I can't see pink, orange and white colors together because it emphasize me the flag of lesbian community and it goes as a sign to the HOCD to say that "I'm lesb" 😢😢😢 Even if I see only orange color it popped up in my mind the lesb flag. It really upset me and unsettle me so much 😢😢😢😢 How I wish I didn't know some things... This is really unsettling dealing with HOCD and our mind trying to prove you all the time that you are the opposite of what you are and are sure about yourself 😖😖😖😖😭😭😭😭😭
I have the same with the trans flag, once threw a book out cos it had the similar coloured stripes to the flag. Don't know how I didn't realise it was T-OCD
@@OCDrecoveryNick it's going to be very hard... I just wanted myself back as I used to. Boy-crazy , super romantic, fine, always on my own but OK with everything and everyone,... Everything around me threads me and anchor the HOCD 😭😭😭
I've got a question I've had hocd forctwo two years, then I got a girlfriend, i stopped obsessing on it and it gradually went away on its own. Even when i broke up it stayed gone for almost a year, so for two whole years i didh't even think about it if not as something stupid that i couldn't believe became so serious and important. But now, all of a sudden, it came back in full force and i feel like i'm back at square one. The thoughts and sensations came back, and so did the daily compulsions, and for some reason the thought of "you've got proof it isn't real amd you felt like yourself for two years so use this proof to disregard it" doesn't seem to work Why does this happen?
so the main step to recovery is to be okay with being gay, change my belief systems into being okay to be gay? because that is what i’ve started working on now.
@@OCDrecoveryNick thanks, once i get comfortable with the idea of being gay and not being bothered, have u got any advice on what i should do for the next step?
I have done a ton of exposures, put the gay flag in my ig bio for a couple of months, asked to buy something in a shop for my boyfriend. I now this is fear of fear probably but when you said you did those exposures a couple of times i feel really compelled to them again to prove i am not afraid, im pretty confused on to wether or not i should do them again or not
Yes exposures aren’t everything, some belief work will also be needed. It is easy to get caught in the trap of chasing exposures in order to de-sensitise to our fear but this is only part of the recovery process. Please feel free to reach out to us using the email address above.
Helpful information thanks sir please answer my 1 question can hocd cause false sexual arousal because when I himself think something about soocd image or thought I feel some arousal feeling in my chest area So please tell me ocd do this ? I know ocd feel vary real but please me and now I’m not feeling Anxiety I’m suffering soocd for last 9 months thank team ocd recovery
Yes it will feel as real as it can get and these responses will need to be worn, while breaking down your core fears which in HOCD tends to be fear of rejection, fear of not being able to accept yourself, fear of being gay itself and fear of missing out on a happy life. What you’re describing sounds like a back door spike where the anxiety response goes down to your fear thereby making it feel real. The point is, is that it shouldn’t matter whether it is real or not, because even if you did find that arousing, it wouldn’t be catastrophically bad for you. Your life wouldn’t be over and you could still find happiness in other pursuits. That’s the rational mindset you must adopt with HOCD.
I know ocd or hocd cause feeling , emotion sensation etc But when I images any stuff about hocd related thought I feel feeling sexual feeling and now my axity fear is gone for 2 .5 months and in my hocd starting period it cause me distress axity sadness etc . And it feel so so so so real I know you also tell me ocd cause this feeling attraction arousel or etc but my question is 1 how can I trust my self 2 this all feeling feel real 3 can ocd behave very naturally
Hi - as Nick said you’re never going to be able to get certainty on this I’m afraid. You need to get to a point where it wouldn’t matter if you were gay or not and really adopt the principles of unconditional self, life and other acceptance and see that even if you were you gay you could stand it, accept it and your life wouldn’t be over. Have you read the books on the OCD recovery reading list? I’d recommend starting there
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I can't see pink, orange and white colors together because it emphasize me the flag of lesbian community and it goes as a sign to the HOCD to say that "I'm lesb" 😢😢😢
Even if I see only orange color it popped up in my mind the lesb flag. It really upset me and unsettle me so much 😢😢😢😢
How I wish I didn't know some things... This is really unsettling dealing with HOCD and our mind trying to prove you all the time that you are the opposite of what you are and are sure about yourself 😖😖😖😖😭😭😭😭😭
I have the same with the trans flag, once threw a book out cos it had the similar coloured stripes to the flag. Don't know how I didn't realise it was T-OCD
It's time to expose yourself to those colors! This is key for your recovery whilst breaking the beliefs down about being gay.
@@OCDrecoveryNick it's going to be very hard...
I just wanted myself back as I used to. Boy-crazy , super romantic, fine, always on my own but OK with everything and everyone,...
Everything around me threads me and anchor the HOCD 😭😭😭
I've got a question
I've had hocd forctwo two years, then I got a girlfriend, i stopped obsessing on it and it gradually went away on its own. Even when i broke up it stayed gone for almost a year, so for two whole years i didh't even think about it if not as something stupid that i couldn't believe became so serious and important. But now, all of a sudden, it came back in full force and i feel like i'm back at square one. The thoughts and sensations came back, and so did the daily compulsions, and for some reason the thought of "you've got proof it isn't real amd you felt like yourself for two years so use this proof to disregard it" doesn't seem to work
Why does this happen?
Struggling. I have HOCD and it makes it feel so real, and I am a catholic, so there is the fear of being gay on a magnified level.
Can you please talk about TOCD as well
so the main step to recovery is to be okay with being gay, change my belief systems into being okay to be gay? because that is what i’ve started working on now.
That's a terrific start for sure Hayden!
@@OCDrecoveryNick thanks, once i get comfortable with the idea of being gay and not being bothered, have u got any advice on what i should do for the next step?
Why would it not be okay to be gay? Nothing wrong with it. There's nothing to be anxious about, whether you are or not.
I have done a ton of exposures, put the gay flag in my ig bio for a couple of months, asked to buy something in a shop for my boyfriend. I now this is fear of fear probably but when you said you did those exposures a couple of times i feel really compelled to them again to prove i am not afraid, im pretty confused on to wether or not i should do them again or not
We can help you by looking at this in detail with you! 📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com for an appointment.
Yes exposures aren’t everything, some belief work will also be needed. It is easy to get caught in the trap of chasing exposures in order to de-sensitise to our fear but this is only part of the recovery process. Please feel free to reach out to us using the email address above.
Helpful information thanks sir please answer my 1 question can hocd cause false sexual arousal because when I himself think something about soocd image or thought I feel some arousal feeling in my chest area
So please tell me ocd do this ? I know ocd feel vary real but please me and now I’m not feeling Anxiety I’m suffering soocd for last 9 months thank team ocd recovery
Hey buddy - HOCD has no rules, I wouldn't spend much time trying to break down why it does something I'd focus on the core fears.
Yes it will feel as real as it can get and these responses will need to be worn, while breaking down your core fears which in HOCD tends to be fear of rejection, fear of not being able to accept yourself, fear of being gay itself and fear of missing out on a happy life. What you’re describing sounds like a back door spike where the anxiety response goes down to your fear thereby making it feel real. The point is, is that it shouldn’t matter whether it is real or not, because even if you did find that arousing, it wouldn’t be catastrophically bad for you. Your life wouldn’t be over and you could still find happiness in other pursuits. That’s the rational mindset you must adopt with HOCD.
@@OCDrecoveryNickYeah I get that, but I just wonder if others feels that, cause if it's just me feeling this way then it might be something else
Hey when I do ERP in hocd sometime I feel attraction very hard so what should i do but feeling no axity 🙅
Hey - You'll have to sit with that confusion and keep pushing forward!
I feel the same man
@@OCDrecoveryNickIt's hard man, it really it's hard
I know ocd or hocd cause feeling , emotion sensation etc
But when I images any stuff about hocd related thought I feel feeling sexual feeling and now my axity fear is gone for 2 .5 months and in my hocd starting period it cause me distress axity sadness etc . And it feel so so so so real I know you also tell me ocd cause this feeling attraction arousel or etc but my question is
1 how can I trust my self
2 this all feeling feel real
3 can ocd behave very naturally
Hey Sy - You won't be able to get certainty on trusting yourself/ OCD feels as real as it can get/ OCD has no absolute not rules.
Hi - as Nick said you’re never going to be able to get certainty on this I’m afraid. You need to get to a point where it wouldn’t matter if you were gay or not and really adopt the principles of unconditional self, life and other acceptance and see that even if you were you gay you could stand it, accept it and your life wouldn’t be over. Have you read the books on the OCD recovery reading list? I’d recommend starting there