What If I'm Attracted to My Therapist? | Things Your Therapist Doesn't Tell You Part Seven
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ม.ค. 2025
- Some clients find themselves attracted to their therapist. Learn about whether this is a problem and what you should do about it.
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I like therapist because she help me i have noticed i get feeling about her
how does a therapist do it when he offers real empathy and intimacy and it doesn't affect him on a personal level and he do only his work and isnt really connect with the client??
Good question. This can be confusing for new therapists. It can cause burnout for therapists if they don't figure out how to be in that role, how to relate to clients, and how to work with how those relationships land on them as the therapist. The short answer about how therapists can do it: You come to understand the unique relationship which is really connected and can affect you while maintaining appropriate and healthy boundaries. Consider that you might say that you are really connected to your partner, some of your coworkers, people in your social scenes (like friend groups or a church congregation), and extended family members. But, even if you are connected to those different types of people, you relate to them differently with boundaries that you work out that are specific to each type of relationship. All those people can affect you, too. Make sense? You connect but knowing that there are different boundaries than informal relationships and also that that relationship can end in any moment. But, it doesn't mean you don't connect. Just like when you connect with a dog as a pet knowing that you will most likely outlive the dog. Knowing the dog will die before you and you'll lose that relationship doesn't necessarily mean the quality of your connection to the dog is diminished (pardon the analogy...not saying I relate to my clients the ways I relate to my pets).
@@wellnesswithjon thank u for your answer... I have strong connection to my therapist female... childhood pain, erotic feelings, jelaosy to her husband... its hard for me to deal with it... because I feel her empayhy and its like real love...
@@martinjamts4086y’all just horny🤣
Can't see how it will help me. I've told her I'm too attached. I went to her about something else, but she knew I had attachments to older women. How
can I open up without feeling even more attached. Surely I need to go to another therapist.
Maybe. Sometimes in therapy we identify an issue that presents in the therapeutic relationship and becomes something to work with without it disrupting the process. Sometimes it is too challenging to work with in that way and switching therapists is a good choice. I suggest discussing it openly to see what is best for you.