What Do You Bring To The Table In A Relationship - S1 EPS 11 |The Honest Bunch
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- The Usual Suspects are back with another episode, and today we are talking about the age-long questions spouses are forced to ask each other in a relationship.
A man only ask what you bring to the table when they cannot see your contribution to their life. Otherwise they already know what you bring to the table.
Exactly!
One chilled zobo for you
exactly!!!
RIGHT ‼️🙌🏾
nice one bro
U don't prepare for war during war, u prepare for war before the battle. Naomi u are a LIABILITY
Husband material sweating profusely from the convo. He is coming from a place of experience and pain 😭🤣
I swear 😂😂😂
If you watch this show for so long,he is always like that on point he doesn't agree with,so ur point is not valid,evn paternity fraud and alot more he was like this,so you got it wrong,I love him because for me his point are on point
Husband material is a nice guy
WISDOM! Old Skool love - I got married 30 years ago with coins in my pocket and in one bedroom. My wife and I saw potential and synergy to make the life we desired. There were times she held the baton and times it was passed to me. You are attracted to who you deserve.
""Husband material has been through a lot" is the best line for me 😄
Wallahi 😂
Man! I love this conversation. Chuku is a VIBE! Ladies I’m sorry but I agree with the men. Didn’t think I would initially, but I do. Ladies what we bring to the table is not just tangible. It’s the peace of mind, the business partner, covering my man (family) in the place of prayer and MUCH MORE!!!!! So help me God.
When Nedu asked Naomi "What she brings to the table", she actually didn't know what to say. She kept trying to avert the question giving her time to think, even at that, she still didn't come up with something substantial. Naomi as she said brings vibes, but as Nedu said, no be vibes go take care of family.
When a man asks "what you bring to the table", 70% of the time, men don't want your money. They just want to know if you can be their peace after every storm they face on a daily basis. They want to know if you can encourage and have the capacity to suggest and give ideas that can help the family. Men watch how you react to these questions, and your reaction and the way you address the question has already given him the answer he needs
She needs help
@@Lyma12330 indeed
Asking someone what they bring to the table, be it the guy or the girl makes no sense! If someone actually brings something to the table, or can bring something to the table, you will see it from the persons actions or discover it as you relate with the person. Asking someone what they bring to the table is senseless because if the person would actually answer you, they won’t tell you “I bring nothing”. Actions speak louder than words! and empty vessels make the loudest noise!
Exactly
Fact
U have said it all
A man who wants to knack a lady never asks what you bring to the table, but a guy who wants to forward the relationship to the next level will certainly know and never ask what you bring to the table
Husband Material just keeps making my day, God eh😅😅
This is my best episode so far. Naomi said she brings vibes to the table 😆. "Good luck shopping for groceries with vibes.
I must say that question is relative though.
I am married and I know what the men are on about. How do u as a wife call ur husband that is far away in another city and be asking for money for maggi and salt?
Now it all depends on the woman u are marrying or married to. Some women will clearly have d money and still want u to do every damn thing while some will ask u because they don't have it.
My conclusion is, it is not about what a woman tells u she is bringing to d table but what u see she's capable of bringing to the table in d course of ur relationship with her. Dont bank on words of mouth oo...bank on what u can see already.
Your last statement is the pure fact.
If you don't want to get into it and start expecting manifestation of "what they bring to the table", if you don't feel the vibe of what you want now that you are not in deep, my dear, move on.
This guy with the black cap and white shirt, is always bringing clear, factual points. I love it anytime he speaks. I feel like the ladies are trying to bring points from the "toxic feminist" perspective.
I admire how Naomi keeps the character going. Not a kind of woman I’ll like to be with but without her this podcast will be boring.
That is the vibe she brings only
😂😂😂💔💔💔
She walks around with vibesss..lol
Your suite disqualifies you
She likes a bad man
@@zikkysamula1828 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I feel a man outrightly asks what you bring to the table when they do not see any value you add to the relationship. If you add something tangible, you will not be asked that question.
What one brings to the table should be observed and discovered in the course of the relationship. You don't ask that question, you only discover it when the relationship don start.
You expect the courtesy of a man crediting your account on the first date but he cannot get the courtesies of a deep conversation on the first date? The lovely ladies CAPPED AGAIN. Nedu it is all this "having fun" that causes heartbreak. Husband-material, I agree with you. This is what separates someone dating seriously from someone frolicking. What are we talking about on the dates then? Flirting our way to nowhere? C-A-P. LOVE YA'LL.
I love how Nedu answered Naomi. Ashawo vibes can never attract a man to marry her. She even say she will pretend, imagine.
See how they praise Toun and belittle Naomi indirectly. They are not on the same level abeg.
Pls, men, when you want to marry, 1st be a good man that a woman will like then settle for only a good woman as well.
Let's talk true Naomi make this show worth watching
the babe is sincere, why should a guy ask that question in the first place if he isn't seeing any impact on the girl
The question started the moment extreme feminism started..and this question is only when the man and woman don’t treat each other as best friends..cos you won’t allow your best friend to take all the responsibilities in your relationship..you share it..for any type of ship to work you need to share responsibilities..there’s reciprocal communication.
Husband material and Toun are just the best on this show. I always wait for Mondays.
I think Naomi intentionally says rubbish to make this pod lively. I don't think she's like this in reality. Because I can't believe someone can be this myopic
You are accurate and it's misleading
I swear down because it's becoming obvious that no-one can maintain stupidity for this long😹
I hope so...if she's like that in real life I won't be surprised
I been dey reason am too 😂😂😂
It’s just to make the discussion interesting
Naomi, what do you bring to the table simply means what can you do to make this relationship a conducive one for the both party.
Lol...
.i love how husband material sounds very brilliant and enlightened...
I think Naomi is actually a nicer person in real but playing d bad girl just to make the show sweet.. and she is doing a nice job @ that...
Nedu u guys should consider going live and adding voice calls for @least 5 persons per show ...
Nice topics and arguments everytime.. kudos
Glitch Africa una dey make me happy. Will be streaming this show back to back!
Nedu crossed a delicate line with his words... Yes Naomi response was very shallow, but remember this is a public place....Producer ooooo
Tòun always speaking to my heart. I literally Love your contributions always 💯.
They deliberately refused to understand Naomi, all she was trying to say was, the Guy should be able to observe and answer that question himself, it’s unnecessary question in her opinion and thats ok!
so simple
Supported
Every episode I am reminded to ask God to keep women like Naomi away from me and bring women like Toun closer to me😹
Ok o women like that your toun is what you will see but don't complain if what u want is not what you later got
lol nice one
Can't stop laughing 🤣🤣😂
I'm a Woman and I'm a team Husband Material 🙌🏾😅
Always wondering who hurt husband material, the guy is always angry and sooo triggered! 😂😂😂
I had soo much fun watching this episode. It’s sooo entertaining and informing. Big shout out to everyone on the show especially nedu😅😅🤣🤣😂😂😂🥰
Husband Material...your making a relevant point...
When a man is asking you what can you bring to the table that is to say he's taking you serious he didn't expect money from you
You Go school.....
How pls?
The way husband snatcher shouted VIBE after Naomi said she brings vibe into a relationship 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Naomi would never cease to amaze me. Simple question of what you bring to the table and you're beating all over the amadioha forest. May God remove every Naomi on my path. Entitled mentality. Tufiakwa!
Someone really needs to check Naomi, She's troubled. Kudos to Husband Material..."As you're coming with your peace, hold transport.LWKMD"
Husband Material is taking this question too personal 😂
"This girl nah pant" best line😂😂😂😂😂 nedu no kill me
Abeg I'm waiting for the next episode...this is the best I've watched so far
Naomi, when a guy ask you what do you bring to the table just know your strength which includes the following: mindset, orientation, financial independence, values, ideas and Etc. A man likes sex and want sex but it is not their needs. A man needs an active partner in a relationship, not a sleeping or domaint partner.
Please where did Adetoun go? Like she left before the end of the podcast.
I really enjoyed this episode, see me updating my wife about everything you guys were saying.
Naomi really spoke intelligently, Husband Material was basically frank, Nedu was just on cruise mode even though he made some salient points, and Adetoun just added her bit and left the rest to you guys to finish.
Much love guys
It's clear, if I ask a lady what she brings to the table, it is because there is first of all a table (relationship), and that table is specifically a FINANCIAL table like Husband Material said.
When men ask what do you bring to the table, they are not asking what they can get from you but what you can contribute to the relationship and what life skills you already have to ensure the smooth running of the relationship.
This is the most engaged I have ever seen Husband Material in these show ❤️
I think the question of what both parties bring to the table has always been there ...perhaps very salient. As a man, I do not have to ask the question directly like we are having a debate. I'd know whether you are adding anything to the relationship or not as time goes by. Let's not forget, we can't put the cart before the horse, you need to date a person to know whether such relationship would evolve to the next level or not.
This podcast will never be thesame without Naomi. I swear...🤣😅🤣😅🤣
Its not always about Financial anytime the question comes up, Its mostly about the Values she brings.
Husband Material dey gimme joy every damn time! 😂😂
Husband material… speaks truth buh in a frank note.
The table issue is not solely based on money, but the Table we are saying is.. a lady that can stand by me when life takes turn.. but not necessary be my provider.. but a shoulder I can lean on..When I am emotionally, mentally and financially down. In fact one that can aid me when am spiritually down 👳🏾♂️
Naomi has a point ooo.A sensible lady study a guy ways of life e.g people around (friends),ability to handle/manage resources avaliable to him etc before given such a guy supports in any relationship.l nearly let go of my wife as a bachelor then if not for a very close friend of mine.l was chasing a shadow in the name of love for a girl that almost ruined my life both physically and spiritually just meet up with her demands.
Thank you I also genuinely believe Naomi is on point today
I see no reason why i should miss this show.... Too many things learnt, you all are now my favourites...lots of love from here
Nnedu is freaking smart with his questions
The way Naomi stutters when she's ask a question is funny, you could perceive her thoughts on that subject
She is still young. Let's ask her in 5 years.
'Visa to escape from poverty'😂😂😂😂. Husband material came prepared
😂😂😂🙈
It's Nedu's Igbo everytime for me😂😂
Naomi, this introduction is so real... you finished your mates from the get go.... am laughing so hard here.
Really good episode!!
Extremely good, deep and at the same time funny.
The question of "What Do You Bring To The Table" is seldom not verbally asked but the muses and vibes will definitely tell you. However, it usually is not always financially inclined but those qualities do aid in the financial capabilities of both parties - What is your spiritual, mental capacity like? What has shaped your person, both parties should and must be intentional! A man will wanna know that you can be a pillar when his side of the bearings are shaky, not necessarily on a financial note, but will you be that place of solace, a body of encouragement when he's low, vice versa! Everybody has an accountability to reach!
For men who aren't "the head" alone as per financial status, stability and contribution, a true king knows his duties are also in emotional intelligence, dual communication to foster a better home than that which he was raised in, to build capacity in himself, his Queen and his offsprings, to better his environment by actually contributing - being the example, to cater to physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs as the need arises, to be the priest of his home!
To love and to care, to listen👂 and be taught, to have a heart of reason! Just to mention a few.
Truth, I love what you said
This is the most interesting episode ever😂😂
Keep it up guys!!
This question should be 'what's your value'... most nigerian Men are always ready to provide but they are tired of investing in someone that has no value
This has to be the best episode have watched so far😂😂😂😂
PLEASE I ADVICE: Do not eat while watching this peoples rice nearly enter my brain but Thank God I was able to blow it out of my nose.whatttt????? Too funny.Naomi doesn't mean most of all she says here, someone just has to oppose the notion to make the podcast fun.If all of them agree to the notion it won't be fun so please give Naomi her flowers Biko💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐 love you guys
She say she dey bring VIBE to the table!!!🤣🤣🤣
I love the Frank attitude, that is what keeps the podcast interesting and fresh. I am enjoying this podcast. Please at some point you need to get callers to give an opinion.
It’s the way Nedu switches between British accent and Naija accent 🤣
Husband Material said " we go use your vibe take pay house rent ? " 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
When women is still in their prime, they tend to think they'll get attention from guys forever. Naomi thinks she knows what to do to get any guy when she is ready, but her prime can't last forever.
Naomi is like the baby in the house. I don't know her age but she sounds like a baby and she is treated as such. Although she is peaceful
Naomi made a point when she said “a girl will only let you pay all her bills when she doesn’t like you “
Before a man would ever ask a woman that question, it means he sees no contribution from the other partner. Contribution in a sense that, it could be mentally, spiritually economically and financially and the like.
Naomi na your type we dey run from; miss entitled 😏, Toun na your type we dey fine, but una scarce 🙂
Life is nothing but your mindset towards the things you do in life once that is for humanity we are good to go together.... Positively around humanity for good
Husband material took this topic personal 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Husband material is so correct about the peace, love and respect applying to both genders. You will see some men asking for peace of mind from a lady and they are troubling her, they don't respect her. They claim to love her but don't respect her
Naomi is young, most of her answers are based on her immaturity. Fast forward 20 yrs later, she go don learn😢.
When husband material said “as a woman, as you’re coming with peace, please come with your transport” I died of laughter😂😂😂
As you are coming with peace come with transport.. 😂😂😂😂😂
Well said 😂😂😂😂
Really enjoyed this one… 😂😂😂
The question what one brings to the table in any relationship is very relative. Different people with what they need from a partner. So there isn’t a particular right answer, it all depends on what your partner needs. And invariably, it’s what makes people compatible
I’m sorry Naomi said “why are you telling me you need peace are you a troubled soul 😂” I can’t with this girl
Just because you’re someone’s peace doesn’t mean the person is troubled. The problem with Naomi is that sometimes she thinks shallow
The way husband material said vibe 😂😂🤲🏽
I love Naomi die ❤. She's just a Vibe.
That last part, Nedu said "nwa bu amunsu"
😆 🤣 😂
I think chukwudi often speaks the perspective of the majority. Thanks man.
I don't think you should ask the lady though. It's for you to figure out.
Naomi don't even have a point not even a solid point, Toun is a family oriented woman she deserves the best
Toun was speechless in this episode😂At a point, camera no even dey on her again😂
In America 🇺🇸 and uk 🇬🇧 men ask what do u as a woman bring to the table but only in Nigeria is wrong ladies una do well ooo hook up and chatting with men for highest bidder only Nigeria girls ooo
Honestly Naomi thank you for making this men talk. Continue giving them headache
Anyone can talk or say anything to satisfy what your ears want to hear and heart wants to believe….as an individual you’re meant to study actions over words, over time….Everything you want to know about someone is engrained in their character which would unfold in their daily lives the more you get to know them. So you think you’d meet me today and I’ll tell you “I’ll split our bills and wake up 5 am to begin the affairs of our home and rub your feet after a long day of you hustling? Nope, I’m not applying for a job; I’m trying to get to know you as person and hopefully a future husband or wife if our needs and wants from one another align. How hardworking is this person with their job or something their passionate about? How responsible are they in their personal lives? Are they honest and transparent? What are their life goals? How kind are they to their family friends strangers? What are their political views? How do they react in conflict? What are their religious ideologies? What are their stance on certain social issues? These are the things you take note of when you’re interested in someone and have long term intentions with them, even if it’s just mere friendship…..I can’t tell you what I’m going to do as a wife until I am one, but you sure will know if I’m the type of human being you see yourself spending the rest of your life with the more you get to know Me!!
This is dope... Nice one
God bless you, this is what I expect from people going into a relationship not outrightly asking, you can figure out the person and what she's bringing to the table
God bless you abeg
Nice write up, u said u can’t tell what u will be doing as a wife untill u are one? My question is why do must women expect men to act like husband when they are not yet one, Bcs women use the words if a man can’t take care of u in relationship can’t also take care of u when married, when is not kind in relationship can’t be kind in as husband, is there any difference???
Exactly my point...you don't need to ask, just observe carefully...
As a guy we have lots of responsibilities to shoulder and I don't think it's too much to ask your significant other for support when needed. We all need support and that's why people get married, to have that one person to lean on at the lowest point.
So the question about what you bring to the table shouldn't be a problem, you want withdraw from esusu wey you no get savings? It's not done.
The truth is the question is never verbally asked.
It's mostly asked in the mind. The guy observes the needs & values the girl brings.
Regardless of if you're single or with a man, I know it's important for women to have financial stability and independence to the best of your ability. Even if your man is a provider, you'd protect your self confidence and earn his respect.
THAT NAOMI GIRL, TOP NOTCH FOOLISHNESS IS OUT OF THIS WORLD
Husband material take am personal😍😂, Naomi and nedu dey each other neck 😂😂😂I like how dey arguments😁😁. Toun alway say d true with her sweet voice 😍❤️
Officially best episode 🤣🤣🤣
Any guy or man that ask that question is nervous of bills. Never ask that question from woman. Use ur common sense to discover with the kind of woman u dealing with. Husband material is absolutely wrong on this. Naomi and toun is making sense on this issue.
Which vibe, without the vibe u have will die, sapa na vibe killer💯
i really like this topic. This is a serious topic for the men. Women just feel however their opinions are on this topic, one guy will come who will not really take this conversation to heart and just go with the flow and see to the woman's needs. I'm sure the girls in the studio cannot relate with how serious this is to chukwu cos they feel last last a guy will come and not bore them with these talk
12:59 funniest line from nedu😂😂😂😂
I agree with Naomi... out rightly asking anyone that question is rude... It's better to take time to know someone and judge for yourself. That's the risk that comes with having meaningful relationships. Or at least trying to. And like husband material said, at a point in time, that question will be asked... but it should be, in my opinion, asked to self.. as a way of assessing the progress of your relationship or even your personal development and that of your partner. Because people can add value to themselves with time. 🤷♀🤷♀
😂 So it's right to ask a man what does he do at first date, but it's not good to ask a woman whether she's a liability or an asset?
What do you bring to the table is mostly a finical question but you can cover up from other aspect of life, this question comes up mostly when someone is financially draining, and not calculative
The table must not be financial but managerial skill is top on most mans list, ability to take care of the home is another. It not always about bills it about goals of both individuals, that would improve them. I think most men really don’t ask what u bring to the table but most observe and know what she got. Even financial strength is not always constant! So if u base u decision on that then it’s not the solid rock u are standing on.