Because the universe might implode. Or they are as willing to get together as oil and water. These delusional idiots are more likely to screw each other over in some way and then move on to the next toxic relationship.
god i hate when niceguys refer to women as "females". for me, it personally feels like im being reduced down to my sex characteristics which is really weird
Yah like in some context it makes sense (like a medical conversation or something like that), but the way they are using it is just off. It’s like someone saying “Can you pass me the sodium chloride?” When you want table salt.
@@lurch789i've only ever been referred to as "female" ( aside from like doctor's appointments and stuff where they have to obvi) by butthurt guys, much like the guys in this video. if you're going to chastise someone abt being uncomfortable with being talked abt like that on a video where the narrator literally expresses the same sentiment as i have, maybe just dont interact with videos like this
3:52 I just searched it up and according to the search results calling a woman a female is to refer only to their reproductive role (receiving seminal fluid from the male and then carrying and giving birth to the child) and that is objectifying women to be only for reproduction, hence why it sounds so creepy. Although I do find it to be okay to call someone male or female simply to refer to their gender (as long as that person identifies as either one), it should be used with caution (eg. saying "I talked with one of my female coworkers about equal pay." and saying "I saw a female walking down that street earlier." has two very different tones as one sounds fairly normal while the other sounds weird and/or creepy).
This! More people need to understand that we aren't mad at the people for using the word itself. However the context they using this word in may make us uncomfortable
13:09 PTA - As a female, I think he could've like just taken her to her own home instead? I don't think he fully did what was wrong in looking out for her safety from Alex, but taking her to his home and putting her in his bed was the bad idea. She's drunk and has no idea that you didn't do something to her in her sleep, and she can't trust you anyway since you overstepped the boundary.
Yeah, agree. She would be within her rights to be annoyed in that case, but it would be like a reasonable set of actions. If the lift with Alex was prearranged, it might be over stepping if he knew that, but it's still fair. Taking her to his home is like so far into the bizarre, like, I'd never trust him again.
@@deathofallthingspotato9919 Who knows what he did to her. We only hear his side of the story, what if he violated her beyond just taking her to his home?
Also, we don't actually know the relationship between her and Alex, they could be together or really good friends, we just don't know. Overall just seems like he is the A-hole.
I don't think there was a good move this guy could have made at all. I got blackout drunk once and they were trying to get me home. The thing is, my ID didn't match my current address and I was too incoherent to tell them where I lived. They decided to just call an ambulance. When I woke up in the hospital, the nurse said if they had just dropped me off at home by myself, I would have died that night. Ive also heard from survivors that someone they thought they could trust assaulted them while they were drunk, which could have been Alex's intentions but of course we can't know that. Anything the poster did would either put someone in danger or make someone uncomfortable. Damned no matter what.
For the drunk one, he would have been in the clear if he had just taken her HOME instead of his place. Going purely on his perspective, he had every right to think "Uh oh" when the guy kept giving a very obviously drunk woman more drinks, as that is date r@pe 101. But when he brought her to his place??? Dude...
"Johnny studied Sissy as he smoked an after-supper cigar. He wondered what criterion people used when they applied the tags 'good' and 'bad' to their fellowmen. Take Sissy. She was bad. But she was good. She was bad where the men were concerned. But she was good because wherever she was, there was life, good, tender, overwhelming, fun-loving and strong-scented life. He hoped that his newly born daughter would be a little like Sissy." - _A Tree Grows in Brooklyn,,_ by Betty Smith (1942, *Harper & Brothers* )
I'd like someone to make one of those "why do women only date jerks" comics, only to follow the "jerk" with his girlfriend and show them just sitting down at an ice cream parlor discussing their interests and dreams and Summer plans and just being wholesome.
I dated a "nice guy" once, should have known I was in trouble when his friend had to approach me since he couldn't work up the nerve. I thought it was kind of sweet, so I gave him a chance. He was the most indecisive, unmotivated person I've ever had the displeasure of knowing. I don't think the guy should be the one to plan all the dates, but he literally couldn't muster a single thought on what to do or where to go on our days out together. He verbally fought with me over the most mundane crap and had such a pessimistic attitude over minor inconveniences. Finally got fed up when he started pressuring me for s*x...not because we weren't having it, we weren't having it *enough* for his liking. So glad he broke up with me because I was so ready to jump ship, and now I'm married to the most lovely woman in the world ❤ Genuinely hope he's left his apartment since we last talked
12:20 What I don't get here is: Assuming the guy is right, and the other dude had bad intentions, why take the girl to his own dorm? Why the hell he didn't just take her to her place and then leave? That's quite creepy, to be honest.
He's an opportunist. He saw someone just as bad as himself and wanted to look like the hero (though that doesn't make Alex any more of a villain since he was given permission to drive her home).
He also didn't properly address what "Acted Inappropriate in the past" was referring to. Obviously there are many things that fit there that are large red flags, but we don't know whether or not OP is overexaggerating how bad the situation is, which is he views himself as a "nice guy" is like 10x as likely.
Been feeling really depressed but I've found that watching emkay is a really good distraction (and yes I am trying to improve my mental health in other ways)
For taking the drunk girl "out of a bad situation" Why didn't you take her home? Why did you take her to YOUR dorm. Y'all were drinking so you weren't on campus ... drive the half hour or w/e to HER place The fact that you KNEW she wanted to go back to HER place and took her to YOURS is creepy ... especially using that excuse of protecting her. You should've taken her to her house since clearly that's where she wanted to be. So even if the rest of your observation was valid - you're still wrong here.
The same thing happened to my friend where she had a friend online (let's call her Delilah) and Delilah introduced her to her online boyfriend (Jacob) and Jacob was like "Yo girl I can make you straight" cuz my friend is lesbian and Delilah was ok with this so my friend blocked them ( deserved
Women: scared for physical reasons Men: scared for legal reasons Both: scared for mental/psychological reasons This is merely what I've gathered from both r/NiceGuys and r/NiceGirls, please don't digitally execute me
We ain’t scared for legal reasons we scared cause women scary af we be minding our business watching the game and they come in sweeping and will be like move because we didn’t answer her when she asked if the yoga pants made her look fat
bro really wrote and posted a whole essay online about how he kidnapped a woman instead of calling her a taxi/uber like any sane person in the same situation
@@treepotato9273 My point is that her friend took her away from someone who SAed her previously. Could've done a better job, but if my friend was extremely drunk, especially if they lived alone, I'd want to make sure they sobered up safely
@@MooseShowerwe dk if "alex" actually sa'd her, the wording is incredibly vague. regardless, i understand wanting to take ur friend away from someone u think doesn't have their best interests at heart, but why on earth did he take her to his place instead of dropping her off at her own house?? like that's weird af man
@@lurch789 bro go read about some kidnap and murder cases, it's pretty much always a relative or aquaintance. That's why they are the first people questioned and often prime suspects.
@@lurch789 mean yeah, females is technically right if you are talking about gender. it's still creepy and weird to call a lady that in these types of contexts though. like 'oh, look at that female who just walked past' definitely has a creepy feeling to it, you know?
I still can't comprehend the mindset some of these people have. How can people be this desperate. How can they be so _down bad_ that they gotta clown around like this without a shred of irony in their statements. Please, someone tell me these people don't exist, it hurts my brain D:
There is no logic with that mindset. It's an internalized delusion where they believe a nonexistent aspect of themselves when in reality they are jealous and envious of other having relationships. They don't love or care about the people they chase after, they lust after them and think sex is the only way to prove they are special in the world. Now, this could be something that came from their environment (influenced by parents or piers) or they have some sort of mental issue that prevents them from controlling their base desires (though the former is most likely the situation). Either way it's an unhealthy mindset that no one should ever follow.
Well, if it makes you feel any better, it's an absolute certainty that at least some of these posts are fake, considering people will do anything for "internet points" on reddit. And this sort of content is really popular and easy to create.
@@Markiplierforrealexactly. guys that are actually nice don't brag about it, but guys who are "nice" brag about it all the time by saying 'why girls don't hang out with me I'm so nice?'. I know so "nice guys" who always complained about not getting woman while being the worst people
@@verenabecker2724 A therapist on youtube said "there's a difference between a nice person and a good person. The nice person does good things in exchange for something, A good person doesn't." Or something like that.
I knew a guy like OP in the Julia and Alex story. Was really insistent on driving me home from the train station after Mardi Gras (he didn’t even go). I felt more comfortable walking back to my accommodation at night alone than getting in the car with him.
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No, no, you can literally still be a nice dude, broski. Do good things and be a genuinely nice person of society? Just don't be like these dudes who expect something and then get mad when they don't get that thing. There is a really big line between being a nice person and a "nice" person.
Or a guy who likes to be in control in bed not everything scream serial killer or cultist now if he said a submissive person then yeah I could see that
10:43 An easy solution for this story could have been for OP to say, "Cool, I'll go with you guys," when Julia tells him that Alex already volunteered to drive her home. If Alex was really on the level, he wouldn't object to having someone else come along. OP could follow in his car and make sure Julia got into her house without Alex. Or, at the very least, he could have driven her to her house. He could have even stayed over at her house for the night (in a separate room of course) if he was really worried, though in that scenario, he can't object if Julia gets mad at him staying in her house without permission. My point is there are a million better ways OP could have handled this, but he chose the way that left him with the most control over the situation. No wonder Julia freaked out.
There is a reason why I don't trust a person when they say that they're a nice guy or girl, it's always a red flag and most of the time they are not nice people. Remember actions speak louder than words.
It's the same with "smart". If person unironically calls themselves smart then they probably dumb because smart person will never think this of themselves. Why? Because there always a place to grow, even if you have a knowledge of something you still can improve yourself.
@@amiable_monster Everyone always says this, but it's not true. I once had a guy tell me I should choose him for this kinesiology partner project because he was really smart. And guess what, he was. We did great. But you've created this scenario in your head, where if someone tells you they're smart, they're actually stupid. But there are plenty of smart people who are self aware enough to recognize their own intelligence.
It's pretty clear these are paid actors by their grammar. Nobody's is this bad. Even worse, is absolute categorization being bad, expecting this level of rock bottom from everything just isn't functional. Besides, if you seek the exact opposite of this, you'll end up with someone who challenges you in a relationship... Usually with fisticuffs. I guess the guy you know will kill you, is better than the guy that you don't know will or not, fear of the unknown and all.
8:55 For context, the aita post was about a 15 year old who had a crush on his older brother's friend who was about 19 (?). When his class was visiting their campus, he snuck away to visit her apartment unannounced and told her that her tattoos were a turn off for him as soon as she opened the door. She rightfully scold him for his inappropriate behavior and sent him back to his class.
17:13 I actually understood some of that. Narrator is claiming a woman doesn't like him because 1) He isn't entitled, aka not a duke/lord and 2) He isn't tall dark and handsome. He is also staying she doesn't have a car and is wearing last season's fashions and she'd be prettier if she smiled more. The woman's response is 'You're right. Let's go our separate ways.
really scary that there are men out there that think and act like this. makes you wonder how they were raised for them to think like that. people get mad at bein rejected (granted, rejection sucks, but no one is OBLIGATED to return those feelings.) yet they question why women get scared. holy shit, they instantly insult you for saying no. if you ever feeling down and think your not good enough, remember, these men (and women) exist.
@@HopeIsADrug11037 that's the point. yeah, understandable to be upset of being rejected. but they then made it VERY understandable to WHY they were rejected
You know, you're right. Anytime I start thinking to myself I'm too awkward, too inexperienced, too messy, too hairy, too low-voiced, too uncultured, or too whatever, I'll just remember that these assholes literally exist and are out living and breathing today, and I'll instantly feel better about myself knowing I'm not one of them.
I always thought that there is no such thing as an archetype in real people, but then I discovered nice guys TM and I must say, they all are basically the same person.
13:40 i get making sure that your friend who's drunk doesnt get hurt or possibly kidnapped and killed/assaulted (bc it can and does happen) this whole Julie situation is not how you handel things especially taking her to your dorm and not her apartment like she asked
@@lurch789wym thinking with his crotch he thought what’s his name was gonna do something bad that’s not called “thinking with your crotch” it’s worrying about your friends safety
That story about the guy that drove his drunk friend home reminds me of a similar incident within my friend group in which a guy took a woman home and proceeded to get aggressive with her when she told him to leave for being creepy. After he finally left, he sent a number of harassing texts to her. He was shortly thereafter ejected from our friend group. A different guy in the same friend group was slightly less problematic, but still did the "female" thing and didn't respect women's personal boundaries out of a desire to be friendly to us.
I don't want to try and say one way or the other, but the thing with Julia and "Alex" was very creepy. "Alex" could have very easily done something much worse than just make sure she was able to sleep and not be taken advantage of.
The other guy was Alex, not the guy who took her to his house, but I definitely agree with you (also I apologize for correcting you). I would definitely be really upset and I definitely wouldn't trust the guy for a while because what if he did do something worse?
they have a backlog of vids, i think they probably get the narrators to record multiple videos worth of content in a day (probably not too difficult since the videos are usually quite short)
@@wysteria.Spend a few days collecting posts. Schedule a three or four hour recording ses with each voice actor. Send audio to editors next day. Boom... Two to three videos for each voice actor in maybe two days. Increase recording time to boost number of videos possible.
The only time when it’s not that creepy to say female is when you feel like saying girl is not the right way to go in that situation, NOT when you want to appear more respectful
It’s not creepy he was clearly talking about the gender female not the people now if it was clear he was calling the people females then yeah maybe a little bit but not like oh that’s weird type
I thought I was a nice guy when I was just the worse version of myself, uncontrolled mental health issues, low self esteem and excessive drinking, I was a proper cnut. So glad I grew up and was able to actually look at myself and adjust. Now I call myself a cnut and have actually less luck with women but I'm happier within myself and with my friends. I hope these people get to that stage.
Videos like this are a good reminder of why im not dating, cause im just like some of these guys and need to fix that before I try and go into a relationship with anyone
I'm really intrigued by how these pathetic waste of men believes that saying something like "I have a monster inside of me and you don't want to bring it out" is in any way gonna make them _more_ desired. Of course, being completely oblivious to how their every action regarding sexual relations has the complete opposite of their expected reaction is indicative to their absence of self-reflection. They only ever claim to be nice because they think they are, and only ever admits to behaving badly because someone "deserved it" - all topped with a tremendous amount of psychological manipulation in hopes of convincing others that they are the best and smartest. That is the summary of their personalities, and they pride themselves on it like it's ever something to strive for. Hell, I would even petition to call it the "Andrew Tate" syndrome at this point.
"I was too busy studying and getting my qualifications to get chicks and they only went for the bad guy" I was also too busy studying but I still managed to get a girlfriend, I think you just have skill issues Mr good guy
It’s not that women don’t like nice guys, it’s that nice guys don’t have a shed of kindness. Women want KINDNESS. Niceness isn’t the same thing, and doesn’t instantly make you a good person.
the chain at 5min 45 seconds sounds like something i would expect a hivemind, borg, flood mass,... etc to say to me to try and convince my character to give up, i was half expecting it to end with a pro ai comment, or "lower your shields resistance is futile" or something
that, or something along the lines of "just be animals and not question things" a way to also not imply they are a bad person in their own comment, saying they are both objects... might fit better with the theme, might not
I actually hate how well written “the rejection” is. there’s no way someone put THAT MUCH EFFORT into something of the gross sort and wasn’t kidding, unless they are a TOTAL LOSS.
When will these guys understand that it’s not about body count, it’s not about ‘getting the hot chick’, it’s about love and passion, it’s about having someone special in your life that you’d do anything to protect, because you know they would do the same for you! I feel like people are slowing losing the ability to be truly in love, if you have a partner who you truly love with all your heart, and you know they love you with all of theirs, then you’re more fortunate that than he who sleeps with one hundred supermodels! 💕💕💕
I want a show where self proclaimed “nice guys” are treated the way the treat women, see how long they can say their abuse is “just being nice” when they are the victim instead of the abuser
I was curious, so I went to google to figure out some of the last one, cause I wasn't sure I was getting it all from the context clues. Basically the dude was calling her a flat chested and unfashionable with a victorian flair of "you should be lucky to talk to me, but you won't even smile for me" vibes.
Nice guys in a nutshell: Says they're nice Are desperate Spams several messages No boundaries Entitled Can't take no Says all girls are the same when get rejected
I'll never understand why nice guys and nice girls don't just date each other
Because the universe might implode.
Or they are as willing to get together as oil and water. These delusional idiots are more likely to screw each other over in some way and then move on to the next toxic relationship.
Mostly because both of them would fight over the control of the relationship
theyd be eachothers worst nightmare
Then they would become r/entitledparents
cuz same poles repell each others
I remember when I called myself a nice guy... before I knew what it meant in the online space. Now I have to call myself a polite fellow.
how about something more like, a good chap?
what?
Swell lad
Distinguished gentleman
Pleasant fella
god i hate when niceguys refer to women as "females". for me, it personally feels like im being reduced down to my sex characteristics which is really weird
Yah like in some context it makes sense (like a medical conversation or something like that), but the way they are using it is just off. It’s like someone saying “Can you pass me the sodium chloride?” When you want table salt.
@@marissam3176 yep, exactly. wouldn't use the scientific term in reference to an object so why are they using it for women?
@@felixmustdie8534 I think it’s just them trying to sound smarter and thus superior.
@@lurch789 Yah. Saying crazy chick is much better.
@@lurch789i've only ever been referred to as "female" ( aside from like doctor's appointments and stuff where they have to obvi) by butthurt guys, much like the guys in this video. if you're going to chastise someone abt being uncomfortable with being talked abt like that on a video where the narrator literally expresses the same sentiment as i have, maybe just dont interact with videos like this
3:52 I just searched it up and according to the search results calling a woman a female is to refer only to their reproductive role (receiving seminal fluid from the male and then carrying and giving birth to the child) and that is objectifying women to be only for reproduction, hence why it sounds so creepy. Although I do find it to be okay to call someone male or female simply to refer to their gender (as long as that person identifies as either one), it should be used with caution (eg. saying "I talked with one of my female coworkers about equal pay." and saying "I saw a female walking down that street earlier." has two very different tones as one sounds fairly normal while the other sounds weird and/or creepy).
Its completely subjective though?
Female as adjective is fine. Female as noun is only okay in specific contexts.
This! More people need to understand that we aren't mad at the people for using the word itself. However the context they using this word in may make us uncomfortable
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@@Ashtonhighfill21spuhtup
13:09 PTA - As a female, I think he could've like just taken her to her own home instead? I don't think he fully did what was wrong in looking out for her safety from Alex, but taking her to his home and putting her in his bed was the bad idea. She's drunk and has no idea that you didn't do something to her in her sleep, and she can't trust you anyway since you overstepped the boundary.
Yeah, agree. She would be within her rights to be annoyed in that case, but it would be like a reasonable set of actions.
If the lift with Alex was prearranged, it might be over stepping if he knew that, but it's still fair.
Taking her to his home is like so far into the bizarre, like, I'd never trust him again.
@@deathofallthingspotato9919 Who knows what he did to her. We only hear his side of the story, what if he violated her beyond just taking her to his home?
Also, we don't actually know the relationship between her and Alex, they could be together or really good friends, we just don't know. Overall just seems like he is the A-hole.
Yeah i don’t get why he didn’t take her to her place I do get why he was worried but he overstepped her boundaries by a lot
I don't think there was a good move this guy could have made at all. I got blackout drunk once and they were trying to get me home. The thing is, my ID didn't match my current address and I was too incoherent to tell them where I lived. They decided to just call an ambulance. When I woke up in the hospital, the nurse said if they had just dropped me off at home by myself, I would have died that night.
Ive also heard from survivors that someone they thought they could trust assaulted them while they were drunk, which could have been Alex's intentions but of course we can't know that.
Anything the poster did would either put someone in danger or make someone uncomfortable. Damned no matter what.
For the drunk one, he would have been in the clear if he had just taken her HOME instead of his place. Going purely on his perspective, he had every right to think "Uh oh" when the guy kept giving a very obviously drunk woman more drinks, as that is date r@pe 101. But when he brought her to his place??? Dude...
psa to everyone saying first: the first comment said “pancakes”. you’re not special.
You’re amazing for that lol
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Pamcakes
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There should be Badguys and Badgirls that are actually nice people
"Johnny studied Sissy as he smoked an after-supper cigar. He wondered what criterion people used when they applied the tags 'good' and 'bad' to their fellowmen. Take Sissy. She was bad. But she was good. She was bad where the men were concerned. But she was good because wherever she was, there was life, good, tender, overwhelming, fun-loving and strong-scented life. He hoped that his newly born daughter would be a little like Sissy."
- _A Tree Grows in Brooklyn,,_ by Betty Smith (1942, *Harper & Brothers* )
We going back to the 70s and 80s with lingo now, where calling something "bad" meant it was good?
@@denverarnold6210it's still a pretty common phrase in black English. Like, "baddie" or "she bad" isn't that uncommon.
I'd like someone to make one of those "why do women only date jerks" comics, only to follow the "jerk" with his girlfriend and show them just sitting down at an ice cream parlor discussing their interests and dreams and Summer plans and just being wholesome.
There is, they’re normal people who the person the NiceGuys are harassing are dating or might date 😭
I dated a "nice guy" once, should have known I was in trouble when his friend had to approach me since he couldn't work up the nerve. I thought it was kind of sweet, so I gave him a chance. He was the most indecisive, unmotivated person I've ever had the displeasure of knowing. I don't think the guy should be the one to plan all the dates, but he literally couldn't muster a single thought on what to do or where to go on our days out together. He verbally fought with me over the most mundane crap and had such a pessimistic attitude over minor inconveniences. Finally got fed up when he started pressuring me for s*x...not because we weren't having it, we weren't having it *enough* for his liking. So glad he broke up with me because I was so ready to jump ship, and now I'm married to the most lovely woman in the world ❤ Genuinely hope he's left his apartment since we last talked
Glad to know you've found someone better, although I am absolutely the person with absolutely zero confidence so... :,)
I used to think s*x was like every 2 to 6 MONTHS lmao
@@W1ll1am.t00nsreject sex, return to pizza and garlic bread
@@firytwiglmao, same, but since I'm aroace I don't even care 😂
@@W1ll1am.t00nsin one of my cases, it was HOURS... Sounds good at first, but oh my sweet lord
12:20 What I don't get here is: Assuming the guy is right, and the other dude had bad intentions, why take the girl to his own dorm? Why the hell he didn't just take her to her place and then leave? That's quite creepy, to be honest.
He's an opportunist. He saw someone just as bad as himself and wanted to look like the hero (though that doesn't make Alex any more of a villain since he was given permission to drive her home).
He also didn't properly address what "Acted Inappropriate in the past" was referring to. Obviously there are many things that fit there that are large red flags, but we don't know whether or not OP is overexaggerating how bad the situation is, which is he views himself as a "nice guy" is like 10x as likely.
Maybe she was just too drunk to safely leave alone? But then why not take her to a bloody hospital or something?
He sees an opportunity to take advantage of her vulnerable state in order to bring her to his place and have his way with her.
Thank you for your human input. Your answer will be stored and possibly used for research.
Normal ppl: kindness is its own reward
Nice guys: i was nice you owe me!
Been feeling really depressed but I've found that watching emkay is a really good distraction (and yes I am trying to improve my mental health in other ways)
Very true lol
I'm proud of you man. Keep going. I know you can beat whatevers messing with you. Good luck in your future journey.
I hope you'll feel good soon
Literally same here
I hope you get better. remember, you are better off with your hand than a nice girl/boy.
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Waffles...
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11:50 this dude's logic is "i thought she was in danger, so i decided to become the danger"
For taking the drunk girl "out of a bad situation"
Why didn't you take her home? Why did you take her to YOUR dorm.
Y'all were drinking so you weren't on campus ... drive the half hour or w/e to HER place
The fact that you KNEW she wanted to go back to HER place and took her to YOURS is creepy ... especially using that excuse of protecting her. You should've taken her to her house since clearly that's where she wanted to be. So even if the rest of your observation was valid - you're still wrong here.
as a former pansexual, a man told me he could make me straight, change me! and he did change me, after that interaction I realised I was a lesbian
I hope you had a great pride too! We need to ditch the 'I can change you' story.
HELP ONGG
The same thing happened to my friend where she had a friend online (let's call her Delilah) and Delilah introduced her to her online boyfriend (Jacob) and Jacob was like "Yo girl I can make you straight" cuz my friend is lesbian and Delilah was ok with this so my friend blocked them ( deserved
As a guy I'm sorry that any girl had that kind of interaction with any guy.
@@Trap-chan750 Yeah ikr like some people r fuckin' weirdos
Women: scared for physical reasons
Men: scared for legal reasons
Both: scared for mental/psychological reasons
This is merely what I've gathered from both r/NiceGuys and r/NiceGirls, please don't digitally execute me
That's pretty much it
how do you digitally get executed do they like decapitate your bitmoji?
We ain’t scared for legal reasons we scared cause women scary af we be minding our business watching the game and they come in sweeping and will be like move because we didn’t answer her when she asked if the yoga pants made her look fat
@coltonmilhorn5107 i guess it means cancelled
@@ryanmaggard862 I feel that would fall more into the mental/psychological category.
bro really wrote and posted a whole essay online about how he kidnapped a woman instead of calling her a taxi/uber like any sane person in the same situation
They’re a friend, not a stranger
@@MooseShower strangers are statistically less likely to kidnap or harm people so I'm not sure I get your point
@@treepotato9273 My point is that her friend took her away from someone who SAed her previously. Could've done a better job, but if my friend was extremely drunk, especially if they lived alone, I'd want to make sure they sobered up safely
@@MooseShowerwe dk if "alex" actually sa'd her, the wording is incredibly vague. regardless, i understand wanting to take ur friend away from someone u think doesn't have their best interests at heart, but why on earth did he take her to his place instead of dropping her off at her own house?? like that's weird af man
@@lurch789 bro go read about some kidnap and murder cases, it's pretty much always a relative or aquaintance. That's why they are the first people questioned and often prime suspects.
The whole point in them calling them females is to be dehumanizing.
@@lurch789 ?
@@lurch789 mean yeah, females is technically right if you are talking about gender. it's still creepy and weird to call a lady that in these types of contexts though. like 'oh, look at that female who just walked past' definitely has a creepy feeling to it, you know?
@@lurch789 you sound kinda like a nice guy just better
@@lurch789nah. Y’all call men “men” not males, but call women females.
You do it to dehumanize us, even if you don’t realize that
@@lurch789random question, totally not related at all: are you a radical feminist?
I still can't comprehend the mindset some of these people have.
How can people be this desperate. How can they be so _down bad_ that they gotta clown around like this without a shred of irony in their statements.
Please, someone tell me these people don't exist, it hurts my brain D:
I don't remember the whole meme but it's something like "what zero pussy does to a mf" and I think it kinda describe this guys pretty well
There is no logic with that mindset. It's an internalized delusion where they believe a nonexistent aspect of themselves when in reality they are jealous and envious of other having relationships. They don't love or care about the people they chase after, they lust after them and think sex is the only way to prove they are special in the world.
Now, this could be something that came from their environment (influenced by parents or piers) or they have some sort of mental issue that prevents them from controlling their base desires (though the former is most likely the situation). Either way it's an unhealthy mindset that no one should ever follow.
Is it ok if I'm lying?
Well, if it makes you feel any better, it's an absolute certainty that at least some of these posts are fake, considering people will do anything for "internet points" on reddit. And this sort of content is really popular and easy to create.
Hollywood
First one in, if someone has a "monster" they "tame" I'm not dating them because that's the kind of guy to abuse someone
But what if the monster is his pe... t?
@@DrZaius3141 He's overcompensating
That is the kind of guy to tell the teacher that he is the alpha.
As a woman I can say it's not that we don't like "nice guys", we just don't like THEM
I like nice guys. I don't like "nice guys".
@@verenabecker2724yeah real nice guys usually would never brag about being “nice”
@@Markiplierforrealexactly. guys that are actually nice don't brag about it, but guys who are "nice" brag about it all the time by saying 'why girls don't hang out with me I'm so nice?'.
I know so "nice guys" who always complained about not getting woman while being the worst people
@@verenabecker2724 A therapist on youtube said "there's a difference between a nice person and a good person. The nice person does good things in exchange for something, A good person doesn't." Or something like that.
@@TylerZetaCinema Therapy or something like that, right? The Megamind video?
Man... I wish girls asked me why we never dated when we were in high school, I have the perfect response.
"Uhhh, because I'm gay... Lol"🤣
Sorry that won't stop those lunatics, they'll sexualize you more if they find out you're attracted to women
Thatsafairpoint
I guess they knew 😂
@@lurch789silence, wench
Though it would funny if you're actually gay and married to a man.
I knew a guy like OP in the Julia and Alex story. Was really insistent on driving me home from the train station after Mardi Gras (he didn’t even go). I felt more comfortable walking back to my accommodation at night alone than getting in the car with him.
These videos keep me going sometimes during hard times. I love you all so much for doing what you do best. Have a great day everyone who reads this and the Emkay team
I used to think I was a nice guy
Then I learned what a "nice guy" means nowadays
So now I am just an old guy.
Theres a difference between being a nice guy and being a "Nice Guy" XD
same but say im just a guy you feel me?!
You can be a nice guy in the non sarcastic way, the meaning only changes to what you see in the video if you add the airquotes " "
@@spidertheo3613 I know, you are factually correct, but we all know it doesn't work that way anymore sadly.
No, no, you can literally still be a nice dude, broski. Do good things and be a genuinely nice person of society? Just don't be like these dudes who expect something and then get mad when they don't get that thing. There is a really big line between being a nice person and a "nice" person.
That guy with acres of land who was looking for a "submissive" girlfriend kinda screams cultist.
Or serial killer.
Just an average American Christian really.
Or a guy who likes to be in control in bed not everything scream serial killer or cultist now if he said a submissive person then yeah I could see that
Bro is Joseph Seed from FarCry 5 lmao
@@ryanmaggard862 Way to put words in my mouth. I'm well aware not everything is a red flag. I was merely expressing an opinion.
10:43 An easy solution for this story could have been for OP to say, "Cool, I'll go with you guys," when Julia tells him that Alex already volunteered to drive her home. If Alex was really on the level, he wouldn't object to having someone else come along. OP could follow in his car and make sure Julia got into her house without Alex. Or, at the very least, he could have driven her to her house. He could have even stayed over at her house for the night (in a separate room of course) if he was really worried, though in that scenario, he can't object if Julia gets mad at him staying in her house without permission.
My point is there are a million better ways OP could have handled this, but he chose the way that left him with the most control over the situation. No wonder Julia freaked out.
There is a reason why I don't trust a person when they say that they're a nice guy or girl, it's always a red flag and most of the time they are not nice people.
Remember actions speak louder than words.
It's the same with "smart". If person unironically calls themselves smart then they probably dumb because smart person will never think this of themselves. Why? Because there always a place to grow, even if you have a knowledge of something you still can improve yourself.
@@amiable_monster whenever somebody says they're smarter than me to brag, I simply say a smart person wouldn't be flaunting a high iq
@@amiable_monster Everyone always says this, but it's not true. I once had a guy tell me I should choose him for this kinesiology partner project because he was really smart. And guess what, he was. We did great.
But you've created this scenario in your head, where if someone tells you they're smart, they're actually stupid. But there are plenty of smart people who are self aware enough to recognize their own intelligence.
It's pretty clear these are paid actors by their grammar. Nobody's is this bad. Even worse, is absolute categorization being bad, expecting this level of rock bottom from everything just isn't functional. Besides, if you seek the exact opposite of this, you'll end up with someone who challenges you in a relationship... Usually with fisticuffs. I guess the guy you know will kill you, is better than the guy that you don't know will or not, fear of the unknown and all.
The fact that they have to announce they're nice, just brings some doubts
At 5:46, I started to burst into hysterical laughter while diving for the pair of scissors next to my bed to stab the screen
As of writing this I've just started the video and am now concerned
I now understand and am proceeding to use the scissors on myself as well so I don't need to live on the same planet as this person
@@Degasi14 don't do that, instead outlive them by 100 years using the fuel of pure spite
@@TheIndispensableOpposition I am already doing that for a few people
Why it wasn’t funny
8:55 For context, the aita post was about a 15 year old who had a crush on his older brother's friend who was about 19 (?). When his class was visiting their campus, he snuck away to visit her apartment unannounced and told her that her tattoos were a turn off for him as soon as she opened the door. She rightfully scold him for his inappropriate behavior and sent him back to his class.
I wouldn't be surprised if Julia and Alex were a thing already. Of course she would trust him then
Yeah also this guy claimed Alex was making her uncomfortable, but maybe she likes him and likes his flirting lol
17:13 I actually understood some of that. Narrator is claiming a woman doesn't like him because 1) He isn't entitled, aka not a duke/lord and 2) He isn't tall dark and handsome. He is also staying she doesn't have a car and is wearing last season's fashions and she'd be prettier if she smiled more.
The woman's response is 'You're right. Let's go our separate ways.
Tip: Whenever you feel bad about yourself remember these people actually exist👍
really scary that there are men out there that think and act like this. makes you wonder how they were raised for them to think like that. people get mad at bein rejected (granted, rejection sucks, but no one is OBLIGATED to return those feelings.) yet they question why women get scared. holy shit, they instantly insult you for saying no.
if you ever feeling down and think your not good enough, remember, these men (and women) exist.
they were probably spoiled a lot as kids and just built up from there until they're total assholes lmao
like it's alright to be upset at rejection, most people are. but the way they go about it is so unbelievably awful
@@HopeIsADrug11037 that's the point. yeah, understandable to be upset of being rejected. but they then made it VERY understandable to WHY they were rejected
You know, you're right. Anytime I start thinking to myself I'm too awkward, too inexperienced, too messy, too hairy, too low-voiced, too uncultured, or too whatever, I'll just remember that these assholes literally exist and are out living and breathing today, and I'll instantly feel better about myself knowing I'm not one of them.
@@AngelKiller666Kitsune sorry if i seemed like i was disagreeing with you LOL I was just adding onto it (or monologuing idk)
I always thought that there is no such thing as an archetype in real people, but then I discovered nice guys TM and I must say, they all are basically the same person.
“You can’t be a bad object” yeah, tell that to all of the inanimate objects I curse at in my head and threaten whenever they don’t do what I want.
Yeah
Me : forces something closed
Object: *HITS ME IN THE FACE*
Me: spartan rage ready R3 L3
It's sad when "bad boys" are nicer than Nice Guys.
And “popular girls” have way less personality than “non popular girls”
I looked it up: "The Rejection" was in fact written by Franz Kafka, the person who wrote "The Metamorphosis."
The hentai or the novel?
@@pennyforyourthots Novella. Didn't know there was a hentai of the same name.
@@DesMuttYS and that thing is cursed so please don't go near it
@@theunknowman12 Thanks for trying to warn me, but, unfortunately, I already read the wiki about it.
dammit kafka
13:35 - "your heart's in the right place, Rose, but I don't know where the hell your brain is." . Golden girls quote fits perfectly here
15:39 I’m laughing so hard. Bro actually responded with “Wait really??? 🍆🍆🍆”
me too. Thank you for your human input. Your answer will be stored and possibly used for research.
“You can’t be a bad object.”
*Me glaring at my computer for saving my project in the untouchable ether of the multiverse*
4:20 Nah fam, I always greet my homies like “Yo, what is up my fellow Homo-Sapiens!”
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
13:40 i get making sure that your friend who's drunk doesnt get hurt or possibly kidnapped and killed/assaulted (bc it can and does happen) this whole Julie situation is not how you handel things especially taking her to your dorm and not her apartment like she asked
@@lurch789wym thinking with his crotch he thought what’s his name was gonna do something bad that’s not called “thinking with your crotch” it’s worrying about your friends safety
That story about the guy that drove his drunk friend home reminds me of a similar incident within my friend group in which a guy took a woman home and proceeded to get aggressive with her when she told him to leave for being creepy. After he finally left, he sent a number of harassing texts to her. He was shortly thereafter ejected from our friend group.
A different guy in the same friend group was slightly less problematic, but still did the "female" thing and didn't respect women's personal boundaries out of a desire to be friendly to us.
it feels like some of these guys have a humiliation or degradation kink and just don’t know it yet
forward or inward one?
We need a subreddit of rejection done right. I wanna see other guys taking rejection respectfully so that my faith in humanity can be restored 😂
Its always a good day when EmKay posts
They post like every day
@@Bigwaluigi2
let everyday be a good day
@sunshine_0818 kinda hard but I'll try
@@Bigwaluigi2
trying is good enough. i hope you get help
I'd much rather be single my whole life than become a "Nice Guy"
@@lurch789 explain please :thinking:
@@lurch789No? He’s saying that he doesn’t want to become a bad person
Oh my gosh, my daughter tried her best to warn me of people like this. Unfortunately I fell for the one "nice guy" lol!! Lesson learned!🤦🏻♀️
Loving how they’re did r/nicegirls then r/niceguys
"when i doing you know the thing we do in my hand 🤚you know im shy little whatever i was thinking about you"
so inspirational
I had a stroke when I saw that lmao. L on grammar
@@SierNotsruhtI thought he was grabbing and stroking his meat 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀
I don't want to try and say one way or the other, but the thing with Julia and "Alex" was very creepy. "Alex" could have very easily done something much worse than just make sure she was able to sleep and not be taken advantage of.
The other guy was Alex, not the guy who took her to his house, but I definitely agree with you (also I apologize for correcting you). I would definitely be really upset and I definitely wouldn't trust the guy for a while because what if he did do something worse?
Well that's the catch-22. Wat would u do in that situation?
I’m a bit upset that emkay was defending the former sexual assaulter
@@MooseShower I don't know if that was the intention
@@MooseShower Robin wasn’t doing that?
There is ABSOLUTELY such thing as a "bad object"
It’s unreasonably crazy how fast these guys make videos
well it's more like a company tbh
I think they just assign posts to each voice actor and have them record at like the same day
@rach3092 it's a good content farm though
they have a backlog of vids, i think they probably get the narrators to record multiple videos worth of content in a day (probably not too difficult since the videos are usually quite short)
@@wysteria.Spend a few days collecting posts. Schedule a three or four hour recording ses with each voice actor. Send audio to editors next day.
Boom... Two to three videos for each voice actor in maybe two days. Increase recording time to boost number of videos possible.
most of this subreddit is like "why do so many good girls like bad guys"
Now that I think about it, that song sounds stupid out of context now.
I know a song from Cobra Starship called, "Nice Guys Finish Last." It's got "nice guy" written all over it, but it's a banger tune.
I wonder what would happen if a nice guy and a nice girl get together in a relationship. My morbid curiosity is salivating at this situation
Just imagine two people abusing each other
As a single person, im kind of glad im not looking for a partner because im scared of stumbling upon one of these dudes
Hellooooo
I miss youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu
@@superbrain7852💀
I crack up every time you say “shut up”. Love it!
Robin is the hero we needed.
The only time when it’s not that creepy to say female is when you feel like saying girl is not the right way to go in that situation, NOT when you want to appear more respectful
Agreed! There's also 'woman.'
It’s not creepy he was clearly talking about the gender female not the people now if it was clear he was calling the people females then yeah maybe a little bit but not like oh that’s weird type
"we have tamed our monster"
God I hope so. Keep your monster in your pants.
When this guy says "excuuuse" it reminds me of that old Zelda cartoon where Link says "Excuuuuse me princess!" 😂
4:32 *_greetings, thou fellow homo sapiens, for i shall treat you with uttermost respect_*
How dare you call me thou! We haven't any familiarity!
I can't tell you how happy I am to see this subreddit back
“Nice guys”
Absolutely love these videos they make me laugh so hard
Lol same
I thought I was a nice guy when I was just the worse version of myself, uncontrolled mental health issues, low self esteem and excessive drinking, I was a proper cnut. So glad I grew up and was able to actually look at myself and adjust. Now I call myself a cnut and have actually less luck with women but I'm happier within myself and with my friends. I hope these people get to that stage.
Videos like this are a good reminder of why im not dating, cause im just like some of these guys and need to fix that before I try and go into a relationship with anyone
I'm really intrigued by how these pathetic waste of men believes that saying something like "I have a monster inside of me and you don't want to bring it out" is in any way gonna make them _more_ desired. Of course, being completely oblivious to how their every action regarding sexual relations has the complete opposite of their expected reaction is indicative to their absence of self-reflection. They only ever claim to be nice because they think they are, and only ever admits to behaving badly because someone "deserved it" - all topped with a tremendous amount of psychological manipulation in hopes of convincing others that they are the best and smartest.
That is the summary of their personalities, and they pride themselves on it like it's ever something to strive for. Hell, I would even petition to call it the "Andrew Tate" syndrome at this point.
I just rewatched all the r/niceguy videos and just as I finished the last video, this was uploaded... *My prayers have been answered* 🙏
Advice for commenters on this video- if the majority of comments are not agreeing with your opinion, perhaps this isn’t the video for you.
the dude making the executive decision just gives insanely dangerous vibes...
Ahhh time for my dosage of Nice Guys ™️. Really makes me appreciate being gay.
Ok
Yag!
YES, MORE PRIDE TO FUEL ME
That TM felt like it needed a deep, narrator type voice when read.
"I was too busy studying and getting my qualifications to get chicks and they only went for the bad guy"
I was also too busy studying but I still managed to get a girlfriend, I think you just have skill issues Mr good guy
And here I am , struggling to get by getting none XD
It’s not that women don’t like nice guys, it’s that nice guys don’t have a shed of kindness. Women want KINDNESS. Niceness isn’t the same thing, and doesn’t instantly make you a good person.
Uh dude you can’t say that about women
Also I call everyone dude it’s a force of habit
I wonder if we can have gay guys hit on these dudes and then just say "boo hoo suck it up and move on" when they complain
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
as a bi fellow: please no PLEASE NO *DON'T DO THIS TO US*
If a gay guy (that has really low standards) says another man is ugly, that's a painful burn that only gets more painful.
This makes me want to have a gay, parter in crime type of friend. :D Will not mess with the feelings of Bis. Or just well-meaning or awkward humans
It'd be funny
the chain at 5min 45 seconds sounds like something i would expect a hivemind, borg, flood mass,... etc to say to me to try and convince my character to give up, i was half expecting it to end with a pro ai comment, or "lower your shields resistance is futile" or something
Real gravemind hours
that, or something along the lines of "just be animals and not question things" a way to also not imply they are a bad person in their own comment, saying they are both objects... might fit better with the theme, might not
I actually hate how well written “the rejection” is. there’s no way someone put THAT MUCH EFFORT into something of the gross sort and wasn’t kidding, unless they are a TOTAL LOSS.
When will these guys understand that it’s not about body count, it’s not about ‘getting the hot chick’, it’s about love and passion, it’s about having someone special in your life that you’d do anything to protect, because you know they would do the same for you! I feel like people are slowing losing the ability to be truly in love, if you have a partner who you truly love with all your heart, and you know they love you with all of theirs, then you’re more fortunate that than he who sleeps with one hundred supermodels! 💕💕💕
Dating for love will get you bullied in life by guys on Reddit
@@ryanmaggard862 that's hella sad
@@ryanmaggard862 thats sad as hell- but im not surprised
@@ryanmaggard862 thats sad as hell- but im not surprised
The biggest issue with "nice guys/girls" is that they obfuscate the ACTUAL good people.
“Submissive woman on a farm with acres” … how many bodies are buried on those acres?
Even at my most desperate and lonely times, I have never ever said anything these "nice guys" would ever say lol
"I kidnapped my friend so she doesn't have to be drive home by another man, i am the asshole ?" Yes kevin ! Yes you fcking are !
1:06 that guy is the kind of person to use parentheses when talking online to emphasize inner thought and just drive away people
I always laugh at how cringy these people can be
And then I remember I had a phase similar to this when I was a teenager
L
@@SierNotsruht agreed
My condolences, but also big props to you for growing as a person enough to recognise it :D
If you're a nice guy you *better* tame your monster cause ain't no girl gonna do it for you
I can't be the only one who never gets bored of this legends voice, right?
I get bored of him because his voice personality and his reading
i imagine he wears dapper suits
I want a show where self proclaimed “nice guys” are treated the way the treat women, see how long they can say their abuse is “just being nice” when they are the victim instead of the abuser
2:40
"And TheN EvErYOnE ApPlOuDeD"
I was curious, so I went to google to figure out some of the last one, cause I wasn't sure I was getting it all from the context clues. Basically the dude was calling her a flat chested and unfashionable with a victorian flair of "you should be lucky to talk to me, but you won't even smile for me" vibes.
I dated a "nice guy", he almost killed me 🙃
what happened?
The problem is the enormous amount of young people actively encouraging people to do things like that first guy. Like… it’s bizarre.
babe wake up, emkay posted
the number one rule of being a nice guy is not saying that you're a nice guy 😂
1:41 "Laddies respond to assholes"
Yeah, that's how you got a reply
I, as a lady myself, would have used the opportunity to say "That's why I'm here."
I, as a laddie myself, can confirm
Nice guys in a nutshell:
Says they're nice
Are desperate
Spams several messages
No boundaries
Entitled
Can't take no
Says all girls are the same when get rejected
12:48 Just because you mean well doesn't justify your actions
Yes it does
I love how nice guys think they actually know what love is. 😂