Or just dominance and subordinance, pure power and control basically. Ive seen it time and time again, they seek out the vulnerable, usually nice ppl who arent well connected within the social hierarchy (defenceless) and just prey on them. They just get a hit, a high, a buzz out of preying on certain types of ppl. Calculated murderers are the same. They seek out vulnerable ppl and kill them, its the predator/prey dynamic. Its no fun to bully/murder ppl with some pride, confidence, its actually pointless to them is it doesnt fulfil the very essence of their sickness which is to prey on the weak. Narcissists are the same. They crave to dominate, manipulate and emotionally destroy the weak, the nice, the good, this is the core of what gets them going, its why its so twisted as they dont attempt it with ppl with any dignity or backbone, in fact they show high deference and respect to these ppl where it comes off as fake and contrived.
@@michaelshannon9169it’s like lions hunting buffalo. They always seek out the young, old, and sick buffaloes. I have never seen them attack a healthy Cape buffalo. You’re more likely to see buffaloes attack and kill lions
@@michaelshannon9169That’s not always the case in workplace bullying and you need to understand that it’s not a classic case of bullying but rather a psychological attack. You can be a person that doesn’t take any mess but in the workplace you think you have to be passive to keep your job. That’s why these predators are highly skilled, they take your situation and use it to their advantage, it has nothing to do with weakness and more with status. If they know you need the money, they will attack you subliminally.
It's just an extension of high school. Jealousy, gossip, tattling, backstabbing, being the most popular, being the boss. Sound familiar ? high school 2.0. Bullies are jealous losers.
Not in my case. I’ve never been viewed as a member of the cute girls club and from what I’ve seen I don’t want to be a member of the mean girls club either. I was told by a friend at work, which is questionable, that the alpha female bully in the department said I had a face like a possum and there are people who think possums are cute so I appreciate the compliment 😊
You’re the first person I’ve found on YT that agrees that workplace bullying is a form of narcissistic abuse. Yes. It is an addiction. Great work love your videos!
This has happened to me just about every single job I worked at. I never notice it was abuse and bullying until recently this year. They always try to scapegoat me and it always somehow backfires on them in the end.
I'm sorry to hear about what you've been through. It can take us a while to realize what is really happening because it's so unbelievable. Bullies always get their karma in the end.
Every insatiable drive has it's "process". It's very interesting and entertaining to see a bully cause the effect of their own demise. Stay cool, calm, and collective as you simply observe their egotistic and narcissistic behaviour. Their karma is already in the process of materializing as you observe the sails of their storm. You deserve to be treated with respect and value as you are worthy of more.
@@DeL5371 Amen! Yes! Today at work, I was in a group meeting with 5 other women. One of the women was promoted to "team lead" last week but she is a bully and very cunning in her bully like behavior. I told her to her face, at the meeting, with the other women present this: "I don't answer to you. You are a bully and I will not stand for that. I will not allow it." She shot back with: "I am not a bully and I am a team lead. Well, I thought respect is earned, not demanded. But I did tell her straight out to her face: "You are a bully, you are a bully and I will not stand for that. I will not." I am so glad I stood up to her and had several witnesses. Women are vicious. Plus, this woman is incompetent and was "promoted" and demands "respect." I told her: "I don't answer to you, you are not in fact my boss" which was 100% true. I have an actual boss and to that person, I answer, Not to the screaming 5 foot 2 chiuauaha bully.
Every word of this is truth!! Also a lot of times I was hated/envied for my physical appearance, but even when I was 50 lbs overweight they still hated/envied my energy! They hated that I was a happy person inside!
My neighbors bully me. They can do something but if I do the exact same thing they threaten me, etc. Most people are bullies. They want to have the last word and have their way or else.
This is scary accurate…they will literally grab at your body and point out things. So for you to say that they’re obsessed with your physical body is really scary that’s wild
I just lost my job due to this. I haven’t known how to feel. The stress of the day to day bullying and harassment and the fear of what comes next had my hair falling out, panic attacks, weight loss, and then the weirdest symptom- falling asleep on myself. Since being fired (for no apparent or real given reason) the symptoms have cleared up. I can totally believe this because the perpetrator - another female - started walking like me- talking like me - everything and in the same breath lying about me, constantly pretending to find mistakes , smearing my name to the partner attorneys . It was the worst experience of my life and I am praying each and every night for this very sick person.
Thank you for sharing your story. What you are describing is two workplace bullying techniques - "Stalking" and "Lying" - and I have videos on both of them. It's like the movie "Single White Female": this person starts dressing like you, doing their hair like you, and exercising and eating like you. When they start showing up in your experience outside the workplace, that's when it gets scary. All narcissists pathologically lie because a narcissist IS a lie (false self). They really see nothing wrong with all the lies they tell, and - worse - they actually believe them. The abuse does get so bad that it affects our physical health. I certainly lost weight and experienced both hair loss and sleep disturbances because of it. You do not need to pray for sick people. It is not your responsibility. It's an exercise in futility because these people never change. You can not "show them the light." All you can do is reclaim yours. Focus on yourself. Never let them put out your light. Always stay the light you are in the world.
@@clairehuntonline my bully got me to the point where I left a good paying position- it left the company in a lurch as I was no longer there to catch severe technical problems. He lost a mid 5 figure bonus because production ground down.
@@clairehuntonline my workplace bully , the main one, now wears a chain exactly Iike mine around his neck. I noticed it at the last compulsory drink gathering. I wear mine because its from my country, a small country, so ii never take it off as its very sentimental. He was flagrantly wearing one when it's kind of associated with being my trademark
Update my female workplace bully has succeeded in having me removed from a project just because I am confident in my self. She spread lies and even the team of women who reviewed her complaint told me they fought against her and don't believe a single word of what she says. I'm just glad to be out.of a toxic environment. It can be contagious.
@@Malingerer1505 That's horrible. I'm so sorry to hear that happened. Workplace bullies have had me removed, too. They are pathetically insecure and HATE anyone who is confident. Yes, if we spend too much time in a toxic environment, we get sick. I'm glad you're glad to be out of there.
I don't know about you guys, but there is nothing more freaky than same gender sexual harassment at work. They freak me out so bad I often hurt myself just trying to get out of their way. Total freaks, I tell you.
I'm so grateful to find this channel. A very important thing I was also told, abusers don't ask us questions about ourselves to get to know us, they're collecting data for future ammunition.
Actually my work was being sabotaged and altered to make me look like I was making extreme mistakes. A supervisor and I actually caught an employee in the QC department who was being trained to target certain people. She was eventually fired, not all that did this to me got caught because at one company the supervisor was using employees as flying monkeys to target certain employees and I was one. I know and understand how it feels, I also was aware of other employees who were being provoked and unfortunately the one being provoked acted on it and he got fired. Very unfortunate and vicious acts.
I'm sorry to hear that. It is astonishing that so many workplaces are full of so many psychopathic people who work very hard to hurt other people. They are not just unhappy people who are having a bad day. It's deliberate and premeditated. Demonic (or in some cases Satanic) possession is the only explanation. Spiritual warfare for sure.
I agree, I wasn’t the only one who was treated like that. I was advised of how to react towards the bullying but it wouldn’t have mattered because I was going through a divorce and the whole thing was a shame because it had more to do with the female coworker who introduced me to my husband and she embarked on a mission to destroy my relationship, I still don’t understand why and why she was dragging other workers into her dysfunctional behavior. Long and sad story. I ended up having a miscarriage out of being bullied and I never talked about it but also ended up having a hysterectomy a few years after I was divorced. Anyway thanks for sharing and being supportive.
I experienced workplace abuse and harassment like this and I knew exactly why. It was stemming from their own insecurities and constant need to compare themselves to other people and feel better than them over anything they could think of. The resentment was palpable and they knew exactly what they were doing to me and enjoyed every minute of it. I hope they seek the help they need and stop the pathological lying and manipulation…but I doubt they will because they also lack any sense of self awareness. It’s just sad that middle aged adult women behave like this over perceived threats and slights; having one-sided battles with others like reactive animals.
I've been bullied by all kinds, but the menopausal women in the workplace are the absolute worst. You are right: they are miserable. Leave them to their karma.
The money isn't worth tolerating toxic stress that makes the body and mind weak - society already struggles with health problems from such a great disconnect from nature. A lot of the bullying is a soft society tucking in stress and turning the cheek and there's a massive rise in conditions like heart-disease, depression, anxiety, suicide clearly being influenced by such.
I wholeheartedly agree that much of our contemporary dysfunction originates from our separation from nature - hence the sick obsession with food and scented things (candles, essential oils, herbs, etc.), which come from nature. Whenever working in office environments, I've often thought that these people would feel a lot better if they would just get out more. Yes, the physical health deterioration that results from narcissistic abuse is very real and documented, and the ultimate result of workplace bullying is death in the form of homicide (mass shootings) and suicide. It really is a matter of life and death, and I wish people took it more seriously.
@@clairehuntonlineWow! What you just shared was profound! 😮 I wish I could share fully what just happened at my workplace, but in short, I felt in my gut that if I go to that office, it will be a hazing ritual. I prayed to God to help me not go. Then something happened that forced me to stay home. I think it saved my life because there's no telling what they would have tried to do to me. I work remote with trips to in-person events, but I am looking for a way out ASAP.
I've been bullied at work and actually I never ONCE heard anything mentioned about my appearance.( I'm a woman and have been bullied by both men and women. ) it was pretty much always about intelligence, laziness and being stupid. As I'm quite smart, educated and work hard it was of course meant to "bring me down"..... just like you say!
I would bet that much of the gossip (narcissistic smear campaign) about you behind your back was about your physical appearance. You just weren't aware of it. Workplace bullies also attack your work quality and ethic and your character.
@@clairehuntonline yes, that's totally possible of course. But we were so different in age, style and fashion preferences that we never really talked about those things at all. I think the one who hated me is a narcissistic person with a side problem of OCD. It was very clear that I triggered her in the worst way possible. To be honest I didn't really care all that much and mostly let her have things her way, work wise. This, of course, made her quite 😠 frustrated. Oh well.. The first time I was bullied was 30 years before that, and I've had a lot of time since then to learn to not give sh*t about opinions from people with obvious personal problems of their own. But however little you care about someone's opinions it's tiring and depressing to experience bullying and I did find me another job as soon as possible. My instinct tells me to run from people like this, even if many friends suggested I should try to talk and do something about the situation. But no, I run.
Absolutely that is what they do. I am a keen observer and I notice that many carry their personal problems to work. They even start to abuse you as if you are either their partner, their kid, their mom or other relative. When I figured out that is one thing they do I was pretty freaked out. But you are very right: their purpose is to take away the qualities about your character and make you out to be as someone that you are not. Nothing infuriates them more then when they realize you can look right through their fakeness, oh then they really attack you.
Oh yes, of course it is. When any success is achieved, or when someone simply asserts their freedom, their opinion, and they do not accept fake anything and will make decisions that are right for them, watch out: you can be sure the ones that harass are the ones who are not making smart decisions.
@@clairehuntonline Thank you for your compassion. In your opinion, what is the best course of action? 1. Find a corner of corporate where you are sheltered by ethical leaders 2. Move to a small company with a good culture in which this behaviour cannot escalate 3. Become an entrepreneur
@@robbiea1482 Such an interesting question. In my experience having been bullied in all sorts of environments and professions, workplace bullying exists just about everywhere regardless of the company type or size. If you have the ability to start your own business and create a workplace where this behavior is not allowed then more power to you.
@@robbiea1482 From my experience, I’d say that very small companies and very large companies can have extremely toxic environments in different ways. You should probably go for something in the middle
@@robbiea1482 I do contract work. There is some risk involved in becoming a contractor, but it's definitely cleaner. However, I'm a cynic and see opportunity for abuse everywhere.
Im going through this now and also at every job I ever had. The part I never understood is not only "why me? I dont even stand out", but how a person could find it in themselves to be cruel without cause and do it all over again the very next day. Dont they also feel that uncomfortable twinge in their chest when they say something not right, even by accident? They *are* human right? Even now i struggle with the capacity for evil in other people and their reasons... but your video opened my eyes even more. Talk about a light bulb moment. My mother was right. They sense the good in you, and they want to kill it by any means necessary. They dont want the example. They are happy to living in the dark if it means they dont have to change. Im contemplating leaving this job too, but i know it exists everywhere. It's time to start fortifying my armour. Wow, another realization... the strength I need is entirely spiritual...
I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through. That's exactly right. By your energy and presence alone, you are somehow asking them to change - and they deeply resent it. Bullying is a kind of psychotic obsession. It is unconscious behavior: kneejerk, autopilot. They just go on the warpath. They don't think cognitively or rationally about what they are doing. I really believe that there are dark souls among us who feed off of the pain and suffering of human beings. They may not be entirely human. Yes, it is a spiritual problem, so our only option is spiritual.
What I have found out is this: listen closely: you think they are just coworkers or even strangers: the people you meet in your life. The truth is this: there is something wrong in their own life they do not admit to, while faking they have a good life. But they are people who want something from y o u. In most cases it is money, they want to use your talents, they want to use people so they can have a better life, they are entirely destructive entities: and the sooner you realize that they are not humans the better off you will be.
I have been through exactly the same thing at many of my jobs. What worked for me was working on my self esteem and very slowly to do the gray rock method at a current job or start the gray rock method at a new job, never discuss anything personal, keep all aspects of your life private(as anything you say they will use against you and make up lies about you. Don't believe the so called nice and popular co worker and , be neutral and respond/dont react, explain or defend yourself. Do minimum at your job as working hard will make you a target and the bullies will dump their work on you. Bullies/Narcissists target decent and nice people so don't be "friendly" just be polite. While this is a fake way to be, it will give you peace and you will avoid being a target. When you go "gray rock" they will see you as a boring person who is not a threat and they will leave you alone. Be cautious as you do the gray rock method so that you dont give the appearance that you are ignoring them on purpose as that will make some people angry/hostile.
No, they are not human. And I repeat that all the time to myself. I am done trying to see if they prove themselves to be normal caring humans because it is better to assume otherwise right from the start. Most people are at work for something other than work, they mask it with many work related things but in essence it is all about their own measly personal lives that are extremely questionable. And you better not figure out what might be wrong with them or what it is that makes them corrupt and evil because you will never have a single workday without them attacking you with foul lies and foul behavior.
I am in two different jobs. At both jobs people have lose relationships with each other. Many questionable relationships that one can not help but notice, yet I am very determined to not want to know any details. They detest anyone that is not like them. Now, these are people who are so fake one would not believe it. They get aggressive even physically, while I do not do anything to them.
I'm so happy to hear that! I'm in a toxic environment right now and I wanted to know how you shifted to another place? What did you consider? How did you evaluate that you would be better there? Or did you start working for yourself? Would be great to have some insights
I feel the same. She is so outspoken. I have never seen this level of courage being expressed. I am bullied out of this world. I am a very tall tree. Talented, attractive, good-willed, high work ethics. I am hated and attacked on a day to day basis.
I recently had issues finding a job because at interview stage all I was confronted with was a series of frightened managers not employing someone who might outshine them. In the end I got offered a job but by the time that happened, I was morally and emotionally crushed.
Yes, I've been totally beaten down over the years by bullying, which, ironically, has made me more employable. You would think that, as job candidates, we would want to put our best foot forward and heavily promote all of our strengths and assets, but, as targets of workplace bullying, that's exactly how we shoot ourselves in the foot (pardon the mixed metaphor). Workplace bullies are defined by pathological jealousy. Workplace bullying is all about "cutting down tall trees." The target of workplace bullying is the star. The more you shine, the more these insecure, jealous bullies will try to put out your light. Even the managers don't want someone who would outshine them. You would think they would jump at the chance to hire a talented, skilled, and credentialed employee, but they care more about protecting their fragile egos than they care about the best interests of the company.
happenned to me last 2 office jobs. they just get a buncha different people to send me negative energy and stare me down and insult me. and i dont do shit but work on the pc. i just sit there and key and then my heart will start beating like crazy like im about to have a heart attack or panic attack. theres an energy to it and its probably what they would call the evil eye back olden times
I'm sorry to hear about your experience. All workplace bullying is happening on an energetic level. That's why it is imperative that we protect ourselves spiritually. Insults and staring are both forms of workplace bullying, and I have videos on them.
Pretty much EVERYTHING YOU SAID WAS EVERYTHING I’VE BEEN EXPERIENCING in over 20 different workplaces. This video reached deep into my soul. So much so that I was sitting in my car in the parking lot at Walgreens’s doing the ‘ugly cry’ and ppl were walking by looking at me like I’m crazy. I needed this release tho bcuz my physical health is suffering as a result of yrs of mental abuse and having everyone hate me for being kind, different, empathetic, sensitive, have integrity and being made to feel like a ‘freak.’ I know this experience has made me mentally stronger (still being myself, not giving up, can see that they are the damaged, sick ones, stand up for myself) but I have had chronic insomnia for yrs. I want to WFH, as I need a steady paycheck & affordable health insurance. Entrepreneurship is not for everyone & private healthcare is mega expensive! Thank you so much for this video. You should be a therapist or life coach or something. ☺️ I wish others going through this worldwide problem will come together and figure out a way to get through this together. It’s so sad that these sadistic, insecure, toxic b@stards are DOMINATING EVERY WORKPLACE AND TAKING OUT THEIR ANGER/CHILDHOOD ABUSE ON KIND, CARING, INTROVERTED, POLITE TYPES! NICE PPL DO FINISH LAST AND KINDNESS DOES NOT KILL!!! I HATE EVIL PEOPLE!!
May the favor of God rest upon you and give you strength to leave that environment. Money is not worth your life. Greatest advice I’ve been given is if it costs you your peace it’s way too expensive!
Stay strong I feel like crying because finally I am able to get validation god knows why people want to be mean when you are just trying to get on with your job my heart goes out to you big love from newzealand
That was awesome and so true! We are all on different spiritual levels. My best friend told me something that will stick with me forever! “New levels new devils”. Always be alert! The devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. He comes to kill, steal and destroy. We must stay sober minded. Faith over fear always! Stay safe and prayed ⬆️
Exactly, how insane is that. All of such people have a life they are not satisfied with. They tear others down, disturb others and harass others. Such people are very very unhappy with their own life.
I feel so alone my family and my workplace treat the exact same, anytime i defend myself I get gaslight. My mom and dad pick on my looks all the time but don’t give me any advice on how to improve it. It’s horrible.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. Often, what we experience in the workplace is a reflection of what we experienced in our family of origin. I know how bad it hurts when our parents do not understand and support us. Know that they are full of their own unhealed, unresolved trauma that they have never dealt with and are just projecting all that onto you because you make a convenient target. The best thing to do would be just to pray for your parents (if that is in accordance with your belief system). I know they are responsible for meeting your needs, but, actually, you are the one who can help them. Prayer works wonders.
This video is so incredibly accurate, I might have to watch it a second time in sheer awe. You are so right when you talk about their obsession with our bodies. I work in retail and have noticed that one of the creepiest things these creatures do is STARE and SIZE UP. I'm not afraid of sustained eye contact, and they will alternate between gawking at me and looking away out of intimidation. They honestly don't seem human to me, never have.
Thank you for your kind words. I have a video on staring as a form of workplace bullying. There is debate as to whether narcissists are actually human beings.
Ever since I was stalked by a young male at a retail store where I worked and barely survived with my life I have been followed and mobbed by freaky females. They are not right in their head and they are very aggressive. It started right away after I was stalked when questionable people started to cross my path at work. My name was and to this day was and is being dragged in the dirt. They simply project their own lives onto me and these females are involved in prostitution and are involved in a huge pedophile ring here in the city where I live. They will act out creepy scenarios wherever I appear. Scenarios that depict their own low lives and what is happening to them. They are a huge group so every day I am harassed at work by them or people they know. They have persecuted me ever since the stalking out of jealousy that I was stalked by this young male. At first I was so ill from the stalking I did not realize what they were doing when questionable people started to harass me and they all acted around me as if I and not the questionable women at work was the person with the questionable life. During 12 years now they laughingly act out as if I was a woman with that same questionable life style then they have. They depict me in the worst ways and the guys they know and who they are involved with within this huge prostitution and pedophile circle harass me every single day. It is so bad they try to hurt me physically at work by plowing into me at work. I have to drive different ways to work because their group threatens my life on interstates. The people they know have for years and years now tried to push me off the streets when driving. Now they try to do that when I try to drive on the interstate. They have actively moved into a group that wants to hurt me physically. After several incidents on the interstate now, while driving at high speeds, people that are in their group, driving huge vehicles have tried to push my small sedan off the road when driving on the interstate. Cops are involved, many of them corrupt because the people I reported the stalking to a long time ago where involved with corrupt cops and they all had had lose women at work who fabricated the worst story about me after I was stalked. You would be surprised how they immediately started to make up foul stories about me after the stalking, saying it right into my face, right after the stalking. It was immediate and it is done by corrupt officials and foul lose women. They enjoy that, to them it is a sport.
To sum it up I was harassed immediately by very bad guys and lose women at work as soon as those foul women realized I was stalked. And that has to this day not stopped. Their groups of gangs are huge and they all have the same foul live style at work. The things they act out every day are foul, foul, foul and are all scenarios a regular conservative woman like me is extremely opposed to. So now they not only threaten my life on interstates they childishly invent all these stories about me that paint me as a person with a completely different character. All in all they depict me as exactly the person that I have never been and as a person that does things I never do. And they do that in the worst way: aggressively in my face, together with the worst sexual harassment they can think off from both genders. To say they are disgusting in every way would be a huge understatement. The only thing I can do is to walk a different way as soon as one of them starts walking my way. All the ones that are in those harassment gangs, strangers to me, already know me and aggressively start walking towards me and all I can do is to immediately evacuate the area when they are aggressively walking towards me, staring at me and already knowing exactly that I am the target of their gang before I know the individual members. They are all extremely questionable guys and extremely questionable females that do that. And that is exactly how it was right after the stalking 12 years ago when extremely questionable women and extremely questionable guys way back then started to harass me.
I believe there is a spiritual component to narcissists, psychopaths and sadists; they are either highly demon possessed or they are actual demons walking the earth in human form. Their make-up is definitely NOT HUMAN.
I quit my job few weeks ago. It felt like I was walking on eggshells at the job. It was a fun job. I miss half of the coworkers there. But, this one coworker was just asking way too many personal questions and made me uncomfortable (right where customers can hear), I was made fun of me as I didn't make lot of money and other personal information. She would blame me, that I did it and not her. I was born with a learning disability. She even told a customer I'm a b**** and don't talk to her!" I reported her. The more, I kept track and reported her. The more, she wanted to do anything to get me fired. I'm a very caring coworker and always have a smile on my face. I treat people/coworkers with respect. When she talked about her dog to me and I would talk about mine and she would say, "I don't care about your dog!" I'm glad I found your videos. Thanks for the info. It felt like I was in high school again with the coworker.
Wow, I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to you. Sounds like that woman was just jealous of what a beautiful person you are. Yes, a workplace bullying environment is a high school, and you do have to walk on eggshells around these high-conflict personalities. It's so difficult to walk away from work you like. You did the right thing. I'm sorry about your experience but hope you have moved on to something better. Keep that beautiful smile on your face, and never, ever, let anyone put out your light.
It hurts, because it’s been every job that I’ve worked at since starting work at 16yrs old. I will be 32 this former and it’s been 16yrs of work place bullying. Sadly before workplace, it was school bullying by peers and teachers. Before childhood bullying it was my own family bullying and abusing me. People really call you crazy or messed up when you choose not to play their game anymore or to stay to yourself. They want you to get back in the game and get beat up over and over again until you die of a terminal illness.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you've been through. Many of us have been experiencing this our entire lives. You might want to watch my video entitled, "Workplace Bullying Is a Recreation of Your Dysfunctional Childhood Family of Origin." For some reason we keep subconsciously recreating the same patterns over and over again until we learn what we were supposed to learn. Yes, narcissists absolutely do not tolerate boundaries. If you demonstrate that you can not be bullied, they will bully you even more until you are eliminated.
I'm bullied at my teaching job because I get accolades and bonuses for my tests scores. Parents and students love me yet I'm low key. One woman who is less competent but everyone loves her has made my 7 year career so terrible. I'm a single mom with a mortgage and they know I need my job. They are all obese yet married and I'm not, and I hear all this gossip about my personal life and it's untrue.
I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through. Workplace bullying in schools is so bad that it has its own niche in the research. I have a video on it entitled, "Workplace Bullying in Schools." Did you know that the profession of education attracts more sociopaths than any other? Teachers are some of the most miserable people on the planet. It's a case of "misery loves company." If they can't be happy, you can't, either. Gossip is one of the workplace bullying techniques that I have identified, and I have a video on it entitled, "Gossip Is a Form of Workplace Bullying." I admire your courage, your strength, and your bravery for hanging in there, and thank you for your service to your students. If it helps at all, try to focus on them and the good work you are doing.
Omg when you talk about the narc being obsessed with your body you are SPOT ON!!!!! I subscribed. I'm dealing with this right now, and it's exhausting.
I am going through this and currently going into the third session of therapy because of intense bullying. My bullies denied everything they did. I reported it but the HR and all the bosses did not believe me. They were friends with the bullies. They gaslighted me, they threatened me to lose my job when I even uttered that word. They humiliated me and gossiped about me even more. They got away with it and would sneer at me in the hallways. I couldn't leave because of the pandemic. I was scared I won't find another job again.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. That's a perfect example of what happens when you go to H.R. I went to H.R., too - BIG MISTAKE - and got gaslighted within an inch of my life and ultimately forced to quit. I can't stress enough on this channel how utterly useless H.R. is. H.R. is not your friend. It isn't even human. That's exactly how H.R. responds: when they hear the word "bullying," they get scared. They just don't want to get sued. They would rather get rid of the one target than actually do something about all the bullies who are the real problem. That's why I always encourage my viewers never to come forward. It will not turn out well for you. Workplace bullying leaves scars that last a lifetime, and we do need therapy to deal with it. I hope it helps.
I believe whatever dark entity that possessing them just stops. Sometimes they want you gone because your light brings their demons out and it hurts them. Also just most of the time these people also bully their families and have a hierarchy friend group wihich consist of a variety of cluster b people, flying monkeys, and enablers. These people always have support from many people. I truly believe most people in society can only get along with people that are in some way abusing them or if they’re the one doing the abusing. The world doesn’t like empaths or kind people. They find us boring, not entertaining etc. but find the bully entertaining and fun to be around.
Thank you for this video, it's so true! I've been the victim of these kind of bullies in my work career. Most have been women. They've cost me jobs from sabotage. I'm fortunate to be able to work alone now, I actually have a phobia of working with others because of everything I've experienced
Thank you for sharing your story. We all have CPTSD from the abuse. Psychological abuse does more damage than physical violence. Agoraphobia is real. I have a fear of working with others and of other people in general. You're so lucky you get to work alone! The universe is protecting you. I wish I could work alone.
The only thing that several of my bosses have been really good at was . . . workplace bullying! It would be hilarious if it weren't so pathetic. I think I was happier before finding out that most workplaces are mental wards run by sociopaths. Welp, now I know!
Some of this stuff is genuinely funny. You can't make this stuff up. Sometimes, it's good to have a sense of humor about it. Some workplace bullies are actually good at what they do. Most of them are absolutely terrible, and bullying is all they can do. Yes, ignorance is bliss! We put on our rose-colored glasses, turn a blind eye, and sweep everything under the rug because we want something: money. We want this to work. I lived in denial for decades, and that's how I survived the horror. However, it really is better to pay attention to the red flags from the get-go and get those boundaries up the minute you walk through the door. It's called radical acceptance: know exactly what you are dealing with, and plan accordingly.
You said it, oh my gosh how many times I have repeated that to myself: I am working in a ....... mental ward run by narcist sociopaths. It is unreal how they want to threaten your financial security because t h e y have personal problems, I am so sick of it.
"You have more spiritual power than them, so use it!" I LOVE that!!! You are 100% spot on. Thank you for just saying it out loud. I'm going though this now with our newest coworker. She's been there 1.5 years and still acts helpless & needy. She portrays herself as a victim and tells the sadness stories about her personal life. Then she turns in to a viper. So people tip toe around her.. She can't stand that I'm a happy person, funny and well l Iiked at work. She's tried to tattle on me to our boss many times & every time it blows up in her face. I'm exhausted every day after all her petty attempts to try to get me to react. She's an energy vampire. Everyone feels it but no one does anything about it. I'm 55 & have never had a workplace narcissist bully like this to deal with. I seriously need to focus spiritually on this. I had been out sick for 2 weeks & she pounced on me as soon as I returned. I let her get to me for a minute but now it's time to 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏. Maybe even an exersism if I have to! 🤣🙃
All narcissists have a victim complex and love to play the victim. Workplace bullies almost always have a "sob story" that they whip out indiscriminately to get a pass for their appalling behavior. Narcissists also hate sick people and will use your illness against you instead of demonstrating basic human empathy, compassion, and caring. All workplace bullying is spiritual warfare that is happening on an energetic level. That's why you feel so drained. It is imperative that we learn to protect ourselves spiritually if we are going to be in the presence of people whose energy is absolutely vile.
And they always try to somehow copy your intelligence, your spirituality, your charisma and whatever other positive characteristics you have. They always do that, and when a low life like that tries to copy you it is so fake you just want to laugh and cry at the same time.
0:11 THANK YOU SO MUCH. I am SO TIRED of being gaslit and being told to just lie down and take it. I did not sign up to be abused at work and I’m not being compensated enough for that. Absolutely ridiculous behavior that continues to be tolerated. Companies don’t care about people and only care about profits. You mean nothing to them. Stand up and fight for what’s yours- and that includes your self respect and dignity.
You have the right attitude. Don't let it get so bad that it crushes your soul. You're right that organizations care nothing about individual human beings. However, they will pay a lot of lip service to how much they "value" their employees and gaslight you within an inch of your life about your "happiness" (after they bully you). It's all pathological lies. On an overcrowded planet, people are disposable to them. Even if the revolving door costs them an arm and a leg, they don't care: they would rather just swallow the expense than lift a finger to evolve.
Thank you for articulating this. It definitely is spiritual warfare on an energetic level. And I totally see the narcissistic nature of it all. I love being a kind and compassionate being. I love helping people and doing a great job at work. But I don’t take any shit either. I’ve been excluded all my life lol bring it on! I just vibe higher 🦋
You're welcome. I love being a good person, too. The function of all abuse is to put out your light. Narcissists are people who let other people put out their light a long time ago, and, now, they resent that you still have yours. As empaths we still have what they have lost: our connection to source. They want us to hate ourselves as much as they hate themselves. All good qualities come from God, and narcissists can not create any of them because they are completely and permanently disconnected from spirit. That's why everything that's really going on is happening on an energetic level. Yes, challenges in early life prepare us well: our skin is thicker than they think. I always bounce, which makes them hate even more. Keep your high vibration, which you create through your connection to the universe. That's the one way you win.
I spent 6 years in the Navy dealing with ostracism, gossip, and just being a target it general. Not like you can just walk away from it when you're stuck at sea for weeks on end. Shit messed me up lol
I am so sorry to hear what you've been through. I have no doubt the military is rife with bullying and abuse. Workplace bullying leaves scars that last a lifetime.
Oh they act as if they want to ostracize me, but that is not true. How much I wish every single day they would do just that and ostracize me and finally just not push their freak lives into my way.
I was let go from my job yesterday only after two weeks. The reason that they gave was that I was not performing my job while management was away. This is totally false. I did everything that was required of me. It was not a difficult job at all. I could tell that the manager did not care too much for me. During those two weeks five people, including myself were no longer working there. Something smells fishy. The operations manager and manger for the temp agency told me that HR was investigating this. I’m not buying it. I don’t think they are doing anything. I will also be getting in touch with there regional office. If in fact employees are being bullied, then it must stop now. I’m not really concerned about the possibility of getting my job back. I doing this for those who will work there in the future. I would greatly appreciate advice on how to handle this potential problem.
Workplace bullies are not above completely fabricating false accusations in order to get you eliminated from the workplace. High turnover and a revolving door are classic hallmark characteristics of a workplace bullying environment. I can't stress enough on this channel how utterly useless HR is when it comes to workplace bullying. HR exists for one reason and one reason only, and that's to protect the interests of the company. If you come forward, you put a target on your back as the problem. Workplace bullies always operate in groups, and it's easier for HR to just get rid of one person than do something about all the people who are the real problem. HR is not your friend. It isn't even human. If you've already left that toxic workplace, it might be time to just cut your losses. The remaining employees are not your responsibility. They have their own karmic journeys with the narcissistic workplace bullies. For the sake of your soul and sanity, the best you can do is move on and try to salvage yourself.
Update: A couple a weeks after I was let go from that job I had a dream that I returned. Something ended up going down at the company that fell on the lady who fired me. She was screaming in agony like she was being tortured. I saw this as a sign from God telling me to leave the rest to him. And that there was no more that I needed to do. She will definitely be getting hers someday. And it won’t be pretty.
Just been bullied for my size the past 3 years. I'm a guy and 5'3 and 134 pounds. People who target me were all 250 plus pounds. And not once did I bully people for their weight. The two women I worked with never bullied me, it was always the larger men.
I'm sorry to hear that. I knew men were cruel to one another in ways that I am not privy to. I mentioned weightism in my video on the prejudice of workplace bullies. Weightism works both ways: people get bullied for being both big and small. I suppose "heightism" is a thing, too. Good for you for not turning into the monster you despise. I have met many bullies who were obviously bullied for their physicality and let that break their hearts. Your spirit is strong. You are probably also fae.
I was confused for a long time why my narc female boss, who was in her 50s, seemed to be threatened by me, a quiet person from a low income class that took the bus to work, where she lived a mansion. So...why be jealous of me?
Isn't that something? Same here, I have always had to really watch my money, by far not as rich as many of them are. They are jealous of other qualities, human qualities.
This is so well spoken and analytical. I wish I had seen this video before I started my first corporate job last year. I am only 25 and been at this workplace for less than a year and the amount of BS I’ve had to endure from educated grown adults decades older than me is insane. But this video particularly resonates with me for what you said about being on a higher spiritual realm and the patterns to spot jealousy. I am a positive person and see the best in everyone so I trust easily and never thought someone who is my boss and old enough to be my mother would be trying to sabotage me. But sometimes it really is that you have a different sparkle to you that gets the attention of others or their love interest, which in turn fuels the narc’s jealousy. This 40 year old woman I reported to told me all this strange traumatic things about her personal life the first time we met, including how her husband has autism, her sister is a drug addict and her BIL committed suicide and then tried to bait me into sharing mine. When I grey rocked her, she’d talk about my personal life with coworkers behind my back and try to get information from them. I didn’t realize how toxic she was at the time, and went to her for career advice during my first few months and asked if I should look into getting any certifications or if there was anything I could do better. She told me I should “go walk by [her bosses name] office a couple of times and get his attention. And talk to him about your life”. I asked if the company would pay for a cert and she kept making it difficult for me- first she needed a word document, then she needed it longer and more detailed, and kept trying to get me to beg for it. She then started trying to mob me with another coworker- they talked and laughed about blowing up Muslims when we had lunch in a public cafe- after I brought it up she gaslit me and told me I was overreacting, then went to HR the next day behind my back and told them a completely different story about how I was bringing race into the workplace. I should have noticed when she was acting extremely friendly with me when others were around, but had an extremely nasty demeanor when it was just me and her. It’s clear she had no valuable skills and probably slept with someone at the org - why else would she make sexual innuendos and constantly refer to the company as a “boys club”.
Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad my videos resonate. I'm sorry to hear about what you've been through with that horrible woman, especially the Islamophobia you experienced. Workplace bullies are famously prejudiced because they are ignorant and superficial. I, too, have been bullied by people decades older than me and old enough to be my parents. You would think they would be more evolved, but, unfortunately, physical age has nothing to do with it: it's all about spiritual level. Bullies and abusers all try to get you to share your secrets by oversharing theirs. It is a form of manipulation. And of course they are all incredibly two-faced: fake-nice to the point of being nauseating in the presence of others and mean-spirited to your face when you are alone. And, yes, a lot of them do literally sleep their way to the top because they have nothing else to offer. Oldest trick in the book. That woman sounds like she suffers from the same demon that all workplace bullies do: pathological jealousy of your spiritual level.
Workplace bullies do not belong in the workplace. They’re narcissistic and a waste of company time and money and resources. They require excessive supervision and babysitting. Timeline notes an be quite a powerful weapon against them. If more people would documenting incident whether it involves self or co workers. They have the maturity and coping skills of a toddler and they are the petty workplace Karen’s. I have worked as a supervisor most of my adult life and had half a shift terminated for intimidating senior workers. The time line notes were instrumental in having the bullies terminated. The chronic complainers, they’re the ones that require extra supervision. Timeline notes also come in handy when work becomes unsuitable and the employee has no choice but to quit and need the unemployment benefits. Workplace bullies are not safe from my job duties as a supervisor. I think I know their brown nosing demeanor, red flag manipulating ways and it doesn’t set well with me.
I'm happy and hopeful to hear that there are leaders like you out there who are strong, intelligent, astute, and perceptive enough to recognize these people and how much damage they do and do what employers are supposed to do: get rid of them. However, I wholeheartedly disagree that documenting is an effective strategy against workplace bullying, and I strongly advise my viewers against it. Recording others without their consent is illegal. Documenting amounts to nothing more than glorified journaling, so you can document if you want to, but, ultimately, it results in a game of "he-said-she-said." If I write down that Bully X used a mind game to call me "stupid" at 12:03 p.m., so what? All the bully has to do is lie and say, "No, I didn't," and that's the end of that. Documenting is nothing more than a laundry list of behaviors that would not hold water in a court of law. Documenting workplace bullying doesn't work - because there's nothing to document.
@@clairehuntonline it depends on the one who takes notes. It works well in health care just like nurses notes which is a legal documentation.. Time lines notes use the same applications as nurses notes. It’s much more reliable than memory recall. It worked when I discovered half of a shift were bullying and intimidating senior workers. The corroborated time line notes one of the victims had the bullies fired.
Thanks for this. Trying to explain it to people that either don't get it or choose not to because they want to perpetuate the cycle is crazy-making. I made an instrumental project about the subject, because I was starting to have a hard time talking about it. Thanks again, it resonates.
You're welcome!! It's difficult even for me to articulate because it's so insidious. Unfortunately, workplace bullying is something people just can't understand unless they've been through it themselves. People choose not to get it because it triggers their own trauma they haven't healed. That is in my video "Emotional Illiteracy."
It’s amazing listening to this - I feel understood. Someone from compliance team asks what would possibly motivate senior managements bullying junior top performer? U nailed it! It’s the intangible stuffs. The goodness in the target, the energy, confidence, light, spirits that they will never have.
Bosses bully subordinates because those subordinates outrank them - spiritually. Even the people in power don't know how to own their power and just wield it responsibly. They always want more. It's a zero-sum game for them. These people do not know how to do power-sharing. "If you have any power at all, that means that I don't." Ultimately, it's a power struggle - just like all workplace bullying. The point is to get out of the dance.
So much to say. So many experiences to share. I'm an empath that works out regularly & am in great shape. I have been a target just about everywhere I've gone. I endured a LOT of abuse & sucked up great mental & emo pain for the sake of my 'career' (LMAO!). Starting in my 40s, I took to walking off jobs mid-shift when the bullying started- I can see it coming a mile away, beginning with a sneer, a look up & down upon intro. As an empath, I chose my spirit as more important than my bank account. However, the pain sticks with me, like PTSD. Even when I've identified it's their issues & not mine, that I have no control over another's jealousy & the misery they created for themselves, the residual is still painful. All I can do is not get angry (i.e.- resort to their level. name call & sabotage), and walk away. Management is going to take the side of the loudest voice to make the issue go away, so there's no point in going to them; besides, as an empath, you'll always get the blame. This vid is comforting & reassuring, but there really is no solution. It's going to be a choice that comes with sacrifice, one way or the other. All you can do is dig deep & accept the consequences, but ALWAYs recognize that being an empath is a gift! And don't EVER let them bring you down.
Thank you. I'm so sorry to hear about what you went through. I can relate. A lot of targets of workplace bullying have permanent CPTSD. Yes, management is useless. One of the points I make about workplace bullying is that it is the result of weak leadership, and I have a video on that. The squeaky wheel gets the grease because the loud bullies look like the "cool kids," and everyone in the place is a weak coward who never graduated from high school and cares more about being liked than being respected. I agree that empathy is a gift, and our victory is surviving with our integrity intact.
How ridiculous is a so called leader that not only can not control such people at work and protect innocents but also ends up attacking an innocent person in the exact same way?
I agree with everything you said. In my last workplace, the bully would fake compliment me every day on something physical. "Oh I just love that shirt." "Oh you have such a nice body." On and on blah blah blah
They are superficial because they are so empty. And they really, really, really view other human beings as nothing more than objects. They don't have the spiritual depth to be able to get past surfaces. At almost 48 years old, after 30 years of being bullied, I am DONE with being objectified. I do not accept comments about my physical body or my personal life in the workplace. At this point I would rather protect myself than have my boundaries violated so other people can feed off of my energy. If you can not meet me on an intellectual level then I am just not having it.
You nailed the pettiness. She knows I see right thru her fake compliments and I definitely stood up to her the first time she tried me. So I'm expecting the passive aggressive backlash. Already looking for something else because she is a pathological liar.
All workplace bullies are pathological liars. They are fake because they are superficial. All workplace bullying is a passive-aggressive backlash against your refusal to submit to their power, domination, and control. They are abusers.
Ive had my current job for five weeks. The bullying is getting worse by the day. She treats me so bad, Im convinced that im the one who is scum. Nothing I do is good enough and I always get screamed at by her. She also told me I stink. I told the bosses but nothing changed and now I just feel like a tattle tale.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. Try not to internalize it. People like you are the reason I have this channel - so you can know that "IT'S. NOT. YOU." It is 100-percent their problem. It's always best never to report bullying or harassment of any kind, but, unfortunately, we all have to learn that the hard way. Remember that bullies are emotionally disregulated people who are trying to project all of their own unprocessed, unhealed pain and trauma onto you, but you don't have to take it on.
Stop. Do not internalize anything. All cruelty comes from weakness They are weak. They hate themselves Dont let them project themselves on to you. Theres a reason your targeted.... Please Be strong
Stop. Do not internalize anything. All cruelty comes from weakness They are weak. They hate themselves Dont let them project themselves on to you. Theres a reason your targeted.... Please Be strong
Stop. Do not internalize anything. All cruelty comes from weakness They are weak. They hate themselves Dont let them project themselves on to you. Theres a reason your targeted.... Please Be strong
They have all of these so called things but it means nothing without peace in your soul,,this is what triggers them,,its energetic,,,spiritually they see our light and they want to put it out so the y can feel better about who they trully are
That's exactly right. They will never know peace in this lifetime because they think that peace is something outside of themselves. They can't turn inward because they can't stand the ugliness they see in the mirror. They can try to put out our light, but it will never work.
@@clairehuntonline absolutely that's why things and us are there preoccupation because they are empty inside and do not possess the things that matter,,,it's energetic,,I go somewhere and 50 of them show up,, NPCS
Man I've gone through life just being chill with people. I never wanted attention...maybe as a child but I would have been cool just being alone. Unfortunately I'm the guy everyone likes to talk to but everyone has pushed me out of every job for decades. I never heard the word narcissist until the last few years.
I'm sorry to hear that. You sound introverted, empathetic, and agreeable - all qualities that we know statistically narcissists are attracted to. I've been learning about narcissism for only six years. Still learning. But, as you learn about it, it really helps make sense of the craziness in the workplace.
@@clairehuntonline Totally agree...not just the workplace but the world. I've always wondered what was wrong with people after an interaction or a dispute and now it all adds up. People shoot off their mouth thinking they know everything when in fact everything is about their ego. The reason we are attacked in the workplace is because they are so triggered that we don't need the chaos and gossip because we are at peace.
I'm experiencing it from Christian owners who know my medical history and my past and they have hired all kinds of bullys. They will literally run outside and start using the blower for the grass in the rain duringmy breaks. I have videos. They use all kinds of tactics. They try to provoke jealousy. This is actually a community effort as I am still in my hometown. Police are involved etc. And right now lucky to be alive
Ive had this happen last Friday. With a supervisor she was teaching me a new department i took the risk in trying i was out of my comfort zone but wanted to prove to myself i can do it. i realized from the start she talked poorly about others in the office and i knew for a fact when i wasn’t around she was talking about me. She would say things like some ppl are slower than others and laugh to someone and it wasn’t just me she was saying that about. But It’s OK if someone takes their time to learn something new everyone is different and that is FINE ! i kept taking her jabs but i snapped and ended up telling her off in front of everyone she drew my last straw i did let HR know what happened so their investigating it as we speak it has caused me emotional distress. Ive dealt with this in the past and I’m tired of it. I can not be surrounded by negative ppl my mental health is too important. I will NOT deal with disrespect those bullies need to be confronted and know that being toxic isn’t ok. She was truly stunned i told her off and I’m glad i told her how I felt maybe she will think TWICE before talking poorly about ppl again. Thank u for this video it comforted me ❤️
You're welcome. If workplace bullies are talking negatively about other people in your presence, for sure they are talking negatively about you, too. Good for you for confronting and standing up to a bully, but usually that doesn't work. I can't stress enough on this channel how useless HR is. HR exists for one reason and one reason only, and that is to protect the interests of the company. They don't care about individual employees. When it comes to workplace bullying, HR is not your friend. It isn't even human.
You are very very right. My intelligence is insulted by those kind of work bullies every single day. It is like fighting pit bulls. They know as soon as they harass me for the most idiotic things that I will be stressed and I can assure you: no human being will perform well at work when the human is stressed. They know that: they gang up on you and distress you, then watch you if you make a little mistake, and then will seek you out them being like heat missiles and pointing out what you did wrong. When their harassment is really bad there is no way you will even be able to unfold your full intelligence at work. Of course they know that. It is a career stopper. Some of them will then try to compare you to people who are not very smart and try to make you look as if you have the exact same problems that not so smart person has. Their games are never ending and in my case they very obviously state all of my qualities at work as if those qualities belong to them. It never ends with these bad actors.
I like you. A lot. Straight to the point and focused while speaking to us, not to mention your words. I've been down because of this issue, and you drove it home for me. I am thinner, etc., than my bully, but I knew it was more than that. It's because I'm happy and spirituality strong. She even accused me of being a cocaine user because I'm always happy and genuinely love my profession. And she also said she was an empath when it was an odd time and place for her to just throw that out there. I can't thank you enough, I watched it three times in a row.
Thank you!! I like you, too!! I believe I have been bullied for being a thin person, and I've mentioned that in my videos. Yes, workplace bullies really are that superficial. I, too, have been accused of "doing drugs." Technically, I have smoked marijuana five times in my life, and the last time was over 23 years ago. Other than that I've never been in the same room with any illegal substance. I don't know where the "drugs" thing comes from - other than the fact that I was always thin and living in what has been called the "fattest city in America," so ignorant people think the only way to be thin is to abuse drugs. Yes, what people ultimately are jealous of are the qualities of your spirit. Because they are so spiritually unaware, they can't put their finger on it - so they just project whatever nonsense they can at you. One of the things they are really jealous of is your joy: workplace bullies are killjoys and will go out of their way to try to take away the passion you have for your profession. I hope in your case they never succeed. Keep doing your good work, and stay your high-vibrational self!
My new coworkers are exactly like this...they have been verbally attacking me for months. Finally, I told them how I felt disrespected. They told my boss I'm emotionally unstable. Instead of repimanding my coworker, they offer me EAP and open a "incident" investigation. I know my coworkers will spin their own narrative. I pray my boss is smart enough to see thru them. Seems I better start looking for a new job. I'm attractive, personable and well liked . I'm kind with much empathy everyone. I'm great at my job. Several clients have jokingly and sweetly asked me to marry them. These are elderly men in wheelchairs. My coworkers turned me in to upper management for encouraging a climate of sexual harassment. Its been so bad, I put scotch tape over my mouth, under my mask, to keep from responding. I needed this today...Thank you.
Sorry to hear about what you're going through. You sound like the perfect target for workplace bullying: attractive, kind, and really, really good at your job. Workplace bullies are defined by pathological jealousy. They are also MASTER gaslighters. I am not at all surprised that they are trying to paint you out to be the "crazy" one. You are not: you're probably just an empath in a toxic environment. I hope your boss is smart enough to take your side or you get out of there soon. Best of luck to you.
Thank you for your kind words. I really love my job. I work with Veteran's at The VA. I am remaining optimistic and hopeful. I'm also prepared for the worst. Watching your videos has given me courage to fight for our heroes. I am mother to a young Marine with a purple heart. So I know the struggle , firsthand ,how precious life is. Some fight everyday just to stay alive...many don't make it. I hope every struggling servicemember can find hope through me, just I have found hope through you. Once again...many thanks! 💜
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry about your situation. They are vultures, they have ganged up on me for over 12 years. Sometimes it is so bad I just want to crack up laughing how stupid they are, other times I want to cry about how aggressive they are. Every single time I have a nice interaction with males, only males that have a normal mature vibe and who often are just being friendly, (certainly not people who send off a freaky vibe or abusive vibe), women will descent on me like vultures, act as if they are the ones that wears a complimenting outfit instead of me, will act like they are cute or smart like me. It is a theatrical production that rivals a Hollywood Film Set on any given day.
Oh my god. This is exactly what I am going through. They deny the abuse and gaslight me instead. I was also offered EAP because they said it is only in my head.
Omg! Yes! Im a red head, n Im well spoken n too comfortable with myself.... I feel like people who are bullying me are very not ok w the fact that im "too" comfortable with myself n have to try to destroy me feeling comfortable w myself. But it seems like they want to make me look like I am the one who is like that. And im definitely an empath and see through them, I notice almost everything honestly. Its almost a curse. But yes ive begun to feel like its spiritual in nature. Because ive felt so depressed I started feeling suicidal feelings, id never do it cuz I dont think it solves anything but it just seems my ehole life ive gotten targeted n smeared n i dont understand why sometimes but ive started to realize they cant stand me shining. Sad...and yes, yes, yes, its absolutely a spiritual attack n they cant stand a person w integrity and light that shines... its like you have to dim your light.... omg.... though.... oh myyy God.... this is so on point... ive been dealing w this n feel like i cant even work anywhere where theres too many people... thank you so much for making this video...
Yes, it's spiritual warfare for sure. Evil in this world seeks to lower everyone to the same base, primitive, lowest common denominator of self-loathing. Evil can not destroy God's love for us, but it can make us hate ourselves so that we block our own blessings. Often, you are targeted simply because you never let life make you hate yourself as much as they hate themselves. If you don't descend to their low level of insecurity and jealousy, of course that automatically means "you think you're better" than they are. People said it so much to me that I finally started to believe it.
@@clairehuntonline Yes, yes, yes!!! Oh my goodness yes!!! Thank you so much for actually adding the spiritual elements to it because I think it's key n fundamental core truth that needs to be understood to really understand it on a deep level, and also understand that you can forgive them knowing it's not really personal n also they are, In a sense a victim as well to these negative forces that unfortunately they became too weak n succumbed to it n didn't have enough or any self love to climb their way out or keep their head above water with it... ive dealt w a lot of abuse n difficulties but had some tools knowledge strength n good teachers n such probably a stronger spirit n maybe not as much or difficult of trauma to endure as perhaps some of the people who become so lost n overtaken by it... ive been asking for insight n understanding n for a way, n reasons to be forgiving, I don't want to hold onto that anger n hatred n resentments, n let them have power over me and also let the darkness n negativity take over, n overwhelm me, so that it's hard to get back out again.... I have to find a way to fight it n overcome it, n you have to seek the truth n find ways to deal w these things process them as much as you can forgive accept the reality have the self love to not let it destroy you or define you... idk... these are not easy things situations or people to deal with... and ultimately I think it's just very sad that we live in a world where souls get broken to the point of becoming dark and unloving n cruel sometimes... because they're so hurt the only thing they can do is fight n hurt others desperately trying to cope n survive the hell they're in mentally n emotionally n what ever else ways... sometimes physical. But thank you again it's really wonderful n good that we have people sharing their experiences because otherwise you can start to feel like its you n get confused or really think you're crazy or a unlovable worthless human being that Noone loves likes or wants except to use n hurt n abuse... so I thank you n everyone sharing their experiences on these topics... you would never expect people to be like this, so it's understandable when others aren't so quick to believe you.... still makes it feel isolating n worse... very depressing... G9d bless you Claire... I appreciate you n your video very much... take care of yourself... 🙏😊😇💖
THANK YOU!!! I've been dealing with bullying at work for the past 3 years now at my current job and have dealt with it in other jobs. This really explains it!
••Targeted Individual (Ti) ~ A person who becomes a target for various forms of harassment. ••Harassment ~ Any repeated or continuous uninvited contact that serves no useful purpose beyond creating alarm, annoyance, or emotional distress. ••Stalking ~ Criminal activity consisting of the repeated following and/or harassing of another person. It is a distinctive form of activity composed of a series of actions that taken individually are not criminal. But, when these actions are coupled with an intent to instill stress, fear, or injury then they may constitute a pattern of behavior that is illegal. ••Gangstalking ~ Stalking that is organized and carried out by two or more people. An extreme form of harassment, gangstalking consists of psychological torment which can negatively affect or even destroy every aspect of a targeted individual's life. ••Gaslighting ~ Various forms of deception that causes victims to doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity. Instances may range from the denial that previous incidents ever occurred, up to the staging of bizarre events by the abusers that is meant to disorient and traumatize the victim. This psychology term is derived from Patrick Hamilton's 1938 play Gaslight, about a woman whose husband slowly manipulates her into believing that she is going insane. ••Vilifying the victim ~ A psychological tactic that puts a victim on the defensive while simultaneously masking the intent of the manipulator. When malicious actions are directed towards a targeted individual (Ti), the manipulator falsely accuses the victim as being the abuser in response when they stand up for or defend themselves. ••Reciprocal liking retraction ~ A psychological bullying tactic used to emotionally torment a targeted individual. How this works is a person or group will initially act friendly towards a person, creating a bond. Then, when an undetermined amount of time has passed, the abusers will ignore, mock, and ridicule their target causing anything from annoyance or frustration to emotional trauma or suicide. ••Learned helplessness ~ A mental state that occurs after a person has experienced stressful situations repeatedly, especially ones that are not responded to correctly. They are resolved to feeling powerless, believing that they are unable to control or change things, even when an opportunity to do so arises.
Very helpful. You reminded me of so many things that happened back in the day when I was constantly abused in corporate environments until starting my own business and moving overseas to work. Once @ Medtronic in Minnesota, I was working as a contractor and took meticulous training notes. I was proud of them and emailed them to a manager for future classes, whereupon I was summoned to meet with her boss, who grilled me as to why I was "talking to lawyers" (I'd written down a lawyer's phone number he'd written on a whiteboard during a class he led as part of our training). That night the staffing firm called about 7 p.m. and told me that my services were no longer required. A friend later told me that a junior manager had been tasked with sitting next to me to take notes and make me look bad, and as soon as I was fired, she stopped sitting there.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you. I actually did speak to an attorney and was gaslighted within an inch of my life and bullied out of my position because of it. I, too, have gotten firing phone calls at night. You did the right thing by starting your own business and moving abroad. Congratulations.
You know every single time I read other people's stories about corporate harassment I gasp. Their idiotic behavior that reminds you of such childish behavior is something that shows each time how ridiculous these people are and how they stop at absolutely nothing to get to people who do not want to be a part of their workplace gangs.
My barber teacher was a bully. He would get personal with me which had nothing to do with barbering. He would talk about my job outside of the barber school like I was a failure. It was sick. He was sick. He use to read my Instagram account captions to the class. It was so strange because I did not follow him on Instagram at all. He would read ALL of my posts. He use to comment on how I would filter my photos. He tried to isolate me from the class. I ended up telling him about himself and he could not handle it. He even told a drug dealer to sell me drugs. I mean what kind of teacher does that? I blocked him on Instagram but that didn't even help.... he got another account to look at my posts. Just sick people. I stood up to him and it was tiring.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you went through. That is the workplace bullying technique of "stalking," and I have a video on it entitled, "Workplace Bullies Stalk Their Targets." That teacher was very clearly obsessed with you, and it may even have been sexual in nature. I'm not surprised that he is a teacher. Did you know the profession of education attracts more sociopaths than any other profession? Workplace bullying in schools is so bad that it is its own niche in the literature.
@@clairehuntonline yes thank you for listening to me. I agree he was obsessed with me. Because people really don't understand the effects of being around such a person. But it's important to always stand up to them.
Thankyou lovely lady 🙂 I have been putting myself down and even got angry and confronted a girl at work thinking I had to fight fire with fire, but to ignore her is the way to go. She tried to make me seem ugly by making me mad. I now see how pitiful that is and will never lower my self to her level ever again.
You're welcome!! Thank you!! Yes, when we "fight back," we stoop/lower ourselves to their level. It feels disgusting in your body, and it should. The whole point of workplace bullying is to get a rise out of you/know that it gets to you. Never give them what they want. That's why one of my recommendations about workplace bullying is to laugh and smile all the time.
Hey Claire I'm listening to your video as we speak and I'm so thankful that I stumbled across your video because everything you're saying is spot on I just started my job 2 weeks ago and I'm very shy and reserved my supervisor and the other girls at my job treat me so bad I told myself I can't take it know more it's starting to make me feel helpless, suicidal and alone. There are people who witness the way I'm being bullied it's constant all day everyday my supervisor is picking at me as if she wants me to quit and give up but I won't although I cry because I feel helpless I have to see it through besides my circumstances wont allow me to quite I'm just so tired....
So sorry to hear about what you're going through. Sounds like you are in a Cinderella situation. Your shyness is what got you targeted. Those women misinterpreted it as you not liking them. These people are horrifically insecure and refuse to take "no" for an answer. In their mind they're just getting you back for what they think you did to them. I know how exhausting it is, but I admire your courage, bravery, and strength.
Yes it’s not about work. My bullies subjected me to a workplace investigation alleging that I couldn’t perform my duties. When the workplace investigation report came out, it wrote that the investigator could not find any findings about my lack of work performance.
Thank you for sharing your story. That's a very rare example of things working out in the favor of the target - for once. Usually, when they can't come up with anything against you, they just make it up. They are not at all above fabricating false documents as a permanent part of your employment record. The easiest thing to do is for them to simply project all of their own mistakes on you ... especially after you're gone.
Yes they do fabricate documents against a target. I have an anecdote relating to fabrication of evidence. My boss called me in one day for a “chat” and she accused of me of going outside for a break without signing out. This was NOT true. I told her so. And she said that “… someone reported it to her…”. She wrote this allegation in my probation report as if it was a factual event that happened.
Yes,yes,yes, you hit that ball right outta the park! I am also going through this for the 3rd time,lol. Now in all seriousness this has become a epidemic. When you figure out the psychology of these people you are already a step ahead of the game. With me it was exactly as this wise women stated. I had to hear numerous times how these women were not into wearing makeup to work. I got the insult the first time but chose not to care. That's the whole purpose of free choice but since they seemed to not care they sure felt a need to mention it numerous times,lol. That's a control technique that has probably worked for these clowns in the past. After that it was intentional ostrisizing me from work responsibility (which I blame on management), not letting me know if we were getting out early and intentionally, either withholding Information needed to do my job correctly or choosing to act as tho they could not hear me when I asked a question. Then the 3rd step which is to eliminate the fantasized threat by having them quit or going to the extreme of lying to get the person fired. Let me explain that this all just happened to me this week and I was terminated. I think it is also very important to add that this job was new and I was hired in at a friends recommendation. The friend that recommended me was a co-worker who I had worked with at a previous job where the one thing we had in common was our supervisors complete hate for us. We dealt with so much sh!t that it would make your head spin. She walked off first and I eventually quit due to the psychopaths determination to annihilate my sheer existence. The reason for me adding this to the story is that shockingly my friend above became my next enemy. Yep, unfortunately this happens people. The bullied becomes the bully either out of sheer fear or lack of integrity or just immaturity. I did everything that I thought I could but these people are skilled and those that are not become real quick. I noticed a change the first week when I would not join in with them on terrorizing another employee. That made me a target. I am disappointed in my friend and even pulled her a side to see if I was missing something since she all of a sudden was salty and as cowards due she acted surprised and blamed the poor lady they were attempting to destroy. My friend did a complete and total change of character. I honestly didn't know this new person but that is the truth to mobbing and bullying and as I stated it is running ramped. I pray for all who this eventually impacts but your integrity is more important than their narcissism.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry to hear about what happened to you! It's true: you have no real friends in a workplace bullying environment.
@@clairehuntonline Yes thank you again for your videos! 🙏🏼💞 I’ve been experiencing this at a lot of jobs in this small town I live in. When you don’t talk smack with them about a co-worker, manager, or owner they get offended and then go to that person and talk about you with them. It’s outlandish to see how many people go along with the manipulation, especially when it’s people in leadership positions. People just love and feed off the negativity and loath anything positive, productive, and uplifting… 🙄
You're welcome. That sounds like a toxic environment. The negativity is how they stay among the "cool kids." They have to go along with the crowd or risk being ostracized and bullied themselves.
WOW more people need to watch this video, She is 100% right this is the answer I've been looking for, Now I understand I knew this was the reason. Very good video.
Claire, thank you so much for this insight, it explains really a lot! It is three days ago that I escaped from the place where I worked for only 2.5 weeks. It all happened so fast, with the speed of light, that only now I start to see what was going on and the massiveness of the attack, and that it was not my skewed percrption or my subjective interpretation.
You're welcome. I'm glad it helped. I've had VERY short-term jobs, too, because the bullying started immediately. It's like these people decide to hate you the minute they meet you, sometimes even BEFORE meeting you (over the phone for example). Some narcissists are actually quite smart: they can intuitively sense that they are dealing with someone who will not grant them narcissistic supply and who sees right through the narcissistic ego. They can't have that, so they have to get rid of you. No, you're not crazy: one of the reasons I do these videos is to help other targets recognize that they are not alone. Workplace bullying is real, and your feelings are perfectly justified.
@@clairehuntonline and this is a lot! Otherwise, when facing such a situation alone, it is almost inevitable to at least start to question one's own sanity and dignity... A question pops up in my head: why would they need to employ someone, they know from the very beginning, they are going to hate and to treat so badly? It is already scary only to admit what a possible answer can be. Thanks again for what you are doing!
Thank you for this video. Unfortunately I was constantly dismissed and ostracized by a work place bully who was my coordinator at a program I was at. She had a mob of flying monkeys 🐒 who were similiar ethnic background which allowed her to be rude to me. It was delibating being ignored and not invited to certain events except by my male mentor...who I was afraid to mention anything because he was from the same island as her...women are homoerotic to other women and I'm glad you pointed it out. At the end of my program, I left with grace, and the bully had the nerve to consider to meet with coffee ☕️ then added me to my LinkedIn...just foul how some people are ..they pretend that they care about their community and spirituality while they specifically target and harm others in the background..especially these politicians. I blocked 🚫 the person from my phone, added them to my LinkedIn out of mutual respect and put their post on mute because it's pure fakeness of assisting other people while strategically ostracizing others.
I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you. What you experienced is the workplace bullying technique of "snubbing," and I have a video on it: "Narcissistic Silent Treatment - Snubbing - Stonewalling in the Workplace." I know it's hurtful. Good for you for leaving with your integrity intact. Yes, I have been sexually harassed more by women than by men, and I know that many of my bullies were sexually motivated. It's disgusting. That woman was stalking you after you left the workplace, and I have a video on that, entitled "Workplace Bullies Stalk Their Targets." The reason they stalk you after you have left the workplace is that they are obsessed with you, need confirmation of what they did to you, and haven't found a new source of supply. I always recommend NEVER connecting with any of these people on social media - EVER. They don't deserve your "respect." You don't want any kind of connections to any of these people - especially energetically.
People hate you for three reasons. They hate themselves, they want to be you, they see you as a threat.
Or just dominance and subordinance, pure power and control basically. Ive seen it time and time again, they seek out the vulnerable, usually nice ppl who arent well connected within the social hierarchy (defenceless) and just prey on them. They just get a hit, a high, a buzz out of preying on certain types of ppl. Calculated murderers are the same. They seek out vulnerable ppl and kill them, its the predator/prey dynamic. Its no fun to bully/murder ppl with some pride, confidence, its actually pointless to them is it doesnt fulfil the very essence of their sickness which is to prey on the weak. Narcissists are the same. They crave to dominate, manipulate and emotionally destroy the weak, the nice, the good, this is the core of what gets them going, its why its so twisted as they dont attempt it with ppl with any dignity or backbone, in fact they show high deference and respect to these ppl where it comes off as fake and contrived.
@@michaelshannon9169it’s like lions hunting buffalo. They always seek out the young, old, and sick buffaloes. I have never seen them attack a healthy Cape buffalo. You’re more likely to see buffaloes attack and kill lions
One more is, they hate your aura, light, spirit whatever you choose to call it
@@michaelshannon9169That’s not always the case in workplace bullying and you need to understand that it’s not a classic case of bullying but rather a psychological attack. You can be a person that doesn’t take any mess but in the workplace you think you have to be passive to keep your job. That’s why these predators are highly skilled, they take your situation and use it to their advantage, it has nothing to do with weakness and more with status. If they know you need the money, they will attack you subliminally.
It's just an extension of high school. Jealousy, gossip, tattling, backstabbing, being the most popular, being the boss. Sound familiar ? high school 2.0. Bullies are jealous losers.
I agree, bullying always starts with the physical appearance. Usually the bully likes to harass a female that is way better looking than they are. lol
Not in my case. I’ve never been viewed as a member of the cute girls club and from what I’ve seen I don’t want to be a member of the mean girls club either. I was told by a friend at work, which is questionable, that the alpha female bully in the department said I had a face like a possum and there are people who think possums are cute so I appreciate the compliment 😊
Same goes for Men...Handsome Men are hated
You’re the first person I’ve found on YT that agrees that workplace bullying is a form of narcissistic abuse. Yes. It is an addiction. Great work love your videos!
@@Bornintoclusterb same.
I found this video while trying to find "group narcissistic behavior".
She's such a badass and brutally honest and funny
This has happened to me just about every single job I worked at. I never notice it was abuse and bullying until recently this year. They always try to scapegoat me and it always somehow backfires on them in the end.
I'm sorry to hear about what you've been through. It can take us a while to realize what is really happening because it's so unbelievable. Bullies always get their karma in the end.
Every insatiable drive has it's "process". It's very interesting and entertaining to see a bully cause the effect of their own demise. Stay cool, calm, and collective as you simply observe their egotistic and narcissistic behaviour. Their karma is already in the process of materializing as you observe the sails of their storm. You deserve to be treated with respect and value as you are worthy of more.
Its spiritual warfare. Pray over your job everyday. Pray for God to help watch your tongue. Its so hard not to just out them for the Ahole they are.
Here's why. "No weapon formed against thee shall prosper." - Isaiah 54:17 Praise God!🙏
@@DeL5371 Amen! Yes! Today at work, I was in a group meeting with 5 other women. One of the women was promoted to "team lead" last week but she is a bully and very cunning in her bully like behavior. I told her to her face, at the meeting, with the other women present this: "I don't answer to you. You are a bully and I will not stand for that. I will not allow it." She shot back with: "I am not a bully and I am a team lead. Well, I thought respect is earned, not demanded. But I did tell her straight out to her face: "You are a bully, you are a bully and I will not stand for that. I will not." I am so glad I stood up to her and had several witnesses. Women are vicious. Plus, this woman is incompetent and was "promoted" and demands "respect." I told her: "I don't answer to you, you are not in fact my boss" which was 100% true. I have an actual boss and to that person, I answer, Not to the screaming 5 foot 2 chiuauaha bully.
Every word of this is truth!! Also a lot of times I was hated/envied for my physical appearance, but even when I was 50 lbs overweight they still hated/envied my energy! They hated that I was a happy person inside!
My neighbors bully me. They can do something but if I do the exact same thing they threaten me, etc. Most people are bullies. They want to have the last word and have their way or else.
This is scary accurate…they will literally grab at your body and point out things. So for you to say that they’re obsessed with your physical body is really scary that’s wild
Oh I forgot to mention that these bullies will engage in gang up and gang mobbing. I’ve experienced it.
I just lost my job due to this. I haven’t known how to feel. The stress of the day to day bullying and harassment and the fear of what comes next had my hair falling out, panic attacks, weight loss, and then the weirdest symptom- falling asleep on myself. Since being fired (for no apparent or real given reason) the symptoms have cleared up. I can totally believe this because the perpetrator - another female - started walking like me- talking like me - everything and in the same breath lying about me, constantly pretending to find mistakes , smearing my name to the partner attorneys . It was the worst experience of my life and I am praying each and every night for this very sick person.
Thank you for sharing your story. What you are describing is two workplace bullying techniques - "Stalking" and "Lying" - and I have videos on both of them. It's like the movie "Single White Female": this person starts dressing like you, doing their hair like you, and exercising and eating like you. When they start showing up in your experience outside the workplace, that's when it gets scary. All narcissists pathologically lie because a narcissist IS a lie (false self). They really see nothing wrong with all the lies they tell, and - worse - they actually believe them. The abuse does get so bad that it affects our physical health. I certainly lost weight and experienced both hair loss and sleep disturbances because of it. You do not need to pray for sick people. It is not your responsibility. It's an exercise in futility because these people never change. You can not "show them the light." All you can do is reclaim yours. Focus on yourself. Never let them put out your light. Always stay the light you are in the world.
They don't have a soul. God warns us these are the evil he calls out in the bible. Pray for your protection against them.
@@clairehuntonline my bully got me to the point where I left a good paying position- it left the company in a lurch as I was no longer there to catch severe technical problems. He lost a mid 5 figure bonus because production ground down.
Oh yes, that is what they do to me too. That someone is insane enough to do such things is hard to comprehend. Someone like that does not tick right.
@@clairehuntonline my workplace bully , the main one, now wears a chain exactly Iike mine around his neck. I noticed it at the last compulsory drink gathering. I wear mine because its from my country, a small country, so ii never take it off as its very sentimental. He was flagrantly wearing one when it's kind of associated with being my trademark
Most work place bullies are typically women. In my own case i know they have an obsession with my body.
Update my female workplace bully has succeeded in having me removed from a project just because I am confident in my self. She spread lies and even the team of women who reviewed her complaint told me they fought against her and don't believe a single word of what she says. I'm just glad to be out.of a toxic environment. It can be contagious.
@@Malingerer1505 That's horrible. I'm so sorry to hear that happened. Workplace bullies have had me removed, too. They are pathetically insecure and HATE anyone who is confident. Yes, if we spend too much time in a toxic environment, we get sick. I'm glad you're glad to be out of there.
@@Malingerer1505 It sounds like she envy your looks and good job performance.
True. Workplace bullies are defined by pathological jealousy, including of your physical appearance and your work ethic.
I don't know about you guys, but there is nothing more freaky than same gender sexual harassment at work. They freak me out so bad I often hurt myself just trying to get out of their way. Total freaks, I tell you.
I'm so grateful to find this channel. A very important thing I was also told, abusers don't ask us questions about ourselves to get to know us, they're collecting data for future ammunition.
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Actually my work was being sabotaged and altered to make me look like I was making extreme mistakes. A supervisor and I actually caught an employee in the QC department who was being trained to target certain people. She was eventually fired, not all that did this to me got caught because at one company the supervisor was using employees as flying monkeys to target certain employees and I was one. I know and understand how it feels, I also was aware of other employees who were being provoked and unfortunately the one being provoked acted on it and he got fired. Very unfortunate and vicious acts.
I'm sorry to hear that. It is astonishing that so many workplaces are full of so many psychopathic people who work very hard to hurt other people. They are not just unhappy people who are having a bad day. It's deliberate and premeditated. Demonic (or in some cases Satanic) possession is the only explanation. Spiritual warfare for sure.
I agree, I wasn’t the only one who was treated like that. I was advised of how to react towards the bullying but it wouldn’t have mattered because I was going through a divorce and the whole thing was a shame because it had more to do with the female coworker who introduced me to my husband and she embarked on a mission to destroy my relationship, I still don’t understand why and why she was dragging other workers into her dysfunctional behavior. Long and sad story. I ended up having a miscarriage out of being bullied and I never talked about it but also ended up having a hysterectomy a few years after I was divorced. Anyway thanks for sharing and being supportive.
I experienced workplace abuse and harassment like this and I knew exactly why. It was stemming from their own insecurities and constant need to compare themselves to other people and feel better than them over anything they could think of. The resentment was palpable and they knew exactly what they were doing to me and enjoyed every minute of it.
I hope they seek the help they need and stop the pathological lying and manipulation…but I doubt they will because they also lack any sense of self awareness. It’s just sad that middle aged adult women behave like this over perceived threats and slights; having one-sided battles with others like reactive animals.
I've been bullied by all kinds, but the menopausal women in the workplace are the absolute worst. You are right: they are miserable. Leave them to their karma.
The money isn't worth tolerating toxic stress that makes the body and mind weak - society already struggles with health problems from such a great disconnect from nature. A lot of the bullying is a soft society tucking in stress and turning the cheek and there's a massive rise in conditions like heart-disease, depression, anxiety, suicide clearly being influenced by such.
I wholeheartedly agree that much of our contemporary dysfunction originates from our separation from nature - hence the sick obsession with food and scented things (candles, essential oils, herbs, etc.), which come from nature. Whenever working in office environments, I've often thought that these people would feel a lot better if they would just get out more. Yes, the physical health deterioration that results from narcissistic abuse is very real and documented, and the ultimate result of workplace bullying is death in the form of homicide (mass shootings) and suicide. It really is a matter of life and death, and I wish people took it more seriously.
@@clairehuntonlineWow! What you just shared was profound! 😮 I wish I could share fully what just happened at my workplace, but in short, I felt in my gut that if I go to that office, it will be a hazing ritual. I prayed to God to help me not go. Then something happened that forced me to stay home. I think it saved my life because there's no telling what they would have tried to do to me. I work remote with trips to in-person events, but I am looking for a way out ASAP.
The statement of being an empath makes sense! Evil always senses that they will be exposed. Thank you for this!!
I am being bullied at work at the moment
I'm not worried.
From experience they end up ensnaring themselves
if you don't conform they will isolate you and bully you out
I've been bullied at work and actually I never ONCE heard anything mentioned about my appearance.( I'm a woman and have been bullied by both men and women. ) it was pretty much always about intelligence, laziness and being stupid. As I'm quite smart, educated and work hard it was of course meant to "bring me down"..... just like you say!
I would bet that much of the gossip (narcissistic smear campaign) about you behind your back was about your physical appearance. You just weren't aware of it. Workplace bullies also attack your work quality and ethic and your character.
@@clairehuntonline yes, that's totally possible of course. But we were so different in age, style and fashion preferences that we never really talked about those things at all.
I think the one who hated me is a narcissistic person with a side problem of OCD. It was very clear that I triggered her in the worst way possible. To be honest I didn't really care all that much and mostly let her have things her way, work wise. This, of course, made her quite 😠 frustrated. Oh well..
The first time I was bullied was 30 years before that, and I've had a lot of time since then to learn to not give sh*t about opinions from people with obvious personal problems of their own.
But however little you care about someone's opinions it's tiring and depressing to experience bullying and I did find me another job as soon as possible. My instinct tells me to run from people like this, even if many friends suggested I should try to talk and do something about the situation. But no, I run.
Absolutely that is what they do. I am a keen observer and I notice that many carry their personal problems to work. They even start to abuse you as if you are either their partner, their kid, their mom or other relative. When I figured out that is one thing they do I was pretty freaked out.
But you are very right: their purpose is to take away the qualities about your character and make you out to be as someone that you are not.
Nothing infuriates them more then when they realize you can look right through their fakeness, oh then they really attack you.
Oh yes, of course it is. When any success is achieved, or when someone simply asserts their freedom, their opinion, and they do not accept fake anything and will make decisions that are right for them, watch out: you can be sure the ones that harass are the ones who are not making smart decisions.
I always wonder how miserable someone has to be about themselves to want to lie and threaten others on a continuous basis.
In nearly every job I am the team scapegoat. Seems like this is the norm for corporate
@@clairehuntonline Thank you for your compassion. In your opinion, what is the best course of action?
1. Find a corner of corporate where you are sheltered by ethical leaders
2. Move to a small company with a good culture in which this behaviour cannot escalate
3. Become an entrepreneur
@@robbiea1482 Such an interesting question. In my experience having been bullied in all sorts of environments and professions, workplace bullying exists just about everywhere regardless of the company type or size. If you have the ability to start your own business and create a workplace where this behavior is not allowed then more power to you.
@@robbiea1482 From my experience, I’d say that very small companies and very large companies can have extremely toxic environments in different ways. You should probably go for something in the middle
What about becoming a contractor? Possibly could choose roles based on lower toxicity/politics
@@robbiea1482 I do contract work. There is some risk involved in becoming a contractor, but it's definitely cleaner. However, I'm a cynic and see opportunity for abuse everywhere.
Im going through this now and also at every job I ever had. The part I never understood is not only "why me? I dont even stand out", but how a person could find it in themselves to be cruel without cause and do it all over again the very next day. Dont they also feel that uncomfortable twinge in their chest when they say something not right, even by accident? They *are* human right? Even now i struggle with the capacity for evil in other people and their reasons... but your video opened my eyes even more. Talk about a light bulb moment. My mother was right. They sense the good in you, and they want to kill it by any means necessary. They dont want the example. They are happy to living in the dark if it means they dont have to change.
Im contemplating leaving this job too, but i know it exists everywhere. It's time to start fortifying my armour.
Wow, another realization... the strength I need is entirely spiritual...
I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through. That's exactly right. By your energy and presence alone, you are somehow asking them to change - and they deeply resent it. Bullying is a kind of psychotic obsession. It is unconscious behavior: kneejerk, autopilot. They just go on the warpath. They don't think cognitively or rationally about what they are doing. I really believe that there are dark souls among us who feed off of the pain and suffering of human beings. They may not be entirely human. Yes, it is a spiritual problem, so our only option is spiritual.
What I have found out is this: listen closely: you think they are just coworkers or even strangers: the people you meet in your life. The truth is this: there is something wrong in their own life they do not admit to, while faking they have a good life. But they are people who want something from y o u. In most cases it is money, they want to use your talents, they want to use people so they can have a better life, they are entirely destructive entities: and the sooner you realize that they are not humans the better off you will be.
I have been through exactly the same thing at many of my jobs. What worked for me was working on my self esteem and very slowly to do the gray rock method at a current job or start the gray rock method at a new job, never discuss anything personal, keep all aspects of your life private(as anything you say they will use against you and make up lies about you. Don't believe the so called nice and popular co worker and , be neutral and respond/dont react, explain or defend yourself. Do minimum at your job as working hard will make you a target and the bullies will dump their work on you. Bullies/Narcissists target decent and nice people so don't be "friendly" just be polite. While this is a fake way to be, it will give you peace and you will avoid being a target. When you go "gray rock" they will see you as a boring person who is not a threat and they will leave you alone. Be cautious as you do the gray rock method so that you dont give the appearance that you are ignoring them on purpose as that will make some people angry/hostile.
No, they are not human. And I repeat that all the time to myself. I am done trying to see if they prove themselves to be normal caring humans because it is better to assume otherwise right from the start. Most people are at work for something other than work, they mask it with many work related things but in essence it is all about their own measly personal lives that are extremely questionable. And you better not figure out what might be wrong with them or what it is that makes them corrupt and evil because you will never have a single workday without them attacking you with foul lies and foul behavior.
Experienced this at my last job... thank god I left that toxic environment and became ok mentally again 🥂🥂🥂
I am in two different jobs. At both jobs people have lose relationships with each other. Many questionable relationships that one can not help but notice, yet I am very determined to not want to know any details.
They detest anyone that is not like them. Now, these are people who are so fake one would not believe it. They get aggressive even physically, while I do not do anything to them.
I'm so happy to hear that! I'm in a toxic environment right now and I wanted to know how you shifted to another place? What did you consider? How did you evaluate that you would be better there? Or did you start working for yourself? Would be great to have some insights
@@captainobvious6070 they fired me haha I had no plan 😅😂
@@DD_MENENRejection can often be BIG protection. You still got away and got better. You won.
dude.. thank u for making these vids. i feel less alone. we live in such an immature jealousy filled society rn.
I feel the same. She is so outspoken. I have never seen this level of courage being expressed. I am bullied out of this world. I am a very tall tree. Talented, attractive, good-willed, high work ethics. I am hated and attacked on a day to day basis.
@@dorijoe im right there with ya, stay strong. theres so much h8 in the wrld today its ridiculous. "winners focus on winning, losers focus on winners"
I recently had issues finding a job because at interview stage all I was confronted with was a series of frightened managers not employing someone who might outshine them. In the end I got offered a job but by the time that happened, I was morally and emotionally crushed.
Yes, I've been totally beaten down over the years by bullying, which, ironically, has made me more employable. You would think that, as job candidates, we would want to put our best foot forward and heavily promote all of our strengths and assets, but, as targets of workplace bullying, that's exactly how we shoot ourselves in the foot (pardon the mixed metaphor). Workplace bullies are defined by pathological jealousy. Workplace bullying is all about "cutting down tall trees." The target of workplace bullying is the star. The more you shine, the more these insecure, jealous bullies will try to put out your light. Even the managers don't want someone who would outshine them. You would think they would jump at the chance to hire a talented, skilled, and credentialed employee, but they care more about protecting their fragile egos than they care about the best interests of the company.
@@clairehuntonline you explained it perfectly. This is exactly how they are. All pure jealousy.
@@clairehuntonlinebullies in management are insecure and get ahead by standing on the achievements of their subordinates and taking all of the credit.
YOU ARE BULLIED BECAUSE THEY HATE AND ARE JEALOUS OF YOU.
happenned to me last 2 office jobs. they just get a buncha different people to send me negative energy and stare me down and insult me. and i dont do shit but work on the pc. i just sit there and key and then my heart will start beating like crazy like im about to have a heart attack or panic attack. theres an energy to it and its probably what they would call the evil eye back olden times
I'm sorry to hear about your experience. All workplace bullying is happening on an energetic level. That's why it is imperative that we protect ourselves spiritually. Insults and staring are both forms of workplace bullying, and I have videos on them.
Pretty much EVERYTHING YOU SAID WAS EVERYTHING I’VE BEEN EXPERIENCING in over 20 different workplaces.
This video reached deep into my soul. So much so that I was sitting in my car in the parking lot at Walgreens’s doing the ‘ugly cry’ and ppl were walking by looking at me like I’m crazy.
I needed this release tho bcuz my physical health is suffering as a result of yrs of mental abuse and having everyone hate me for being kind, different, empathetic, sensitive, have integrity and being made to feel like a ‘freak.’
I know this experience has made me mentally stronger (still being myself, not giving up, can see that they are the damaged, sick ones, stand up for myself) but I have had chronic insomnia for yrs.
I want to WFH, as I need a steady paycheck & affordable health insurance. Entrepreneurship is not for everyone & private healthcare is mega expensive!
Thank you so much for this video. You should be a therapist or life coach or something. ☺️
I wish others going through this worldwide problem will come together and figure out a way to get through this together. It’s so sad that these sadistic, insecure, toxic b@stards are DOMINATING EVERY WORKPLACE AND TAKING OUT THEIR ANGER/CHILDHOOD ABUSE ON KIND, CARING, INTROVERTED, POLITE TYPES!
NICE PPL DO FINISH LAST AND KINDNESS DOES NOT KILL!!!
I HATE EVIL PEOPLE!!
May the favor of God rest upon you and give you strength to leave that environment. Money is not worth your life. Greatest advice I’ve been given is if it costs you your peace it’s way too expensive!
It's called gangstalking
Psalms 35, 11 ...
@@sophiafigueroa6791 Thank you. I will be making changes in 2022. God bless you!
Stay strong I feel like crying because finally I am able to get validation god knows why people want to be mean when you are just trying to get on with your job my heart goes out to you big love from newzealand
That was awesome and so true! We are all on different spiritual levels. My best friend told me something that will stick with me forever! “New levels new devils”. Always be alert! The devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. He comes to kill, steal and destroy. We must stay sober minded. Faith over fear always! Stay safe and prayed ⬆️
Thank you!! Workplace bullies are on an astonishingly low spiritual level and are pathologically envious because of it.
New levels new devils... that just sent a chill down my spine. I'm already exhausted just hearing that lol.
SHE TOLD NO LIES!!!
I've been experiencing this for some time now. Mind games and death threats are a part of the smear campaign. All I want to do is work! This sucks.
Exactly, how insane is that. All of such people have a life they are not satisfied with. They tear others down, disturb others and harass others. Such people are very very unhappy with their own life.
I feel so alone my family and my workplace treat the exact same, anytime i defend myself I get gaslight. My mom and dad pick on my looks all the time but don’t give me any advice on how to improve it. It’s horrible.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. Often, what we experience in the workplace is a reflection of what we experienced in our family of origin. I know how bad it hurts when our parents do not understand and support us. Know that they are full of their own unhealed, unresolved trauma that they have never dealt with and are just projecting all that onto you because you make a convenient target. The best thing to do would be just to pray for your parents (if that is in accordance with your belief system). I know they are responsible for meeting your needs, but, actually, you are the one who can help them. Prayer works wonders.
I get treated the same way as well
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Have had this happen numerous times you are right it’s almost always about something other then work.
This video is so incredibly accurate, I might have to watch it a second time in sheer awe. You are so right when you talk about their obsession with our bodies. I work in retail and have noticed that one of the creepiest things these creatures do is STARE and SIZE UP. I'm not afraid of sustained eye contact, and they will alternate between gawking at me and looking away out of intimidation. They honestly don't seem human to me, never have.
Thank you for your kind words. I have a video on staring as a form of workplace bullying. There is debate as to whether narcissists are actually human beings.
Ever since I was stalked by a young male at a retail store where I worked and barely survived with my life I have been followed and mobbed by freaky females.
They are not right in their head and they are very aggressive. It started right away after I was stalked when questionable people started to cross my path at work. My name was and to this day was and is being dragged in the dirt. They simply project their own lives onto me and these females are involved in prostitution and are involved in a huge pedophile ring here in the city where I live.
They will act out creepy scenarios wherever I appear. Scenarios that depict their own low lives and what is happening to them. They are a huge group so every day I am harassed at work by them or people they know. They have persecuted me ever since the stalking out of jealousy that I was stalked by this young male.
At first I was so ill from the stalking I did not realize what they were doing when questionable people started to harass me and they all acted around me as if I and not the questionable women at work was the person with the questionable life.
During 12 years now they laughingly act out as if I was a woman with that same questionable life style then they have. They depict me in the worst ways and the guys they know and who they are involved with within this huge prostitution and pedophile circle harass me every single day.
It is so bad they try to hurt me physically at work by plowing into me at work.
I have to drive different ways to work because their group threatens my life on interstates. The people they know have for years and years now tried to push me off the streets when driving. Now they try to do that when I try to drive on the interstate. They have actively moved into a group that wants to hurt me physically. After several incidents on the interstate now, while driving at high speeds, people that are in their group, driving huge vehicles have tried to push my small sedan off the road when driving on the interstate.
Cops are involved, many of them corrupt because the people I reported the stalking to a long time ago where involved with corrupt cops and they all had had lose women at work who fabricated the worst story about me after I was stalked.
You would be surprised how they immediately started to make up foul stories about me after the stalking, saying it right into my face, right after the stalking. It was immediate and it is done by corrupt officials and foul lose women.
They enjoy that, to them it is a sport.
To sum it up I was harassed immediately by very bad guys and lose women at work as soon as those foul women realized I was stalked. And that has to this day not stopped. Their groups of gangs are huge and they all have the same foul live style at work.
The things they act out every day are foul, foul, foul and are all scenarios a regular conservative woman like me is extremely opposed to.
So now they not only threaten my life on interstates they childishly invent all these stories about me that paint me as a person with a completely different character. All in all they depict me as exactly the person that I have never been and as a person that does things I never do. And they do that in the worst way: aggressively in my face, together with the worst sexual harassment they can think off from both genders.
To say they are disgusting in every way would be a huge understatement. The only thing I can do is to walk a different way as soon as one of them starts walking my way. All the ones that are in those harassment gangs, strangers to me, already know me and aggressively start walking towards me and all I can do is to immediately evacuate the area when they are aggressively walking towards me, staring at me and already knowing exactly that I am the target of their gang before I know the individual members.
They are all extremely questionable guys and extremely questionable females that do that. And that is exactly how it was right after the stalking 12 years ago when extremely questionable women and extremely questionable guys way back then started to harass me.
I believe there is a spiritual component to narcissists, psychopaths and sadists; they are either highly demon possessed or they are actual demons walking the earth in human form. Their make-up is definitely NOT HUMAN.
They aren’t human bc demons are fallen angels. Satan hated that God made humans
I’m only 26 but I’ve been worked mobbed in every teacher job I’ve been in. I’ve been work
mobbed today. I have no words.
I quit my job few weeks ago. It felt like I was walking on eggshells at the job. It was a fun job. I miss half of the coworkers there. But, this one coworker was just asking way too many personal questions and made me uncomfortable (right where customers can hear), I was made fun of me as I didn't make lot of money and other personal information. She would blame me, that I did it and not her. I was born with a learning disability. She even told a customer I'm a b**** and don't talk to her!" I reported her. The more, I kept track and reported her. The more, she wanted to do anything to get me fired. I'm a very caring coworker and always have a smile on my face. I treat people/coworkers with respect. When she talked about her dog to me and I would talk about mine and she would say, "I don't care about your dog!" I'm glad I found your videos. Thanks for the info. It felt like I was in high school again with the coworker.
Wow, I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to you. Sounds like that woman was just jealous of what a beautiful person you are. Yes, a workplace bullying environment is a high school, and you do have to walk on eggshells around these high-conflict personalities. It's so difficult to walk away from work you like. You did the right thing. I'm sorry about your experience but hope you have moved on to something better. Keep that beautiful smile on your face, and never, ever, let anyone put out your light.
It hurts, because it’s been every job that I’ve worked at since starting work at 16yrs old. I will be 32 this former and it’s been 16yrs of work place bullying. Sadly before workplace, it was school bullying by peers and teachers. Before childhood bullying it was my own family bullying and abusing me.
People really call you crazy or messed up when you choose not to play their game anymore or to stay to yourself. They want you to get back in the game and get beat up over and over again until you die of a terminal illness.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you've been through. Many of us have been experiencing this our entire lives. You might want to watch my video entitled, "Workplace Bullying Is a Recreation of Your Dysfunctional Childhood Family of Origin." For some reason we keep subconsciously recreating the same patterns over and over again until we learn what we were supposed to learn. Yes, narcissists absolutely do not tolerate boundaries. If you demonstrate that you can not be bullied, they will bully you even more until you are eliminated.
This is easily the single best video I've ever watched regarding workplace bullying.
I'm bullied at my teaching job because I get accolades and bonuses for my tests scores. Parents and students love me yet I'm low key. One woman who is less competent but everyone loves her has made my 7 year career so terrible. I'm a single mom with a mortgage and they know I need my job. They are all obese yet married and I'm not, and I hear all this gossip about my personal life and it's untrue.
I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through. Workplace bullying in schools is so bad that it has its own niche in the research. I have a video on it entitled, "Workplace Bullying in Schools." Did you know that the profession of education attracts more sociopaths than any other? Teachers are some of the most miserable people on the planet. It's a case of "misery loves company." If they can't be happy, you can't, either. Gossip is one of the workplace bullying techniques that I have identified, and I have a video on it entitled, "Gossip Is a Form of Workplace Bullying." I admire your courage, your strength, and your bravery for hanging in there, and thank you for your service to your students. If it helps at all, try to focus on them and the good work you are doing.
Omg when you talk about the narc being obsessed with your body you are SPOT ON!!!!! I subscribed. I'm dealing with this right now, and it's exhausting.
I am going through this and currently going into the third session of therapy because of intense bullying. My bullies denied everything they did. I reported it but the HR and all the bosses did not believe me. They were friends with the bullies. They gaslighted me, they threatened me to lose my job when I even uttered that word. They humiliated me and gossiped about me even more. They got away with it and would sneer at me in the hallways. I couldn't leave because of the pandemic. I was scared I won't find another job again.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. That's a perfect example of what happens when you go to H.R. I went to H.R., too - BIG MISTAKE - and got gaslighted within an inch of my life and ultimately forced to quit. I can't stress enough on this channel how utterly useless H.R. is. H.R. is not your friend. It isn't even human. That's exactly how H.R. responds: when they hear the word "bullying," they get scared. They just don't want to get sued. They would rather get rid of the one target than actually do something about all the bullies who are the real problem. That's why I always encourage my viewers never to come forward. It will not turn out well for you. Workplace bullying leaves scars that last a lifetime, and we do need therapy to deal with it. I hope it helps.
Mostly supervisors or managers
I'm very curious as to what happens after you leave that toxic environment. Do they turn on each other or try to find someone new to pick on?
I believe whatever dark entity that possessing them just stops. Sometimes they want you gone because your light brings their demons out and it hurts them. Also just most of the time these people also bully their families and have a hierarchy friend group wihich consist of a variety of cluster b people, flying monkeys, and enablers. These people always have support from many people. I truly believe most people in society can only get along with people that are in some way abusing them or if they’re the one doing the abusing. The world doesn’t like empaths or kind people. They find us boring, not entertaining etc. but find the bully entertaining and fun to be around.
Thank you for this video, it's so true! I've been the victim of these kind of bullies in my work career. Most have been women. They've cost me jobs from sabotage. I'm fortunate to be able to work alone now, I actually have a phobia of working with others because of everything I've experienced
Thank you for sharing your story. We all have CPTSD from the abuse. Psychological abuse does more damage than physical violence. Agoraphobia is real. I have a fear of working with others and of other people in general. You're so lucky you get to work alone! The universe is protecting you. I wish I could work alone.
The only thing that several of my bosses have been really good at was . . . workplace bullying! It would be hilarious if it weren't so pathetic. I think I was happier before finding out that most workplaces are mental wards run by sociopaths. Welp, now I know!
Some of this stuff is genuinely funny. You can't make this stuff up. Sometimes, it's good to have a sense of humor about it. Some workplace bullies are actually good at what they do. Most of them are absolutely terrible, and bullying is all they can do. Yes, ignorance is bliss! We put on our rose-colored glasses, turn a blind eye, and sweep everything under the rug because we want something: money. We want this to work. I lived in denial for decades, and that's how I survived the horror. However, it really is better to pay attention to the red flags from the get-go and get those boundaries up the minute you walk through the door. It's called radical acceptance: know exactly what you are dealing with, and plan accordingly.
You said it, oh my gosh how many times I have repeated that to myself: I am working in a ....... mental ward run by narcist sociopaths. It is unreal how they want to threaten your financial security because t h e y have personal problems, I am so sick of it.
Claire you are absolutely right about the talking shit about your physical body part. You are an experienced observer.
"You have more spiritual power than them, so use it!" I LOVE that!!! You are 100% spot on. Thank you for just saying it out loud.
I'm going though this now with our newest coworker. She's been there 1.5 years and still acts helpless & needy. She portrays herself as a victim and tells the sadness stories about her personal life. Then she turns in to a viper. So people tip toe around her..
She can't stand that I'm a happy person, funny and well l Iiked at work. She's tried to tattle on me to our boss many times & every time it blows up in her face. I'm exhausted every day after all her petty attempts to try to get me to react. She's an energy vampire. Everyone feels it but no one does anything about it.
I'm 55 & have never had a workplace narcissist bully like this to deal with. I seriously need to focus spiritually on this. I had been out sick for 2 weeks & she pounced on me as soon as I returned. I let her get to me for a minute but now it's time to 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏.
Maybe even an exersism if I have to! 🤣🙃
All narcissists have a victim complex and love to play the victim. Workplace bullies almost always have a "sob story" that they whip out indiscriminately to get a pass for their appalling behavior. Narcissists also hate sick people and will use your illness against you instead of demonstrating basic human empathy, compassion, and caring. All workplace bullying is spiritual warfare that is happening on an energetic level. That's why you feel so drained. It is imperative that we learn to protect ourselves spiritually if we are going to be in the presence of people whose energy is absolutely vile.
And they always try to somehow copy your intelligence, your spirituality, your charisma and whatever other positive characteristics you have. They always do that, and when a low life like that tries to copy you it is so fake you just want to laugh and cry at the same time.
0:11 THANK YOU SO MUCH. I am SO TIRED of being gaslit and being told to just lie down and take it. I did not sign up to be abused at work and I’m not being compensated enough for that. Absolutely ridiculous behavior that continues to be tolerated. Companies don’t care about people and only care about profits. You mean nothing to them. Stand up and fight for what’s yours- and that includes your self respect and dignity.
You have the right attitude. Don't let it get so bad that it crushes your soul. You're right that organizations care nothing about individual human beings. However, they will pay a lot of lip service to how much they "value" their employees and gaslight you within an inch of your life about your "happiness" (after they bully you). It's all pathological lies. On an overcrowded planet, people are disposable to them. Even if the revolving door costs them an arm and a leg, they don't care: they would rather just swallow the expense than lift a finger to evolve.
Thank you for speaking out the truth. Those people need mental treatments so bad...
I'm going through this now,you've hit the nail on the head.
Thank you for articulating this. It definitely is spiritual warfare on an energetic level. And I totally see the narcissistic nature of it all. I love being a kind and compassionate being. I love helping people and doing a great job at work. But I don’t take any shit either. I’ve been excluded all my life lol bring it on! I just vibe higher 🦋
You're welcome. I love being a good person, too. The function of all abuse is to put out your light. Narcissists are people who let other people put out their light a long time ago, and, now, they resent that you still have yours. As empaths we still have what they have lost: our connection to source. They want us to hate ourselves as much as they hate themselves. All good qualities come from God, and narcissists can not create any of them because they are completely and permanently disconnected from spirit. That's why everything that's really going on is happening on an energetic level. Yes, challenges in early life prepare us well: our skin is thicker than they think. I always bounce, which makes them hate even more. Keep your high vibration, which you create through your connection to the universe. That's the one way you win.
I spent 6 years in the Navy dealing with ostracism, gossip, and just being a target it general. Not like you can just walk away from it when you're stuck at sea for weeks on end.
Shit messed me up lol
I am so sorry to hear what you've been through. I have no doubt the military is rife with bullying and abuse. Workplace bullying leaves scars that last a lifetime.
Thanks for serving in the Navy. There were cowards hiding behind the military.
Oh they act as if they want to ostracize me, but that is not true. How much I wish every single day they would do just that and ostracize me and finally just not push their freak lives into my way.
I was let go from my job yesterday only after two weeks. The reason that they gave was that I was not performing my job while management was away. This is totally false. I did everything that was required of me. It was not a difficult job at all. I could tell that the manager did not care too much for me. During those two weeks five people, including myself were no longer working there. Something smells fishy. The operations manager and manger for the temp agency told me that HR was investigating this. I’m not buying it. I don’t think they are doing anything. I will also be getting in touch with there regional office. If in fact employees are being bullied, then it must stop now. I’m not really concerned about the possibility of getting my job back. I doing this for those who will work there in the future. I would greatly appreciate advice on how to handle this potential problem.
Workplace bullies are not above completely fabricating false accusations in order to get you eliminated from the workplace. High turnover and a revolving door are classic hallmark characteristics of a workplace bullying environment. I can't stress enough on this channel how utterly useless HR is when it comes to workplace bullying. HR exists for one reason and one reason only, and that's to protect the interests of the company. If you come forward, you put a target on your back as the problem. Workplace bullies always operate in groups, and it's easier for HR to just get rid of one person than do something about all the people who are the real problem. HR is not your friend. It isn't even human. If you've already left that toxic workplace, it might be time to just cut your losses. The remaining employees are not your responsibility. They have their own karmic journeys with the narcissistic workplace bullies. For the sake of your soul and sanity, the best you can do is move on and try to salvage yourself.
Update: A couple a weeks after I was let go from that job I had a dream that I returned. Something ended up going down at the company that fell on the lady who fired me. She was screaming in agony like she was being tortured. I saw this as a sign from God telling me to leave the rest to him. And that there was no more that I needed to do. She will definitely be getting hers someday. And it won’t be pretty.
Just been bullied for my size the past 3 years. I'm a guy and 5'3 and 134 pounds. People who target me were all 250 plus pounds. And not once did I bully people for their weight. The two women I worked with never bullied me, it was always the larger men.
I'm sorry to hear that. I knew men were cruel to one another in ways that I am not privy to. I mentioned weightism in my video on the prejudice of workplace bullies. Weightism works both ways: people get bullied for being both big and small. I suppose "heightism" is a thing, too. Good for you for not turning into the monster you despise. I have met many bullies who were obviously bullied for their physicality and let that break their hearts. Your spirit is strong. You are probably also fae.
I was confused for a long time why my narc female boss, who was in her 50s, seemed to be threatened by me, a quiet person from a low income class that took the bus to work, where she lived a mansion. So...why be jealous of me?
Workplace bullies are pathologically jealous on a soul level. I've had people be jealous of me who had much more than I have. It's a spiritual thing.
Isn't that something? Same here, I have always had to really watch my money, by far not as rich as many of them are. They are jealous of other qualities, human qualities.
This is so well spoken and analytical. I wish I had seen this video before I started my first corporate job last year. I am only 25 and been at this workplace for less than a year and the amount of BS I’ve had to endure from educated grown adults decades older than me is insane. But this video particularly resonates with me for what you said about being on a higher spiritual realm and the patterns to spot jealousy. I am a positive person and see the best in everyone so I trust easily and never thought someone who is my boss and old enough to be my mother would be trying to sabotage me. But sometimes it really is that you have a different sparkle to you that gets the attention of others or their love interest, which in turn fuels the narc’s jealousy.
This 40 year old woman I reported to told me all this strange traumatic things about her personal life the first time we met, including how her husband has autism, her sister is a drug addict and her BIL committed suicide and then tried to bait me into sharing mine. When I grey rocked her, she’d talk about my personal life with coworkers behind my back and try to get information from them. I didn’t realize how toxic she was at the time, and went to her for career advice during my first few months and asked if I should look into getting any certifications or if there was anything I could do better. She told me I should “go walk by [her bosses name] office a couple of times and get his attention. And talk to him about your life”. I asked if the company would pay for a cert and she kept making it difficult for me- first she needed a word document, then she needed it longer and more detailed, and kept trying to get me to beg for it. She then started trying to mob me with another coworker- they talked and laughed about blowing up Muslims when we had lunch in a public cafe- after I brought it up she gaslit me and told me I was overreacting, then went to HR the next day behind my back and told them a completely different story about how I was bringing race into the workplace. I should have noticed when she was acting extremely friendly with me when others were around, but had an extremely nasty demeanor when it was just me and her. It’s clear she had no valuable skills and probably slept with someone at the org - why else would she make sexual innuendos and constantly refer to the company as a “boys club”.
Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad my videos resonate. I'm sorry to hear about what you've been through with that horrible woman, especially the Islamophobia you experienced. Workplace bullies are famously prejudiced because they are ignorant and superficial. I, too, have been bullied by people decades older than me and old enough to be my parents. You would think they would be more evolved, but, unfortunately, physical age has nothing to do with it: it's all about spiritual level. Bullies and abusers all try to get you to share your secrets by oversharing theirs. It is a form of manipulation. And of course they are all incredibly two-faced: fake-nice to the point of being nauseating in the presence of others and mean-spirited to your face when you are alone. And, yes, a lot of them do literally sleep their way to the top because they have nothing else to offer. Oldest trick in the book. That woman sounds like she suffers from the same demon that all workplace bullies do: pathological jealousy of your spiritual level.
Workplace bullies do not belong in the workplace. They’re narcissistic and a waste of company time and money and resources. They require excessive supervision and babysitting. Timeline notes an be quite a powerful weapon against them. If more people would documenting incident whether it involves self or co workers. They have the maturity and coping skills of a toddler and they are the petty workplace Karen’s. I have worked as a supervisor most of my adult life and had half a shift terminated for intimidating senior workers. The time line notes were instrumental in having the bullies terminated. The chronic complainers, they’re the ones that require extra supervision. Timeline notes also come in handy when work becomes unsuitable and the employee has no choice but to quit and need the unemployment benefits. Workplace bullies are not safe from my job duties as a supervisor. I think I know their brown nosing demeanor, red flag manipulating ways and it doesn’t set well with me.
I'm happy and hopeful to hear that there are leaders like you out there who are strong, intelligent, astute, and perceptive enough to recognize these people and how much damage they do and do what employers are supposed to do: get rid of them. However, I wholeheartedly disagree that documenting is an effective strategy against workplace bullying, and I strongly advise my viewers against it. Recording others without their consent is illegal. Documenting amounts to nothing more than glorified journaling, so you can document if you want to, but, ultimately, it results in a game of "he-said-she-said." If I write down that Bully X used a mind game to call me "stupid" at 12:03 p.m., so what? All the bully has to do is lie and say, "No, I didn't," and that's the end of that. Documenting is nothing more than a laundry list of behaviors that would not hold water in a court of law. Documenting workplace bullying doesn't work - because there's nothing to document.
@@clairehuntonline it depends on the one who takes notes. It works well in health care just like nurses notes which is a legal documentation.. Time lines notes use the same applications as nurses notes. It’s much more reliable than memory recall. It worked when I discovered half of a shift were bullying and intimidating senior workers. The corroborated time line notes one of the victims had the bullies fired.
I agree with everything you're saying, but it took me several years to realize how deep these issues go. Great information!
Thanks for this. Trying to explain it to people that either don't get it or choose not to because they want to perpetuate the cycle is crazy-making. I made an instrumental project about the subject, because I was starting to have a hard time talking about it. Thanks again, it resonates.
You're welcome!! It's difficult even for me to articulate because it's so insidious. Unfortunately, workplace bullying is something people just can't understand unless they've been through it themselves. People choose not to get it because it triggers their own trauma they haven't healed. That is in my video "Emotional Illiteracy."
It’s amazing listening to this - I feel understood. Someone from compliance team asks what would possibly motivate senior managements bullying junior top performer?
U nailed it! It’s the intangible stuffs. The goodness in the target, the energy, confidence, light, spirits that they will never have.
Bosses bully subordinates because those subordinates outrank them - spiritually. Even the people in power don't know how to own their power and just wield it responsibly. They always want more. It's a zero-sum game for them. These people do not know how to do power-sharing. "If you have any power at all, that means that I don't." Ultimately, it's a power struggle - just like all workplace bullying. The point is to get out of the dance.
Spot on! I was just thinking this. I've noticed that all of my workplace bullies (usually managers/supervisors), all have weird emotional issues.
So much to say. So many experiences to share. I'm an empath that works out regularly & am in great shape. I have been a target just about everywhere I've gone. I endured a LOT of abuse & sucked up great mental & emo pain for the sake of my 'career' (LMAO!). Starting in my 40s, I took to walking off jobs mid-shift when the bullying started- I can see it coming a mile away, beginning with a sneer, a look up & down upon intro. As an empath, I chose my spirit as more important than my bank account. However, the pain sticks with me, like PTSD. Even when I've identified it's their issues & not mine, that I have no control over another's jealousy & the misery they created for themselves, the residual is still painful. All I can do is not get angry (i.e.- resort to their level. name call & sabotage), and walk away. Management is going to take the side of the loudest voice to make the issue go away, so there's no point in going to them; besides, as an empath, you'll always get the blame.
This vid is comforting & reassuring, but there really is no solution. It's going to be a choice that comes with sacrifice, one way or the other. All you can do is dig deep & accept the consequences, but ALWAYs recognize that being an empath is a gift! And don't EVER let them bring you down.
Thank you. I'm so sorry to hear about what you went through. I can relate. A lot of targets of workplace bullying have permanent CPTSD. Yes, management is useless. One of the points I make about workplace bullying is that it is the result of weak leadership, and I have a video on that. The squeaky wheel gets the grease because the loud bullies look like the "cool kids," and everyone in the place is a weak coward who never graduated from high school and cares more about being liked than being respected. I agree that empathy is a gift, and our victory is surviving with our integrity intact.
How ridiculous is a so called leader that not only can not control such people at work and protect innocents but also ends up attacking an innocent person in the exact same way?
I agree with everything you said. In my last workplace, the bully would fake compliment me every day on something physical. "Oh I just love that shirt." "Oh you have such a nice body." On and on blah blah blah
They are superficial because they are so empty. And they really, really, really view other human beings as nothing more than objects. They don't have the spiritual depth to be able to get past surfaces. At almost 48 years old, after 30 years of being bullied, I am DONE with being objectified. I do not accept comments about my physical body or my personal life in the workplace. At this point I would rather protect myself than have my boundaries violated so other people can feed off of my energy. If you can not meet me on an intellectual level then I am just not having it.
Yup happened to me at every workplace. I was given a word that summed it up Blacklisted
Thank you so much!! You explain perfectly everything!!
You nailed the pettiness. She knows I see right thru her fake compliments and I definitely stood up to her the first time she tried me. So I'm expecting the passive aggressive backlash. Already looking for something else because she is a pathological liar.
All workplace bullies are pathological liars. They are fake because they are superficial. All workplace bullying is a passive-aggressive backlash against your refusal to submit to their power, domination, and control. They are abusers.
@@clairehuntonline thank you. This video nailed it!
I'm just glad someone is saying it out loud.
I'm dealing with this!! I'm quitting a job I've been there 13 years ..I can't take it.. it's done
Ive had my current job for five weeks. The bullying is getting worse by the day. She treats me so bad, Im convinced that im the one who is scum. Nothing I do is good enough and I always get screamed at by her. She also told me I stink. I told the bosses but nothing changed and now I just feel like a tattle tale.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. Try not to internalize it. People like you are the reason I have this channel - so you can know that "IT'S. NOT. YOU." It is 100-percent their problem. It's always best never to report bullying or harassment of any kind, but, unfortunately, we all have to learn that the hard way. Remember that bullies are emotionally disregulated people who are trying to project all of their own unprocessed, unhealed pain and trauma onto you, but you don't have to take it on.
Stop. Do not internalize anything.
All cruelty comes from weakness
They are weak. They hate themselves
Dont let them project themselves on to you.
Theres a reason your targeted....
Please Be strong
Stop. Do not internalize anything.
All cruelty comes from weakness
They are weak. They hate themselves
Dont let them project themselves on to you.
Theres a reason your targeted....
Please Be strong
Stop. Do not internalize anything.
All cruelty comes from weakness
They are weak. They hate themselves
Dont let them project themselves on to you.
Theres a reason your targeted....
Please Be strong
@@clairehuntonline❤❤❤
They have all of these so called things but it means nothing without peace in your soul,,this is what triggers them,,its energetic,,,spiritually they see our light and they want to put it out so the
y can feel better about who they trully are
That's exactly right. They will never know peace in this lifetime because they think that peace is something outside of themselves. They can't turn inward because they can't stand the ugliness they see in the mirror. They can try to put out our light, but it will never work.
@@clairehuntonline absolutely that's why things and
us are there preoccupation because they are empty inside and do not possess the things that matter,,,it's energetic,,I go somewhere and 50 of them show up,, NPCS
Man I've gone through life just being chill with people. I never wanted attention...maybe as a child but I would have been cool just being alone. Unfortunately I'm the guy everyone likes to talk to but everyone has pushed me out of every job for decades. I never heard the word narcissist until the last few years.
I'm sorry to hear that. You sound introverted, empathetic, and agreeable - all qualities that we know statistically narcissists are attracted to. I've been learning about narcissism for only six years. Still learning. But, as you learn about it, it really helps make sense of the craziness in the workplace.
@@clairehuntonline Totally agree...not just the workplace but the world. I've always wondered what was wrong with people after an interaction or a dispute and now it all adds up. People shoot off their mouth thinking they know everything when in fact everything is about their ego. The reason we are attacked in the workplace is because they are so triggered that we don't need the chaos and gossip because we are at peace.
I'm experiencing it from Christian owners who know my medical history and my past and they have hired all kinds of bullys. They will literally run outside and start using the blower for the grass in the rain duringmy breaks. I have videos. They use all kinds of tactics. They try to provoke jealousy. This is actually a community effort as I am still in my hometown. Police are involved etc. And right now lucky to be alive
Also when I went to HR to ask why these things are happening.... she was gone the next day
It’s a GENERAL MANAGEMENT problem. 💯%
Ive had this happen last Friday. With a supervisor she was teaching me a new department i took the risk in trying i was out of my comfort zone but wanted to prove to myself i can do it. i realized from the start she talked poorly about others in the office and i knew for a fact when i wasn’t around she was talking about me. She would say things like some ppl are slower than others and laugh to someone and it wasn’t just me she was saying that about. But It’s OK if someone takes their time to learn something new everyone is different and that is FINE ! i kept taking her jabs but i snapped and ended up telling her off in front of everyone she drew my last straw i did let HR know what happened so their investigating it as we speak it has caused me emotional distress. Ive dealt with this in the past and I’m tired of it. I can not be surrounded by negative ppl my mental health is too important. I will NOT deal with disrespect those bullies need to be confronted and know that being toxic isn’t ok. She was truly stunned i told her off and I’m glad i told her how I felt maybe she will think TWICE before talking poorly about ppl again. Thank u for this video it comforted me ❤️
You're welcome. If workplace bullies are talking negatively about other people in your presence, for sure they are talking negatively about you, too. Good for you for confronting and standing up to a bully, but usually that doesn't work. I can't stress enough on this channel how useless HR is. HR exists for one reason and one reason only, and that is to protect the interests of the company. They don't care about individual employees. When it comes to workplace bullying, HR is not your friend. It isn't even human.
@@clairehuntonline sadly true it needs to stop they ended up standing behind her and i left this truly is a silent pandemic no one is talking about .
You are very very right. My intelligence is insulted by those kind of work bullies every single day. It is like fighting pit bulls. They know as soon as they harass me for the most idiotic things that I will be stressed and I can assure you: no human being will perform well at work when the human is stressed.
They know that: they gang up on you and distress you, then watch you if you make a little mistake, and then will seek you out them being like heat missiles and pointing out what you did wrong.
When their harassment is really bad there is no way you will even be able to unfold your full intelligence at work. Of course they know that. It is a career stopper.
Some of them will then try to compare you to people who are not very smart and try to make you look as if you have the exact same problems that not so smart person has.
Their games are never ending and in my case they very obviously state all of my qualities at work as if those qualities belong to them. It never ends with these bad actors.
Girl that’s what I did any time anybody at work tried my life. I don’t care how much you’re paying me. You are going to put some respect on my name.
I like you. A lot. Straight to the point and focused while speaking to us, not to mention your words. I've been down because of this issue, and you drove it home for me. I am thinner, etc., than my bully, but I knew it was more than that. It's because I'm happy and spirituality strong. She even accused me of being a cocaine user because I'm always happy and genuinely love my profession. And she also said she was an empath when it was an odd time and place for her to just throw that out there. I can't thank you enough, I watched it three times in a row.
Thank you!! I like you, too!! I believe I have been bullied for being a thin person, and I've mentioned that in my videos. Yes, workplace bullies really are that superficial. I, too, have been accused of "doing drugs." Technically, I have smoked marijuana five times in my life, and the last time was over 23 years ago. Other than that I've never been in the same room with any illegal substance. I don't know where the "drugs" thing comes from - other than the fact that I was always thin and living in what has been called the "fattest city in America," so ignorant people think the only way to be thin is to abuse drugs. Yes, what people ultimately are jealous of are the qualities of your spirit. Because they are so spiritually unaware, they can't put their finger on it - so they just project whatever nonsense they can at you. One of the things they are really jealous of is your joy: workplace bullies are killjoys and will go out of their way to try to take away the passion you have for your profession. I hope in your case they never succeed. Keep doing your good work, and stay your high-vibrational self!
@Claire Hunt you're probably right about the thin subject, I am too. These losers really need to get it together, it's disturbing.
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My new coworkers are exactly like this...they have been verbally attacking me for months. Finally, I told them how I felt disrespected. They told my boss I'm emotionally unstable. Instead of repimanding my coworker, they offer me EAP and open a "incident" investigation. I know my coworkers will spin their own narrative. I pray my boss is smart enough to see thru them. Seems I better start looking for a new job. I'm attractive, personable and well liked . I'm kind with much empathy everyone. I'm great at my job. Several clients have jokingly and sweetly asked me to marry them. These are elderly men in wheelchairs. My coworkers turned me in to upper management for encouraging a climate of sexual harassment. Its been so bad, I put scotch tape over my mouth, under my mask, to keep from responding. I needed this today...Thank you.
Sorry to hear about what you're going through. You sound like the perfect target for workplace bullying: attractive, kind, and really, really good at your job. Workplace bullies are defined by pathological jealousy. They are also MASTER gaslighters. I am not at all surprised that they are trying to paint you out to be the "crazy" one. You are not: you're probably just an empath in a toxic environment. I hope your boss is smart enough to take your side or you get out of there soon. Best of luck to you.
Thank you for your kind words. I really love my job. I work with Veteran's at The VA. I am remaining optimistic and hopeful. I'm also prepared for the worst. Watching your videos has given me courage to fight for our heroes. I am mother to a young Marine with a purple heart. So I know the struggle , firsthand ,how precious life is. Some fight everyday just to stay alive...many don't make it. I hope every struggling servicemember can find hope through me, just I have found hope through you. Once again...many thanks! 💜
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry about your situation. They are vultures, they have ganged up on me for over 12 years. Sometimes it is so bad I just want to crack up laughing how stupid they are, other times I want to cry about how aggressive they are.
Every single time I have a nice interaction with males, only males that have a normal mature vibe and who often are just being friendly, (certainly not people who send off a freaky vibe or abusive vibe), women will descent on me like vultures, act as if they are the ones that wears a complimenting outfit instead of me, will act like they are cute or smart like me.
It is a theatrical production that rivals a Hollywood Film Set on any given day.
Oh my god. This is exactly what I am going through. They deny the abuse and gaslight me instead. I was also offered EAP because they said it is only in my head.
Absolute Great Delivery You Explained My Situation to The T
Omg! Yes! Im a red head, n Im well spoken n too comfortable with myself.... I feel like people who are bullying me are very not ok w the fact that im "too" comfortable with myself n have to try to destroy me feeling comfortable w myself. But it seems like they want to make me look like I am the one who is like that. And im definitely an empath and see through them, I notice almost everything honestly. Its almost a curse. But yes ive begun to feel like its spiritual in nature. Because ive felt so depressed I started feeling suicidal feelings, id never do it cuz I dont think it solves anything but it just seems my ehole life ive gotten targeted n smeared n i dont understand why sometimes but ive started to realize they cant stand me shining. Sad...and yes, yes, yes, its absolutely a spiritual attack n they cant stand a person w integrity and light that shines... its like you have to dim your light.... omg.... though.... oh myyy God.... this is so on point... ive been dealing w this n feel like i cant even work anywhere where theres too many people... thank you so much for making this video...
Yes, it's spiritual warfare for sure. Evil in this world seeks to lower everyone to the same base, primitive, lowest common denominator of self-loathing. Evil can not destroy God's love for us, but it can make us hate ourselves so that we block our own blessings. Often, you are targeted simply because you never let life make you hate yourself as much as they hate themselves. If you don't descend to their low level of insecurity and jealousy, of course that automatically means "you think you're better" than they are. People said it so much to me that I finally started to believe it.
@@clairehuntonline Yes, yes, yes!!! Oh my goodness yes!!! Thank you so much for actually adding the spiritual elements to it because I think it's key n fundamental core truth that needs to be understood to really understand it on a deep level, and also understand that you can forgive them knowing it's not really personal n also they are, In a sense a victim as well to these negative forces that unfortunately they became too weak n succumbed to it n didn't have enough or any self love to climb their way out or keep their head above water with it... ive dealt w a lot of abuse n difficulties but had some tools knowledge strength n good teachers n such probably a stronger spirit n maybe not as much or difficult of trauma to endure as perhaps some of the people who become so lost n overtaken by it... ive been asking for insight n understanding n for a way, n reasons to be forgiving, I don't want to hold onto that anger n hatred n resentments, n let them have power over me and also let the darkness n negativity take over, n overwhelm me, so that it's hard to get back out again.... I have to find a way to fight it n overcome it, n you have to seek the truth n find ways to deal w these things process them as much as you can forgive accept the reality have the self love to not let it destroy you or define you... idk... these are not easy things situations or people to deal with... and ultimately I think it's just very sad that we live in a world where souls get broken to the point of becoming dark and unloving n cruel sometimes... because they're so hurt the only thing they can do is fight n hurt others desperately trying to cope n survive the hell they're in mentally n emotionally n what ever else ways... sometimes physical. But thank you again it's really wonderful n good that we have people sharing their experiences because otherwise you can start to feel like its you n get confused or really think you're crazy or a unlovable worthless human being that Noone loves likes or wants except to use n hurt n abuse... so I thank you n everyone sharing their experiences on these topics... you would never expect people to be like this, so it's understandable when others aren't so quick to believe you.... still makes it feel isolating n worse... very depressing... G9d bless you Claire... I appreciate you n your video very much... take care of yourself... 🙏😊😇💖
THANK YOU!!! I've been dealing with bullying at work for the past 3 years now at my current job and have dealt with it in other jobs. This really explains it!
••Targeted Individual (Ti) ~ A person who becomes a target for various forms of harassment.
••Harassment ~ Any repeated or continuous uninvited contact that serves no useful purpose beyond creating alarm, annoyance, or emotional distress.
••Stalking ~ Criminal activity consisting of the repeated following and/or harassing of another person. It is a distinctive form of activity composed of a series of actions that taken individually are not criminal. But, when these actions are coupled with an intent to instill stress, fear, or injury then they may constitute a pattern of behavior that is illegal.
••Gangstalking ~ Stalking that is organized and carried out by two or more people. An extreme form of harassment, gangstalking consists of psychological torment which can negatively affect or even destroy every aspect of a targeted individual's life.
••Gaslighting ~ Various forms of deception that causes victims to doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity. Instances may range from the denial that previous incidents ever occurred, up to the staging of bizarre events by the abusers that is meant to disorient and traumatize the victim.
This psychology term is derived from Patrick Hamilton's 1938 play Gaslight, about a woman whose husband slowly manipulates her into believing that she is going insane.
••Vilifying the victim ~ A psychological tactic that puts a victim on the defensive while simultaneously masking the intent of the manipulator. When malicious actions are directed towards a targeted individual (Ti), the manipulator falsely accuses the victim as being the abuser in response when they stand up for or defend themselves.
••Reciprocal liking retraction ~ A psychological bullying tactic used to emotionally torment a targeted individual.
How this works is a person or group will initially act friendly towards a person, creating a bond. Then, when an undetermined amount of time has passed, the abusers will ignore, mock, and ridicule their target causing anything from annoyance or frustration to emotional trauma or suicide.
••Learned helplessness ~ A mental state that occurs after a person has experienced stressful situations repeatedly, especially ones that are not responded to correctly. They are resolved to feeling powerless, believing that they are unable to control or change things, even when an opportunity to do so arises.
Thank you. I've spoken about almost all of these patterns of behavior in my videos. They are so pervasive they've been codified in language.
Very helpful. You reminded me of so many things that happened back in the day when I was constantly abused in corporate environments until starting my own business and moving overseas to work. Once @ Medtronic in Minnesota, I was working as a contractor and took meticulous training notes. I was proud of them and emailed them to a manager for future classes, whereupon I was summoned to meet with her boss, who grilled me as to why I was "talking to lawyers" (I'd written down a lawyer's phone number he'd written on a whiteboard during a class he led as part of our training). That night the staffing firm called about 7 p.m. and told me that my services were no longer required. A friend later told me that a junior manager had been tasked with sitting next to me to take notes and make me look bad, and as soon as I was fired, she stopped sitting there.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you. I actually did speak to an attorney and was gaslighted within an inch of my life and bullied out of my position because of it. I, too, have gotten firing phone calls at night. You did the right thing by starting your own business and moving abroad. Congratulations.
You know every single time I read other people's stories about corporate harassment I gasp. Their idiotic behavior that reminds you of such childish behavior is something that shows each time how ridiculous these people are and how they stop at absolutely nothing to get to people who do not want to be a part of their workplace gangs.
My barber teacher was a bully. He would get personal with me which had nothing to do with barbering. He would talk about my job outside of the barber school like I was a failure. It was sick. He was sick. He use to read my Instagram account captions to the class. It was so strange because I did not follow him on Instagram at all. He would read ALL of my posts. He use to comment on how I would filter my photos. He tried to isolate me from the class. I ended up telling him about himself and he could not handle it. He even told a drug dealer to sell me drugs. I mean what kind of teacher does that? I blocked him on Instagram but that didn't even help.... he got another account to look at my posts. Just sick people. I stood up to him and it was tiring.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you went through. That is the workplace bullying technique of "stalking," and I have a video on it entitled, "Workplace Bullies Stalk Their Targets." That teacher was very clearly obsessed with you, and it may even have been sexual in nature. I'm not surprised that he is a teacher. Did you know the profession of education attracts more sociopaths than any other profession? Workplace bullying in schools is so bad that it is its own niche in the literature.
@@clairehuntonline yes thank you for listening to me. I agree he was obsessed with me. Because people really don't understand the effects of being around such a person. But it's important to always stand up to them.
Thankyou lovely lady 🙂 I have been putting myself down and even got angry and confronted a girl at work thinking I had to fight fire with fire, but to ignore her is the way to go. She tried to make me seem ugly by making me mad. I now see how pitiful that is and will never lower my self to her level ever again.
You're welcome!! Thank you!! Yes, when we "fight back," we stoop/lower ourselves to their level. It feels disgusting in your body, and it should. The whole point of workplace bullying is to get a rise out of you/know that it gets to you. Never give them what they want. That's why one of my recommendations about workplace bullying is to laugh and smile all the time.
Wow, this is so spot on. Thank you.
Hey Claire I'm listening to your video as we speak and I'm so thankful that I stumbled across your video because everything you're saying is spot on I just started my job 2 weeks ago and I'm very shy and reserved my supervisor and the other girls at my job treat me so bad I told myself I can't take it know more it's starting to make me feel helpless, suicidal and alone. There are people who witness the way I'm being bullied it's constant all day everyday my supervisor is picking at me as if she wants me to quit and give up but I won't although I cry because I feel helpless I have to see it through besides my circumstances wont allow me to quite I'm just so tired....
So sorry to hear about what you're going through. Sounds like you are in a Cinderella situation. Your shyness is what got you targeted. Those women misinterpreted it as you not liking them. These people are horrifically insecure and refuse to take "no" for an answer. In their mind they're just getting you back for what they think you did to them. I know how exhausting it is, but I admire your courage, bravery, and strength.
Wow! This is spot on!!
Yes it’s not about work. My bullies subjected me to a workplace investigation alleging that I couldn’t perform my duties. When the workplace investigation report came out, it wrote that the investigator could not find any findings about my lack of work performance.
Thank you for sharing your story. That's a very rare example of things working out in the favor of the target - for once. Usually, when they can't come up with anything against you, they just make it up. They are not at all above fabricating false documents as a permanent part of your employment record. The easiest thing to do is for them to simply project all of their own mistakes on you ... especially after you're gone.
Yes they do fabricate documents against a target. I have an anecdote relating to fabrication of evidence. My boss called me in one day for a “chat” and she accused of me of going outside for a break without signing out. This was NOT true. I told her so. And she said that “… someone reported it to her…”. She wrote this allegation in my probation report as if it was a factual event that happened.
Yes,yes,yes, you hit that ball right outta the park! I am also going through this for the 3rd time,lol. Now in all seriousness this has become a epidemic. When you figure out the psychology of these people you are already a step ahead of the game.
With me it was exactly as this wise women stated.
I had to hear numerous times how these women were not into wearing makeup to work. I got the insult the first time but chose not to care. That's the whole purpose of free choice but since they seemed to not care they sure felt a need to mention it numerous times,lol. That's a control technique that has probably worked for these clowns in the past.
After that it was intentional ostrisizing me from work responsibility (which I blame on management), not letting me know if we were getting out early and intentionally, either withholding Information needed to do my job correctly or choosing to act as tho they could not hear me when I asked a question.
Then the 3rd step which is to eliminate the fantasized threat by having them quit or going to the extreme of lying to get the person fired.
Let me explain that this all just happened to me this week and I was terminated. I think it is also very important to add that this job was new and I was hired in at a friends recommendation. The friend that recommended me was a co-worker who I had worked with at a previous job where the one thing we had in common was our supervisors complete hate for us. We dealt with so much sh!t that it would make your head spin. She walked off first and I eventually quit due to the psychopaths determination to annihilate my sheer existence. The reason for me adding this to the story is that shockingly my friend above became my next enemy.
Yep, unfortunately this happens people. The bullied becomes the bully either out of sheer fear or lack of integrity or just immaturity.
I did everything that I thought I could but these people are skilled and those that are not become real quick. I noticed a change the first week when I would not join in with them on terrorizing another employee. That made me a target. I am disappointed in my friend and even pulled her a side to see if I was missing something since she all of a sudden was salty and as cowards due she acted surprised and blamed the poor lady they were attempting to destroy. My friend did a complete and total change of character. I honestly didn't know this new person but that is the truth to mobbing and bullying and as I stated it is running ramped. I pray for all who this eventually impacts but your integrity is more important than their narcissism.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry to hear about what happened to you! It's true: you have no real friends in a workplace bullying environment.
It really is shocking to see people you thought had a solid mind follow the crowd just to fit in.
@@Carmen-.- They don't think. They are robots on auto-pilot. Bystanders to workplace bullying just want to make sure that they are not targeted next.
@@clairehuntonline Yes thank you again for your videos! 🙏🏼💞 I’ve been experiencing this at a lot of jobs in this small town I live in. When you don’t talk smack with them about a co-worker, manager, or owner they get offended and then go to that person and talk about you with them. It’s outlandish to see how many people go along with the manipulation, especially when it’s people in leadership positions. People just love and feed off the negativity and loath anything positive, productive, and uplifting… 🙄
You're welcome. That sounds like a toxic environment. The negativity is how they stay among the "cool kids." They have to go along with the crowd or risk being ostracized and bullied themselves.
WOW more people need to watch this video, She is 100% right this is the answer I've been looking for, Now I understand I knew this was the reason. Very good video.
I LOVE your content, Claire!! You are one of the BEST...remember that...
You are right. It's easy to see right through them and they know
It should be law against bullying people. People have the right to work in peace.
Wow, even though this vid is 2 years old, this is the most awesome right on point friggin explanation and presentation ! . Wow again.
Probably the best explanation I've heard on the matter. Peace x
You are a true gem!
Claire, thank you so much for this insight, it explains really a lot! It is three days ago that I escaped from the place where I worked for only 2.5 weeks. It all happened so fast, with the speed of light, that only now I start to see what was going on and the massiveness of the attack, and that it was not my skewed percrption or my subjective interpretation.
You're welcome. I'm glad it helped. I've had VERY short-term jobs, too, because the bullying started immediately. It's like these people decide to hate you the minute they meet you, sometimes even BEFORE meeting you (over the phone for example). Some narcissists are actually quite smart: they can intuitively sense that they are dealing with someone who will not grant them narcissistic supply and who sees right through the narcissistic ego. They can't have that, so they have to get rid of you. No, you're not crazy: one of the reasons I do these videos is to help other targets recognize that they are not alone. Workplace bullying is real, and your feelings are perfectly justified.
@@clairehuntonline and this is a lot! Otherwise, when facing such a situation alone, it is almost inevitable to at least start to question one's own sanity and dignity... A question pops up in my head: why would they need to employ someone, they know from the very beginning, they are going to hate and to treat so badly? It is already scary only to admit what a possible answer can be. Thanks again for what you are doing!
This is One of the Best video on this topic. You explained everything I’ve been going through for years now. Thanks for posting! ♥️
Thank you SOOOOO much for RECOGNIZE! For see what others doesn't ..thanks 🙌
Thank you for this video. Unfortunately I was constantly dismissed and ostracized by a work place bully who was my coordinator at a program I was at. She had a mob of flying monkeys 🐒 who were similiar ethnic background which allowed her to be rude to me. It was delibating being ignored and not invited to certain events except by my male mentor...who I was afraid to mention anything because he was from the same island as her...women are homoerotic to other women and I'm glad you pointed it out. At the end of my program, I left with grace, and the bully had the nerve to consider to meet with coffee ☕️ then added me to my LinkedIn...just foul how some people are ..they pretend that they care about their community and spirituality while they specifically target and harm others in the background..especially these politicians. I blocked 🚫 the person from my phone, added them to my LinkedIn out of mutual respect and put their post on mute because it's pure fakeness of assisting other people while strategically ostracizing others.
I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you. What you experienced is the workplace bullying technique of "snubbing," and I have a video on it: "Narcissistic Silent Treatment - Snubbing - Stonewalling in the Workplace." I know it's hurtful. Good for you for leaving with your integrity intact. Yes, I have been sexually harassed more by women than by men, and I know that many of my bullies were sexually motivated. It's disgusting. That woman was stalking you after you left the workplace, and I have a video on that, entitled "Workplace Bullies Stalk Their Targets." The reason they stalk you after you have left the workplace is that they are obsessed with you, need confirmation of what they did to you, and haven't found a new source of supply. I always recommend NEVER connecting with any of these people on social media - EVER. They don't deserve your "respect." You don't want any kind of connections to any of these people - especially energetically.
You described this perfectly. Hope you have some videos on ways to deal with it. Thank you for your content.
Omg! I'm so happy that I found your channel! You are absolutely correct about Work place bullies. It's not about your work at all. Thank you!!
Spiritual warfare on an energetic level.
Dang that hit me really clearly!