I left London about a year and a half ago, left a toxic job and what I felt a toxic city. I had high expectations for my new country (which is a lot of pressure) I didn't know anyone here ... Luckily I have found my happiness here, but I don't think it has anything to do with the destination but rather finding peace within myself. I think the key for is to not expect a place, thing or person to change you, it has to come from within. A change of location just gives you a physical restart button which is the cheat code. I have had down days and do not know whether I will stay in this new country forever but now I'm taking each day as it comes. Its also nice to have a confidence to know I can move to a new country alone and still be OK. Thanks for sharing your content Paige and your openness x
Thank you for this. I just moved to Spain two months ago. And been really struggling with missing home and family. But I am now learning to leave everything in God's hands and forge forward. Thanks again.
Hi girl. I hate it here….i just moved here March 2023 and I feel like I’m drowning everyday…..I never thought I could be depressed ever in my life. Never believe in the word “depression”. My situation is hard because i can’t move right now. It sucks. I’m trying my best to stay positive everyday but it’s not easy. I am glad to have found your video. May god bless you girl.
So proud you made it through all of that. And came out stronger. An inspiration. I moved to London in August 2022, after wanting to move for so many years. It was my only big goal in life. I unfortunately couldn't push through as I had a full nervous breakdown within a couple months. I do wish i could've kept going, and i worry that i let other people convince me i had to return to my home country (where i also felt stuck and now feel even more stuck again). My mental health is gradually improving, one little day at a time, and I hope one day I can maybe try come abroad again. My heart still yearns for the UK.
That same thing happen to me! I got into grad school in London and a few weeks after moving out to London, I had second thoughts and came back to the States. Now, I just got into grad school over there again, after six years, and I’ve decided to go back and go through with it this time! Don’t give up on a dream! ❤️❤️❤️
Just think of how many thousands of folks who relocate to London go through that same mental state of adjusting, I went through the same thing moving to London at the age of 20 , the dragging on of mental highs and lows . You'll get through it Paige. Stay blessed.
Keep the faith. It takes at least 5 years to become fully acclimated to a country. That's how long it took me when I migrated from Trinidad 🇹🇹 to the USA. Blessings
It depends on what you mean by "acclimated" because in my opinion that isn't a sure thing. I grew up in California for the first 16 years of my life [total, left when I was 18 but lived in Australia for two years at age age 8-10] and moved back to Australia in early 2017 and having spent most of my childhood in the US and the entirety of the period between 10-18 despite living in Australia you will still always be aware of how different another country actually is and what you are missing from back in your own country. The only way to accept a country for what it is is to scale the benefits it brings compared to where you are from and hopefully those benefits outweigh the cons which in the case of Australia the benefits of Australia outweigh the cons when compared to the US [for now, that remains to be seen with how much housing prices and everything else has risen here, australia is in a bigger housing bubble than US cities like california etc].
I moved from California to Ireland and had the same experience. I didn’t know why I was so sad and it freaked me out! I had never felt a depression like that in my life. Then I started exploring more and realizing people don’t talk about the loneliness and the shock of change that happens with moving abroad. It really does take 4-5 years to fully settle and it’s not easy but that’s why we do it. You come out on the other end with a new understanding of yourself and a new perspective of the world. Thanks for sharing your journey.
I just got married to a European guy and I'm from Africa. I have sleepless nights thinking about relocating. I get depressed thinking about it, I was having anxiety before the wedding because I didn't want to move, the thought of leaving my family to be in miserable weather and miserable people makes me depressed. Maybe it's a good thing that I have no expectations. But you just gave me hope to stick it out 😢
than you so much for this! I literally just went through the same exact feelings that you described and I feel like you gave answers to my questions. I just started a youtube channel in hopes that I can share my living abroad experience with people and also share that it's not all sunshines and rainbows like the instagram photos that we post! thank you for making this video
I moved abroad in 2019 as well and I was at my lowest point in my life too! I have to read that book cuz the minute you started reading it spoke to my soul.
Paige the only thing constant in this life is change.once you get your head around that and accept it that's what will make your life easier and less painful. always remember it's not what happens to us in life that breaks us it's how we see it which can either build us or break us totally.which one we choose is entirely down to us! Thank you for sharing this video.much appreciated! Peace and love 💛
Warning signs any one from another country or place London is not paradise if you are coming here just come here for short holiday then head back home 🏡 just keeping it real
Soooo yeaaaa...what you said Paige. I'm in my first week permanently relocating outside the US, and I JUST asked myself this morning "what am I doing with myself?...my life? I just got here, why am I so fidgety, low energy, and feeling sad already? Especially because I've been an worked abroad so many times before in chunks of weeks, months, semester. Why does it feel so different? And then talking to friends and hearing them say...I love your life, you have the coolest gigs, etc. I felt like a huge imposter, because ya girl got tears in the queue. Anyways, I appreciate you given voice to what I'm currently feeling. We're exactly where we're supposed to be, and gon be aight indeed. Thanks girl! 😊
This blessed me. I'm about to embark on a journey as an expat and I'm starting to inform my circle that I'm out of here soon. Today I began to mourn my familiarity with routine and systems, then how I'm going to have to reestablish that where I'm going. I know I'll be fine but I look forward to things working like a well-oiled machine again. I too am leaving Chicago, btw.
I was miserable in my hometown in AL and I always dreamed of living somewhere else I hated my job there also just everything very lonely. I moved to California and got a job i really like but after a few year's I felt sad again and continue to struggle with feelings of unfufillment, sadness, loneliness and just uncertainty so many can relate I need that book.
thank you, ive dreamt about moving abroad my whole life, and i quit a great job to be in London, landed a scholarship from my government, and its been 7 months that im here, definitely experienced the honeymoon phase and then some lows that i couldnt comprehend. thank you for your message, it feels better to know im not alone
Happy you enjoyed Helsinki. I went in 2019 for a school trip and stayed for only 24 hours. When I did eat meat, I had one of the best burgers there. I want to go back one of these years.
London is very depressing! Its like a place you step in then you'll be automatically unhappy! Its spiritual! Especially if your spirit rejects a specific place, it can spike your depression to the point of illness!
Thanks for your feedback! I haven’t had this experience and have loved living in London very much aside from the inevitable struggles but your experience is valid!
This was so relatable because I have definitely been there moving away from everything and everyone you know can be so scary I love how you didn’t give up and things turned around for you I need a copy of this book I was hoping that you would give us a review thanks for sharing 💕
I’m preparing to travel internationally for the first time. Kinda scary for an old girl like me but I’ve always wanted to see the motherland and Ghana is so hot right now! It should be easier, plenty of expats there including my fellow Chicagoans. We be everywhere.Did you meet any chill folks from home over there? Did you see any ghosts yet? Anyplace that old must be riddled with ghosts! Thank you for this most helpful video and all the best to you.💯
Bravo Paige, Bravo! 🥂So good to see you've starting to understand how awesome life can be, that book sound enlightening and cathartic. Good for you! ❤️
Thank you for sharing! Great reflection and great story. I'll be buying the book for sure. I'm always going through change haha. I love it but it does come with the feelings you described.
The book sounds very good and inspiring and insightful. You have done so well and overcome so much and By Gods Grace will go on to achieve much more thank you for sharing it is very appreciated 😍😍😍❤️❤️❤️👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I can totally relate.. I literally moved to my dream country, achieved my #1 goal and felt the same way. It's not easy discussing this topic, thank you💞 🙏🏾 I'll try to get the audible version of the book.
The only way your environment will change your outcome is if your environment was the problem. People try to run from feelings and that's never the anecdote
So interesting Paige book really breaks it down to you ~don’t forget you went through COVID madness 😢held you back and sure you would’ve been more happier with your family than being in London at that moment of time ~ I know you have great friends but your friends not your family is most important to you but you are such beautiful really lovely young lady ❤
lol no. if it was an ad I would have made that clear. I'm reading a book and shared my affiliate link if anyone else wants to buy it from my recommendation.
Why move somewhere and expect it to change everything you went through? You had all the baggage of america STILL. you have to unload your baggage? Aka heal? Dont mislead people to not move abroad just because you live life at the tip of your glacier. America is disgusting and most of its food is banned in 60+ countries. This was a wild video introduction.
My brave chosen one 💪🏽!!! You keep praying and pushing on . And don’t ever give up . GOD’s got you !!!!🙏🏽😊🥰
Love you so much mom! 💗
What a loving and supportive mum…with your mum & god, you’ve got this….wishing you all the best…enjoy!!
@@happyheart6887 thank you sooo much!
Someone said to me about trying to get away (moving) from unresolved feelings, think about this. “Wherever you go, you take yourself with you.”
Yes! My mother always told me this as well 😊
I left London about a year and a half ago, left a toxic job and what I felt a toxic city. I had high expectations for my new country (which is a lot of pressure) I didn't know anyone here ... Luckily I have found my happiness here, but I don't think it has anything to do with the destination but rather finding peace within myself. I think the key for is to not expect a place, thing or person to change you, it has to come from within. A change of location just gives you a physical restart button which is the cheat code. I have had down days and do not know whether I will stay in this new country forever but now I'm taking each day as it comes. Its also nice to have a confidence to know I can move to a new country alone and still be OK.
Thanks for sharing your content Paige and your openness x
I totally agree!! Our happiness can not be dependent on our circumstances. Thank you for sharing! 😊
I feel like a lot of black women suffer in silence with depression. Life is hard for us. And the lack of men in the dating pool doesn’t help.
Thank you for this. I just moved to Spain two months ago. And been really struggling with missing home and family. But I am now learning to leave everything in God's hands and forge forward. Thanks again.
You’ve got this! There will be so much beauty on the other side of the struggle. 🫶🏼
@@PaigeMariah I do! Thank you.
Managing your own expectations is the most important part of mental health.
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I needed this comment, thank you 😊
Hi girl. I hate it here….i just moved here March 2023 and I feel like I’m drowning everyday…..I never thought I could be depressed ever in my life. Never believe in the word “depression”. My situation is hard because i can’t move right now. It sucks. I’m trying my best to stay positive everyday but it’s not easy. I am glad to have found your video. May god bless you girl.
So proud you made it through all of that. And came out stronger. An inspiration.
I moved to London in August 2022, after wanting to move for so many years. It was my only big goal in life. I unfortunately couldn't push through as I had a full nervous breakdown within a couple months. I do wish i could've kept going, and i worry that i let other people convince me i had to return to my home country (where i also felt stuck and now feel even more stuck again). My mental health is gradually improving, one little day at a time, and I hope one day I can maybe try come abroad again. My heart still yearns for the UK.
Sending you lots of love! So happy to hear you’re feeling better 🫶🏼
That same thing happen to me! I got into grad school in London and a few weeks after moving out to London, I had second thoughts and came back to the States. Now, I just got into grad school over there again, after six years, and I’ve decided to go back and go through with it this time! Don’t give up on a dream! ❤️❤️❤️
Girl, that note on positive events sometimes triggering sadness ... Yo! My soul needed this. I feel so understood. Thank you so much for sharing this.
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Just think of how many thousands of folks who relocate to London go through that same mental state of adjusting, I went through the same thing moving to London at the age of 20 , the dragging on of mental highs and lows . You'll get through it Paige. Stay blessed.
Thank you so much!
Keep the faith. It takes at least 5 years to become fully acclimated to a country. That's how long it took me when I migrated from Trinidad 🇹🇹 to the USA. Blessings
Thank you!
It depends on what you mean by "acclimated" because in my opinion that isn't a sure thing.
I grew up in California for the first 16 years of my life [total, left when I was 18 but lived in Australia for two years at age age 8-10] and moved back to Australia in early 2017 and having spent most of my childhood in the US and the entirety of the period between 10-18 despite living in Australia you will still always be aware of how different another country actually is and what you are missing from back in your own country.
The only way to accept a country for what it is is to scale the benefits it brings compared to where you are from and hopefully those benefits outweigh the cons which in the case of Australia the benefits of Australia outweigh the cons when compared to the US [for now, that remains to be seen with how much housing prices and everything else has risen here, australia is in a bigger housing bubble than US cities like california etc].
I moved from California to Ireland and had the same experience. I didn’t know why I was so sad and it freaked me out! I had never felt a depression like that in my life. Then I started exploring more and realizing people don’t talk about the loneliness and the shock of change that happens with moving abroad. It really does take 4-5 years to fully settle and it’s not easy but that’s why we do it. You come out on the other end with a new understanding of yourself and a new perspective of the world. Thanks for sharing your journey.
I just got married to a European guy and I'm from Africa. I have sleepless nights thinking about relocating. I get depressed thinking about it, I was having anxiety before the wedding because I didn't want to move, the thought of leaving my family to be in miserable weather and miserable people makes me depressed. Maybe it's a good thing that I have no expectations. But you just gave me hope to stick it out 😢
Awww sending you lots of love during this transition! You’ve got this 🫶🏼
than you so much for this! I literally just went through the same exact feelings that you described and I feel like you gave answers to my questions. I just started a youtube channel in hopes that I can share my living abroad experience with people and also share that it's not all sunshines and rainbows like the instagram photos that we post! thank you for making this video
You're so welcome! You’ve got this ☺️🫶🏼
I moved abroad in 2019 as well and I was at my lowest point in my life too! I have to read that book cuz the minute you started reading it spoke to my soul.
I think you’ll really love it!
Paige the only thing constant in this life is change.once you get your head around that and accept it that's what will make your life easier and less painful. always remember it's not what happens to us in life that breaks us it's how we see it which can either build us or break us totally.which one we choose is entirely down to us! Thank you for sharing this video.much appreciated! Peace and love 💛
So true!! Thanks so much Charisse 😊
Warning signs any one from another country or place London is not paradise if you are coming here just come here for short holiday then head back home 🏡 just keeping it real
Thanks for watching Raymond!
Soooo yeaaaa...what you said Paige. I'm in my first week permanently relocating outside the US, and I JUST asked myself this morning "what am I doing with myself?...my life? I just got here, why am I so fidgety, low energy, and feeling sad already? Especially because I've been an worked abroad so many times before in chunks of weeks, months, semester. Why does it feel so different? And then talking to friends and hearing them say...I love your life, you have the coolest gigs, etc. I felt like a huge imposter, because ya girl got tears in the queue. Anyways, I appreciate you given voice to what I'm currently feeling. We're exactly where we're supposed to be, and gon be aight indeed. Thanks girl! 😊
You’ve got this Robin! You just have to push through this uncomfortable bit & I know you’ll be rewarded ☺️🫶🏼
@@PaigeMariah 🙏🏾🤗thank you
This blessed me. I'm about to embark on a journey as an expat and I'm starting to inform my circle that I'm out of here soon. Today I began to mourn my familiarity with routine and systems, then how I'm going to have to reestablish that where I'm going. I know I'll be fine but I look forward to things working like a well-oiled machine again. I too am leaving Chicago, btw.
I was miserable in my hometown in AL and I always dreamed of living somewhere else I hated my job there also just everything very lonely. I moved to California and got a job i really like but after a few year's I felt sad again and continue to struggle with feelings of unfufillment, sadness, loneliness and just uncertainty so many can relate I need that book.
I think this book could help you a lot and maybe even provide a new prospective
thank you, ive dreamt about moving abroad my whole life, and i quit a great job to be in London, landed a scholarship from my government, and its been 7 months that im here, definitely experienced the honeymoon phase and then some lows that i couldnt comprehend. thank you for your message, it feels better to know im not alone
You’ve got this 🫶🏼
So Happy to see you happy, its the best medicine in the world. Good luck to you.
Thank you so much!
LOVE LOVE LOVE this VLOG!! Downloading as suggested right NOW!! Blessings and thank you's a zillion times over for being earnest and real.
You are so welcome! Thank you ☺️
This is my sign to finally buy this book, i have been dragging my feet.
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Thank you for your transparency....
Thank you for watching 😊
Thank you for the honest sharing of your precious thoughts and experiences ❤️ 💕
You are so welcome! ☺️
Happy you enjoyed Helsinki. I went in 2019 for a school trip and stayed for only 24 hours. When I did eat meat, I had one of the best burgers there. I want to go back one of these years.
Appreciate you sharing this. Its very courageous of you to do.
I appreciate that!
I just got that book(2nd hand) yesterday and I was wondering if I should read it next but you convinced me!
It’s so good!!
This video came at a perfect time! Thank you ❤❤
So glad! Thank you ☺️
Oh my. I already purchased the book. I’m so happy that it’s helping you, and I can’t wait to start it. ❤
I hope you love it!!
London is very depressing! Its like a place you step in then you'll be automatically unhappy! Its spiritual! Especially if your spirit rejects a specific place, it can spike your depression to the point of illness!
Thanks for your feedback! I haven’t had this experience and have loved living in London very much aside from the inevitable struggles but your experience is valid!
It’s depressing for everyone it’s like death energy here in london uk
Yep
This was so relatable because I have definitely been there moving away from everything and everyone you know can be so scary I love how you didn’t give up and things turned around for you I need a copy of this book I was hoping that you would give us a review thanks for sharing 💕
Thank you so much Tanishia!! 🫶🏼💕
I’m preparing to travel internationally for the first time. Kinda scary for an old girl like me but I’ve always wanted to see the motherland and Ghana is so hot right now! It should be easier, plenty of expats there including my fellow Chicagoans. We be everywhere.Did you meet any chill folks from home over there? Did you see any ghosts yet? Anyplace that old must be riddled with ghosts! Thank you for this most helpful video and all the best to you.💯
Met lots of cool people there from all over but no ghosts lol
Really needed to see this today!
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Bravo Paige, Bravo! 🥂So good to see you've starting to understand how awesome life can be, that book sound enlightening and cathartic. Good for you! ❤️
Thank you so much Tammy!! 💗
God will carry you thru the good and bad times🙏it will pass; stay strong
Thank you Eve!
Thank you for sharing! Great reflection and great story. I'll be buying the book for sure. I'm always going through change haha. I love it but it does come with the feelings you described.
I think you’ll really enjoy the book!
The book sounds very good and inspiring and insightful. You have done so well and overcome so much and By Gods Grace will go on to achieve much more thank you for sharing it is very appreciated 😍😍😍❤️❤️❤️👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I love how real you are and I thank you for sharing your journey. 💜🙏
Thank you so much!! 💕
@@PaigeMariah You're welcome, Paige. 🌺
I can totally relate.. I literally moved to my dream country, achieved my #1 goal and felt the same way. It's not easy discussing this topic, thank you💞 🙏🏾 I'll try to get the audible version of the book.
Thanks so much Simi! I hope you enjoy it 😊
Thanks Paige. Good vlog!😊
Thanks for watching!
Oh, my goodness! I have been missing my ex-boyfriend so much. He treated me horribly but I now feel like I overreacted. I didn't know this is normal.
I will be getting this book. Txs. for sharing.
Hope you enjoy it!
Paige when you are abroad with your family on holiday you seem really happy then in London I might be wrong.
I definitely enjoy being with my family but I love London as well 😊
I know your mom. She definitely is inspiring. I see a lot of her in you.
She’s amazing. Thank you! 😊
Thank you for sharing 😊 making decisions as I watch.
Thanks so much for watching!
The only way your environment will change your outcome is if your environment was the problem. People try to run from feelings and that's never the anecdote
Very true!!
Onwards and upwards Paige X
Thank you!!
I have the audible version and yet to listen to it.
Definitely a must!
Are you sure it was not a seasonal depression?
It was the spring & summer time, so no lol. It was definitely what described in the video 😊
paige, do you have a video on how you got a sponsorship after the student visa? also what did you study for?
I don’t have a dedicated video but I’m here on the UK Start Up visa. I studied for my master’s in strategic marketing 😊
Great news paige
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing, God bless you x
So interesting Paige book really breaks it down to you ~don’t forget you went through COVID madness 😢held you back and sure you would’ve been more happier with your family than being in London at that moment of time ~ I know you have great friends but your friends not your family is most important to you but you are such beautiful really lovely young lady ❤
I know what you are talking about completely. 31 years and I still unhappy and pine for home and my family back home.
Thank you so much for watching!
Thank you Raymond! Covid definitely made it even more challenging!
Is this an ad?
lol no. if it was an ad I would have made that clear. I'm reading a book and shared my affiliate link if anyone else wants to buy it from my recommendation.
Why move somewhere and expect it to change everything you went through? You had all the baggage of america STILL. you have to unload your baggage? Aka heal? Dont mislead people to not move abroad just because you live life at the tip of your glacier. America is disgusting and most of its food is banned in 60+ countries. This was a wild video introduction.
Paige I think you are home sick now
lol why?
We are on the same journey & i recently finished reading the same book. 🤎🤎
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