Paul's Obsession With Buying Underwear Is Ruining His Marriage
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 ต.ค. 2024
- Clara and Paul have come to Steve Harvey, Garcelle Beauvais, Catt Sadler, Evelyn Lozada and Brooke Burke for advice in how to save their relationship.
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I feel bad for him. I think he needs talking therapy I see alot of pain in his eyes
greedy greedy
agreed...maybe he's a lil deppressed for not being a bread winner
I feel so bad for him....He looks like he's hurting. This is deeper than the socks and underwear. He is clearly no longer the man of the house and he lost his ego. I wish him love and happiness.
I wonder if this relates to a mental disorder of some sort
His ass is selfish. Im sorry. But thats what Im getting from his vibes and from the issues with the children. When you are married its not all abt you. I do think they need therapy though. They seem to really love each other because they both welling to go to steve for help and now to take therapy. But something has to change. Many men are not happy with not being the breadwinner and sometimes they react poorly. But at point are they justified to put that insecurity on their partner.
Nice
May God be with him
So true
I feel sad for him... I dont think he means any harm, he just needs some guidance..
goldmouth100 A female who feels pity for a man, you're a rare one babygirl 😀. I didn't know God still created y'all.
goldmouth100, I agree. He's obviously struggling with himself; he doesn't mean to hurt his family.
Haitian Prodigy, s'ak pase? Lol
I think something traumatic has happened to this man in his life, possibly when he was a child, instead of putting him down, he should go to a therapist, and find out what's wrong, and they been married for 10 years, now as far as the relationship between him and the kids, in some cases the woman don't want the man to say anything to the kids, no matter what the situation is, you have a then 13 year old boy whose now a 23 year old man still living at home huffing and puffing at the man, because he won't talk to him, or do anything for him, and the man comes home from work and give you the money, and you still expect him to be man of the house.
That lady was smart to diagnose his retail therapy as being a symptom of a bigger problem relating to his feeling of self-worth, being a step-parent is rough.
He looks depressed ,maybe because he used to be the breadwinner of the family , it's the male ego ,buying all these things is a not the real problem it just a symptom
I am surprised they still having sex, he doesn't seem to be of any use to himself, his wife or the kids.
Truth.
I doubt he ever was the breadwinner
I think the problem isn’t just him shopping it’s that they can’t afford it.
Raven Anderson I agree
Raven Anderson cant u just lie once?lol
Yea
The shopping gives him something to be in control of, gives him some authority because it seems his wife wears the pants.
The wife seems to speak down to her husband and seems sad. He seems depressed and sad. Therapy is needed for him.
Oh please it's not about the socks it's deeper than that
Ali Pali
yep agreed
Dude looks and sounds like Cedrick the Entertainer.
I feel bad for him, he's clearly going through something I'm glad they got him a therapist
Well damn....I wouldn't want a live public therapy session 😬. This was a little brutal.
My thoughts exactly 💯!! This shouldn’t have been addressed on national TV, and certainly not on the Steve show. This literally did more damage to his self esteem, and manhood. Every marriage has issues, but I don’t respect the way she handled this matter.
He physically showed the exact moment the lady hit the nail. It was painful to watch, but so needed.
She didn't have to say on TV she's the bread winner.
That was a major put down of a man. Big, big insult whether she meant it or not. Almost every man wants to be the breadwinner, much like women want to bring life into the world. It's innate to use - don't insult us that deeply.
@@LeMerch I agree it's a major let down but just because it might hurt doesn't mean it's wrong. It's important to know she's the breadwinner because he's spending too much money and its affecting her, if he's the breadwinner spending his own money she can't be as upset
@@deogooden5329 facts
@@deogooden5329 But then she said she only takes half of his paycheck, so essentially she is not the breadwinner. She probably makes more but she is not the sole provider. Additionally, they live in two separate households so he must be holding down some Forte.
@@SammySam316 I'm the bread winner my girlfriend also works but I make twice as much, my $2000 contribution vs her $500 means I'm the breadwinner no body said sole provider/care giver that doesn't mean I'm wrong for telling her not to waste thousands of dollars on shoes and bags
No, underwear and socks are not worn outside your clothes, BUT you do feel hella good about yourself knowing that YOU look good in them. Even if no one will see them. Just saying. Cause i know that feeling
Exactly my thought
why is she saying she is the bread winner?
Maxine Jafta Exactly! Smh. It doesn't matter who's the bread winner.
Because she's not really the breadwinner , she just manages her husband's income to provide for the family.
Maxine Jafta -Saying that publicly was emasculating.
Typical
That hurts!
Everyone just attacked this man!
Clearly the shopping is nothing but a out cry after out cry! Hope he gets right and mabey she and her son gots to go!!!!!
But she said she's the breadwinner....making it seem like he doesn't work but spends all this money...
Why do they immediately assume that he is the root of the problem???
He would’ve said it. If you’re willing to put it out that you don’t even stay in the same household and agree that you don’t love yourself it’s really not that important to keep it in if she was the problem. He is just buying it to feel better about not supporting the family how he wants. It’s simple really
She made it personal talking about the kids and drinking. Typically, these questions are silly and sometimes dumb, but I think this one crossed the line….airing this personal info on national tv…then having to listen to the panel of hens tell him what wrong with him👎
N honestly, his wife has issues too I can tell. The moment Steve read out the man, she immediately raised her voice, who knows the things she says to him
That was weird, Everybody knew it had to be more than socks and underwear. Smh
Who made those bunch of women the experts lol 😂
It's very impressive how perceptive this panel was as a whole to this couple's problems.
How come the panel just jumped in on him. I'm more concerned why his wife brought him here instead of therapy. This man looks in pain , sad n hurt. She is focused on underwears, but that's not the problem. He just using the underwear to cover for his pain. These panel can't help. This woman also has n issue n I can see it
He is hurting and can't get pass something hope the therapy works
I couldn’t finish watching this cause they were making him cry awe
I really don’t like the way he was just attacked for buying socks and underwear with his own money!!!!!
He really just needs help tho.. thank God he's going to therapy
Why do these black women like Rosie their business on tv 🤦🏾♂️
I hope it worked out for them. They were taking the right steps by admitting there's a problem and agreeing to work through it with therapy.
Love Uncle Steve! He needed a therapist. That was a great call👍🏽
If she loves him or at least respects him she wouldnt saying all these private staff on national t.v... I think the man is depressed and she is not supporting.
Hes wife looks problamatic
What is going on now a days. Lol. They’re not serious. P.s Steve I am not taking nor want any advice from Evelyn lozada. 🙄. Lol.
roc luxe Agree...Evelyn Lozada giving advice...That’s funny.
roc luxe WHERE IS EVELYN LOZADA?
Evelyn is the First Lady in all black.
God bless his heart...really feel bad for him.
I, myself have this obsession, but it's like full of drawers of them but not in the extra storage. What's wrong with him being clean. I get the point that a person is stacking up in the storage bucket. Even Steve probably have an obsession of wearing nice suits and it's nothing wrong with that.
What has being clean got to do with anything? She's not complaining about laundry detergent.
I'm also sure that Steve can also AFFORD to buy nice suits and things and he's not giving his wife 1/2 of his paycheck to pay bills either. When your significant other is TELLING YOU that there's "trouble in paradise," you don't just go out and purchase whatever the hell you want and not satisfy the needs of the other people in the house. Those needs can be physically, mentally, emotionally, Spiritually, financially or sexually, but in either case - I'm glad that Steve is helping them get some counseling. There DEFINITELY is an underlying issue that's causing him to do the things he's doing. And she's still with him right now, even as they live in separate homes, so there's still hope. Praying for all parties involved...
Leslie Martin This is why people end up divorced or unhappily married for show, by ignoring the needs and concerns of others in the relationship. Hopefully, the counselling helps but I'm not holding my breath. The therapist can only take you to the river. They can't make you drink the water.
I honestly think hes depressed
he would feel better about himself if he Hit that Gym 5 times/week, no under wear on the world would make you look and feel better...period..LOL
I truly hope they can work things out. They seem to still love each other. This show the power of selfishness in a relationship and how it can destroy it.
Awwwwww. He feels like he’s less then a man bcuz men associate providing and protecting their family as what a man does. Once he couldn’t provide he needed to have something he can control...I.E=shopping. It’s just like us ladies when we get new underwear we feel empowered and beautiful I know tons of women who shop to feel voids. The same w him. I think he should either go back to school or find a new job or volunteer. He has to do something that gives him purpose. Now, with that being said. The fact that this mother has had two children and he hasn’t tried to or has built a relationship w them is on HER not him. If a man is just there for me and not my kids then I don’t need him. That doesn’t mean financially...that means contribute something to their lives! So women stop dating men who can give two ****s about your children. Your kids are a package deal! He’s marrying into your already formed family. So that on HER!!!!
Thanks for sharing
Does anyone else think he looks like Cedric the entertainer🤔?
geraldine pearson
he does
Maybe he's shopping habit is something he does to relieve stress or anger rather than being addicted to something much worse. You remember she said if he stops buying those things, he resorts to drinking. I think he's buying stuff to overcome being addicted to alcohol or something else. And maybe this whole situation may have started from pain from the past about something.
This was so confusing. How did they go from underwear to his relationship with his kids?
Hannah Ihekweme there was just a deeper meaning to his addiction
*sigh*
I think they cut out some of it. They don't always put the whole video of a certain topic on TH-cam. I think it's to save time
I heard his voice crack a bit
I hope he’s doing better and the wife and kids
And I need more socks and underwear..
It sounds like something more than socks and underwear. He looks so sad and unhappy I pray it works out for them
So they’ve been together for 10+ years & he’s never formed a relationship with her children? I feel as if she hasn’t put her children first. Those children were minors when they first got together. This is horrible. Seems as if she’s only concerned about keeping this man.
first of all why are you with him love is not enough babegirl. a man has responsibility and first on the list is being the breadwinner. you can't do that yet u you know how to spend more money. women y'all need to stop using your hrart use ur head
She quickly said she is the breadwinner and as the conversation goes on, she said he gives her HALF of his paycheck. Later on, we learned that they live in TWO SEPARATE HOUSEHOLDS. Ma’am, do you want to take 100% of his paychecks?
that man need urgent help
It's stupid to have a panel of 4 ladies for this 😂. The man is more depressed after the talk.
Cat is on point!!!
Live in 2 households and he still giving half his check something ain't right
Because he's a 🤡🤡. I'm not going to give no women half of my check. He needs to put his feet down
4:13 God, this guy is almost in tears.Shopping is a therapy and a drug in the same time. I have this problem and I know why. It is coming from my childhood. I just pulled myself out from Saks Fifth Avenue. Trust me, it is damn hard lol
This is the wrong place to discuss this issue. There are certain things the man will not say on TV and the panel with those women talking to him like that will make things worse for this relationship.
Steve always gets me every time😂😂😂😂
Sounds like new underwear for new chics 🧐
Debs_Life2018 I think there more hurt than we hear. We as men we like to look strong while we are breaking inside.
Lord have mercy
The man is crying, its breaking my geart
Ok I thought this was going to be a FUNNY segment about the drawers...what in the world, so confused. She said she was the bread winner then said he gives her half his check but in 2 seperate households. I wish them the best.
Toniette Parker
yep me too. i was waiting for 1 or 2 jokes about underwear
That’s an ego-trip for her to say she’s the “breadwinner” like that.
Breadwinner who takes half of the man's paycheck. Does she even know the meaning of Breadwinner?
Why she putting him on blast like that? 73,000 people have seen this on youtube, not to mention the people that saw it on television and the people in the room.
I don't think they are going to make it.
What about womens obsession of buying some clothes bag,make up..and shoes?
Marycel Calabria Not all women have that obsession. She may be one of us.
If she can afford them why not. As goes for the man if u can afford it why not
Sa Sa so true
this isn't about that it's about them and their financial difficulty
Focus! we're talking about him having a shopping problem. not women having a shopping problem. stay on target
If I was him! I would leave her period. She said off the top I'm the bread winner! In which it doesn't matter (who cares) Made him look bad on National tv. And I bet she throws it in his face I make more money than you smh. I hope he leaves her. She got him feeling like a child smh.
Hawkeye but what if she's the bread winner though, that is why as a man u should always try to remain in that position, u can't be spending off Money on a whim that can be used for something more important.
Personally as a woman i feel like she didn't need to mention she z a bread winner.in my culture i grew up seeing men & women work and it doesn't really matter to me who the breadwinner is, as long as no body is lazy.in my family mostly women were the one with high pay jobs and u could hardly know it cus they don't discuss it with others, family business stays in family,we are a very reserved culture and i find it strange how in the western countries people be throwing their business out there as a norm, at first i used to think tv shows are not real, meaning they are acting cus none can dare put their business out there but i realized it's their culture i guess .
anyways she shouldn't have said that cus i could see the man's face drop when she said that,please don't bring ur business on tv,sort it out at home.i never heard my parents fight cus if they did it's something they'd do in their bedroom and don't let anyone else know it,cus at somepoint they'd come warn me about what i did wrong and that's why they never want me to see them doing wrong cus they know they would lose my respect and feel like they cannot correct me since i see them doing the same.
Why did she have to say she was a bread winner 😡
you are a good man Steve Harvey
That man is seeking an escape route through this habit. Some counselling should help
Wow!! He only gives half of his check for the household.
Kelvin Davis how much should he be giving to his family?
What the hell?!! They talkin bout some dam underwear and Steve and them sayin his underwear is a representation of his neglect of being an active father figure and husband. And they not even living together and they need counseling all because they’re talking about underwear? WTF?!
Bobby brown after 60 pounds
I don't even buy socks, t shirt's, and underwear anymore. i have enough to last for 10 years!.
We had this same problem. Our agreement is when he buys new ones he has to throw away just as many as he has purchased.
I don’t see anybody trying to help him I believe he feels attacked
Woman have become the bread winner he has depression which make him feel inferior to uplift himself he need purchase things. This is a natural response from a distress mind. But this panel and his wife is no help at all
There’s no reason for a women to say out loud they’re the bread winner. This woman forgets today you have it tomorrow you don’t.
My guess is they aren't together. Didn't even take time to form a relationship with her kids? They're basically two old people dating. They don't have a marriage.
He has OCD. Buying socks and underwear is his compulsion. They gotta figure out what’s causing the obsession to feel “fresh”
Does Steve really give Marjorie the sum of all his pay checks
The man ain't happy in his marriage and he doesn't like his wife's son but he loves his wife. GTFOH
feel really sad for the wife. Shes going through alot. Its really hard struggling with these problems.
Before you get a woman make sure you can pay for everything.
I like this panel.
Hubby is not the problem, she is the problem. Yes, I said it...
(1) Her son is not a kid. It's a 23 yr old grown man in the hm who shd have known by a least 20 he needed to move out...
He's overstayed his childhood by 5 yrs. Time to go go go...
There are empty college dorms in every major city.
(2) Hubby doesn't feel like the man of the house...immaculated. That's where the purchases come into play...who wears the 👖 🩳 .
(3) She is so insensitive...She announced to millions of viewers with great fervor, "I'm the 🍞 winner."
The way she said that says a great deal. We heard...I only take half his lil check!
(4) She didnt have to go there at all. It's arrogance. We heard, I mk more money so I run this show...
(4) The obvious prob is she has taken on the role of headship in the household & reduced her man to just a p...s.
(5) He's reaching out for things that embrace his masculinity...hence the undies.
(6) How much you want to bet he doesn't even get to pick out his own cloths, so undies is all he can control.
(7) He's already moved out...I have a gorgeous single aunt.
He's miserable in this marriage.
It's not about shopping because is focus is on socks, t-shirts and underwear. He needs to see a therapist there is a deeper trauma here. Maybe it something that stems from his childhood.
Thank you steve for assisting where its really needed.💜
He is rebelling in his own immature way, that he is being emasculated, not sure why is still in thus marriage. The underwear only show that is the only thing he controls in his life.
She made sure she let everyone know she’s the bread winner lol only women do that
The lady shone light in such a dark room..the buying new staff is just to sooth him then they become old and he needs to feel new ...and the cycle continues
they need to dig into the deeper issues. therapy
Men, don't let your woman feed you. Strive to take care your family.
hoped it all worked out for them cant find out no more shows !!!!!!!!!
When you wanna do what you wanna do, you go make your own money. Then you can do as you please!
Any update on this dude?
Just leave the man alone. He's not bothering anyone.
Why is Garcelle Beauvais on this panel ?
Y’all are so easily manipulated 😂 “I feel bad for him “ he’s a grown man choosing not to provide for his family and even taking from the household
Ahhh he's having an affair. Just say it.
What happened to these couple
I love you Steve, your points in deep!!!!
why those girls attacking the man, just talk nice and help him. Not throwing rocks on him when all of u have problems. Thanks Steve fixed it and send them to therapy .
What a stupid guy. Poor wife and kids. What kind of father doesn't have a good relationship with the kids. SAD
He can't buy a man girdle?
did he not have enough t-shirts, underwear and socks when he was a kid?? just sayin' that: he's obviously depressed..and shopping for those items + drinking, those are his go-to's..he needs a therapist to help guide him through his depression.
and why does she take only half his check?? they need more?? since it sounds like she's "the bread winner," as she says..the she receives half of his own paycheck and then pays the bills.
he's free to do what he wants with the remaining half?? trying to understand what the money problem is..but really, whatever the case, he is, clearly drprrssed and needs help for that..and maybe the wife, is she a control freak?? or they need to rewrite their budget.
strange marriage, either way..and how sad for the kids..an absentee father who they lived in the same house with..did he ever even *want* kids??.... 🤔🤔🤔🤔