groceries and when they have some time are at the masjid volunteering or at a circle of knowledge or islamic event. Some don't want to put themselves out there on apps or in matrimonial events, not saying that is undignified or wrong, but some sisters don't see that as the most comfortable setting or the most effective way to match people. How can we make it easy for them to meet other good marriageable and compatible men in the community in an Islamically appropriate environment and in a natural way?
Local muslim communities and leaders should be doing more. This is an issue that so many are aware of and are impacted by, yet little is done at the collective level.
*I always remind you my Muslim brothers to pray Tahajjud not only for your wishes also for Palestinians**Wake up for Tahajjud, and witness the miracles unfold, filling your life with happiness, abundant rizk, and unparalleled success. Embrace the serenity of the night and let your sincere prayers transform your destiny.**
SubhanAllah the Qadr of Allah in this act feels real-time (when it always was anyway - humans are forgetful beings) The act of istikhara forces a tawakkul and I think that makes it such a blessed act and there is a ton of wisdom in the fact it is prescribed for us during trials
I dont always agree with the elders thing. Some elders give horrible advise, i thin it's got to do with knowledge coupled with wisdom and experience. I'd go with the youth who has wisdom and knowledge over the elder who has neither. But I'll always go with the elder who has wisdom and knowledge over anyone.
@@allahwasaya200 there is one she is 24, she is religious and a good girl, im afraid to marry her i live in USA my income is low and i developed type 2 diabetes Im afraid to marry her, she wants to marry me…. :(
Me same brother. May Allah raise our Iman and will to fight for Allahs cause. The moment will come , when marriage just happens. It’s not a big issue. We just need to risk a bit , and act. And be honest with Allah.
Some of the benefits and virtues include: Istighfar removes anxiety Istighfar increases duaa acceptance Istighfar opens the door of sustenance Istighfar opens the door of mercy Istighfar opens the door of knowledge Istighfar is a gateway to productivity • Istighfar relieves and eases you.
I would like to get married but i I don't have the best job and rent takes up a lot of it, I'm worried about not being able to pay a proper mahr and worried about not being able to adequately take care of a family so I'm waiting until i can get a little richer before i try to get married
The questioner is not asking how does he know he's found Mrs Right. It seems he doesn't know how to find her.. A way to find spmeone?.. Serve the community. And in the process you'll find someone or she/those who know her will find you. Worse result is that you simply served the community.
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May Allah bless your marriage and give you loyal and respectful mumin progeny. Amin 😉
MashaAllah, make Allah bless your union, and give you both strength & wisdom to support each other through love & patience
Barak Allah bro
Any regrets?
Allahumma barik
JazakAllah khair, Ustadh, for the reminder to focus on deen, good character, and istikhara + istishaara when it comes to choosing a spouse. I may be biased as a woman, but it seems to me that due to the media propagating so many images of filtered and perfect women and society's obsession with perfection and youth that many good sisters who maybe 30 or older are overlooked as flawed or expired. I know so many beautiful sisters who have never been married who are patiently waiting for a good Muslim man. They may have received many proposals or none at all but due to family expectations, illness in family, or simply not finding someone compatible etc, their marriage has been delayed. They pray on time, they are beautiful and have taken care of themselves, they are chaste and they are educated and also come from good respectable families. Also, many of these ladies are busy with their professional lives and community service, but they know that each stage in life has its priorities so they are more than willing to shift their focus when married and put in the effort to be a good wife for their future husband/family. How can we make sure these sisters find good God-conscious men? Are Muslim leaders doing enough to help practicing sisters get married? Many of these sisters are dignified in their approach and you will rarely see them mingling with men. They are mostly at work, at home taking care of their older parents, at the gym and buying groceries and when they have some time are at the masjid volunteering or at a circle of knowledge or islamic event. Some don't want to put themselves out there on apps or in matrimonial events, not saying that is undignified or wrong, but some sisters don't see that as the most comfortable setting or the most effective way to match people. How can we make it easy for them to meet other good marriageable and compatible men in the community in an Islamically appropriate environment and in a natural way?
@smilingsue4444 you have men in this situation too the local community is to blame and yourselves as a family and friends
Excellent points 👏🏼 these are important questions that need to be addressed
Local muslim communities and leaders should be doing more. This is an issue that so many are aware of and are impacted by, yet little is done at the collective level.
*I always remind you my Muslim brothers to pray Tahajjud not only for your wishes also for Palestinians**Wake up for Tahajjud, and witness the miracles unfold, filling your life with happiness, abundant rizk, and unparalleled success. Embrace the serenity of the night and let your sincere prayers transform your destiny.**
SubhanAllah the Qadr of Allah in this act feels real-time (when it always was anyway - humans are forgetful beings)
The act of istikhara forces a tawakkul and I think that makes it such a blessed act and there is a ton of wisdom in the fact it is prescribed for us during trials
Mashallah ❤
Very well said, if you cannot be on the frontline in person, at least remember those who are during tahajjud .
I dont always agree with the elders thing.
Some elders give horrible advise, i thin it's got to do with knowledge coupled with wisdom and experience.
I'd go with the youth who has wisdom and knowledge over the elder who has neither.
But I'll always go with the elder who has wisdom and knowledge over anyone.
💯
Im 37, i never been married
Now im type 2 diabetic 😢
Ask Allah for assistance, Allah is merciful to all His servants, inshallah Allah will send you a righteous spouse
@@allahwasaya200 there is one she is 24, she is religious and a good girl, im afraid to marry her i live in USA my income is low and i developed type 2 diabetes
Im afraid to marry her, she wants to marry me…. :(
@HK00088 MashAllah go for it bro Allah tala will give u the means
@@jason-s8c Don't be afraid, do dua and also DO the action, otherwise you won't know for sure
Me same brother. May Allah raise our Iman and will to fight for Allahs cause. The moment will come , when marriage just happens. It’s not a big issue. We just need to risk a bit , and act. And be honest with Allah.
Some of the benefits and virtues include:
Istighfar removes anxiety
Istighfar increases duaa acceptance
Istighfar opens the door of sustenance
Istighfar opens the door of mercy
Istighfar opens the door of knowledge
Istighfar is a gateway to productivity
• Istighfar relieves and eases you.
I would like to get married but i I don't have the best job and rent takes up a lot of it, I'm worried about not being able to pay a proper mahr and worried about not being able to adequately take care of a family so I'm waiting until i can get a little richer before i try to get married
ive never heard of the word Istishara, what does it mean?
Seeking counsel/advice from qualified people.
How do i find a right wife>?
Ask about her, make sure she fears Allah, and then put your trust in Allah.
Ask her which hand she uses to write with.
The questioner is not asking how does he know he's found Mrs Right. It seems he doesn't know how to find her.. A way to find spmeone?.. Serve the community. And in the process you'll find someone or she/those who know her will find you. Worse result is that you simply served the community.
What about Marring a non Muslim woman is that permissible.
People of book
Allowed to marry Christian of Jew
@HK00088 😂 it's not allowed ask a qualified teacher
With 2 billion Muslims why do you need to marry a non-Muslim?
In Islam its permitted to marry pious Jewish and Christian women.
Muslim women marry Muslim men only.
@@jason-s8c Only in a muslim state, otherwise stay away...