3 Things:GF breaks up w/BF over mom, Nice Guy™ Post, Prenup Disagreement
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- "Boyfriend says I'm too close with my mom so I broke up with him on the spot."
2 posts from the Nice Guy™ subreddit
"I'm leaving my BF because of a prenup."
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I'm beginning to realize that men "test" the women they date and marry to see how far they can push boundaries. When faced with firmly set boundaries, they are completely caught off guard.
Stand firm and move on!
This was definitely a test. He saw an opportunity to create a rift & alienate her from her mom/family. He showed his true colors with his narcissistically controlling, potential abuser behavior. He is not to be trusted.
They also like to get mad about it too. Then try to call you manipulative when you let them go when they don’t want to respect the boundary.
I had an argument with this dude on IG about the mythical “friendzone.” When I pointed out, he doesn’t have to be friends with any woman he wants to date, he refused to accept that he had the option to walk away from the situation and just wanted to complain about the “manipulation.”
Ooh, you are so right, that's got to be what this was, otherwise his reaction is just so way off base!
BF was upset because Mom told GF to not have smexual relations until she was ready. That's what he was upset about.
I agree!!! I said the same thing!
And I think the bf is self conscious about something personal (probably related to sex). He’s nervous about her telling whatever that is to her mom. That’s why he tried to convince her that those conversations with your mom are creepy. He doesn’t realize having close, healthy relationships doesn’t mean you share everything about everyone you know.
I thought the same
YES! He didn't like the fact that she had a good mom and advocate in her corner, and it would not be easy to manipulate her to get his way. A man not liking your close family ties or people in your life that will defend you and give wise council is a huge red flag. He hates that her mom teaches her to have bodily autonomy and to put herself and well-being first.
It's sad that we feel the need to justify being close with our own mothers....wtf..... never let a man try to shame you for having close female relationships. They will be there for you when the bottom drops out, and the non bears know this full well. That's why they work so hard to isolate you from your support system.
Yeah I peeped that. I was like "I BET that's what he's really pissed about" 🤔😒
He’s mad that her mom told her to respect her own body and not just make herself endlessly available to her bf sexually. Good thing she dumped him. He sounds like the type that might 🍇 because “she’s my wife” (ie property).
Yep. Honestly, marital 🍇 is super common in the military community. I know multiple women who experienced it.
He's mad because her mom advised her to protect her health from her bf's lack of sexual impulse control.
Right?
The stigma over women talking with each other about our "private parts" like we're supposed to be ashamed of our bodies....
But of course let men use them for their own fun because "mEn hAvE nEeDs"....
But women are never supposed to talk about our own bodies with each other because they're just "men's personal fun toys"
You see, when women talk about our bodies, it gives me the ick..... and that takes away from the pleasure of their "personal fun toys" 🙄
Nevermind that we're actually discussing some serious health symptoms and issues that if left untreated or undiagnosed could cost us our very lives!!!
NOPE!
Our bodies exist solely for men's pleasure...
Women must NEVER do literally anything that knocks us off the imaginary pedestal they've placed us on!
Bingo
Why do so many of these women have such terrible friends that seem to want them to be in awful relationships? Get better friends ladies because those ones are not it.
Yeah, I clocked that too. It has become a recurring theme.
Because they are young too. When you have a group of people that don't know better, trying to figure things out, it doesn't always go well. I'm guessing many of those friends don't have good relationships with their mothers or don't have older women friends, and it shows.
@bumblebeemouth yeah thats why talking to someone who knows better like moms is so important so misinformation between peers doesn't go unchecked
I think it depends on the friends’ views on relationship. When I tell my friends I’m not worried about being in a relationship (36F), the response is usually “well what are you trying to do to meet men?”, or “it’ll happen when you least expect it.” Or “the right man is there, but you have to be willing to receive his love.” Etc. and I’m like y’all genuinely don’t understand that this is not something I care about at all because THEY care so much.
From my experience, those "friends" tend to be in equally terrible relationships as well. The saying "misery loves company" springs to mind. If they see the issues in their friend's relationship, then they would have to see the issues in their own.
I'm so sick of the attitude that our "private parts" are somehow shameful!
This stigma is just one of the many reasons women's reproductive and overall health is seriously lacking!
And that's causing women to suffer in silence because "we just don't talk about these things"....
When we don't have mom's and other women to talk with about our bodies and health issues, we can go years with all sorts of undiagnosed issues!
no forreal ! it should be normalised talking about reproductive issues the same as talking about tummy issues because its important. I was already happy that she knew she had endo even at 25 and was being put under for IUD insertions as some women don't but she is able to openly talk. Thats how its supposed to be!
Exactly
Women need to discuss health issues with each other.
Right! The silence is meant to further the suffering of women and to bring shame from the onset of menses to menopause. Not anymore! Hopefully, every girl and woman has at least one person to talk to about their bodies and health concerns.
Right. Our private parts aren't shamed when they want to get inside them though. These people are clowns 🤦🏾♀️🙄
When dudes say I’ll never look at you the same, they really expect you to stay after that ?! 🤣
Boy Bye!😂
Right?? "I'll never look at you the same". "Sir, you'll never get to look at me again".
Because he thought he was the prize. She quickly brought him back to reality.
They don’t think of the consequences before they open their mouths! 😂
I also think Boyfriend from the first story didn't like the mom giving the advice of "not having sex till you're better" to OP
I agree and I'll expand on it. Not only did he not like the GF having someone who would prioritize her wants and needs of his, he saw their conversation as a threat to his control over his GF and his relationship. He tried to drive a wedge between mother and daughter. I'm glad she dumped him.
@@Littie-Dthat’s why “gossip” is frowned upon, but it protects women from abuse
@@adarateranroldanMen hate it when we share information
@@Littie-DSo glad she dumped him immediately.
@adarateranroldan lol. It's not gossip if you're talking about your own vagina! 😂😂😂 The mother was giving her very smart advice, as the doctors tell you to wait after giving birth, and not have sex for several weeks. She was letting her daughter know that her iud situation needed to be healed before having sex again. That's not gossip because it's not about other people. Know the difference.
The first woman is very lucky to have the relationship she does with her mother ❤
Yes, her mom is supporting her health and safety by advising against nooky. That set the boyfriend off.
The prenup lady isn’t a gold digger. Her bf is a gold digger. He has enough money to retire, but wants her to split her money and any investments with him. He wants to do all of this while making sure everything that is his, is his, but she needs to contribute to his life too. No. Do not be taken advantage by someone like this.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yes, I've been in this situation. He was hoarding money, and trying to live off of me. Constantly obsessed with how much I made.
S1: She was being a good mom, nothing abnormal about it.
He got mad that mom advised against nooky to protect her daughter's health. That's what set him off.
So, he's a frikkin eavesdropper. Why are you just listening in to their conversation? If your relationship works for you, it works for you. You did the right thing. Him saying your mom should be on a registry is completely out of pocket. The fact that he wants to renege when he got dumped says everything. He knew he was wrong, but didn't think he'd get consequences
The Very first thought that came to my mind. How do you return home without somehow announcing that you have arrived back in the house?
I think what he was really upset about was her mom backing her up on the no nookie train. He didn't like that. Instead he flipped it to be her fault.
Exactly, he supposed to be worried about masculine things, not listening to women’s conversations!
This is what i thought too. The mom is someone she can talk to and get council on these things so he can't manipulate her. @bumblebeemouth
Exactly! What a coward. These males will talk ish and then act surprised when you check them.
Story 1: She made the right decision to end that relationship. Women should always be able to talk to their mothers about personal things.
He was mad because he probably planned on trying to convince her to let him enter before six weeks! What a creep!🤦🏾♀️
The first guy is so concerned about her talking to her mother because how is he going to isolate her so that he can mistreat her if she is so close to her mother?
He doesn’t want to think that her mom knows that they have sex and wonders if she tells her mom what he looks like naked.
@@queenreg7that’s really pathetic if it’s true. Talking about reproductive health isn’t remotely similar to talking about your partners’ body!!!
@@queenreg7He got mad because mom recommended against nooky.
@@sarahrobertson634 yeah! 😂
Her excellent boundaries are a result of her awesome mom. She did the right thing. He knows that her mom will advocate for her and he wants to isolate her from her own family.
I'm so glad she dumped him.
The prenup dude is just greedy and wants to make a profit off the marriage and she should be grateful. He's the golddigger
Story one: She did the right thing by choosing her relationship with her mother. The guy sounds very immature and was out of pocket for insulting her mother.
Story two: If a guy offers to send me nudes or carrot pictures, he isn't a nice person. He's not respectful of me or my boundaries. It's weird that some of them send unsolicited carrot pictures.
Third story: He sounds like he uses his money, family wealth, and resources to control his partner. It's a red flag of financial abuse.
Not “unsolicited 🥕 pictures”! 🤣
Story 3: yes it’s so clear that the dude wants to spend all his earnings after marriage. He already has enough yo retire but he is the GD in this r5lationship for sure. He plans to keep his parents money, his earnings (until this point) away from her but plans to use her m5ney, time, energy and body. So if they divorce, she will have to give up half the earnings, share the kids she worked hard to birth and took care of more than him. I am glad more and more wom4n are waking up.
The real gold digger move would be to sign a prenup, buy her own house, and rent it out or whatever. She can protect that in case of a divorce. This isn't a good guy, especially not for her. They'll each probably find someone that fits better
Carrot pics? That’s way too big for these petri-dish men. They be looking like 🥜 and 🦐.
@@manifest2203 yeah sounds like he could retire right after they get married and she’s screwed
1st Story, the OP’s update confirms my thoughts. I think when the mom told the daughter to refrain from seggs for 6 weeks is what set the boyfriend off. If he already knew she talks to mother like that, why is he all of a sudden outraged.
i assumed that too when i heard that part...i was like "oh hes not gonna like this...oh tf well"
When he heard her mom advised against nooky he got enraged. He thinks he's entitled to her.
Exactly!!!
That's her mother, she wiped her as a baby, she came out of her whoha. He's sick for even making that statement. If the OP were to get pregnant her mom is who she'd go to to discuss her moms experince to know what to expect. Considering he acted like that while easedropping imagine his outrage at breast feeding.
Last story: Get a postnump! Buy your own house...or divorce. Alot of men still try to use assets as a means of control, if you won't stay with me then you deserve nothing
OR she could negotiate the prenup if she still wants to marry him. A prenup should never be one sided. After they're married he can ALWAYS reject a postnup cuz he already has her... then her choice is either to accept it or get a divorce on His terms.
NOPE!! That dude is actually mad that her mom advised her to not have relations for 6 weeks. Husbands/bfs feel as if that part of a woman’s body belongs to them! WE ALL defer to our parents about health issues. (especially mothers) He doesn’t like the idea of her mother telling her to refrain from secks. He wants TOTAL CONTROL over that topic. But he was too scared to say that.
Males always want to control us, and disregard our health. Our .mothers have our back and prioritize our health.
Prenup story: The dude is the real golddigger. What well-off man who doesn't have to work if he doesn't want to expects his wife to share her salary & savings with him? That's 🐂💩. His wants to keep all his wealth to himself and then take some of hers too. 🤬
That was my thoughts.
Wait, I already had to pause a few seconds in. They’ve been dating for 24 months but he’s been deployed for at least 20 of those 24 months??? So they’re basically strangers to each other????
I missed that! Great point!
Yep. So you can see why her needing 6 weeks to heal from something might be an issue for him
@@laurah2831 pardon? Are you defending him not wanting to wait 6 weeks for her to heal? What is that compared to a lifetime of happiness if the relationship worked out?
@@bumblebeemouth that's a dude trolling, love
Yooo no wonder he's upset about the 6 weeks thing! A good thing she saw this red flag now.
Women need the collective wisdom and history from other women's experiences. To this day, doctors ask about your mother's health history because that is the strongest indication for any health issues you may have later in life. Her boyfriend sounds extremely immature and ignorant.
He got mad that mom advised against nooky.
Story 1 is absolutely insane, she made the right call. Who tf are we supposed to talk about these things with if not our mothers and family members who have been through the experiences we are going through presently? Hes absolutely wild for saying the registry stuff, a complete self tell. Can we stop being embarrassed and secretive about our bodies and their natural functions please and thanks? Goodness.
Last story - she is right to leave. He has made it crystal clear that he does not care about her future or well-being unless it's as an appendage to his life. He wants a gold digger - someone who wants to accept what he has to offer with no push back - but he doesn't want to get taken advantage of so he found an ambitious woman so he can take advantage of her instead. It's fine for him to protect his wealth with a prenup IF he is building a life with the woman he chose as a partner, but he's not. He wants to crowbar a woman into his existent life and not offer her any semblance of future security or trust. Literally only a gold digger should consider this man. Only someone willing to play games could survive in that dynamic. Someone who wants to work and build will not.
Perfectly said. He has created a dynamic that only a desperate gold digger would agree to
Notice how the bf said he was "sorry that I SAID that" meaning that he still believes what he said just he is sorry that he let his mask slip too soon before she is isolated and trapped with him 🤮
Pre nups aren’t just about shielding assets. It’s recognizing the contributions both parties make to the marriage and dictates how the relationship will run financially even before a possible divorce. Dude was acting like her desires and contributing don’t matter at all and meanwhile felt entitled to her earnings. Cutting that off before that started was a great move on her part.
1st story, the boyfriend felt threatened because if she’s that close with her mother, he would be unable to isolate & control her. 2nd story, 😂😂😂 Incel fantasy. 3rd story, She’s right to walk away. He would get the best of both worlds; half of her investments while living off his parents. He wants her to fit into his world with no regard for her wants & needs.
She should talk to her mom about those things! She knows or has more experience to draw from for advice, and more importantly she cares! Wth?!
We need to discuss these types of things with our mothers and other women. He got mad that mom advised against nooky.
I went 0 to 100 when he said her mom should be "on a list" or "registry". He's lucky he only got dumped and ghosted. Hopefully the friends on his side get the same treatment.
It's crazy how quick people will try and judge and police private conversations that have nothing to do with them 😂
I can’t believe how easily he called her a gold digger, it would no be a no for me after that, and he’s the one who trying to stick pile every one else’s valuables do yet again it’s the man who’s actually the golddigger
It’s not the fact that he is uncomfortable that is an issue; it’s the gross disrespect he he so comfortably showed through basically calling her mother an s. offender.
Why would anyone think that girl is harsh for not accepting such things said?
I’m glad she cut him off QUICK but it just goes to show how bad company (her friends who defended his Bs) can drag you down.
I told myself that when my kids started to get older, I wanted to be upfront, straightforward and honest about their health including reproductive health. The are 29, 26, and 18 (only girl) and no topic is off discussion if they're comfortable. I wanted them to get accurate information and not stuff they heard from their friends. It has worked. It also helps that I'm a nurse and have worked in healthcare for 26 years. Even if they ask questions about me, I'm honest no matter how embarrassing it may seem because I want them to learn from my mistakes and make better informed decisions. As far as my sons, I didn't want them to get in a relationship with a woman and make her feel some type of way because they don't understand women. They should be able to be understanding to their women and not look at things that we go through as gross.
We need to just level with our kids.
You sound like a great mom.
@@islandgirl8067 not perfect but trying. I just didn't want to be like the previous generation where most of us couldn't talk to our parents.
It sounds like the daughter has had reproductive health problems since she was in her early teens. Of course this is going to foster a situation where mom and daughter talk about everything openly. You have to be able to talk about these symptoms with your mom if you are experiencing them as a child. By adulthood, it’s not even a big deal anymore. That guy sounds really immature. He should have left when he realized it was a conversation about reproductive stuff if he was uncomfortable. The fact that he stayed and listened, then lost his crap on her about it is really immature. Women talk about this stuff all the time. Our plumbing is more complex and higher maintenance than men’s. We have to talk about it. Most men know to leave when they hear it.
Good grief. The man in the first story would explode if he were privy to the conversations that women engage in at a real “hen” party. What the OP and her mom talked about was benign and about themselves. Until OP starts in telling her mom HIS private business he should STFU.
24 year old here! I have the same kind of close relationship with my mom, as I should because who else do I go to for help and advice??? He's way way way over the line. I think he was upset her mom told her to not bed him for weeks for her own comfort. On top of that he's military, that's a red flag in of itself.
Young women should be able to talk about all aspects of sex with their mothers. It is a natural state for humans. Turning the discussion of sex among close female family members into a taboo is a disgusting perversion of purity culture.
I was raised by an Aunt Lydia. It caused me so much unnecessary pain because I was taught to never speak about sex except with my husband. I wish every woman could speak so freely about normal human experiences.
Puritanical beliefs hurt everyone except the few abusers at the top.
Dingdingding. Ex panicked when he realize he wasn’t going to be able to isolate and manipulate her in the future.
That sounded like a practical, discreet, and lighthearted conversation about prioritising your own health and advocating for yourself. Can’t comment on the rest of their relationship re over sharing but this is definitely not inappropriate.
No judging!!! My mom & I have the same open relationship. I have a great relationship with my daughter too. She is great for breaking with him.
You’re lucky.
Made it clear he wants to protect himself and family from me 🤮🤮🤮 It's fine to have a prenup, but to say this in such an inflammatory and accusatory way
Every housing option means you lose. You want to look for and have your own house. It's always better to breakup than need a divorce, so good job of getting out.
Burb, you are truly a gem for women! I’m so happy to see your platform continue to grow. Much love ❤
Thank you so much!!
1. If he cannot deal with women having conversations about feminine medical care and hooha boundaries. These are normal topics among women who are close relatives or friends. How else are we supposed to support each other and show empathy for feminine medical events? Plus, going into childbirth with both eyes open is of benefit to ALL women. 2. "Nice" nice try! 3. They are not compatible.
I think that guy who had such an unreasonable reaction to his girlfriend’s conversation with her mom was only appalled because he realised he wouldn’t be able to manipulate her when she has such a healthy parental relationship. He tried to shame her and make her think something was wrong with it when the truth is something is wrong with him.
Prenup story: she could have added it to the prenuptial that she has 100% ownership of what/property she buys during the marriage.
Prenuptial are a time for negotiations pre-divorce.
I agree. I would have stacked my cash and invested in real estate of my own while living rent/mortgage free. A prenup could have included terms to protect any real estate she acquired after marriage and they could include a postnup if they decide to have any children.
He said he want half of what she will buy and he won't buy or invest nothing because he is already rich so in a future divorce is her hard work, her properties which is split because his assets are pre wedding
Story 3: yes but it’s so clear that the dude wants to spend all his earnings after marriage. He already has enough yo retire but he is the GD in this r5lationship for sure. He plans to keep his parents money, his earnings (until this point) away from her but plans to use her m5ney, time, energy and body. So if they divorce, she will have to give up half the earnings, share the kids she worked hard to birth and took care of more than him. I am glad more and more wom4n are waking up.
@@AnRo-ik3gjexactly. It’s so clear that he wants to profit off of the marriage. He is the GD.
@@AnRo-ik3gj A prenuptial agreement would override community property division in their state. It’s a negotiation for both sides - all she had to do was go to a lawyer to explore her options and revise the original agreement with whatever terms and conditions would also protect her and any future children.
I wish I could have that kind of closeness with my mom! I am so glad she chose her mom over her bf. Like she said, him having a reaction because he isn't comfortable sharing that much is one thing, him accusing her mother of being a predator because she cares about - and likely provides solid advice on - her child's physical health is ridiculous. To me, what that seems like is panic because he knows if he ever hurts her or mistreats her, she will obviously tell her mom. I think if he genuinely cared about his gfs health and well being he would not have reacted that way, so it makes me wonder what exactly he does want from OP if it's not her health and happiness. I think she dodged a bullet.
I also thought the same way, I wish I could talk to my mom like that! So many times in my life it would have been so good to check in re: reproductive health or extremely personal issues just to get more information and think through advice. I hope to have that kind of open communication with my own kids.
@beatrizl1848 I'm sure you can achieve that, too! It really is nice to have social media to see that other people have different experiences that we can strive to create in our own lives.
Sex. That’s all he wants… (and a slave.)
OMG we talk about this stuff with close friends. I talk about this with my brother. It's health. Ditch the friend group.
Oh the pickmesha energy in the friend group! Those girls live a man-centered life. Best to find new friends. Let's go drinking😂
Prenup is supposed to protect the woman too. Lifetime healthcare, basic income per child. Use the prenup to protect your $$, if you’re not entitled to family home then protect your investments too.
Yes, but in this case, she doesn’t own premarital assets. And he will be entitled to half of what she makes. Plus he plans to spend his earnings more after marriage since he already has enough savings and has his parents wealth. So it will be screwing him over.
@@manifest2203How will he be screwed over, he will get half of her money but she gets nothing. He will spend all his money he makes but anything she saves he is entitled to. I wouldn't marry him either.
@@manifest2203 Just because he has certain things in the prenup does not mean she can’t add to it. that’s why I said to add Her wants, like she gets to keep all her earnings plus HC.
@@llechatton ok I agree. But at this point, is this dude marriage material? With this attitude. Everything 50/50. Will he take half the pain of children for her? Does he want to do equal hosuhukd duties? Equal raising of the kids?
@@manifest2203 I would have the same questions as you. She also has the issue that she wants to build her own place in the world not just fit in to his parents’ world. I really just wanted to assure her that a pre-nuptial is not meant to be one sided. since the break up issues are property related, she could balance the prenup with her items.
First guy was just mad that GF can’t have sex until fully recovered. She made the right move dropping him. If he was that uncomfortable with their relationship, have a conversation-overreacting and trying to claim she’s a weirdo was the WRONG move.
He was definitely upset that her mom recommended prioritizing her health and avoiding nooky. Men get very weird about controlling women's bodies and it's all for their own selfish desires. They don't care about our health. Our mothers care about our health. So glad she dumped this horrible man.
So this grown man decidedly ear- hustled on a known possibly explicit conversation then called the mother of his GF an edophile for it, and the GF is overreacting? Him and the friends that agree with him can stay gone.
Last story: She did the right thing. She was walking into a setup!
The first guy was merely testing her. It was a control tactic to see how much he can manipulate her into his way of thinking and control her body. It back fired. She needs to keep him away from her. If they have children together, he will control the conversations that she will have with her children. No thank you. A mother and a daughter absolutely need to have these conversations. It is imperative to a woman’s health. He has to go and stay gone. He over stepped his boundaries.
Motherless behavior 😔
I would have broken up with him too. My mother and I was close like that as well. We used to talk about everything including s3x. I mean, who else are we supposed to talk about that kind of situation with? Men don’t have female parts, they get disgusted when they hear menstrual.
Mother's and daughters should be able to talk about anything ❤❤
So they’ve been together 2 years but he’s been on 2, 10 mo deployments?
If she were reading this I would tell her: Love, you don’t know that man and have NEVER known that man and his reaction to your conversation is a huge red flag.. You, 100% did the right thing. He’s only worried about what you have and/or will tell her about him and he hates that you have such a great support system.
My gut tells me he thought he was getting some and when he heard her mom telling her implicitly to wait the full 6 weeks he was furious that he now wouldn’t be able to convince her that it was totally fine and would prob make it feel better actually🙄
She is so lucky that happened the way it did. Being in a long distance, long term relationship can fool you into believing you know someone much better than you actually do, but what’s actually happening is that almost every time you’re together you are dealing with each other’s representative. You just don’t know someone until you’ve lived in close proximity w them for a while; and you especially need to see them interact w the people they’ve known their whole lives in the daily mundane life bs. That’s gonna show you who they are, how they treat people they “love” and what they’re like under pressure or when life is just…boring life.
I think this relationship wouldn’t have lasted nearly as long if they’d been in the same place longer than the actual 4 mos they’ve spent together🤷🏻♀️
3rd guy sounds like 150 years ago.
Story 3: pay his parents rent, buy a house he has half interest in... who is the gold digger, now?
Mothers are supposed to have continuous conversations about such things with their daughters! My daughter was comfortable asking me s-x questions before she was a teen and even included personal ones. If she asked something too personal, I'd just giggle and say something like, "you're not supposed to ask that". Then we'll both laugh and she knows that that info is too personal and not necessary for her to know.
Both my son and daughter will talk with me about both of my C-sections and I've been honest that it can be an ordeal for some ppl whereas I was so hyper focused on my babies being OK that those surgeries were never a mental trauma for me. They may have been a physical trauma for my body but I healed fast and my mental and emotional feelings helped with that
Women talk is literally about our health problem we have help through experience and tips with help. That’s the peak point of women’s community. Guys talk about their wee wee all the time like it’s natural. Including in “jokes”.
I’m proud of S1 and S3 OPs for ditching those misogynistic/useless, selfish dead weights.
Nah, first womans bozo boyfriend was purely mad that the mom said dont have sex for 6 weeks! I see right through that shxt, he was going to coerce her into having sex before giving herself time to heal amd has probably done it before! He was mad about that, especially if he already knew that she has talks like that with her mother.
The AUDACITY of the guy in story 3!
Not only is the comfortable watching his wife work while he kicks back enjoying his parents' wealth. No, he also thinks he should get half of the assets she'll acquire *because she'll have to work for it* - and she shouldn't get any of his *because he got them via lottery of birth* ?!
And he calls HER a hold digger?
His parents may be rich, but they *suck* at raising decent human beings.
None of what the mom said was inappropriate. The boyfriend is controlling and would have damaged their relationship. The girlfriend was right to break up immediately.
It's sad to me that the first woman says multiple times that her relationship with her mom is abnormal. Open communication and trust with family should be something everyone gets to experience. My mom and I also have always been able to talk like this and now that she is aging she comes to me with questions and to share knowledge because news flash, as women, our bodies never stop experiencing change, even in our 70s and not enough people talk about it. I feel blessed that my mama has so far mentally prepared me for each stage of womanhood.
She can’t talk to her mom in a private setting but he has been discussing the situation with friends. I bet he has been talking to his friends about their relationship and they have never said anything, but now that she has cut him off, the friends have much to say at his request about what’s not their business anyway. She is very fortunate to have a such a supportive caring mother who she trust and confide in. She should not take him back.
My parents weren’t perfect, but I appreciate that my mother basically said “Never let anyone talk you into it if you’re not ready.”
Homegirl needs to dump the excuse making friends too
"could of" is enough of a turn off for me. I also would've corrected him. 😂
What are parents for, if not for offering comfort and counsel.
I wish my mother and I had been able to have a relationship like story #1.
Lol 1st guy would get a shock if he knew just how women talk about intimate things with trusted family and friends. It’s the only way some of us can figure out whether what we’re experiencing is normal or not. Especially pre-internet days. So he’s just POed he couldn’t have smegs & her mother encouraged her to look after herself first. In my experience, men don’t care whether you’re experiencing discomfort or even horrific pain during smegs, as long as they can get access to it. 🐻
Edit : she & her mom are not abnormal & her friends are out of line for the name calling & invalidation. They are entitled to their boundaries but not entitled to tell her she’s somehow weird or damaged. Not talking to each other reinforces patriarchy because women’s ignorance benefits it.
Whoa! That first guy was waaaaay out of line! My mother was pretty cold hearted but she was also a doctor so I asked her about aaaaall kinds of female issues. And I talk about that stuff with other women all the time.
This GF relationship with her mum can be so unique to so many .... some , well many folx don't have this dynamic ... It sounds like the BF/Ex may have projected his jealousy and an attempted to humble or emotionally isolate his GF from the mum and get between them. Sounds like it backfired for the BF 😮
OMG! That dude is weird! Both my ex and my current hubby and I were close to our Moms. We told them a lot of medical and health stuff, because they are our MOMS!
Ummm.... if I can't talk to my mom who is another women who actually went through child birth & rearing...(and moms should know your health info better than you know yourself), who am I suppose to discuss it w/??? The daughter clearly give her mom consent/permission to know this info because she willingly told it to her. The way these guys think don't make sense but want to control everything. I bet if he had a daughter, he would want her to discuss it w/ her mom. It seems like he doesn't reach out to his parents if he has a problem which is a red flag & needs to be discussed w/ a therapist. Run girl!
Last story- she's moving smart! He's not even listening to her & he expects her to follow his plans. It also seems like his only plans was to live off what his parents build but what happens if that doesn't go as planned, he'll be stuck too & she might get burned too.
Ace Attorney is a cherished property, don't you dare use it for this foolishness. Nice guys 🙄
Well, if she's looking for a relationship him coming in hot like that was definitely a huge turn off. Yea...no one asked him about how good he was in that arena
How is she a gold digger for wanting to buy her own home? I don't understand.
He's acting like her having a medical discussion with her mom is equivalent to her mom teaching her how to do a sex act. FFS. I think his real issue was her advice, to follow doctor's advice, and avoid PiV intercourse.
Who can young women talk to about reproductive issues??? Of course we talk to our moms! Moms should counsel daughters about reproductive health.
I have a terrible relationship with my mother to the point that we have talked 4 times in the last 7 years.
This is not a wierd way to speak with your mother.
In fact, imo this should be the goal for more healthy parent/child relationships to be able to speak about things this personal
Prenup lady, just run 🏃 He is off. Don’t trust him!
"Fragile & Funky" is hilarious!!! 😂🤣😂🤣😭😭😭👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Good on post 3. Have my babies but not equal share on my house deed(s)??? Wild.
#1 I am willing to bet my current and future life savings The real reason he's mad is because she said "no seggs for 6 weeks" And followed it up with the story normalizing a partner being told no and accepting it.
I wish I could have talked to my mom about reproductive issues. When I got my period she did say anything just gave me some pads. Thank goodness I was smart enough to do my own research. My dad was comforting.
Imagine being GASLIT by your FRIENDS like that!! His reaction was a Giant Waving Radioactive Red Flag, and the only way to action them is to FLEE. Who else *would* you talk to except your mom, it was medical issues???!!!! Ew! I would have forever had the ick after he said all that. No, no letting that one pass.
Story 1: don’t believ m4n like these. They discuss in detail about their s4xual activities and privates. Even father son. This is simply a shaming tactic against wom4n.
Story 3: yes it’s so clear that the dude wants to spend all his earnings after marriage. He already has enough yo retire but he is the GD in this r5lationship for sure. He plans to keep his parents money, his earnings (until this point) away from her but plans to use her m5ney, time, energy and body. So if they divorce, she will have to give up half the earnings, share the kids she worked hard to birth and took care of more than him. I am glad more and more wom4n are waking up.
I'm so jealous that girl has a mom she can talk to about anything. I had to learn about my period from Judy Blume books
STORY 1: He's only upset because the mom told her NOT TO HAVE SEX FOR SIX WEEKS. He only cares about it because it affects HIM. He doesn't really care about his ex-GF. She did the right thing by breaking up with him on the spot. Now he knows that she is not playing with him. THIS IS HOW YOU DO IT. You break up IMMEDIATELY after he disrespects you, and you keep it pushing. NEVER waste your time with an unworthy man. EVER.
First how do you insult your partners parents like that? Second, I wish I had a relationship with my mom like that. She asks her mom stuff to make sure things are ok with her body and whether or not she should see a doctor. Third the guy is probably afraid that this woman is talking about him and their sex life to her mom. How does her mom need to be on a registry when the mom was just agreeing with what her doctor said?? She’s better off without him or one day he will try to make her cut ties with her mother.
First story dude is wild. I talk to my mother about whatever I want. I’m close to many women in my family and that also extends to them. Most women I know or have been acquainted with are the same. He’s a weirdo because their conversations are not weird at all. Moreover, she should evaluate and people in her orbit that makes her feel as if her relationship with her mother is odd, that’s a flag or crimson that deserves a thorough once over.
The last OP did the right thing by leaving. Imagine signing up to make a rich bandit richer while he’s insulting you and not listening to what you want regarding where and how you live. No thanks.
The first girly is lucky to have a trustworthy mother. Her ex probably has a tense relationship with his own mom, but that's no excuse to project his own sick interpretations onto OP's mother.
If a woman can't discuss her health issues, regardless of the body part, with her mom, who else is she supposed to talk to?
Can't she write into the pre-nup that assets that she acquires after marriage are hers alone? His assets are his & hers are his?
It is not being a gold digger to expect your husband to buy a house with you wtf? It's not like she is asking him to buy it for her even
Part 1: WTF! What is wrong with the boyfriend and their friends siding with him? Everyone, should be able to have conversations with their parents about all aspects of life. This is normal. I think he was disgusted by the subject matter and was trying to control what she does by negging her about those conversations with mom. So, she definitely needed to kick him to the curb. And, their friends are incorrect to side with him.
If you don't talk about medical issues with your mom, then who? She seems like a good mom having open conversation with her adult daughter.
There is a weird way to talk about genitals, there is an inappropriate way to talk about genitals, there is a way to talk about genitals that cross a line, and that conversation did none of those. There is a healthy way to talk about private parts, and even a medically necessary way to talk about private matters. It's healthy for women and men to talk about their private parts and private lives, rather than suffering in silence, which has been proven to be unhealthy. Sure, there's a line, but it's a glaringly obvious line that's hard to miss.
I’m so confused because a girl’s mom is her 1st resource for women issues no matter what they are. It just depends on the comfort level of her and her mom. I know my dad was the same way with my brother and his grandsons. They are your 1st resource!