Is Anti-Aging Skincare Ageist!? New Releases Try-on & Chat!
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00:00 - Intro
02:58 - Let’s Chat: Ageism
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I am not afraid of age or aging. I am 55 and I own it. I use products to be the best 55 year old I can be. No stress at all. I am good with my mortality. It is unavoidable. Great topic Alice. You look fantastic. Have a wonderful week ❌️ ⭕️
You got it! That’s the way to live this life 😁💕
@@AliceintheRabbitHole Take care 💕
The only time I ever cared about my age was when I was young...isn't that silly?
@skynebula11 Well, it is valid. I never thought about getting older. When I turned 40, I remember thinking, wow. Then, at 50, I was like I am half a century old! Very cool. I do enjoy the experience we get as we age. I hope you have an amazing week ❌️ ⭕️
@@lisasmith748 here. I have fine lines, etc etc. I do not care.😂😂😂
As someone who turned 45 last week, i just love skincare and taking care of my skin. I have no negative feelings about aging...I enjoy learning about ingredients and sharing what I learn with others. I love helping people learn what works for their skin. Nothing is more exciting than someone coming and showing me the results my help and knowledge ( obviously I'm no professional, but I'm seriously thinking about changing that in the future ) but I love when I can help someone else feel better about their skin. I think there is something so beautiful about a person who ages naturally but takes pride in their skin and appearance. I haven't had any in office interventions done YET. I will likely cave and get botox one of these days but nothing to obvious... I guess all in all i just LOVE self care and skincare. Obviously, I do what I do to keep myself looking my best. Recent life events with my mom being sick and has brought a perspective that so little is important in life when it really comes down to it. I've learned to just do what makes me happy and not really worry about the little stuff. I love skincare because it's my happy place😊
YESS oh my gosh I know exactly what you mean in terms of the excitement of helping others find what works for them! And I love and very much agree with that perspective: skincare can - and should - be our happy place.
Sending all the good vibes for your mom 💕
@@AliceintheRabbitHole thank you so much! My mom hasn't ever been into anti aging anything, but she always loved to look nice... Outfits, jewelry... She was great at taking my products and actually panning whole eye shadow palettes like nobody's business. Then overnight that all changed, literally none of those things matter. When I saw all the things she enjoyed, untouched for months... I realized all the things I do are REALLY only for enjoyment IN THE MOMENT.
Wise words. 💕
I was hoping you felt better enough to post today. I'm happy to see you.
Thank you! I am grateful to feel human, lemme tell ya lol!
Great conversation on anti-aging and ageism, and I especially appreciated the internal vs external part. When I got into skin care a few years ago, I saw how the whole anti-aging, "gotta do anything to look younger" messages started affecting me into internalizing ageism for myself. Fortunately, my mom is a fantastic role model, as well as a couple of friends who are 1-2 decades older than me. They're too busy with their friends and activities to obsess about how they look, and I'm trying to model them!
Aw I love that your mom is a fantastic role model too! That is something I am SO, SO grateful for. Good moms make a world of difference (and good friends too 😃)
@@AliceintheRabbitHole so true!
Glad you're feeling better!! When you post, we will watch, don't struggle or stress!!
Anti-aging, I don't feel is a bad word, at least not to me at 54 yrs. old. "Shell shock" is now "post traumatic stress disorder". A rose by any other name.... As far as external ageism, karma is a B. They too will get old, and if they don't... they won't be around to be biased, therefore, us old people win!😂😂😂
As a Gen Xer, who's parents had to be reminded to check on us, a commercial came on at night " It's 10pm, do you know where your children are?", I'm lucky to be here and getting older.
Many blessings to all💖💖💖
Yes!! Yeah that’s something I didn’t touch on in this video, but in so many ways: we are all so fortunate to be on this planet now. We live in a time where we not only have longer lifespans, but better quality of life as well! So much so that we CAN think about how we “look older” - even just 100 years ago, I doubt people had the luxury of thinking about that! Just because we can doesn’t mean we have to though 😄
Thank you for your thoughts ☺️
I love 💕 the Prequel cleanser. It’s definitely one of my favorites. As for age (ing) if we are lucky, we all will…beats the hell out of the alternative.
Agreed!
At the end of the day, no one knows how old we will get to be. So celebrate today be grateful for yesterday and pray for a blessed tomorrow. I do the best I can with the cards I am dealt. I don't care for labels but the world likes to stick a label on everything. Tomorrow is never promised so make the most of the minutes of today
Peace out .
💯. Every day is a gift!
Your mom sounds wonderful - and it's reflected in you! 🥰 This video left me smiling! There is something so comforting knowing we're all going through this aging thing together. Glad you're feeling better! ✌️❤️
Thank you so much!! 🥰
My view on aging is unfortunately connected to death but not in the way you mentioned. My friend David lost his life when he was 24, or rather someone took it from him. I was 23 and it changed me in so many ways, including my attitude to aging. Life can be short, if I'm aging it means I'm still here and I can't complain about that. I got my first grey hairs shortly after his death, possibly caused by the trauma of it all (I didn't cope well), so he may actually be responsible for my premature aging - David had a sense of humour so he wouldn't mind me laughing at that irony! I'll be 40 this year and the grey hairs are starting to take over but when I look in the mirror I think of David and I'm perfectly okay with that.
I'm glad you're finally feeling better 💕
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s unbelievably hard to lose a friend, especially at such a young age. I do think he would be very proud of you for your positive outlook! 💕
I think that at my age (I'm 46 years old) I make better decisions and I have learned a lot to live well with myself, I don't think I would like to go back to the age of 20 when I did so many stupid things, but it is very true that there is a stigma with older women . There is a very negative stigma in relation to the age of women and not so with men, but women also have that mentality of criticizing older women, I think we need to evolve a lot in relation to age and respect ourselves no It matters how old they are. A hug Alice and I hope you are better 😘
Big same. I’m perplexed by the supposed glamorized age (at least by the media, it seems). Early 20s!? I would not want to go back to that!
Funny enough, I was reading a study that asked participants, “if you could be any age for the rest of your life, what would you choose?” I can’t recall the exact results, but I do remember how many people responded with 40s-50s! I was surprised at first, but I think it actually does make sense: that’s probably a stable time in our lives, and before the advent of age-related illness (many reported that aspect kept them from answering a higher age, although they were still overall happy at 70-80).
I feel the same way. I didn’t start feeling like a person till I was in my mid 20’s. At 18- young 20’s, most people make mistakes (some worse than others) as they navigate the beginning stages of adulthood, and why anyone thinks this period of life is the best is beyond me because most people I talk to, including myself, cringe when we remember our past selves 😂. With regards to women, I’ve noticed that many in their 40’s report feeling freer at this time in their lives because they’re able to focus more on themselves instead of societal duties. I’ve taken note and while it can sometimes be hard to ignore societal pressures, I do feel more at peace with myself for choosing to prioritize myself first. Not in a selfish way. Just in a way that will lead me to having less regret, but still staying true to myself, my values, and my goals.
@@AliceintheRabbitHole I’ve often heard women in their 40’s say they feel the most free and at peace they ever have because they’re able to focus more on themselves and what they want instead of what their husbands, kids, or society wants. I’ve often been told by women in this age range to focus more on myself while I’m young and accomplish my goals because marriage and kids aren’t everything. Of course this doesn’t mean don’t get married or have kids if you want to. Just recognize that we are people with our own desires and goals and it’s ok to pursue them.
I'm 32 and I obv see some minor signs of aging as of the past two years and I think I put to much pressure on myself to stay looking young and such and well, unless I want botox or something, Age will win in the end. I want to age gracefully as I can, i won't get injection, I personally don't want to. Tret for the win🙌🏻, iv been addicted to skincare my whole life.
Yuppp I hate that pressure so much, especially because when we really get to the core of the concept: what is the point? What’s wrong with looking the age we actually are? Moreso, folks can look their age and have radiant, healthy skin (thanks to ingredients like tret indeed!)
That healthy skin glow is REAL too 😁
Very intelligent video. I'm 41, I am thrilled I don't look as I did at 21. I have been in therapy for 10 years and take medication for a serious condition. I embrace my lines and jowls! ❤ I also love skincare! ❤❤❤
I love it, yes we absolutely can embrace both aging AND skincare ☺️💕
Whew-heavy topic! I’m in my late 40s and only got interested in skincare in the last year as I couldn’t deny the march of time across my face. I do find myself internalizing ageism from time to time, but try to remind myself that my goal is skin health, and each smile line, and crowd feet are evidence of a life well-lived. I also try to look in the mirror less 🤣. But that does have me concerned for my beautiful 15 year old daughter whose entire generation's gaze seems to be directed inward- self ageism will hit the snap chat generation hard.
I have a very strong belief in positive parenting. Social media is a powerful force, but a mom who teaches that self-worth isn’t determined by age, that appearance isn’t everything, and that we are never “too old” for anything? Nah, that’s even more powerful ☺️
Good skin care is self care. Aging is always better than the alternative. I always enjoy your wit, enthusiasm and your intelligent approach to skin care. Thank you Alice.
Always better than the alternative indeed! And frankly, it’s so rad to be alive in a time where we have access to all the skincare advancements we do (not to mention the advancements in medicine!)
@@AliceintheRabbitHole I am glad you are feeling better. Missed you
Ageism. It's real. I'm 68 so I feel those aspects even if I don't feel that - society does. I'm also more oily skin but i appreciate all of your reviews. ❤ Thanks!
I don’t think anti-aging skincare is inherently ageist, you don’t have to fear something to want to prevent something. I look just like my grandma and I always thought she was beautiful up until she died, so I’m not afraid of looking like her at all, but there’s nothing wrong for me to want to delay that either
Well said. I really think it’s only “ageist” if we choose to make it feel that way!
"Preventing" aging is a delusion (in the neutral sense of the term). It's a perception illusion we construct in our heads because our bodies change, die in some ways, fatigue, and yes age. We have a very real delusion when it comes to control in our societies, especially our bodies. Everyone can do what they want, just like you can try and act on something happening in your body to *support* it, but beyond that don't expect anything.
So glad you’re back!!❤
It’s good to be back!! 😁💕
Thank you for all your efforts Alice 🥳🥰
thank you for having this conversation with us
Thank you so much, better and SO grateful for it ☺️
Glad youre feeling better! Cannot wait to try that kaine serum- havent ordered yet but im obsessed with the toner and panthenol! Just cracked open their green cream that also has 5% panthenol and have been loving the texture underneath a thicker moisturizer! Happy you love the Torriden cream! It really is so cosmetically elegant and I love the formula! I do love collagen as a humectant! Also- have heard about Tirtir but cannot wait to hear your thoughts!!
The ampoule feels like the toner compliment we have all been waiting for! And yup, the only problem with the torriden is that it’s been sold out almost everywhere for ages LOL! I was so happy to see it on SK
Luckily my mama, 55 years young , has raised me to never think anything negative about age. She looks beautiful for her age (& in general) she’s got a heart of gold & is just an amazing person overall. I couldn’t care less about my age. She gets insecure about her wrinkles sometimes but I know deep down she knows she’s beautiful. & she’s always made sure that I know that she thinks I’m beautiful too.
But bc of the way she raised me, I never understood why people feel some type of way about there age. & I’m grateful for that. Not to mention I have SO many mental issues, I’m glad ageism isn’t yet another thing to add to the list😅
My mom is for sure the positive influence in my life. So happy to hear that your mom is too. My mom is my best friend and I’m so blessed to have her.
Aww I love hearing this. Moms really can have such a profound effect on our lives; so glad to hear you’ve got a wonderful mom too 🥰🥰
I’m a little obsessed with the Medicube Booster - H! I thought there was no way it would work but in one week it made such a huge difference in the efficacy of my products. I was stunned.
nice to see you feeling better
Thank you 🥰
I am 31 but am asian so I look younger than my age, I often get mistaken as a student, which to me is sometimes inconvenient as I am doctor for 6 years, and patients think Im one of the students... I graduated in like 2017... But other than that, I do like probably everyone else here put a lot of effort into my skincare, although rather than anti aging, hyperpigmentation and hydration were my main focus, and I use retinol as it helps with so many things. I was never interested in botox and fillers, although almost everyone at my workplace has these, and my colleague also has an aesthetic clinic alongside her job as a doctor
That is a very wise approach! I often think about how what we deem as “anti aging” is really just a broad description of so many other aspects of skincare.
I hate ageism and I do think is absolutely exists. I think women who are in their 60’s and 70’s + have had to deal with it a lot more in their past than what we have now. For example, my mom who is 71 used to get glammed-up but within the last 10 years she won’t wear any makeup, and refuses to have her hair dyed, or even hair a tad bit longer, because she doesn’t think women her age should do or wear anything like that. It just breaks my heart when I hear her say she can’t wear certain things because she’s too old. 😢 I’m always telling her “you can wear whatever you want mom! There’s no age limit in any of it! Wear whatever makes you feel great!” But she’s stuck in the old ways unfortunately. I wish these beauty standards for women, or beauty “rules” never existed.
Can't wait to hear you thoughts about Tirtir! I got some mini sets to try out :)
I’m loving the prequel!
Great talk Alice. I LOVE my Korean therapist right now almost as much as I love my Korean skincare. ❤ I’m so lucky to have both.
You definitely are; so happy to hear! 🥰
So far I'm not scared of aging itself 😅 I turn 30 this year and I'm kind of happy to be closer to retirement. I'm much more scared of needing to work for the rest of my life. I'm also scared of not having enough money saved for retirement...
30 is seriously one of the best birthdays!!
And yes, those are real concerns for us millennials/Gen Z. It’s so frustrating that the idea of retirement is eroding away although…I suppose that’s a whole ‘nother topic 🤪
Great video Alice! I think I’m probably younger than some of your audience and yet just in the past year or so I’ve felt a lot of that internalized agism. I definitely resonate with the study, and I think it’s mostly due to the “fear of dying” or the realization of the finite nature of life 😂 I’ve been more positive and charitable to myself recently. I’m sure a lot of why I felt that way recently had to do with Covid isolation and image focused social media ramping up in the past 5 years. I really appreciate your insights on the subject!
Yes, oh goodness I’m so sure that Covid affected most of us in that sense! I still get mixed feelings when I hear the theme song of Animal Crossing 🤣 - it reminds me of being so utterly WORRIED about everything!!
But I think focusing on how rad it is to be here, experiencing this life ironically seems to help with the fear of..not? Appreciating the gift of existence, wherever we are on that journey ☺️
I enjoy my anti-aging skincare. I am not as obsessive with looking like I’m 22 forever as I was 6 months ago. The reason being (trigger warning, loss) is that my younger brother passed away 5 months ago. When I said my goodbyes to him he didn’t have a single wrinkle. I realized I’m lucky to have some lines and I hope I see the day they become deep set wrinkles and bags. I wish I could see wrinkles on my brother one day.
I’m still gonna use my retinal serum….. gotta look my best when I reunite with my first best friend in the afterlife 😂
You're great as always❤
Great conversation on anti aging
I was thinking of trying the new PC mandelic acid, but I am pretty hooked on Geek & Gorgeous' Cheer Up.
Tbh no need to switch if you have a product you love ☺️
I'm a woman in tech and all of those things are RAMPANT here. However, it is RARE that ANY of that "protection" is enforced because all of it is so insidious and underhanded. You don't know if you're being treated differently because of your age, your race, or your gender, or if you're just overthinking it. And even if you DO know you're being treated differently, it's so difficult to prove because it's so fucking subtle now that reporting it is often just opting into gaslighting: "Oh that isn't what was meant," "That isn't what was going on." IS IT?
We've hit the point where people rarely say the quiet part out loud (except the Republican party these days, which their constituents LOVE *shiver*) so it is SO HARD to prove. And because of that low-key nature of all these -isms, it's easy to internalize these messages from media too.
Anyways - ageism is *absolutely* a real thing and women are still HEAVILY dealing with this shit in 2024, from beauty to the workplace. I know men deal with ageism (esp. in tech) at work, but for women it's like a whole other level. Sure, we're not called "spinsters" if we're not married by age 18 anymore, but that's just transformed into angry incels shouting at women for being comfortable growing old with cats and a Kindle instead of a man.
Mm. Good points. I hadn’t really thought about underhanded ageism (…for lack of better phrasing there), but that could indeed help to explain why the studies are “inconclusive” in terms of correlations. It’s kind of hard to get to the bottom of an issue if it’s not being faced head-on. Which annoyingly could still subconsciously contribute to internalized ageism. Real vicious cycle there!
I wish people were direct. Heck, I’ll take people being direct jerks (easier to know who to boot from our lives lol!)
@@AliceintheRabbitHole For sure! It's basically Lee Atwater "You start off saying this but you can't say that anymore. It hurts you - backfires. So you start saying these things. You're getting abstarct now..." I know this statement was about racism, but it's applicable to any form of discrimination, particularly in 2024.
Also, something I forgot (but you landed on here) was that our culture is SO racist, sexist, ageist, and classist that all of this is just baked in. Being ageist, sexist, and racist is just a cornerstone of our culture - how we perceive the people around us, behave, and develop values - that it absolutely impacts everything from women being dismissed by medical professionals to researcher perceptions. It's like a feature, not a bug, at this point.
Sorry if this got off topic. 😅😅 I'm very passionate about the topic of invisible discrimination and how it warps our actions or thinking without much notice.
Okay! I finished your video (I’m so sorry for being one of those responders before they finish the video 😂) and wanted to tell you the Prequel Vit C is REALLY nice. I know it’s L-AA but it is lovely and feels nice. I prefer it over the G&G L-AA and Timeless (10% is too little for me, 20% too much). Never tried Skinceuticals because I ain’t got that kind of cash but it is similar to the Paula’s Choice Vit C, but a bit nicer. And for $22!!! And yeah, I bought the VitC right as they restocked the Urea lotion that I so badly wanted to try. 😑
Gleanser breaks my face out but my body loves it and it helps my KP and eczema so I’ll likely repurchase.
I’m pretty excited about the PC Mandelic since I haven’t found a Stratia product that works for me. Ive been using the Pillowtalkderm flash mask and love it (it is strong but minimal ingredients and high glycerin makes it work so well for me). Would love a mild option with Mandelic.
Anyways! I’m excited for your full thoughts on Prequel and Experiment. :)
It’s good to be passionate about these kinds of things - that’s how to incite good conversation (and help with actually leading to progress!)
And thanks for sharing your experience, that’s great to hear! So funny, I have a suspicion that gleanser will end up mostly used as a body cleanser for me too. I like it for sure, but it stands out more to me as a body cleanser? And the price point is utterly phenomenal, I’m so impressed with how she was able to price her products!!
I'm very grateful that my mom is a fantastic role model for embracing aging. I love thinking about aging as a privilege. I tried the new Medicube device and I also wondered why it defaults to shot mode. I managed to bruise my under eye the first time on the lowest setting. I haven't been brave enough to try it a second time yet. I have been enjoying using it on my lips!
Agreed, it really is a privilege!
Oh that’s so odd, our experiences are practically inverted with eye/lip. I immediately set booster mode to 5 on my eyes and shot mode to 3, but it does sting my lips! Are you seeing any results yet? I actually noticed while doing my skincare routine this morning that my undereye area feels a bit…less soft somehow? (I think it’s in a good way, I might even be saying more firm lol!)
@@AliceintheRabbitHole I have been noticing my lips feel a little more plump! It's been unusually cold for the last week where I live and I've also noticed my lips haven't gotten chapped. It's definitely helping with product absorption on my lips. I think I'm going to try boost mode under my eyes for a while before I try adding the shot mode back in. 😂
Gut reaction to this before listening to the the video "anti-aging skincare is not intrinsically ageist, but the marketing and conversation around it often is due to scrutinizing looks specifically those naturally associated with aging". After watching the video I was shocked you didn't tie this back to 3-year olds demanding Drunk Elephant retinol products given the drama in the news. Beyond that though my post watch concept is in a similar light. I will be honest that I do use products both for personal enjoyment and to reduce visual effects of aging like wrinkles, sunspots, etc. That said I don't have that I'm aging or look down on others, I just like slowing down the effects. I could qualify that as internal ageism, but I think it's an overall healthy outlook and assume many are in the same place.
Welcome back, Alice. I hope you're feeling better. Another great review/try on video! I've been eyeing the Medicube Eye Shot device for a while. How does it compare to the Foreo Bear Mini? I noticed Foreo recently released an eye and lip care device. Still, Medicube appeals to me more.
Regarding Medicube, I received the Age R Booster Pro device on Monday. It's set to launch in the US next month, possibly March. Are you planning to get it, Alice? 😃 It's early days, but so far, so good! I almost bought the Age R Booster but opted to invest more in a device that combines several existing devices into one with LED.
Yup, at this point I’ve mostly moved on from Foreo as a whole. I don’t dislike them or anything, but…I feel Medicube’s devices have been next level. As for comparisons, I think the only thing I could compare this to is the booster-h/airshot (which of course makes too much sense as that seems to have been the point hahaha!) Definitely more gentle though, which turns out to be important.
And I am interested in it! Definitely let me know how it goes for ya 😁
I have seen a couple skincare channels including a derm or two talk about the anti-aging/ageism issue (I want to say Dr. Jenny Liu talks about this in her upcoming predictions for 2024 video). I did see that Prequel had released those other products. I did hear Dr. Ellis say that she was going to have other sunscreens in addition to the mineral and that the process for developing sunscreens was a lot longer than she had anticipated.
Oh interesting, thank you for sharing! I believe it wrt sunscreen. I will say it looks like a nice mineral option (that pale pink/peach color is a smart choice vs no tint at all or too “dedicated” of a tint lol)
She did say about the sunscreen that she knew it wouldn't work for all skin tones and then mentioned developing others (hybrid, chemical, etc).
@@AliceintheRabbitHole
That’s so good to hear! I love how thoughtful her brand is ☺️
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I asked for the new Medicube device for Christmas! Love this unit. I use the booster daily. On my lips I use inky list lip balm. I use the Medicube reviving peptide everywhere else.
Have you seen any results yet? I noticed this morning that…my undereyes feel different (in a good way, stronger almost!)
@@AliceintheRabbitHole yes! I have been using it for two weeks once daily on boost mode and twice a week on shot. I can’t explain it but my eyes feel lifted and lips plumped. I have all the devices and love using them all. As far as aging goes, the only thing that scares me is the state our nation is in. I thought or hoped by now , we would be smarter, more excepting of others and embraced our differences not exploit them. I am sad by that. My flower child self expected more.
I feel ya. I was talking to my brother about how it feels we are regressing rather than progressing. I don’t understand how 💔
But yes, joy in small things, I do feel this device is living up to the rest of them. Medicube is sooo good at devices!
The new Medicube eye and lip device seems like it does the same thing as their air shot and booster. I like all of their other devices but this one just seems redundant if you are able to tolerate those devices on the undereye and lip area.
This was such a great video, and so perfectly timed! On January 7… just a few days ago… I turned 40 and I’m definitely still digesting that! I already knew that I had a lot of internalized ageism, but I know at least for me a lot of it is tied to not being where I want to be in life. That being said I’m still not thrilled about seeing my face change either. Sometimes I think it’s easier to kind of battle the wrinkles than it is to face some of the other things that I know are actually the cause of my anxiety but nevertheless, I guess in a lot of ways I handled it better than I expected, because I didn’t actually have a meltdown 😅 one thing that I’ve seen recently that has helped me, in a very unexpected way, was seeing all the stuff that that billionaire guy is doing to fight aging… I think seeing what somebody with unlimited resources can do and seeing how it certainly doesn’t seem to lead to happiness kind of put into perspective how I would never want to put that much energy into something like that! It’s sort of highlighted for me how toxic it can get I guess. On the other side of the coin, if I had say Paris Hilton resources, I wouldn’t be complaining lol. Being realistic though fighting it is not really a solution because everything is temporary anyway! it truly is more about acceptance and I don’t want to spend my life relying on people telling me that I don’t look my age for self-esteem. at the moment I get a lot of joy out of skincare, but I know that if I’m in my head too much about it, I need to try to figure out what the real reason behind that is!
Idk that i’ll ever have the peace that my husband has, who wears his birthday on a T-shirt lol but if I could have at least some of that, I will consider it a success! 😂
It also occurred to me days after not having my meltdown, that if I don’t feel “old” Then I don’t have to be “old” despite what anything anybody else has to say about it! (it’s all perspective anyway, I remember going through this at 30 for crying out loud! Grief for no reason!)
Ok first off happy birthday! You get an extension of the holiday season; none of that abrupt end on 1/2 😃
And secondly YES i remember being so worried about 30. Which has ended up being such a good decade that…what on earth was I worried over!? I’m going to remember that as I approach 40 too. It’s all just numbers, and yet it’s our lives. I refuse to worry over nothing again! 🤣
And oh how I know exactly what you mean with the billionaire. It really has felt like the example to end all examples of not addressing the fear of aging!
@@AliceintheRabbitHole Thank you!! 💗💗
it was so funny bc at first I was like great what is he going to come up with to monetize and now I’m grateful to him for showing me why it won’t work 🤷🏼♀️😂 but yea all the wasted time worrying takes too much away from living! Hard to live by but good to remember!
medicube has a pro version of their device which has a booster mode, microcurrent mode, derma shot mode, & air shot mode it’s available in korea but idk when it’ll come to the US 😢
I am SOOOO excited for it!! And tbh I think they have to go in that direction. 6 devices now!? That’s overwhelming lol!
Hi Alice. Thanks for the chat on ageism since I am having some thoughts on aging and self acceptance. I am not seeing a therapist yet but am thinking about it. 😊
Skincare device is meant to help with getting my products deeper deliverance into the dermis and medicube is a good option. As for the Kaine kombucha ampoule serum, I am looking forward to using it since my Kombucha ampoule from One Day brand is used up. 😂 Recently my skin is irritated and broke out with deep acne. So it is time to recover from the breakout... I am at some conflicting ideas to opt for 100 or 300 concentration level of cica micro needling. Since my skin is also reactive, what is the starting out level for me to uptake?
Enjoy your recuperation after the cold viral stance. I have been through it a few months ago... ☺️
Oh the VT reedle? I will caution that if your skin is sensitive, I was surprised by how intense the 100 felt. That said, I’ve gathered this is quite variable as some people seem to have no issue with the stronger options!
I think I would still recommend the 100 to start with, given the price increases as the level increases. I think that’s a good way to determine if that concept is a good option for you or not ☺️
Oh wow, that said, my reactive skin is sensitive to touch and light due to acne breakout. Guess I will get the 100 concentration if you mentioned that it is strong... 🫣
I have dry sensitive ( getting older ) skin .
I don’t have acne
I love love love the Medicube vitamin C little bottles . ( is it something in it that breaks you out ?) 😮Multiple orders and I am not certain I can ever go without . Having said that I may try the numbuz in number 5 but still .
Ooooh I do love Medicube vitamin c . I pounce on it every time they have it on sale .
Now to ageism
I am actually a metal singer in a band that the bassist formed and called Izmatik
He wanted the Izm to represent how we as humans just can’t help ourselves - racism ageism sexism etc .
Anyway I am probably older than all the guys and he found me and I’m past 40 and I was the right voice for the band ( he had been searching for years)
I don’t feel there is any age anyone can or can’t do things .
Keep in mind it wasn’t that long ago actresses were washed up by 30 no leading roles anymore ( while their male counterparts still got to be the leading man next to a girl half his age ( hey I still love old movies) ( I’m talking 40s 50s 60s )
( especially Hitchcock )
Thankfully that’s changed or at least changing and I’m seeing brands introduce older models too .
I mean come on we are getting older and there’s nothing wrong with that .
Look after our skin our bodies and not limit ourselves . 🤘🏻
Thank you Alice .
Love your vids ♥️ you are empowering us with knowledge to keep our skin looking it’s best . And that’s the way forward I think .
With all the advances in skin care and health breakthroughs we have access to so much knowledge to keep ourselves healthy .
Yes, sadly it’s the bergamot. Heartbreaking! It does look like such a nice product. I’ve enjoyed quite a few other products from them (that don’t have my allergens lol) and of course the devices 😁
I love that you’re in a metal band! And absolutely agree; I’m grateful to all the women before us who fought to get us where we are today. There’s still progress to be made (maybe it will always be this way, sigh) - but one step at a time, and gratitude for where we are ☺️
Yk....this is obviously personal preference I suppose but I loved how you looked at the end with the treatment lip balm and then the "stickier" gloss version. It was a very nice natural color look! (imo)
Oh- well this is related to the topic sorta- I dont usually wear make-up. And when I do I wear a more natural look, and not a lot. I do have a weakness for nice-colored (blue/gray!) eyeshadows but I've found a way to even incorporate that into a more natural makeup regimen!
But anyway my point here is that I use even less make-up as Ive gotten older because I feel like it makes me (not everyone....just me lol) look older. Ill never forget the time my mom saw me for the first time in 3 years (I'd been living in the Seattle area and that's where I fell in love with makeup!) and the first thing she said was that I looked older.l! I was 25 😐
And then, AND THEN more recently one of my little ones (6yo) told me I looked old because I was wearing lipstick. Come on, family!
But yeah anwyay I was going to say two of my favorite lip products give a sheer but THERE color: the Versed lip oil and Fresh's lip balm in "Plum".
Also, wrt peptides: I'm with you, Im all about peptides. And oh my goodness yesterday my last bottle of TO's Buffet (old name) fell off my counter and broke. Glass was everywhere. 😢 I was only able to save maybe one application out of the whole jar. Luckily it was TO and not something way more expensive. But I was gonna say, I agree with you about their Buffet/Multi-peptide serum. I've tried so many and I think it's my consistent favorite. And when I apply right after a nice antioxidant toner or mist like Indee Lee or something similar, it even feels...well, not cosmetically IN-elegant. Like it goes on smooth and nicely. Ill be picking up a new bottle this weekend, I hope!
I’ve noticed a few things with lip products: one is that bullet lipstick is practically “out of style”, and moreso that this happened in 2020 (for obvious reasons). So yep, we’ve hit a point where lipstick does make someone look a bit older. It’s not because of physical characteristics though, it’s because of shifts in trends (this is exactly what I don’t like talking about though, because it’s easy to let this really spiral into a hyper consumptive mindset. Oh no gotta change the entire wardrobe/makeup/hair…). Still, I deeply, DEEPLY believe that most folks who experience someone saying they look older are probably just experiencing someone saying their appearance has some kind of dated element to it (gah! This is so icky but it’s true, it’s just subconscious to the speaker, and can cause a panic in the recipient. Gah.)
2. Balms go so much better with very minimal or no makeup, while gloss looks better with a heavier eye look. So yep, the balm does look better in this video, agreed 🤣 I feel that’s a lot of the trick with makeup though. I think anyone can wear anything they want, but the end look will be complimented by certain other elements (all of this is subjective at some point though!)
And I’m so sorry about your TO serum! 😭
@AliceintheRabbitHole You know, that's a really good point about lipstick in general having a dated look. I think you're right, although it's never really occurred to me before this conversation.
Most of the lip colors I wear are balms or oils, or occasionally something like Clinique's "almost lipstick" (I think that's what it's called?) It's in a roll-out stick form but the top is slanted and the formula is very sheer. I was wearing that in Black Honey for decades before it became a TikTok thing lol.
But yeah, it's true. And I never put 2 and 2 together, but truthfully whenever I do actually wear lipstick like this style ->💄 these days, I tend to blot and blend it really well and usually add a balm or something on top. So it won't have that "lipstick" texture-y look, if that makes sense
Not gonna lie..turning forty this year hit me kinda hard 🫤
Well first off, happy birthday! And as for that milestone, I can say that I remember worrying needlessly over 30: that turned out to be nothing at allll. I’m going to be reminding myself of that at 40 (and then 50, which they say is the new 30 lol. In medical advancements…it pretty much is!)
U stay well, also
Thank you ☺️
(I'm only halfway through this but I have to go to bed.) It's so weird because I literally brought this up to a stranger at sprouts the other day. 😅 Where is the boundary line between taking care of yourself and of being terrified of aging? Also, I'm not remotely surprised that collectivism is tied in with less of a fear of aging. Individualism breeds competition. Women are competing to look young and probably hating it on the inside.
I got caught up on the collectivism part too! That makes so much sense to me; in fact, individualism has been damaging in so many different ways!?
It is also very difficult for me to believe that the 70s were 50 years ago because I was born in 1972. 😅
Hey Alice 🫶
Heyo! 😁
Ok, the my mom is 70, playing in s band, and you call it so cute? When she was younger, would you think its cute? My adult say things like that about me lifting weights, etc. Cute. 😔 Strong, fun, rocking out, free spirit? Yes! ❤ Just a thought from a 60 yesr old mom.
Possibly? But everything is ageist, in a way. Life is ageist. You just keep on rolling, even as you're falling apart lol. I do try to exercise and watch my diet because it helps with the aches and pains and of course I enjoy cosmetically elegant anti-aging (or "well-aging"; I like that term) skincare. But Idk if ageism is really the right term. I mean, arw we descriminating against or marginalizing ourselves by doing these anti-aging things/well aging things? Maybe so, maybe self-directed/internalized ageism is a thing but I dont feel it, and I dont intellectually believe it for myself, either, if that makes sense. (I'm 42)
Hmmmm. Nope. I can't do it. 😂😂😂😂 I'll stick with PHA.
PHA really is great. I can see it not being enough exfoliation for some skin types, but I do love it!
@@AliceintheRabbitHole Same. I gotta be very gentle with my face cause of the rosacea. 🥴😭
Anti-aging can be ageist especially when taken to extremes but I don’t think I was being ageist to my mother giving her skin firming cream for her now fragile and thinner skin. Ant-aging can be this compulsion because society is obsessed and terrified of being older of looking your age (unless you’re a kid then you want to look older) but it can also be just self care. (Like how a lot of dermatologists here say the best anti-aging treatment is daily application of sunscreen.)
I agree. Using anti-aging skincare isn’t agist in itself. It’s the why and how someone is using it. Personally, I think the ageism is more so with how anti-aging is marketed. Media shows young people without signs of aging using these products, and were also hearing talk by Sephora kids saying they don’t want old people in stores because it’s too late for them to use anti-aging skincare as if anti-aging skincare magically stops aging 😂. I thought that was funny, but it also speaks on unrealistic expectations people can have with anti-aging and results which is another issue that is a source of insecurity for many.
I’m trying so hard to hold my tongue on the Sephora kids situation, but as someone who has worked with kids in school…I can not express enough how much I want to put these kids in time out. “Sit and think about your actions and how they have consequences!!” 😑
Hi Alice ❌️ ⭕️
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The word "anti-aging" is overused. I don't care about fine lines on my face tbh. We're a living, breathing, history book. It's a part of life. The problem with young ones seeing "anti-aging" is they are way too concerned about fine lines, etc etc at a VERY young age. It's sad to see that for me. Instead of enjoying their youth, they are more concerned about aging. I'm talking 15 to 20 year olds. Good cleanser, moisturizer, and sunscreen.
If not younger per all the videos popping up on my feed (all the “Sephora kids” videos). It is concerning, but I hope these kids get good parenting to teach them about priorities!
@@AliceintheRabbitHole Right!?!? I have seen some very YOUNG folks on Reddit thinking they're in h*** cause they worry about fine lines and wrinkles WAY too early.
I think ageism has existed for millennia. You only have to look at the folktales and mythologies of ancient cultures across the world to know how older women were seen.
I hate to tell you this, but calling your mom playing in a band “cute” is ageist. It would also be ageist if you called a teenager “cute” for doing the same thing. Gotta tell you that I’ve been there, done both, and have my foot firmly stuck in my mouth more often than I’d like to admit. (In 67 years of life, you have a lot of opportunities to be ageist, prejudiced, and just plain stupid. And I’ve done it a lot.)
Thank you for letting me know 💕