Apartment Hunting in China | What can $500 a month get you? 🇨🇳

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  • @xZephys
    @xZephys ปีที่แล้ว +54

    The water from washing your hands is used to flush the toilet, so it saves water

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I guess that makes sense, but then why put a whole other sink outside the bathroom that doesn't do that?!

  • @greentea8852
    @greentea8852 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    the combined sink and toilet is pretty common in Japan, it's to safe water usage and also space.

    • @KimWilsonTV
      @KimWilsonTV 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      They are common all of the world

  • @jackcullen5085
    @jackcullen5085 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    I love seeing apartment hunting vids in the second tier cities in China, you get the benefits of (sometimes huge) cities with the rents of small towns

  • @youtubetebie7799
    @youtubetebie7799 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Aleese is back in China, congrats 🎉

  • @DualityIsAThing
    @DualityIsAThing ปีที่แล้ว +67

    This made me realize I'm so spoiled...Chongqing has ruined me. I'm like that 3,700 for thaaat?! So much better to start in an expensive city and not the other way around 😂 You already know the 37th floor was my fave!

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +7

      haaaaa
      Meanwhile I'm having reverse stick shock cus it's soooo much cheaper than Beijing!

    • @xueshang1035
      @xueshang1035 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      you’ll be surprised what you can find with 3700 in Shanghai, its barely livable to me 😂

  • @h.marqxesd3110
    @h.marqxesd3110 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    These prices are insanely good. I’m about to move to China.

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +6

      RIGHT! Very affordable!

    • @KK001
      @KK001 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      And here in Norway youd be paying 800$ at least for a 40m² basement without furniture. Any of these appartments in the video would run you over $2000 here.

    • @kinjasalama
      @kinjasalama 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I was thinking the same until the part where they needed to ask if a “foreigner” can live there. Like WTH!

    • @jetta.silence6356
      @jetta.silence6356 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Nope I would never live in China. Japan yes definitely.

  • @yanie3000
    @yanie3000 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    Apartment hunting videos in other countries are always so fun. Thanks for sharing, I can't wait for part two!

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Dropping on Sunday!

    • @killwitch-kd4rd
      @killwitch-kd4rd ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The climate in Chengdu is very humid, the owner of houses generally do not prepare thick mattresses because the waiting process for rent takes a long time. In uninhabited appartments, mattresses are prone to mold. That's why you can only see thin mattresses everywhere@@AleeseLightyear

  • @Toby-yz7wt
    @Toby-yz7wt ปีที่แล้ว +13

    the last apartment is so nice, the big windows are really nice

  • @DIYDiaz
    @DIYDiaz ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This was like a real life episode of house hunters international and I’m here for it! 😍

  • @necieINcn
    @necieINcn ปีที่แล้ว +32

    The sink on the back of the toilet is an actual thing in most Japanese homes. It’s a really cool concept. You wash your hands and the grey (used) water becomes the toilet water.
    Unfortunately, in that first apartment there was no full sink in the vicinity of the bathroom.

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Great concept. Just not for me lol

    • @PunditKING
      @PunditKING 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The Japanese models are a little bigger, but I'm proud to see Chinese person to give credit to Japan for something 🎉

    • @fatisummer9106
      @fatisummer9106 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Not only japan , it's pretty normal in many countries, you need to wash ur hand after you are done doing your business ,so it's more convenient and cleaner than going all the way to sink ,I was surprised that she has never seen one living for so long in China

    • @justinphillip5416
      @justinphillip5416 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@fatisummer9106 I also love the concept. However, it is not a U.S cultural norm. I think the TH-camr is from the U.S, so she is basing her likes on her own experiences (what she grew up with). Getting used to cultural norms is nuanced, some things are just not going to fly, LOL

  • @deafheart23
    @deafheart23 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I absolutely loved #2 and #7, for me I’m very minimalistic , as long as everything works I’m happy. Mattresses and bed frames can easily be purchased, and being in my ideal location is what matters the most to me. 😌

  • @7hx89
    @7hx89 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Furniture and fixtures are relatively inexpensive. So you can either ask the landlord for free upgrades and replace them by yourself. For example the bed and mattress would cost less than the monthly rent.

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very true! But I really am not trying to buy any furniture or make any big adjustments to an apartment. I already did that 2 years ago with my last apartment. Now I just want a place to be move in ready!

  • @bf5475
    @bf5475 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    You are quite a rude person, the people who showed you these places are probably thinking why did I put in this effort to show this person around.

  • @marianne3802
    @marianne3802 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I unironically loved the gaudy princess bed and curtains 😂 It’s not really my personal style but I could get acclimated to it lol

  • @tangkh6699
    @tangkh6699 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Good luck for your apartment hunting in Chengdu! When I visited Chengdu last month, the DiDi driver told me Chengdu is the most affordable city that he's ever been after living in Beijing, Shenzhen, Guangzhou for quite some time-in terms of housing, food expenses, convenience, etc.

  • @christinafidance340
    @christinafidance340 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Honey, I live in a 5th wheel camper and even I have a proper bathroom sink! The bathroom is quite roomy actually!

  • @storiedsoundscapes
    @storiedsoundscapes ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Chengdu seems to have lots of good options for the prices! Can't wait to see where you end up! 😃

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว

      The prices were amazing! I wish they were this price in the US!

  • @allw547
    @allw547 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    check the fire safety procedures! especially on the apartments on the higher floors.

  • @PV96
    @PV96 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Is this your first time to China? The washing machine on the balcony is very common. Mattress’s are always very thin compared to West. I lived in China for 10 years. The same apartment the entire time. I loved it !! Get a bicycle and explore !!!

  • @manuesiaDeluxe
    @manuesiaDeluxe ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The only apartment i liked was the last one 👍🏼 wish you the best ✊

  • @starwarsphan3159
    @starwarsphan3159 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thats a japanese style combo sink and toilet. The sink is for washing hands. The greywater fills the toilet tank. Saves water.

  • @juliemoody9089
    @juliemoody9089 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Nice and cool video and respect and that seems really cheap for you living in China

  • @azharidris7092
    @azharidris7092 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Aleese that small tap toilet combo is common in Tokyo Japan.. its saved water.. its just to wash your hands.. I think its cool..

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Never seen it before!

    • @Quantum_Mutiny
      @Quantum_Mutiny 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      i do think its weird since the sink is place in an awkward spot literally on the toilet. it could have been designed better for sole purpose of improvement

  • @CarolLustgarten
    @CarolLustgarten 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Good luck on your search. Hope you find your dream apartment. Though the prices seem affordable in parts of China I am thankful I can pay cash for my condo in the sunshine ☀ state. Modern renovated and furnished. And in unit washer dryer. Even came with detergent towels and dishes cups and glasses. Silverware too.

  • @blackwarrior7473
    @blackwarrior7473 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    i am a small landlord in a small coastal city in the US. I put a room on craiglist and it is gone quickly. The size is about 125 square feet, shared bath, kitchen, etc. The rent is $700. Guess my tenant would shoot me if they know that you can get such a spacious apartment in a big city in China for the price they pay for a small room.😂😂

    • @坐等第一
      @坐等第一 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🤣

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @FoodwealthTV
      @FoodwealthTV 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      😂 hilarious

    • @guerdabrutus
      @guerdabrutus 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@blackwarrior7473 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @jjc4232
    @jjc4232 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Never easy to look for a place.
    But the prices are so so low compared to Toronto. Our average rent in Toronto for a one bedroom is a crazy 2500 Canadian that's about 2Gs USD 😮😮😮😮

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Tooooo high! I would never be able to afford that!

  • @Heyymynameisjbells
    @Heyymynameisjbells 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Just found your channel! Love it!

  • @eastcoastguy_0803
    @eastcoastguy_0803 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I have seen that type of toilet plus sink in a bar in the US. It uses the water that washed your hands to flush the toilet. Pretty cool and environmentally friendly.

  • @malcolm1896
    @malcolm1896 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You should be on HGTV house hunters. I liked apartment #7 & #8.

  • @charleneji6759
    @charleneji6759 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I hope you've already found your apt.
    Everyone is talking about how Chengdu is great place, affordable prices, endless delicious food and laidback locals. 😀

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว

      You'll have to stay tuned for Sunday's video!

  • @ditzyhere3138
    @ditzyhere3138 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Can you not view unfurnished apartments? I don't think I could use any furniture used by previous tenants...

  • @rikusheyneke1554
    @rikusheyneke1554 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Damn! That last one was gorgeous! Looooove the kitchen with that island WOW. But that bedroom furniture and curtains have GOT TO GO 😅😅😅 Can’t wait to see what you ended up with

  • @bayernfan9557
    @bayernfan9557 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Just find a temporary one. You can always find a better one after you settle down in a new city. Some property/apartment management comapnies, such as Ziroom, would offer more decent options than the individual agent can provide.

  • @BubblesMcGhee
    @BubblesMcGhee 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    So glad I found you!!

  • @okonkwokingsley3334
    @okonkwokingsley3334 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Welcome back to China

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks! Good to be back, I guess lol

  • @alexpaulson
    @alexpaulson ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I live in Guangdong and have been considering a move to Chengdu!

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว

      Well maybe more of the Chengdu content I put out will convince more

  • @juki0h391
    @juki0h391 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The amount that you are paying for a month over there, there's not much to complain about. If it was more than $1000, then I would have some stuff to say.

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It's all relative my friend. Regardless of how much I'm paying, I don't want a bunch of useless items in the apartment that will never get used.

  • @carbtsyang1176
    @carbtsyang1176 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    2nd apartment at least he was honest when he said this bed is no no 😂😂😂😂😂 it made me laugh soo much 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @w.a.watson3078
    @w.a.watson3078 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Buy your own beds. Nice large apartment. Don't be so picky.

  • @7hx89
    @7hx89 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Good luck to your new life in Chengdu! The real challenge would be the vast food options there to remain fit and healthy 😂

  • @hera_m
    @hera_m ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Your standards are high babe but you always get the best results since you are the best 😊

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว

      hahahaha I think my standards are pretty reasonable!! You'll have to watch this weekend's video to see what apartment I get!

  • @Yu-bz5hw
    @Yu-bz5hw ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The way you talk is alwaysss, so so fun!!! In a good way! When you commented at those ugly furniture🤣🤣🤣you always make me smile🤣 can't wait for episode 2😂💞💞💖💖

  • @fdoctor79
    @fdoctor79 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Aleese when I saw the sink and toilet combo, I hollered. 😮😅 You are my shero. This reminded me of House Hunters International 😂! Apartment hunting can be SPECIAL, but I am believing you will find the BEST fit for you! Tfs

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว

      The amount of ppl in the comments trying to convince me that the sink toilet combo thing was normal, blew my mind. NEVER!

  • @100RAmen
    @100RAmen 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    haha NICE Chinese background Australian here. I watched a couple of your videos and I got the feeling u will end up in my home town Chengdu. welcome to China Expat life 2.0, it's almost like a natural progression the people end up moving to Chengdu after staying in Beijing or Shanghai for a couple of years. I'm also returning to Chengdu from Australia after more than a decade of not living in China. all my expat friends in chengdu were gone after covid, tho still feeling the excitement and look forward to meet new people!

  • @babyjki444
    @babyjki444 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    your old apartment was amazing wow. they would've had to drag me out of there lmao.

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It was sooooo perfect. I miss it so much!

  • @WANDERER0070
    @WANDERER0070 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    6 min the fridge w 3 sections is to safe energy,,dont need to open all fridge just one drawer at a time

  • @ThrivingNotDying
    @ThrivingNotDying ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The last apartment with the open kitchen was my favorite. But probably too expensive. Whats your budget?

  • @haleydonovan3421
    @haleydonovan3421 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Aleese, you are awesome! Love your personality 🎉

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Awwww I appreciate you saying that! Thank you so much!!🥰🥰

  • @kaykepop4084
    @kaykepop4084 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Before moving to or visiting another country, research. How people live, what's appropriate and inappropriate. Idk, maybe it's just me, but it's embarrassing to see Americans go to other countries and insult/question the way life is there or call something weird. As if the way we live makes a lot of sense😅.

  • @吴海明-d9h
    @吴海明-d9h ปีที่แล้ว +4

    欢迎回来~welcome back~

  • @Jadecatcafe
    @Jadecatcafe 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The tiny sink for you washing hand s after using the toilet only. 😂 you also can see those in Japan. The actual big sink area is separated with the toilet.

  • @shiwang8989
    @shiwang8989 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Glad you are of BJ to Chengdu! Personally, Chengdu is more fun. Good luck on your apt hunting.

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว

      Really?! the adjustment hasn't been easy for me!!

  • @carolynsilvers9999
    @carolynsilvers9999 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Im thinkin' the renter is supposed to buy their own mattress.

  • @CanoManuelGonzaga
    @CanoManuelGonzaga 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    You're rude. You clearly see the agent understands English, yet you don't even mince your words when you comment about the room you visit.

  • @MatteoLonghi7
    @MatteoLonghi7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    personally, I wouldn't recommend an apartment that's higher than 10 floors. Because when an earthquake hits, that's scary as hell😅 not that the building will collapse, it's just a terrifying experience

  • @rod12291
    @rod12291 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    toilet with sink is quite nomal in japan

  • @karenthomas9009
    @karenthomas9009 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    New subscriber here, I want to experience your life there😊 through you❤❤❤❤

  • @texaslulu
    @texaslulu ปีที่แล้ว +3

    In US it costs you $500 just to rent all the furnitures.

  • @AikoMonett
    @AikoMonett ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Not the prison style toilet and sink in the first one!

  • @ishadi
    @ishadi ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hope you've already found the apartment cause it's Monday now 😅 as always, entertaining ❤🎉

  • @jennybian5697
    @jennybian5697 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    you are so happy

  • @carolynsilvers9999
    @carolynsilvers9999 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I like the one on 8th floor

  • @PunditKING
    @PunditKING 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Oh boy here we go again.....

  • @reneemichael1574
    @reneemichael1574 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I like 7 but #4 got me with the big bedroom. I would've had to spend money on a mattress. lol *coming back #8 it is!! 😆

  • @madelynhall755
    @madelynhall755 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    Little rude

  • @CloseYourWombs
    @CloseYourWombs ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I thought you were back in Chicago?

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      *Michigan
      I went home to visit, not to move back!

    • @CloseYourWombs
      @CloseYourWombs ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@AleeseLightyear ok. I signed up to your survey for traveling next year.

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      AWESOME!!! Thanks so much!@@CloseYourWombs

  • @whathappenedtofreethinking6902
    @whathappenedtofreethinking6902 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I admire your adventurous spirit. It’s one thing to move to Europe. Moving to China is waaaaay different. Hats off to you for teaching. Enjoy your journey young lady.

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for the love!💖💖

  • @heathertheheathen6145
    @heathertheheathen6145 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Why is there furniture already in these apartments?

  • @edirdejesus
    @edirdejesus ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm here🇧🇷
    attending

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for being one of the first to watch!

  • @pholbrook2277
    @pholbrook2277 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Cool video but camera is moving too fast.

  • @peacelife
    @peacelife ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Oh wow pretty affordable. I guess bases on city.

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว

      Most definitely. A one bedroom in Beijing is double the price of a Chengdu two bedroom!

  • @mumblrr
    @mumblrr 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    for $3300 hkd you can get a coffin home in hong kong lol. so interesting to see the rent disparity

  • @pixelperfectInteriors
    @pixelperfectInteriors 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I do believe they use that same model of toilet/sink combo in prisons :)

  • @RP-mm9ie
    @RP-mm9ie ปีที่แล้ว +1

    thanks

  • @Darkcrowman
    @Darkcrowman 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You're one person, how big does the fridge need to be? geez. And be a little less picky, aren't you going to b homeless? You can always move again at a later date :) Course this is old now, heh

  • @Iamstevenyang
    @Iamstevenyang 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You'll have better luck finding a better qualify apartments at $1100-$1500 per month

  • @goldeneyebby7477
    @goldeneyebby7477 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I use the transit one for my wine n liquorrr😂

  • @sleepines
    @sleepines 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    wait what? the land lord didn't agree to throw away the furniture??? u are not allowed to buy ur own stuff???? how strange o.o

  • @bernieroses718
    @bernieroses718 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    It’s you and a list of grievances. 😂😂

  • @Hi-Nikola
    @Hi-Nikola ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are so cute!!!

  • @bubbles2868
    @bubbles2868 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I wouldn't be straddling the toilet to wash my face in that sink, lol

  • @bigdaddylongstorke3915
    @bigdaddylongstorke3915 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    man she complains a lot

  • @joycemarilyn5359
    @joycemarilyn5359 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    sink over toilet is to wash your hands but its a no no

  • @Haniyah-v6u
    @Haniyah-v6u ปีที่แล้ว

    How much was your beijing apartment ?

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  ปีที่แล้ว

      Double all these places! 6,200RMB per month

  • @Staceypotterphotography
    @Staceypotterphotography 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Man this was hard to watch because she’s so negative and rarely says anything positive.

  • @mokagislin3895
    @mokagislin3895 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are the girls I like. Interesting

  • @PlayShorts3
    @PlayShorts3 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I like number 8

  • @MissKim--SP
    @MissKim--SP 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I hope you don't fall through the floor. Hope it's not Tofu dreg.

  • @laurahemenway4608
    @laurahemenway4608 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wow, a lot of things you complain about are pretty standard if you watch any Chinese videos. Especially the ones where it's clear everyone renovated their apartments. Just very negative. I was going to see a lot of variety, but the commentary just ruined it

  • @lintuchiha
    @lintuchiha ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love height, the taller the better lol

  • @lzeng78
    @lzeng78 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    5

  • @Sheryl-m8d
    @Sheryl-m8d 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    All those first few apartments were hideous and nasty looking. How could you even consider wanting to live in them. Apartments 7 and 8 would have worked out and the rent seemed reasonable even they weren’t that posh or luxurious but a step up from those other apartments you started off looking at. I hope it works out for you.

  • @KelsKey-i4q
    @KelsKey-i4q 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    A lot of complaints

  • @okaycola2
    @okaycola2 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The paint is excellent! You are very negative. Oh my !!! I have never toured a place & spoken so poorly of nice offerings

  • @johnnychannel7824
    @johnnychannel7824 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I would like to become homeless like you. ❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @LilianmaryOcampotriminio-h6k
    @LilianmaryOcampotriminio-h6k 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi ! nice video I need your help you have contact agency real state help me please 🙏 I need a Apartament in China

  • @lisa4455dickerson
    @lisa4455dickerson 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You know there are cameras installed in every apartment

    • @AleeseLightyear
      @AleeseLightyear  หลายเดือนก่อน

      hahahahha maybe in the elevators and hallway

  • @kittykatz3518
    @kittykatz3518 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    How much does living under an oppressive dictatorship that doesn't allow for political or religious freedom cost you?

  • @msa8408
    @msa8408 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is my hint that I don’t need to watch these videos. 😂 The amount of complaints and unwillingness to make concessions irked my soul. Very western mindset in the middle of China. 😂

  • @Sageandgold
    @Sageandgold 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Please stop going to these countries talking with your hands. I felt so uncomfortable for him