The truth in a nutshell was: you get to define what success means to you, the reality of diminishing returns with achievements, external validation is temporary and internal validation matters more (aka. self worth & self love) Make sure to check the description for more practical videos on success! 23 habits of highly successful people, habits that changed my life, etc. that’s all really helpful & applicable :) I also wanted to re-share someone's definition of success in the comments: “Success is the absence of the anxious feeling that you’re not where you’re supposed to be. Success is when you look around and wouldn’t trade your life for anyone else’s." -- love it
Babe. As long as you are happy? We are happy. You have over 300 videos in your channel, we understand how much work and time that you put everyday to make it through.. and you have succeeded! You are going places babe! If you feel like taking a break, you can take a break. We dont mind re-watching your old videos “for a while lol”.. take care
Cheers to that comment! Round of applause to Aileen and the success she's cultivated for herself :) We're all so proud of her, and personally, she has added an immense amount of value to my life. Aileen, if you're reading this, you've inspired all of us to live our best lives and to never stop fighting for what we're passionate about. If it weren't for you, I would not be where I am today. For that, I'm eternally grateful
"success at the speed of balance" yessss, preach! I get a bit uncomfortable when youtubers apologise for being away for two weeks or when they feel bad about taking a break... makes no sense to me
Lavendaire's videos always benefits me two times. I learning of speaking English even I don't get anyone else to talk with. I talk to myself repeating her words mostly her video of "stop comparing yourself ". I feel really Lucky to learn things for life, success etc. If I share these things to my friends of school they're like how do you know there things. I feel like I'm improving my daily life by her advice and meaningful words. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 Thank you very much for showing the words or whatever you speak on screen. It helps me to understand better.
This is so meaningful... In high school I won 1st place in a national speech contest, which I did for my teacher. She pressured me, saying our high school always won an award, ranking in the top 3... I “succeeded,“ but it wasn't deeply fulfilling.. I was burnt out.. We can't ignore our true selves and live for our parents, teachers, or whoever projects their insecurities or whatever on us. Thank you Aileen!!
It’s crazy that people will try to put you down for feeling like this. I’ve been living like this for the last year and being around my family it’s crazy, they think I’m “ not doing anything “ because I’m not “ working “. It’s a horrible feeling because I’m trying to get them to understand I’m actually happy! Detached from social media, anxiety is drastically cut down etc. that internal energy is what matters! ♥️ Keep doing you shorty! 💯🤷🏽♀️
Love your honesty on this topic Aileen. It’s refreshing to see a successful creator like yourself being happy with where you are and not constantly striving for more and more just because. I think it is hard for people sometimes to appreciate how far they’ve come and remember that there was a point in their past where they were wishing so hard to be where they are today. There’s always that “what’s next?” mentality, but we don’t need to always go by it. Hope to see more real talks like this on your channel ❤️
Just finished listening to an episode of the 'lavendaire lifestyle' and I'm so excited that I get even more Aileen in my life with this video! :) Inspiration queen!
I completely understand what you mean. If I could earn a living just through passive income alone and travel around the world not worrying about money I would. But I don't know how to make passive income safely for now nor do I have savings to use for that. So, for now, I am heading to South Korea to teach and live an amazing for years to save as much as I can to begin. I too will never want a normal job but would prefer to help people like teaching my native language, or in animal care which I have a degree in. Anyway thank you for a lovely video again and makes me feel less selfish that the kind of life you want is like my ideal too :) xxx
"I've achieved everything I've wanted to in life, I don't know, maybe cuz I set my goals too low?" I feel like you're selling yourself short! You've accomplished so much.
Aileen, this was so refreshing (as is all of your content). It seems like everyone is always talking about the next big goal they're running towards, which is well and good, and I'm sure you will uncover more goals and dreams over the course of your life, but to hear you talk about your peace and contentment with where you are is just wonderful, and I relate a lot to your feelings about simplicity and slowness in life and work.
You work hard for it, so you deserved it Love the part you talk about intuition that plays a big part in everyone's life, but not many people pays attention to it.
it is so nice when you see a person that, in fact, lives what he/she preaches. Examples change lives, words do not. When your actions are aligned with your thoughts and beliefs, it achieves a point that you do not have to preach anymore :) I like your example. It inspires me. Hugs from Brazil
Absolutely feel the same~ enjoying the moment is the most important part... and you will definitely not regret when you do live in every moment. Thanks for reminding me! and let's live happily. It's ok to be lazy I would say, and you will just automatically work again when you feel like you have had enough rest. Love you so much ;)
Thank you so much, Aileen! I have been very frustrated and anxious with where I am right now because I feel like I'm not doing something that I love. But it's also hard because I don't know what I want to do, what sparks joy with my life. Now, I learned to take it slow and to explore for now. I'm being too hard on myself because I want to be successful right away but now I realize how I need to work on it and that it takes time. You are an inspiration for me and even if you'll take a break or you'll post less, I will be forever grateful to you. Do what you want to do, we will support you all the way!
aaa what a cool video aileen! i feel like people rarely talk about success, the ups and the downs, and i really appreciate you sharing your journey and encouraging others how to reach their own dreams! ^-^ congrats on 800k that's so exciting!
it's so nice hearing you talk about what's important to you, independent of what others deem, and seeing you focus on what makes you happy rather than continually growing and growing just for the sake of it.
This is the kind of video I need to watch everyday to remind myself that’s its okay... I feel like I’m failing in life and want to give up. But your words keep me going and I know that I’m not alone. Thank you
What a wonderful message to give in a time where so many youtubers and online entrepreneurs are experiencing burnout from all the hustling and trying to do more and be more 💕🌸
Yeah it’s a vicious cycle that so many experience! As a creator, there are endless things we can do and everyone’s working so hard, the pressure feels like: “I can always do more, but it will never feel like enough.” And that sucks. Trying to get out of it!
LOVING the honesty! It's rare you get successful people discussing these parts of their journey. It's super fascinating and insightful. Thank you so much! xx
Thank you, Aileen for creating this video and sharing your thoughts about success and life. What you have shared definitely resonates and I can see you are definitely a stronger mush :) Keep being you and doing what brings you joy.
Hi Aileen! I'm so glad you made this video. I have never heard anyone talk about entrepreneurship this way. But it is also my goal in life to succeed at the speed of balance. Hustle culture can be really toxic at times. I listen to a lot of podcasts and read a lot of articles about entrepreneurship and it seems the goal is always to go bigger and faster no matter the cost and seemingly for no reason. If you are happy with a small business, why is it necessary to scale? That's just something that has been on my heart lately. I just want to live a simple, peaceful, fulfilled life. So glad to see you are following your heart on this 🙏🏾💜
Oh my goodness, I love this so much and how genuine and vulnerable you are. Thank you Aileen for constantly inspiring me with your content. Also congrats on 800,000 subscribers!!
This seems like a healthy definition of success! You’ve put so many videos up on a plethora of subjects and you’ve done an excellent job. I think taking time for yourself will be invigorating and your travels will inspire you. Thank you for another amazing video, Aileen!
Idk what kind of connection is this but i ws just feeling very off and unmotivated and i ws like i wanna watch aileen and Baaammm there i have it! A new video! Just at the right time 💜💜💜
I am a pre med student and i realized that this is not what i truly want to do. I wanna become a product designer. You and BTS inspired me to follow my heart. I am now following my dream and i really hope i make it through
I’ve been grappling with the issue of feeling like I’m “underachieving but consistently happy with my life” a lot lately, and this video came at EXACTLY the right time. I still have lots to think about, and further to go, but it’s validating to hear that it doesn’t ALWAYS have to be about the hustle. Thanks so much, Aileen, for always putting such beautiful and meaningful content out into the world - and I’m so happy for you for how far you’ve come! ♥️♥️ So much love and light from Toronto, Canada!
Thank you so much for this honest take on striving, reaching, and maintaining success. So often others believe they know what is best for you. I’m with you about reading and taking photos all day lol I had a 20 yr career in finance before 9/11 changed my life, then I returned to college graduating last year at 52 and for the last year I’ve been trying to relocate back to NY for a meaningful job incorporating my desire to be a writer. Half of my family really have difficulty understanding this goal. In their eyes I should just enjoy being a grandmother. I love being a grandmother but I need more to be fulfilled. Watching your videos has encouraged me. Thank you! Keep doing whatever feels right for you! It is YOUR life🧡 as you so beautifully remind us. You SHOULD be proud!
This is so authentic, I relate to it so much. Thanks for making this video, we really need to see the real side of influencers because they have a huge impact on people, especially the young.
Girl you are so right!! We think "oh when I have that thing I'll be happy", but then we find something else to strive for. I think we naturally have the urge to strive for things, and once we have that thing, we find a new thing to want. So we push forward the 'moment' we allow ourselves to be happy. It takes an eye opener like this video to realize that we can allow ourselves to be happy with what we already have, and that we should not feel guilty about feeling content with ourselves. I think being content with yourself also makes it easier to overcome new obstacles, because you're like "yeah I did THAT!", which is motivating! Anyway I'll stop rambling now, I'm so happy you found your balance and happiness, and congrats on 800k! Sending love! X
I'm really happy to see how big your channel has gotten. I've been watching your videos since you only had a couple thousand subscribers. Even back then I thought, "wow she should have more, this is beautiful, quality content!" And I'm so glad that you do now, because you deserve it.
So agree with "success at the speed of balance"!! I have a different amount of time and energy to give to work now than I did a few years ago when I started TH-cam, and every version of success requires energy to sustain. It's so important to figure out how much energy you can spend on seeking or maintaining success. I really appreciate your real talk videos! 💛
Love this post. Thanks for being a real person. These are the most important things for successful people to share... the things nobody considers talking about, that are subconciously present all the time. I think people fear the glamor & intrigue of their image will be gone when they speak so frankly, but it's always been the opposite to me, and being open makes you so unique & shows you really care about your fans & helping people. So, thanks. :)
Such a great video Aileen, thank you for your honesty. It is true that the most important thing is to make ourselves happy, otherwise we cannot make other people happy. You did work very hard and now you can relax and enjoy the fruits of your success. Find things that make you happy and want to share with us, no only IG but any other thing.
1:28 min. in, and I'm already in tears. YOU have such an amazing way of of touching us with your mind & heart, but through the camera. Thank you so much for making videos like this bc it's different from anyone else out there and it's REAL. I love what you created and your brand LAVENDAIRE. You should be INCREDIBLY proud. 💛💛💛
YASSSSSSSS! So much awesomeness in this video!! I'm feeling the same way right now... I've reached the level of success I planned for but still have so much life left! Thank you for your honesty
Perfect video as always 😻 I completely understand you, the most important is to feel align with yourself and to be happy 💮. Thank you very much much for your honesty I don't think a lot of people especially youtubers will tell so thank you again love every thing you do I bought the digital artist of life on my birthday and I am going to make the most of it. Take care of yourself and do whatever you want when you feel like you deserve it. Peace and love from Paris France 🌸
This video was amazing!! In this world where the word ‘hustle’ is given so much importance, where ‘resting’ is considered terrible, someone had to speak about knowing where to stop chasing constantly and feel content. I am glad you have reached that point and importantly realised it and made peace with it. I love your channel and your honesty! Congrats on 800000!
You are the artist of life girl. Walk your talk and LIVE!!!! For YOUUUUUU. You worked hard and you set a great example. Continue your great example by living YOUR life on your term! Like you said in your video. Please don’t go back and forth anymore. You are freaking awesome and ALREADY an over achiever. You owe yourself the SPACE of new possibilities. Instagrams and TH-cam’s are your current ways of expression. There may be more stuffs to come. ALLOW them
i have interiorized your videos as much as i see the content of this one super obvious and natural. Met you 2 years ago and changed my perspective on life so much, i'm so glad you achieved your goals and that succesfull state of mind, congratulations and thank you for all your hard work
Aileen, thank you for this! Finding your TH-cam channel earlier this year was nothing short of an absolute blessing. I just want you to know how much your message of listening to your heart & seeking freedom and happiness above all else has touched my life. You have used your platform to spread positivity, love, joy, compassion and encouragement. Everything you say has substance, & the way you articulate yourself and your ideas is divine. Thank you for challenging us all to look within, to love ourselves, to grow and learn and to be better than we ever thought we could be. You truly are amazing! We love you. ♥️
You're such an amazing, unique, beautiful,humble, dreamy, clever and inspirational lady. I have sadly not achieved any of my goals yet, not even a little clarity, so to hear someone who feels they have already achieved everything they ever wanted is quite something. I hope I too can become thoroughly successful and happy in life. Thank you.
This video is so genuine. You also describe things that I've been thinking about a lot lately. Thank you for sharing and all the best on your journey! :)
I was just talking to my husband Justin recently, about how since I have my MS I assumed I would have a full time job by now. But I recently changed jobs to a Part Time daycare helper, it is a big change for me but very rewarding and I hope to evolve at this job in a new way. Thanks for encouraging us so much!
I love how open you are and I can totally understand where you're coming from. ❤️ You're a true inspiration Aileen, all the best to you, whatever you decide to do! 😊
this made me cry haha, it's happy tears though. I do feel like my high school self will be really proud of the self-love and care that I put in myself at this point in life where college is stressing me out :)
I can relate with your feelings a lot and I am in the same stage for my business where I feel I have achieved the things I wanted to. Feel free to take a LONG break both from social media (or quit social media for good) and youtube. It will feel SO GOOD and feel SO HAPPY.
I relate to everything you said SO much! Thanks for being honest and sharing your thoughts on this topic! Not enough people are talking about it. Love ya girlie! 💖
I am so happy that you shared this story about yourself with us. Sometimes I have the feeling that TH-camrs, Instagramers or creative entrepreneurs in general are seen as collective property, that these people owe their fans something and that some people get outright angry when people don't produce as much or the right content. Thank you for sharing that people with a large following are not different from everyone else, some people forget that you and so many others also have a life outside the media that they are working with. I am so proud of you when I look at the way you have build this platform, and I am so happy that you inspire me over and over again with your videos.
@@lavendaire I always think that I would rather see less of someone, but what I see is inspired and made by someone who really loves doing it, than someone who feels pressured to.
It's refreshing to hear about a perspective on success that's so different from society's, of which you could argue even almost borders on greed. Many people hustle for more, more and more and encourage that for others, with a stressful journey and short-lived rewards. Must be a blessing to have your happiness be in your present, as opposed to something you're always distanced from and have to obtain.
This resonates so strongly with me. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learnt last year was that we all have our own definition of success. And it’s ok to have minimal goals that are less than extraordinary. When we release the expectation to attain a certain number/title, we allow ourselves to pursue what truly sparks us, even if our goals seem “ordinary” from others’ perspective.
Thank you for being this open with us! I am happy that you have achieved what you wanted to achieve and it is a great result, proving that your techniques work! Sending you love. ❤
Thank u a lot Aileen, you did everything completely well. I really admire your effort on every single video and give your subcribers the most valuable and meaningful lessons. You have given me the exact definition of what success actually is, not the thing that parents want us to do and to achieve. Myself is the only one to know that success means to me.
I cannot agree with you more!! If I am under too much pressure that I have to accomplish my goals, I would definitely feel overwhelmed and demotivated to make that happen afterwards. That’s what I don’t want to happen. As you said, keeping taking action at a comfortable pace for us is a key to success😊
Love love love!!!! I am so happy for you Aileen. ((: I will take this advice to heart as my definition of success changes. It's hard because I always take in what my parents, sisters and the outside world say. So when you said that you came to terms with your own definition of success, it felt relieving. Oh, and by the way, you're such a girl boss!!!!!!!! (:
Aileen! I love how real you are 😍 I think that's part of the reason why you have been so successful. You have been completely real from the start. Life is a forever undulating journey. It's okay to feel satisfied with where you are! In fact, I think it's a GOOD thing that you feel this way. Rather feel content than perpetually dissatisfied with what you've achieved. No matter what direction you decide to go, you've earned true fans here who will stick by you no matter what. Follow your gut girl! The best is yet to come 💞
I feel like you are like my dream self, it's like I am talking to my future self (if ever I'd be that successful and happy and peaceful in the future) I love your content, I listen to your videos while I'm working on my quizzes and homework for graduate school. I hope I can become like you in the future. Bless you!
Hi, Lavendaire, I am a relatively new to your site, but I have enjoyed and found values in what I have seen so far. I also found the Artist of Life Workbook very high quality. Sometimes, we feel empty and lost when we achieve the goal we have set. I found that I feel the happiest, when I working towards a goal. As we find excitement and exhilaration in learning and mastering new things, I think that your plan to travel more and focusing on new aspects in life will enliven you. As far as the frequencies of your posting, just think of it as an evolution of your life and maturity. As businesses pivot and change, you are allowed to pivot and change as well. Don't feel guilty about it. As long as you are providing values to others at whatever frequencies, we are all benefitted. Be peace with yourself on whatever decision you make based on your intuition. Thanks and love all you have done!
THANK YOU FOR THIS. It's a bit overwhelming listening to people keep saying just keep making your goals bigger and bigger and just hustle more and more! This made me so happy, thank you! OMG!
Aileen life is a personal journey. Love the journey. I am grateful for all that you have contributed on TH-cam thus far. Sending you love, light, and Aloha from Hawaii. You have touched my life just simply by being the loving person that you are. Self care is key.
Omg your video inspires me a lot. I was struggling hard to stay ‘alive’ at my job and I made a tough decision to leave my previous job without securing a job and it was the hardest decision ever as I am still struggling right now to get the job that I like and live a life that I want. And there were times that I feel like maybe I should just give up and go back to the job that killed me for one and half year, especially today the feeling was strongest ever and I just happened to watch your video and it changed my mind. I remember how happy I was knowing that was my last day. I will keep going and believe in myself that I can get my dream job that I wanted. I just have to keep trying. Thank you so much for the video ❤️
Aileen!!! I needed this so much 😭😭😭 I feel like I’ve always had this unnecessary pressure on myself to “succeed” on other people’s terms (my parents, my friends, my instructors) instead of my own. It feels even worse now that I’ve moved out on my own, and relying on my own for my basic needs... On top of having my own goals that I want to achieve (like revive my TH-cam channel, my blog, excel in online classes). Thank you for your honesty always, and continue to shine light and love in everything that you do! Love from SF 😘❤️🌁💕✨
Thank you for being so true. I totally agree with you, from the beginning until the end. Life is a personal journey and in it, only a few things really matter such as love, joy, health, pursuit of hapiness.
Thank you so much for talking about this it came at such a good time for me. I really appreciate you being so honest and real. I've been a subscriber from the start and seeing your channel grow and all the hard work you've put in makes me so happy and proud of you. Such a beautiful soul you are inside out. Love you so much, thanks for always inspiring us!! 💗
I do think the world needs more people like you. What I like the most about you is your spontanious talking, how existing you make the learning become and your combination of both let as feel how natural, motivated and inspiring is to make mistakes, to learn from and to have thereby the tool to move in an anthor step of success. You're great and you have to continue to do what makes you happy, maybe you have to explore other passions in addition to vlogging, you're definitely not a girl who's content with one job in her whole life. Look at Oprah when she stops her show to live the life that inspires her at that time, get this opportunity and move on to one greater level. Thank you
I LOVE this video! It's very real and true to you and delivers an important message to your audience. A lot of what you said I resonate with so well. The need to stop feeling guilty for putting yourself and your passions and dreams first. Not letting others dictate what your success or life should be. Living life and success by YOUR terms because it IS something that comes down to the individual... Being able to take a break when you want to, and again without feelings guilty, stressed, or desperate about it. 😔 I can also relate to not fitting into corporate atmospheres. I really believe it's just a Creative's thing. I'm super artsy and my passion and purpose lies in Theatre and Acting and being creative. I get stifled and stressed and anxious really quickly in regular jobs that only look for a paycheck and serve as survival. I'm finding very strongly this year that, despite having to work a regular job while pursuing my career in Theatre, the hours I give to my employer are no longer nearly as important to me as giving my time and energy to Theatre and the things that bring me joy and purpose. There are people, including myself because I've been stuck in survival mode my whole life and still struggle, that make me feel guilty or foolish or crazy for thinking that way. But it's the life of an Artist. It's so refreshing and relieving to hear you, who have pursued your ikigai and found your definition of success, talk about that too. I really needed to hear this today! Thank you so much! 🙏🏻
At the end of a long and stressful day at work, I scrolled through my subscriptions to see what to watch, and the only one that spoke to me was the only one in the list with your beautiful calming voice
Kathy Reyes Hernandez Thank you Aileen! I really needed this video. I’ve allowed people to dictate what success means for me and thanks to your video I understand how important it is for me to listen to my inner voice on what success means to me. ❤️ Like always, you are a source of clarity and light for me. Anything that you create helps a part of my life. You do you, Aileen!
Do you mama! I’ve followed you for years now and you’ve hustled hard for this. You’re only job is to fulfill yourself and find peace in your life. Your mark has made even if you stopped now. Sending you all the good vibes!
Aileen, don't stop because you feel "ok and comfortable" explore new fields that you could do. I really admire your works. Don't settle.. l know that I or no one have to tell you this, but since you said that in the begining of the video I felt like I should tell
This heart to heart made me so happy! I'm trying to build my business and am in the hustle stage, and you sharing how content you are doesnt come off lazy to me, but inspirational - because that's exactly the place I'm trying to get to! It also reminded me to embrace the process - this hustle stage, the landmarks, the achievements, that magic is only going to happen once! Thanks for sharing!
I'm happy you opened this topic, especially because I had an intense internal debate of how to define success just a couple of days ago 😅 I made the conclusion that success is extremely subjective, but it can be best described as contentment. It's when you can look at your life, and think 'Yes, this is good'. I would not say 'happiness' because happiness is an euphoric, fleeting emotion. Success is the absence of the anxcious feeling that you're not where you're supposed to be. For some, that is having a family, and a modest, stable income. For others it is fame and wealth. It's unfair when we use the word 'success' to lable people who live a shiny life. Some people would die of horror if they had to live in a public eye 24/7, be pretty, politicaly correct and responsible for huge amounts of money or employees - so would we call them successful if they are breaking under the pressure? We would, actually, but falsely. Success is when you look around yoursel,f and you wouldn't trade your life for anyone else's.
Omg you’re so right! Success is the absence of the anxious feeling that you’re not where you’re supposed to be, and when you wouldn’t trade your life for anyone else’s. I love that, bc I remember feeling those things before, and now I don’t anymore.
The truth in a nutshell was: you get to define what success means to you, the reality of diminishing returns with achievements, external validation is temporary and internal validation matters more (aka. self worth & self love)
Make sure to check the description for more practical videos on success! 23 habits of highly successful people, habits that changed my life, etc. that’s all really helpful & applicable :)
I also wanted to re-share someone's definition of success in the comments: “Success is the absence of the anxious feeling that you’re not where you’re supposed to be. Success is when you look around and wouldn’t trade your life for anyone else’s." -- love it
Very good definition 👏
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How do you live soo positively & how can you love your same routine for such a long time doing the same things?
Amazing Quote about Success 😇👏👏👏💕💕💕
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Babe. As long as you are happy? We are happy. You have over 300 videos in your channel, we understand how much work and time that you put everyday to make it through.. and you have succeeded! You are going places babe! If you feel like taking a break, you can take a break. We dont mind re-watching your old videos “for a while lol”.. take care
رباب ان متتبعتك وانت ايلين حقتنا بحبك
Cheers to that comment! Round of applause to Aileen and the success she's cultivated for herself :) We're all so proud of her, and personally, she has added an immense amount of value to my life. Aileen, if you're reading this, you've inspired all of us to live our best lives and to never stop fighting for what we're passionate about. If it weren't for you, I would not be where I am today. For that, I'm eternally grateful
Thank you girls!! You’re so sweet 🥰
"Just one Lavendaire video" I said. then finished everything. HAHA
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Listening to your intuition is THE most important thing.
Humility is true beauty. Thank you, Aileen.
*I appreciate your honesty so much* ❤
"success at the speed of balance" yessss, preach! I get a bit uncomfortable when youtubers apologise for being away for two weeks or when they feel bad about taking a break... makes no sense to me
Lavendaire's videos always benefits me two times. I learning of speaking English even I don't get anyone else to talk with. I talk to myself repeating her words mostly her video of "stop comparing yourself ". I feel really Lucky to learn things for life, success etc. If I share these things to my friends of school they're like how do you know there things. I feel like I'm improving my daily life by her advice and meaningful words. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
Thank you very much for showing the words or whatever you speak on screen. It helps me to understand better.
This is so meaningful... In high school I won 1st place in a national speech contest, which I did for my teacher. She pressured me, saying our high school always won an award, ranking in the top 3... I “succeeded,“ but it wasn't deeply fulfilling.. I was burnt out.. We can't ignore our true selves and live for our parents, teachers, or whoever projects their insecurities or whatever on us. Thank you Aileen!!
It’s crazy that people will try to put you down for feeling like this. I’ve been living like this for the last year and being around my family it’s crazy, they think I’m “ not doing anything “ because I’m not “ working “. It’s a horrible feeling because I’m trying to get them to understand I’m actually happy! Detached from social media, anxiety is drastically cut down etc. that internal energy is what matters! ♥️ Keep doing you shorty! 💯🤷🏽♀️
Love your honesty on this topic Aileen. It’s refreshing to see a successful creator like yourself being happy with where you are and not constantly striving for more and more just because. I think it is hard for people sometimes to appreciate how far they’ve come and remember that there was a point in their past where they were wishing so hard to be where they are today. There’s always that “what’s next?” mentality, but we don’t need to always go by it. Hope to see more real talks like this on your channel ❤️
Just finished listening to an episode of the 'lavendaire lifestyle' and I'm so excited that I get even more Aileen in my life with this video! :) Inspiration queen!
SERIOUSLY LOVE HER PODCASTS.
Love how your definition of success somehow equates to a marathon rather than a sprint which often times causes burnout. Hearts from Malaysia 🇲🇾❤️
*Congratulations on 800 000! You deserve all that and more! Keep crushing it!* 💖💖💖
Lavendair is always a big inspiration!
I completely understand what you mean. If I could earn a living just through passive income alone and travel around the world not worrying about money I would. But I don't know how to make passive income safely for now nor do I have savings to use for that. So, for now, I am heading to South Korea to teach and live an amazing for years to save as much as I can to begin. I too will never want a normal job but would prefer to help people like teaching my native language, or in animal care which I have a degree in. Anyway thank you for a lovely video again and makes me feel less selfish that the kind of life you want is like my ideal too :) xxx
I LOVE YOU!!!!
Love youu
WOAH 2 FAVES IN ONE COMMENT!!!!!
"Success at the speed of balance" this quote always helps me. Thank you Aileen 💗💗
"I've achieved everything I've wanted to in life, I don't know, maybe cuz I set my goals too low?"
I feel like you're selling yourself short! You've accomplished so much.
I used to think my goals were high and now I’m here & I’m like “yay wow ok” 😂 just grateful
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Success for me is making the money so that I can live the life I want, but also living the life I want to live. You are such an Inspiration Aileen! ❤️
Aileen, this was so refreshing (as is all of your content). It seems like everyone is always talking about the next big goal they're running towards, which is well and good, and I'm sure you will uncover more goals and dreams over the course of your life, but to hear you talk about your peace and contentment with where you are is just wonderful, and I relate a lot to your feelings about simplicity and slowness in life and work.
You work hard for it, so you deserved it
Love the part you talk about intuition that plays a big part in everyone's life, but not many people pays attention to it.
it is so nice when you see a person that, in fact, lives what he/she preaches. Examples change lives, words do not.
When your actions are aligned with your thoughts and beliefs, it achieves a point that you do not have to preach anymore :)
I like your example. It inspires me.
Hugs from Brazil
Absolutely feel the same~ enjoying the moment is the most important part... and you will definitely not regret when you do live in every moment. Thanks for reminding me! and let's live happily. It's ok to be lazy I would say, and you will just automatically work again when you feel like you have had enough rest. Love you so much ;)
Thank you so much, Aileen! I have been very frustrated and anxious with where I am right now because I feel like I'm not doing something that I love. But it's also hard because I don't know what I want to do, what sparks joy with my life. Now, I learned to take it slow and to explore for now. I'm being too hard on myself because I want to be successful right away but now I realize how I need to work on it and that it takes time. You are an inspiration for me and even if you'll take a break or you'll post less, I will be forever grateful to you. Do what you want to do, we will support you all the way!
Content that never fails me.💛 Aileen, your banner is gorgeous! Congratulations on 800K!
aaa what a cool video aileen! i feel like people rarely talk about success, the ups and the downs, and i really appreciate you sharing your journey and encouraging others how to reach their own dreams! ^-^ congrats on 800k that's so exciting!
it's so nice hearing you talk about what's important to you, independent of what others deem, and seeing you focus on what makes you happy rather than continually growing and growing just for the sake of it.
This is the kind of video I need to watch everyday to remind myself that’s its okay... I feel like I’m failing in life and want to give up. But your words keep me going and I know that I’m not alone. Thank you
*Anyone else procrastinating while watching this??*
Oops... xD
I can afford procrastination 😊
How did you know
shucks i got caught, i honestly feel embarrassed now
I love your honesty. Your happiness should always come first! Wishing you all the best, whatever you decide to do next x
*WHO ELSE LOVES HER??*
Ps I am a small TH-camr
I'm so with you ♥
I genuinely love her and listen to her
I'd say I listen and watch her like she's my mentor
Congrats on 800k!! 🥳 You deserve it, you’re amazing.
Thanks babe!
What a wonderful message to give in a time where so many youtubers and online entrepreneurs are experiencing burnout from all the hustling and trying to do more and be more 💕🌸
Yeah it’s a vicious cycle that so many experience! As a creator, there are endless things we can do and everyone’s working so hard, the pressure feels like: “I can always do more, but it will never feel like enough.” And that sucks. Trying to get out of it!
This is the best video for me to be motivated for my greatest goal this year, to be a public school teacher.
LOVING the honesty! It's rare you get successful people discussing these parts of their journey. It's super fascinating and insightful. Thank you so much! xx
Thank you, Aileen for creating this video and sharing your thoughts about success and life. What you have shared definitely resonates and I can see you are definitely a stronger mush :) Keep being you and doing what brings you joy.
Hi Aileen! I'm so glad you made this video. I have never heard anyone talk about entrepreneurship this way. But it is also my goal in life to succeed at the speed of balance. Hustle culture can be really toxic at times. I listen to a lot of podcasts and read a lot of articles about entrepreneurship and it seems the goal is always to go bigger and faster no matter the cost and seemingly for no reason. If you are happy with a small business, why is it necessary to scale? That's just something that has been on my heart lately. I just want to live a simple, peaceful, fulfilled life. So glad to see you are following your heart on this 🙏🏾💜
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Oh my goodness, I love this so much and how genuine and vulnerable you are. Thank you Aileen for constantly inspiring me with your content. Also congrats on 800,000 subscribers!!
This seems like a healthy definition of success!
You’ve put so many videos up on a plethora of subjects and you’ve done an excellent job. I think taking time for yourself will be invigorating and your travels will inspire you.
Thank you for another amazing video, Aileen!
Idk what kind of connection is this but i ws just feeling very off and unmotivated and i ws like i wanna watch aileen and Baaammm there i have it! A new video! Just at the right time 💜💜💜
I'm genuinely thankful to you to inspire me, to follow my heart and to stay strong! Keep doing what you do and loads of love and respect 😊💜
I am a pre med student and i realized that this is not what i truly want to do. I wanna become a product designer. You and BTS inspired me to follow my heart. I am now following my dream and i really hope i make it through
I’ve been grappling with the issue of feeling like I’m “underachieving but consistently happy with my life” a lot lately, and this video came at EXACTLY the right time. I still have lots to think about, and further to go, but it’s validating to hear that it doesn’t ALWAYS have to be about the hustle. Thanks so much, Aileen, for always putting such beautiful and meaningful content out into the world - and I’m so happy for you for how far you’ve come! ♥️♥️ So much love and light from Toronto, Canada!
Thank you so much for this honest take on striving, reaching, and maintaining success. So often others believe they know what is best for you. I’m with you about reading and taking photos all day lol I had a 20 yr career in finance before 9/11 changed my life, then I returned to college graduating last year at 52 and for the last year I’ve been trying to relocate back to NY for a meaningful job incorporating my desire to be a writer. Half of my family really have difficulty understanding this goal. In their eyes I should just enjoy being a grandmother. I love being a grandmother but I need more to be fulfilled. Watching your videos has encouraged me. Thank you! Keep doing whatever feels right for you! It is YOUR life🧡 as you so beautifully remind us. You SHOULD be proud!
This is so authentic, I relate to it so much. Thanks for making this video, we really need to see the real side of influencers because they have a huge impact on people, especially the young.
Girl you are so right!! We think "oh when I have that thing I'll be happy", but then we find something else to strive for. I think we naturally have the urge to strive for things, and once we have that thing, we find a new thing to want. So we push forward the 'moment' we allow ourselves to be happy. It takes an eye opener like this video to realize that we can allow ourselves to be happy with what we already have, and that we should not feel guilty about feeling content with ourselves. I think being content with yourself also makes it easier to overcome new obstacles, because you're like "yeah I did THAT!", which is motivating! Anyway I'll stop rambling now, I'm so happy you found your balance and happiness, and congrats on 800k! Sending love! X
I'm really happy to see how big your channel has gotten. I've been watching your videos since you only had a couple thousand subscribers. Even back then I thought, "wow she should have more, this is beautiful, quality content!" And I'm so glad that you do now, because you deserve it.
Thank you :) ❤️
So agree with "success at the speed of balance"!! I have a different amount of time and energy to give to work now than I did a few years ago when I started TH-cam, and every version of success requires energy to sustain. It's so important to figure out how much energy you can spend on seeking or maintaining success. I really appreciate your real talk videos! 💛
Love this post. Thanks for being a real person. These are the most important things for successful people to share... the things nobody considers talking about, that are subconciously present all the time. I think people fear the glamor & intrigue of their image will be gone when they speak so frankly, but it's always been the opposite to me, and being open makes you so unique & shows you really care about your fans & helping people. So, thanks. :)
GOALS! You've worked hard to get here, I've been following for a long time and totally inspired by your journey!! 💕
Such a great video Aileen, thank you for your honesty. It is true that the most important thing is to make ourselves happy, otherwise we cannot make other people happy. You did work very hard and now you can relax and enjoy the fruits of your success. Find things that make you happy and want to share with us, no only IG but any other thing.
Thanks for being so honest to the point of almost sharing some heated drops of tears❤
1:28 min. in, and I'm already in tears. YOU have such an amazing way of of touching us with your mind & heart, but through the camera. Thank you so much for making videos like this bc it's different from anyone else out there and it's REAL. I love what you created and your brand LAVENDAIRE. You should be INCREDIBLY proud. 💛💛💛
YASSSSSSSS! So much awesomeness in this video!! I'm feeling the same way right now... I've reached the level of success I planned for but still have so much life left! Thank you for your honesty
Perfect video as always 😻 I completely understand you, the most important is to feel align with yourself and to be happy 💮. Thank you very much much for your honesty I don't think a lot of people especially youtubers will tell so thank you again love every thing you do I bought the digital artist of life on my birthday and I am going to make the most of it. Take care of yourself and do whatever you want when you feel like you deserve it. Peace and love from Paris France 🌸
This video was amazing!! In this world where the word ‘hustle’ is given so much importance, where ‘resting’ is considered terrible, someone had to speak about knowing where to stop chasing constantly and feel content. I am glad you have reached that point and importantly realised it and made peace with it. I love your channel and your honesty! Congrats on 800000!
You are the artist of life girl. Walk your talk and LIVE!!!! For YOUUUUUU. You worked hard and you set a great example. Continue your great example by living YOUR life on your term! Like you said in your video. Please don’t go back and forth anymore. You are freaking awesome and ALREADY an over achiever. You owe yourself the SPACE of new possibilities. Instagrams and TH-cam’s are your current ways of expression. There may be more stuffs to come. ALLOW them
i have interiorized your videos as much as i see the content of this one super obvious and natural. Met you 2 years ago and changed my perspective on life so much, i'm so glad you achieved your goals and that succesfull state of mind, congratulations and thank you for all your hard work
Aileen, thank you for this! Finding your TH-cam channel earlier this year was nothing short of an absolute blessing. I just want you to know how much your message of listening to your heart & seeking freedom and happiness above all else has touched my life. You have used your platform to spread positivity, love, joy, compassion and encouragement. Everything you say has substance, & the way you articulate yourself and your ideas is divine. Thank you for challenging us all to look within, to love ourselves, to grow and learn and to be better than we ever thought we could be. You truly are amazing! We love you. ♥️
Thank you dear ❤️❤️
You're such an amazing, unique, beautiful,humble, dreamy, clever and inspirational lady. I have sadly not achieved any of my goals yet, not even a little clarity, so to hear someone who feels they have already achieved everything they ever wanted is quite something. I hope I too can become thoroughly successful and happy in life. Thank you.
This video is so genuine. You also describe things that I've been thinking about a lot lately. Thank you for sharing and all the best on your journey! :)
I really appreciate how open and honest you are. Great vid!
I was just talking to my husband Justin recently, about how since I have my MS I assumed I would have a full time job by now. But I recently changed jobs to a Part Time daycare helper, it is a big change for me but very rewarding and I hope to evolve at this job in a new way. Thanks for encouraging us so much!
I love how open you are and I can totally understand where you're coming from. ❤️ You're a true inspiration Aileen, all the best to you, whatever you decide to do! 😊
this made me cry haha, it's happy tears though. I do feel like my high school self will be really proud of the self-love and care that I put in myself at this point in life where college is stressing me out :)
*who else gets inspired by her?* ☺️💓
- Also a youtuber btw
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Yes! She is such an inspiration!
* joining the club * ♥
Yes! 💛
I thought of starting a TH-cam channel after watching her videos. She made me believe that everything is possible. :)
The only channel I check I the videos of :)
I can relate with your feelings a lot and I am in the same stage for my business where I feel I have achieved the things I wanted to. Feel free to take a LONG break both from social media (or quit social media for good) and youtube. It will feel SO GOOD and feel SO HAPPY.
Defining success on our terms is an amazing idea, I relate to this so so much.Thank you!
I relate to everything you said SO much! Thanks for being honest and sharing your thoughts on this topic! Not enough people are talking about it. Love ya girlie! 💖
I am so happy that you shared this story about yourself with us. Sometimes I have the feeling that TH-camrs, Instagramers or creative entrepreneurs in general are seen as collective property, that these people owe their fans something and that some people get outright angry when people don't produce as much or the right content. Thank you for sharing that people with a large following are not different from everyone else, some people forget that you and so many others also have a life outside the media that they are working with.
I am so proud of you when I look at the way you have build this platform, and I am so happy that you inspire me over and over again with your videos.
Thank you ❤️ and oh yeah there’s def that fear that your audience will get mad if you stop posting, I’ve seen it on other channels and it’s scary lol
@@lavendaire I always think that I would rather see less of someone, but what I see is inspired and made by someone who really loves doing it, than someone who feels pressured to.
It's refreshing to hear about a perspective on success that's so different from society's, of which you could argue even almost borders on greed. Many people hustle for more, more and more and encourage that for others, with a stressful journey and short-lived rewards. Must be a blessing to have your happiness be in your present, as opposed to something you're always distanced from and have to obtain.
This resonates so strongly with me. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learnt last year was that we all have our own definition of success. And it’s ok to have minimal goals that are less than extraordinary. When we release the expectation to attain a certain number/title, we allow ourselves to pursue what truly sparks us, even if our goals seem “ordinary” from others’ perspective.
Thank you for being this open with us! I am happy that you have achieved what you wanted to achieve and it is a great result, proving that your techniques work! Sending you love. ❤
Thank u a lot Aileen, you did everything completely well. I really admire your effort on every single video and give your subcribers the most valuable and meaningful lessons. You have given me the exact definition of what success actually is, not the thing that parents want us to do and to achieve. Myself is the only one to know that success means to me.
I love the way you are honest to yourself and others. I guess that makes you happy.
I cannot agree with you more!! If I am under too much pressure that I have to accomplish my goals, I would definitely feel overwhelmed and demotivated to make that happen afterwards. That’s what I don’t want to happen. As you said, keeping taking action at a comfortable pace for us is a key to success😊
Love love love!!!! I am so happy for you Aileen. ((: I will take this advice to heart as my definition of success changes. It's hard because I always take in what my parents, sisters and the outside world say. So when you said that you came to terms with your own definition of success, it felt relieving.
Oh, and by the way, you're such a girl boss!!!!!!!! (:
😘😘 thanks Pamela!
Success is all about never giving up! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I really appreciate your honesty ; and your realistic way of life which is exactly what I needed 🌼
Aileen! I love how real you are 😍 I think that's part of the reason why you have been so successful. You have been completely real from the start. Life is a forever undulating journey. It's okay to feel satisfied with where you are! In fact, I think it's a GOOD thing that you feel this way. Rather feel content than perpetually dissatisfied with what you've achieved. No matter what direction you decide to go, you've earned true fans here who will stick by you no matter what. Follow your gut girl! The best is yet to come 💞
Thanks dear ❤️
I feel like you are like my dream self, it's like I am talking to my future self (if ever I'd be that successful and happy and peaceful in the future) I love your content, I listen to your videos while I'm working on my quizzes and homework for graduate school. I hope I can become like you in the future. Bless you!
Hi, Lavendaire, I am a relatively new to your site, but I have enjoyed and found values in what I have seen so far. I also found the Artist of Life Workbook very high quality. Sometimes, we feel empty and lost when we achieve the goal we have set. I found that I feel the happiest, when I working towards a goal. As we find excitement and exhilaration in learning and mastering new things, I think that your plan to travel more and focusing on new aspects in life will enliven you. As far as the frequencies of your posting, just think of it as an evolution of your life and maturity. As businesses pivot and change, you are allowed to pivot and change as well. Don't feel guilty about it. As long as you are providing values to others at whatever frequencies, we are all benefitted. Be peace with yourself on whatever decision you make based on your intuition. Thanks and love all you have done!
Wow this is REAL TALK! This is so good thank you!!
THANK YOU FOR THIS. It's a bit overwhelming listening to people keep saying just keep making your goals bigger and bigger and just hustle more and more! This made me so happy, thank you! OMG!
I felt you so sincere and natural in this video. I really appreciate it! Tks for sharing your feelings. Congrats for 800K!
Totally agree in the importance of defining what success is to you!
You speak my mind Aileen. All of your videos are so uplifting and spreading the strong positive vibes. I'm happy for your love
Aileen life is a personal journey. Love the journey. I am grateful for all that you have contributed on TH-cam thus far. Sending you love, light, and Aloha from Hawaii. You have touched my life just simply by being the loving person that you are. Self care is key.
Omg your video inspires me a lot. I was struggling hard to stay ‘alive’ at my job and I made a tough decision to leave my previous job without securing a job and it was the hardest decision ever as I am still struggling right now to get the job that I like and live a life that I want. And there were times that I feel like maybe I should just give up and go back to the job that killed me for one and half year, especially today the feeling was strongest ever and I just happened to watch your video and it changed my mind. I remember how happy I was knowing that was my last day. I will keep going and believe in myself that I can get my dream job that I wanted. I just have to keep trying. Thank you so much for the video ❤️
Aileen!!! I needed this so much 😭😭😭 I feel like I’ve always had this unnecessary pressure on myself to “succeed” on other people’s terms (my parents, my friends, my instructors) instead of my own.
It feels even worse now that I’ve moved out on my own, and relying on my own for my basic needs... On top of having my own goals that I want to achieve (like revive my TH-cam channel, my blog, excel in online classes).
Thank you for your honesty always, and continue to shine light and love in everything that you do! Love from SF 😘❤️🌁💕✨
Aww sending you love!! You can do it, and do it for yourself ❤️
Thank you for being so true. I totally agree with you, from the beginning until the end. Life is a personal journey and in it, only a few things really matter such as love, joy, health, pursuit of hapiness.
Thank you so much for talking about this it came at such a good time for me. I really appreciate you being so honest and real. I've been a subscriber from the start and seeing your channel grow and all the hard work you've put in makes me so happy and proud of you. Such a beautiful soul you are inside out. Love you so much, thanks for always inspiring us!! 💗
I do think the world needs more people like you. What I like the most about you is your spontanious talking, how existing you make the learning become and your combination of both let as feel how natural, motivated and inspiring is to make mistakes, to learn from and to have thereby the tool to move in an anthor step of success. You're great and you have to continue to do what makes you happy, maybe you have to explore other passions in addition to vlogging, you're definitely not a girl who's content with one job in her whole life. Look at Oprah when she stops her show to live the life that inspires her at that time, get this opportunity and move on to one greater level. Thank you
I LOVE this video! It's very real and true to you and delivers an important message to your audience. A lot of what you said I resonate with so well. The need to stop feeling guilty for putting yourself and your passions and dreams first. Not letting others dictate what your success or life should be. Living life and success by YOUR terms because it IS something that comes down to the individual... Being able to take a break when you want to, and again without feelings guilty, stressed, or desperate about it. 😔 I can also relate to not fitting into corporate atmospheres. I really believe it's just a Creative's thing. I'm super artsy and my passion and purpose lies in Theatre and Acting and being creative. I get stifled and stressed and anxious really quickly in regular jobs that only look for a paycheck and serve as survival. I'm finding very strongly this year that, despite having to work a regular job while pursuing my career in Theatre, the hours I give to my employer are no longer nearly as important to me as giving my time and energy to Theatre and the things that bring me joy and purpose. There are people, including myself because I've been stuck in survival mode my whole life and still struggle, that make me feel guilty or foolish or crazy for thinking that way. But it's the life of an Artist. It's so refreshing and relieving to hear you, who have pursued your ikigai and found your definition of success, talk about that too. I really needed to hear this today! Thank you so much! 🙏🏻
At the end of a long and stressful day at work, I scrolled through my subscriptions to see what to watch, and the only one that spoke to me was the only one in the list with your beautiful calming voice
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Thank you Aileen! I really needed this video. I’ve allowed people to dictate what success means for me and thanks to your video I understand how important it is for me to listen to my inner voice on what success means to me. ❤️ Like always, you are a source of clarity and light for me. Anything that you create helps a part of my life. You do you, Aileen!
Do you mama!
I’ve followed you for years now and you’ve hustled hard for this. You’re only job is to fulfill yourself and find peace in your life. Your mark has made even if you stopped now.
Sending you all the good vibes!
Omg Aileen, I loved this video
I want to be happy, financially successful, relaxed and not scared and fearful. Just like you.
Aileen, don't stop because you feel "ok and comfortable" explore new fields that you could do. I really admire your works. Don't settle.. l know that I or no one have to tell you this, but since you said that in the begining of the video I felt like I should tell
This heart to heart made me so happy! I'm trying to build my business and am in the hustle stage, and you sharing how content you are doesnt come off lazy to me, but inspirational - because that's exactly the place I'm trying to get to! It also reminded me to embrace the process - this hustle stage, the landmarks, the achievements, that magic is only going to happen once! Thanks for sharing!
I'm happy you opened this topic, especially because I had an intense internal debate of how to define success just a couple of days ago 😅
I made the conclusion that success is extremely subjective, but it can be best described as contentment. It's when you can look at your life, and think 'Yes, this is good'. I would not say 'happiness' because happiness is an euphoric, fleeting emotion. Success is the absence of the anxcious feeling that you're not where you're supposed to be. For some, that is having a family, and a modest, stable income. For others it is fame and wealth. It's unfair when we use the word 'success' to lable people who live a shiny life. Some people would die of horror if they had to live in a public eye 24/7, be pretty, politicaly correct and responsible for huge amounts of money or employees - so would we call them successful if they are breaking under the pressure? We would, actually, but falsely. Success is when you look around yoursel,f and you wouldn't trade your life for anyone else's.
Omg you’re so right! Success is the absence of the anxious feeling that you’re not where you’re supposed to be, and when you wouldn’t trade your life for anyone else’s. I love that, bc I remember feeling those things before, and now I don’t anymore.
Rewatching this video again to inspire myself and do what brings me joy every day 🥰❤️