How To Stop Yourself From Doing OCD Compulsions

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ความคิดเห็น • 324

  • @suryakiran3085
    @suryakiran3085 4 ปีที่แล้ว +158

    THOUGHTS ARE JUST THOUGHTS ! THOUGHTS HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU ☺

    • @andreimanole346
      @andreimanole346 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      yes

    • @julianquiamhor3314
      @julianquiamhor3314 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      But i can't concentrate on important things because it will never leave my brain if i won't do the thoughts

    • @hail2287
      @hail2287 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You clearly don’t have ice if you think it’s that easy

    • @paige15803
      @paige15803 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanms

    • @narcotics-eb3om
      @narcotics-eb3om 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@julianquiamhor3314 i can relate

  • @mickeymuride3325
    @mickeymuride3325 5 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    The answer to the questions: 'Is it actually worth it? What am I gaining from this?' is of course 'No'. However, when someone is the midst of an ocd spike, this obvious answer may sound weak and unconvincing. I think this is why the recovery work seems so hard.

    • @lawrencefirth2559
      @lawrencefirth2559 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So true

    • @Alaska-mk4ok
      @Alaska-mk4ok 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yup same for me

    • @hjon9119
      @hjon9119 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      True. The clip make it appears very simple but in reality it doesn't work that way.

    • @darkalpha6530
      @darkalpha6530 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      These questions appeal good to you when you aren't doing anything. But, in middle of the compulsion, these questions seem nothing except a thought to just complete them, and think about it later.
      *It's a trap from which we neither can get out of it nor we can get into it.*
      *Our life is stuck between them 😭😭.*

    • @roquepascuals5943
      @roquepascuals5943 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@darkalpha6530 best thing to do is not start them .. its like starting over .. but when you start the compulsion you have to finish it.. but after you finish it .. your cycle starts again . My best advice to you is finish your last compulsion and if it triggers again . Do not do it.. because your brain is in a loop.. in the long run every time it triggers you . You will be tempted to do it again . Always think about the long run ..

  • @silencio1234
    @silencio1234 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    To anyone out there struggling, definitely do exactly what Ali says and it will get better. My ocd was so terrible just a few months ago that I was having suicidal thoughts. I am doing so much better using her app and tracking rumination. My anxiety has gone form a 9 or 10 down to a 2 or 3 and I even have 1 days. I am not on medication and do not have a therapist. I still get triggered by things but I am confident that I am going to be able to get rid of the ocd using this method! Give it a try!

    • @freedomfighter9976
      @freedomfighter9976 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m the same at the mo mine is 10/10 can’t stop doing compulsions I feel like a drug addict to them they take up all my day I can’t shake off the intrusive thoughts they bully me allday I found out some I feel on the internet and now I can’t stop worrying about future

    • @AndrewZaidan1997
      @AndrewZaidan1997 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thats amazing I have a therapist and I wish she knew about erp was she said she's not specialized in it but she's only one I can go to because insurance and only one in my life willing to listen to me. Its been 4 years and I hate it.

  • @thesmokecriminal5395
    @thesmokecriminal5395 4 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    thats so true my brain is programmed to produce ocd thoughts and do compulsions and analysing

    • @r.michaelboyer7837
      @r.michaelboyer7837 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Please also look at this short 15 minute video which highlights OCD and ERP misconceptions.
      th-cam.com/video/zEHVeofVqFg/w-d-xo.html

    • @adamjoyce4150
      @adamjoyce4150 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The absolute worse

    • @adamjoyce4150
      @adamjoyce4150 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It’s horrible

  • @AAaaa-rz9xm
    @AAaaa-rz9xm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    When I found you and your lessons,I was reborn

  • @renakmans3521
    @renakmans3521 4 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    “Is this worth it.” That’s a question that has come in handy many times. Never worth it.

    • @okayhi2594
      @okayhi2594 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      But it is because I feel so triggered and my brain is like “DO IT NOW.” and I just can’t help myself and do it and I can’t stop until I’m truly satisfied

    • @renakmans3521
      @renakmans3521 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@okayhi2594 Ultimately we need to focus on the anxiety wherever that is for you and not the content of the thoughts because content changes often and is very deceptive. By placing your attention on the pain itself, and accepting it “I can live with this”, that’ll decrease albeit it’ll be uncomfortable, but that’s the point, handle the discomfort! Blessings to you.

    • @okayhi2594
      @okayhi2594 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@renakmans3521 thank you ❤️❤️ god bless you

    • @paige15803
      @paige15803 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      K good but it's feels so real

    • @paige15803
      @paige15803 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@okayhi2594 SAME

  • @KG-wd9rg
    @KG-wd9rg 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    When you said “what am I gaining from this?”, your absolutely right in regards to having OCD compulsions. I feel you have to train your brain to think with this logic and keep that phrase in your mind whenever you have the compulsion/or thought of the compulsion. Most of the time, it relies on willpower to overcome that compulsion (for me anyway). Train yourself to think like this. I found this is the only way that I was able to overcome these compulsions or obscure behaviours.

    • @zachfenton608
      @zachfenton608 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yep, this what i do, and i need to stop

  • @davidkhamush2801
    @davidkhamush2801 4 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    I remember before I started therapy, I would get these very irrational thoughts, which made no sense but they caused me so much discomfort that I had to do a compulsion. Today I actually got reminded of the same irrational thought, I'm like "fuck it, it there's no logic behind that".

    • @Miu_miu_it_girl
      @Miu_miu_it_girl 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You killed me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @davidkhamush2801
      @davidkhamush2801 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      marymangira AFRICA hope your ok lol

    • @Miu_miu_it_girl
      @Miu_miu_it_girl 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@davidkhamush2801 nothing your comment killed me because that what l always do

    • @davidkhamush2801
      @davidkhamush2801 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      marymangira AFRICA ahhh ok. Well I’m glad I gave you a good laugh :)

    • @cuboider-rclv2585
      @cuboider-rclv2585 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thats exactly what happens to me, except i havent gotten over it yet

  • @romefox
    @romefox 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    OCD seems easy to stop but the mind is powerful, its born of trauma. When I ignore it, my mind goes into a different state like anticipation bad things. Its silly but prospective makes reality. I can go months not doing it but it comes back every time, you have to accept that you deserve to be happy like anyone else. It gets so intertwined with your behavior and thoughts that you do it subconsciously. I catch myself standing or holding something a certain way to appease the compulsions. The brain gets wired with OCD as normal and constant. Its a struggle but its true, the only way out is to stop and to do positive things, its always trying to sneak its way in but you gotta never reward it.

    • @paige15803
      @paige15803 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hate it so much

    • @SnekNOTSnake
      @SnekNOTSnake ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's the reason why old folks with OCD are harder to treat and are more conservative. I read stories about their lives and a lot of them already treat it like a normal behaviour, which is pretty sad.

  • @ilikehumans1096
    @ilikehumans1096 4 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    I just flew from Hawaii to Minneapolis. Combined it’s a 10 hour flight. My beloved brain made sure I drowned in anxiety and the whole way I was fighting off panic attacks by doing compulsions. Having OCD is like living in a waking nightmare. I can’t take this anymore.

    • @lalas3793
      @lalas3793 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I can relate hun but we must stay strong threw it and fight that urge! x

    • @suryakiran3085
      @suryakiran3085 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      We are lucky to have a very hard to tame mind . Once you tame it YOU ARE A SUPERHERO 💓

    • @danielhirschberg876
      @danielhirschberg876 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I hate it too. I've had it for 60 years.

    • @romefox
      @romefox 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Let yourself be happy, or at least not suffer, I have to remind myself every time I turned the faucet on for the 10th time or switch the lights on and off a hundred times. Its a living nightmare of your own making, Im also struggling with OCD but its true, you have to stop and let the dread wash through you, find something to distract.

  • @ninnaeurope4304
    @ninnaeurope4304 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    This is so helpful, thank you,. I've listen this video ten times already. Perfect!

  • @mirzamulalic89
    @mirzamulalic89 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is the first video I listened from Ali and it was probably what I needed. I did listen other videos from her as well and they are all great but this one made the best impact for me for now. I have severe OCD for more than 10 years and it is a horrible experience. I did pretty much everything and nothing really helped me. Her advices helped me to expose myself today on purpose to a one particular situation that is "MUST DO" a compulsion if I find myself in that situation and I decide to do nothing about compulsion after probably around 7-8 yrs, I just sit there tried to relax and do nothing about obsessive thoughts and compulsions and I simply move on. I felt horribly anxious and satisfying at the same time but it worked. I will continuously force myself to not respond on those demon thoughts and compulsions and hopefully one day live as a free man. Well done to Ali she is really great and today she provide little miracle even if she doesn't know it. Much love to her

  • @ninnaeurope4304
    @ninnaeurope4304 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    You know guys, listening to this videos I can't not to think how many time I've lost, potential friends I've lost because when they found out for my ocd, they turned their back on me because for them I was weird. It really hurts knowing you are different. Even if the day comes when I will recover, it will be hard to live with the past and all the lost opportunities. I don't mean to bring bad mood here, just wanted to share my toughts with people who understand. Thank you Ali.

    • @colourcleff4155
      @colourcleff4155 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel you, my family is irritated with my compulsions. They don't understand my brain is weird.

    • @ninnaeurope4304
      @ninnaeurope4304 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@colourcleff4155 my family is also irritated by my behaviour. Who wouldn't be. I have such stupid compulsions. And they switch all the time. I am in constant fear of everything. I bring sadness to people I love. I am sick of this game with ocd but can get out of it. I listen to Ali, I try sometimes her methods but soon everything is as it was... Usefull. I can just hope that one day I, and you, will beat this monster inside of us.

  • @renakmans3521
    @renakmans3521 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I think meditation is significant but I agree that for OCD we need specific tools while we are in the heat of that moment. Thanks for your videos!

  • @danielstamegna2391
    @danielstamegna2391 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Ali, normally I visit your videos and channel well after the damage is done... but this time I am doing it before I commit a compulsion and I am only 28 seconds into this video and I just have to tell you thank you so much for your help. I have been doing much better with OCD overall recently and have been holding off on doing a compulsion for almost a full day now but my mind (OCD) keeps thinking about this one compulsion. So here I am. I am trying hard not to give in. I appreciate you. God bless you.

  • @GauravYadav-ju5tt
    @GauravYadav-ju5tt 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Just think OCD to be a thought which has no relation with any outcome whatsoever until you really work on it. So just free yourself and be happy!!

  • @Marco-en3jl
    @Marco-en3jl 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    For me this video addresses the crux of the OCD disorder: how can we ride out the overwhelming desire to carry out the compulsion to free ourselves???? We all know it keeps the cycle going, we all know it's linchpin that holds us fast to the OCD nightmare...we need more videos like this, more ways to ride it out, more ways to stay with the discomfort.

  • @kunalbh
    @kunalbh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Ali...You are a lifeline for ocd pateints...Thanks for helping.

  • @samealey8517
    @samealey8517 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    One of your best videos Ali! 👏🏆

  • @albertfigueroa11
    @albertfigueroa11 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    This is so accurate 💯💯

  • @nancymanuel8712
    @nancymanuel8712 5 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    im really very down now.
    my fear is winning, sometimes i feel like im the only one with this kind of mental illness.
    sometimes. i think its better to be dead.
    i dnt even know where to find strength.
    i just dont know why i am keep going on.
    i just dint know,
    i dont have courage anymore. 😞😞😞😞😞

    • @elori-min5245
      @elori-min5245 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You're not alone sweety

    • @skverma3721
      @skverma3721 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same here...

    • @sheyanderson9498
      @sheyanderson9498 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      No you are not alone. My name is Shey and I have OCD.

    • @versatilehumanbeing6013
      @versatilehumanbeing6013 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@sheyanderson9498 Hello how's ur ocd I am too suffering from it it's a menace and worst mental experience are u on Instagram please reply I need to overcome it

    • @avafox612
      @avafox612 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Randeep Singh hah, imagine having not only ocd but also adhd and bipolar 😄 living the life

  • @gavinduggan199
    @gavinduggan199 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I needed this at the moment. Thanks Ali

  • @jamesGT78
    @jamesGT78 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I've recently started doing compulsions at night. I've had insomnia for a few years and I got on top of it but the last few months, my ocd has gotten worse and it's linked in with my night time routine and it's worsening my sleep. Last night, I woke at 3am and spent the whole night doing a compulsion because I couldn't get it "right". I literally could not fall back asleep because as soon as I was about to drift off, I'd get that shock that wakes you back up. Obviously my mind knew something was up. I still feel like I've to do this one compulsion. It's a bloody pain 😔

    • @jamesGT78
      @jamesGT78 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tinaignatova7705 I hope you find some peace soon. It is tough. I'm not doing too bad now. Still get compulsions. I know I should be completely ignoring them but we all need our sleep so it's easier to give in sometimes but I know I'm doing wrong by giving in. My sleep is alot better though. Some times it gets a bit bad but nothing I can't manage. I have stopped doing some compulsions so I am progressing. I don't know what else to say to u only I hope u have more good days than bad and that someday you'll be free from ocd or at least be able to manage it better 🙏

  • @rebs4000
    @rebs4000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you. Having such a hard time with my OCD at the moment, probably the worst I've experienced in the 15 years I've dealt with it. It's great having a community of people going through the same experience.

  • @nathanielrossi9659
    @nathanielrossi9659 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much Ali I listened to this 3 times in a row now an just read comments an I actually over come the thoughts of washing my hands an wiping my phone down. I feel pretty good now haha.

  • @lilymartin5409
    @lilymartin5409 3 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    To anyone who sees this, Jesus loves you and came to earth and died on a cross as the perfect sacrifice to save you from your sin! Then he rose on the 3rd day to conquer sin! He wants you to believe in Him and repent of your sins, ask God for forgiveness, and accept Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior!

    • @eastonradnidgeradnidge4016
      @eastonradnidgeradnidge4016 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thank you Jesus for helping me with this
      I trust that you are helping me every day ❤️

    • @Alaska-mk4ok
      @Alaska-mk4ok 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@eastonradnidgeradnidge4016 me too

    • @cosmicbrotv6525
      @cosmicbrotv6525 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amen

    • @joshstarling9422
      @joshstarling9422 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Jesus didn't do shit. Thank the psychologists

    • @cosmicbrotv6525
      @cosmicbrotv6525 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@joshstarling9422And who created the Psychologists? God, his one and only son Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit.

  • @ariannaangelozzi617
    @ariannaangelozzi617 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I have the breath compulsion, i cannot enjoy a comedy in a theatre, film, a conversation, without thinkin about my breath, i always have to pay attention to me breathing even if i don't want to, i know it's wrong, but i have to do it, and once i do it, i get angry because i feel my breath, and i just want to breath normally like the others, so i try to enjoy the moment and to distract myself, bur as far as i am not concentrated in my breath for a short or long period of time, like minutes or an hour, i have the compulsion and the thought that i didn't feel myself breathing, so all starts again. Please help me i am really tired of this...

    • @madhurajejurkar2583
      @madhurajejurkar2583 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Try relaxation therapy....n if that doesnt work, tell me 😊

    • @puppycat65481
      @puppycat65481 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I've had this problem also, it's awful. What worked for me is this.........take your attention away from it, and focus or think about something else. it's the only way. Trust your body will breathe by itself. Our brains are hardwired to create. This is also what Ali has been telling us in so many ways. You've got to try harder. Best wishes for you.

    • @tallmidget1395
      @tallmidget1395 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@puppycat65481 I've seen other people say that trying to forget isn't but that you should expect it and that that has worked for them

    • @gorillaplays9815
      @gorillaplays9815 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lol dude by reading your OCD I got it automatically now I dint really now whether I really have it or it was temporary

    • @gorillaplays9815
      @gorillaplays9815 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I got the answer for your problem the actual mistaken ur conciousness is doing this that the thought when it comes to ur mind u start to relate it with urself and that's where it gets harder now whenever next time u get such a thought just consider it as a just thought and behave normally with it ,, believe this is really worth

  • @messpilo
    @messpilo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you. Very good advice. You are doing the compulsion because of fear this is exactly why I do it.

  • @singer4god88
    @singer4god88 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much Ali for this video. It’s very helpful, probably the best explanation I’ve heard on compulsions. Very effective.

  • @patti8178
    @patti8178 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    You’re incredibly. Thank you :)

  • @pratiknaker6278
    @pratiknaker6278 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I felt so positive and reassuring after watching this video. Good OCD advice. Compulsion breeds obsessive thoughts.

  • @daniels2980
    @daniels2980 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    "you know..."

    • @KymGphoto
      @KymGphoto 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Daniel S It is so hard to concentrate on what is being said because of the constant “you know”.... frustrating because the info is so fantastic amd i know its just a habit she has....but it just makes it so hard to concentrate

  • @user-lovebeaches
    @user-lovebeaches 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Ali is truly amazing, kind & so knowledgeable. Thank you Ali.

  • @4455matthew
    @4455matthew 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Cognitive compulsions is something I've only recently learned about and am now blown away by how I often I would do it, I never even saw it as ocd because I associated compulsions as purely physical while obsessions I saw as cognitive. I currently compulsively reformulate, often just changing phrases or words, of meditation techniques but also cbt techniques. I literally get stuck on word choice and phrases and stick to rigid scripts and techniques, referring back to them in impractical ways and trying to rigidly implement them in daily life. It really burns me out, I had a terrible day today with this, especially now that we are in corona quarantine. Great to hear these videos, best wishes to everybody, I know that I'll be okay.

  • @crystalgiannone2683
    @crystalgiannone2683 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    THANK YOU ALI, very helpful advice, appreciate your help as always 👍

  • @uzmaijaz7821
    @uzmaijaz7821 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dear thank you so much for making such a motivational video

  • @sreeragsr878
    @sreeragsr878 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Since U had OCD once.. U r the one qualified to treat us... Word by word, U say abt OCD is the very 'me'..
    Lemme give a try... Scarry but Im tired of running......

  • @danielhirschberg876
    @danielhirschberg876 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm so sick and tired of my OCD since I was 5 I'm 65 now

    • @honeykumar5448
      @honeykumar5448 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      U said ur OCD start at the age of 5 and now your age 65 🙄🙄🙄

  • @revbiz4499
    @revbiz4499 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Very very very helpful..amazing great video... Thanks. God bless you ...

  • @johnz.2871
    @johnz.2871 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you Ali! This really helped!

  • @Onisak25
    @Onisak25 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Just what I needed, I have ocd fear of cancer and I found a small lump in rectum and its hemmroids but my ocd is telling me its cancer and it grows and I am gonna die soon lol. I am 31 years old and shouldnt have to worry about this stuff. I had some progress and dont check anymore only do mental compulsions but now I am gonna stop that also. Send me strength I need it hehe :). Damn this is hard but it is the only way. Ive had like 15 types of cancer last 2 years its ridoculous. I hope I make it and thnx for this great video!

  • @reyaanali2390
    @reyaanali2390 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is absolutely precise. Thanl you for making this video.

  • @peednas007
    @peednas007 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    even while listening to this audio i cant stop obsessive thoughts..still its a very helpful video..need councelling in person

    • @senaidsakonjic9755
      @senaidsakonjic9755 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too iam listening to video while having swallowing obsession

  • @starchivore2317
    @starchivore2317 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Perfect video, thanks 👍👍👍👍

  • @dewdrops9253
    @dewdrops9253 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow great idea. Thanks. Stick on ur decision. Thats good idea.

  • @venancioestradajr1679
    @venancioestradajr1679 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    OCD is Just Thought. An endless Thought. Not until you disregard It.

  • @valmuska_k
    @valmuska_k 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I know this is an old video, but I still have to say: thank you so much. This is the reason I decited to sleep insted of compulsions. THANK YOU.

  • @nonononononono2022
    @nonononononono2022 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I hate the reassuance shit I’m litterally doing that half of my day, especially when I have swim meets

  • @coreytaylor4214
    @coreytaylor4214 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You’re awesome ali

  • @skylerbowring1514
    @skylerbowring1514 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It’s so hard not to give in and I feel like when I’m not sitting down and doing these behaviors over and over, they build up and my mind tells me I have so many things I need to fix and I get very overwhelmed.

    • @yfoog
      @yfoog 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know. Me too.

  • @pghendry1
    @pghendry1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Does saying “you know” all the time count as a compulsion? 😉

    • @najo7511
      @najo7511 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yeah.......I have those problems too

  • @gimpyjwilliams
    @gimpyjwilliams 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i always convince myself i just need to do it this one last time then i will stop and start over not doing anymore compulsions, while it does last sometimes for a while the next big enough threat makes me say the same thing again, just this one last time...................

  • @roycropper2673
    @roycropper2673 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have suffered with ocd for years now was afraid to tell people at first but now it’s out there it’s so much better. My rituals drive me round the effin bend I can’t do anything without repeating what I do until I’m happy with the way it’s been done. I would love to go back to how I use to be but seems impossible 👎🏼

    • @nathanielrossi9659
      @nathanielrossi9659 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Stay strong brother I don't know what your ocd is but I'm right there with you we all can over come this somehow God bless you bro. I felt like I had a mental breakdown recently ocd is insanity but it can be beat. I guess we gotta just stop an try to wait out our brains to reprogram it's self an were back to normal. I don't even know how I ended up ocd.

    • @roycropper2673
      @roycropper2673 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nathanielrossi9659 neither do I mate it’s bloody hell isn’t it I speak to a therapist and he says the only way to overcome it is something called exposure therapy basically stopping all the rituals etc but by doing that my anxiety would be hell. We will get there tho bro we’ve been normal before and we can do it again

  • @nathandillow8052
    @nathandillow8052 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Ali so much for this video.. This is exactly what I've been going through daily and you're spot on with the mental compulsions part...it's terrible. And no it is def.not worth it

  • @c.k.1958
    @c.k.1958 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great helpful video thank you Ali and very true xx

  • @ayengorospe2652
    @ayengorospe2652 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Most of the people doesn't know about OCD. I was judged and criticized because of it. One time, I was invited in a family party of a friend. And I don't how to say that I can't shake hands, eat their foods without smelling it first or drink their juices without a leftover. It's in my system, like I can't stop doing it no matter what. Hard habit to break. Because of it, I received one of the hurtful words that I can't truly forget. 😭😭😭😄

    • @sheyanderson9498
      @sheyanderson9498 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Keep fighting no matter what!

    • @ayengorospe2652
      @ayengorospe2652 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sheyanderson9498 thank you! 😍😍😍

    • @amy9818
      @amy9818 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s okay you should do it if it makes you feel better I have OCD to I was diagnosed at 5 I’m 20 now it’s been hard for me living with ocd I do these compulsions with my mouth and I feel like people are judging me but I can’t help it I feel like if I don’t do it I will lose control of myself and i have trouble functioning when I don’t do it I been through meany ocd rituals from turning lights on and of from putting my teddy bears and clown doll in my closest because it freaked me out thinking my finger was going to fall of because I had an cut on it thinking of harming my family but that was gone now thank god for that and now it just mouth compulsions and omg it’s been hell but idc what people have to say about it don’t care if anyone ever makes mean comment about me doing it because I can’t help being me I didn’t choose to have it it choose me if I could hand it over on to an plate I would here take my ocd

  • @ismatara987
    @ismatara987 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "You must not feel guilty for OCD thoughts"

  • @outdoorsummiteer399
    @outdoorsummiteer399 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your the best Ali 👏👏👏

  • @juliaadrien5324
    @juliaadrien5324 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you SO much for these videos, Ali!

  • @Grod1020
    @Grod1020 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I know... You know?

  • @JasonMyersRVA
    @JasonMyersRVA 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this is great advice for someone who is anal ... ocd is far harder to not do the ritual. if a person doesn't do it, it will be all they think about until it is done. the intrusive thoughts will not leave their brain all day, and the next day, and the next until they relieve the anxiety by performing the ritual ... and this isn't to mention the thoughts a person with ocd has ALL the time. thoughts a normal person would not want to have. believe me

  • @amandapietraszewski7822
    @amandapietraszewski7822 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I think a great video that would help a lot of people would be in regards to the fact of when you choose to recover it’s really like taking a leap of faith in knowing who you Truly are and that needing to be enough. That I think is the hardest part because in my case I have brought my ocd down to about a 5 in regards to new thoughts that come in but the only thing holding me back is this one thought from the past that really bothers me still..and I’m at the point where I just need to take that leap of faith because this is the only thought holding me back at this point and I’m never going to figure this thought out and I need to just trust myself regardless of the fears. Do you find this happens often in recover where someone is recovering well but theirs just one thought really holding them back from full recovery?

    • @samuelsnell9474
      @samuelsnell9474 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel the same about this one thought trying to solve it which is a mental compulsion

    • @yfoog
      @yfoog 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes I feel I have this too. Find it hard to let go and just trust myself… but yes, healing from OCD is totally about taking a leap of faith into the unknown… it feels like you don’t know who you are etc if you don’t do compulsions

  • @lovestinks29
    @lovestinks29 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you, it's been absolutely brutal with OCD, specially at work dealing with numbers and people's pay. One extra 0 and things would be a disaster, I had OCD since I was 14, and having an accounting/ Payroll career have made it an absolute nightmare. I will do my absolute best to not react to the compulsions.

  • @kommalapatipraveen4403
    @kommalapatipraveen4403 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you very much.

  • @Ashleyiza
    @Ashleyiza 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    SUCH A HELPFUL VIDEO
    ❤️

  • @martinhudec6188
    @martinhudec6188 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hello everyone, do you have any tips how to make yourself stop when you're stuck in the reassuring loop?
    It happens to me quite often that when I reassure myself once, I instantly need to recheck. And I get stuck in this loop for some time. I literally don't believe my own perception for some reason. Any tips how to get out of the "panic loop"?

    • @liannemcclean1446
      @liannemcclean1446 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hi I had OCD for 12 years and it was ritual based with intrusive thoughts.
      I can tell you there is definitely hope to recover as I am living proof.
      I had cognitive behavioural therapy that was really difficult at first but definitely worked.
      If you are in a OCD loop the best thing is to sit down close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing..
      Repeat the same thing to yourself that you are safe and you do not need to do the ritual and that your anxiety will go..do this in your mind or say it out loud.
      Then write down the thing you are saying stop after about 10 mins record your anxiety on s scale 1 to 10 .
      Keep repeating this over and over for 30 mins or 60 mins depending on if anxiety starts to reduce.
      You need to keep it wrote in a notebook and refer back to it to reassure yourself your anxiety will drop each time to avoid carrying out compulsions.
      I hope this is helpful

  • @morningperson1234
    @morningperson1234 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is so true.

  • @thejordanchronicles6715
    @thejordanchronicles6715 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow- SUCH a helpful video! Thank you so much xxx

  • @hjon9119
    @hjon9119 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You cannot just tell OCD sufferers to do this, do that. You need techniques otherwise it doesn't work. If it does, then there will be no OCD sufferers in the world.

  • @ciprianwinerElectronicManiac
    @ciprianwinerElectronicManiac 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You saying "you know" all the time is really triggering my OCD lol 😆

  • @MOON-pe4jm
    @MOON-pe4jm 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Trying to override the need to do the compulsion right now. I fee like throwing up. It will pass. It will pass. It will pass.

  • @warriorspirit3316
    @warriorspirit3316 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That is a great help angel Ali .

  • @princessja186
    @princessja186 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    last month i was diagnose with OCD i had other multiple disorders and i've battle it but this my first time experiencing OCD. it gets worst and worst when i go through a traumatic saturation's its a worst feeling it kept me up at night,....

  • @Rogersdrumvideos
    @Rogersdrumvideos 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is unbelievably helpful to me.

  • @luke0089
    @luke0089 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really needed this video, thank you, I’m starting today

  • @anushsaghatelyan2955
    @anushsaghatelyan2955 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    We surely find your videos helpful 😙😙😙

  • @bhartenduvimal1157
    @bhartenduvimal1157 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you so much
    🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @dingdong436.
    @dingdong436. 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you very much Ali!!😍

  • @nathanielrossi9659
    @nathanielrossi9659 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm in the midst of wanting to wash my hands an wipe my phone an honestly I've had a bad last couple days of ocd I basically had a ocd mental breakdown recently an now I'm tryna fix myself cause I can't live like this anymore an this woman is so right on everything she said an it's so on point!

  • @firstube
    @firstube 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    When I ocd about hell, I have to constantly reassure myself. Re read articles about it. Analyze. Man it sucks

  • @davem1430
    @davem1430 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Compulsions are a RELIEF from the "FEELING" NOT the "FEAR" ...only those that CONFUSE the two are missing the point. THE DISTRACTIONS that the FEELING causes and the UNCOMFORT is why the compulsion seems like the less of two evils'.
    So, one says "I ain't gonna do this "compulsion" and lives with the FEEING of uneasiness AND while doing THAT they are in TOTAL unproductive and unease of mind.
    THAT is how they end up AVOIDING things. Now for those who (like me) used to say "my HOME is my CLEAN ZONE" and the REST of the world (including the font lawn) is ocd FEELING, we could at least carry on UNTIL I get home and then I have to de-con BEFORE I have my WIFE "help" me into the house and she cleans up where I tread and then I shower and then I get the "AHHHH" feeling (until I have to GO OUT and do it all over again tomorrow !!)
    I could kick my PARNETS in the ASS for making ME...having ODC is such a PITA that it would be BETTER to NOT have been born. AND IF I KNEW that is was genetic in nature I would have gotten STERILISED before I mad ANY kids to suffer this CRAP !!

  • @kushanrandimamaheepala
    @kushanrandimamaheepala 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you.Thank you very much.Now I know the Fault. God bless you

  • @-Mrs.Tomioka
    @-Mrs.Tomioka 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It’s like: “If I don’t finish this something bad will happen”

  • @Bjooooom
    @Bjooooom 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So my compulsion is googling things in order to get an answer or relief from my ocd theme. But when do I know if it’s a compulsion or if it’s just me googling something?

    • @mrhunter2154
      @mrhunter2154 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I do the exact same thing I’m struggling with that currently right now over the most ridiculous stuff too

    • @Bjooooom
      @Bjooooom 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@mrhunter2154 yeah i was there, i stopped googling anything at all, googling to get relief from your ocd only makes it worse tbh.

    • @mrhunter2154
      @mrhunter2154 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Bjooooom exactly, I’ve wasted so many hours of my free time doing that the last 6 months making a stand today to start working on that

  • @lalas3793
    @lalas3793 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    What u all said in the video is so true and I'm feeling and trying to do every bit I can to help my OCD compulsion but its so bloody hard not to!! But il try my best to do so!!

  • @joseaquines9278
    @joseaquines9278 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I feel relieved by listening to what you says.

  • @sirfog8604
    @sirfog8604 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you - got distracted from the many times you said “you know?” - thanks anyhow though -

  • @ridiventertainment7111
    @ridiventertainment7111 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I can't believe in my eyes because i confused that I see the thing behind is real and that my image thought are real ..that why I am reaching things 10 times but my eyes don't believe .Then I loss my self confidence and I told my mom to check things ..... please help me to overcome my OCD...

    • @wrenadams7550
      @wrenadams7550 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly.same here.u speak my heart out.

    • @fabiolafortun
      @fabiolafortun 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's like for example I am checking if something is clean, my eyes see it's clean but I don't feel satisfied enough to not check again. Seems like maybe the feeling of knowing it's clean is not completely there yet which makes me check several times before I kinda feel ok to move on

  • @Miu_miu_it_girl
    @Miu_miu_it_girl 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much

  • @kepler6484
    @kepler6484 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I don't know how to thank you enough

  • @cherryrosestar6050
    @cherryrosestar6050 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This saved me 40 pounds on therapy to find out this in 7 minutes lol, but if I knew all u were gonna say is fight it and just stop doing it I wouldn't have bothered watching it, coz I can't stop that's what ocd is

  • @arizonazapratski
    @arizonazapratski ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this

  • @Aeroxima
    @Aeroxima 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    There's so much I want to say, but I just had a big ugly cry and don't understand why, but I feel like I have to at least say - Thank you.
    Everything always seems so cheesy and fake, I feel like for once we're actually talking about the same thing.

  • @gamesps9562
    @gamesps9562 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Me:
    -I will complete my ritual just to calm my brain for now.
    -I won't do rituals anymore anymore at all.
    *Later*
    -Okay, i can do at least a small ritual so my head can be fulfilled before the next important thing that i gotta do.
    -Now i'm doing rituals regularly.
    -Why did i do it?
    -I won't do rituals for anything anymore!
    -I looked at something twice.
    -That's my ritual number.
    -Now i did my ritual and i broke the rule and it's over now.
    -No, i won't keep doing it.
    -Oh, i moved my finger twice.
    -I did it again.
    -I'll do everything only one time from now on.
    -No, i can't... my brain hurts.
    -I have to fulfill my brain.
    -I'll do the ritual ONE MORE TIME and it's OVER.
    -I put my phone twice on the table but i will not concentrate on that.
    -It's not part of my OCD, just what's left of it.
    *Later*
    -Oh, i did this twice again.
    -When i said i"ll do my ritual one last time again, i lied.
    -If my rituals are not helping anything than why does my brain feel better for a moment when i do it?
    -My brain want's to eat more obsessive rituals now.
    -Screw it... i'll stop doing this later, now i gotta give my brain what he wants.
    *Repeats the whole thing*
    -I gotta take it serious this time.
    *Makes //doing a ritual for the "last time"// a part of the ritual itself and does it every time*
    -Okay, last time!
    -Last time, no more!
    -Last time out all last times!
    -Last of all
    -Wait, it's not working.
    -I gotta find a new way to stop it.
    -I'm gonna do the ritual FINAL time.
    -This time for real: FINAL!
    -OVER!
    -Nothing's working.
    -I'm gonna be smart and will not try to directly push it away.
    -I'll meditate.
    -I gotta take breath by breath, not 2 breaths by two breaths.
    -Okay, i did it.
    -Completed the meditation.
    -I'm still doing the rituals.
    -Where the fuck is my fucking beer?

    • @avikbajpai5510
      @avikbajpai5510 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here brother in my case my brain forces me to do rituals as if I'll refuse then there can be a verbal fight in my family or any member could be harmed... I don't know what to do inspite that rituals doesn't work still m following them like drinking water in 4 sips, praying and begging for a good happy environment in my home

    • @ItzProdigy12
      @ItzProdigy12 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      same here...

    • @gamesps9562
      @gamesps9562 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@avikbajpai5510 It's tough to live with OCD. We were given a serious challenge. Obviously our rituals are not helping in any case, we just need to convince our brain that we do not need rituals. Easier said than done, of course. Try to stay strong and don't do the rituals when you have the most need to practice them. If you can control it while in highest pressure, you should be able to overcome it. Just like we programmed our brain to do stupid shit, we should be able to re-program it back to normal. Just remember... it's hard, but it's damn possible!

    • @gamesps9562
      @gamesps9562 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ItzProdigy12 Don't fight it. Just accept it, but do not let it own you and it should go on its own. I'm still trying. It's damn hard.

    • @avikbajpai5510
      @avikbajpai5510 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@gamesps9562 yea brother whatever u said is 100% correct but the thing is if I won't do it and then something mis happens then I know it'll be hard to continue the streak.... It's Seriously the worst thing... Sometimes even after rituals too these things happen.. I seriously don't know what to... I've became the slave of my fucking mind

  • @daiujin
    @daiujin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I REFUSE!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @timcook4552
    @timcook4552 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    thanks for this!!!!

  • @mikecodding6214
    @mikecodding6214 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Anyone who listens to this, be ready to hear this woman say “ya know” ad naseum.

  • @cosmicbrotv6525
    @cosmicbrotv6525 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks! Your awesome!

  • @S.sabr___
    @S.sabr___ 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    thank you for this video

  • @legobatman2440
    @legobatman2440 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks ma'am this really did help me