I don't think anyone should be obsessed with anyone, and especially two people that are obsessed with each other should not be together. All it takes is one person to be less obsessed, which is VERY easy, and the relationship falls apart.
Partialy true but if a someone with obsessive personaly don't meet the same kind, it's going to fail anyway because the other person will be less obsessed from the start...soo id rather take a chance with a possibility to fail rather than having a 100% chance to fail from day 1.
i love your vocabulary, your kind words, it's clear to understand and it's flawless to practice my english skills, as a native spanish speaker i highly recommend your channel to relax and study english at the same time.
As a young man, I remember was always being told that I had to be the one to fall head over heels over a woman because that’d somehow show that I was worth marrying. But now if I don’t receive the same effort I put in back, I stop. Like me, a lot of people are tired of carrying the whole relationship
Great advice Masha it is better to focus on goals in life and when the right opportunity happens go with flow just becomes overwhelming and stressful when all energy is on one specific individual
Thank you Masha, this is a message I personally really needed❤ I often worried about what other people think about me and overall just care a bit too much about other people in that way
Also that abrupt ending felt like a bullet passing through me, I could clearly feel the intensity, but it's real , true love is when both person give up everything for each other and host each other identity that is the Ultimate love hands down there's nothing stronger more than that ending the relationship means ending yourself, I always wanted such a relationship it's my favorite if doesn't go a toxic road, things will be so secure and stable and constant trust my god it's perfection But it's a double edged sword, it's a hit or miss nothing in between , it's too risky but extremely rewarding, I mean today's relationship fail almost all times you will lose anyway why not aim for the big fish
you know honestly I only started watching these videos because she’s attractive but really this is some top tier therapy, something that only people with meaningful experience can provide
Self- awareness, acceptance, and authenticity are essential for longevity in dynamic relationships. If a relationship is to avoid stagnation it must be able to grow and change within the inevitable ebb and flow of an ever-fluctuating life. Neglecting any of these three short-changes our capacity to self-sacrifice in a sustainable way whereby we are truly receiving more through what we are freely giving.
This was a valuable talk, Masha - thank-you. The advice to first identify and learn to live at/with one's own, innate level of intensity, without shame, and, from there, to become aware of others who show themselves to be a natural match to that level, is well taken.
This cozy relaxing being schooled and liking it came at the perfect time for a person who softspokenly is currently feeling like a love hotel, and not as a guest, but as the hotel.
Yeahh was on the giving end of this kind of long term relationship and job as well as being forced into a few things I didn't fully agree with. Never fully appreciated and overworking for my share. Had to rebuild my own passions and personal identity for sure. But it does get so much better after plenty of new experiences after the fact! Took a few years, but now I'm happier than ever with big and simple things. It's liberating to enjoy your own company. Great timing on this video for my chaotic life rn. And idk if intended, but it was a lil asmr experience that i haven't been able to feel in a while. Maybe the style of speaking in an assertive, but caring tone. Thanks for this internet friend
thanks to masha, i changed my life and started doing the right thing, by building a physique and etc. thank you so much Masha for helping me go through my hard tjmes.
The operative definition you are speaking about is called co dependency, it can result in extremely unhealthy relationships behavior. Your thoughts are very insightful, you definitely have a read on things that is uncommon and it is enjoyable to listen to you digest these ideas.
I'm not chaotic but I did have a relationship where I felt strongly that I wanted to lose myself in this girl but she was put off by it and that rejection hurt. Made me feel like I was too much. But on the bright side it made me do some reflecting and later understood that I had been vulnerable at that time and for me to want to lose myself in her was a sort of attempt at an escape from where I was in my life. Since then I have managed to make myself whole and be content and satisfied just within myself.
I love the way you thing and talk ❤ keep going, and someday hope we all bump into each other in passing. While just maybe a wave or shout to you, may joy find us all and in that moment a reminder that we can suport each other, as we should today.
Therapy session : I am a sensative person for people I really like I feel everything their Aura their energy their presence. When they feel down I worry to much and if this go long enough I care really much but some people are not with the same intentions like me and then people see that I am obsessed but its not I just wanna help and be there for that person, its dangerous nowadays cause a lot of people can make that their benefit and use me so when I need to cut of connections I just need time to get over it sometimes I need to ignore this person for 4 weeks or 3 weeks I just figured out that I am really mentally strong guy that can kill something that need to be forgotten or to hide it in a chest in my head. I am so happy that I can do this today I talked to her again and I heard on her voice that she missed me.
I really didn’t expect to find myself getting teary over a TH-cam video when I clicked this, but I feel shame for how intensely I love. I’ve been pushed away for it before. And I’m my current relationship I am trying to massively tone it down because I am with someone who isn’t intense at all and it feels empty and lonely.
Beautiful speeches! We have a misguided approach to relationships, thinking that we must take care of the partner when, in reality, we should focus on taking care of ourselves and allow our beloved to benefit from it❤
It better to become lonely with that thing, when you chose how I need to get it. And then, being still lonely - find ourselves together, relate "I" on shipping to that one qualifying points for be-ing connection, till end of time (which is just the matters to real effort, just to make sure they have to pay attention to their own steps aside for actual meeting wit)🦄💀
I recently got out of a relationship where my gf was extremely codependent and needed to be with me *all the time* to the bathroom, to the kitchen to refill my water, sat on the floor while I showered. It was exhausting. For both of us. She's an incredible person and an extremely good person, but definitely having a partner who is always with you and thinking about you, who puts tbeir wellbeing tied to yours... it's exhausting and I no longer know what a healthy level is lol
This exactly what happened. Started from scratch, and still doesn't figured it after 11 years. I fully understand that it is not normal, but there is no other way I can imagine relationships without absession. Because there never used to be one like this.
I share the ideas of my almost namesake Brett Anderson: "The obsessions in my head don't connect with my intellect! And obsessions are like sex, simple and complex"!
i like controlled chaos, if that makes sense. Stable home, but not 10pm bedtime every night, i like a little fun and mystery. If every day is the same, boredom is inevitable. besides, I have way too much to do to be even home every night.
People want someone obsessed with them because then they can stop struggling to work on themselves and evolve. The fact is, relationships can end at any time for any reason, but you're stuck with yourself, so you might as well figure out how to love yourself. Anyone you know in decades of marriage or partnership will tell you they have struggles and have to work at things. If you can't even work on yourself now, how are you going to compound your life with a relationship you need to maintain as well?
I think prevention of obsession is a key element in sustaining a healthy relationship. Obsession is similar to being in a continual state of delusion. You have a way of explaining these social dynamics between partners like a professional therapist. Thank you for sharing your insights on this trending topic. Nobody does it better!👌
Masha is extremely cute and beautiful and she has a sweet smile. I give you a hug and a tickle :D Now I am going to regulate my central nervous system by taking deep breaths and taking a nap.
Todo siempre va a depender de lo que cada quien lleve en su mente pero si tu sabes bien quien eres y que puedes y sabes hacer lo que otros piensen, digan o opinen no ha de importar, en este mundo hay mucha gente tratando de confundir, mentir y desviar al resto por eso cada uno debe valorar su criterio para ver las cosas como son, uno se equivoca pero esas equivocaciones enseñan y son lecciones para no volver a cometerlas, sirven para aprender del resto y de uno mismo, las obsesiones del resto son un problema que esa gente debe solucionar.
I just don't understand why do people's desires get fulfilled in the moment when they least deserve it or not even longing for it. Later, when things don't go our way, those same so called materialistic desires are labelled as curse and people are asked to wait further for the right time. If the creator already knows that it was not the right time earlier why did he trap us in the first place? What's wrong with consistency of this universe? If this leads to personal growth it's hollow and worthless when there's no trust and commitment This paradox of life makes me wish I could disappear from the world because people won't be able to get that I don't have anything to talk with you anymore
If life was not consciously perceived, then how could it be? Who among the living does life live through? I'm trying to understand what this means. I just thought it.
Could you describe what you understand by saying "chaotic"? Because I can see myself as the people you're describing, but I don't consider myself "chaotic". I've never been in a relationship, but I see me giving all of me to my friends, and to the people I love. I need to know how they feel, I need to be there if they need me and I need them to know. But at the same time I think I have a very strategic mind, I have to phrase things in my head five times before saying it out loud because I take in count all the ways something can be interpretated (this might be obsessive more than strategic, but the thing is that I think I have a pretty logic mind xd)
Lol Masha, you’re exactly like me, cracking a little jokey joke to lighten the mood 🤣 I found myself doing that a lot between late 2023-early 2024 because if I didn’t laugh, I would’ve have been crying all the time 🙃
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I would rather be alone until I find someone who truly fits in my vibe.
but don't wait for someone who loves you to love yourself bro
@@Mat_Dan I won't bro.
@@Lucas-ox9zo and you don't right?
@@Mat_DanWhen did they ever imply that lmao
@@Artemis-A24 _Many_ do everything backwards: they look for love in order to find themselves. You have to look for yourself to find love
its better to be alone than being alone in a relationship
Fr
I don't think anyone should be obsessed with anyone, and especially two people that are obsessed with each other should not be together. All it takes is one person to be less obsessed, which is VERY easy, and the relationship falls apart.
Partialy true but if a someone with obsessive personaly don't meet the same kind, it's going to fail anyway because the other person will be less obsessed from the start...soo id rather take a chance with a possibility to fail rather than having a 100% chance to fail from day 1.
Detaching from people’s obsession with you is the beginning to self care
i love your vocabulary, your kind words, it's clear to understand and it's flawless to practice my english skills, as a native spanish speaker i highly recommend your channel to relax and study english at the same time.
12:17 "it doesn't have to be boring. You just have to understand what you want and what you need, and make it your mission to get there."
As a young man, I remember was always being told that I had to be the one to fall head over heels over a woman because that’d somehow show that I was worth marrying. But now if I don’t receive the same effort I put in back, I stop. Like me, a lot of people are tired of carrying the whole relationship
I love you Masha, going through a breakup, you words are very relevant to me right now and are helping me get through it.
Its difficult when I'm always the one giving them my all
I never knew I needed this free therapy
You’re very smart.. along with young.. this is rare in our era I am 33, we are young and our generation is lost. Keep it up G. 🖤
Great advice Masha it is better to focus on goals in life and when the right opportunity happens go with flow just becomes overwhelming and stressful when all energy is on one specific individual
Thank you Masha, this is a message I personally really needed❤
I often worried about what other people think about me and overall just care a bit too much about other people in that way
To me, wanting someone overly obsessed with you while you do the bare minimum is an ego thing.
Also that abrupt ending felt like a bullet passing through me, I could clearly feel the intensity, but it's real , true love is when both person give up everything for each other and host each other identity that is the Ultimate love hands down there's nothing stronger more than that ending the relationship means ending yourself, I always wanted such a relationship it's my favorite if doesn't go a toxic road, things will be so secure and stable and constant trust my god it's perfection
But it's a double edged sword, it's a hit or miss nothing in between , it's too risky but extremely rewarding, I mean today's relationship fail almost all times you will lose anyway why not aim for the big fish
you know honestly I only started watching these videos because she’s attractive but really this is some top tier therapy, something that only people with meaningful experience can provide
ur voice is mesmerizing i could listen to you talk all day
Self- awareness, acceptance, and authenticity are essential for longevity in dynamic relationships. If a relationship is to avoid stagnation it must be able to grow and change within the inevitable ebb and flow of an ever-fluctuating life. Neglecting any of these three short-changes our capacity to self-sacrifice in a sustainable way whereby we are truly receiving more through what we are freely giving.
This was a valuable talk, Masha - thank-you. The advice to first identify and learn to live at/with one's own, innate level of intensity, without shame, and, from there, to become aware of others who show themselves to be a natural match to that level, is well taken.
This is why I ignore everybody
🎉
😂
I'm so happy to see you do a video again I thought you'd left us . Your videos help inspire and motivate.
This cozy relaxing being schooled and liking it came at the perfect time for a person who softspokenly is currently feeling like a love hotel, and not as a guest, but as the hotel.
I'd say you better not be obsessed with your partner... better focus on yourself and share a healthy relationship with him or her or... whatever...
I have no doubt that you are a Queen, and that you remind me of a Goddess when I hear your magical voice ! 🖤👑
Yeahh was on the giving end of this kind of long term relationship and job as well as being forced into a few things I didn't fully agree with. Never fully appreciated and overworking for my share. Had to rebuild my own passions and personal identity for sure. But it does get so much better after plenty of new experiences after the fact! Took a few years, but now I'm happier than ever with big and simple things. It's liberating to enjoy your own company. Great timing on this video for my chaotic life rn. And idk if intended, but it was a lil asmr experience that i haven't been able to feel in a while. Maybe the style of speaking in an assertive, but caring tone. Thanks for this internet friend
thanks to masha, i changed my life and started doing the right thing, by building a physique and etc. thank you so much Masha for helping me go through my hard tjmes.
this is so calming
Once i started keeping this in mind i found it a lot easier to not only connect with girls but also form a healthier relationship
8:43 “Because truly you’re not broken. You’re just bent.” 😂 you had to get that joke off
The beauty of life
This found me exactly at the right time! loved this thank you.
The operative definition you are speaking about is called co dependency, it can result in extremely unhealthy relationships behavior. Your thoughts are very insightful, you definitely have a read on things that is uncommon and it is enjoyable to listen to you digest these ideas.
I am glad that you post this because I kinda was feeling this way and is good to know and remind that I am doing it good ❤thank you
Your oratory is delightful
I'm not chaotic but I did have a relationship where I felt strongly that I wanted to lose myself in this girl but she was put off by it and that rejection hurt. Made me feel like I was too much. But on the bright side it made me do some reflecting and later understood that I had been vulnerable at that time and for me to want to lose myself in her was a sort of attempt at an escape from where I was in my life. Since then I have managed to make myself whole and be content and satisfied just within myself.
True If they were meant to be 🌩️
Hi Masha!!! All kinds of your words are amazing, so very glad to hear, hope you keep it up 😁👍❤️
Don't get into a relationship if you don't accept yourself first !
I love the way you thing and talk ❤ keep going, and someday hope we all bump into each other in passing. While just maybe a wave or shout to you, may joy find us all and in that moment a reminder that we can suport each other, as we should today.
Therapy session : I am a sensative person for people I really like I feel everything their Aura their energy their presence. When they feel down I worry to much and if this go long enough I care really much but some people are not with the same intentions like me and then people see that I am obsessed but its not I just wanna help and be there for that person, its dangerous nowadays cause a lot of people can make that their benefit and use me so when I need to cut of connections I just need time to get over it sometimes I need to ignore this person for 4 weeks or 3 weeks I just figured out that I am really mentally strong guy that can kill something that need to be forgotten or to hide it in a chest in my head. I am so happy that I can do this today I talked to her again and I heard on her voice that she missed me.
Thank you so much Misha, can't wait to listen this before going to sleep this evening 😌🔝🔝
I really didn’t expect to find myself getting teary over a TH-cam video when I clicked this, but I feel shame for how intensely I love. I’ve been pushed away for it before. And I’m my current relationship I am trying to massively tone it down because I am with someone who isn’t intense at all and it feels empty and lonely.
Live and you learn mate. Next time get to know them more and figure out whether you’ll be happy with them or not.
There's no way I could live like that.
Beautiful speeches! We have a misguided approach to relationships, thinking that we must take care of the partner when, in reality, we should focus on taking care of ourselves and allow our beloved to benefit from it❤
exactly
You must be obsessed with yourself and then you know how to love yourself, care for yourself thus will be able to do so in another, in your true love!
She ain’t wrong.
The Tortured Poets Department (Masha’s Version)
It better to become lonely with that thing, when you chose how I need to get it. And then, being still lonely - find ourselves together, relate "I" on shipping to that one qualifying points for be-ing connection, till end of time (which is just the matters to real effort, just to make sure they have to pay attention to their own steps aside for actual meeting wit)🦄💀
This video resonated with me on so many levels
Exactly dude.
love this vid tysm masha
I recently got out of a relationship where my gf was extremely codependent and needed to be with me *all the time* to the bathroom, to the kitchen to refill my water, sat on the floor while I showered. It was exhausting. For both of us. She's an incredible person and an extremely good person, but definitely having a partner who is always with you and thinking about you, who puts tbeir wellbeing tied to yours... it's exhausting and I no longer know what a healthy level is lol
thanks for listening sharing your thoughts on the topic
Your hair is fantastic. Gorgeous. ❤
This exactly what happened. Started from scratch, and still doesn't figured it after 11 years.
I fully understand that it is not normal, but there is no other way I can imagine relationships without absession. Because there never used to be one like this.
This kinda scares me as someone who relies on a friend for the past 17 years, it doesnt feel logical that you can find that one special person again.
Thanks! That's just what I needed to hear today 😮
I share the ideas of my almost namesake Brett Anderson: "The obsessions in my head don't connect with my intellect! And obsessions are like sex, simple and complex"!
You are seriously so wise beyond your years. So many things you said spoke directly to my soul. Thank you for existing and making content 💞💫✨
You are so right!
usaré este audio para mejorar mi listening, gracias
i like controlled chaos, if that makes sense. Stable home, but not 10pm bedtime every night, i like a little fun and mystery. If every day is the same, boredom is inevitable. besides, I have way too much to do to be even home every night.
My true intention was to fall asleep listening to ASMR, what I got instead was a life lesson hahahah
I need to hear this!
The only thing that matters is existing for all eternity as yourself
What a gorgeous woman!
amazing video!
Tough to break eye contact to sleep
Obsessed is never a good thing 🎉
People want someone obsessed with them because then they can stop struggling to work on themselves and evolve. The fact is, relationships can end at any time for any reason, but you're stuck with yourself, so you might as well figure out how to love yourself.
Anyone you know in decades of marriage or partnership will tell you they have struggles and have to work at things. If you can't even work on yourself now, how are you going to compound your life with a relationship you need to maintain as well?
Well, I am obsessed with you. XD
I think prevention of obsession is a key element in sustaining a healthy relationship. Obsession is similar to being in a continual state of delusion. You have a way of explaining these social dynamics between partners like a professional therapist. Thank you for sharing your insights on this trending topic. Nobody does it better!👌
love these vids
Great point (the title)
Thanks for this video 🙏
Did you dye your hair again? I like it. Love the message too... you seem very calm.
RJ
Off topic. You look stunning in the red dress.
Not problem dear friend 🌹 deferent is a nolige❤❤❤❤❤
Podría escucharte hablar por horas, que voz tan cálida y linda.
Masha is extremely cute and beautiful and she has a sweet smile. I give you a hug and a tickle :D Now I am going to regulate my central nervous system by taking deep breaths and taking a nap.
Todo siempre va a depender de lo que cada quien lleve en su mente pero si tu sabes bien quien eres y que puedes y sabes hacer lo que otros piensen, digan o opinen no ha de importar, en este mundo hay mucha gente tratando de confundir, mentir y desviar al resto por eso cada uno debe valorar su criterio para ver las cosas como son, uno se equivoca pero esas equivocaciones enseñan y son lecciones para no volver a cometerlas, sirven para aprender del resto y de uno mismo, las obsesiones del resto son un problema que esa gente debe solucionar.
❤️ way too beautiful
❤The best Therapist and gorgeous too this sound relax me a lot. 10:47 11:34
I just don't understand why do people's desires get fulfilled in the moment when they least deserve it or not even longing for it. Later, when things don't go our way, those same so called materialistic desires are labelled as curse and people are asked to wait further for the right time. If the creator already knows that it was not the right time earlier why did he trap us in the first place? What's wrong with consistency of this universe? If this leads to personal growth it's hollow and worthless when there's no trust and commitment This paradox of life makes me wish I could disappear from the world because people won't be able to get that I don't have anything to talk with you anymore
Not necessarily. with a partner we shouldn't obsess and take care of the other. We should obsess and take care of ourselves for our partner.
You are an ENFJ personality type👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
so lovey amazing stunning adorable love u 😘
You are stunning my god
The trauma you been through miss masha I would really love to know. Because to know this knowledge is from pain an experience 😅😂❤❤❤
Yes dear i oo persint
If life was not consciously perceived, then how could it be? Who among the living does life live through? I'm trying to understand what this means. I just thought it.
Could you describe what you understand by saying "chaotic"?
Because I can see myself as the people you're describing, but I don't consider myself "chaotic". I've never been in a relationship, but I see me giving all of me to my friends, and to the people I love. I need to know how they feel, I need to be there if they need me and I need them to know.
But at the same time I think I have a very strategic mind, I have to phrase things in my head five times before saying it out loud because I take in count all the ways something can be interpretated (this might be obsessive more than strategic, but the thing is that I think I have a pretty logic mind xd)
I’m a straight guy and I don’t want a guy to obsess over me 😂
Masha Monday 🎉❤
💅💅
You are the best girl ever !
Lol Masha, you’re exactly like me, cracking a little jokey joke to lighten the mood 🤣
I found myself doing that a lot between late 2023-early 2024 because if I didn’t laugh, I would’ve have been crying all the time 🙃
i think i'll be lonely forever tbh
I didn't know Ana De Armas was this wise
Yeah it didn't end well
I’m so earlyyyy and I love it here
you look great
I’m just big spoon