"What can I do to make this better?" I miss hearing that. When I would get nervous about something new or because some situation was morally conflicting (I'm an ISFJ) my INFJ friend would always say, "What can I do to make this better?" Me: "Hugs...all the hugs."
"I don't 'zone out'. Being zoned out is my neutral state and I occasionally zone back in to see what's going on" I'm not an INFJ so idk if it's an INFJ thing but it seems like something an INFJ would say. Or it's something that I'd say and I'm desperately trying to relate to another type ~INTP (or INFP the quizzes can not decide)
"I'm really not that good at listening, I'm just good at guessing what people were talking about while I was zoning out". Oh I didn't even realize that's what I was doing until just now
Yes, but "feel better" is one step later, in the end. It comes with clarity, nuances of clarity regarding those "thoughts". The feel-better is a nice side effect, if it reaches that "point" :D
I've had 'thought dumps' when I've bottled up too much then non-INFJs get overwhelmed when they've been in the vicinity when I got overwhelmed. It's like a Pythagorean siphon of thoughts, once I start to overflow I don't stop until near empty (I had to google the name as I forgot 'pythagorean'). I've talked for over an hour about what has been on my mind in that moment. Edit; taking out error made when typing.
As an INFJ when i share my emotions to certain someone, they just don't reach my expectations and I'm always let down. By that time I regret sharing it in the first place and isolate myself even more
INFJ: "I can see both sides of this argument, and what I think is, they're both right." INTJ: "I can see both sides of this argument, and what I think is, they're both wrong." -Written by an INTJ
INFJ: We just wanted them to shut up and be quiet. Now we have to listen to more pointless bickering over something we really don't give a f- about. You truly are an agent chaos. - written by an INFJ
@@shelbygreen8293fr when people are arguing im always the one asked to take sides and people are just like "ur obvi gonna choose me right?" And im just like "u both have a fair point, im not taking sides"
I can see both sides of this conversation and I can see where you're both right and where you've been eating out of the rear of a steer... I don't know my type. I tend to consistently test as INFP for some reason.
Just last night I was working on homework and I don’t know when it happened but I somehow how ended up just sitting there thinking about how big my handwriting is and how bad I am at cursive this went on for like 20mins till I realized that I’m not even half way through my homework. The worst part is I haven’t even attempted to write in cursive since 3rd grade to put things into perspective I’m about to graduate from high school.
I do that too and my sisters freaking hate it. They always say “I thought you were asleep! You weren’t supposed to hear that!” I now know most of the family drama. 🙃
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Ahaa, I finally understand why I could always answer teacher's questions even when I was not paying any attention during the whole lesson :o
Once an INFJ said :" I want my friends to tell me everything they think about, while I want them to understand me without saying a word. It's insane, isn't it ? "
hm.. i think that's not insane thought, cuz already have a friends that we can understand each other without saying a word . I just glance at her and we just like sharing a brain cells (she is a INFP-T)
Is kinda selfish for me, but as an INFJ i relate to their words Idk how to express my feelings correctly, and is stressing because people always get mad at me when i express them, i just feel like i have to shut up because i know that people get bothered at me x'>
As an INFJ, is desperate to find a true and lasting connection. then days later: “I’d like to have some time for myself please, leave me alone” the constant struggle
INFJ: *stares deeply into someone eyes as said person speaks* Also INFJ: *stares into the abyss between said person to break the gaze* *Rinse and Repeat*
For me it's like *Stares deeply:* "Staring shows you're interested in what they're saying" *Looks away and zones out:* "But I really dont care about what they're saying" *Goes back to starting so I dont seem rude* Rinse and repeat
That’s me lol I don’t even realize it until i can feel them suspiciously stare back at me, like what is this guy up to? Then I’m like oh wow look at that sunset! lol I just wanna understand you!
I wish I could stop zoning out so badly, I always panic when I realise the other person has been talking for five minutes and I can't even remember how the conversation started. Then I'm just idiotically smiling and nodding and throwing in a tiny laugh for good measure all the while hoping what they don't figure out I've got no clue what's going on 😅
@@Meilat1890 be prepared to feel like they know every secret you have. And like they understand why you do everything you do. It is very awkward and uncomfortable🤣🤣🤣
"People always overshare when they're talking to me, is it because I nod and look interested and empathetic? Because I got news for you. That's all an act" ok where's the camera I'm scared
Sometimes I just wished that I could simply tell them that I don’t care because I honestly don’t and listening to them literally drains me. (Just nod and smile... just nod and smile...)
@@zyxgirlfriend same but I just can't, idk why, maybe my conscience knows it's not the right thing to do and just can't bring itself to say "I don't care" 😅
One time I asked this random guy to get something off the top shelf for me. We wound up talking for over an hour about his health issues. I also one time went to the apartment office to put in a request for maintenance and wound up talking to him for two hours. This is why I need to stop talking to people. lol
1:31 My highschool teacher once confessed to me I scared her because when I looked at her she felt like I was "seeing her soul". That's ridiculous, I'm not scary. Yet technically she was right.
Being an infj I absolutely agree with what he is saying Idk why ppl trust me a lot I never share my own things much Yeah I use the word idk a lot 😂 All these things are so relatable
My sister hates it that I always say Idk. I don't have the heart to tell her that I don't really want to talk longer than necessary and just want to end the conversation the soonest. As much as I would like to tell her so, it's considered rude in our culture since she's the oldest and I'm the youngest. 😭
I got stuck in a Cost-Co for an hour and a half because an employee kept talking to me about...whatever. I did the "uh huh", "or really?" "no way," the entire time. When a customer showed up he would say " hold on, I'll be right back." He'd deal with them and return and talk more. I didn't have it in me to just leave while he was helping them because I didn't want him to feel bad. But I still had an empty shopping cart and hadn't had supper and was hungry. I just really hope to this day he appreciated that I gave him that much of my time. Everyone I've told this to thinks I'm a crazy person for staying that long. They don't understand the internal conflict I guess.
“I’m not really that good at listening...I’m just really good at guessing what people were talking about while I was zoning out.” I saw that one coming six months ago. 😂
I busted out laughing at "my therapist is always telling me about his issues during my sessions..." - literally happened to me. He even told me I didn't need to be there but to come back if I ever needed to talk. LOL!!!
Yeah me too. In a session my therapist started to cry while talking to me aboug her stuff and after that, I never saw her again because she took a pause
I laughed so hard, every therapist I go to does this to me. I’ve literally decided to go to college to become a therapist myself. Gosh that was so INFJ of me 😂
We're too self aware for therapists to take us seriously...that's what it feels like. And the ones that challenge us are too mean because...don't know about y'all, but, I will push myself. And feel horrible because I disappointed everyone
On the other hand, we'll just pretend to ignore the lad/lassie we're crushing on - and never EVERR be looking them in the eyes -- Introverts after all, ain't we
One of my oldest and best friends is an INFJ and she is just so comically brutal with the truth. She looks at you with her beautiful blue eyes as you speak than two minutes later admits she wasn't listening to a single word. Love the INFJ.
@@malu8380 If you are our bro, INFJ, then this most likely happens because you are processing previous events / conversations, and here new ones are already coming in, but you are busy. In addition, maybe people are not as exciting as they think, most likely their topics of conversation may be trivial for you and you have already thought about this topic 3 thousand times from different sides and right now it does not catch your attention at all, especially when there are more interesting ones thoughts in your head. Have you tried disconnecting during an extremely interesting conversation on an intriguing topic? If so, I think you've been focused for a lot longer.
Whenever I'm getting into an unhealthy loop of feeling misunderstood or alone these videos and especially these comment sections are all I need to feel understood
"Let me talk to you for the next hour about a subject I just read about in a pamphlet for two minutes." I have never related to something so much until he said this
I’ve always have been this way. My ex wife says I turned everything into unbelievable event,when nothing happened. Or paint a pretty picture of the hell you just went through. I stand on my visions and watch everyone come true. But I don’t mention them,because nobody wants to go there. I’m not what you think I am,or category you put me end. They are what you think,after the fact of me before you.
"Let me just talk you for an hour about something I read in a pamphlet in two minutes" I wish more INFJs were like this, not going to lie. All too often they assume nobody wants to hear it and keep it to themselves. It can be frustrating talking with them because you can just tell there's so much under the surface, but they present themselves as chill and friendly and don't direct conversations where they want it to go for fear of being too pushy.
Are there any other INFJ's out there who live almost entirely in their own head to the point of making it almost impossible to deal with external concerns?
Two things I can say as an INFJ is that I'm constantly torn between: (1) just wanting to live peacefully off grid with animals vs. becoming powerful enough to make the world right (2) hating humans and wanting to leave them to their miseries cause they deserve it EXCEPT I'm not capable of leaving people behind I feel this everyday
Ngl i wanted to be a dictator to forcibly improve my country by renewing every flawed part of the system but if people see me as the bad guy might as well let the country burn. :)
Same here. Part of me wants to forget any connection I have in society and learn how to live like a libertarian, and pursue individualistic happiness and self-reliance like Ralph Waldo Emerson, but at the same time, I want to make a change in the government and try to reform the systems of governance in America so that less people suffer and I can spread a real positive change. Sometimes I just can't help but hate it
peoples: what were you trying to say? INFJs: I was just going to give my opinion about what we were talking about, but you weren't really going to be interested :)
It's why I naturally tend to play Devil's Advocate and speak for the person not there. "Well maybe it's like this". As I have grown up I have learned that some people don't want to understand the other person's behavior - something which could clarify the situation and make it better. Instead it's "Why are you never one my side?". I am but I think all perspectives should be considered!
I literally had to teach myself not to stare at people because apparently it makes them uncomfortable. Like, normal people usually looks at their hands, the wall, other people, while they talk, they don't stare right into your soul.
After becoming friends with a lecturer, she confided in me that she initially thought I might be a crazy person because of the disconcerting amount of eye contact I made during her lecture. 😳🤣 Nope...just an INFJ peering into your soul.
I actually have the opposite problem. I don't know if the 16personalities test is reliable, but apparently I'm an INFJ-T (some other tests also had INFJ as a possible classification based on my answers). Despite this, I can never look at a person's eyes for too long or I get uncomfortable (especially if they have pretty eyes), so I either look at the ground or start looking elsewhere. My aunt in particular told me I have to start looking at people in the eyes to look more confident.
I thought it was just me but all infjs do this. I'm like doing this all the time, bursting with excessive information on topics that intrigue me, telling people everything and more that I know. Especially arts.......I can speak a whole damn 1000 words essay after reading a 100 words article 😂 it's so passionate. I think this is also what makes FJ such a good youtuber.
“Let me give you some examples to illustrate the concept I’m talking about” followed by utter silence... I felt that in my bones. Haven’t laughed that hard in days.
Well, People tend to worry about your sanity when you try to present a concept to them a stick figure/scribbled illustration that in the end will just be more confusing both of you. I'm an artist.... Just not THAT kind of artist unfortunately so... Eh...
It's because he is an INFJ. These things are generally true of INFJ's, including me. That's why I love this channel. It's a place where I can feel normal.
I tried seeing a counselor after a traumatic experience and then found myself performing to make her happy. She felt really good about herself and the session after we were done.
@@connieturner2764 yes! I have that need too. When I'm down & depressed, I gotta get silly & make someone laugh...then I know "my work is done here " Making someone feel better ALWAYS helps me to feel better.
Oh my, the “hour conversation after reading a pamphlet” thing... I will see ONE instagram post covering a fraction of some topic and when the opportunity presents itself, I will have a full blown conversation about it as if I know everything about that topic. Being able to expand on such little information has always been super handy when trying to meet the word count on essays.
Yeah!! The power of overthinking and reading a lot of random stuff is honestly a great combination You read something, you start overthinking that something using information you already learned in other books or pamphlets, you create theories, you prove those theories you had either right or wrong, and boom you just expanded the theme a whole lot without even wanting to.
I always wondered why my friends would complain about writing papers in school. While I’m over here like dude just give me a topic/book/article and I can give you a 750 word treatise on it
I've often felt like I must have some sort of psychic sign above my head inviting random people to tell me sob stories/childhood traumas/ways they've been mistreated.. It's often interesting until it lasts too long and I start getting emotionally exhausted + can't find a way out!
I would go to my therapist and she would literally just let me talk it out to myself in the corner (which I hated) because she would say “you’re very aware of yourself, don’t ever let anyone put you on meds” it got to the point where she would take some of my own insight and use them for quotes on her website 😂😂
Once during class, i was completely zoned out. I’m staring at the board with empty heads and my lecturer see it through my eyes. So he started pointing out students to ask questions, me being the first. I was completely flustered since i know damn well i am not listening to him. But somehow, i managed to answer the question accurately with examples and explanations included that i shocked myself. I was like “holy shit how did i do that”. My lecturer was shocked too, he didn’t see that coming at all. Anyway, thats the level of power we INFJs hold.
My teacher was going around the room having everyone read a paragraph. I counted the amount of people and figured out what paragraph would be mine. I then took a nap. She called on (I woke up the second time) and she had the biggest smile thinking she got me. The look on her face was priceless when I started reading from exactly where the last person left off
I particularly love "I'm really not that good at listening, I'm just good at guessing what people were talking about while I was zoning out." I can't tell you how many times I've panicked while listening to someone, realizing I'd spent the last five minutes in my head, and now they're asking me a question about what they were talking about. By some miracle, I almost always manage to respond correctly. 😅😂
FACTS 🤣🤣🤣🤣 so I just nod and repeat the last thing I heard or just say wow or something small like that. However I can't do small shallow talk long. You get a good five minutes if that before I start gazing off into my deep thoughts about how to save the world lol.
Wow. I feel naked and exposed. My one push back would be I do actually enjoy listening to others talk, I find people insanely interesting. The only issue is that Ni zone out where I find myself dissecting what they’re saying and then five minutes have passed and I haven’t been listening.
1:12 I never realized this was an INFJ thing - genuinely thought I was just stupid (well, I guess the two aren't mutually exclusive...) Whenever I look into conspiracies, no matter how ridiculous, I can always see the believers' perspectives and justify why it might be true. Same thing with homeopathy and stuff like that - I just avoid all of it for fear of falling in too deep.
Omg yes. I remember I was super into PizzaGate even before it blew up(yes children being sex trafficked is a real sick issue,not saying PizzaGate may not be a thing fr)but then I stopped since I was beginning to scare myself with the mass amount of research put into it and all the stuff I've read. Some correlations people made within it was unrealistic but it's scary to continuously discover how dark a truth can be.
Well, as another INFJ I do the complete opposite, I pass hours reading conspiracy theories just to end up saying “What a bunch of crap”, and then thinking how people can believe these things.
I talked to/psychoanalyzed an anti-vaxxer for two or three months, watched the videos she sent me and analyzed them, and pieced together why she believed the things she did only to discover that she was just using conspiracies to cope with trauma in her life (also never believed a word they said because I've studied enough psychology and philosophy to realize what these people were trying to do)
@@MeganS1995 wellll....people really are dieing and having serious issues (enlarged hearts, paralysis) from the current one so.... i mean the FDA just posted information about inflammation of the heart on their website at the end of june. what does psychology and particularly philosophy have to do with scientific evidence or even personal experience? cause you think people who follow said evidence are conspiracy "nut jobs"?
"People always overshare, is it because I nod and look interest and empathetic, that's all an act" I've never laughed so loud in my life. People always ask me for advice in marriages relationship even when I'm single. I've usually nodd and give them advice based on the k-dramas that I've seen instead of telling them that they should see a marriage counselor. And I always get lost in department stores and car parking lots, but have no problems telling roads directions.
The infj stare is a powerful one. I remember in high school, one of my classmates was reciting a poem in class but suddenly stopped in the middle. Told me to look away a little bit because my stare was scaring her. I wasn't even paying attention to her recitation 😅
I had a girl once get REALLY aggressive because I was looking at her... she was in the middle of the room talking to all of us. I didn’t realize I wasn’t supposed to look at someone when they’re talking 😂😂
My roommate and I are both INFJs... this is basically our entire relationship in a video. Takes us forever to compress all the concepts we have, our morning coffee chats take about 2 hours 😂
We just absorb and take in so much, people sometimes forget we get depressed too... we are good at being our own therapist because we are intuitive, it's just nice to have someone to bounce things off once in a while.
We do try to help people and take everything in because we try our level best not to hurt anyone by any means . And because of this we also need to pretend sometimes and act interested in everything. But no one tries to understand us that we also might get stressed out or be depressed. A sad reality
@Flint yeah, I relate to that a lot. I've been working on worrying about myself, let others find an actual therapist, and focus on my own goals. It's been pretty good so far; I was so tired of being an emotional sponge for ppl's problems.
@@bethanyabigial7416 lol yes this does hover in our minds, it depends, on one hand it’s the thing and the flaw that happened to disrupt the perfectionism that object was in, on the other hand is its sentimental value. I might not be so attached to a shirt I just bought that my sister borrowed and made it not perfect anymore so I’ll buy the same shirt again. Yet I will cling to my old PJ that reminds me of a past nice period of my life. We do weigh things. But we definitely do have that burn it to the ground, ditch it in a hole, throw it off a cliff extreme.
I'm always so frustrated when something doesn't work. I just can't get over it because the object doesn't even do its only job right. And we don't really like caring about objects. We're not very materialist.
the "talking about a subject for an hour that I just read about for 2 minutes" thing was unexpected but it's so dang true, holy heck. "Yeah, I'm kind of an expert on [subject I know next to nothing about]"
As an INFJ, I would contend that I willingly ask my therapist about their life because that gives me an excuse not to confront the problems I went there for in the first place...
One month out: Sure, I can come to your party next month. Two weeks out: So glad I'm going to see everyone at the party in a couple of weeks. One week out: Wait, what was I thinking, what if I don't feel like going on Friday? One day out: Hey Timmy, I've not been feeling great this week, not sure if tomorrow is going to work Day of party: Yeah, I had no idea all these colliding unforseen issues were going to keep me from coming. Sorry I can't make it, sure wish I could be there!
Ya know, there are times I hate when you're right 🤣. The only thing I would add, and maybe this is just me, is "we don't really need to talk much anymore, the conversation goes on through our eyes".
I recently found out I am an INFJ and before that I used to think all my characteristics and features are weird and no one would like me if I ever say all these out. I am glad I have people and other INFJs who feel the same as me and share the same features as me. Atleast now I don't feel that self weirding out and hatred anymore. These are just qualities of being an INFJ. Thank you for this video
I never realized how the person I was friends with never understood my complains about how they treat me until I realized I just said it on my mind and never to the actual person
Every. Single. One of these is accurate. My therapist would talk about his problems during our sessions and I never had the guts to tell him I didn’t like it. Everything else too in here is accurate. I stare at people I zone out I’m bad at listening but I also like helping people. Good job
2 things. 1. most people here are probably the only ones watching it in their surroundings and 2. they are are most likely an nf or nt type so no new information is released to the sf/st public as they probably dont spend (except ISFP or ISFJ) "our" amount of time on youtube anyway.
And that person in ur profile is killing me . why I was just like spending a few minutes on watching something else than kpop. U reminded me of it now okay bye I'm going to watch some CRACK VIDS! CUZ I CAN'T STOP ME CAN'T STOP ME OHOOOO!
@@beshooyami4368 it would be relatable to every kpop fan on a ✨spiritual level ✨ And the fact u are an Infj and like kpop just like me makes it 1000 times better
"You know, I can see both sides of this argument and what I think is, they're both right...Somehow" I just LITERALLY said those to my siblings who were fighting
Bloody hell, you nailed it on the first one! It's something I've always thought about myself before doing the mbti test as I've often felt unopinionated or that I'm trying to be too diplomatic, but I honestly really do see both sides of the story!
my sister's an INFJ and I'm an ENFP, which works great because she can start explaining things and when she needs an example, I can jump in and help with a weird, drawn-out metaphor that's so confusing it comes all the way back around to making sense again
Yeah... I've learned to google translate myself a few thousand times to make myself readable. a reverse version of making things say the weirdiest stuff by throwing it through google translate, ALOT.
Every time someone asked me to do something spontaneous and I was happy to agree, they didn't know I actually forsaw that they were going to ask that 3 days before that, thought about it and decided to agree
Why is every single one of them so on point ! 😂 seeing both sides of an argument, predicting that people will break up, planning our 'spontaneous moments', *details don't matter* and *struggling to give concrete examples* 😂😂 you're the best Frank
@@arleneshanley9889 i'm a big picture person too and i care about details when i'm working on something , he meant we don't remember them /we don't see them while drawing the big picture of a cencept
The secret of living spontaneously by planning ahead fits also INTJs. If we act right away, it's not because we are spontaneous, it's because we thought about that topic before or prepared for that certain situation.
“My therapist is always telling me his issues during my sessions. Is it rude of me to tell him that I don’t appreciate that?” YO THIS IS WHY I LEFT MY THERAPIST LMAO
I just cant Trust them bc i know how they Work and how stupid their questions are. "Like it works for Most people so lets keep doing the Same Shit over and over again" And im Just Like ... That not how the human brain works
FACTS! I always feel this burden of people over sharing and it's not funny at all. And reading about something for 2 min and develop my own theories is so relatable.
"Let me talk to you about this thing I read in a pamphlet in two minutes for an hour." THIS is the one. I do this thing where every two weeks or so, I learn ALL about this one topic and I do it for fun. If I don't do it, then I feel lost. For example, I researched pet fish, and now have one. I fell in love with Hamilton, and now have a shirt. I loved slime and made it non stop for a while. I need to talk to people about it, and when I do, I hold a lot of info back bc I don't want to be boring.
Me, too! My family knows all about my 2-5 week "phases"; My fine-dining phase, my entire-history-of-the-Titanic phase, my Queen's-Gamlet-chess phase, etc.
My sister is an INFJ, and I don't think there is a more accurate video than this. She has said at least four of these things, especially the zoning out one! Thanks FJ~❤️
Any things they might say that I missed??
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I like it! I like it! 👍 That flat earth thing? Uh, I don't think I could get sucked in.😂😂 I love the almost examples!
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"What can I do to make this better?" I miss hearing that. When I would get nervous about something new or because some situation was morally conflicting (I'm an ISFJ) my INFJ friend would always say, "What can I do to make this better?"
Me: "Hugs...all the hugs."
"Hmm, my friend asked me for help, SO my homework/work can wait for a while..."😅
"I don't 'zone out'. Being zoned out is my neutral state and I occasionally zone back in to see what's going on"
I'm not an INFJ so idk if it's an INFJ thing but it seems like something an INFJ would say.
Or it's something that I'd say and I'm desperately trying to relate to another type
~INTP (or INFP the quizzes can not decide)
Don't ask me how I know this. I just do.
"I'm really not that good at listening, I'm just good at guessing what people were talking about while I was zoning out". Oh I didn't even realize that's what I was doing until just now
Me toooo 🤦😂
Same 😂
Yup 😂 it's the best thing ever, im good at guessing
My TH-cam bestie is here too ? What a blessed day
I came to the comments section to write this. But it was the first comment i saw when i came here. I love this community.
I now know why I don't have any friends. It's because I have more fake conversations in my head with them then in real life.
Lol!
Lord! lol me too
😳 shhhhh don’t let them know!!!
😂😂😂😂😂
Same
I feel like INFJs are there own therapists but still need to share their thoughts to someone about why they’re so depressed in detail to feel better
Yes, but "feel better" is one step later, in the end. It comes with clarity, nuances of clarity regarding those "thoughts". The feel-better is a nice side effect, if it reaches that "point" :D
I've had 'thought dumps' when I've bottled up too much then non-INFJs get overwhelmed when they've been in the vicinity when I got overwhelmed. It's like a Pythagorean siphon of thoughts, once I start to overflow I don't stop until near empty (I had to google the name as I forgot 'pythagorean'). I've talked for over an hour about what has been on my mind in that moment.
Edit; taking out error made when typing.
@@JonasAnandaKristiansson I've not managed to reach that point. :(
@@markwright3161 Totally see what you are saying, and seems natural to us.
As an INFJ when i share my emotions to certain someone, they just don't reach my expectations and I'm always let down. By that time I regret sharing it in the first place and isolate myself even more
INFJ: "I can see both sides of this argument, and what I think is, they're both right."
INTJ: "I can see both sides of this argument, and what I think is, they're both wrong."
-Written by an INTJ
I exist very close to the line between INFJ and INTJ and, yeah, those statements are correct. Lol
INFJ: We just wanted them to shut up and be quiet. Now we have to listen to more pointless bickering over something we really don't give a f- about. You truly are an agent chaos.
- written by an INFJ
As an INFJ, I can see both of those sides and they are somehow both correct also💀
@@shelbygreen8293fr when people are arguing im always the one asked to take sides and people are just like "ur obvi gonna choose me right?" And im just like "u both have a fair point, im not taking sides"
I can see both sides of this conversation and I can see where you're both right and where you've been eating out of the rear of a steer... I don't know my type. I tend to consistently test as INFP for some reason.
"I always think about the unknown, I have so much time and energy to think about the things I should not think about" INFJ said.
Literally waste my fukin time just imagining some shit. INFJ
That's a good one!
Wish I had a nickle for every moment I wasted overthinking things.
@@maybee...
Don't u love it when u overthink about overthinking
I can definitely relate to that
Just last night I was working on homework and I don’t know when it happened but I somehow how ended up just sitting there thinking about how big my handwriting is and how bad I am at cursive this went on for like 20mins till I realized that I’m not even half way through my homework. The worst part is I haven’t even attempted to write in cursive since 3rd grade to put things into perspective I’m about to graduate from high school.
My INFJ Mom could fall asleep during a movie and wake up knowing what was going on and answer questions. Super powers.
I do that too and my sisters freaking hate it. They always say “I thought you were asleep! You weren’t supposed to hear that!” I now know most of the family drama. 🙃
Ahaa, I finally understand why I could always answer teacher's questions even when I was not paying any attention during the whole lesson :o
My mom is INFJ too! I am an ENFP
For me,The first time when i and my mom watch movie together but my mom don't understand and me explain what's going on like i have seen it lol😂
@@p_eunhyae I an INFP 9 but I have done the same thing. One movie was very predictable but my friend was still amazed lol.
Once an INFJ said :" I want my friends to tell me everything they think about, while I want them to understand me without saying a word. It's insane, isn't it ? "
yes because we can understand people without them telling us anything but if it’s reverse they can’t
Yes, we are kind of insane haha
hm.. i think that's not insane thought, cuz already have a friends that we can understand each other without saying a word . I just glance at her and we just like sharing a brain cells (she is a INFP-T)
@@syifafathiyah6401 is she/he/them a INFJ?
Are you sure that you understand your “INFJ” well enough?
Is kinda selfish for me, but as an INFJ i relate to their words
Idk how to express my feelings correctly, and is stressing because people always get mad at me when i express them, i just feel like i have to shut up because i know that people get bothered at me x'>
As an INFJ, is desperate to find a true and lasting connection.
then days later: “I’d like to have some time for myself please, leave me alone”
the constant struggle
INFJs are like cats that way. If it was acceptable to just gently smack or bite we probably would.
@@ThewanderingwigNo wonder I have so many cats and I get them, and they get me! Lol! I admit I do hiss at some people.
@notyourbaby4978 That's why we stick to the online world, completely to our selves but still able to get some action.
Yes, exactly! But I guess those two have a common intended positive outcome somehow or in one way or another.
@@kimdawcatgirl Yes, this is why I adore elderly cats. We have the same/similar life experiences and want VERY similar things...
"....somehow"
"but hey, that's my opinion"
INFJs in a nutshell
wait a damn minute thats a DCMK profile picture
you are officially my friend now
Guilty
@Chamath Matharage a INFJ Theory.
Mine is "... to some extent".
mine is "im not a professional or anything"
INFJ: *stares deeply into someone eyes as said person speaks*
Also INFJ: *stares into the abyss between said person to break the gaze*
*Rinse and Repeat*
This one
Sad Truth..🤐
Oops
For me it's like
*Stares deeply:* "Staring shows you're interested in what they're saying"
*Looks away and zones out:* "But I really dont care about what they're saying"
*Goes back to starting so I dont seem rude*
Rinse and repeat
That’s me lol I don’t even realize it until i can feel them suspiciously stare back at me, like what is this guy up to? Then I’m like oh wow look at that sunset! lol I just wanna understand you!
All I need now is a “Day in the life of an INFJ” and I can die happy
i second that
Third
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That "I'm not a good listener, I'm just good at guessing what others told me while I zoned out" was spot on 😅❤️🍻
I wish I could stop zoning out so badly, I always panic when I realise the other person has been talking for five minutes and I can't even remember how the conversation started. Then I'm just idiotically smiling and nodding and throwing in a tiny laugh for good measure all the while hoping what they don't figure out I've got no clue what's going on 😅
@@frogosplayer1 Same. I try my best to keep up.
@@frogosplayer1 SAAAMMMEEEE
I thought that's pretty much what everyone did 😅😅
“Let me talk to you for an hour about a subject I just read about in a pamphlet for 2 minutes”
SOOO ACCURATE 😂
This is so me lol
Very accurate
Ikr
And don’t try to change topic, because I probably know everything about that as well.
I can't talk. But I know the stuff..
No one believes
But I could write a whole lecture on that..🙄
I'm an INFJ who was given the INFJ stare by another INFJ...
In that moment I learned how I make others feel
And all of the sudden I was like "what was this person thinking"
Lol! For real tho. We are unnerving😆
@@Meilat1890 be prepared to feel like they know every secret you have. And like they understand why you do everything you do. It is very awkward and uncomfortable🤣🤣🤣
It's intense..
@@Meilat1890 haha! I gotcha.😂😂😂👍
"People always overshare when they're talking to me, is it because I nod and look interested and empathetic? Because I got news for you. That's all an act" ok where's the camera I'm scared
Sometimes I just wished that I could simply tell them that I don’t care because I honestly don’t and listening to them literally drains me. (Just nod and smile... just nod and smile...)
@@zyxgirlfriend same but I just can't, idk why, maybe my conscience knows it's not the right thing to do and just can't bring itself to say "I don't care" 😅
Its a really good act. That we perfected. But its still an act.
One time I asked this random guy to get something off the top shelf for me. We wound up talking for over an hour about his health issues. I also one time went to the apartment office to put in a request for maintenance and wound up talking to him for two hours. This is why I need to stop talking to people. lol
But we're constantly looking for a person we really WANT TO connect with like 👀🤷😢
And don't forget the clincher: I just want to understand everything about everyone else without them needing to know anything about me.
Like they’d even ask.
INFJ: I can see both sides of the argument, and they're both right.
Me, an ENFP: I can see both sides of the argument, and they're both wrong.
@moon dust intp: I’m hungy
Infp : let's do something else then ~ times when things can't be solved like that and we're between to choose one way
Infp:I can see both sides of the argument and no one is really right or wrong. We just hanging😁
@@topsy-turvy9167 just hanging somewhere in between
truee ~ hahahaha even I always said like that. They both wrong hahaha
Loool yes every INFJ I know goes on about how they dont really like people, yet their empathy is like the biggest reason they're upset.
Yesss! I love to help people and be kind, but I don't want to be involved with them lol. Like, I'll help them, but from a distance.
Well, I am a misanthrope, but I still have an inclination to help people.
Yeee
How many do you know?
It me.
1:31 My highschool teacher once confessed to me I scared her because when I looked at her she felt like I was "seeing her soul".
That's ridiculous, I'm not scary. Yet technically she was right.
Maybe it's because we just prefer to observe people... even without blinking :D
OH MY GOD SAME ! Two teachers actually told me that. most people find me intimidating
Whoa! A teacher kind of told my mom I was kinda weird because um, staring at him all the time! I wonder how common is this and why is that?
Combine a RBF and the INFJ stare , you will be perceived as intimidating (i speak from experience)
One of my relative once said that to me
And i was like i am not scary
Being an infj I absolutely agree with what he is saying
Idk why ppl trust me a lot
I never share my own things much
Yeah I use the word idk a lot 😂
All these things are so relatable
I stg I thought I was the only one i am laughing so hard bc it's so true
I alwaysss say idk too
My sister hates it that I always say Idk. I don't have the heart to tell her that I don't really want to talk longer than necessary and just want to end the conversation the soonest. As much as I would like to tell her so, it's considered rude in our culture since she's the oldest and I'm the youngest. 😭
😂😂😂😂 ikr
Fr lmao 😭 when I look back on my friendships, it's mostly the other person talking
you know you're an INFJ when he said "i don't have my life planned out very far. maybe like...3 years?" and you thought, "wow, that isn't very far"
Same here haha
Yes! I am like that's not too long.
It's like you read my mind LOL
I was like at least say 5 xD
I was literally thinking that too
Also, “I didnt want to come but I surprisingly did actually end up having fun. Ok now get me out of here I’m done for the day”
This ^ with every social interaction
@@iCookieChan1 yes^
this is relatable af ✋😭
This is me.
We treasure those moments where we unexpectedly have fun tho, 100%.
……..in the moment tho, yeah we also can’t wait to gtfo.
Am I the only one who listens to people while they tell a story that they´ve already told me and pretend to be interessted? 😂
I just never understand how people don’t remember they’ve already told me that story.
@@laurelmalinowski1676 true
I tell them they've already told that story but they tell it again anyway.
@@laurelmalinowski1676 wow you must have a good memory then
if they repeating it for more than three time , i just out loud saying "you've been talking about the same thing sis can u just staph"🗿
I got stuck in a Cost-Co for an hour and a half because an employee kept talking to me about...whatever. I did the "uh huh", "or really?" "no way," the entire time. When a customer showed up he would say " hold on, I'll be right back." He'd deal with them and return and talk more. I didn't have it in me to just leave while he was helping them because I didn't want him to feel bad. But I still had an empty shopping cart and hadn't had supper and was hungry. I just really hope to this day he appreciated that I gave him that much of my time.
Everyone I've told this to thinks I'm a crazy person for staying that long. They don't understand the internal conflict I guess.
“I’m not really that good at listening...I’m just really good at guessing what people were talking about while I was zoning out.”
I saw that one coming six months ago. 😂
Truth
As an INTP, I also relate to the whole zoning out thing lol
this is me everyday
Literally everyday😂😂
This is introvert in general.. lol ~ ISTP here
"Is it just because I nod and look interested and empathetic? 'cause I got news for you. that's all an act"
Felt that one
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤭
*spits out my drink* 🤣🤣🤣
Lol same asf
Me at work be like… while my older coworkers spill their entire life…
My mom thinks I'm empathetic still, and I'm just sitting there like "Yea, I'll give you a massage so that I can go get lost in my imagination" lol
"I know everyone. The only person i have yet to figure out is myself"
too accurate ;c
This 👆
Exactly
😭🤣🤣🤣 meee
If I understand everyone, does someone understand me?
I busted out laughing at "my therapist is always telling me about his issues during my sessions..." - literally happened to me. He even told me I didn't need to be there but to come back if I ever needed to talk. LOL!!!
So are they paying you instead of you paying them?...
Yeah me too. In a session my therapist started to cry while talking to me aboug her stuff and after that, I never saw her again because she took a pause
I laughed so hard, every therapist I go to does this to me. I’ve literally decided to go to college to become a therapist myself.
Gosh that was so INFJ of me 😂
We're too self aware for therapists to take us seriously...that's what it feels like. And the ones that challenge us are too mean because...don't know about y'all, but, I will push myself.
And feel horrible because I disappointed everyone
me too! All my doctors do this!
And most of these we just say in our minds. 😂
yup
Caught me there 😂
Ouchhh😂
1:32 the infj staring makes people that you're flirting with them when you're not
So true, happens to me a lot when I meet people
@@jdubs2113
Or they tell u that it feels like looking deeply into their souls wich's kinda true lol
Very much so. And yet, when someone flirts with us INFJs, we’re too oblivious to notice 😅
On the other hand, we'll just pretend to ignore the lad/lassie we're crushing on - and never EVERR be looking them in the eyes --
Introverts after all, ain't we
Yup!
One of my oldest and best friends is an INFJ and she is just so comically brutal with the truth. She looks at you with her beautiful blue eyes as you speak than two minutes later admits she wasn't listening to a single word. Love the INFJ.
This is me, I don’t know why I just zone out and somehow come back right when the other person is finished talking.
I just walked pass my boss and ignored her completely. Bubble me.
@@malu8380 If you are our bro, INFJ, then this most likely happens because you are processing previous events / conversations, and here new ones are already coming in, but you are busy.
In addition, maybe people are not as exciting as they think, most likely their topics of conversation may be trivial for you and you have already thought about this topic 3 thousand times from different sides and right now it does not catch your attention at all, especially when there are more interesting ones thoughts in your head. Have you tried disconnecting during an extremely interesting conversation on an intriguing topic? If so, I think you've been focused for a lot longer.
That's a pretty good friend I suppose. 🤣🤣🤣I am infj too.Same behaviour here...
Yep i felt that too 😅
Whenever I'm getting into an unhealthy loop of feeling misunderstood or alone these videos and especially these comment sections are all I need to feel understood
Same ❤
"Let me talk to you for the next hour about a subject I just read about in a pamphlet for two minutes." I have never related to something so much until he said this
I just realized I do this lol
yesss i do this so often, but i could have never imagined it was something about my personality type
I felt attacked
I’ve always have been this way. My ex wife says I turned everything into unbelievable event,when nothing happened. Or paint a pretty picture of the hell you just went through. I stand on my visions and watch everyone come true. But I don’t mention them,because nobody wants to go there. I’m not what you think I am,or category you put me end. They are what you think,after the fact of me before you.
me too! I thought I was the only one!!!
"Let me just talk you for an hour about something I read in a pamphlet in two minutes"
I wish more INFJs were like this, not going to lie. All too often they assume nobody wants to hear it and keep it to themselves. It can be frustrating talking with them because you can just tell there's so much under the surface, but they present themselves as chill and friendly and don't direct conversations where they want it to go for fear of being too pushy.
That's because when we do that we're called "too deep".
I tend to just have chill or casual conversations and not overstep my boundaries when dealing with people.
@@lauramc4fun also people just get bored/offended
@@dimwitteddingo Possible of course, but I try to read the room and shut up if they're clearly bored or offended :)
Laura McKinley same
Are there any other INFJ's out there who live almost entirely in their own head to the point of making it almost impossible to deal with external concerns?
yes
@@niav6094In that case, I sympathise!
Yea lol
I have a million things to do, but here I am reading 6 mo. old comment.s.
Factssss
Two things I can say as an INFJ is that
I'm constantly torn between:
(1) just wanting to live peacefully off grid with animals vs. becoming powerful enough to make the world right
(2) hating humans and wanting to leave them to their miseries cause they deserve it EXCEPT I'm not capable of leaving people behind
I feel this everyday
Ngl i wanted to be a dictator to forcibly improve my country by renewing every flawed part of the system but if people see me as the bad guy might as well let the country burn. :)
YES!
exactly I think too
@@krisg5078 Y'know H*tler was an Infj...
Same here. Part of me wants to forget any connection I have in society and learn how to live like a libertarian, and pursue individualistic happiness and self-reliance like Ralph Waldo Emerson, but at the same time, I want to make a change in the government and try to reform the systems of governance in America so that less people suffer and I can spread a real positive change.
Sometimes I just can't help but hate it
peoples: what were you trying to say?
INFJs: I was just going to give my opinion about what we were talking about, but you weren't really going to be interested :)
Lol
YES! With most peoole I can't be bothered saying anything about my self/opinions because I just know I'll be wasting my time
So true. That's why I says nothing, cause I know no one care about my opinion or what I feel or what I want.
Yesssssss 😅 ugh
@@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes me too
Alternative title: Frank James being an INFJ for almost 2 minutes straight.
He's been an INFJ for his entire life lol
@@theelectronic00 Indeed lol
Or: Frank James being himself for 2 minutes
Me, also an INFJ: *[stares back to assert dominance]*
I do that sometimes when I realize someone is analyzing me I look them in the eyes until they look away (infj)
@@wolfbros1118 Yes! Yes!!
@@wolfbros1118 yess!
Exactly!
@@wolfbros1118 ikr its like "dont fucking scan me" my secretive defense mechanism is deployed
I cannot stress enough how accurate is this.
Especially the part like, I can talk for hour/s about some I just read for two minutes.
"You know I can see both sides of this argument and what I think is they're both right... Somehow" literally me almost every damn time
I cant pick a side
I’m the other way around (sometimes)
“You know, I can see both sides of the argument, and you’re both dumb as fuck”
- A tired INFJ
@@malu8380 same.... I'll be like now I know why you both ended up the way you did🤣
It's why I naturally tend to play Devil's Advocate and speak for the person not there. "Well maybe it's like this". As I have grown up I have learned that some people don't want to understand the other person's behavior - something which could clarify the situation and make it better. Instead it's "Why are you never one my side?". I am but I think all perspectives should be considered!
@@malu8380 sameee
I literally had to teach myself not to stare at people because apparently it makes them uncomfortable. Like, normal people usually looks at their hands, the wall, other people, while they talk, they don't stare right into your soul.
I had to the same thing
After becoming friends with a lecturer, she confided in me that she initially thought I might be a crazy person because of the disconcerting amount of eye contact I made during her lecture. 😳🤣 Nope...just an INFJ peering into your soul.
I had a roommate tell me my eyes scare her because she felt her soul was naked.
I actually have the opposite problem. I don't know if the 16personalities test is reliable, but apparently I'm an INFJ-T (some other tests also had INFJ as a possible classification based on my answers). Despite this, I can never look at a person's eyes for too long or I get uncomfortable (especially if they have pretty eyes), so I either look at the ground or start looking elsewhere. My aunt in particular told me I have to start looking at people in the eyes to look more confident.
@@christheplayer99 I felt that 💯🙏🏽 despite its all beautiful- you’re loved 🤍
It's more accurate to title this as "What INFJs Think But Don't Say".
I thought it was just me but all infjs do this. I'm like doing this all the time, bursting with excessive information on topics that intrigue me, telling people everything and more that I know. Especially arts.......I can speak a whole damn 1000 words essay after reading a 100 words article 😂 it's so passionate. I think this is also what makes FJ such a good youtuber.
“Let me give you some examples to illustrate the concept I’m talking about” followed by utter silence... I felt that in my bones. Haven’t laughed that hard in days.
Me too, it was so relatable. 😂
Perfect intuition with no factual basis for your argument is such fun. =)
😂😂😂😂😂 yessssssss
Sometimes it's - I can't imagine it other way - and other times it's just a fact the person would (probably) not understand the illustration.
Well, People tend to worry about your sanity when you try to present a concept to them a stick figure/scribbled illustration that in the end will just be more confusing both of you. I'm an artist.... Just not THAT kind of artist unfortunately so... Eh...
As an INFJ, I can confirm this is wayyy too accurate! It’s like Frank’s looking into my life... 👀
It's because he is an INFJ. These things are generally true of INFJ's, including me. That's why I love this channel. It's a place where I can feel normal.
Ok! Where's the 4th wall? 'grabs hammer'
Actually he was just guessing cause he zoned out...
I tried seeing a counselor after a traumatic experience and then found myself performing to make her happy. She felt really good about herself and the session after we were done.
HAHA
What about you..? XD
@@link_team3855 I probably felt good about myself because I made her day. That was my therapy I think.
Hahah..true, my therapist told me that she likes talking to me and extended the session by half an hour :)
@@connieturner2764 yes! I have that need too. When I'm down & depressed, I gotta get silly & make someone laugh...then I know "my work is done here " Making someone feel better ALWAYS helps me to feel better.
"Let me give you some examples to illustrate the concept I've been talking about."
This one hit hard.
Oh my, the “hour conversation after reading a pamphlet” thing... I will see ONE instagram post covering a fraction of some topic and when the opportunity presents itself, I will have a full blown conversation about it as if I know everything about that topic.
Being able to expand on such little information has always been super handy when trying to meet the word count on essays.
Yeah!!
The power of overthinking and reading a lot of random stuff is honestly a great combination
You read something, you start overthinking that something using information you already learned in other books or pamphlets, you create theories, you prove those theories you had either right or wrong, and boom you just expanded the theme a whole lot without even wanting to.
I always wondered why my friends would complain about writing papers in school. While I’m over here like dude just give me a topic/book/article and I can give you a 750 word treatise on it
This kind of elaboration has saved many of my school papers
agreed, I was never worried about a speech length requirement or essay length!
That’s the advantage of INFJ in academics especially when it’s output-based courses.
I've often felt like I must have some sort of psychic sign above my head inviting random people to tell me sob stories/childhood traumas/ways they've been mistreated.. It's often interesting until it lasts too long and I start getting emotionally exhausted + can't find a way out!
Same ☠️
Me too. It always lasts too long!
Yup
Alwayssss! A lot of I’ve told anyone this before from complete strangers lol
I can understand that feeling lol
I'm so good at meeting with people, talking to them, having great memories of them.... All in my mind, laying on my couch
way better than the real thing
🤭🤭🤭
Accurate
I felt it very badly 😭when he said - " I'm not staring ,these are just my eyes".
Exactly 😂😂
I would go to my therapist and she would literally just let me talk it out to myself in the corner (which I hated) because she would say “you’re very aware of yourself, don’t ever let anyone put you on meds” it got to the point where she would take some of my own insight and use them for quotes on her website 😂😂
My college counsellor said the same and I’m an INFJ too. I didn’t know this happens to other INFJs too 😂
That's so unethical! I'm so sorry. Hope you better luck picking a therapist next time.
INJF goes to therapy to give therapy.
Who needs a therapist?
Holy cow. Same. She told me her problems and when I spoke, she scrolled on her phone. Yeah, I let that one go. 😂
Once during class, i was completely zoned out. I’m staring at the board with empty heads and my lecturer see it through my eyes. So he started pointing out students to ask questions, me being the first. I was completely flustered since i know damn well i am not listening to him. But somehow, i managed to answer the question accurately with examples and explanations included that i shocked myself. I was like “holy shit how did i do that”. My lecturer was shocked too, he didn’t see that coming at all. Anyway, thats the level of power we INFJs hold.
This happened to me too! Twice, once in High School and another time in University.
Same. I think I am flipflopping between infp and infj
My teacher was going around the room having everyone read a paragraph. I counted the amount of people and figured out what paragraph would be mine. I then took a nap. She called on (I woke up the second time) and she had the biggest smile thinking she got me. The look on her face was priceless when I started reading from exactly where the last person left off
I particularly love "I'm really not that good at listening, I'm just good at guessing what people were talking about while I was zoning out." I can't tell you how many times I've panicked while listening to someone, realizing I'd spent the last five minutes in my head, and now they're asking me a question about what they were talking about. By some miracle, I almost always manage to respond correctly. 😅😂
Same😤🙆
Omgosh yesssss to the mini internal panick 😂
FACTS 🤣🤣🤣🤣 so I just nod and repeat the last thing I heard or just say wow or something small like that. However I can't do small shallow talk long. You get a good five minutes if that before I start gazing off into my deep thoughts about how to save the world lol.
"My therapist is always telling me about his issues during my sessions." SOOOOO TRUE
"you know, I can see both sides of this argument and what I think is, they're both right. Somehow." Yeah, totally me XD lmao
I always say im so neutral it gets annoying 😅
Wow. I feel naked and exposed. My one push back would be I do actually enjoy listening to others talk, I find people insanely interesting. The only issue is that Ni zone out where I find myself dissecting what they’re saying and then five minutes have passed and I haven’t been listening.
Thisssss
This is more accurate 👌🏻 we wouldn't be good therapists and problem solvers if we were fake listening.
Omg exactly!
😂😭
1:12
I never realized this was an INFJ thing - genuinely thought I was just stupid (well, I guess the two aren't mutually exclusive...)
Whenever I look into conspiracies, no matter how ridiculous, I can always see the believers' perspectives and justify why it might be true. Same thing with homeopathy and stuff like that - I just avoid all of it for fear of falling in too deep.
Omg yes. I remember I was super into PizzaGate even before it blew up(yes children being sex trafficked is a real sick issue,not saying PizzaGate may not be a thing fr)but then I stopped since I was beginning to scare myself with the mass amount of research put into it and all the stuff I've read. Some correlations people made within it was unrealistic but it's scary to continuously discover how dark a truth can be.
i tried to convince my friends that the world is flat evem though i knoe it isnt lmao
Well, as another INFJ I do the complete opposite, I pass hours reading conspiracy theories just to end up saying “What a bunch of crap”, and then thinking how people can believe these things.
I talked to/psychoanalyzed an anti-vaxxer for two or three months, watched the videos she sent me and analyzed them, and pieced together why she believed the things she did only to discover that she was just using conspiracies to cope with trauma in her life
(also never believed a word they said because I've studied enough psychology and philosophy to realize what these people were trying to do)
@@MeganS1995 wellll....people really are dieing and having serious issues (enlarged hearts, paralysis) from the current one so....
i mean the FDA just posted information about inflammation of the heart on their website at the end of june.
what does psychology and particularly philosophy have to do with scientific evidence or even personal experience? cause you think people who follow said evidence are conspiracy "nut jobs"?
"People always overshare, is it because I nod and look interest and empathetic, that's all an act"
I've never laughed so loud in my life. People always ask me for advice in marriages relationship even when I'm single. I've usually nodd and give them advice based on the k-dramas that I've seen instead of telling them that they should see a marriage counselor.
And I always get lost in department stores and car parking lots, but have no problems telling roads directions.
The infj stare is a powerful one. I remember in high school, one of my classmates was reciting a poem in class but suddenly stopped in the middle. Told me to look away a little bit because my stare was scaring her. I wasn't even paying attention to her recitation 😅
"maybe if i stare harder she wont notice that I am not listening" ah the ability to astro project ^.^
😂
my nickname in high school was ‘silent killer’ haha 😜
"I'm not staring. These are just my eyes. This is just how i look people"
The whole video is really attacking me but that is so true.
I had a girl once get REALLY aggressive because I was looking at her... she was in the middle of the room talking to all of us. I didn’t realize I wasn’t supposed to look at someone when they’re talking 😂😂
My roommate and I are both INFJs... this is basically our entire relationship in a video. Takes us forever to compress all the concepts we have, our morning coffee chats take about 2 hours 😂
LMAO! I can imagine
my coffee conversation with myself takes 2 hours
@@kritichaplot5025 yoo same but Idk my type yet
I really wake up in the morning to only talk to myself while everyone is sleeping
@@zhraaashraf3131 "me time" is important!
"I'm not good at listening, I'm just good at guessing what people were meaning to say whilst I zoned out" = ME
"I'm just good at guessing what people were talking while I was zoning out" damn xD
I do that all the time!🤭😂
LMAO! It's a superpower
We just absorb and take in so much, people sometimes forget we get depressed too... we are good at being our own therapist because we are intuitive, it's just nice to have someone to bounce things off once in a while.
its really, really nice to have someone to bounce ideas off of.
ideally multiple someones.
Blessings on your soul, body, and mind. I relate to your expression.
We do try to help people and take everything in because we try our level best not to hurt anyone by any means . And because of this we also need to pretend sometimes and act interested in everything.
But no one tries to understand us that we also might get stressed out or be depressed.
A sad reality
@@hiyabarua7598 Yep. Makes me think, do we have a saviour complex? Maybe we should limit our empathy, just like other people limit their selfiness.
@Flint yeah, I relate to that a lot. I've been working on worrying about myself, let others find an actual therapist, and focus on my own goals. It's been pretty good so far; I was so tired of being an emotional sponge for ppl's problems.
Car: **has a mini problem**
INFJ: it’s over, your life is done. Goodbye!
Car: **thrown off a cliff**
See the only problem is INFJs would be like "ahhhh but the car what about its feelings and sense of value"
@@bethanyabigial7416 lol yes this does hover in our minds, it depends, on one hand it’s the thing and the flaw that happened to disrupt the perfectionism that object was in, on the other hand is its sentimental value. I might not be so attached to a shirt I just bought that my sister borrowed and made it not perfect anymore so I’ll buy the same shirt again. Yet I will cling to my old PJ that reminds me of a past nice period of my life. We do weigh things.
But we definitely do have that burn it to the ground, ditch it in a hole, throw it off a cliff extreme.
@@NadaAlawadhi So true about the weighing things... and yeah you are probably right hahahaha
Yup, definitely happened last week with my new phone... (writing this on my new phone, after major relationship issues we reconciled, kinda)
I'm always so frustrated when something doesn't work. I just can't get over it because the object doesn't even do its only job right. And we don't really like caring about objects. We're not very materialist.
the "talking about a subject for an hour that I just read about for 2 minutes" thing was unexpected but it's so dang true, holy heck.
"Yeah, I'm kind of an expert on [subject I know next to nothing about]"
As an INFJ, I would contend that I willingly ask my therapist about their life because that gives me an excuse not to confront the problems I went there for in the first place...
😂😂
As an INFJ, yes. I would absolutely do that 😂
I've absolutely done this 😂🤣
Yup, I want to know people, but I hate to be known.
I would because I want to feel related to someone. I'm only scared to tell my thoughts because I might get dismissed or misunderstood
One month out: Sure, I can come to your party next month.
Two weeks out: So glad I'm going to see everyone at the party in a couple of weeks.
One week out: Wait, what was I thinking, what if I don't feel like going on Friday?
One day out: Hey Timmy, I've not been feeling great this week, not sure if tomorrow is going to work
Day of party: Yeah, I had no idea all these colliding unforseen issues were going to keep me from coming. Sorry I can't make it, sure wish I could be there!
Yes so true!!
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I actually have a party tomorrow on friday and am thinking of giving the covid excuse.
hahahaha so me
I still go to the party/get together, but have anxiety about it.
Ya know, there are times I hate when you're right 🤣. The only thing I would add, and maybe this is just me, is "we don't really need to talk much anymore, the conversation goes on through our eyes".
"I'm really not that good at listening, I'm just good at guessing what people are talking about while zoning out", I feel that one
i clicked on this video embarrassingly fast lol
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Tachycardia while looking for something to say😂
No shame. Me too but i wasn’t fast enough.
Same
Same
I recently found out I am an INFJ and before that I used to think all my characteristics and features are weird and no one would like me if I ever say all these out. I am glad I have people and other INFJs who feel the same as me and share the same features as me. Atleast now I don't feel that self weirding out and hatred anymore. These are just qualities of being an INFJ. Thank you for this video
Ikr 😢❤
I went to INTJ, to ISTP, to INFJ. I think INFJ describes me better tbh
I never realized how the person I was friends with never understood my complains about how they treat me until I realized I just said it on my mind and never to the actual person
For me, I have this idea that people know how upset I am before I realize that I've internalized everything and they have no idea.
Every. Single. One of these is accurate. My therapist would talk about his problems during our sessions and I never had the guts to tell him I didn’t like it. Everything else too in here is accurate. I stare at people I zone out I’m bad at listening but I also like helping people. Good job
Frank, we need this one for INFPs too...
Yes please
I wanted to comment the same :)
Yesss
Honestly this video is me as an INFP, aside from the stuff about planning ahead or being organized. Totally opposite on that
C. Shadou I’m an INFP too and I agree with you but I need some romantic lines for INFP as well you know what I’m sayin?
Fj, I can't take this anymore. This has to STOP!
You keep exposing us to other people. It's not ok! hfhfjg
2 things. 1. most people here are probably the only ones watching it in their surroundings and 2. they are are most likely an nf or nt type so no new information is released to the sf/st public as they probably dont spend (except ISFP or ISFJ) "our" amount of time on youtube anyway.
And that person in ur profile is killing me . why I was just like spending a few minutes on watching something else than kpop. U reminded me of it now okay bye I'm going to watch some CRACK VIDS! CUZ I CAN'T STOP ME CAN'T STOP ME OHOOOO!
@@purplehearteu1915 I feel you 🤣🤣 btw he's Jinyoung from Got7
@@beshooyami4368 I know thats why I mentioned that my oppar is killing me with those looks
@@beshooyami4368 it would be relatable to every kpop fan on a ✨spiritual level ✨
And the fact u are an Infj and like kpop just like me makes it 1000 times better
"You know, I can see both sides of this argument and what I think is, they're both right...Somehow" I just LITERALLY said those to my siblings who were fighting
I laughed so hard about that not listening and just guessing what my friends say while I zone out. THIS IS PURE SPOT ON.
As an INFJ, this definitely tickled my sense of humor lol
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Bruh I literally got rid of my last therapist because she kept ending up talking about herself 😂😂😂😂. This video was aggressively accurate
I had one who fell asleep.
@@arleneshanley9889 It's real out here lol!
My first four therapists 😭
I've done that too.
😂😂😂
I’m not staring, these are just my eyes, this is how I look at people 😳 bahaha seems pretty socially acceptable 😂
🤣🤣 True
Bloody hell, you nailed it on the first one! It's something I've always thought about myself before doing the mbti test as I've often felt unopinionated or that I'm trying to be too diplomatic, but I honestly really do see both sides of the story!
my sister's an INFJ and I'm an ENFP, which works great because she can start explaining things and when she needs an example, I can jump in and help with a weird, drawn-out metaphor that's so confusing it comes all the way back around to making sense again
Yeah... I've learned to google translate myself a few thousand times to make myself readable.
a reverse version of making things say the weirdiest stuff by throwing it through google translate, ALOT.
I can give examples and they're great examples!
For example:
I remember this time when.... uhhh... when...
ANYWAY, it's great, right?
Every time someone asked me to do something spontaneous and I was happy to agree, they didn't know I actually forsaw that they were going to ask that 3 days before that, thought about it and decided to agree
"I can see both sides of this argument, and what I think is, they're both right" - me since childhood
Same. And have been attacked by both sides for it. Many times.
Why is every single one of them so on point ! 😂 seeing both sides of an argument, predicting that people will break up, planning our 'spontaneous moments', *details don't matter* and *struggling to give concrete examples* 😂😂 you're the best Frank
I'm a big picture thinker but I definitely an detail-oriented. That part doesn't resonate.
@@arleneshanley9889 i'm a big picture person too and i care about details when i'm working on something , he meant we don't remember them /we don't see them while drawing the big picture of a cencept
@@Nina21_ ah that's definitely true. I have to watch a movie or read a book several times before things make sense.
Yes, that happens to me all the time. I can't recall details during a conversation even though I have thoroughly researched them.
Me: So tell me how that made you feel...
The Therapist:....I'm the psychologist here, not you....also you're not my patient, how did you get in here?
We teleport to people who are in need of someone to vent their problems too👁
😂😂😂😭😭🤍🤍🤍
I'm really looking for that partner who can listen to my random thoughts - - who I'd be comfortable enough to talk to
thats exactly what im looking for pfp + infj friend
I tried to share with my close friends but i could tell that they were fake interested. I wish i could find one
Spot on! You're insights in how the different types interact with their inner- and the external world is astonishing!
The secret of living spontaneously by planning ahead fits also INTJs.
If we act right away, it's not because we are spontaneous, it's because we thought about that topic before or prepared for that certain situation.
I tried to like this 3 times for emphasis.
"Let me talk to you on a subject I just read about in a pamphlet for two minutes"
Bruh, I felt that on a spiritual level.
“My therapist is always telling me his issues during my sessions. Is it rude of me to tell him that I don’t appreciate that?”
YO THIS IS WHY I LEFT MY THERAPIST LMAO
I just cant Trust them bc i know how they Work and how stupid their questions are. "Like it works for Most people so lets keep doing the Same Shit over and over again"
And im Just Like ... That not how the human brain works
I had this happen to me on my FIRST session with a new therapist xD Needless to say it was the last one, lmao
Mine told me about her youth acid trips last week.. 🙃 I think I gotta get a new one for me too
This is why my therapists are always older than my mother.
FACTS! I always feel this burden of people over sharing and it's not funny at all. And reading about something for 2 min and develop my own theories is so relatable.
"Let me talk to you about this thing I read in a pamphlet in two minutes for an hour."
THIS is the one.
I do this thing where every two weeks or so, I learn ALL about this one topic and I do it for fun. If I don't do it, then I feel lost. For example, I researched pet fish, and now have one. I fell in love with Hamilton, and now have a shirt. I loved slime and made it non stop for a while. I need to talk to people about it, and when I do, I hold a lot of info back bc I don't want to be boring.
i do this accidently actually.
speaking of this video let to one such topic, lul
Me, too! My family knows all about my 2-5 week "phases"; My fine-dining phase, my entire-history-of-the-Titanic phase, my Queen's-Gamlet-chess phase, etc.
My sister is an INFJ, and I don't think there is a more accurate video than this. She has said at least four of these things, especially the zoning out one! Thanks FJ~❤️
I'm an INFP and we're together in most of those points... I feel you mates