Can I just point out >OP paid for the tickets!?< Why is a HS student buying tickets for her family to come to her graduation!?!? This child is used to being forgotten and took matters into her own hands...and still got left empty handed
@@NatasiaEmbroidery Good question. I bet there's a lot more going on than we think between OP and their parents. I'm just saying that in big high schools, you might end up buying the extra tickets because they only have so much room in the venue.
That’s what I was thinking. Like, schools have all the dates locked down & sent to parents at the start of the school year. There was no excuse for them to not know when it was. Her being valedictorian may have have been a surprise, but that date was not.
@@jeannadavis2872 yes. why was the camping trip even planned for that weekend?. did none of the other girls going have people graduating? Why didn't the parents say no to the trip? Damn, my older sister came to my 8th grade graduation and she was married and 8 months pregnant at the time.
OP said that the parents got an email about it. So if the dad didn’t bother to pay attention to that and then didn’t care enough to move his plans to make up for that lack of attention on his part, how is he so surprised that his daughter didn’t feel like he cared to be there and sold the tickets to someone whose family DID want to be there?
There was an update, they had a good time with mom and seem to have made friends with the other girl’s family. They all went out to dinner instead of going to the after party. OP seems kinda done with their family apart from mom, which is fair
The sister, she is 15, was one of the original planners of sleepover, and they came up with the idea a week prior. She knew about the grad months before. OP says says the sister has been very competitive lately, especially when it came to their parents. Sister insisted that the dad comes to her sleepover, and she did not want to be the only one in her group late, so she refused to go at a different time. OP and her mom told the dad about the reddit post, and he went to stay with his mom. Grandma called mom to tell them off, and mom said to keep him.
What in the actual heck?!? My sister lives halfway across the country from me. Literally like 30 minutes ago she sent out a text to our sibling group telling us that our nephew's graduation is tonight and sent a link so we can watch it. One of my kids is making up a dance class and we already have plans to take the kids into the city to go shopping. But I immediately responded and said we'd watch as much as we can. Because that's important to him! OP's dad has some messed up priorities. 😢
High school graduation is listed on the school's calendar, which is available to parents when the school year begins. That is a lot of advance notice. I agree with Candy Thunder, this is a once in a lifetime event, and a huge milestone. Reschedule the sleepover.
He'll probably pull the same crap at her wedding. "Sorry I missed the ceremony and walking you down the aisle, but the bar's still open so we're all good, right?"
NTA! Your dad is telling you, OP, that you aren't worth his time. OP, you were kind to offer your extra tickets to people who could use them. Your dad is an ahole. Don't waste your time on him. It isn't a relationship worth having until he: 1) learns interpersonal skills 2) gets therapy 3) apologises to you completely 4) stops being a shitty parent Finally, congratulations on being valedictorianon. Good luck with college and life! Keep being kind and grow as a person.
Lost my grandma in 2020. I sang the national anthem for my 2006 graduation. Along with both of my parents, She was there and so proud. OP got FREAKING VALEDICTORIAN. They're NTA, and Dad won't be seeing much of OP post-grad
Also I can't believe the parents didn't know the HS graduation was coming out cause the school pump out SO MUCH messaging around it, and the fact SHE had to buy her own grad tickets makes both parents AHs.
NTA! I doubt a parent for each and every kid at the sleepover would have been required or that your father and sister couldn't have left a couple of hours early to be at your graduation on time. I truly can't blame OP on this one.
I would have never missed my childs graduation. My mother didn't miss mine and she passed 6 months afterwards. I would never want my children to do without me and think i didn't live or care for them. Dads a a dick! NTA
I can remember when I graduated but, that my graduation date was given to us six months in advance so that we can inform friends and family of the day and they can schedule off work or anything else to be in attendance. Which really helped out to have my mom that lives in a different state show up for my graduation. Also my aunt also made sure that my younger cousins was there and didn’t have any long else going on so that I could feel loved and appreciated and supported by my family.
My grandmother and aunt attended my graduation with my mother when they heard my dad couldn't get the day off (he'd lose his job). My grandmother and aunt lived 4 hours away.
Ok I know Dusty didn’t want to put sister on the scale but if my sister was graduating anything I would be moving plans or cancelling. There’s no way I would miss a siblings graduating. OP is NTA. Dad sucks
Yesterday was my little brother Noah's graduation and the whole family was there including my boyfriend. Noah and I have 3 younger brothers who are special needs. Well..one of them started crying during the graduation ceremony and my boyfriend and I took him out to try and calm him down. My boyfriend saw that I was visibly upset because I didn't want to miss anything so my sweet boyfriend offered to watch my youngest brother for me. Unfortunately, he ended up missing most of the graduation but I'm forever grateful that he did that because I would've been heartbroken if I didn't see Noah walk across that stage.
My dad missed the end of my college graduation cause he had to 💩 and he also missed my Basic Training from the ARMY graduation (my mother missed family day but was there for the graduation... I also had to apologize for my parent's lack of planning). These are some of the reasons why I'm NC with my parents today. OP is NTA and deserves so much better than what she got.
💯 NTA. PROTECT YOUR PEACE SWEET GIRL. If your dad and sister think that a little sleepover is more important than your actual graduation and you busting your ass and becoming valedictorian of your class, then they don't deserve you
Let's be honest - dad doesn't give two wooden nickels about OP's graduation, valedictorian or not. The date for graduation was set at the beginning of the school year at the very latest! You cannot tell me the sleepover was planned 8-9 months ago. Shame on dad for being a piece of garbage. OP is NTA. Mom is an enabler. Dad is Ascon1 for putting little sister's thing first.
Sorry but a dad at a sleepover with 16 year olds give me mayor creepvibes. Sorry for single dads but dads with wifes yeah ..no. Btw this story had an update. She went doing something that whole day with her mum and sister and dad weren't invited. Mum was complete behind op and told dad off.
NTA. They made their choice. OP was giving a speech as Valedictorian. They should not have made plans for the day of her graduation. I think OP did the right thing.
Graduation dates are often announced MONTHS if not a year in advance. And senior year is ALL ABOUT graduation. There's yearbooks and graduation rings and caps and gowns and cords and stuff to purchase. It's when you typically find out where a kid's going to college... Capstone testing or projects get planned... Internships are passed out. THE WHOLE YEAR revolves around that graduation date. So I heavily doubt that that little sleepover was planned BEFORE the graduation date. And even if, for some bizarre reason it was, you're only going to get to see your kid graduate with honors and give their speech ONE TIME at their high school graduation. It's not as if he can just "catch the next one". He effed up royally here, and I wouldn't blame OP if this damaged her relationship with dad permanently.
The tickets were bought weeks in advance. Maybe dad didn't know the time and assumed he could do both. But he KNEW what day it was. Dad was okay with missing photos, the ceremony, and OP's speech, but was mad he was disinvited from the after party. Dad is clearly saying, "I don't actually care about you or your accomplishments. I just want free food, and to not look like a deadbeat in front of the other parents."
That's the thing tho. The graduation date has been set in stone since the start of the school year. There's no way the sleepover was planned that far in advance. It doesn't matter if she was valedictorian or not. She was graduating. That's enough.
NTA. Graduations don't just pop up two weeks before they happen. Dad could/should have known about this well in advance and should have told you her sister she could not go to sleepover because they needed to support older sister. Sleepovers happen whenever you make arrangements for them. High school graduation happens once. Valedictorian happens even less. So for them to prioritize a girl's hangout over these two major accomplishments is BS. Dad is A..con1 and sister is at least a 2.
Mom and dad had to have known ahead of time. Do you really think the daughter NEVER talked about it coming up? And there were caps and gowns to buy. They’re not a last minute thing. Dad can go kick rocks.
@@Jakebrand11208, Car Pool other daughter to the sleepover. Parents being there is something they don't really need (one or two parents are required, not one for each girl). There. Done. Choice is made.
@@Jakebrand11208 I guarantee you that having dad at the sleepover was not as important to daughter A as him being there at graduation was to daughter B. What kid _wants_ their parent there for a sleepover?
OP is definitely the asscanaut. Her father and sister were going to be there, just late. The fact OP went and did this just out of spite is sickening. Dad and sister are in the correct. OP was wrong.
She was giving a Valedictorian speech which they were going to miss for a sleepover. Being Valedictorian is a big deal and so is graduating. A sleepover is not.
Are you serious? Dad had previous knowledge of the once in a lifetime graduation from high school. Arriving late means you WILL miss the valedictorian speech. PRIORITIES! Sleep over/camp out vs. graduation is a no brainer. Tell me who's daddy's favorite without telling me who's daddy's favorite... NTA all the way!
@strawberi6257 plans were made in advance. The sister shouldn't be punished for OP springing it on them at the last moment. Sister is not favorite, dad is just being respectful of first come, first serve.
@@animorphs17 Do you really think the school's email about graduation came after the sleepover plans were made?? And they couldn't leave early enough to make it for her speech?? Priorities will remain. Older sister is not daddy's little girl.
Younger sister is the golden child, I would bet on that.
Can I just point out >OP paid for the tickets!?< Why is a HS student buying tickets for her family to come to her graduation!?!? This child is used to being forgotten and took matters into her own hands...and still got left empty handed
my high school was massive, so we only got 2 tickets each, but we had to buy more tickets if we needed them.
@@witchyvicar why didn't the family buy the tickets, though? The parents? Why did OP?
Agreed the parents should have paid for them
@@NatasiaEmbroidery Good question. I bet there's a lot more going on than we think between OP and their parents. I'm just saying that in big high schools, you might end up buying the extra tickets because they only have so much room in the venue.
They knew the whole school year what the graduation day was. So it wasn’t like it was just announced. What a poor excuse for a father
That’s what I was thinking. Like, schools have all the dates locked down & sent to parents at the start of the school year. There was no excuse for them to not know when it was. Her being valedictorian may have have been a surprise, but that date was not.
@@jeannadavis2872 yes. why was the camping trip even planned for that weekend?. did none of the other girls going have people graduating? Why didn't the parents say no to the trip? Damn, my older sister came to my 8th grade graduation and she was married and 8 months pregnant at the time.
OP said that the parents got an email about it. So if the dad didn’t bother to pay attention to that and then didn’t care enough to move his plans to make up for that lack of attention on his part, how is he so surprised that his daughter didn’t feel like he cared to be there and sold the tickets to someone whose family DID want to be there?
There was an update, they had a good time with mom and seem to have made friends with the other girl’s family. They all went out to dinner instead of going to the after party. OP seems kinda done with their family apart from mom, which is fair
Ty for update😊
The sister, she is 15, was one of the original planners of sleepover, and they came up with the idea a week prior. She knew about the grad months before. OP says says the sister has been very competitive lately, especially when it came to their parents. Sister insisted that the dad comes to her sleepover, and she did not want to be the only one in her group late, so she refused to go at a different time.
OP and her mom told the dad about the reddit post, and he went to stay with his mom. Grandma called mom to tell them off, and mom said to keep him.
I didn’t even go to my graduation and I feel awful for OP. This is a huge accomplishment and dad is pathetic.
Thank you Candy Thunder I feel the same way you will have to miss the sleepover because your sister only graduates high school once
What in the actual heck?!? My sister lives halfway across the country from me. Literally like 30 minutes ago she sent out a text to our sibling group telling us that our nephew's graduation is tonight and sent a link so we can watch it. One of my kids is making up a dance class and we already have plans to take the kids into the city to go shopping. But I immediately responded and said we'd watch as much as we can. Because that's important to him!
OP's dad has some messed up priorities. 😢
High school graduation is listed on the school's calendar, which is available to parents when the school year begins. That is a lot of advance notice. I agree with Candy Thunder, this is a once in a lifetime event, and a huge milestone. Reschedule the sleepover.
Years later OP dad is going to ask "Why doesn't my oldest daughter talk to me?"
He'll probably pull the same crap at her wedding. "Sorry I missed the ceremony and walking you down the aisle, but the bar's still open so we're all good, right?"
@@cheshiredeimos1874"It's not a big deal. You'll still be married at the end of it, and I'll be there for the dancing."
Dad has redefined their relationship forever.
NTA!
Your dad is telling you, OP, that you aren't worth his time. OP, you were kind to offer your extra tickets to people who could use them. Your dad is an ahole. Don't waste your time on him. It isn't a relationship worth having until he:
1) learns interpersonal skills
2) gets therapy
3) apologises to you completely
4) stops being a shitty parent
Finally, congratulations on being valedictorianon. Good luck with college and life! Keep being kind and grow as a person.
Lost my grandma in 2020. I sang the national anthem for my 2006 graduation. Along with both of my parents, She was there and so proud. OP got FREAKING VALEDICTORIAN. They're NTA, and Dad won't be seeing much of OP post-grad
Also I can't believe the parents didn't know the HS graduation was coming out cause the school pump out SO MUCH messaging around it, and the fact SHE had to buy her own grad tickets makes both parents AHs.
Graduations are planned months in advance! There's no way this sleepover has been on the cards longer than this. NTA
NTA! I doubt a parent for each and every kid at the sleepover would have been required or that your father and sister couldn't have left a couple of hours early to be at your graduation on time. I truly can't blame OP on this one.
Dad was presented with the opportunity to make some effort to be there and was like, "Nah."
I would have never missed my childs graduation. My mother didn't miss mine and she passed 6 months afterwards. I would never want my children to do without me and think i didn't live or care for them. Dads a a dick! NTA
Dad needs to learn priorities. Good for OP for setting boundaries!!
Dad has priorities - his golden child, the younger daughter.
@@kayjacoby290 good point, he needs to learn the right priorities 😬
I can remember when I graduated but, that my graduation date was given to us six months in advance so that we can inform friends and family of the day and they can schedule off work or anything else to be in attendance. Which really helped out to have my mom that lives in a different state show up for my graduation. Also my aunt also made sure that my younger cousins was there and didn’t have any long else going on so that I could feel loved and appreciated and supported by my family.
My grandmother and aunt attended my graduation with my mother when they heard my dad couldn't get the day off (he'd lose his job). My grandmother and aunt lived 4 hours away.
Ok I know Dusty didn’t want to put sister on the scale but if my sister was graduating anything I would be moving plans or cancelling. There’s no way I would miss a siblings graduating. OP is NTA. Dad sucks
I think the sister deserves an ascon grade as well for not supporting her sister's huge achievement.
Younger sister is the golden child. I guarantee she’s also no where near getting valedictorian 🙄 NTA!
Yesterday was my little brother Noah's graduation and the whole family was there including my boyfriend. Noah and I have 3 younger brothers who are special needs. Well..one of them started crying during the graduation ceremony and my boyfriend and I took him out to try and calm him down. My boyfriend saw that I was visibly upset because I didn't want to miss anything so my sweet boyfriend offered to watch my youngest brother for me. Unfortunately, he ended up missing most of the graduation but I'm forever grateful that he did that because I would've been heartbroken if I didn't see Noah walk across that stage.
My dad missed the end of my college graduation cause he had to 💩 and he also missed my Basic Training from the ARMY graduation (my mother missed family day but was there for the graduation... I also had to apologize for my parent's lack of planning).
These are some of the reasons why I'm NC with my parents today. OP is NTA and deserves so much better than what she got.
💯 NTA. PROTECT YOUR PEACE SWEET GIRL. If your dad and sister think that a little sleepover is more important than your actual graduation and you busting your ass and becoming valedictorian of your class, then they don't deserve you
Some people shouldn't be parents 🙄
Absolutely. And if they do, they shouldn't be the creepy dad who goes on an overnight with a bunch of 16 year old girls.
@@kayjacoby290 Yes!
My thing is when child graduate go to the graduation and graduation comes one time a year
Let's be honest - dad doesn't give two wooden nickels about OP's graduation, valedictorian or not. The date for graduation was set at the beginning of the school year at the very latest! You cannot tell me the sleepover was planned 8-9 months ago. Shame on dad for being a piece of garbage. OP is NTA. Mom is an enabler. Dad is Ascon1 for putting little sister's thing first.
My mom didn't go to my graduation, I was hurt and I was an adult.
This is a graduation!!!!!
Did Dad graduate at the bottom of his class or even skip his high school grad ceremony? This is a big deal!
Why couldn’t the dad take the sister to the sleepover after the graduation?
It's not fine if it matters to OP, the Dad and Sis are really crappy.
Sorry but a dad at a sleepover with 16 year olds give me mayor creepvibes. Sorry for single dads but dads with wifes yeah ..no.
Btw this story had an update. She went doing something that whole day with her mum and sister and dad weren't invited. Mum was complete behind op and told dad off.
NTA!!!
NTA. They made their choice. OP was giving a speech as Valedictorian. They should not have made plans for the day of her graduation. I think OP did the right thing.
It makes you wonder would he do the same thing when it comes to her wedding
Graduation dates are often announced MONTHS if not a year in advance. And senior year is ALL ABOUT graduation. There's yearbooks and graduation rings and caps and gowns and cords and stuff to purchase. It's when you typically find out where a kid's going to college... Capstone testing or projects get planned... Internships are passed out. THE WHOLE YEAR revolves around that graduation date. So I heavily doubt that that little sleepover was planned BEFORE the graduation date.
And even if, for some bizarre reason it was, you're only going to get to see your kid graduate with honors and give their speech ONE TIME at their high school graduation. It's not as if he can just "catch the next one". He effed up royally here, and I wouldn't blame OP if this damaged her relationship with dad permanently.
NTA why would he and your sister arrange this on the day of your graduation
First kid graduates and is valedictorian… sorry sis, no sleepover
The tickets were bought weeks in advance. Maybe dad didn't know the time and assumed he could do both. But he KNEW what day it was. Dad was okay with missing photos, the ceremony, and OP's speech, but was mad he was disinvited from the after party. Dad is clearly saying, "I don't actually care about you or your accomplishments. I just want free food, and to not look like a deadbeat in front of the other parents."
Why didn't the mom put her foot down and make them both go to her graduation?
That's the thing tho. The graduation date has been set in stone since the start of the school year. There's no way the sleepover was planned that far in advance. It doesn't matter if she was valedictorian or not. She was graduating. That's enough.
NTA. Graduations don't just pop up two weeks before they happen. Dad could/should have known about this well in advance and should have told you her sister she could not go to sleepover because they needed to support older sister. Sleepovers happen whenever you make arrangements for them. High school graduation happens once. Valedictorian happens even less. So for them to prioritize a girl's hangout over these two major accomplishments is BS. Dad is A..con1 and sister is at least a 2.
Mom and dad had to have known ahead of time. Do you really think the daughter NEVER talked about it coming up? And there were caps and gowns to buy. They’re not a last minute thing. Dad can go kick rocks.
💙❤️🧡
Anyone else getting weird vibes of a dad chaperone a bunch of 16 year old girls? Maybe I watch too much SVU but that's giving me ick vibes.
Graduation is not that important 😂
It was to OP. For that reason alone, it should've been important to OP's dad.
@@Vox-Multis and the sleepover wasn’t important to the other daughter, choosing between children is bad on both ends
@@Jakebrand11208,
Car Pool other daughter to the sleepover. Parents being there is something they don't really need (one or two parents are required, not one for each girl).
There. Done. Choice is made.
It is when you are valedictorian
@@Jakebrand11208 I guarantee you that having dad at the sleepover was not as important to daughter A as him being there at graduation was to daughter B. What kid _wants_ their parent there for a sleepover?
OP is definitely the asscanaut. Her father and sister were going to be there, just late. The fact OP went and did this just out of spite is sickening. Dad and sister are in the correct. OP was wrong.
She was giving a Valedictorian speech which they were going to miss for a sleepover. Being Valedictorian is a big deal and so is graduating. A sleepover is not.
Are you serious? Dad had previous knowledge of the once in a lifetime graduation from high school. Arriving late means you WILL miss the valedictorian speech. PRIORITIES! Sleep over/camp out vs. graduation is a no brainer. Tell me who's daddy's favorite without telling me who's daddy's favorite... NTA all the way!
@strawberi6257 plans were made in advance. The sister shouldn't be punished for OP springing it on them at the last moment. Sister is not favorite, dad is just being respectful of first come, first serve.
@@animorphs17 👆🏻 Well we found the petulant teen commenter. Or maybe the sister. (That's you, in case you were wondering.) 👆🏻
@@animorphs17 Do you really think the school's email about graduation came after the sleepover plans were made?? And they couldn't leave early enough to make it for her speech?? Priorities will remain. Older sister is not daddy's little girl.