She is remembering a past home where she felt comfortable in her mind, sometimes when a person with Alzheimer's get overwhelmed with whatever level that is for her she wants to go someplace she remembers she felt comfortable, it's like from the time the disease took over, she lives prior in the past, familiarity, life has to be simple, not a lot of questions or repeating if not answered right away. Josh Bless you for taking care of your mother. ❤❤❤
I’m sure that you’re very experienced with your mother’s behavior and know how to handle situations best but I would like to share a perspective and you can do with it whatever you feel is best. Whether that is to ignore it, keep it in mind, apply it, or whatever you wish is fine. So I came across the perspective that when someone with Alzheimer’s or dementia, expresses a desire to go home, essentially they are in someway attempting to get back to a place or go back to a time where they felt comfortable and/ or safe. This can mean that there is a need that is being unmet, which makes them feel uncomfortable. This isn’t to say that the environment that they are in is unsafe and they’re not being taken care of, but rather, that they may be having difficulty with understanding and expressing how they feel about what they feel they are missing in their current situation or in the current moment, leading them to express a desire to go home, a place they feel comfortable in.
My mother-in-law lives with us and she has Vascular Dementia. She also fixates on going "home", in spite of the fact that she has lived with us in this house for 30 years. I agree with all you are saying, however, I do think it is incomplete. Pain, hunger, constipation, infection, and other things can drive her to want to "go home" as a means of escape and a desire to get back to a place of comfort, however, I ALSO find that she will ask about going home casually when she is having no issues as well. Born from just not remembering that she lives here or being worried about "getting home" because that is where she is supposed to be. And Sometimes, it's literally "sundowning" type behavior -- a general sense of anxiety without a source -- that drives them to want to go home. So while you are right that discomfort usually drives it, I would just add that 'discomfort' is sometimes just in the form of (a) generalized anxiety without a specific cause or (b) missing memories that make their surrounding unfamiliar, even if they are comfortable, and makes them think there is another place they are supposed to be.
My mother had Alzheimer’s and was very much like Sweet Betty. She went through a spell where she wanted to go home often. We were able to go to a few Alzheimer’s Support Group meetings and they explained this is the request they make when they want to feel “normal” again. It’s psychs cruel disease for friends and families, and the progression just keeps going. It’s like returning to an infant state. So sad.
Would it not be better to have a conversation with her that she has to live with her son because she has trouble remembering, and that’s why this is her new home. And that because Bob is older he needs help in the home too. Even if she does not understand.
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She is remembering a past home where she felt comfortable in her mind, sometimes when a person with Alzheimer's get overwhelmed with whatever level that is for her she wants to go someplace she remembers she felt comfortable, it's like from the time the disease took over, she lives prior in the past, familiarity, life has to be simple, not a lot of questions or repeating if not answered right away. Josh Bless you for taking care of your mother. ❤❤❤
I love you, Betty ❤.
I’m sure that you’re very experienced with your mother’s behavior and know how to handle situations best but I would like to share a perspective and you can do with it whatever you feel is best. Whether that is to ignore it, keep it in mind, apply it, or whatever you wish is fine. So I came across the perspective that when someone with Alzheimer’s or dementia, expresses a desire to go home, essentially they are in someway attempting to get back to a place or go back to a time where they felt comfortable and/ or safe. This can mean that there is a need that is being unmet, which makes them feel uncomfortable. This isn’t to say that the environment that they are in is unsafe and they’re not being taken care of, but rather, that they may be having difficulty with understanding and expressing how they feel about what they feel they are missing in their current situation or in the current moment, leading them to express a desire to go home, a place they feel comfortable in.
My mother-in-law lives with us and she has Vascular Dementia. She also fixates on going "home", in spite of the fact that she has lived with us in this house for 30 years. I agree with all you are saying, however, I do think it is incomplete. Pain, hunger, constipation, infection, and other things can drive her to want to "go home" as a means of escape and a desire to get back to a place of comfort, however, I ALSO find that she will ask about going home casually when she is having no issues as well. Born from just not remembering that she lives here or being worried about "getting home" because that is where she is supposed to be. And Sometimes, it's literally "sundowning" type behavior -- a general sense of anxiety without a source -- that drives them to want to go home.
So while you are right that discomfort usually drives it, I would just add that 'discomfort' is sometimes just in the form of (a) generalized anxiety without a specific cause or (b) missing memories that make their surrounding unfamiliar, even if they are comfortable, and makes them think there is another place they are supposed to be.
My mother had Alzheimer’s and was very much like Sweet Betty. She went through a spell where she wanted to go home often. We were able to go to a few Alzheimer’s Support Group meetings and they explained this is the request they make when they want to feel “normal” again. It’s psychs cruel disease for friends and families, and the progression just keeps going. It’s like returning to an infant state. So sad.
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Did they suggest that there’s anything that would be best said to them then?
U are a good son
He is the best. I have 2 sons. They would never do what he does for his parents.
What a beautiful family 💕such love ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍🤗💐thank you for this moment.
I take care of a lady with dementia to. It is heartbreaking….
Would it not be better to have a conversation with her that she has to live with her son because she has trouble remembering, and that’s why this is her new home. And that because Bob is older he needs help in the home too. Even if she does not understand.
Great job!
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