This dr. got school educated, but lacks wisdom. His wife better be careful, ‘cause he might walk dad’s path. He blames his mother for not continue to endure a whole life cheating husband, for finally decided to leave her trashy marriage and went to find a better marriage and better life. Just because this guy was pursuing a so call status, a better future for himself, he expects his mother to endure suffers so he can be comfortable. Wow wow wow 😳 😬🤔🤯 BRAVO to his mother, who finally plugged enough courage to leave👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Or else she would have suffered till death, too...cared for that guy who cheated ‘till his deathbed, dogtor son who got his own life, and she ended up with nobody. Young people, you are going to school and fighting for your future is none of your parents business...it’s your own business. You become a dogtor will not make your parents’ suffers disappear. You will make a lot of 💰 will not wash clean your father’s cheating habits.
100% right. Getting a degree is for yourself not anybody else. Plus listening to him constantly blaming his mom pisses me off. I take it he rather see his mom having a stroke from emotional and mental abuse from his deadbeat dad. His dad's condition was by his own fault- most likely a stoke from his mistress cheating or rejecting him.
Wow thanks for this comment. I won’t even listen to this dumb story then. Ungrateful bastard! How dare he not feel his mother’s pain and expect her to stay in a marriage where she’s not loved or respected. Screw him! Not listening to this story!
From my observations based on just the information in the story, while I acknowledge the pain that you and your family went through, I think you placed too much blame on your mom for your sadness and heartache. You said so yourself at the very end of the story that regardless of what kind of parents you have, they are not the ones who'll be there with you untill the very end and yet, you wanted your mom to make that sacrifice for you. You made your mom responsible for your dad's health condition, broken marriage, your suffering during college and post grad. I just want to point out that you did not hold your dad accountable for any of the transgressions he did that greatly contributed to the failed marriage. I'm positive that there are different and better approaches she could've taken after the divorce to ensure that her love for her kids and new family could be balanced but it doesn't seem fair that she is held responsible for everything. I don't know if you are aware of how much patriarchy impacts the decisions and mentality of our community especially with the older generation, but it sounded like your dad was betting on that to hold onto your mom while he continues with infidelity. Your mom, in turn, with her new life, is still bounded by those rules/standards and struggles of a hmong woman regardless of the love she has for you all. While there are many things that I don't care for in the hmong community, I think it's important to also take into consideration the context that your parents lived/is living in, in relations to the decisions they make and how you perceive it. Lastly, I felt really sad for your mom that you said you feel that your in laws love you more than your mom. I think that's a very selfish statement considering, it seems, that your mom did try really hard to hold onto her marriage with your dad but nothing was changing and it didn't seem like you all were helping to keep your dad accountable for his actions either. Regardless of how well others treat you, they weren't there with you from the beginning like your parents and family, but they are now able to reep the fortune and good life that you've made for yourself and your family. It sounds like you have great in laws, but don't disregard the love and support you've had from your parentsdespite their failed marriage. You didn't get to where you are now just by yourself or by your dad or by your mom but it seems like they both contributed as much or as little as they believed they could. I hope you'd reconsider some of your thoughts and feelings towards your parents, especially your mother. From the story it seems that you just saw her as a mother but in addition to that, she is her own person. A mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter, an aunt, just a WOMAN who is trying to carve out a life for herself based on her context and the world she lives in.
Amen! I am so sick of the Hmong community expecting women to be patient while their husband has endless affairs. I thought educated people would know that it is unacceptable. This man may be a doctor but his mindset still hasn’t evolved yet.
Such a sad story brother. I praise you for all your dedication & struggle to become who you are today. but please... don't put any blame or burden on your parents for their divorce. Its not your mother's fault that they divorced & she can't keep being emotionally & mentally abused by your father's unfaithful habits. Until you've walk a day in her shoes you can't hold blame over her please. As hurtful as this is for the entire family it's the best decision for her. You all will always be your mother's hearts & know that! Love her unconditionally in return as well. Growing up my father always cheated on my mom & as daughters we saw , heard & felt all of her pain. We all wished for our father to stop & for our mom to put her foot down & leave she but she didn't for the sake of us kids. She didn't want to hurt & split the family . Idk if this was there best decision or not but whatever it was, it was the one she chose & we just have to accept it. We may not have liked it but they're our parents regardless & I love them both to the moon & back regardless!
Sorry to say but your mom did good. That money was payment for all the years she suffered living with your father who didn't love her and went sleeping around. 50 grand isn't enough for what your father did to her. Sad that your life is the way it is but I'm proud of your mother for standing up for herself. She did everything she could to fix a broken marriage and stayed with your father for so many years. He took your mother for granted and stepped all over her. She finally had enough and had the courage to walk away. 👏👏👏👏👏 Great job, momma! As children, all we want is for our parents to be happy. Even if they get divorced and not living with each other anymore. We don't want them to but when they are no longer happy together, one is cheating on the other, one have to do what one has to do in order to stay sane. The mature and responsible way to handle this situation is to be there for both parents and not take sides. Your father made his choices, even though they were poor ones. Now he has to live with the decisions he's made. Getting sick was not his intention but what made him think that your mother would always be there for him? Women will leave when enough is enough. Once we leave, we will NOT look back. By the time your father realized, it was already too late for him. It's a sad situation all around. Try not to stress too much about it. It's not your fault they divorced. Your father made his bed and your mother could only lay with him for so long before getting up to leave. The best thing you can do is finish school and work. Doing so will make both your parents happy. Good luck to you!
SHEESH. QUIT BLAMING YOUR MOM. SHE'S NOT EVEN MY MOM AND I FEEL BAD FOR HER. YOUR DAD SUFFERED BY HIS OWN HANDS AND ACTION. IF YOU CARE SO MUCH ABOUT HIM THEN YOU SHOULD TAKE CARE OF HIM. EITHER THAT OR PUT HIM IN THE NURSING HOME WITH PROFESSIONAL CARE.
You didnt support your mom and stop your dads cheating when they were still married. I understand theyre your parents and you want them together but its selfish of you to not recognize your moms suffering. She deserves to be happy too. Your dad brought that stress upon himself.
I feel like you put a lot of the blame or your sadness toward your mother when it was your dad who was the one who ruined their marriage. It seems you pity your dad more due to him having a stroke and becoming disable but I'm sure your dad would've moved on already if he wasn't disable.
Tim koj txiv txoj kev tham hluas nkauj es ncawv lub neej thiaj li piam li ntawd. Koj tsis muaj cai tu siab rau koj niam. Tus Koj yuav tu siab rau ces yog tu rau koj txiv.
Txob tu siab rau koj niam ma, yog vim koj txiv es koj niam thiaj tau tawm lub neej mus lawm. Tus koj yuav tu siab rau mas yog koj txiv 100%. Tab sis mas zoo kawg koj txiv tab tom nyob rau txoj kev npam
Yog zaj lis no muaj tseeb tiag no ces thov Vajtswv foom koob hmoov rau koj mog tus metub, ntawm koj niam thiab koj txiv nkawv lub neej yog nkawv li kev npam uas yav tag los nkawv tau ua txhaum es nkawv lub neej thiaj li zoo li ntawd txhob tusiab mog koj tsis txhob ua li nkawv ua xwb mog, peb txhua tus uas hnov koj lub neej peb hlub koj kawg li.
Tus kwv tij, koj lub neej tu siab kawg li, nrog koj tu siab thiab os, ua neej tsis pom txoj hmoo li os, zoo siab tias koj kawm ntawv tiav lawm thiab koj kuj tau tus zoo txij zoo nkawm thiab os
Yes brother being broke and having no money is just momentary. It’s only a life time if you chose it to be. It happens to the best of us just push through and your hard work and the struggle will pay off. Being where we are today people don’t know our struggle and tears we stead to be where we are.
Tus me tub aw...yeej nrog koj tus siab kawg tab sis thaum kawg kuj nrog koj zoo siab kawg uas koj ntxeem2 tag Dr lawm kiag lawm. Koj los ho txhob tu2 siab rau koj niam thiab mog thaum ntej yeej yog tim koj txiv thiab es nkawv lub neej thiaj li mus tsis tau li koj lub siab xav siab ntshaw los txhob tu siab. Nrog koj zoo siab heev li nawb uas koj ua tau 1 tug qauv zoo heev rau peb cov tub cov ntxhais kawm.
Tsis txhob tu siab os. Koj Txiv Tsis sawm zoo ces nws ua rau nws re xwb. Tsis txhob tu siab rau Koj Niam. Nws uv kev txom nyem thiab kev lwj siab los ntev lawm. Qub neeg ces qub siab os nawb. Pes npaum cas los Tsis pab os. Nrog Koj zoo siab tias Koj kawm tiav dr lawm. Twb Yog Koj muaj peem xwm kawg. Muab Koj Niam thiab Koj Txiv ua Ib txoj kev kawm es txhob ua phem rau Koj poj Niam thiab me nyuam. Be happy with what you have and what you have created. Be proud of yourself and remember what you have endured to get there. Be humble. Be kind. 😘
Sorry brother, your mom cried 3 times a day when your dad was cheating....a beg at the knee is not going to make it better, she will always b your mom but glad she moved on, your dad it it to himself. Should of been a faithful husband.
Be happy you’ve accomplished so much. Love your wife and never let your children go through what you went through. It is not your mother’s fault. You should forgive her for leaving your dad, she deserves to be happy and your father was not a good husband for her.
Cov txiv neej no ces nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb, thaum nws zoo neej hlo ces nws mus hlub lqm tus ua kom mob yus tshaj plaws hais lus saib tsis tau yus kiag. Tab sis thaum nws twb yuav tuag es nqa quav nqa zis no ces ho thov kom yus los nrog nws nyob los tu nws. Txawm mus tom ntej yuav zoo li cas los xij tsuav txhob pom nws lawm xwb. Tu siab dab na thaum koj txiv thiab koj njawd sib yuav kom niam twb tsis muaj kev kaj siab os. Txawm yuav pe npaum li cas los tsis tsim nyog qhov nws twb tsim yus los lawm. Koj niam yeej txiav txim siab yig lawm.
Don't be confuse brother. Your mom did what she needed to be happy after all those years he cheated on her. One kowtow will not mend her broken heart. Not to be mean but your dad kind of deserve what he did to her. He didn't stop after 1 or 2 times. He constantly did it over and over again. That's karma for him. All you can do now is love your wife and not follow your dad footsteps...
Tub Dr. Cas hnov koj cos lus mas hlub koj tshaj nplaw lis kuv muaj ib tug tub Dr. Wb ua niam ua txiv nyob nris nroos rau nws los tseem nyuab rau nws kawg Tab si hnov koj zaj dab neeg no mas hlub koj tab si NCIS rau koj niam vim li cas nws thiaj tsi tuaj txhawb koj lub zog Qhuas koj txoj kev kawm nawb mog zoo siab rau koj nawb mog
qhov ko twb yog tim koj txiv ne koj txiv tsi txhob tham hlua nkauj ce koj niam yeej tsi nrauj koj txiv thiab koj txiv txom nyem lo tsim nyog lawm muab xav lo koj txiv tsim nyog tau txai txoj kev nyem ntawd lawm os
I don’t understand why the author of this story is so resentful of his mom yet forgives and empathizes with his father 100%. His mom suffered for decades. He’s not a child who doesn’t know any better. He knows his father cheated throughout his parents entire marriage. The father is the reason the marriage failed, not the mom. So why blame the mom? Be happy for her. Let her try to have a life. She deserves it. It’s not like she left when the kids were young. Sounds like all the kids were already all grown when the marriage broke up. Please stop punishing your mom and yourself. Move on with your life.
Brother, dont hold into this sadness. Be happy you still have a mother there even if she isn't as involved. I wish it was eaiser for our elders but they hold so tightly to the traditions of letting go and marrying new. Don't blame your mom too much, she carries her own pain. As much as I dont want to wish ill on others, it sounds like karma got your dad towards the end. He really did bring all that heartache and pain on himself and his family.
Ib tsoom txiv neej yog vim le caag es thaum yug phov yug ho phov tab sis txug qhov kawg kws yug tug txwj nkawm tiv tsi taug lawm es luas tawm moog yug ho xaav kom luas zaam txim rua yug es rov lug ua caav lwj dib ib naj.
So happy for you in the end you were able to give your father a home and a good ending to his life. However, do not be too upset with your mother, the best years of her life was given to your father, you, and your sibling. Men like your father need to learn what heart ache feels like and how much they disrupt the sanctuary of marriage and home life. I'm sure by the time your mother decide to do what she did it took all of her will power. In the end, love your father but try to understand where your mother comes from.
Brother have no regrets (txhob tu siab). I see you seem to blame your mom. Its not your mom's fault. 1. Your dad cheated on her and maybe over and over again to the point where she had it and enough is enough...So you need to understand where your mom is coming from. 2. Your mom can't be there for you or be able to do the things you wish she could do...is maybe because your step dad won't let her or she's afraid that if gets involved with you kids her current marriage will be affected. Please understand stand her from a hmong culture point of you. Its not easy to be a hmong woman base on the hmong traditional way of life. 3. Remember a mom will always love her kids... i know your mom love you kids but because she's married to another man in a different clan she can only do so much... it seems your mom still followed the old traditional way. If she and your step dad follow the new generation it would of have been a bit different. 4. Dont blame her.. life sometimes happened in a way that we can not control...your mom is happier...and dad sorry to hear about him...but there is no exuse for what he put your mom through...she raised you well that is why you're where you are now. See her point from the old tradition way and you will understand.
Koj txiv yeej tsis ntsaw kev hlub koj txiv tau kiag li nws lub siab nyiam. Kuv yog koj niam los kuv yeej ua ib yam nkaus li koj niam vim kev hlub nws yog ib txoj kev kaj siab thiab noj qab nyob zoo muaj lub suab luag. $50 txhiab nyiab xwb pauj tsis tau koj niam lub zog khwv2 20-30 xyoo.
Kuv tsis blame koj os Doc. I know alot of people here put too much blame on your dad and you. Your mom and dad have their own lives and infidelity, but you have your own life. And you are entitled to your story. In this world, no matter how old we are, peb tseem ntshaw ntshaw txoj kev hlub from yus niam thiab yus txiv. I truly understand where you are coming from and your story.
Cov niam/txiv xav2 kom menyuam kawm ntawv siab 🎓🎓tabsis ho ua neeg liam, hos cov menyuam kawm ntawv siab no ces niam/txiv ho tsis xav ua neej zoo. Yog nej txiv liam xwb cas nej niam ho tsis nyob hlub tuav rawv nej sawvdaws? Ntshe yog tim nej niam lawm thiab. Pab hlub koj o...🥰🥰 twb muaj cuab lawm ces ua 1 siab, tuav lub neej khov kho kom zoo nawb.
I feel that this Dr. has a high education and knows what’s in the books but he doesn’t know wisdom. He seems to blame a lot on his mother for his parents’ failed marriage. I know going to college is hard and I too had struggled during my grad program, but I have empathy for life struggles and not blame my struggles on others. I stop listening halfway because this Dr. has a high ego.
I agree with you however I don't feel that he has a high ego. I certainly hope he doesn't cuz a lot of highly educated people prop themselves up and look down on people who don't have a high education. I'm just tired of listening to him wanting to blame his mom throughout the whole story!
Probably the hardest thing children have to go through is parents cheating on eachother and divorce. Unless you have walk this path, this is true heartache. It truly messes you up.
Sorry to hear about ur family dynamics. Every1 has their breaking point. Don’t b too hard on ur mom (she suffered years of mental & emotional abuse that ur dad’s kneeling couldn’t sway her). Knowing how hurtful ur experiences were, b better than ur parents.
Bro, don't blame yourself for what help to your father. He did it to himself. He should not be cheating and fooling around with other women. Karma got your dad,, bro. I don't feel sorry for your dad. Men like that does not deserve a good wife and a good life.
Your father did this to himself. Don't shame your mom, she did what she had to, to survive. I'm glad she was strong enough to leave your dad's verbal, physical and emotional abuse.
Why don't you love your mom like you love your dad? Your dad is a cheater, its his karma. Your mom deserves happiness, why can't you be happy for her? I hope you don't treat your wife like your dad treat your mom. If your dad loves you, he wouldn't cheat on your mom. So don't you dare put all the blame on your mom. It's not her fault. You want to be sad and piss off, why don't you be sad and mad at your dad.
I know you love your mom but boy your a doctor put you head together and learn to let go a little. All parents and children don’t always have to see or be with each other for the better. 🤦🏻♀️
Tus kwv your dad started all this and I’m glad your mom got out of the marriage. I don’t feel sorry for your dad because he brought that to himself. As for your mom, keeping her distance from you kids is wrong. Either she’s too traditional or being control by her husband. Sad that she’s not a woman enough to stand up to her new husband so she can be a mom to her kids like she should be.
Niam Ntsuab Teev, tej zaum neb yuav tej yam dab tsi tso rau neb chav los yog ntsia rau hauv chav uas koj hais lus lawm, rau qhov muaj tej lo lus txiav lawm
Glad you became a Doctor even you know your family is a mess, but all these your dad is all to blame for his is not a responsible person. Hmoob muaj lo lus hais tias yus ua rau luag yus tsi paub tias mob luag tab si thaum luag uv tsi tau es luag khiav yus lawm ces yus ho yuav mob stroke tuag no ces Txawm yog koj txiv ib tug. Hopefully you don’t follow your dad steps. Good luck to you both. Please understand how your mom went through.
Yog tias tus mob stroke ntawd Yog koj niam ces koj haj yam txom nyem os. You should’ve understand your mom more since you are so educated. Koj tsis txawj xav kiag.. twb yog koj niam hlub koj kawg es twb tseem nyiag nyiaj rau koj os. Yog koj txiv ces nyiaj ya rau hluas nkauj tag lawm os.
Koj niam should come your gratuation day!! Tos koj niam tu 2 siab Los Tim koj txiv pheej nqhis 2 ua laus nraug, if I were your mom, kv nrauj koj txiv, but I still nris koj txiv lub xeem, n not marry
Don't really care if you're a Dr or not....you blamed everything on your mother and victimized your Father. You didn't hold him accountable for his wrong doings.
ua cas zoo li koj lub microphone pheej kaw tau ib lub suab tu kiag tu kiag ne. ces nws kaw tau ib lub suab tu tu. nws tsis yog txhua zaus tab sis hais ib pliag ces pheej ua li na.
Me tub aw... Tos koj tutusiab los tim koj txiv twb tsis tsim txiaj tham hluas nkauj tasli xwb nyiaj txiag pub hluas nkauj xwb ne leej twg los yeej ua tib Yam os.
Txhob muab LIAM rau koj niam, haistias vim koj niam tso koj txiv tseg es nws thiajli muaj stroke nawb. Koj twb kawm tiav Dr. es cas koj tseem haislus RUAM li ko thiab na? Es yog koj txiv mus DEEV lwmtus sabtov lawm es koj niam ho muaj stroke ne? Uali ntawv ho yog tshaj rau koj tus kawm tiav dr. ko thiab lov? Nej cov txivneej Hmoob ces, tseem kawm siab kawm ntse npaum licas los, nej yeej tseem xav li Txivneej Hmoob. Tus Pojniam phem tagli xwb. Hos tustxiv mas ualicas los zoo tag li. Koj txiv twb mus tsoob toob luagtej Pojniam es luag ntes tau lawm, ces koj niam TUSIAB nrho khiav lawm, nej tseem liam haistias nim yog tim koj niam khiav lawm es koj txiv thiajli tuag ... shiaj tshaj koj daim ntawv tiav Dr. na.
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This dr. got school educated, but lacks wisdom. His wife better be careful, ‘cause he might walk dad’s path.
He blames his mother for not continue to endure a whole life cheating husband, for finally decided to leave her trashy marriage and went to find a better marriage and better life. Just because this guy was pursuing a so call status, a better future for himself, he expects his mother to endure suffers so he can be comfortable. Wow wow wow 😳 😬🤔🤯
BRAVO to his mother, who finally plugged enough courage to leave👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Or else she would have suffered till death, too...cared for that guy who cheated ‘till his deathbed, dogtor son who got his own life, and she ended up with nobody.
Young people, you are going to school and fighting for your future is none of your parents business...it’s your own business. You become a dogtor will not make your parents’ suffers disappear. You will make a lot of 💰 will not wash clean your father’s cheating habits.
100% right. Getting a degree is for yourself not anybody else. Plus listening to him constantly blaming his mom pisses me off. I take it he rather see his mom having a stroke from emotional and mental abuse from his deadbeat dad. His dad's condition was by his own fault- most likely a stoke from his mistress cheating or rejecting him.
Wow thanks for this comment. I won’t even listen to this dumb story then. Ungrateful bastard! How dare he not feel his mother’s pain and expect her to stay in a marriage where she’s not loved or respected. Screw him! Not listening to this story!
Nrog koj zoo siab rau koj txoj kev txiav txim siab rau koj lub neej nawb me tub. Ua tsaug rau qhov koj yog ib tug tub Hmong zoo.
From my observations based on just the information in the story, while I acknowledge the pain that you and your family went through, I think you placed too much blame on your mom for your sadness and heartache. You said so yourself at the very end of the story that regardless of what kind of parents you have, they are not the ones who'll be there with you untill the very end and yet, you wanted your mom to make that sacrifice for you. You made your mom responsible for your dad's health condition, broken marriage, your suffering during college and post grad.
I just want to point out that you did not hold your dad accountable for any of the transgressions he did that greatly contributed to the failed marriage. I'm positive that there are different and better approaches she could've taken after the divorce to ensure that her love for her kids and new family could be balanced but it doesn't seem fair that she is held responsible for everything.
I don't know if you are aware of how much patriarchy impacts the decisions and mentality of our community especially with the older generation, but it sounded like your dad was betting on that to hold onto your mom while he continues with infidelity. Your mom, in turn, with her new life, is still bounded by those rules/standards and struggles of a hmong woman regardless of the love she has for you all. While there are many things that I don't care for in the hmong community, I think it's important to also take into consideration the context that your parents lived/is living in, in relations to the decisions they make and how you perceive it.
Lastly, I felt really sad for your mom that you said you feel that your in laws love you more than your mom. I think that's a very selfish statement considering, it seems, that your mom did try really hard to hold onto her marriage with your dad but nothing was changing and it didn't seem like you all were helping to keep your dad accountable for his actions either.
Regardless of how well others treat you, they weren't there with you from the beginning like your parents and family, but they are now able to reep the fortune and good life that you've made for yourself and your family. It sounds like you have great in laws, but don't disregard the love and support you've had from your parentsdespite their failed marriage. You didn't get to where you are now just by yourself or by your dad or by your mom but it seems like they both contributed as much or as little as they believed they could.
I hope you'd reconsider some of your thoughts and feelings towards your parents, especially your mother. From the story it seems that you just saw her as a mother but in addition to that, she is her own person. A mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter, an aunt, just a WOMAN who is trying to carve out a life for herself based on her context and the world she lives in.
Amen! I am so sick of the Hmong community expecting women to be patient while their husband has endless affairs. I thought educated people would know that it is unacceptable. This man may be a doctor but his mindset still hasn’t evolved yet.
X has b mc.
Agreed
I agree.
You took the words out of my mouth.
Book smart only. 👎
Such a sad story brother. I praise you for all your dedication & struggle to become who you are today. but please... don't put any blame or burden on your parents for their divorce. Its not your mother's fault that they divorced & she can't keep being emotionally & mentally abused by your father's unfaithful habits. Until you've walk a day in her shoes you can't hold blame over her please. As hurtful as this is for the entire family it's the best decision for her. You all will always be your mother's hearts & know that! Love her unconditionally in return as well.
Growing up my father always cheated on my mom & as daughters we saw , heard & felt all of her pain. We all wished for our father to stop & for our mom to put her foot down & leave she but she didn't for the sake of us kids. She didn't want to hurt & split the family . Idk if this was there best decision or not but whatever it was, it was the one she chose & we just have to accept it. We may not have liked it but they're our parents regardless & I love them both to the moon & back regardless!
Sorry to say but your mom did good. That money was payment for all the years she suffered living with your father who didn't love her and went sleeping around. 50 grand isn't enough for what your father did to her. Sad that your life is the way it is but I'm proud of your mother for standing up for herself. She did everything she could to fix a broken marriage and stayed with your father for so many years. He took your mother for granted and stepped all over her. She finally had enough and had the courage to walk away. 👏👏👏👏👏 Great job, momma! As children, all we want is for our parents to be happy. Even if they get divorced and not living with each other anymore. We don't want them to but when they are no longer happy together, one is cheating on the other, one have to do what one has to do in order to stay sane. The mature and responsible way to handle this situation is to be there for both parents and not take sides. Your father made his choices, even though they were poor ones. Now he has to live with the decisions he's made. Getting sick was not his intention but what made him think that your mother would always be there for him? Women will leave when enough is enough. Once we leave, we will NOT look back. By the time your father realized, it was already too late for him. It's a sad situation all around. Try not to stress too much about it. It's not your fault they divorced. Your father made his bed and your mother could only lay with him for so long before getting up to leave. The best thing you can do is finish school and work. Doing so will make both your parents happy. Good luck to you!
SHEESH. QUIT BLAMING YOUR MOM. SHE'S NOT EVEN MY MOM AND I FEEL BAD FOR HER. YOUR DAD SUFFERED BY HIS OWN HANDS AND ACTION. IF YOU CARE SO MUCH ABOUT HIM THEN YOU SHOULD TAKE CARE OF HIM. EITHER THAT OR PUT HIM IN THE NURSING HOME WITH PROFESSIONAL CARE.
Your dad paid the big price for his good time.
You didnt support your mom and stop your dads cheating when they were still married. I understand theyre your parents and you want them together but its selfish of you to not recognize your moms suffering. She deserves to be happy too. Your dad brought that stress upon himself.
Me tub koj txawj tu siab npaum ko mus ua neej txhob tsuj koj txiv tus hneev taw os mog
Tus brother txoj kev txom nyem ces leej twg los Tsi xav tau os mog tab sis koj txiv yog ib niag neeg liam tshaj plaws li xwb os, zoo siab koj kawm tiav lawm mog hlub2 koj cov brothers and sisters nawv
I feel like you put a lot of the blame or your sadness toward your mother when it was your dad who was the one who ruined their marriage. It seems you pity your dad more due to him having a stroke and becoming disable but I'm sure your dad would've moved on already if he wasn't disable.
We as kids need to understand where our parents are coming from, can't blame the person who no long can take it any more and want to move on..
Tim koj txiv txoj kev tham hluas nkauj es ncawv lub neej thiaj li piam li ntawd. Koj tsis muaj cai tu siab rau koj niam. Tus Koj yuav tu siab rau ces yog tu rau koj txiv.
Txob tu siab rau koj niam ma, yog vim koj txiv es koj niam thiaj tau tawm lub neej mus lawm. Tus koj yuav tu siab rau mas yog koj txiv 100%. Tab sis mas zoo kawg koj txiv tab tom nyob rau txoj kev npam
Yog zaj lis no muaj tseeb tiag no ces thov Vajtswv foom koob hmoov rau koj mog tus metub, ntawm koj niam thiab koj txiv nkawv lub neej yog nkawv li kev npam uas yav tag los nkawv tau ua txhaum es nkawv lub neej thiaj li zoo li ntawd txhob tusiab mog koj tsis txhob ua li nkawv ua xwb mog, peb txhua tus uas hnov koj lub neej peb hlub koj kawg li.
Pab koj zoo siabbloj kawmntiav dr.txhob tu siab koj yog in tug tub zoo koj yuav tsis txom nyem peb es nyiaj hnubbpab peb cov menyuam Los lawv tsis rau siab lawm ntawv
😂😂😂😂kv yog ib tug nyob rau lub neej niam txiv sib nrau sib tso tu siab tshaj plaw li os
Tus kwv tij, koj lub neej tu siab kawg li, nrog koj tu siab thiab os, ua neej tsis pom txoj hmoo li os, zoo siab tias koj kawm ntawv tiav lawm thiab koj kuj tau tus zoo txij zoo nkawm thiab os
Tu siab heev li zaj no
Yes brother being broke and having no money is just momentary. It’s only a life time if you chose it to be. It happens to the best of us just push through and your hard work and the struggle will pay off. Being where we are today people don’t know our struggle and tears we stead to be where we are.
Hai tau tu siabz li os niam lau tuaj koom kv thiab os
Txhob tu siab rau koj niam. Kuv tseem tau tias koj niam yeej muaj kev nyiaj siab txaus lawm. Txoj kev tu siab tshaj Yog Tus Tus txij nkawm ntxeev siab rau yus. Koj txiv ces niam qhuav ntxim xwb os
Tus me tub aw...yeej nrog koj tus siab kawg tab sis thaum kawg kuj nrog koj zoo siab kawg uas koj ntxeem2 tag Dr lawm kiag lawm. Koj los ho txhob tu2 siab rau koj niam thiab mog thaum ntej yeej yog tim koj txiv thiab es nkawv lub neej thiaj li mus tsis tau li koj lub siab xav siab ntshaw los txhob tu siab. Nrog koj zoo siab heev li nawb uas koj ua tau 1 tug qauv zoo heev rau peb cov tub cov ntxhais kawm.
Tsis txhob tu siab os. Koj Txiv Tsis sawm zoo ces nws ua rau nws re xwb. Tsis txhob tu siab rau Koj Niam. Nws uv kev txom nyem thiab kev lwj siab los ntev lawm. Qub neeg ces qub siab os nawb. Pes npaum cas los Tsis pab os. Nrog Koj zoo siab tias Koj kawm tiav dr lawm. Twb Yog Koj muaj peem xwm kawg. Muab Koj Niam thiab Koj Txiv ua Ib txoj kev kawm es txhob ua phem rau Koj poj Niam thiab me nyuam. Be happy with what you have and what you have created. Be proud of yourself and remember what you have endured to get there. Be humble. Be kind. 😘
Nyib zoo
“For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, but lose his soul?" -Mark 8: 36”
Sorry brother, your mom cried 3 times a day when your dad was cheating....a beg at the knee is not going to make it better, she will always b your mom but glad she moved on, your dad it it to himself. Should of been a faithful husband.
I don't feel sorry for your Dad. He made himself like that..
Tus nus, txhob rau txim rau koj niam nawb. Yog koj yuav tu siab no ces, tu siab rau koj txiv xwb nawb. Koj txiv Yog tus nrhuav nkawv lub neej.
Zoo heev ua koj txiav txim siab rau txoj kev yog lawm
Thank you, May, for great story telling.
Sorry to hear such a thing, Dr. thank you for your motivation words
Be happy you’ve accomplished so much. Love your wife and never let your children go through what you went through. It is not your mother’s fault. You should forgive her for leaving your dad, she deserves to be happy and your father was not a good husband for her.
Tus siab kawg
Txhob tu siab vim nkawv luv neej xwb
Sad story brother 😭😭😭💔💔💔😭😭😭😭
Pab koj zoo siab tias koj niam ntseem 2 txoj kev txom nyem dhau kiag lawm os.
Cov txiv neej no ces nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb, thaum nws zoo neej hlo ces nws mus hlub lqm tus ua kom mob yus tshaj plaws hais lus saib tsis tau yus kiag. Tab sis thaum nws twb yuav tuag es nqa quav nqa zis no ces ho thov kom yus los nrog nws nyob los tu nws. Txawm mus tom ntej yuav zoo li cas los xij tsuav txhob pom nws lawm xwb. Tu siab dab na thaum koj txiv thiab koj njawd sib yuav kom niam twb tsis muaj kev kaj siab os. Txawm yuav pe npaum li cas los tsis tsim nyog qhov nws twb tsim yus los lawm. Koj niam yeej txiav txim siab yig lawm.
Don't be confuse brother. Your mom did what she needed to be happy after all those years he cheated on her. One kowtow will not mend her broken heart. Not to be mean but your dad kind of deserve what he did to her. He didn't stop after 1 or 2 times. He constantly did it over and over again. That's karma for him. All you can do now is love your wife and not follow your dad footsteps...
Tub Dr. Cas hnov koj cos lus mas hlub koj tshaj nplaw lis kuv muaj ib tug tub Dr. Wb ua niam ua txiv nyob nris nroos rau nws los tseem nyuab rau nws kawg
Tab si hnov koj zaj dab neeg no mas hlub koj tab si NCIS rau koj niam vim li cas nws thiaj tsi tuaj txhawb koj lub zog
Qhuas koj txoj kev kawm nawb mog zoo siab rau koj nawb mog
qhov ko twb yog tim koj txiv ne koj txiv tsi txhob tham hlua nkauj ce koj niam yeej tsi nrauj koj txiv thiab koj txiv txom nyem lo tsim nyog lawm muab xav lo koj txiv tsim nyog tau txai txoj kev nyem ntawd lawm os
I don’t understand why the author of this story is so resentful of his mom yet forgives and empathizes with his father 100%. His mom suffered for decades. He’s not a child who doesn’t know any better. He knows his father cheated throughout his parents entire marriage. The father is the reason the marriage failed, not the mom. So why blame the mom? Be happy for her. Let her try to have a life. She deserves it. It’s not like she left when the kids were young. Sounds like all the kids were already all grown when the marriage broke up. Please stop punishing your mom and yourself. Move on with your life.
Koj keej heev kuv quav koj ho koj niam ces xob mus cia siab koj hais xwb peb cov mloog paub ntau lawm os
Vim nws tusvtxiv tshiabbkhoo nws lawm nws thiaj hlubbkoj tsis Tau li nws siab xav
Brother, dont hold into this sadness. Be happy you still have a mother there even if she isn't as involved. I wish it was eaiser for our elders but they hold so tightly to the traditions of letting go and marrying new. Don't blame your mom too much, she carries her own pain. As much as I dont want to wish ill on others, it sounds like karma got your dad towards the end. He really did bring all that heartache and pain on himself and his family.
Ib tsoom txiv neej yog vim le caag es thaum yug phov yug ho phov tab sis txug qhov kawg kws yug tug txwj nkawm tiv tsi taug lawm es luas tawm moog yug ho xaav kom luas zaam txim rua yug es rov lug ua caav lwj dib ib naj.
You have no compassion. Your mother suffered all those years, yet you pity your father. 👎
So happy for you in the end you were able to give your father a home and a good ending to his life. However, do not be too upset with your mother, the best years of her life was given to your father, you, and your sibling. Men like your father need to learn what heart ache feels like and how much they disrupt the sanctuary of marriage and home life. I'm sure by the time your mother decide to do what she did it took all of her will power. In the end, love your father but try to understand where your mother comes from.
Koj cov lus Pheej tu tu ncua nas
Kj niam siab dub tiag2 nws khiav lawm cas nws tseem muab nyiaj nqa khiav tag tseg nej txom nyem tom qab.
Brother have no regrets (txhob tu siab). I see you seem to blame your mom. Its not your mom's fault.
1. Your dad cheated on her and maybe over and over again to the point where she had it and enough is enough...So you need to understand where your mom is coming from.
2. Your mom can't be there for you or be able to do the things you wish she could do...is maybe because your step dad won't let her or she's afraid that if gets involved with you kids her current marriage will be affected. Please understand stand her from a hmong culture point of you. Its not easy to be a hmong woman base on the hmong traditional way of life.
3. Remember a mom will always love her kids... i know your mom love you kids but because she's married to another man in a different clan she can only do so much... it seems your mom still followed the old traditional way. If she and your step dad follow the new generation it would of have been a bit different.
4. Dont blame her.. life sometimes happened in a way that we can not control...your mom is happier...and dad sorry to hear about him...but there is no exuse for what he put your mom through...she raised you well that is why you're where you are now. See her point from the old tradition way and you will understand.
Me tub doctor, raws li zaj kwv huam no mas txhob tu siab rau koj niam mog. Cov txiv neej zoo li koj txiv ces tsuas sawm li no xwb. Peb sawv daws yog txiv neej ib yam peb yeej paub zoo. Peb yuav tau muab peb tso rau lawv cov poj niam qhov chaw thiab peb thiab paub txog lawv lub siab mob. Yog thaum ib tug xav ua neej hos ib tug tsis xav ua neej ces yeej laj ua neej txog hnub tuag.
Koj txiv yeej tsis ntsaw kev hlub koj txiv tau kiag li nws lub siab nyiam. Kuv yog koj niam los kuv yeej ua ib yam nkaus li koj niam vim kev hlub nws yog ib txoj kev kaj siab thiab noj qab nyob zoo muaj lub suab luag. $50 txhiab nyiab xwb pauj tsis tau koj niam lub zog khwv2 20-30 xyoo.
Kuv tsis blame koj os Doc. I know alot of people here put too much blame on your dad and you. Your mom and dad have their own lives and infidelity, but you have your own life. And you are entitled to your story. In this world, no matter how old we are, peb tseem ntshaw ntshaw txoj kev hlub from yus niam thiab yus txiv. I truly understand where you are coming from and your story.
Good story
Cov niam/txiv xav2 kom menyuam kawm ntawv siab 🎓🎓tabsis ho ua neeg liam, hos cov menyuam kawm ntawv siab no ces niam/txiv ho tsis xav ua neej zoo. Yog nej txiv liam xwb cas nej niam ho tsis nyob hlub tuav rawv nej sawvdaws? Ntshe yog tim nej niam lawm thiab. Pab hlub koj o...🥰🥰 twb muaj cuab lawm ces ua 1 siab, tuav lub neej khov kho kom zoo nawb.
Niam Ntsuab Teev koj lub mic tu tu os. Muaj lo lus ces tsis tu lawm os.
Twb kawm daub tawj lawm kav tseem guaj thiab txoj kev nyuaj siab mas tsis yog dog dig ov
I feel that this Dr. has a high education and knows what’s in the books but he doesn’t know wisdom. He seems to blame a lot on his mother for his parents’ failed marriage. I know going to college is hard and I too had struggled during my grad program, but I have empathy for life struggles and not blame my struggles on others. I stop listening halfway because this Dr. has a high ego.
I agree with you however I don't feel that he has a high ego. I certainly hope he doesn't cuz a lot of highly educated people prop themselves up and look down on people who don't have a high education. I'm just tired of listening to him wanting to blame his mom throughout the whole story!
Ua cas zaj neej neeg twg los hais txog sib nrauj xwb. Thov tso lwm yam neej neeg thiab. Hmoob tsis txawj sib hlub li.
Such a sad story. I'm glad you kept going with your education even if things get hard. Good luck with life. I know you will be fine my dear.
Wd tuag tsis tusg khav diam maj poj niam muab nrauj kiag ua nws tuag tshiaj tsim heev diam ua tiag los mad !
Probably the hardest thing children have to go through is parents cheating on eachother and divorce. Unless you have walk this path, this is true heartache. It truly messes you up.
Blame your dad. It's all his fault.
Koj txiv twb tsis hlub koj niam es txhob tu siab rau koj niam thiab nws txhoj kev xaiv.
Sorry to hear about ur family dynamics. Every1 has their breaking point. Don’t b too hard on ur mom (she suffered years of mental & emotional abuse that ur dad’s kneeling couldn’t sway her). Knowing how hurtful ur experiences were, b better than ur parents.
Is it just me? Or the audio keeps breaking out?
Sound muffled. Might be her wires
It keeps breaking on me too
Yam koj txiv tau mob yeej tsim nyog kawg tsuas yog koj niam roj tsha zoo koj niam thiaj tsis mob xwb tsis li ces koj txiv tseem yuav rau koj mob thiab yuav ib tug los nyob rau koj niam saib peb cov txiv ua hluas li no tsim neeg mob ti txha heev qhov tseem ceeb yog koj txiv mob koj txiv tseem paub thiab mas tseem yuav ua rau koj txiv mob tsha qhov nov.
Qhov koj niam ua li no rau koj .Koj txhob tu siab vim peb yog Hmong peb ua tsis tau li lwm haiv .Koj tsuas xav tuav koj niam lub neej xwb.
I'm just speechless for this kind of mom
Don't be a hypocrite. I'm sure you'll leave too if you have enough abuse. Unless you're stupid.
Your dad deserved it, he treated her horribly and you should understand that. Blame your DAD, don’t blame your MOM.
Very sad Dr story....
Bro, don't blame yourself for what help to your father. He did it to himself. He should not be cheating and fooling around with other women. Karma got your dad,, bro. I don't feel sorry for your dad. Men like that does not deserve a good wife and a good life.
Your father did this to himself. Don't shame your mom, she did what she had to, to survive. I'm glad she was strong enough to leave your dad's verbal, physical and emotional abuse.
Why don't you love your mom like you love your dad? Your dad is a cheater, its his karma. Your mom deserves happiness, why can't you be happy for her? I hope you don't treat your wife like your dad treat your mom. If your dad loves you, he wouldn't cheat on your mom. So don't you dare put all the blame on your mom. It's not her fault. You want to be sad and piss off, why don't you be sad and mad at your dad.
Yog kawg! I don't understand why he doesn't get the obvious! It's all his dad's fault.
Don’t blame your mom for leaving your dad. When a woman had enough of her husband’s cheating, she is done! Strike 3 you are out!!!
He’s disappointed in mom for not being in his life after the fact.
I know you love your mom but boy your a doctor put you head together and learn to let go a little. All parents and children don’t always have to see or be with each other for the better. 🤦🏻♀️
Thov hais rau tus tub ntawm zaj neej neeg no, zoo li koj tsis pom txog koj niam txoj kev mob siab uas koj txiv cheat nws thiab koj txiv tham lwm tu s tus poj niam qhov no yog ib qho uas tsis zoo kiag li tos koj niam txiav txim siab tawm ntawm nkawv lub neej mus. Ib tug txiv uas deev luag tej tej poj niam li no xuab dhau hwv lawm yog koj niam nrog nws nyob los ntshe yuav poob ntseg heev es nws thiaj li muab koj txiv ntsauj lawm, nws ua qhov yog lawm. Qhov uas koj txiv mob stroke es nws tau tuag lawm los ntshe tej zaum twb yog nws txoj niag kev npam ntag.
Tus kwv your dad started all this and I’m glad your mom got out of the marriage. I don’t feel sorry for your dad because he brought that to himself. As for your mom, keeping her distance from you kids is wrong. Either she’s too traditional or being control by her husband. Sad that she’s not a woman enough to stand up to her new husband so she can be a mom to her kids like she should be.
Niam Ntsuab Teev, tej zaum neb yuav tej yam dab tsi tso rau neb chav los yog ntsia rau hauv chav uas koj hais lus lawm, rau qhov muaj tej lo lus txiav lawm
Cov niag neeg deev luag poj Tham luag sev ces Yeej muaj kev npam hos ces thaum kawg strock li no ntag hos
😭😭😭 so similar to my life story. 😥
Tsis yog koj niam siabphem os. Vim koj txiv twb xub ua SIABPHEM rau koj niam ua-ntej lawm. Yog nws txhob mag tus Pojniam sabtov tustxiv ntes ces ntshe nws tseem niajhnub deev tus Poj ntawv os. Koj niam ntse es nws thiajli khiav lawm. Nws txawj tusiab lawm xwb.
Glad you became a Doctor even you know your family is a mess, but all these your dad is all to blame for his is not a responsible person. Hmoob muaj lo lus hais tias yus ua rau luag yus tsi paub tias mob luag tab si thaum luag uv tsi tau es luag khiav yus lawm ces yus ho yuav mob stroke tuag no ces Txawm yog koj txiv ib tug. Hopefully you don’t follow your dad steps. Good luck to you both. Please understand how your mom went through.
Mi ntxawg, txhob tu siab rau koj niam mog. Txhob muab lub txim rau koj niam ris. Twb yog koj niam kawg thiaj li yuav koj txiv ntev npaum no. Yog nws tsis hlub nej ces nws twb khiav puag thaum nej tseem me2 lawm. Yuav rau txim ces rau rau koj txiv mog. Yeej Tim koj txiv siab phem rau koj niam koj niam thiaj khiav
Sad story
qhov
Your smart you should understand your parents situation. Your dad was a cheater to your mom all those years so don’t blamed your mom.
This is so sad but for the father, it is his faith to go..
Me ntxhais ua cas koj cov lus pheej txiav ib los lus tom qab yog vim Li cas os
Koj txiv nws UA Kev nyiaj siab rau nws xwb yogbkuv yogbkoh niam Los kawg nrauj pov tseg thiab
Ua cas koj tsis yug Los UA kuv tus tub
Well it's your dad's fault, bro. He destroyed their marriage. He should not cheated and fooling around, bro.
Yog tias tus mob stroke ntawd Yog koj niam ces koj haj yam txom nyem os. You should’ve understand your mom more since you are so educated. Koj tsis txawj xav kiag.. twb yog koj niam hlub koj kawg es twb tseem nyiag nyiaj rau koj os. Yog koj txiv ces nyiaj ya rau hluas nkauj tag lawm os.
Koj daim video nov nrov tsis zoo es pheej tu2 thiab nyooj tej qhov word os sister
Koj niam should come your gratuation day!! Tos koj niam tu 2 siab Los Tim koj txiv pheej nqhis 2 ua laus nraug, if I were your mom, kv nrauj koj txiv, but I still nris koj txiv lub xeem, n not marry
Don't really care if you're a Dr or not....you blamed everything on your mother and victimized your Father. You didn't hold him accountable for his wrong doings.
ua cas zoo li koj lub microphone pheej kaw tau ib lub suab tu kiag tu kiag ne. ces nws kaw tau ib lub suab tu tu. nws tsis yog txhua zaus tab sis hais ib pliag ces pheej ua li na.
Me tub aw... Tos koj tutusiab los tim koj txiv twb tsis tsim txiaj tham hluas nkauj tasli xwb nyiaj txiag pub hluas nkauj xwb ne leej twg los yeej ua tib Yam os.
Txhob muab LIAM rau koj niam, haistias vim koj niam tso koj txiv tseg es nws thiajli muaj stroke nawb. Koj twb kawm tiav Dr. es cas koj tseem haislus RUAM li ko thiab na? Es yog koj txiv mus DEEV lwmtus sabtov lawm es koj niam ho muaj stroke ne? Uali ntawv ho yog tshaj rau koj tus kawm tiav dr. ko thiab lov? Nej cov txivneej Hmoob ces, tseem kawm siab kawm ntse npaum licas los, nej yeej tseem xav li Txivneej Hmoob. Tus Pojniam phem tagli xwb. Hos tustxiv mas ualicas los zoo tag li. Koj txiv twb mus tsoob toob luagtej Pojniam es luag ntes tau lawm, ces koj niam TUSIAB nrho khiav lawm, nej tseem liam haistias nim yog tim koj niam khiav lawm es koj txiv thiajli tuag ... shiaj tshaj koj daim ntawv tiav Dr. na.
Everyone below has said it already but I just want to add; whoever this guy is - he's so selfish and weak minded. Why put the blame on your mother?...
Why does this guy sound like such a spoiled brat! He obviously cared about his dads happiness and not his mother.