This was beautiful. Thank you for sharing these memories. I love to always ask myself why am I making money? What do I plan to do with it. For security? I am safe in the shelter of the Most High. Enjoyment? The joy of the Lord is my strength. For my kids? They want me more than anything I could ever buy. For freedom? Well, then I don't want to be a slave to my business. And I could continue. Yes, I need money, we all do, but it's not my source. This video reminded me of this today and I am grateful!
Thank you for saying this! I’m not going to lie, I’ve really been struggling with what TH-camrs to watch, what to believe, etc. I think it’s important to follow and take in influencers that really are you’re tribe and have the same or close to the same beliefs and models you have, otherwise it does become unnecessary noise. I think as a content consumer I walk away from big sellers on TH-cam and social media feeling like there’s a Key to the castle and you all are the only ones that have said Key so it’s hustle hustle to get it figured out. I made a commitment to myself at the beginning of this year just to maintain my business and only do/watch/take in things and people that are conducive to my business. No more BS, no more advice from people who have a new strategy every week to beat sales, beat the algorithm, blah, blah, blah… I hope everyone can take a step back, smell the roses and know it’s okay not to be perfect every day. ❤
Me too! I actually unfollowed some channels and I followed some new accounts. I dont know some people get too big to they point it's unrealistic. I truly enjoy watching people when they are at the start of their journey and I like following along.
@@Tania_VolverVintage I get it! Without mentioning names, there is a reseller that is super hyper focused on the analytics of the business but not taking into account prices, trends and ever changing platforms. The advice given in my opinion by this reseller was trash and it’s misguiding to new resellers and can cloud us old dogs to the point where we will upheave our closets to match what they’re doing. It starts to feel like bs. The ones that dog posh and say they’re done but push out videos about how to make sales on posh all the sudden… it’s ridiculous. 🤦🏻♀️ I have my top few I watch religiously because they align with me and my business, I have a group I watch for brands, I’ve deleted the crap TH-camrs and then I have a pool of what I call hobby watches ( if I ever have time to do so.) 💕
Mandy, your post really resonated with me. I have been turned off by many of the hustle culture egos lately in the reselling community and had to make the tough decision to unfollow them for my own peace of mind.
@@TheLaurieRo I completely understand. You’ll feel better for it I promise! Reselling is tough right now, the world is tough right now. Not all is lost. There’s still money to be made, I’m still making it! You just have to pivot, get creative, pull up you’re bootstraps and get to hustling! 💕
I see the pain in your eyes I am so sorry for your loss breaks my heart Your the first TH-camr to discuss this topic and Thank you for sharing something this personal this is such a touchy subject Wow it takes courage And strength to carry on after losing a close family member I pray for the entire world for more love ❤️ and Genuine happiness 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you for being so open and honest about this. I’m a full time reseller since September and it’s taken some time to get out of the toxic hustle culture. I schedule a whole week out of the month to do nothing but spending time with my kiddos and taking care of plants and the house and it’s wonderful! It doesn’t affect my sales at all. It’s ok to be away from the business.
The reason why I got into reselling was so that I could take a break when I need to. I spent the majority of my career working in retail management where taking a break was near impossible. To me, no job is worth my mental or physical health or being able to spend time with loved ones. My heart goes out to you Becky. My mom has dementia and I know how deeply it hurts watching someone you love go through that. Sending hugs to you and your family.
Thank you for sharing such personal info, please take care. After the pandemic and now working full-time I’ve accumulated over 100 items to sell, and now I have to find out how to sell them all online. I hope I can successfully accomplish this task. I’m sending my best to you and your family. Tlc
Becky this was so good. Thank you for this reminder. I'm so sorry about your father in law's passing. It is so easy to get caught up in everything, we really do need to take a step back and check our big picture. Sending you lots of love.
Becky! Yes!! Just a couple mins in but boyy does this resonate. As amazing as the reselling community is.. it is still very much "hustle culture" which if that's what you love, that awesome. But it's just not my jam. As someone with chronic health issues & currently laid up for a couple months w/a broken ankle I'm just surviving right now💖
aaaaannnndd.. now I'm balling. My mom is going thru the same thing with her dad right now. He goes in & out & it is soo hard on my mom❤️Love everything you've said in this video Becky❤️
This is a great topic. Thank you. I'd be interested to hear from a male re-seller on taking care of themselves and if they experience the same pressure and guilt.
My heart reaches out to you & your family. Thank you for sharing, & thank you for reminding me that I don't have a perfect balance, but I'm still ok 'cause I'm human:)
I’ve said this on my IG before…almost verbatim. I look at reselling as I look at my corporate positions; if I need a break, I’m gonna take it. If I don’t wanna do reseller stuff for a day because I wanna be lazy & don’t feel motivated, I do it because if I were at work, I’d have to manage my team regardless & get my work done regardless. It’s my job. if I ask for time off to recharge or a mental health day, I’m not asking, it’s a heads up out of courtesy. All of that to say, I will plan time off or not, but I treat my business as a real job. Im my own manager & I have to be able to manage myself well, We have to keep our health in check on ALL 3 planes while also approaching reselling as the real job that it is. Whether it’s full time or part time. Wonderful video, Becky. I am sorry you lost your father in law; he sounds like he was such a genuine soul ♥️
I own a home care agency for seniors. Thank you for sharing Michael’s story. That touched my heart and reminded me of the importance of not losing sight of self and those we love.
Thanks for this beautiful video. So sorry for your loss. Sending virtual hugs from Hoffman Estates, IL. Hustle culture is real in reselling/TH-cam community and US really. It's funny how you touched on being careful of what we consume on here and how some people aren't well. I recently found myself not watching as much content from some for this very reason.I found myself as a woman comparing myself to husband/wife resellers when I'm single with no help or family who respect my successful reselling business OR male resellers who have wives, in-laws and courses/membership $ to fall on so their perspective was jaded...I realized that as a mental health professional and reseller I had begun the dangerous comparison game...no more
Thank you for your comment. It really spoke to me. I am often hard on myself and do the same. I watched video on pallet liquidation/reselling and literally got frustrated. How can i get a pallet with no husband to help lift it? Then a dangerous path of what ifs & the ease i would have with help from a partner. A house with more space etc. I am single and raising kid in single parent household. I feel much better now limiting the contradictions of media & content. I also worked in mental health at a group home & psych unit. I knw God has a path for me
@@copperwarrior Thank you my sister. I think this video verbalized what alot of us may feel or going through. Sending hugs & continued success for your business🥰
Well said Becky. Sorry for your loss. I don't know how you manage to go to work everyday, thrift for items, list your items, cross post, ship, AND record and edit videos! PLUS spend time with your family. My full time business is reselling and I try to do You Tube videos but that usually is done into the nighttime (family time) so it gets pushed off frequently. Koodos to you for getting all that done, and Yes, you need to take those days, weeks for yourself! For sure! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you thank you thank you!!!! I am feeling this so much, it's so nice to know that we're not alone in this journey, even when we take a break from it!
I've been watching your channel for years. I feel like you're a distant pen pal. I'm so sorry for your loss. You verbalize the struggle of so many of us that are "too busy" for our own good. Thank you. Sending you the warmest, most sincere hugs.
4 minutes in, I felt you were reading my profile. I am that person yet I do not have tons of sales, It's my way of hiding from myself, people in general, and so much more. Since 2019 when I started because I needed to put down my beloved Sweetness, then to escape the pandemic.I'm not sure how to come out of this cave but the biz might just force me to face reality the way things are going. Thank you for being vulnerable and honest.🕉☯️☮
So sorry for your loss. Part-Time and side hustle people do need different advice and mantras. And you are right that all of the reseller content out there creates a super awareness of the algorithms preference for consistency and all of the possible numbers. When reselling isn't your livelihood, you don't need these thoughts.
Thank you! This video is very much needed! Like you, I work full-time. I work at a jail, which is high stress. I don't get off until midnight (sometimes later) and last night I came home and had sold something and packaged it so my husband could take it to the post office today. After I got up and tended to morning chores, I noticed a label hanging out of my label printer. I immediately started to panic. I started texting my husband thinking he took the package without the label. I started to think the customer wouldn't get their item, I'd have to do a refund, and I'd get a bad feedback. After several minutes of scrambling in my brain how to fix the situation, I just happened to glance over at my scale and the package was still on the scale. Though it was a great sense of relief, it kind of surprised me how upset I got. I absolutely love reselling but it has consumed my life! My husband is a reseller too and it's all we do. We turn down invitations because of reselling. We have three dogs and I can't tell you how many times they lay around and sigh because we are ignoring them. Thank you for this video!
YES! Thank you for making this video. I've unfollowed a few reselling channels because their content is just a constant grind to the point that it's so off putting. I love reselling and will always resell at some scale but I dont want this to consume my life. It's not who I am or what I do full time, its just a part time gig for me! Ive felt guilty about my numbers and not keeping up with listing and I dont want to feel guilty about reselling anymore and just get back to just truly enjoying it wether I make 1 sale or 100.
1000%. It's so easy to lose ourselves and the reason we got into this when we pay too much attention to the noise around us. I appreciate you and hope you're doing well!!!
I am a mom of 6. We just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary & are taking all of our kids (now ages 16-24) to Cabo in a couple of weeks. It will be the first time in a loooooong time that I am completely shutting down my stores for 7 days. I needed this talk today. I am looking forward to focusing on my family! God bless you & your family Becky!
I’m so sorry for your loss. This was a beautiful video, raw, loving and honest. We often lose perspective when we are in the grind of it all. It’s important to remember what’s really important. Reselling is great but it’s so easy to get lost in all the hustle of it. It’s also hard to not play the comparison game. But everyone is different and you are right, we all deserve to take breaks! Thank you for the reminder. Condolences to your family.
Thank you thank you thank you🙏🏼💗💗💗🦋🦋 I as a new full time reseller needed to hear this. So grateful for you, your channel and sharing about what really matters. Keep being amazing!!!! Life is too short 🙏🏼. So sorry for the loss of your father in law. Sending love ❤️
This hit really hard, just lost my grandma last week too and spent the whole week with family planning the funeral :( was definitely a reminder of what’s important and how I want to spend my time. Im sorry for your loss and hope y’all are doing well🫶🏽
I'm so very sorry about your father inlaw, thank you for sharing. Last year my husband found out he had cancer. Luckley I was full time in my reselling journey. Long story I had been with a job for 13 years and I learned from that job to spend the time with my family. As soon as I found out about my husbands cancer I spent half my summer preparing for what I needed to do , so in the fall when he started treatment I would be able to spend that time with him. Needless to say I didn't prepare enough, but I kept reminding myself my time with him is more important and everything would be okay.. Life is so short and I learned Grace and not to compare my journey to someone elses. Thank you again for your content.
I needed this today. Thank you so much for always keeping it real. I really get so much out of all your videos but this one hit hard. ❤️ Sorry for you loss, your father in law sounds like he was a lovely man.
I have had this conversation with myself recently. This is a side hustle for me. I'm doing it for extra income. I have a part time job too and I feel like sometimes I'm consumed with all the what ifs with reselling. Life is about people first! FYI, I'm a hospice nurse so I understand what your family went through. Prayers for your family during this time.
oh my - thank you for the hard work you do as a hospice nurse. But you're right - especially for us part-timers juggling full time jobs, families, etc - we need to show ourselves MUCH more grace than we do. Especially when we're in fields like nursing and education and taking on some of the burdens of those we work with. We can't forget to make time for ourselves and our loved ones. Thank you for your comment.
My goodness, so sorry to hear about your loss. I've been a reseller full time for 6 years and my wife just recovered from a 2 year breast cancer battle with Chemo, Radiation, and Surgery along the way. I lost my spark and fire for reselling up until quite recently. There's so much more to life than reselling, and stepping away for quite a while made me realize that the reason I love this job is because I can set my own schedule and be with the family at the drop of a hat. Keep up the good work Becky!
I'm so happy to hear that your wife has recovered and that after some time away, you've rekindled the joy that comes from reselling. I hope you're able to hold onto that in the coming years and that your wife stays in remission as well! Thank you for watching and for your kind comment
Very true. It's amazing that we'll let our inner voice say things to us we would never allow anyone else to say to us. It's the same way if you take a break from a diet or exercise or even time off work. You beat yourself up so much you can't enjoy the break. My heart goes out to you and your family. Take all the time you need. ❤
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Great advice Becky, I too work full time and reselling part time and then started youtube channel as well so I do have to watch myself as well cause I get to panicky so much if I am not working on my reselling in my down time. So thanks for this great video and again I'm so sorry for your loss.
Thank you for making this video. I know there are many who whether they knew it or not, needed to hear it. I, too, am part time. I retired and have other streams of income. Family, health and the ability to experience all emotions are more important. Reselling keeps me engaged, thinking and not sitting around, and a little extra money. Good for you that you recognized you were traveling into a unhealthy head space. Enjoy your life!
Thank you for your kind and gentle comment, V. It is jarring to look up all of a sudden and realize you've taken something too far and lost sight of your priorities. You're exactly right - we can't forget to enjoy our lives!
Thank you so much for being so personal and open. Recent cancer diagnosis quickly gave me this perspective to SLOW DOWN and enjoy the people that are important. Condolences 🙏🏾
Thank you for verbalizing what I have been feeling. I went on a three day vacation put all my stores on Vacay mode. A seller bought something, I was about to ship when I got back and the buyer said never mind I needed it for specific date. The buyer never shared that with me, I felt so guilty. But at tbt same time, I have to give myself some Grace. I can’t do it all.
Spot on video. Nothing is more important than family and the memories created with them are our legacy, not things, not sales. The loss of a parent is devastating and life-altering. Thank you for honoring your father-in-law and for reminding us all what's really important. Prayers and healing wishes to you and your family.🙏
Thanks so much for sharing this Becky! I remind myself often that I don’t have to grow my business like other people. I want to enjoy the process and learn leisurely and not beat myself up for mistakes. Well said, grateful for your wisdom!❤️
I am so sorry to hear about you father-in-law. Wow Becky I needed to hear this I am taking care of my mom who has dementia while working as a Medical Assistant also being a TH-camr, a reseller and a spark driver and I have had to step back from reselling because I just don’t have the time nor energy. But I feel guilty not being able to do it all so thanks again I needed to hear this.
AMEN!! Too many folks perpetuating the guilt, pushing the fomo, and bragging and too many people looking for the "be all, end all" to guarantee a bit more freedom from horrendous jobs or situations. Again, AMEN for bringing it up and admitting to the bit of guilt you had towards spending time reselling. Now ... did you have any of those feelings towards your daily job?
I am not a cryer, but this made me cry. You shared such wisdom, kindness, and it speaks to who you are as a person and how blessed your family is to have you in their life. Praying for your people during this time of loss, and keep up the good work Becky!
First of all, so sorry to hear about your Father-in-law, although it was sweet memories of him you spoke about. Also, thank you for the talk. It is hard, as this is my sole income & I'm single and struggling, but busting my behind every day (except Sunday) I have learned how to tweak my time management although I never run out of work! lol...I'm very motivated, but have had to learn to step back a little and take care of my antique booth, visit with my Mother & spend time with other family & I do work on myself. I work out every morning before work & eat a nice dinner every night. I'm still overwhelmed, but it's getting better. I sleep peaceful at night :) . Thank God for getting me through & telling me to take a step back months ago. "Let go & let God" is not just a cute plaque on the wall, you have to live it! Prayers & hugs to you
I love hearing about how intentional you are with the hours God gave you each day! You are so strong, and I hope that you experience so much success with your reselling business, but that you also continue to find joy in the other parts of your life as well. Thank you ❤️
I am so sorry for you and your family’s loss. You brought me to tears and you are 100% right. Thank you. ❤ I wish you guys strength getting through everything.
I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing this very vulnerable part of yourself. I think to often were so focused on hustle that we forget that the stack of packages isn't going to be what people remember is how we made them feel.
Becky you are amazing. My business is my me time. 😆 I am a nerd 🤓 I have a hard day and just need to list it brings me joy. 😅 (this is what I am training myself to think 🤔)
Thank you for sharing such beautiful memories of your Father in Law. This whole message is so important. Courtney from Common Tags recently shared something similar. I've spent the last couple of days feeling badly about not having the mental capacity to list because my full time job has been taking up so much of my time. This is such a timely message :)
When I started reselling about 5 years ago, I honestly thought it was easier. I have had to reckon lately that many of the selling platforms are asking resellers to do more, i.e. list more, pay for promoted listings, etc; and items are getting fewer views even with all these efforts. Hard to maintain a work balance if you are a listing machine. Fast track to burnout.
You are absolutely correct. I do this part time as a hobby because my wife and I love going to yardsales and such. We started last Oct and I feel we got to possessed with it after the first sales. We got caught up in the you have to list everyday mentality, we were buying just to buy. Now we have slowed down and been more selective about sourcing and slowed down the process, and it hasn't hurt sales at all. We only have 300 items listed but sells are consistent now, and we are enjoying the process. It was always a plan to sell after retirement in a couple years just to stay active.
I understand where you’re coming from. I lost my grandmother from Alzheimer’s in June 2022. It’s hard when it gets bad near the end. Lots of patience and lots of love is what is needed. I’m here for you Becky!
I'm so sorry for the loss of your father-in-law. I lost my mom last year. Thank you for the talk! I actually find myself getting up in the middle of the night worrying about sending packages, photographing, listing and then...my handicap child reminds me that it's ok to not be ok sometimes. With reselling and any job we end up looking towards what needs to be done versus what can be done. Hugs to you and your family.
Thank you for discussing this. I understand how it feels watching a family member have memory lapses and lose them slowly, it's a strange kind of pain. Keeping yourself and your loved ones your first priority is very important for times like this. We don't need to deserve our rest, we deserve to need rest. I just decided last night to take my first real break from making new listings. Even when I had a surgery a few months back, I took only a few days off, but there's been way too many things to handle lately. As you said, the dip in sales is well worth taking better care of myself for 2-4 weeks. So thanks for affirming the choice I've made
My heart-felt condolences for your family's loss. I recently lost my Brother and everything you said rings wholly true. We are not hamsters so no need to run on the wheel. Everyday is a blessing, not a guarantee. 💗
Thank you for taking the time to share your heart. My mom has dementia, and it's not easy to watch a person disappear. Like your father-in-law she has lucid moments, like the sun coming out from the clouds. I'm sorry that your family went through this. Hugs for all of you,
I am so sorry about your families loss. You are strong for speaking on this subject because in one way or another, everyone deals with struggle and sometimes are afraid to take a break because it will cause a wave in their business. But at the end of the day though, we have a to remember what matters most and this video does just that, so thank you.
Becky I’m so sorry about your father in law. I almost lost my dad at the end of 2021 and he was in and out of hospitals for about 8 months. I had to take care of my mom during that time and I was at my wits end. I’m a mom and a reseller so adding caregiver to that was overwhelming. Plus, I had 2 surgeries after my dad finally came home. It was almost impossible to balance helping them since my dad can’t drive or do a lot of things he could do before while being in pain myself. I wasn’t working hard at my business anymore because there simply wasn’t time or energy for that. I felt like a failure for sure because a lot of my confidence came from what my business brought to our household. I finally found a balance and am starting to get back there again. I feel like I’m able to take care of everyone while also taking care of me. We as women need to take care of ourselves better❤
I was selling as a side hobby for a few years and I had to stop last summer because I moved. The post offices in my new location have shorter hours, so I'm basically working the entire time they are open lol except for my days off. I've basically determined that it's just not possible to be a reseller for a while and I am actually loving not having to do all of the extra work. I think at this point I'd consider doing it again maybe if my job situation changed or if I had something especially good to sell, but... might end up taking a permanent break. And maybe that's what I need. This coincided with me getting a promotion at work last June which means maybe side income isn't as important, but I've also just been diagnosed with PCOS and want more down time. It's okay to have a personal life and take time for yourself. You can't live in stress all the time.
Thank you for sharing your memories with us. I’m sorry for your loss, and am sending prayers to all of you. Just said this tonight to my husband to give people in your life grace if they aren’t giving you what you think they should. We are all on our own journey, and we don’t always know what others are going through. But, we need to give ourselves grace as well. It is the people that surround us that matter, not the material items.
Ohhhh how I know this story.... the EXACT story except it was my dad. I wasn't reselling at the time, but I did take off from my job. I was able to be with him on the day before he transitioned and I'm so thankful to God that I had that time. My sincerest condolences to you and your family. God bless you with the strength and peace to get through this painful time.
I agree. I've taken a few breaks here and there. But when I do, I admit..it's hard to jump back in. Seeing this is solemnly some only means of income, they do grit and gring 24/7...we see the fruit of that from their lifestyle. I will say working a 9 to 5 makes taking a break easy, because your job picks up when your taking a break. All you've said is point on
First, let me offer my condolences to you and your family. I feel tremendous guilt when I am not productive every day. I beat myself up pretty hard. This is my full-time job, so I know how precious my time is. Thank you for this heart-felt video. Much love to you.
Thank you for this video! My brother who is only 29 had a near fatal accident this past summer and is now disabled for the rest of his life. I completely lost all momentum this summer and my business tanked. I’m so glad to be back and have given myself Grace. I hope you give yourself a break too. I admire you and I’m a better reseller because of you. Thank you for your generous spirit and wealth of knowledge. Here with you, praying for your family!
My problem is I WANT to be a full time reseller but I just don't have the time and I'm ALWAYS beating myself up over it... I'm barely a part-time reseller at this point... but I'm raising/homeschooling a 4 year old working part-time at night and taking care of our animals and home during the day. It's a lot especially when my husband is now working 5 days a week for 12+ hours a day lately, it feels like I don't have a lot of help. Anyways... I've learned this message myself and I'm getting better at being okay with it. I think the biggest motivation I get is when I get to thrift and actually find things but lately it's been so bad in my area, I'm lucky to find anything worth selling most days. Also, I find that the reselling market has changed a lot since I started (which is expected) but I'm not able to adapt with what's trending per se.
Tears to my eyes. So sorry for your loss and the arduous path left behind with that disease. Very valuable thoughts. When I'm on the screen so much, I turn around and realize that my kids won't be this little forever. Embrace today and your loved ones! Thank you.
Becky ten years ago I sat in the office of a chief neurologist and heard the diagnosis of early onset of dementia. I was 49. My world was rocked. What you just explained about your father in law is my biggest fear. I know the day is coming when I won't recognize my boys. The reality of that sucks. My journey in reselling started from watching TH-cam resellers. I quickly learned I couldn't run my business like most. I couldn't remember a great brand of clothes from a cheap brand. But even worse before dementia I had NO fashion sense. My store has evolved many different times. Now I am closing in on 1800 different items that no one wants to purchase. LoL. I want to take your advice a little further down life's highway. Appreciate what you have today. Don't worry about future problems. I guarandamntee the issue that drops you will be something so far from what you have worried about. Thanks for sharing that personal message
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I'm so sorry for your loss Becky and family. I have been following you since the beginning (thats when I started too), you helped me in my own reselling journey. Now without even knowing, you have helped me on my own personal journey with my grandma who has dementia and has lost her ability to speak due to a stroke. Since the beginning you have spoken so eloquently and poured out to your viewers/supporters from a place a genuine love. Thank you Becky for you; you are very much appreciated. I will keep you and your family in my prayers through this very difficult time.
Wow. This totally made me tear up... thank you for saying these things, something clicked with me when you said maybe you make adjustments. I have been pretty lousy goosy with my schedule and I feel like if I tightened that up then I WOULD have more of the REASONS why I started (freedom, health, relationships, friends). I'm shooting those down by not tightening up my schedule and staying on track so that I can leave work at work and be present in those areas. Not letting it all bleed over into everything else. Im sorry to hear about your husband's dad but I'm so happy he had you all there loving him right back 💚🌈
I’m so sorry for the loss of your father in law. Thank you for sharing. I’m a newer reseller and watch lots of TH-cam videos as a way to learn. This was perfect timing for me to watch. I have been beating myself up and feeling like I’m failing. Messages we get are only pick up items that will sell higher profit margins, list everyday and how and the algorithms. I’m having a hard time with sourcing quality items as now I’m being picky but not having enough to list to get where I feel I need to be. Still only have less than 200 items. Sales are so slow lately. I’m barely making any money. I’m fortunate that I do have a spouse with a good job but I really need to pick up some of our expenses. I do find myself on my phone constantly. Stresses me out. I started this to have more freedom with my time and find it’s consuming me. I’m a woman of faith and been feeling bad that even that part of my life is being affected. In need to give myself grace and do my best and stop stressing. As we get older we do experience more loss in our lives. Needed this reminder life is short and precious. Thank you and you are my favorite and so relatable. ❤
Becky, I'm new to your videos. I'm also a new reseller... and I very much appreciate you helping me to "head it off at the pass", lol, to become aware of this BEFORE getting too deeply enmeshed with my business.
Wow Becky! This was very timely for me. First of all, my sincerest condolences on your loss. I lost my sister to a heart attack on Monday, we are still in shock. My husband has been battling early stage dementia and I can see it progressing. I've been convicted of my reselling hobby taking precedence over face to face interactions with family. Thank you for your honesty and transparency. I KNOW I was meant to hear this. Keep up the great work! We appreciate you ❤️
Isn’t that crazy how the universe finds a way to make sure we hear what we have to hear when we need to hear it? I’m also so sorry to hear about your sister and your husband. Especially with your sister and the fact that it happened all of a sudden-that must have been so hard. You will definitely be in my prayers tonight.
Hello dear how are you doing I was checking what’s going on here when I come across your profile picture looks amazing it will be an honour to talk to a polite woman like you I don’t normally write in comments section but I believe you deserve this comment. Do you mind sending me your Gmail so I can write? I don't often come online here
So sorry for your loss! My sincere condolences to you and your family. Prayers and healing energy to you all 🙏🏾 I felt this and thank you for your transparency and your contribution to the reselling community. I truly appreciate you🥰
Becky, thank you so much for this message and all you have done to build up and strengthen the reselling community. I am very sorry for your family’s loss and am sending hugs. Keep shining your light. ❤
This was beautiful. Thank you for sharing these memories. I love to always ask myself why am I making money? What do I plan to do with it. For security? I am safe in the shelter of the Most High. Enjoyment? The joy of the Lord is my strength. For my kids? They want me more than anything I could ever buy. For freedom? Well, then I don't want to be a slave to my business. And I could continue. Yes, I need money, we all do, but it's not my source. This video reminded me of this today and I am grateful!
Thank you for saying this! I’m not going to lie, I’ve really been struggling with what TH-camrs to watch, what to believe, etc. I think it’s important to follow and take in influencers that really are you’re tribe and have the same or close to the same beliefs and models you have, otherwise it does become unnecessary noise. I think as a content consumer I walk away from big sellers on TH-cam and social media feeling like there’s a Key to the castle and you all are the only ones that have said Key so it’s hustle hustle to get it figured out. I made a commitment to myself at the beginning of this year just to maintain my business and only do/watch/take in things and people that are conducive to my business. No more BS, no more advice from people who have a new strategy every week to beat sales, beat the algorithm, blah, blah, blah… I hope everyone can take a step back, smell the roses and know it’s okay not to be perfect every day. ❤
Me too! I actually unfollowed some channels and I followed some new accounts. I dont know some people get too big to they point it's unrealistic. I truly enjoy watching people when they are at the start of their journey and I like following along.
@@Tania_VolverVintage I get it! Without mentioning names, there is a reseller that is super hyper focused on the analytics of the business but not taking into account prices, trends and ever changing platforms. The advice given in my opinion by this reseller was trash and it’s misguiding to new resellers and can cloud us old dogs to the point where we will upheave our closets to match what they’re doing. It starts to feel like bs. The ones that dog posh and say they’re done but push out videos about how to make sales on posh all the sudden… it’s ridiculous. 🤦🏻♀️
I have my top few I watch religiously because they align with me and my business, I have a group I watch for brands, I’ve deleted the crap TH-camrs and then I have a pool of what I call hobby watches ( if I ever have time to do so.) 💕
Mandy, your post really resonated with me. I have been turned off by many of the hustle culture egos lately in the reselling community and had to make the tough decision to unfollow them for my own peace of mind.
@@TheLaurieRo I completely understand. You’ll feel better for it I promise! Reselling is tough right now, the world is tough right now. Not all is lost. There’s still money to be made, I’m still making it! You just have to pivot, get creative, pull up you’re bootstraps and get to hustling! 💕
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I see the pain in your eyes I am so sorry for your loss breaks my heart Your the first TH-camr to discuss this topic and Thank you for sharing something this personal this is such a touchy subject Wow it takes courage And strength to carry on after losing a close family member I pray for the entire world for more love ❤️ and Genuine happiness 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you for being so open and honest about this. I’m a full time reseller since September and it’s taken some time to get out of the toxic hustle culture. I schedule a whole week out of the month to do nothing but spending time with my kiddos and taking care of plants and the house and it’s wonderful! It doesn’t affect my sales at all. It’s ok to be away from the business.
The reason why I got into reselling was so that I could take a break when I need to. I spent the majority of my career working in retail management where taking a break was near impossible. To me, no job is worth my mental or physical health or being able to spend time with loved ones. My heart goes out to you Becky. My mom has dementia and I know how deeply it hurts watching someone you love go through that. Sending hugs to you and your family.
Thank you for sharing such personal info, please take care. After the pandemic and now working full-time I’ve accumulated over 100 items to sell, and now I have to find out how to sell them all online. I hope I can successfully accomplish this task. I’m sending my best to you and your family. Tlc
Becky this was so good. Thank you for this reminder. I'm so sorry about your father in law's passing. It is so easy to get caught up in everything, we really do need to take a step back and check our big picture. Sending you lots of love.
Becky! Yes!! Just a couple mins in but boyy does this resonate. As amazing as the reselling community is.. it is still very much "hustle culture" which if that's what you love, that awesome. But it's just not my jam. As someone with chronic health issues & currently laid up for a couple months w/a broken ankle I'm just surviving right now💖
Just got further into the vid.. sending soo much love to you & your family right now❤❤❤❤
aaaaannnndd.. now I'm balling. My mom is going thru the same thing with her dad right now. He goes in & out & it is soo hard on my mom❤️Love everything you've said in this video Becky❤️
This is a great topic. Thank you. I'd be interested to hear from a male re-seller on taking care of themselves and if they experience the same pressure and guilt.
My heart reaches out to you & your family. Thank you for sharing, & thank you for reminding me that I don't have a perfect balance, but I'm still ok 'cause I'm human:)
Love this I am going to share this to my group everyone needs to hear this.
I’ve said this on my IG before…almost verbatim. I look at reselling as I look at my corporate positions; if I need a break, I’m gonna take it. If I don’t wanna do reseller stuff for a day because I wanna be lazy & don’t feel motivated, I do it because if I were at work, I’d have to manage my team regardless & get my work done regardless. It’s my job. if I ask for time off to recharge or a mental health day, I’m not asking, it’s a heads up out of courtesy. All of that to say, I will plan time off or not, but I treat my business as a real job. Im my own manager & I have to be able to manage myself well,
We have to keep our health in check on ALL 3 planes while also approaching reselling as the real job that it is. Whether it’s full time or part time.
Wonderful video, Becky. I am sorry you lost your father in law; he sounds like he was such a genuine soul ♥️
I own a home care agency for seniors. Thank you for sharing Michael’s story. That touched my heart and reminded me of the importance of not losing sight of self and those we love.
Oh my! Blessings to you for the work you're doing. Thank you
Thanks for this beautiful video. So sorry for your loss. Sending virtual hugs from Hoffman Estates, IL. Hustle culture is real in reselling/TH-cam community and US really. It's funny how you touched on being careful of what we consume on here and how some people aren't well. I recently found myself not watching as much content from some for this very reason.I found myself as a woman comparing myself to husband/wife resellers when I'm single with no help or family who respect my successful reselling business OR male resellers who have wives, in-laws and courses/membership $ to fall on so their perspective was jaded...I realized that as a mental health professional and reseller I had begun the dangerous comparison game...no more
Thank you for your comment. It really spoke to me. I am often hard on myself and do the same. I watched video on pallet liquidation/reselling and literally got frustrated. How can i get a pallet with no husband to help lift it? Then a dangerous path of what ifs & the ease i would have with help from a partner. A house with more space etc. I am single and raising kid in single parent household. I feel much better now limiting the contradictions of media & content. I also worked in mental health at a group home & psych unit. I knw God has a path for me
@@copperwarrior Thank you my sister. I think this video verbalized what alot of us may feel or going through. Sending hugs & continued success for your business🥰
Well said Becky. Sorry for your loss. I don't know how you manage to go to work everyday, thrift for items, list your items, cross post, ship, AND record and edit videos! PLUS spend time with your family. My full time business is reselling and I try to do You Tube videos but that usually is done into the nighttime (family time) so it gets pushed off frequently. Koodos to you for getting all that done, and Yes, you need to take those days, weeks for yourself! For sure! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you thank you thank you!!!! I am feeling this so much, it's so nice to know that we're not alone in this journey, even when we take a break from it!
I'm so sorry for your father in law, and I'm so amazed at how loving he was with dementia towards your kids ❤️ that is something really special
I've been watching your channel for years. I feel like you're a distant pen pal. I'm so sorry for your loss. You verbalize the struggle of so many of us that are "too busy" for our own good. Thank you. Sending you the warmest, most sincere hugs.
4 minutes in, I felt you were reading my profile. I am that person yet I do not have tons of sales, It's my way of hiding from myself, people in general, and so much more. Since 2019 when I started because I needed to put down my beloved Sweetness, then to escape the pandemic.I'm not sure how to come out of this cave but the biz might just force me to face reality the way things are going. Thank you for being vulnerable and honest.🕉☯️☮
Thanks so much for this! LOVE it!
So sorry for your loss. Part-Time and side hustle people do need different advice and mantras. And you are right that all of the reseller content out there creates a super awareness of the algorithms preference for consistency and all of the possible numbers. When reselling isn't your livelihood, you don't need these thoughts.
Thank you! This video is very much needed! Like you, I work full-time. I work at a jail, which is high stress. I don't get off until midnight (sometimes later) and last night I came home and had sold something and packaged it so my husband could take it to the post office today. After I got up and tended to morning chores, I noticed a label hanging out of my label printer. I immediately started to panic. I started texting my husband thinking he took the package without the label. I started to think the customer wouldn't get their item, I'd have to do a refund, and I'd get a bad feedback. After several minutes of scrambling in my brain how to fix the situation, I just happened to glance over at my scale and the package was still on the scale. Though it was a great sense of relief, it kind of surprised me how upset I got. I absolutely love reselling but it has consumed my life! My husband is a reseller too and it's all we do. We turn down invitations because of reselling. We have three dogs and I can't tell you how many times they lay around and sigh because we are ignoring them. Thank you for this video!
YES! Thank you for making this video. I've unfollowed a few reselling channels because their content is just a constant grind to the point that it's so off putting. I love reselling and will always resell at some scale but I dont want this to consume my life. It's not who I am or what I do full time, its just a part time gig for me! Ive felt guilty about my numbers and not keeping up with listing and I dont want to feel guilty about reselling anymore and just get back to just truly enjoying it wether I make 1 sale or 100.
1000%. It's so easy to lose ourselves and the reason we got into this when we pay too much attention to the noise around us. I appreciate you and hope you're doing well!!!
I am a mom of 6. We just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary & are taking all of our kids (now ages 16-24) to Cabo in a couple of weeks. It will be the first time in a loooooong time that I am completely shutting down my stores for 7 days. I needed this talk today. I am looking forward to focusing on my family! God bless you & your family Becky!
I’m so sorry for your loss. This was a beautiful video, raw, loving and honest. We often lose perspective when we are in the grind of it all. It’s important to remember what’s really important. Reselling is great but it’s so easy to get lost in all the hustle of it. It’s also hard to not play the comparison game. But everyone is different and you are right, we all deserve to take breaks! Thank you for the reminder. Condolences to your family.
Thank you thank you thank you🙏🏼💗💗💗🦋🦋 I as a new full time reseller needed to hear this. So grateful for you, your channel and sharing about what really matters. Keep being amazing!!!! Life is too short 🙏🏼. So sorry for the loss of your father in law. Sending love ❤️
This hit really hard, just lost my grandma last week too and spent the whole week with family planning the funeral :( was definitely a reminder of what’s important and how I want to spend my time. Im sorry for your loss and hope y’all are doing well🫶🏽
I’m so sorry for your loss too. This getting older thing is really hard 😢
I'm so very sorry about your father inlaw, thank you for sharing. Last year my husband found out he had cancer. Luckley I was full time in my reselling journey. Long story I had been with a job for 13 years and I learned from that job to spend the time with my family. As soon as I found out about my husbands cancer I spent half my summer preparing for what I needed to do , so in the fall when he started treatment I would be able to spend that time with him. Needless to say I didn't prepare enough, but I kept reminding myself my time with him is more important and everything would be okay.. Life is so short and I learned Grace and not to compare my journey to someone elses. Thank you again for your content.
I needed this today. Thank you so much for always keeping it real. I really get so much out of all your videos but this one hit hard. ❤️ Sorry for you loss, your father in law sounds like he was a lovely man.
I have had this conversation with myself recently. This is a side hustle for me. I'm doing it for extra income. I have a part time job too and I feel like sometimes I'm consumed with all the what ifs with reselling. Life is about people first! FYI, I'm a hospice nurse so I understand what your family went through. Prayers for your family during this time.
oh my - thank you for the hard work you do as a hospice nurse. But you're right - especially for us part-timers juggling full time jobs, families, etc - we need to show ourselves MUCH more grace than we do. Especially when we're in fields like nursing and education and taking on some of the burdens of those we work with. We can't forget to make time for ourselves and our loved ones. Thank you for your comment.
My goodness, so sorry to hear about your loss. I've been a reseller full time for 6 years and my wife just recovered from a 2 year breast cancer battle with Chemo, Radiation, and Surgery along the way. I lost my spark and fire for reselling up until quite recently. There's so much more to life than reselling, and stepping away for quite a while made me realize that the reason I love this job is because I can set my own schedule and be with the family at the drop of a hat. Keep up the good work Becky!
I'm so happy to hear that your wife has recovered and that after some time away, you've rekindled the joy that comes from reselling. I hope you're able to hold onto that in the coming years and that your wife stays in remission as well! Thank you for watching and for your kind comment
Very true. It's amazing that we'll let our inner voice say things to us we would never allow anyone else to say to us. It's the same way if you take a break from a diet or exercise or even time off work. You beat yourself up so much you can't enjoy the break. My heart goes out to you and your family. Take all the time you need. ❤
I'm so sorry for your loss
Hello dear how are you doing I was checking what’s going on here when I come across your profile picture looks amazing it will be an honour to talk to a polite woman like you I don’t normally write in comments section but I believe you deserve this comment. Do you mind sending me your Gmail so I can write? I don't often come online here
Thank you for sharing your father-in-law's moments with us. Your family is in my prayers....
Great advice Becky, I too work full time and reselling part time and then started youtube channel as well so I do have to watch myself as well cause I get to panicky so much if I am not working on my reselling in my down time. So thanks for this great video and again I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your families loss. At the same time I'm so glad you have those wonderful Memories and for sharing what is truly important ❤️ 🙏
What sweet memories of your father-in-law! My mother has dementia and it's one of the most difficult experiences for a family. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for making this video. I know there are many who whether they knew it or not, needed to hear it. I, too, am part time. I retired and have other streams of income. Family, health and the ability to experience all emotions are more important. Reselling keeps me engaged, thinking and not sitting around, and a little extra money.
Good for you that you recognized you were traveling into a unhealthy head space.
Enjoy your life!
Thank you for your kind and gentle comment, V. It is jarring to look up all of a sudden and realize you've taken something too far and lost sight of your priorities. You're exactly right - we can't forget to enjoy our lives!
Thank you so much for being so personal and open. Recent cancer diagnosis quickly gave me this perspective to SLOW DOWN and enjoy the people that are important. Condolences 🙏🏾
Thank you for verbalizing what I have been feeling. I went on a three day vacation put all my stores on Vacay mode. A seller bought something, I was about to ship when I got back and the buyer said never mind I needed it for specific date. The buyer never shared that with me, I felt so guilty. But at tbt same time, I have to give myself some Grace. I can’t do it all.
Spot on video. Nothing is more important than family and the memories created with them are our legacy, not things, not sales. The loss of a parent is devastating and life-altering. Thank you for honoring your father-in-law and for reminding us all what's really important. Prayers and healing wishes to you and your family.🙏
Thanks so much for sharing this Becky! I remind myself often that I don’t have to grow my business like other people. I want to enjoy the process and learn leisurely and not beat myself up for mistakes. Well said, grateful for your wisdom!❤️
omg absolutely - enjoy the process! Take your time! Don't let anyone force their timeline on you!
I am so sorry to hear about you father-in-law. Wow Becky I needed to hear this I am taking care of my mom who has dementia while working as a Medical Assistant also being a TH-camr, a reseller and a spark driver and I have had to step back from reselling because I just don’t have the time nor energy. But I feel guilty not being able to do it all so thanks again I needed to hear this.
Sending you positive energy 🌄
AMEN!! Too many folks perpetuating the guilt, pushing the fomo, and bragging and too many people looking for the "be all, end all" to guarantee a bit more freedom from horrendous jobs or situations. Again, AMEN for bringing it up and admitting to the bit of guilt you had towards spending time reselling. Now ... did you have any of those feelings towards your daily job?
This is the most important video you have ever made❤❤ I’ve prayed a blessing of peace over your family.
I am not a cryer, but this made me cry. You shared such wisdom, kindness, and it speaks to who you are as a person and how blessed your family is to have you in their life. Praying for your people during this time of loss, and keep up the good work Becky!
I cried too.
Im so sorry for your loss and thank you for reminding me and others what's most important . Have a great day Becky
Such a beautiful story about your father in law. Thank you for sharing ❤
First of all, so sorry to hear about your Father-in-law, although it was sweet memories of him you spoke about. Also, thank you for the talk. It is hard, as this is my sole income & I'm single and struggling, but busting my behind every day (except Sunday) I have learned how to tweak my time management although I never run out of work! lol...I'm very motivated, but have had to learn to step back a little and take care of my antique booth, visit with my Mother & spend time with other family & I do work on myself. I work out every morning before work & eat a nice dinner every night. I'm still overwhelmed, but it's getting better. I sleep peaceful at night :) . Thank God for getting me through & telling me to take a step back months ago. "Let go & let God" is not just a cute plaque on the wall, you have to live it! Prayers & hugs to you
I love hearing about how intentional you are with the hours God gave you each day! You are so strong, and I hope that you experience so much success with your reselling business, but that you also continue to find joy in the other parts of your life as well. Thank you ❤️
@@beckyparkco 😘
Beautiful message from a beautiful soul! 😍
Thank you!
I'm so sorry for your loss. This was so heart felt and sobering and so true.
I am so sorry for you and your family’s loss. You brought me to tears and you are 100% right. Thank you. ❤ I wish you guys strength getting through everything.
Way to go Becky! Thank you for keeping it real
Becky, I'm so very sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
Thank you ❤️
Thanks for your words and I’m sorry for your families loss.
So sorry for your loss. Praying for your family. Great video
Thank you for this video I love your transparency. My deepest condolences to you and your family to your husband
I am thankful for you and for this message. Thinking of you and your family. ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing this very vulnerable part of yourself. I think to often were so focused on hustle that we forget that the stack of packages isn't going to be what people remember is how we made them feel.
Becky you are amazing. My business is my me time. 😆 I am a nerd 🤓 I have a hard day and just need to list it brings me joy. 😅 (this is what I am training myself to think 🤔)
Thank you for sharing such beautiful memories of your Father in Law. This whole message is so important. Courtney from Common Tags recently shared something similar. I've spent the last couple of days feeling badly about not having the mental capacity to list because my full time job has been taking up so much of my time. This is such a timely message :)
When I started reselling about 5 years ago, I honestly thought it was easier. I have had to reckon lately that many of the selling platforms are asking resellers to do more, i.e. list more, pay for promoted listings, etc; and items are getting fewer views even with all these efforts. Hard to maintain a work balance if you are a listing machine. Fast track to burnout.
@@diannemcgriff3811 I agree!
You are absolutely correct. I do this part time as a hobby because my wife and I love going to yardsales and such. We started last Oct and I feel we got to possessed with it after the first sales. We got caught up in the you have to list everyday mentality, we were buying just to buy. Now we have slowed down and been more selective about sourcing and slowed down the process, and it hasn't hurt sales at all. We only have 300 items listed but sells are consistent now, and we are enjoying the process. It was always a plan to sell after retirement in a couple years just to stay active.
Yes! I think re-examining your “why” helps you find more balance too. That’s great to hear!
I understand where you’re coming from. I lost my grandmother from Alzheimer’s in June 2022. It’s hard when it gets bad near the end. Lots of patience and lots of love is what is needed. I’m here for you Becky!
I'm so sad to hear about the passing of your Father in Law! I'm so sorry for you, your husband, kids and mother in law! 💗
I'm so sorry for the loss of your father-in-law. I lost my mom last year. Thank you for the talk! I actually find myself getting up in the middle of the night worrying about sending packages, photographing, listing and then...my handicap child reminds me that it's ok to not be ok sometimes. With reselling and any job we end up looking towards what needs to be done versus what can be done. Hugs to you and your family.
Thank you for discussing this. I understand how it feels watching a family member have memory lapses and lose them slowly, it's a strange kind of pain. Keeping yourself and your loved ones your first priority is very important for times like this. We don't need to deserve our rest, we deserve to need rest.
I just decided last night to take my first real break from making new listings. Even when I had a surgery a few months back, I took only a few days off, but there's been way too many things to handle lately. As you said, the dip in sales is well worth taking better care of myself for 2-4 weeks. So thanks for affirming the choice I've made
My heart-felt condolences for your family's loss. I recently lost my Brother and everything you said rings wholly true. We are not hamsters so no need to run on the wheel. Everyday is a blessing, not a guarantee. 💗
Thank you for taking the time to share your heart. My mom has dementia, and it's not easy to watch a person disappear. Like your father-in-law she has lucid moments, like the sun coming out from the clouds. I'm sorry that your family went through this. Hugs for all of you,
I am so sorry about your families loss. You are strong for speaking on this subject because in one way or another, everyone deals with struggle and sometimes are afraid to take a break because it will cause a wave in their business. But at the end of the day though, we have a to remember what matters most and this video does just that, so thank you.
Becky I’m so sorry about your father in law. I almost lost my dad at the end of 2021 and he was in and out of hospitals for about 8 months. I had to take care of my mom during that time and I was at my wits end. I’m a mom and a reseller so adding caregiver to that was overwhelming. Plus, I had 2 surgeries after my dad finally came home. It was almost impossible to balance helping them since my dad can’t drive or do a lot of things he could do before while being in pain myself. I wasn’t working hard at my business anymore because there simply wasn’t time or energy for that. I felt like a failure for sure because a lot of my confidence came from what my business brought to our household. I finally found a balance and am starting to get back there again. I feel like I’m able to take care of everyone while also taking care of me. We as women need to take care of ourselves better❤
I was selling as a side hobby for a few years and I had to stop last summer because I moved. The post offices in my new location have shorter hours, so I'm basically working the entire time they are open lol except for my days off. I've basically determined that it's just not possible to be a reseller for a while and I am actually loving not having to do all of the extra work. I think at this point I'd consider doing it again maybe if my job situation changed or if I had something especially good to sell, but... might end up taking a permanent break. And maybe that's what I need. This coincided with me getting a promotion at work last June which means maybe side income isn't as important, but I've also just been diagnosed with PCOS and want more down time. It's okay to have a personal life and take time for yourself. You can't live in stress all the time.
My condolences to your family on your loss.
Blessings to you and yours sweetie. Wishing you and peaceful weekend and start of Spring! Big HUGS
Thank you
Important reality check! ❤️
Thank you for sharing your memories with us. I’m sorry for your loss, and am sending prayers to all of you. Just said this tonight to my husband to give people in your life grace if they aren’t giving you what you think they should. We are all on our own journey, and we don’t always know what others are going through. But, we need to give ourselves grace as well. It is the people that surround us that matter, not the material items.
Ohhhh how I know this story.... the EXACT story except it was my dad. I wasn't reselling at the time, but I did take off from my job. I was able to be with him on the day before he transitioned and I'm so thankful to God that I had that time. My sincerest condolences to you and your family. God bless you with the strength and peace to get through this painful time.
We are really glad because my husband was able to get there hours before his father passed too. I’m sorry for your loss as well.
I am so sorry for your loss Becky.
God bless you and your family!
I agree. I've taken a few breaks here and there. But when I do, I admit..it's hard to jump back in. Seeing this is solemnly some only means of income, they do grit and gring 24/7...we see the fruit of that from their lifestyle. I will say working a 9 to 5 makes taking a break easy, because your job picks up when your taking a break. All you've said is point on
First, let me offer my condolences to you and your family. I feel tremendous guilt when I am not productive every day. I beat myself up pretty hard. This is my full-time job, so I know how precious my time is. Thank you for this heart-felt video. Much love to you.
Thank you for this video! My brother who is only 29 had a near fatal accident this past summer and is now disabled for the rest of his life. I completely lost all momentum this summer and my business tanked. I’m so glad to be back and have given myself Grace. I hope you give yourself a break too. I admire you and I’m a better reseller because of you. Thank you for your generous spirit and wealth of knowledge. Here with you, praying for your family!
My problem is I WANT to be a full time reseller but I just don't have the time and I'm ALWAYS beating myself up over it... I'm barely a part-time reseller at this point... but I'm raising/homeschooling a 4 year old working part-time at night and taking care of our animals and home during the day. It's a lot especially when my husband is now working 5 days a week for 12+ hours a day lately, it feels like I don't have a lot of help. Anyways... I've learned this message myself and I'm getting better at being okay with it.
I think the biggest motivation I get is when I get to thrift and actually find things but lately it's been so bad in my area, I'm lucky to find anything worth selling most days. Also, I find that the reselling market has changed a lot since I started (which is expected) but I'm not able to adapt with what's trending per se.
Tears to my eyes. So sorry for your loss and the arduous path left behind with that disease. Very valuable thoughts. When I'm on the screen so much, I turn around and realize that my kids won't be this little forever. Embrace today and your loved ones! Thank you.
Becky ten years ago I sat in the office of a chief neurologist and heard the diagnosis of early onset of dementia. I was 49. My world was rocked. What you just explained about your father in law is my biggest fear. I know the day is coming when I won't recognize my boys. The reality of that sucks. My journey in reselling started from watching TH-cam resellers. I quickly learned I couldn't run my business like most. I couldn't remember a great brand of clothes from a cheap brand. But even worse before dementia I had NO fashion sense. My store has evolved many different times. Now I am closing in on 1800 different items that no one wants to purchase. LoL. I want to take your advice a little further down life's highway. Appreciate what you have today. Don't worry about future problems. I guarandamntee the issue that drops you will be something so far from what you have worried about. Thanks for sharing that personal message
Yes. It is okay to take a break. I do it. Thank you ❤❤❤❤
Spot on! Thank you for being real. So glad that you came to realize this for yourself and to share it with us. 🙏 Priorities matter ♥️💃
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I'm so sorry for your loss Becky and family. I have been following you since the beginning (thats when I started too), you helped me in my own reselling journey. Now without even knowing, you have helped me on my own personal journey with my grandma who has dementia and has lost her ability to speak due to a stroke. Since the beginning you have spoken so eloquently and poured out to your viewers/supporters from a place a genuine love. Thank you Becky for you; you are very much appreciated. I will keep you and your family in my prayers through this very difficult time.
Wow. This totally made me tear up... thank you for saying these things, something clicked with me when you said maybe you make adjustments. I have been pretty lousy goosy with my schedule and I feel like if I tightened that up then I WOULD have more of the REASONS why I started (freedom, health, relationships, friends). I'm shooting those down by not tightening up my schedule and staying on track so that I can leave work at work and be present in those areas. Not letting it all bleed over into everything else. Im sorry to hear about your husband's dad but I'm so happy he had you all there loving him right back 💚🌈
Thanks for putting things into perspective ❤
I’m so sorry for the loss of your father in law. Thank you for sharing. I’m a newer reseller and watch lots of TH-cam videos as a way to learn. This was perfect timing for me to watch. I have been beating myself up and feeling like I’m failing. Messages we get are only pick up items that will sell higher profit margins, list everyday and how and the algorithms. I’m having a hard time with sourcing quality items as now I’m being picky but not having enough to list to get where I feel I need to be. Still only have less than 200 items. Sales are so slow lately. I’m barely making any money. I’m fortunate that I do have a spouse with a good job but I really need to pick up some of our expenses. I do find myself on my phone constantly. Stresses me out. I started this to have more freedom with my time and find it’s consuming me. I’m a woman of faith and been feeling bad that even that part of my life is being affected. In need to give myself grace and do my best and stop stressing. As we get older we do experience more loss in our lives. Needed this reminder life is short and precious. Thank you and you are my favorite and so relatable. ❤
Becky, I'm new to your videos. I'm also a new reseller... and I very much appreciate you helping me to "head it off at the pass", lol, to become aware of this BEFORE getting too deeply enmeshed with my business.
So sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry for your loss 😢 I’m sure many of us needed this video, including myself ❤
So sorry for your family’s loss. Thank you for sharing these thoughts with us. Very insightful. ❤❤❤
Wow Becky! This was very timely for me. First of all, my sincerest condolences on your loss.
I lost my sister to a heart attack on Monday, we are still in shock.
My husband has been battling early stage dementia and I can see it progressing.
I've been convicted of my reselling hobby taking precedence over face to face interactions with family.
Thank you for your honesty and transparency. I KNOW I was meant to hear this.
Keep up the great work! We appreciate you ❤️
Isn’t that crazy how the universe finds a way to make sure we hear what we have to hear when we need to hear it?
I’m also so sorry to hear about your sister and your husband. Especially with your sister and the fact that it happened all of a sudden-that must have been so hard. You will definitely be in my prayers tonight.
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Oh sweetheart I am so sorry for your loss.Prayers for you & your family.
I’m so grateful that you take these moments to ponder what really matters. Thank you for the reminders
Hello dear how are you doing I was checking what’s going on here when I come across your profile picture looks amazing it will be an honour to talk to a polite woman like you I don’t normally write in comments section but I believe you deserve this comment. Do you mind sending me your Gmail so I can write? I don't often come online here
So sorry for your loss! My sincere condolences to you and your family. Prayers and healing energy to you all 🙏🏾 I felt this and thank you for your transparency and your contribution to the reselling community. I truly appreciate you🥰
Thank you for your kind words, and I appreciate you too
Becky, thank you so much for this message and all you have done to build up and strengthen the reselling community. I am very sorry for your family’s loss and am sending hugs. Keep shining your light. ❤
Gahhh thank YOU for this kind and uplifting comment. I appreciate you!