Renovating My Old House in Japan... I GIVE UP! 😣 Here’s why.

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    I got a free vacant house ( akiya ) in the inaka countryside of Shikoku, Japan. It is a Showa-era farmhouse with traditional tatami rooms and fusuma sliding doors. I'm a former career interior designer (American certification/license), and now I'm a foreigner living in Japan. Since I'm getting married, I'll be moving to another akiya soon. Teaser: it's a multi-building property with non-stop mountain spring water and kiwi orchards.
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  • @ono.o.k
    @ono.o.k 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +126

    Don't mind me, just crying at how beautiful and thoughtful this entire channel is T_T Your videos feel like a hug to the heart and a balm to the brain. Thank you for creating Bitsii

    • @bitsii
      @bitsii  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      🙏❤️✨

  • @whistlebirdproductions6249
    @whistlebirdproductions6249 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thanks for the love. We all need to hear this true love, it's perfect timing. Thank you and thank you.

  • @LeilaSoleil
    @LeilaSoleil 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

    Genius. This is your best video yet. You are not changing this house; this house has changed YOU. Oddly, I have been feeling similarly. I had gotten sucked into wanting to move to the Japanese countryside and renovating an akiya. I now feel more like I should "bloom where I am planted." Make where I am right now at this moment better. And not by purchasing or updating things. Carefully curate what I already have, and choose what reflects who I am right now. And let that shine. Anything that doesn't reflect me should be given to someone else. I am trying to carefully curate my life as much as I can. I have far to many "what ifs." Far too many burdens. I am ready to lighten up. Thank you for sharing your gifts, Bitsii.

    • @JulianaStation
      @JulianaStation 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I like this one "bloom where you are planted" I've been researching ways to move and live in Japan. What I've seen in this video is exactly what I wanted to do and thanks to the insights from people who have done it. Living in the countryside in a cheap akiya house sounds so good and whether it is worth the move or not, could depend on the circumstances and long term goals. I have young children so it is a little difficult to make decision.

  • @norinickrrostron9001
    @norinickrrostron9001 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    This video reminded me of people at a concert holding their iPhones aloft and not truly experiencing let alone enjoying the moment.

  • @alanparker3130
    @alanparker3130 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    A beautiful and profound message. "Don't change your stuff. Instead, change your attitude to the stuff you already have" is part of my takeaway. Of course, there was plenty to more to think about.

  • @lesleygoodall-page8035
    @lesleygoodall-page8035 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I’m recovering from loss and I have autism and a very cluttered mind. I love watching you discover things about yourself and life. I’m changing my home to reflect me more. Using what I have and rearranging my clutter to be aesthetically pleasurable for me and only me. It will never be perfect but it’s mine and I want it to be a reflection of me. I have loads of goals…if I could just…..but I’m trying to learn to be content with what I have. With some improvements to my home. My space to be and gives me joy.

    • @bitsii
      @bitsii  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for joining, Lesley. Sending you peace and all the best from Shikoku, Japan.

  • @Shaz221
    @Shaz221 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +98

    This video was so beautiful and meaningful to me, exactly at this moment. I'm so happy you decided to share this update, and as you I'm slowly letting go of some things that I thought were essential to my wellbeing, but they did not serve me, just the industry. Sending hugs ❤

    • @bitsii
      @bitsii  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for sticking with me, Sharon. It means a lot to me.

  • @theluckypennylane
    @theluckypennylane 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    As a person who suffers from severe depression and anxiety, and who also just recently moved to the country side, let me tell you that your videos always make feel so much better about life in general. Thank you !

    • @bitsii
      @bitsii  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @WelfareChrist
    @WelfareChrist 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Your voice is very comforting and you have the cadence of a mother reading a bedtime story it’s very nice.

  • @_black_bird
    @_black_bird 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I'm really glad this was kinda clickbaity, I really didn't want for your journey with your old japanese house to be over, I hope the best for you!

  • @chanazify
    @chanazify 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love listening to your perspective

    • @bitsii
      @bitsii  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for joining. :)

  • @marylizabetha
    @marylizabetha 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I've been living in Japan since the end of May. Long story short, July and August I have been very depressed for not being as productive as a wanted to be, which in turn made me even less productive. This is really what I needed to hear right now. Thank you for making this. It really made me tear up.

  • @mschuiming
    @mschuiming 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    This was so comforting to take in. Contentment is so much greater than ‘happiness’. Easy to forget, even once you know it. Hearing your words was a lovely reminder. My favorite video so far. Bravo!

  • @armunro
    @armunro 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow I feel so enlightened. I never knew I was a victim of marketing and consumerism and i should just learn to be happy with what I have which works fine! Thank you for your wise and beautiful video.

  • @marisolcastillo1589
    @marisolcastillo1589 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is the best video on your channel.

  • @codeninja100
    @codeninja100 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What a beautiful story we can all learn from. Losing sight of living in an effort to reach the “destination”

  • @jesswallace4621
    @jesswallace4621 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    good for you! keep listening…

  • @Rannikku
    @Rannikku 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    I became completely silent and calm listening to you talk. Thank you, I think I speak for many people here; you are an inspiration.

    • @MrNajibrazak
      @MrNajibrazak 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      stay in that mode when u can, make it your home. u can hear yourself better in that mode.

  • @HallaDita
    @HallaDita 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Hi Bitsii. The video caption was a bit of a shock therapy. I thought "Oh, is she moving back to states? Well, any decision is fine with me".
    We moved on our old farm 4 years ago. Reconstruction starts now, literary this week. Real-estate situation in my country (Czechia 🇨🇿) is crazy! There is so many tiny, ugly, CHEAP (read "real poor quality") houses built these day. The No.1 reason is: They are cheaper than taking old and fixing it. Also from drafting a blueprint to moving in, its faster. It damages village life because urban planning is not followed, if exists. They don't participate in village events, don't shop locally, event don't speak to their neighbors.
    So we too are taking the slow road. However we are intending to spend rest of our lives (another 40y would be great) here so fixes are needed. The lower floor is wet, electricity doesn't follow any safety guidelines, insulation needs to be redone (already 3 decades past its lifespan). I can absolutely live a happy life with hideous tiles in bathroom and kitchen :-) And in parody, thats the only thing my friends are complaining about: "Oh, the kitchen is bad. I couldn't cook a thing here!" Bro, chill. Running a washing machine, dishwasher and any 1 more thing shuts down all switches. That is the issue in my book. You can't do new electricity if the 70cm wall is wet.... Yeah, I can see why this doesn't appeal to everybody. But our son is 1yo and all three of us thrive here :-)
    What would make me happy? If the weather wasn't that extreme from left to right. But thats also a thing my friends say "You are a proper farm girl always mad about the weather". As I was watching your video my boy came to my lap and hugged me. Thats a bliss
    Your videos are beautiful, resonate with me and make me think about many points. Thats why I love them.
    Hugs and kisses, from both of us, to Bitsii from Inaka 🌸

  • @xio.oceano
    @xio.oceano 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Your words are nourishing. Thank you for your vulnerability and authenticity, Bitsii.

  • @WhiteBrightLightning
    @WhiteBrightLightning 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    This video moved me to tears. I started watching your videos back in March because it felt so similar to my life. Back then I was putting in a lot of work starting up my garden. I've been working to launch a community gardening project and I've been having the same feelings about becoming someone who does something. Sometimes I feel so far removed from why I started the project in the first place. It is a vicarious relief to see you make a healthy decision for yourself. I'm rooting for you - and your exciting relationship developments. I'll keep working on my project, maybe I'll end up posting about it on TH-cam as well. I'm inspired by video diaries like yours. I hope u keep making things as long as it brings you joy.
    PS - I finally felt moved enough by someone's videos to become a patreon supporter. Really looking forward to your occasional update :)

  • @Gatzul
    @Gatzul 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    you're such a beautiful person and there's so much wisdom in this video. thank you for sharing your experience with us

  • @ShannonHassouneh-gg9gn
    @ShannonHassouneh-gg9gn 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Absolutely beautiful!!!

  • @3xsxs953
    @3xsxs953 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I resonated with this video so deeply, and it touches on something I've been struggling with for a long time, that is, how to reconcile the desire to strive for some future goal while also being present in the moment? My "ifs" are very similar to yours. "If I moved to Japan/learned Japanese," "if I had a nicer body/clothes/apartment," etc. On the one hand, my mind tells me that striving for a goal is not necessarily a bad thing in itself. I'd say it's almost inherent to us as humans. But on the other hand, your video raises a good point---striving for what, and at the cost of what? As someone who has strived and actually achieved a lot of their goals so far in life, I... wasn't really happier at the end of it all. And I look back and realize a lot of the time I spent unhappy while trying to achieve those goals could have been done while not hating myself or my current surroundings, while finding appreciation for the present moment, for the imperfections, including the imperfection of myself (and of all people, as humans can only ever be imperfect! Sounds like wabi-sabi, eh?)
    I'd say the idea of the future in and of itself is heavily influenced by capitalism in our modern society. For most of human history, people's lives were basically the same as that of their ancestors---hence the heavy focus on tradition and ritual in most pre-capitalist societies (or for a specifically Japanese example, the idea of one family working in the same trade for generations). Even the afterlife was often only envisioned as a mere continuation of the current world, with pharaohs buried with their worldly belongings; to say nothing of the idea of rebirth/repeating lives. The idea of a radically different future wasn't really a concern for the average peasant, and it's probably only because of consumerism that we modern people put so much emphasis on the future at all, trying to envision utopias divorced entirely from our current reality. Capitalism needs the future so that we can continually create future versions of ourselves, and buy all of the associated products that come with that new lifestyle, of course. (I also don't want to idealize the past too much. I realize that in many ways and for many groups of people, aspects of our lives now are vastly better than they were in past times, and I think there is a danger in saying that change is bad, especially if it only serves to uphold oppressive, violent, and/or destructive structures. But it's worth thinking about what our current culture tells is important and why, and looking to the past is one way to help us get a different perspective.)
    I'll finish this comment by mentioning the idea of "ikegai," which I feel is relevant. If you can strive for something that helps other people while also fulfilling that itch inside your heart, then I feel like that's the healthy (or at least, healthier) kind of striving. A striving that is divorced from consumerism or the illusion of a "perfect" future and comes from a genuine place within, that is slower, connected to community, and rooted in joy for the present. Anyway, I believe it's important that we sometimes stop and question our motivations and the true reasons we do things, and this video allowed just that, so thank you.

  • @sleeplessstu
    @sleeplessstu 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Tatami will always be the preferred perch in the world of simplicity ☺️…. Love watching your journey. I’ve lived in and out of Japan for many years. As I grow older, I appreciate the simplicity of living in Japan more each day. In the states we live with excess no matter what our station in life. In Japan, you simply leave it all behind and have a life of simplicity. In Japan, you concentrate your energies on life experience, friends, good food, and unimaginable beauty. The focus of life shifts and you free yourself of materialism. I’m happy to see you’re discovering this new reality too 😉

    • @bugrist
      @bugrist 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Party true. Urban Japan is full blown materialism, imagery, useless gadgetry and services. And when it comes to dress yourself you end up with synthetic textiles. It's a plastic country.

  • @YouTubdotCub
    @YouTubdotCub 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Living rural (not in Japan) has me really appreciating slowing down and simplicity, love your channel as an affirming place to hear parallel thoughts to my own echoing around.

  • @catherinerodeback2494
    @catherinerodeback2494 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Bitsii, you are much more judgemental of your self than the rest of us are. I for one have truly enjoyed your journey. I find most delightful your interactions with your neighbors and community members as they enjoy getting to know you and being willing to reveal themselve to you and all of us watchers. This is how to "design your life".The progress on you house and garden are the medium with which you are discovering and expressing your true values. There is no need to reproach your self for past values and motivations or consumerism in your life. You are maturing.
    The "Abandonment of Hope" is the first step in to the black hole of Nilhilism and the inevitible depression, loss of self value and value for all life: human, plant or animal. May I refer you to the NOTHING so intensly protrayed in the classic "Never Ending Story." In juxtaposition to giving up on Hope, every time you interact, help and encourage another human being it is an expression of hope, good intention and love. When you recieve the same from others, it is an expression of their hope, good intention and love for you. Do not be fooled by those who sought for truth with in the contemplation and service of their own life. Go serve your neighbors.

  • @jparkitrightthere
    @jparkitrightthere 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    You don’t know how much I needed this video tonight. The perspective was spot on.
    I work in a demanding nightlife industry and have been questioning where to go next. I’m a known personality in a small pond and have opportunities to take a chance taking on bigger challenges if I leave where I’m at. I’ve been sooo down trying to figure out what to do and your videos chill me out so much.
    Anyway, I’ve watched you since day 1 and when I got home tonight and saw this videos thumbnail I legit got tears in my eyes. These videos are therapy for me when I get home from work.
    I’m so excited to see what you continue to accomplish. Thank uuu!!! ❤

  • @diediedice
    @diediedice 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    9:00 Couldn't have summarized it any more beautifully. Sometimes truth stings, but gives us that shove we needed to go further. Bitsii, I love your videos for their calm atmosphere, your thoughtful commentary and the resemblance of your hard work through visuals and editing, not just because you're renovating a nostalgic home in the beautiful japanese countryside. I'll eagerly wait for further videos of any kind and just want to let you know that your decisions and realization are well grounded! :)

  • @markus_luik
    @markus_luik 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you.

  • @cnlin62
    @cnlin62 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great episode

  • @jdawkins4730
    @jdawkins4730 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What a beautiful video. I love this wow so introspective

  • @yas7689
    @yas7689 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    thank you for this.

  • @leo22cuervo
    @leo22cuervo 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Even though I'm sad you are leaving the house you made us love, I'm happy that the time you were there helped the house to survive, all the fixes and maintenance means that the house can have a third life. I'm happy for you! Congratulations on your marriage, I hope your new house gives you the same sense of home and a bunch of ideas for you to have fun (And a nicer bathroom, oh how I hate that bathroom)

  • @zacc883
    @zacc883 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    thank you

  • @rappof
    @rappof 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You have no idea how much I needed to hear this right now. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us strangers on the internet.

  • @kellyj.azania4371
    @kellyj.azania4371 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This video blessed me.🌼

  • @nemacamma
    @nemacamma 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I needed this. Thank you

  • @mezzamack9192
    @mezzamack9192 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Wow Bitsi I love this. Its enough, you are enough. Grabbing, grasping and wishing are not helpful and cause us to feel rotten. We are enough.

  • @dianacouto5385
    @dianacouto5385 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Your living my dream, akiya are the design themselves The architecture the landscape, the way the sun light comes in into every room and the shadows dance on the walls. It's just beautiful 😍

  • @treasurechest1993
    @treasurechest1993 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The Japanese Inaka way of life and community has done its job. Well done, and welcome. ❤

  • @Talentedtadpole
    @Talentedtadpole 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Congratulations

  • @anakirola9204
    @anakirola9204 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you for your eloquent message. We appreciate your honesty and hard work ! I would love to live there in a quaint Japanese village close to a river. So beautiful and tranquil! I can live through your videos till then.

  • @RoseaCreates
    @RoseaCreates 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Every industry is wasteful, thank you for highlighting construction.

  • @ireneschoonwinkel8738
    @ireneschoonwinkel8738 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I needed to hear this. Thank you so much for making this video and sharing it! One of my "if only's" is "if only I can get a job in writing/publishing / literature I will be happy" - and this isn't true either. You are making met stop and think about the good things I have in my life...which are wonderful and beautiful - I will try to slow down and appreciate them. Thank you again.

  • @mattwilcoxuk
    @mattwilcoxuk 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Life is always there with a curve ball and a new thing to learn. Good luck.

  • @jkardi9803
    @jkardi9803 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    As always, the honesty in your content is one of the best qualities. Congratulations on the changes in your life.

  • @louisenilsson8951
    @louisenilsson8951 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    To me it is about reusing material that's been discarded and find ways to create something new. It is about the creative process and the satisfaction in saving things as well as money. I find it very rewarding. to me trends are just selling new things to potential customers to keep people slaves to what they think will bring approval and happiness. Always wondered why people need the approval from others when it comes to their own home. It is a private space that should bring the occupant peace of mind and comfort. A place to come to after a stressful day.

  • @flanthief
    @flanthief 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    "I've been stuck in an industry"
    Genuinely incredible video

  • @Celeyo
    @Celeyo 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    For some reason, your videos always come at the right time for me. I find them both so comforting and lovely, and I always appreciate your perspective on things. Right now it's not so much that I find myself daydreaming about improving my living area, but instead I've been struggling to be present with my current relationships and own life because I feel very unhappy where I'm at. However, happiness isn't going to come because I dream about it. If anything, I can really only be content if I find happy moments in the present and put those in my pocket, instead for waiting and hoping a drastic change will happen to me that will change everything and give me a happiness that doesn't really exist.
    The quote about things continuously coming together and falling apart really hits very hard. I think many of us are so tired of wrestling with life that we don't really want to accept that we're always going to have to wrestle with it one way or another, but the truth is by letting go of our expectation that one day we won't have to anymore... we get stronger. The idea of the future is a very heavy burden to carry when it stops you from living in the present.
    Maybe a bit of a long comment, but thank you as always for your beautiful and thoughtful videos

  • @CarrieAldridge
    @CarrieAldridge 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks!

    • @bitsii
      @bitsii  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you, Carrie!!!

  • @untokyo
    @untokyo 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    love your channel !

  • @Val.Kyrie.
    @Val.Kyrie. 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’ve been thinking if I do get an akiya, I don’t want to do the huge overhaul everyone else has been doing. “It’s so expensive, it’s not worth it” yeah maybe the house isn’t perfect, but if we have a house I can afford in a beautiful place, and I can feed my kids, and they can play and learn, it’s fine. Is the house run down? Sure, but it’s a roof and a place they can sleep. I don’t need to have a completely gutted akiya, completely redone and modern, to have a liveable home.
    In a lot of personality ways, I doubt we are much alike. But in the internal words and the ways of thinking, it’s like hearing someone verbalizing my own feelings about these things. It’s a breath of fresh air, someone else gets it.

  • @min_sqt
    @min_sqt 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    College student here, I find your videos so comforting. Thanks for another great video

  • @staceyberry937
    @staceyberry937 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Love your videos! Thank you for these wonderful video essays!

  • @STROBdotNET
    @STROBdotNET 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My if: I'm already happy so if I could only enjoy to the fullest everyday and never die! ;)

  • @shannonannagins
    @shannonannagins 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I freaking love this video and what you're saying. You're making such good and true choices and it's really a joy to learn from you. Your engagement ring is lovely, by the way. Congrats!

  • @quentinl6256
    @quentinl6256 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    "what are your ifs" this is too real. love the video

  • @taxsylrc1598
    @taxsylrc1598 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm glad that you came to this realization! A home is one that shows who you are, the memories you made and how you want to keep them.

  • @constantinosglam
    @constantinosglam 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I REALLY needed this, Thank you!

  • @nomnom914
    @nomnom914 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    finally, you're "living" in Japan.

  • @nicolechatt
    @nicolechatt 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for your message, it came at a moment, where it was heard and understood by someone who needed it.

  • @edvhollywood4544
    @edvhollywood4544 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Yes, I admire you so much. I did follow your Shikoku house and this was a shock, and a wise worded explanation of the process. When you showed the NO FURNITURE, made so much sense. Sit on the floor, no need for headboards etc. that hit the nail on the head. Yes design is a marketing thing , and funny I just finished reading the prices of the movie stars homes and what they put into them after was crazy. Some they walk away from after the huge redo. Escape from other things? You are a perfectionist I guess and don’t go in (like me) and do a quick fix, design etc. I am here in Tokyo still looking to buy, but without much success, and after 11 locations and moving around and sort of thinking they don’t want us here… I am SLOWING DOWN. IF IT HAPPENS IT HAPPENS. BUT YOU GIRL HAVE MADE IT HAPPEN BY LOOKING AT WHAT YOU HAVE DONE. Sorry I am not a writer, not able to express well but thanks for your stuff you shared.

    • @Val.Kyrie.
      @Val.Kyrie. 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      My aunt FREAKED when I got rid of my couch for a (free) piano (which needed repair, but cost me about a 1/3 of the same piano USED). Where were we going to sit? … well, there’s a floor, we can have rugs and pillows, like middle eastern people, or Japanese who kneel or sit on the floor traditionally. I didn’t think it was a big deal and helped keep the space from being over crowded and cluttered. I set my priorities. Piano and crafting above lounging and sitting around the living room. Well I was screamed at and called a savage and backwards and low class like these other cultures.
      I haven’t used a bed frame in nearly a decade. People are so limited in thinking. We don’t have to gut and remodel places to live in them.

  • @electrosyzygy
    @electrosyzygy 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very thoughtful. Introspection and honesty with oneself are perhaps the hardest things we can do. It makes me happy to see that your words resonate with so many.

  • @xXVannXx
    @xXVannXx 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Really beautiful - glad to hear your on a new path, very inspiring, very envious you have found a way to escape the rat race 😊

  • @Demurr
    @Demurr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Not the content I came for but the content I stayed for! ❤

  • @megalodon2560
    @megalodon2560 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow! Such wise words 👏 Thank you

  • @sweetrebeldy
    @sweetrebeldy 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks to you from for my deepest soul. My parents were for years in a all time renovating house. My mum died from breast cancer and never see her house finised. My dad works everyday and his house now is dirty and with a lot of things everywhere. It´s difficult to see your family crashing like a train vagon without breaks. And now I see my own life similar to that. I´m artist and can barely sustain myself, but I can because I living with my partner. It´s a long story, but I do a lot of sketches about my dream house renovations, and never do anything. Thank you very much , your video help me a lot. Sure I will keep rewaching it time to time. Congratulations for your wedding♥.

  • @bartybart9964
    @bartybart9964 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm speechless...

  • @temprmj1
    @temprmj1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I guess the views from 9:20 of the water are just before dawn. You truly live in an enchanted place.

  • @taramcginn80
    @taramcginn80 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "abandoning hope" I've always considered as something negative, whether it was an opinion of my own or one I was influenced to have. I'm glad to have it described as something practical, a means to liberate and to get out of the way of ourselves. The marketed -aesthetic- form of our dreams are permanently lodged in an inaccessible space of fantasy that is only holding one down to fit and conform to consumerist ideals. I was happy to watch your video today, I really needed it x

  • @TunneLVisioN42
    @TunneLVisioN42 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You're very well spoken, it seems like your recent experiences have enriched your life immeasurably, I am happy for you, thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts.

  • @martinvalencia798
    @martinvalencia798 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I absolutely agree

  • @davidallen2058
    @davidallen2058 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You just need to keep the weather out and the plumbing leak free. After that everything else can be put off.

  • @VeraGolosovaArt
    @VeraGolosovaArt 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This is exactly why I will continue to be subscribed and waiting for new videos. Life is a weird mess of everything more often that we care to admit. And change of course and conceptions is normality.
    My "ifs" are definitely about "if i have more alone time without my son at my side" and also "if i finally move to another country" I will be able to draw more, to finally get back to uploading videos to youtube, to read more, etc. Videos like you just did heals in a special way when I see clearly, that these "ifs" are construsct.
    I am looking forward kiwi orchards and anything you consider sharing. Thank you for being honest and really authentic.

  • @noorulhudaabubakar3741
    @noorulhudaabubakar3741 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Are you trying to write a book as well…? I really love your perspective for life

  • @ToddDenney
    @ToddDenney 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for sharing this. It was helpful, a rare thing sometimes.

  • @TheImanuelita
    @TheImanuelita 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am crying... What you said is what has been in my head for awhile now but couldn't get it out. Thank you.

  • @ninaflo769
    @ninaflo769 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Just be happy with what you have and just live your life. Yes you don’t even have to blog about it. Just do what you you do and want.

  • @templemoore3799
    @templemoore3799 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was hit with an abrupt illness that forced my retirement & after 10 yrs am now mostly bedbound. That said to give context that I have had to adjust how I think about priorities & happiness. When I became ill and stopped fighting for my job a relative said “you can’t give up!” But, that is not what happened. Acceptance is not giving up. These two ways of coping are not necessarily on the same fulcrum. Acceptance makes room, opens up space for the here & now….room for healing, gratitude & contentment w/what I have & what I can manage to control. Many years ago, when I moved into this house, that same relative asked me “don’t you like NICE things?” 🫤 I had what I needed & just had different priorities. And if I had liked nice things, I likely wouldn’t have had the savings to survive this life altering disability.This doesn’t feel like giving up. Feels like growth & acceptance. Looking forward to the next one Bitsii 💜

  • @fianorian
    @fianorian 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Definitely some food for thought there. I love that you're listening to what your surroundings are telling you, and adapting to a different style of living, rather than trying to wrestle that lifestyle into adapting to you. I sometimes wonder if Western society is still stuck in the ancient idea that the world is a scary place that must be tamed in order to be safe. Having almost run out of nature to tame, we now apply the principle to our homes, insisting that this must be changed or that must be knocked down, in order to fool ourselves into believing we are in charge. As a Brit. I only have to look at my own garden to see this thinking in action.

    • @bitsii
      @bitsii  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I love that English and Japanese culture cherish gardens. Same appreciation, but very different approaches. Glad to have you join here. Thank you. I hope you stick around.

    • @bitsii
      @bitsii  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I love that English and Japanese culture cherish gardens. Same appreciation, but very different approaches. Glad to have you join here. Thank you. I hope you stick around.

  • @OrganikHarmoni
    @OrganikHarmoni 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you, so very much. I needed this reminder. 😁. Sincerely appreciated it

  • @theweightofarms
    @theweightofarms 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Beautifully put and wonderfully presented! Good luck on your journey

  • @ThatEuropeanChick
    @ThatEuropeanChick 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    when i read the article about this that came out a few days ago, i knew it was about you before even clicking it. it was short but on point, but this video was perfect. your insight, creativity, self-reflection and choice of words keep me drawn to your channel. keep the videos coming, please, we wanna continue watching you on your journey to becoming yourself!

  • @susanpasion226
    @susanpasion226 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you! I appreciate this way of thinking. This has helped me reconsider what I am doing now. Your journey is amazing.

  • @belle6618
    @belle6618 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Extremely well spoken message!

  • @silkvelvet2616
    @silkvelvet2616 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    So in essence, you have changed your goal post from 'interior design coffee table book perfect' with a Japanese twist, to making a home for living in. That is an incredibly healthy choice, this is your journey, we're just here to enjoy it vicariously. I'm really looking forward to this new direction you're taking. Interior design does not make a home, only photos, and your story telling style is wasted on photogenic still life images for the interior design consumer. Thankyou for sharing your journey.
    I was at a yarn show over the weekend and rented a house with some fellow vendors. It was 100% ikea from the kitchen and appliances to the beds and bedding. It was bland and soulless, yet easy on the eye, the bed was 'nice' looking, but the frame bruised my legs getting in and out of bed, the bathroom was pretty, but the bath was super slippy, so showering was precarious, I wouldn't want to have a bath in it because you'd struggle to get out. but it was 'nice'.
    As a deisgner/maker and potter, my aim is to create beautiful tools that function perfectly. Most potters have domestic ware covered, but I have a history in textiles prior to my ceramics degree. It was inevitable that I would end up making tools for fibre and textile artists. I try to appeal to as broad an audience as possible, so none of my creations are, ummm, 'interior design' worthy because I want them to be perceived as accessible to all. Maybe it's the audience I sell to, but most want their tools to reflect themselves, not their decor, I might get one customer per show want to match/compliment their living room.
    I encourage everyone to pick up and handle my work, even the kids, because every handmade item I make is destined for a specific pair of hands, so they won't know if it's meant to be theirs until they pick them up. I use stoneware and porcelain clays for durability and longevity. My process is as much about the creation process as the end product as I try to push the designs as far as possible without compromising the basic form.

  • @treenbean8013
    @treenbean8013 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for sharing your vulnerable reflections and journey in an honest and thoughtful way Bits! This video is so beautiful and as another commenter mentioned, thanks for reminding me of Pema Chodron, her work really helped me through school and the pandemic. Sending you lots of love from across the sea ❤

  • @Henayart
    @Henayart 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This video is truly inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, it has opened my mind quite a bit. Sending regards🫶🏻

  • @DanDukeBox
    @DanDukeBox 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Another great video! Happy to see your channel grow 🧡😌

  • @sbaumgartner9848
    @sbaumgartner9848 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for sharing. Others have expressed their thoughts better than me. I'm so pleased to know you've read Pema Chodron's books. We're all busy busy busy, yet few of us look inside to see what is most important. I look forward to your future videos. Simplicity, having a support system around you and enjoying each small moment is what really counts.

  • @over.lighting
    @over.lighting 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I needed this.

  • @vincentrazakamaitso7969
    @vincentrazakamaitso7969 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    As Anti Lilly, Houston Jazz Rapper, Said: "Reminding myself not to let the repercussions out side of my hand be the reason i don't advance".
    Thank you for sharing your process upon materialistic desillusions

  • @Caprifool
    @Caprifool 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I can relate to this so much. For me personally, all that alone time at home during Covid made me realise that many of the material things around me just were in the way of.... we'll the being I call "me" thriving. My ideas of what makes a "good home" didn't fit who I actually am. I've since both given away things I didn't need or use, and replaced some functional things of MY choice and not just hand me downs or presents others thought I should have. (Hello KitchenAid, good bye old Bauknecht!) And the worst, things I bought myself because I thought "I should have!" because, well.... people say so. My home may not be worthy of a spread in a fancy coffee table magazine. But now, it works for me!
    Also, a home should never be finished. It should evolve together with us throughout our time in them.
    I love your house. It feels like a calm and happy place. ❤

  • @Nerdzombiedisco
    @Nerdzombiedisco 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for voicing out your thoughts. My gut has come to similar conclusions which just now hit my mind. Today will be interesting with what's been unlocked. Looking forward to seeing the world anew. Cheers!

  • @alexandergiesser
    @alexandergiesser 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This was so so lovely!!!

  • @DaveCoakley
    @DaveCoakley 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Superb

  • @erghjunk
    @erghjunk 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    this was surprisingly uplifting. thanks.

  • @gwendolynvaliente3539
    @gwendolynvaliente3539 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love this video. It comes at a moment when I am re-accessing my goals and wants. I have had many of the same thoughts. I have watched everyone of your videos and will continue to. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and the sights around you.

  • @lululongmizzlegarden
    @lululongmizzlegarden 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you, my home & I needed this x