Victimized by Your Own Family? Family Mobbing the Scapegoat

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  • @amor63839
    @amor63839 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +20

    Hello, Professor Vaknin.
    That is my family of origin.
    Just so you have an idea, in your video " Get Rid of Your Sick Family", mine scored 12 out of 13...🙃
    I walked away in november last year, had one of the harder years of my life, grieving, completely no contact with my passive agressive
    mother and my three brothers.
    Your videos have been helping me a lot during this year.
    Thank you 🇧🇷

  • @darlenealessio7609
    @darlenealessio7609 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +38

    I'm stunned there are no comments, not surprised, as this topic is mindfully, deeply alarming, and attacks the core of your heart, mind and soul collectively. Pandora's box, combining overt, and insidious.

    • @Whammy888-u3k
      @Whammy888-u3k 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +16

      It was only posted 15 minutes ago and the video is 20 minutes long.

    • @jazzadezz
      @jazzadezz 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@Whammy888-u3k😆

    • @sarahshkoor4156
      @sarahshkoor4156 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      😂​@@Whammy888-u3k

    • @arnoroorda3201
      @arnoroorda3201 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Its been posted an hour ago
      In the mean time sevarel comments have been written!

  • @kkneebone9831
    @kkneebone9831 20 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +3

    Sam, thank you for this. It has been me. Very validating.

  • @djmidas7
    @djmidas7 30 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +1

    For 45 years I thought my family was close and cared for each other. The lie is soul crushing. Family 1st, honor your parents except your father. I repeated the cycle with my own. I hate lying so oh well. I’m a lone wolf and I ❤my peace.

  • @DefinitionsMatter
    @DefinitionsMatter ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +10

    19:55 "then the damage regrettably is for life" - ouch

  • @AngelaAngelicaWarren
    @AngelaAngelicaWarren 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +18

    I’m so very grateful Professor Vaknin. is bringing awareness about the toxicities that exist in some family dynamics. Being a scapegoat can result in a Hellish existence on this planet.

    • @Earth420-f8b
      @Earth420-f8b 54 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +2

      It's sad to me... I literally have no one in my Family in my Life now... But the toxicity is gone. They did me a favor by disowning me...

  • @HassaanAlhodhaifi
    @HassaanAlhodhaifi 55 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +3

    I was scapegoated by dad, mom and brothers

    • @Earth420-f8b
      @Earth420-f8b 51 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +1

      Scapegoated by my whole family, including my children 😢

  • @adambutler4237
    @adambutler4237 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +16

    I was firm with my boundaries and now my family is taking me to court.
    Wtf

  • @marksplayhouse86
    @marksplayhouse86 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +22

    I would say that scapegoats become later one of the mentally toughest people to exist… but for those who are extremely traumatized will ofc become cluster b

    • @khm0
      @khm0 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

      I agree. It builds a very high level of mental resilience

    • @f34r0r
      @f34r0r 49 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +2

      Well technically when you let no one approach you you can never be betrayed 🤷

  • @jcar25
    @jcar25 15 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +1

    Yep. I agree with the last sentence. Unfortunately, once you uncover the secrets and lies and this gets out to the wrong people, there is no going back.

  • @casecunnings693
    @casecunnings693 26 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +2

    Where are my fellow scape goats at!?!?! Scape goats unite!!!!!🐐✊💪

  • @khm0
    @khm0 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +8

    Thank you for this video! I was going to ask you if you wouldn't mind please creating a video on narcissistic siblings, in childhood and adulthood. You must have read my mind! Thank you for everything that you deliver on this channel, I appreciate it all. Truly.

    • @Earth420-f8b
      @Earth420-f8b 53 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +1

      Last thing my sister said to me: LOL Loser

  • @orcaunoo
    @orcaunoo ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    wow wow wow. the last line at the end was a stabber. lol

  • @synterr
    @synterr 26 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +2

    Everything about my "family". :(

  • @allannielsen5308
    @allannielsen5308 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +8

    Thank you Sam Vaknin, Brilliant explanation ⭐️🙏

  • @Stranzua
    @Stranzua 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    I posted a video on my channel called 'Moving back in with family was a terrible mistake'. I caught an argument on camera between my 37-year-old brother and my 70-year-old father, and my brother has some kind of undiagnosed mental illness. He lived with my dad his whole life. He's never paid any bills. He watches every little thing you do, and ALL of it makes him angry. The situation is so absurd, and they are completely unwilling to look in the mirror and take accountability for their own toxicity, that they have turned me into the scapegoat and have tried to destroy me instead.
    This explains my family to a T.

  • @ChillBoy-rk7ms
    @ChillBoy-rk7ms ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    They literally forced me to apply for food stamps and. I just got out of high school

  • @ChillBoy-rk7ms
    @ChillBoy-rk7ms ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    They only see me as a working body now. Based on the gang stalking video. They have a forum or group that they consume about a person which is “identical to me”.

  • @leslieschumacher892
    @leslieschumacher892 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you--Insightful & powerful--lots to think about.

  • @lili3097
    @lili3097 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    Thank you 🖤 this brought me a moment of relief.

  • @margaretgallacher1793
    @margaretgallacher1793 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +7

    Very informative, thank you xxx

  • @rb919
    @rb919 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +9

    ✨Thank you✨

  • @user-vi3sz3fg2r
    @user-vi3sz3fg2r 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    I've been thinking of when you said that our personalities are unchanged after age nine.

  • @shoulder0713
    @shoulder0713 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    I see the darkness in you Sam

    • @Earth420-f8b
      @Earth420-f8b 52 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +1

      That is for God to deal with...

  • @DiemCarpe503
    @DiemCarpe503 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    True story 😢❤️‍🩹

  • @DeborahColvin-stillhacked
    @DeborahColvin-stillhacked ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    I was the scapegoat and I freakin left. They dont get a single word! But i feel guilt and resentment concerning my aging sickly narc mother.

  • @ChillBoy-rk7ms
    @ChillBoy-rk7ms ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    They’ve been doing it for years.

  • @Greenbambu78
    @Greenbambu78 7 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    family enmeshment is cross-cultural..healthy family bond is great...unhealthy bond would damage for life without support.

  • @DeborahColvin-stillhacked
    @DeborahColvin-stillhacked ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    😢

  • @mitzzzu_tigerjones444
    @mitzzzu_tigerjones444 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    Thanks Doc❤️‍🩹

  • @ChillBoy-rk7ms
    @ChillBoy-rk7ms ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Yes

  • @mrlover7312
    @mrlover7312 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    This is me

  • @ChillBoy-rk7ms
    @ChillBoy-rk7ms ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    People look at relationships podcasts and drink a lot. I think these factors have a lot to do with it

  • @ChillBoy-rk7ms
    @ChillBoy-rk7ms ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    There is no tv shows anymore if anyone is on the internet it’s always a forum of hatred in every category

  • @juliaraptor
    @juliaraptor ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +6

    Thank you for helping us scapegoats navigate the complexities of our circumstances, teaching us how to handle adversities and validating our struggles xx ❤️‍🩹