*Asking about her passions not only shows genuine interest but also opens the door to deeper conversations. It's a great way to find common ground and see if there's a spark.*
Tuning in from South Africa 🌍 These videos are really helpful. We appreciate you Stephan. My father's name was Stephan and he passed on when I was really young so everytime I listen to the videos you share I'm reminded of a wise fatherly figure. Happy father's day in advance ❤
Hello Mr. Stephan how are you? First and foremost, I want tell you that I sincerely enjoy your TH-cam channel. I have been following your channel since the end of my undergrad year of college in 2018. I believe coming across this particular topic you spoke about was nothing more than a divine appointment. Because I am in my late 20’s and am a youth pastor and currently in the talking stage with a young woman who I like. And the points you mentioned were very valuable. Thank very much sir may God bless you in your ministry.
One of your best videos yet, many of these questions hit home with my previous and current relationships. Thank you for addressing these and talking about them.
These are some very great questions to ask and us ladies should listen and answer the questions truthfully and graciously. These men are bring the pressure and I love it because it help me to become the best me. Labossiere I love it. Keep going❤🙏💪🙌
I would be so happy for a man to ask me these questions because it shows he is trying to get to know me on a deeper level and we are not going with the flow....
ATTRACTION IS IMPORTANT. WE SHOULD TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES BEFORE, DURING MARRIAGE. Exercise is important and wellness is important. Getting to know ourselves is possible. In my 20’s I didn’t know better, in my early thirties I wasn’t there yet either. Healing from childhood trauma, through therapy and my relationship with God helped me change. 🙌🏽👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🤗🙏🏽
A relationship is not a business transaction. Many people don’t know what they want. One thing you can depend on is that things will “change.” Asking these questions is interesting, but not reality. People lie. Accept behavior or move on.
I agree especially with a woman they can’t answer honestly they answer by what they do. Because they prefer to see themselves as they want not as they are.
Relationships are not meant to be a business transaction, but check family and marriage laws where you live and you’ll understand why people say it’s a business…….unfortunately
I would add a question about potential kids, because you don't want to get into a relationship with a person who has plans totally opposite to you. If you want them, don't go ahead with a woman who doesn't. The problem is with people who don't know what they want out of their lives. I truly believe, that if someone doesn't know such fundamental answer should not date at all... "Later" or "maybe" is not an answer! You can and you should ask additional questions like: - What conditions need to be met for you to be comfortable to have kids? - When you will feel certain enough to make such decision? After mariage? - What is you vision of a family? How we should divide taking care of children? - How much effort are you willing to put into raising kids? - Are you willing to consider adoption?
This! 👌🏼 many women lost the chance of being mothers because they were waiting for the “right” timing of their partners, fast forward they split, he remarries, have children with other woman and let the other devastated with no chance 😢
This video was really on point. Thank you again for these thoughtful question some of which I didn’t ask in the beginning some questions I asked while the relationship was progressing which can be a proceed with caution type deal
Thank you! I love way this conversation went to a more profoundly thought-provoking questions to Dig Deeper. Especially if they are dating for a deeper connection. 💜🙏🏼
This is a good list. I can think of a few young men in my family that I may share this with. Maybe break them up over 7 dates? Consider adding a question about sexual preference, finding out someone is bisexual or asexual (but wants kids) down the road has got to be an unpleasant surprise.
I really agree with you Stephan👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. I always believed it's a good idea to ask those question because you can then get a better idea on who you are welcoming in your life. So many people think it's not that important to ask these questions but that's why there's so many relationship not workingout. 🙏🏽💚🙌🏾
I LOVE that you put these questions together ! They are a Must and very necessary in order to be sure if you want to have a positive outcome whether you decide to move forward or not with this person . I believe this is one of the reasons most relationships do not or will not Be everlasting ! Thank you @stephanspeaks 💕
Attraction is somewhat important but ppl need to question why they put so much emphasis on this. We can't always be living in a constant fantasy around the clock, wanting a woman to look good always even in her home! Lol. That's pretentious and superficial. There's a time for everything and life happens. A person's body may change due to childbirth or even illness. You really need to really like a person and their soul to really love them in these moments (God forbides illness but it can happen). Our need to have a certain presentation to the world causes us to loose hold of building true connections that surpass extreme surface needs and desires. Attraction is important but realness is too. 🙏🏽
Thanks, Stephan. Most of these questions also apply to women. However, people grow and change their values and belief system sometimes. I married a good Christian, but unfortunately, he became an atheist a few years into our marriage. Something happened to him that made him stop believing in God. I, on the other hand, depend on God, and I'm raising my children to also believe in God. We've been separated for 2 years now because all our values don't align anymore.
Yes ! These questions to women are vital ! Afterall we have eyes and we are physically attracted at first sight .. so yea it’s important that people maintain the physical appearance throughout their courtship/relationship/marriage . The reality is a lot of people let themselves go and they get comfortable after the fact and I’m sorry to say, but it does ruin a lot of relationships . We as women do everything in our power to look attractive to get the attention of the man why do we stop? So it’s an important question to ask ! Maybe not so much a question but a statement as to something that you value Going into A relationship with someone .
Exactly but you have to ask how active they are and if they do it for themselves otherwise they could potentially just stop after finding a man or woman if applying to the men
Great video, from the last 2 girls that I dealt with , we had conversations from the start and the stuff that we talked about what still being done behind the scenes so I say trust your gut in certain situations if this is really going to workout or no
The problem is I have asked questions similar to these and often women will say what they think a man will want a good woman to say. However, that is not how they act. 🎉
For a man or a woman if the words and actions don’t align. Believe the lesser one. Of course Stephan would say. Address the issue first don’t just cast them aside. Many people have insecure attachment but they can heal with help of a professional
I wonder if people are asking these questions directly or indirectly. In my experience, indirectly along with watching actions gets the truest response. Also, creating a space where they feel comfortable to be less judged matters.
NOTE: Please help me to the right answer. Could someone please assist me? I recently got into a connection with a widow and her two children. Today, she went out with one of the 53-year-old American guys, but we are in Indonesia. She has a lot of male pals, even as of this evening. However, she said he was only a friend. She gets along well with me even while we are together. But right now, I'm pretty puzzled. Thank you
The number one question I asked every woman I meet what type of man do you want physically financially emotionally!!!... Depending on them being truthful you can find a very good woman if there untruthful you found another problem!
Bruh, a lot of women don't know what the want so asking her what makes her happy is a waste of time. If you can't adapt on the fly or get frustrated by indecisive behavior just stay single 😂
You have to ask. And allow her to show you whether or not she’s self-aware. The problem is people bringing their past into their present and future. If you can’t go into a relationship with a fresh mindset, you need to work on yourself before you get yourself into that relationship
People are snakes . These question won't won't work. Like a job applicant. Would answer and say things to be on the agreeable path just to get the foot on the door. Everything would change down the road.
Love is the most fuked up and brutal of all words .I love myself I know wat I want and wat I need no lis no drama no bullshit anything I do or spend is for me and I'm never let down by myself
Screw a relationship being single is only way to roll .I have my money my Harleys home everything and no griping or all this bs with feelings yoyo crap I font have to invest wasted time and work into something that's sure to fail
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This is the main reason why many relationships don’t work. This type of communication is sooooo important!! GREAT VIDEO!!’
*Asking about her passions not only shows genuine interest but also opens the door to deeper conversations. It's a great way to find common ground and see if there's a spark.*
Tuning in from South Africa 🌍 These videos are really helpful. We appreciate you Stephan. My father's name was Stephan and he passed on when I was really young so everytime I listen to the videos you share I'm reminded of a wise fatherly figure. Happy father's day in advance ❤
Hello Mr. Stephan how are you? First and foremost, I want tell you that I sincerely enjoy your TH-cam channel. I have been following your channel since the end of my undergrad year of college in 2018.
I believe coming across this particular topic you spoke about was nothing more than a divine appointment. Because I am in my late 20’s and am a youth pastor and currently in the talking stage with a young woman who I like. And the points you mentioned were very valuable. Thank very much sir may God bless you in your ministry.
Exercise should be a lifestyle!
Too many people only exercise to hit a number. I don’t know how they think they’ll maintain it. 🤷🏾♀️
@@kimberly329 Yep. Exercising for life brings such good hormones your way too and the sun brightens my day.
One of your best videos yet, many of these questions hit home with my previous and current relationships. Thank you for addressing these and talking about them.
No problem man, I’m glad you found it helpful
These are some very great questions to ask and us ladies should listen and answer the questions truthfully and graciously. These men are bring the pressure and I love it because it help me to become the best me. Labossiere I love it. Keep going❤🙏💪🙌
Thank you very much
@@StephanSpeaksforMen my pleasure dear❤💛💜
Thank you so much
@@emeliayeboah-k2b you're welcome!
I would be so happy for a man to ask me these questions because it shows he is trying to get to know me on a deeper level and we are not going with the flow....
ATTRACTION IS IMPORTANT. WE SHOULD TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES BEFORE, DURING MARRIAGE. Exercise is important and wellness is important. Getting to know ourselves is possible. In my 20’s I didn’t know better, in my early thirties I wasn’t there yet either. Healing from childhood trauma, through therapy and my relationship with God helped me change. 🙌🏽👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🤗🙏🏽
Great questions and discussion points. Thank you.
A relationship is not a business transaction. Many people don’t know what they want. One thing you can depend on is that things will “change.” Asking these questions is interesting, but not reality. People lie. Accept behavior or move on.
I agree. Things change, people change, and all. My thing is that some of these are borderline superficial and all.
I agree especially with a woman they can’t answer honestly they answer by what they do. Because they prefer to see themselves as they want not as they are.
It is for women. Which rock are you living under???
Women see marriage as a business deal
Relationships are not meant to be a business transaction, but check family and marriage laws where you live and you’ll understand why people say it’s a business…….unfortunately
when a man loses half his wealth... it is a business.
I would add a question about potential kids, because you don't want to get into a relationship with a person who has plans totally opposite to you.
If you want them, don't go ahead with a woman who doesn't.
The problem is with people who don't know what they want out of their lives. I truly believe, that if someone doesn't know such fundamental answer should not date at all...
"Later" or "maybe" is not an answer! You can and you should ask additional questions like:
- What conditions need to be met for you to be comfortable to have kids?
- When you will feel certain enough to make such decision? After mariage?
- What is you vision of a family? How we should divide taking care of children?
- How much effort are you willing to put into raising kids?
- Are you willing to consider adoption?
This! 👌🏼 many women lost the chance of being mothers because they were waiting for the “right” timing of their partners, fast forward they split, he remarries, have children with other woman and let the other devastated with no chance 😢
This video was really on point. Thank you again for these thoughtful question some of which I didn’t ask in the beginning some questions I asked while the relationship was progressing which can be a proceed with caution type deal
I've just started dating who I think is an amazing woman and these are definitely questions to ask now. Great video!!!!
Amazing video, great advice. Thanks Stephan for this wisdom! As a woman I want to be able to answer these questions and ask of him as well...
Thank you! I love way this conversation went to a more profoundly thought-provoking questions to Dig Deeper. Especially if they are dating for a deeper connection. 💜🙏🏼
You're welcome 🙏
@@StephanSpeaksforMen My pleasure
Ummmm healthy staff here, real real profound remarks Stephan. You were flawless
This is a really great video, a lot of knowledge and wisdom perfect questions to ask to vet a woman.
Thanks man I appreciate that
This is a good list. I can think of a few young men in my family that I may share this with.
Maybe break them up over 7 dates? Consider adding a question about sexual preference, finding out someone is bisexual or asexual (but wants kids) down the road has got to be an unpleasant surprise.
I really agree with you Stephan👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. I always believed it's a good idea to ask those question because you can then get a better idea on who you are welcoming in your life. So many people think it's not that important to ask these questions but that's why there's so many relationship not workingout. 🙏🏽💚🙌🏾
Can you make a list of all these things you went over I like these questions
Great vids man
Iove your content, ideally you need to get these questions in before you sleep with each other.
My mistake is being blinded by the flesh.
That is a great point and absolutely true. I’m going to do a video on that issue
@@StephanSpeaksforMen PLEASE do a vid on this issue... please, please, please 🙏🏾
This is great, because these are real issues when people start living together.
I LOVE that you put these questions together ! They are a Must and very necessary in order to be sure if you want to have a positive outcome whether you decide to move forward or not with this person . I believe this is one of the reasons most relationships do not or will not Be everlasting ! Thank you @stephanspeaks 💕
Attraction is somewhat important but ppl need to question why they put so much emphasis on this. We can't always be living in a constant fantasy around the clock, wanting a woman to look good always even in her home! Lol. That's pretentious and superficial. There's a time for everything and life happens. A person's body may change due to childbirth or even illness. You really need to really like a person and their soul to really love them in these moments (God forbides illness but it can happen). Our need to have a certain presentation to the world causes us to loose hold of building true connections that surpass extreme surface needs and desires. Attraction is important but realness is too. 🙏🏽
Great video & topics! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I agree with you! 💯💯💯
I love it!❤️❤️❤️
Great questions
Thanks, Stephan. Most of these questions also apply to women. However, people grow and change their values and belief system sometimes. I married a good Christian, but unfortunately, he became an atheist a few years into our marriage. Something happened to him that made him stop believing in God. I, on the other hand, depend on God, and I'm raising my children to also believe in God. We've been separated for 2 years now because all our values don't align anymore.
I wish I could have thought of these before it was too late
This is very interesting and is useful.
I Love this!!
Thank you! I appreciate that 🙏
Yes ! These questions to women are vital ! Afterall we have eyes and we are physically attracted at first sight .. so yea it’s important that people maintain the physical appearance throughout their courtship/relationship/marriage . The reality is a lot of people let themselves go and they get comfortable after the fact and I’m sorry to say, but it does ruin a lot of relationships . We as women do everything in our power to look attractive to get the attention of the man why do we stop? So it’s an important question to ask ! Maybe not so much a question but a statement as to something that you value Going into A relationship with someone .
If you are an active person, don't get involved with someone lazy
Exactly but you have to ask how active they are and if they do it for themselves otherwise they could potentially just stop after finding a man or woman if applying to the men
Great video, from the last 2 girls that I dealt with , we had conversations from the start and the stuff that we talked about what still being done behind the scenes so I say trust your gut in certain situations if this is really going to workout or no
Ok, but it's way easier to catch a layer when you ask more questions
@@Luk-ne2wb which i did and she was like why are you always talking about this, or its not fun for you to approach this subject so much
Hi Sir! Could you do a video of marring someone with disability?
Thank you, I love your videos
I’m always blinded by flesh and never ask questions first
Gotta fight through that
Great questions to ask
Do you also have a video on questions that the woman would ask the man?
Yes, i remember i’ve seen one of that too on his channel.
The problem is I have asked questions similar to these and often women will say what they think a man will want a good woman to say. However, that is not how they act. 🎉
Pay attention to what they do, rather than what they say.
@@jenng5925 Absolutely agree 👍
For a man or a woman if the words and actions don’t align. Believe the lesser one. Of course Stephan would say. Address the issue first don’t just cast them aside. Many people have insecure attachment but they can heal with help of a professional
Bottom line their actions
I wonder if people are asking these questions directly or indirectly. In my experience, indirectly along with watching actions gets the truest response. Also, creating a space where they feel comfortable to be less judged matters.
These are topics that you g men should learn growing up. Unfortunately not all of us are fortunate to learn those things.
NOTE: Please help me to the right answer. Could someone please assist me? I recently got into a connection with a widow and her two children. Today, she went out with one of the 53-year-old American guys, but we are in Indonesia. She has a lot of male pals, even as of this evening. However, she said he was only a friend. She gets along well with me even while we are together. But right now, I'm pretty puzzled. Thank you
Don’t entertain that
The number one question I asked every woman I meet what type of man do you want physically financially emotionally!!!... Depending on them being truthful you can find a very good woman if there untruthful you found another problem!
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Bruh, a lot of women don't know what the want so asking her what makes her happy is a waste of time. If you can't adapt on the fly or get frustrated by indecisive behavior just stay single 😂
Just tell them that it means they are not ready to go dating and be ready to move on
You have to ask. And allow her to show you whether or not she’s self-aware. The problem is people bringing their past into their present and future. If you can’t go into a relationship with a fresh mindset, you need to work on yourself before you get yourself into that relationship
My opinion only people is going to tell you what you want to hear
Ok, so ask it with such open atmosphere that they won't know what you want to hear. Just be curious
1st
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People are snakes . These question won't won't work. Like a job applicant. Would answer and say things to be on the agreeable path just to get the foot on the door. Everything would change down the road.
I’ve experienced this but I guess we have to keep our heart and eyes open
For every story of a man like this. There are thousands more of women in this situation
How do you know that? Is your belief based on social media, conversations in the salon, or your friends?
Love is the most fuked up and brutal of all words .I love myself I know wat I want and wat I need no lis no drama no bullshit anything I do or spend is for me and I'm never let down by myself
Screw a relationship being single is only way to roll .I have my money my Harleys home everything and no griping or all this bs with feelings yoyo crap I font have to invest wasted time and work into something that's sure to fail