I am grateful for this channel, which is not loaded with sponsers, or membership fees, or links to sign up for some stuff. I am grateful this channel is not a bait or hook. Just pure content!
It’s really hard to find authentic people in the real world, stumbling upon your videos confirmed that I’m not alone in my thinking and perception of reality. I can face and work on my shadow, while others choose to stay blindfolded repeating the same patterns over and over. It’s lonely but I have the Self, and that’s all I ever really wanted. Your bravery in putting out these videos has helped me through a tough spot this year. Thank you and good luck on your journey.
@@zb5902 I am not familiar with Advaita/Vendanta, but at first glance I think the Atman is a similar the concept of Self I’m referring too. I see it as the place from which I can see clearly, make better decisions, and most importantly forgive and forget. Thank you for mentioning Advaita…really interesting. I appreciated various points of views.
1. Grateful for seeing this video first on my feed 2. Grateful for starting the healing path (and the pain of it) 3. Grateful for the oats i am about to eat after having my wisdoms removed (it's made me appreciate food so much)
Your brutal sincerity has helped me change my life ... I can't stand normal people no more, having been a people pleaser almost my entire life ... freedom is coming late, now that I'm 55. Thanks s lot!!
It is inspiring to see how you are embracing your uniqueness.❤ I am one those rare birds too. So good to know and have a sense there are more people like me and you.
Thank you Daniel for you and for your courage. I am 72 and still processing, letting go and healing from childhood trauma and from parents who were never there emotionally for me (or for themselves). It's been a long slow process but I am somehow getting somewhere because I am carving out the time to do so and am proud of myself and my progress.
Daniel - you provide a great public service but only for those who have the ears to hear and the eyes to see. Long may it continue. More power to you. 😊
Daniel, I'm 52 also, and I've been on the same journey as you since I was 40. I've grown more in the last 10 years than the previous 40 simply by getting away from my toxic mother. P.s.....come to ireland sometime. You will always be welcome.
Daniel , I have followed you for years. I wish I could meet you in person and thank you. Our individual health helps collectively. I am sure you have read Scott pecks book- The People Of The Lie-as well as Alice millers works that mesh perfectly with neurobiological advances in understanding attachment and other developmental traumas. I, too, have lost my family of origin, been married to 2 personality damaged men..that were deeply shut off from their own selves….i have also struggled with concepts of Christianity so understand fear, deep aloneness…yet am grateful for my sense of truth . My voicing things…has cost me dearly …I maintain my license as a counselor. Having worked decades in a middle school I have seen alll sorts of maltreatment to children. I adore them, but have none of my own. You are brave, you are a leader , a miracle to have found you here…such a gifted, noble , evolved, self made man.much love…..❤️
I'm grateful you decided to start sharing your universe Daniel, I'm in my 20s but your input has been exactly what I needed ever since i found your channel. I've also always felt "not normal", quite literally for as long as i can remember, my childhood was a minefield of uncertainty since the world kept making feel like whatever i believed in was always all wrong which meant that something had to be wrong with me. Now, in great part thanks to you, I realize that in order to truly enjoy life for what it is, we have to learn to embrace ourselves for who we are, allow our minds to speak freely and give voice to our intuitions. It seems like the world we live in is really good at turning us into our own worst enemy and it's up to us to, first, look for the mental tools we need to understand ourselves and, second, learn to use said tools appropriately in order to free our true inner self from the shackles of our minds
You have helped so many people, Daniel. We can attest to that and we in turn are so grateful to you for your courage to speak out loud your Truth. My baby Self (and I am sure that of many more) is so hungry to listen to what you have to say every time and when there are no new videos I am going back to the old ones again and again and always find something useful. Whenever nothing else feels true, these videos give me the courage to continue on this painful path, because anything else seems fake (once you have seen a glimpse of the Truth, you cannot return back to the old lies). This little (actually not little at all) light of yours, has shined into the hearts of so many. Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine.
'once you have seen a glimpse of the truth ' 100% agree with that statement, can't shut the door once it's opened, and the truth will be hard to accept in this crazy world. However I'm happy that I won't be living a lie and like so many people ❤
People who hate this kind of videos want to stay in trauma and keep others traumatized. Eff em! Like they give an eff about me - or you. I like you much for talking out, giving me hope and courage to step out of my trauma. Step by little step. Away from "those ones". Towards me. Towards truth. Towards freedom. Towards real people. Thank you!
Daniel, I believe your videos touched the spark within us, and your consistency enables us to be reached across different generations. My self was on the path to breaking free from my family system, but your videos were the catalyst that made it insufferable to be with them, to be the small broken person that I was forced to be. My true self raged within after really hearing the truth, so blatantly, so clearly, across different modes of analysis, and I could no longer go back to ignorance. My appreciation for your path that you set out for us is immense.
I am thankful for the validation and insight that your videos have given me. I agree with you 💯 on the 'normal' people. The shame is not on you (us), it is on them. The perpetrators of the heinous abuse against us. They have also thrown the "don't you have any shame" thing at me for speaking openly about my childhood abuse, but that is THEIR OWN shame that they try to shift. Love your channel ❤
You're just bringing yourself to light and that helps you grow as a person with self development and actualization, with sharing your experiences. From one LCSW to another, you're making a difference and you are useful and these do help others. I'm grateful for your insight.
Thanks for sharing; all 3 very relatable! Left the country at 23 to break away. Had rich cultural experiences all through 20s and into 30s, living, working, traveling abroad. And I have spoken up in big ways. Cheers to the odd ones.
Your videos have helped me trust myself. Thank you! Know that there are many of us who benefit from hearing you. Know that your content is valuable to me and that it has helped me.
Hungry for them or not, people NEED to hear these messages. Any time a person voices a strong opinion, it'll anger some people somewhere. And going against the flow will cause extra anger. But I've gotten mad at someone before and wound up agreeing with them later, after thinking things through and making more observations. Some people had no idea their offhand TH-cam comments would help shape opinions I still hold today and be remembered years later lol. I didn't know it either at the time. Keep sharing your truths 🤩
You helped me immensely. I have lots of work ahead of me, but you helped me not to go back to my family, to start my journaling, dream analysis. And this was at time when I was moving to another city. Thank you.
This video is absolute gold!! Daniel, you have made a huge impact on my healing journey. You helped me develop a self and that has helped me attract my soul tribe… your words of truth soak my heart and soul. Thank you!
Going through a horrible heartbreak right now with my ex girlfriend because her parents emotionally abuse her and got heavily involved in our relationship and I snapped defending her. I regret snapping but I’m only human. My ex was raped and molested for a year straight as a 9 year old child. I went to school with her since we’re 10. Now in her early 20s every thought action and perspective must be put in captivity by her disgraceful “parents”. Really struggling watching someone you love so much be dragged down by people like this as if they already didn’t do enough damage to her by being horrible parents. They guilt her constantly. She has said many times I’m the only person who’s ever given her love in her entire life and Ik it to be true. We had a beautiful connection but in a way if it would’ve worked out I can’t see her having the strength to break from her family, not even entirely just in thought and individuality and so I would’ve been made missrable too.
Oh Daniel, if only I could find the right words to express my gratitude for your videos! Separating from your parents may have been your greatest achievement, it definitely set you on a different path anyway. Perhaps it would be a healthy recommendation that all young people will do to avoid getting lost unnecessarily. Travelling the world is still a dream for me, and I think it will stay that way. However, those few little trips I made near my world opened my mind in such unsuspected ways. I believe that travel from an early age should be compulsory, like school lessons. It can only be gained, we learn so much and after all the danger can be present in our own home. The fact that you opened your heart so wide and exposed yourself and your vulnerability with such kindness and generosity for your audience to learn from your experiences makes you a special and mostly courageous person! I haven't found the exact definition of what "normal" might be, but I'm sure the world would be a much better place with more people like you! Thank you gratefully for your videos! ♥️
Intent is the tough thing. Almost surely they didn’t intend to harm. But that’s the rub. How much can I excuse knowing this? Is it my dad’s fault he’s an extreme narcissist with 0 capacity to care? Well I can’t say it is. But I still get angry thinking of his total detachment from affection and love. They’re perpetual victims… we are.. but it still shapes so much of who we are. I’m glad I didn’t turn out like him. But again, how much choice did I have? It sucks humans aren’t smarter and more in tune with how actions contribute or hurt others..
This is why some think all perpetrators were once victims. For someone to have the impulse to violate someone else is a sign of the unadressed violations that person has suffered in the past. Daniel addresses this multiple times on his channel, but I've first come across this idea in Alice Miller's book "Thou Shalt Not Be Aware" as I was beginning therapy. Very touching arguments.
You mentioned you get "negative comments," and hatred. That puzzled me. The offensive words at school: by the time of finishing my schooling, they became a music to my ears. Information about others to be grateful for, one got so much useful information. Your descriptions of your parents: Negative? They're positive. In a deeper sense, they're positive. So, that all makes me think about what makes a comment negative (negative-negative), or negative but positive, positive but negative (passive aggressive) or positive-positive.
It’s ok not to be “normal” We arrived here bc we are not normal, and we are gathered here bc we are being challenged to see the beauty in that. The beauty within ourselves and the beauty within others just like us.
I don't respect normal people either. This would be considered an offensive statement, but is it? How can you respect that which is a mirage, pretension, illusion? Respect is about acknowledgement. Conversely, it becomes a gesture of deep respect to see through the bullshit of others, knowing they will hate it as much as they've learned to hate their true selves. This is like sentencing a criminal based on evidence and not based on their false testimony. Except I just observe and move on. I know nowadays where this obsession with normalcy comes from because it was a central theme in my childhood by my narcissistic parents. When questioned about the workings of the world and people they'd always say, "That's how it's done" without further explanation. I thought that was laziness on their part but later understood they had absolutely no sense and showed no judgement whatsoever in terms of how to treat another human being. They had no idea who they were and conventionality were their crutches. I see so many people conveying in various different ways that normalcy is prescriptive (as opposed to descriptive) today. From the point of view of an obliterated or profoundly repressed true self, that makes some amount of relative sense. I don't think they have the first inkling of who they are nor consequently what they're "supposed" to do.
I love this video Daniel and I'm really proud of you, makes me smile 😊 I can relate to everything you've said here. It reaffirms my way of life and recentres my inner compass, very easy to get lost on my own unique path in this crazy world. You've helped me today, thank you 👍🏻
Daniel, can you please make a video about self forgivness and accepting mistakes. now i did find videos on your cannel about mistakes. but never a video on just the topic of forgiving the self. if you would make such a video it would help me a lot
Getting space (inner and outer) from "family" is extremely important. That's especially true when the "family" is toxic and harmful. Finding your truest personality is related to this and similarly extremely important. Can't disagree with anything stated in this video really, as a lot of it is stuff I've been working with and of course it's just plain true. I've found that realizing the personality made to adapt to family/society insanity isn't genuine is paramount. Similarly is finding and respecting the genuine personality, yet taking identity from any personality has been most liberating. That is, finding the truer personal self and respecting it but not making it the whole of what I am, just like my bodyweight or favorite things aren't identity. The truer personality can still be allowed to be as it is; given freedom where it had none before and without identity placed there, it has freedom and so do I. You're the only person who addresses psychology "on the ground" and from the first person perspective of actually doing the work and applying and developing understanding. Some have good books and good academic understanding. Those are rare, but you're far, far more rare in not just having truer understanding but being true in living it. I find often people with good books and academics aren't often great in living it and don't show humility in accounting for that.
Can anyone here, answer my question??? What type of work do people advise doing in this crazy world, when you've opened the door to enlightenment. We all have to earn money to live a life, thats just the brutal reality unfortunately. Ive been a dive instructor for over a decade and travelled to many places. I will continue to do this, sometimes it works out, sometimes its a disaster, thats just the gamble of going to the unknown. What other suggestions might you (everyone reading this) have? 😊
My first three thoughts: 1. You may find your job, but it can also be said that your job finds you, if you expose yourself to a variety of environments. 2. Some people used to work at a plant nursery and say it was an introvert dream. It is something anyone can do. You hang out with plants all day, and you keep yourself in shape because you're on your feet all day lifting and moving plants. 3. From personal observation, even farmers and gardeners are filled with disquiet, anxiety in these times. So, perhaps replacing the economic-political system is that long, arduous route that is in fact the best route.
I think (especially this particular video) touches alot of people. Those who see the truth but perhaps sometimes feel a little lost (myself included). I seek connection and to be understood, this video does that.
Thank you so much for your film on THE OPEN DIALOGUE approach...i just wish it had been here in Australia...my brother may still be here. Thank you for all the truth you bring to those who need it so very much.❤
Kim. Thank you. I'm sorry to hear about your brother, and sadly, I know how awful the Australian mental health system can me. I was in Australia in 2013 and did a screening of Open Dialogue at the University of Melbourne. The most positive response came from patients and former patients. From mental health professionals...not so much... The usual pushback... Wishing you the best, Daniel
Thank you very much Daniel Mackler for this; being grateful for having to got away from parents. We're told to be grateful to our parents, for having parents, etc. I may have needed to hear that, so simple. Beautiful video. Also when it comes to childhood and family trauma, speaking out, being told to be quiet, this quote really comes to mind. "When you tear out a man's tongue, you are not proving him a liar, you're only telling the world that you fear what he might say."
Maybe a bit off topic, but personally i liked some of the video and editing style in some of your old videos daniel. Maybe it is related to an older aesthetic of early youtube which i personally find innocent in a good way, or just the small guitar bits in the transitions and the little bit of structure. Obviously do what feels best for you, since ultimately that's why most people are here for.
Hey daniel thank you for such insightful content i'm sorry to maybe pass as intrusive i wonder how to you make ends meet,what is your biggest source of income in our screwed up economy ? How did you manage to get in this appartment that you have been in for so long in the middle of nyc just wondering as a young 20 yr trying to live and making money without screwing other people over or being dishonest also thank you your videos have helped me so much you give me some kind of hope in this cruel world
I do a lot of different work. For example, I edit a lot of writing and also do professional video editing. (I also get donations from people who watch these videos, and I have Patreon -- and I live super low-budget.) And for the last few years when I live in New York and elsewhere I often do a lot of pet-sitting -- and thereby get free rent to watch other people's animals.
@@dmackler58wow thank you for answering your work has really been life changing for me and so many people i wish you the best on your journey for other wondeful things in your life wish good luck Elliott from france
Hi Daniel: I'd love to hear you talk about ECT and now, TMS. Just as you've talked about meds and covering up trauma, I'm wondering if you can talk about ECT/TMS in the same way. And maybe, Neurofeedback, too?
Many.people have jobs rhat are rooted in inequitable, oppressive and destructive systems. But liberation is freedom from oppression and being an oppressor.
Hey Daniel have you read or heard of the book Complex PTSD from surviving to thriving by Pete walker? His work is pretty similar to you and I’ve found it very helpful and insightful in my own journey trying to heal my childhood trauma
Thanks, but that does not indicate (on my phone, at least) when it was posted. I figure it posted today. I am curious as to when it was recorded. I recall some of his older videos. Later, what I assume are newer videos, have Daniel wearing his Zuckerburg (no insult meant towards Daniel) uniform-like use of the brown, long-sleeved shirt. AM wondering if he's still actively posting videos or using archived footage?
(Unrelated to this video) What are your thoughts people marrying so young(18-25)? Commitment at such a young age without getting to know their true self... And these young married couples more often than not will already have 1 or 2 children all from 18-25)
Daniel, have you ever considered changin your surname? Last time, I was waiting at the dentist and had my health insurance card in hands. When I saw my surname, I had to turn the card with the front side down. Did you accept your surname? What do you think of it? IWith the name is different, it's more individual. I will change my and my familys surname to Novak, which means new man in my language..
Thank you Daniel. I too have travelled the world and I also had to let go of my family. I am extremely focused on my reality and I am so very grateful to have the next part of my life to myself with real loved ones that truly love me as I am. 🏜🕺🏻🐕🏖
Can you expand on this (next part of your life). I'm 40, done alot of travelling with work (diving instructor). Will probably continue doing so as it's the only thing that seems to work for me, although I'm always open and on the lookout for some other way of being.
And we are grateful for having you coming here and speaking your mind, Daniel.
Thanks!
@@dmackler58 you're appreciated by all of us daniel, you've really helped me feel understood and healthy mentally as a 21 year old man
@@dmackler58thank you for being a career truth seeker Mr,
Mackler!
I am grateful for this channel, which is not loaded with sponsers, or membership fees, or links to sign up for some stuff. I am grateful this channel is not a bait or hook. Just pure content!
Thank you for noticing this!! I hate all that sponsorship and membership and ad stuff!
@@dmackler58 yes thankyou Daniel, I find your channel an oasis in a desert of clickbaity titles, cash grabs, and inauthenticity.
Great point!!
Rare person here. I've been nourished by your videos and your book for years. I still am nourished by your videos. Thank you.
It’s really hard to find authentic people in the real world, stumbling upon your videos confirmed that I’m not alone in my thinking and perception of reality. I can face and work on my shadow, while others choose to stay blindfolded repeating the same patterns over and over. It’s lonely but I have the Self, and that’s all I ever really wanted. Your bravery in putting out these videos has helped me through a tough spot this year. Thank you and good luck on your journey.
The more they run away from their shadow, the more powerful it becomes over them.
@@ryank6322 for a good story build around this metaphor, i recommend the book Wizard of Earthsea
the Self? are you referring to the Self in an Advaita Vedanta/Buddhism sense, or another meaning that I'm less familiar with? just curious
@@zb5902 I am not familiar with Advaita/Vendanta, but at first glance I think the Atman is a similar the concept of Self I’m referring too. I see it as the place from which I can see clearly, make better decisions, and most importantly forgive and forget. Thank you for mentioning Advaita…really interesting. I appreciated various points of views.
1. Grateful for seeing this video first on my feed
2. Grateful for starting the healing path (and the pain of it)
3. Grateful for the oats i am about to eat after having my wisdoms removed (it's made me appreciate food so much)
You always come to me when I need that extra extra gentle encouragement. It's uncanny and wonderful. ❤❤❤
I’m bedridden with flu today. This video made my day. Thanks Daniel! 😊
Get better soon!
Speaking your truth has helped many people, including me. Thank you Daniel. ☮
Your brutal sincerity has helped me change my life ... I can't stand normal people no more, having been a people pleaser almost my entire life ... freedom is coming late, now that I'm 55. Thanks s lot!!
It is inspiring to see how you are embracing your uniqueness.❤
I am one those rare birds too. So good to know and have a sense there are more people like me and you.
Thank YOU 🙏🏼 for existing Daniel ♥️
Thank you Daniel for you and for your courage. I am 72 and still processing, letting go and healing from childhood trauma and from parents who were never there emotionally for me (or for themselves). It's been a long slow process but I am somehow getting somewhere because I am carving out the time to do so and am proud of myself and my progress.
Daniel - you provide a great public service but only for those who have the ears to hear and the eyes to see. Long may it continue. More power to you. 😊
Daniel, I'm 52 also, and I've been on the same journey as you since I was 40. I've grown more in the last 10 years than the previous 40 simply by getting away from my toxic mother.
P.s.....come to ireland sometime. You will always be welcome.
Never meet your heroes
@@bastian6173Whoa there, thats too much. Still true... Sometimes!
@@bastian6173Daniel's actually pretty chill irl
U rock dewd, you help me tremendously because I realise I am not alone. Thank you brother
You're welcome :)
Love you Daniel 💜 thank you xxo!✨️🙏 I'm grateful for being healthy and alive🍀🙏 Health is wealth.....🧡....
Daniel , I have followed you for years. I wish I could meet you in person and thank you. Our individual health helps collectively. I am sure you have read Scott pecks book- The People Of The Lie-as well as Alice millers works that mesh perfectly with neurobiological advances in understanding attachment and other developmental traumas. I, too, have lost my family of origin, been married to 2 personality damaged men..that were deeply shut off from their own selves….i have also struggled with concepts of Christianity so understand fear, deep aloneness…yet am grateful for my sense of truth . My voicing things…has cost me dearly …I maintain my license as a counselor. Having worked decades in a middle school I have seen alll sorts of maltreatment to children. I adore them, but have none of my own. You are brave, you are a leader , a miracle to have found you here…such a gifted, noble , evolved, self made man.much love…..❤️
And we're grateful for you. Thank you!
I'm grateful you decided to start sharing your universe Daniel, I'm in my 20s but your input has been exactly what I needed ever since i found your channel. I've also always felt "not normal", quite literally for as long as i can remember, my childhood was a minefield of uncertainty since the world kept making feel like whatever i believed in was always all wrong which meant that something had to be wrong with me. Now, in great part thanks to you, I realize that in order to truly enjoy life for what it is, we have to learn to embrace ourselves for who we are, allow our minds to speak freely and give voice to our intuitions. It seems like the world we live in is really good at turning us into our own worst enemy and it's up to us to, first, look for the mental tools we need to understand ourselves and, second, learn to use said tools appropriately in order to free our true inner self from the shackles of our minds
thank you daneil for sharing these messages
You have helped so many people, Daniel. We can attest to that and we in turn are so grateful to you for your courage to speak out loud your Truth. My baby Self (and I am sure that of many more) is so hungry to listen to what you have to say every time and when there are no new videos I am going back to the old ones again and again and always find something useful. Whenever nothing else feels true, these videos give me the courage to continue on this painful path, because anything else seems fake (once you have seen a glimpse of the Truth, you cannot return back to the old lies). This little (actually not little at all) light of yours, has shined into the hearts of so many.
Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine.
'once you have seen a glimpse of the truth '
100% agree with that statement, can't shut the door once it's opened, and the truth will be hard to accept in this crazy world. However I'm happy that I won't be living a lie and like so many people ❤
Thank you for this channel. It has really helped me grow through long held traumas. Sending love and light!
People who hate this kind of videos want to stay in trauma and keep others traumatized. Eff em! Like they give an eff about me - or you.
I like you much for talking out, giving me hope and courage to step out of my trauma. Step by little step. Away from "those ones".
Towards me. Towards truth. Towards freedom. Towards real people.
Thank you!
Well said
Thank you for this very valuable work you do for people, Daniel! I'm grateful.
I really love your channel, Daniel. Thanks a lot for the time you put into it. Am grateful x
Recently read your book Up the West Coast of Australia. Thanks for sharing yourself with us, sir!
Thank you for your courage and for sharing it with us
I don't like normal either. That's why I love this channel and always look forward to hearing your latest truthful perspective. Thanks Daniel.
Daniel,
I believe your videos touched the spark within us, and your consistency enables us to be reached across different generations.
My self was on the path to breaking free from my family system, but your videos were the catalyst that made it insufferable to be with them, to be the small broken person that I was forced to be. My true self raged within after really hearing the truth, so blatantly, so clearly, across different modes of analysis, and I could no longer go back to ignorance. My appreciation for your path that you set out for us is immense.
I am thankful for the validation and insight that your videos have given me. I agree with you 💯 on the 'normal' people. The shame is not on you (us), it is on them. The perpetrators of the heinous abuse against us. They have also thrown the "don't you have any shame" thing at me for speaking openly about my childhood abuse, but that is THEIR OWN shame that they try to shift.
Love your channel ❤
You're just bringing yourself to light and that helps you grow as a person with self development and actualization, with sharing your experiences. From one LCSW to another, you're making a difference and you are useful and these do help others. I'm grateful for your insight.
Thank you for all your videos i love them helps me so much in my healing journey. Lots of love from South Africa
Thank you Daniel, wise timely words of wisdom as always. I am grateful 💖🕊️
Thanks for sharing; all 3 very relatable! Left the country at 23 to break away. Had rich cultural experiences all through 20s and into 30s, living, working, traveling abroad. And I have spoken up in big ways. Cheers to the odd ones.
Thank You Daniel
Your videos have helped me trust myself. Thank you!
Know that there are many of us who benefit from hearing you. Know that your content is valuable to me and that it has helped me.
it is always a delight listening to you
I am grateful I have found your channel Daniel
What a beautiful video, Daniel! Thank you for it.
I am grateful for my mind, my body, my sense of self, and my ability to articulate things 😊
Hungry for them or not, people NEED to hear these messages. Any time a person voices a strong opinion, it'll anger some people somewhere. And going against the flow will cause extra anger.
But I've gotten mad at someone before and wound up agreeing with them later, after thinking things through and making more observations.
Some people had no idea their offhand TH-cam comments would help shape opinions I still hold today and be remembered years later lol. I didn't know it either at the time.
Keep sharing your truths 🤩
thanks Daniel
Thanks!!!
You helped me immensely. I have lots of work ahead of me, but you helped me not to go back to my family, to start my journaling, dream analysis. And this was at time when I was moving to another city. Thank you.
This video is absolute gold!! Daniel, you have made a huge impact on my healing journey. You helped me develop a self and that has helped me attract my soul tribe… your words of truth soak my heart and soul. Thank you!
Going through a horrible heartbreak right now with my ex girlfriend because her parents emotionally abuse her and got heavily involved in our relationship and I snapped defending her. I regret snapping but I’m only human. My ex was raped and molested for a year straight as a 9 year old child. I went to school with her since we’re 10. Now in her early 20s every thought action and perspective must be put in captivity by her disgraceful “parents”. Really struggling watching someone you love so much be dragged down by people like this as if they already didn’t do enough damage to her by being horrible parents. They guilt her constantly. She has said many times I’m the only person who’s ever given her love in her entire life and Ik it to be true. We had a beautiful connection but in a way if it would’ve worked out I can’t see her having the strength to break from her family, not even entirely just in thought and individuality and so I would’ve been made missrable too.
Wow... that's a tough one.
That's hard! Look after yourself now
Oh Daniel, if only I could find the right words to express my gratitude for your videos! Separating from your parents may have been your greatest achievement, it definitely set you on a different path anyway. Perhaps it would be a healthy recommendation that all young people will do to avoid getting lost unnecessarily.
Travelling the world is still a dream for me, and I think it will stay that way. However, those few little trips I made near my world opened my mind in such unsuspected ways. I believe that travel from an early age should be compulsory, like school lessons. It can only be gained, we learn so much and after all the danger can be present in our own home.
The fact that you opened your heart so wide and exposed yourself and your vulnerability with such kindness and generosity for your audience to learn from your experiences makes you a special and mostly courageous person! I haven't found the exact definition of what "normal" might be, but I'm sure the world would be a much better place with more people like you! Thank you gratefully for your videos! ♥️
You’re a true inspiration and I am grateful for your keen perception and great courage to be authentic. 👏🏽✌🏽🧡
You helped me give me the courage to break away from my own family and I'm much happier now. Thank you for your bravery in speaking your truth!
Thank you for giving us hope ❤
Intent is the tough thing. Almost surely they didn’t intend to harm. But that’s the rub. How much can I excuse knowing this? Is it my dad’s fault he’s an extreme narcissist with 0 capacity to care? Well I can’t say it is. But I still get angry thinking of his total detachment from affection and love. They’re perpetual victims… we are.. but it still shapes so much of who we are. I’m glad I didn’t turn out like him. But again, how much choice did I have? It sucks humans aren’t smarter and more in tune with how actions contribute or hurt others..
This is why some think all perpetrators were once victims. For someone to have the impulse to violate someone else is a sign of the unadressed violations that person has suffered in the past.
Daniel addresses this multiple times on his channel, but I've first come across this idea in Alice Miller's book "Thou Shalt Not Be Aware" as I was beginning therapy. Very touching arguments.
God bless you, Daniel!
Thank you to share and embrace your unusual persona it’s refreshing and comforting for all the others unusual ones😉
I like listening to Daniel because he's not selling anything, not selling some therapy program to enroll in, seems more authentic
100%
I gotta say I am grateful for finding this channel. I sometimes feel better after watching them.
Thanks again. Inspirational
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11:22 you were absolutely right
Helped quite a few actually.
Thank you Daniel
Godbless
Thank you for having started this channel. You are our inspiration. :)
magnify my usefulness. hear the joy. resounding.
You mentioned you get "negative comments," and hatred. That puzzled me. The offensive words at school: by the time of finishing my schooling, they became a music to my ears. Information about others to be grateful for, one got so much useful information. Your descriptions of your parents: Negative? They're positive. In a deeper sense, they're positive. So, that all makes me think about what makes a comment negative (negative-negative), or negative but positive, positive but negative (passive aggressive) or positive-positive.
It’s ok not to be “normal” We arrived here bc we are not normal, and we are gathered here bc we are being challenged to see the beauty in that. The beauty within ourselves and the beauty within others just like us.
I don't respect normal people either. This would be considered an offensive statement, but is it? How can you respect that which is a mirage, pretension, illusion? Respect is about acknowledgement. Conversely, it becomes a gesture of deep respect to see through the bullshit of others, knowing they will hate it as much as they've learned to hate their true selves. This is like sentencing a criminal based on evidence and not based on their false testimony. Except I just observe and move on.
I know nowadays where this obsession with normalcy comes from because it was a central theme in my childhood by my narcissistic parents. When questioned about the workings of the world and people they'd always say, "That's how it's done" without further explanation. I thought that was laziness on their part but later understood they had absolutely no sense and showed no judgement whatsoever in terms of how to treat another human being. They had no idea who they were and conventionality were their crutches.
I see so many people conveying in various different ways that normalcy is prescriptive (as opposed to descriptive) today. From the point of view of an obliterated or profoundly repressed true self, that makes some amount of relative sense. I don't think they have the first inkling of who they are nor consequently what they're "supposed" to do.
Your third point is why I need to stop hiding my art and writing from the world.
Ah...I know that one...fellow artist and writer here. Roll on the sharing of novel 3! Give what you've got.
Thank you Daniel you’ve helped me through a extremely tough time and have left me so I’m not future lost feeling like im always broken thank you❤️
Your shared information helped me a lot.
Thanks :)
I love this video Daniel and I'm really proud of you, makes me smile 😊
I can relate to everything you've said here. It reaffirms my way of life and recentres my inner compass, very easy to get lost on my own unique path in this crazy world. You've helped me today, thank you 👍🏻
Daniel, can you please make a video about self forgivness and accepting mistakes. now i did find videos on your cannel about mistakes. but never a video on just the topic of forgiving the self. if you would make such a video it would help me a lot
Getting space (inner and outer) from "family" is extremely important. That's especially true when the "family" is toxic and harmful. Finding your truest personality is related to this and similarly extremely important. Can't disagree with anything stated in this video really, as a lot of it is stuff I've been working with and of course it's just plain true.
I've found that realizing the personality made to adapt to family/society insanity isn't genuine is paramount. Similarly is finding and respecting the genuine personality, yet taking identity from any personality has been most liberating. That is, finding the truer personal self and respecting it but not making it the whole of what I am, just like my bodyweight or favorite things aren't identity. The truer personality can still be allowed to be as it is; given freedom where it had none before and without identity placed there, it has freedom and so do I.
You're the only person who addresses psychology "on the ground" and from the first person perspective of actually doing the work and applying and developing understanding. Some have good books and good academic understanding. Those are rare, but you're far, far more rare in not just having truer understanding but being true in living it. I find often people with good books and academics aren't often great in living it and don't show humility in accounting for that.
Daniel, I imagine you to be my father. You are my ideal father figure
Can anyone here, answer my question??? What type of work do people advise doing in this crazy world, when you've opened the door to enlightenment. We all have to earn money to live a life, thats just the brutal reality unfortunately. Ive been a dive instructor for over a decade and travelled to many places. I will continue to do this, sometimes it works out, sometimes its a disaster, thats just the gamble of going to the unknown. What other suggestions might you (everyone reading this) have? 😊
My first three thoughts: 1. You may find your job, but it can also be said that your job finds you, if you expose yourself to a variety of environments. 2. Some people used to work at a plant nursery and say it was an introvert dream. It is something anyone can do. You hang out with plants all day, and you keep yourself in shape because you're on your feet all day lifting and moving plants. 3. From personal observation, even farmers and gardeners are filled with disquiet, anxiety in these times. So, perhaps replacing the economic-political system is that long, arduous route that is in fact the best route.
I think the channel is growing, I see more views, well I hope it will anyway, this is a hidden gem.
I think (especially this particular video) touches alot of people. Those who see the truth but perhaps sometimes feel a little lost (myself included). I seek connection and to be understood, this video does that.
Thank you so much for your film on THE OPEN DIALOGUE approach...i just wish it had been here in Australia...my brother may still be here. Thank you for all the truth you bring to those who need it so very much.❤
Kim. Thank you. I'm sorry to hear about your brother, and sadly, I know how awful the Australian mental health system can me. I was in Australia in 2013 and did a screening of Open Dialogue at the University of Melbourne. The most positive response came from patients and former patients. From mental health professionals...not so much... The usual pushback... Wishing you the best, Daniel
Thank you very much Daniel Mackler for this; being grateful for having to got away from parents.
We're told to be grateful to our parents, for having parents, etc.
I may have needed to hear that, so simple.
Beautiful video.
Also when it comes to childhood and family trauma, speaking out, being told to be quiet, this quote really comes to mind.
"When you tear out a man's tongue, you are not proving him a liar, you're only telling the world that you fear what he might say."
Maybe a bit off topic, but personally i liked some of the video and editing style in some of your old videos daniel. Maybe it is related to an older aesthetic of early youtube which i personally find innocent in a good way, or just the small guitar bits in the transitions and the little bit of structure. Obviously do what feels best for you, since ultimately that's why most people are here for.
Hey daniel thank you for such insightful content i'm sorry to maybe pass as intrusive i wonder how to you make ends meet,what is your biggest source of income in our screwed up economy ? How did you manage to get in this appartment that you have been in for so long in the middle of nyc just wondering as a young 20 yr trying to live and making money without screwing other people over or being dishonest also thank you your videos have helped me so much you give me some kind of hope in this cruel world
I do a lot of different work. For example, I edit a lot of writing and also do professional video editing. (I also get donations from people who watch these videos, and I have Patreon -- and I live super low-budget.) And for the last few years when I live in New York and elsewhere I often do a lot of pet-sitting -- and thereby get free rent to watch other people's animals.
@@dmackler58wow thank you for answering your work has really been life changing for me and so many people i wish you the best on your journey for other wondeful things in your life wish good luck
Elliott from france
@@dmackler58I appreciate your honesty here and openness! Not the usual 'i invest in crypto/drop shipping' nonsense
@@Sabadiver Thanks :)
15:00 "i dont like normal people" YES! Lmao. I relate so muc!
I want a video where you talk about your favorite bands/movies.
1. being born
2. being born part II (i mean having a self)
3. not being dead
what a wholesome video, greetings from Sweden
You helped me
11:37
Youre reaching us , Daniel.
I would like to say thank you for your videos. I was wondering if you could do a video on parents who use their kids for/as emotional support?
Liberation requires continuous effort. Surviving soul murder means embracing community and renaturalization. We cannot do it solo.
Daniel you look amazing. I thought you were late 30s honestly 😅❤🎉
Hi Daniel: I'd love to hear you talk about ECT and now, TMS. Just as you've talked about meds and covering up trauma, I'm wondering if you can talk about ECT/TMS in the same way. And maybe, Neurofeedback, too?
Good video recommendation
Many.people have jobs rhat are rooted in inequitable, oppressive and destructive systems. But liberation is freedom from oppression and being an oppressor.
The TRUTH shall set you free, yea? "EVERY WISH FULFILLED" ET. ...............................................................................
Hey Daniel have you read or heard of the book Complex PTSD from surviving to thriving by Pete walker? His work is pretty similar to you and I’ve found it very helpful and insightful in my own journey trying to heal my childhood trauma
I needed to hear it, Daniel! 🤔 Consciousness means being separated from yourself. That’s why there’s an unconscious and a persona.
Do you mean consciousness means that one will be able to recognize being separated from oneself?
@@christinebadostain6887This is something I had not recognized!
Is this a new video? Recorded long ago?
There are three dots followed by more => …more, which also displays when the video posted.
Thanks, but that does not indicate (on my phone, at least) when it was posted. I figure it posted today.
I am curious as to when it was recorded. I recall some of his older videos. Later, what I assume are newer videos, have Daniel wearing his Zuckerburg (no insult meant towards Daniel) uniform-like use of the brown, long-sleeved shirt. AM wondering if he's still actively posting videos or using archived footage?
I recorded the video about two months ago.
@@dmackler58 Thanks.
(Unrelated to this video)
What are your thoughts people marrying so young(18-25)? Commitment at such a young age without getting to know their true self... And these young married couples more often than not will already have 1 or 2 children all from 18-25)
What’s the 3rd thing?
7:16
Daniel, have you ever considered changin your surname? Last time, I was waiting at the dentist and had my health insurance card in hands. When I saw my surname, I had to turn the card with the front side down. Did you accept your surname? What do you think of it? IWith the name is different, it's more individual. I will change my and my familys surname to Novak, which means new man in my language..
This is a good question, is the name you were given at birth really appropriate, if you have gone your own way and cast off conventionality.......?
He talked about it in a video from months ago. In short, the bureaucracy was a bitch, and that discouraged him.
I have thought about it -- and I talked about it in a video a couple of years ago: th-cam.com/video/y9zcUv32OI0/w-d-xo.html
have you ever tried to read Nieztsche?
interesting
why does this guy remind me of the joker
Because Gotham is your hometown ?
@@brokenwing8018 yep
i don't get it
Thank you Daniel. I too have travelled the world and I also had to let go of my family. I am extremely focused on my reality and I am so very grateful to have the next part of my life to myself with real loved ones that truly love me as I am. 🏜🕺🏻🐕🏖
Can you expand on this (next part of your life). I'm 40, done alot of travelling with work (diving instructor). Will probably continue doing so as it's the only thing that seems to work for me, although I'm always open and on the lookout for some other way of being.