"The streets are crazy... Yall got out at the right time" Is the realist comment. Haha! As a 36 year old woman, who is patiently waiting on the Lord for a husband, I have learned that God will never withhold ANYTHING GOOD from his children. He is a faithful Father, He will provide what we need at the right time.
As a 49 year old divorced woman, TAKE YOUR TIME AND WAIT ON GOD!!! When you meet the right person you’re just gonna know. I can’t explain it but you both will just know. I was 31 and got married because I felt like I needed to be married because I was getting older and he was a good saved guy. But something in me was unsettled and I did it anyway. Don’t do that. WAIT WAIT Wait!! You’ll find her
I would also like to add that I think another major part of enjoying our season of singleness with God is being mindful of who we are allowing to be around us. I’ve recently come to realize that it’s not good for me to be surrounded by people who are not content being where God has them, single or otherwise. It’s gotten to the point where I just get annoyed hearing people complain about their singleness. Enjoy what you have, singleness is a blessing, it gives you more time with God!
Considering that this is one of the most trendy topics discussed in the church, and yet is met with so much diversity in terms of doctrine / wisdom, I appreciate the route that you took into this episode.
I saw you on the Basement episode and I guess the algorithm thought I would enjoy this... it was right. Super refreshing. Marriage was a heavy idol in my early walk with Jesus. I honor your integrity to the sanctity of marriage. Marrying wrong for the sake of all the illusions is dreadful. Wait... its much better to suffer long than marry wrong. Coming from a divorcee with 3 children. Tread carefully. 😊
I'd like to refer to the KB song I'ma Just Do It. Marriage is one big long trust exercise...that is trust in God. Not saying be flippant about it. One should move in as much wisdom as they can. A man at some point has to decide to jump off the ledge and ride the ride tho. No amount of calculating will excuse anyone from the sanctifying work marriage is.
I’ve found that often we ask of others what we ourselves don’t possess. Please be sure every single quality / requirement you are looking for in a spouse you possess yourself. That includes physically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and financially. The Lord will do the rest.
I do understand that marriage is not necessarily a requirement, or promise, especially when you read the words of Paul and even look at Jesus’ life… with that said, going back to Genesis and the thought that God had that it is not good for man to be alone, so He made a suitable helper for Adam. Does “helper” apply to different types of relationships or was Genesis specifically referring to marriage? Or does Adam’s need for a helpmeet/helpmate not apply to all men?
God created marriage and it's simply a choice to get married....check out the book Choosing God's Best as it may help you navigate as you meet women. I would also say you might have more preparation in terms of fully knowing who you are and loving you for you in order to identify a lady that might be the most suitable for you for a marriage.
Curious to know which Scripture supports the idea of marriage being a gift from God? I feel like I have different thoughts. Actually I think the gift idea is part of over-spiritualizing, haha, because we defer responsibility to God.
Actually I die a little every time you say "It's not promised", because I feel like that's a way to rationalize and ultimately protect your heart from the 'failure' to settle down. Even though you really wanted to, it'll be okay if it didn't happen because "God didn't promise it to me". Mmmh...No. It won't get to that though, Haha. May God lead us all into all truth.
Nah, not protecting my heart from the failure to settle down. I don't even look at it that way. I genuinely don't see scripture that promises us marriage. I can be wrong. Feel free to send me scripture that says otherwise.
This is such a wide yet nuanced conversation, but I'll put down a few thoughts. 1) I am not necessarily arguing for marriage being a promise, but I do believe that it is a blessing of the Lord, and I believe it is available to every believer who desires it. And if it is not happening for any of us (believers I mean), God is not the barrier. He already released the blessing through Christ, same as for divine health, provision, and access to all other riches we are blessed with in Christ Jesus. There are caveats in Scripture though based on laws that God has set in place for our protection from corruption and sin. 2) Additionally, we are in a war against principalities...etc, and we need to fight the good fight of faith, even in these areas. This requires knowledge and understanding. I have come to learn in my short life that God means it when He says that His people perish from a lack of knowledge - I believe both literally and figuratively. For example, there is knowledge around getting and keeping wealth (please let it not seem like I am glorifying money, we are to keep free from a love of money), how to keep healthy (and the science is growing), how to parent successfully, how to grow in faith etc. If we don't have the proper knowledge, we will fail in these areas, not because these blessings haven't been released to us. Proverbs can't get enough of reminding us to get knowledge and understanding. 3) God Himself saw that it was not good for man to be alone. He doesn't change, and from your video (thanks for being vulnerable with us), you can agree. (Except if you're Paul of course, haha). Two are better than 1 after all, whichever the context. 4) Notice that where God is directly involved in putting a halt to His blessings over His children, including marriage, it was always as a punishment for disobedience and sin e.g. in Jeremiah 25:10, Psalms 78:63. But Christ took on all punishment and wrath for all God's children, if we repent and live right. 5) I can't begin to claim that I understand everything, or even your specific life situation which is the genesis of this conversation. God bless!
"The streets are crazy... Yall got out at the right time" Is the realist comment. Haha! As a 36 year old woman, who is patiently waiting on the Lord for a husband, I have learned that God will never withhold ANYTHING GOOD from his children. He is a faithful Father, He will provide what we need at the right time.
🤣🤣🤣 I felt that in my SHANDO! A good word! He truly doesn't withhold anything good from us.
I heard a pastor say two becoming one is two pieces of sandpaper God rubbing together until the grit falls off and all that’s left is the glue
A word!!
As a 49 year old divorced woman, TAKE YOUR TIME AND WAIT ON GOD!!! When you meet the right person you’re just gonna know. I can’t explain it but you both will just know. I was 31 and got married because I felt like I needed to be married because I was getting older and he was a good saved guy. But something in me was unsettled and I did it anyway. Don’t do that. WAIT WAIT Wait!! You’ll find her
I'm sorry about the divorce. But thank you for the warning!
Glad this conversation is from guys perspective, thank you 👌🙏
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I would also like to add that I think another major part of enjoying our season of singleness with God is being mindful of who we are allowing to be around us. I’ve recently come to realize that it’s not good for me to be surrounded by people who are not content being where God has them, single or otherwise. It’s gotten to the point where I just get annoyed hearing people complain about their singleness. Enjoy what you have, singleness is a blessing, it gives you more time with God!
Considering that this is one of the most trendy topics discussed in the church, and yet is met with so much diversity in terms of doctrine / wisdom, I appreciate the route that you took into this episode.
Thank you! 🙏🏾
"we hold God to something He never said He'd do" please 😭 such a good episode!!!
🤣🤣🤣 thank you!
I saw you on the Basement episode and I guess the algorithm thought I would enjoy this... it was right. Super refreshing. Marriage was a heavy idol in my early walk with Jesus. I honor your integrity to the sanctity of marriage. Marrying wrong for the sake of all the illusions is dreadful. Wait... its much better to suffer long than marry wrong. Coming from a divorcee with 3 children. Tread carefully. 😊
Appreciate you!
Right!! Me too!! ❤❤❤❤
You don’t earn a gift but you do prepare for it
Having a list is important. Putting your list before the unexpected, unpredictable move of God is idolatry. 🙏🏾
A whole word!
So true about making singleness only about us and enjoying vs. serving during this time
Amen!!
Thanks for sharing brother! I thought i'd be married at 25 too haha. But we trusting God!
🤣🤣 trusting him DAILY
I appreciated this episode, a beautiful sight to witness ❤
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I'd like to refer to the KB song I'ma Just Do It. Marriage is one big long trust exercise...that is trust in God. Not saying be flippant about it. One should move in as much wisdom as they can. A man at some point has to decide to jump off the ledge and ride the ride tho. No amount of calculating will excuse anyone from the sanctifying work marriage is.
Great take! That song has also challenged me!
I’ve found that often we ask of others what we ourselves don’t possess. Please be sure every single quality / requirement you are looking for in a spouse you possess yourself. That includes physically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and financially. The Lord will do the rest.
Amen and Amen
So blessed to have you in my circle!!! This was really good!
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Amazing timing! Great vid
The list has significantly changed for me as well 😂 and to top it off…. The streets are crazyyyy!!! 🥴 Lord help us all.
Jesus be a fence 🤣
This is sobering and a necessary conversation.
Appreciate you! 🙏🏾
🔥 video and perspective bro
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This blessed me 🙌🏿
Appreciate you!
Beautiful reflections.
Thank you! 😌
I do understand that marriage is not necessarily a requirement, or promise, especially when you read the words of Paul and even look at Jesus’ life… with that said, going back to Genesis and the thought that God had that it is not good for man to be alone, so He made a suitable helper for Adam. Does “helper” apply to different types of relationships or was Genesis specifically referring to marriage? Or does Adam’s need for a helpmeet/helpmate not apply to all men?
God created marriage and it's simply a choice to get married....check out the book Choosing God's Best as it may help you navigate as you meet women. I would also say you might have more preparation in terms of fully knowing who you are and loving you for you in order to identify a lady that might be the most suitable for you for a marriage.
🔥episode!!
Appreciate you! 🙏🏾
So great to hear this from a guys perspective. Are you habesha by the way?
Thank you! Yes I am lol
Curious to know which Scripture supports the idea of marriage being a gift from God? I feel like I have different thoughts. Actually I think the gift idea is part of over-spiritualizing, haha, because we defer responsibility to God.
Actually I die a little every time you say "It's not promised", because I feel like that's a way to rationalize and ultimately protect your heart from the 'failure' to settle down. Even though you really wanted to, it'll be okay if it didn't happen because "God didn't promise it to me". Mmmh...No. It won't get to that though, Haha. May God lead us all into all truth.
Nah, not protecting my heart from the failure to settle down. I don't even look at it that way. I genuinely don't see scripture that promises us marriage. I can be wrong. Feel free to send me scripture that says otherwise.
This is such a wide yet nuanced conversation, but I'll put down a few thoughts.
1) I am not necessarily arguing for marriage being a promise, but I do believe that it is a blessing of the Lord, and I believe it is available to every believer who desires it. And if it is not happening for any of us (believers I mean), God is not the barrier. He already released the blessing through Christ, same as for divine health, provision, and access to all other riches we are blessed with in Christ Jesus. There are caveats in Scripture though based on laws that God has set in place for our protection from corruption and sin.
2) Additionally, we are in a war against principalities...etc, and we need to fight the good fight of faith, even in these areas. This requires knowledge and understanding. I have come to learn in my short life that God means it when He says that His people perish from a lack of knowledge - I believe both literally and figuratively. For example, there is knowledge around getting and keeping wealth (please let it not seem like I am glorifying money, we are to keep free from a love of money), how to keep healthy (and the science is growing), how to parent successfully, how to grow in faith etc. If we don't have the proper knowledge, we will fail in these areas, not because these blessings haven't been released to us. Proverbs can't get enough of reminding us to get knowledge and understanding.
3) God Himself saw that it was not good for man to be alone. He doesn't change, and from your video (thanks for being vulnerable with us), you can agree. (Except if you're Paul of course, haha). Two are better than 1 after all, whichever the context.
4) Notice that where God is directly involved in putting a halt to His blessings over His children, including marriage, it was always as a punishment for disobedience and sin e.g. in Jeremiah 25:10, Psalms 78:63. But Christ took on all punishment and wrath for all God's children, if we repent and live right.
5) I can't begin to claim that I understand everything, or even your specific life situation which is the genesis of this conversation.
God bless!
There are alot of secular voices talking about dating, not so many Christian men sharing their POV. Lots of pill content.
True
Unfortunately there is a great deal of men of God that are doing exactly what that young woman said. Really happy to know that you are not like them.
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This dude is too scary to go get a woman lmao get over it and do it
I'm sure he's not a virgin.