I just found out about the second cheating event with another nameless stranger. I packed his stuff for him. I’m over it but he won’t go. I’m done. I gave him an ultimatum with a whole host of things I want to reestablish trust. Including turning on his location and he still hasn’t done it. We will talk tonight. I’m seriously done. I deserve better and more respect. I don’t think he is bad but he obviously has a problem with his morals and values and they don’t align with mine.
Yes and amen. That is why Christ is supposed to be in the center of your marriage. You can get through the pains. If you are still thinking about the feelings of not being the same or you won't forget, that means you haven't forgiven and got over it properly. Means you haven't repented to God and given him the burden. If you had, then you would be able to accept what happened, doesn't make it right or okay. It means you accept and move on in God's name and with him. That is why it is important to have a partner who shares faith and trusts God and puts God in the centre or you don't have much of a chance getting through adultery or other sin. @@BobbyKrupka
Leave him. God has no problem with leaving someone who betrayed you. He does not love you like you love him. You're probably addicted to him. You need to break the addiction and move on.
@@mygirldarby I hope your husband or wife would stay with you if you were lied to and fell into addiction. God talks about separating to be at peace, then forgiveness and reconciliation. One flesh means one flesh. If one is hurt so is the other so it is best to go to the Bible together as one and figure it out.
Your videos always have so much compassion for the cheater. I have even heard you say that the person who was betrayed should not talk bad about the affair partner with their spouse. Lol smh
Well you didn’t tell us how. I have no need to forgive. To forgive they have to be sorry and I’m not going to beg for that. I’ve let it go. This sure is some Pollyanna non-advice …all fluff with no substance.
I have offered forgiveness. But forgiveness requires repentance to have any effect. I told her i forgave her for the lies and hiding of things and all the rest, but if she doesn't stop doing it theres nothing i can do.
Someone once told me that forgiveness is a one way street, and reconciliation takes two. The point of the video is in opposition to your offer- that you don’t wait for the opportunity to make it happen, you do it anyways. Their repentance is a separate ordeal, but forgiving starts from your end. You can’t for-GIVE by HOLDING onto those things that happened to you. “That doesn’t sound fair & they should know what they did wrong.” Its not just for them, its for YOU. Forgiveness is for you and it’s effect for them is mercy. Condemnation is not the spirit of God. John 3:17 shows how His heart for us even when we were the cheating spouse. So with that said, you have the right to feel the way you do, but you’re not obligated to hold onto that pain nor them if they want to continue. That’s the power of free will.
I dont feel your advice is apt, being faithful in long marriage and suddenly finding out you have been betrayed hurts a lot, the whole narrative of your explanation is more labouring point on how the one who has been betrayed should do more, they deserve sympathy and support and not a justification for the cheating, i think you are cashing on weakness and making them more weak in a relationship journey, not sure your philosophy will ever work, always good to move on take up new challenges in life rather than trying to fix broken things, broken things wont last despite anyones best efforts.
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Forgiving is shown intergenerationally with example. Just eant to tell women don't wait 30 to 40 years waiting for forgiveness is already passed and its better to redo uour life. If you see in 57years of divorce and your partner remarried don't wait till death to re do your life. Is not gonna happen even old couples i'd seen they rather end their 75 and 85 solo and die alone rather than reunite
My wife cheated on me and I'm through this difficult process. With all the pain I'm getting through, I don't hate woman and I will advice the same you're mentioning in your comment. I don't know if I ever going to forgive my wife but still i will never wish her any bad.
@@mikebarrett1819 it’s more verbal than physical , although he tried to choke me. I called the police to have him removed, they did nothing! A judge would have to make that decision and they did not want to do that! She he stayed
You are not the same as a cheater. Flawed??? Yes we all are. But the cheater chose to react that way. How are you talking about the belief and value systems ONLY with regard to the person who was cheating on if they take vengeance?? I don’t hear you saying ANYTHING about belief and value systems of the cheater who chose to destroy their spouse with actions of unbearable betrayal smh.
Easy answer: YOU DON'T FORGIVE CHEATING. YOU MOVE ON! Focus on yourself, take care of yourself, don't listen to psycho-bable. You all owe me a nickle. You're welcome!❤
I think that someone who repeats the behavior over and over even though they know how hurtful their behavior is, is a evil person
@@Uzi1032 agreed, he is satans child, not Gods
Cheating sucks. It's painful to try and heal when you feel that level of betrayal. 😭😭😭
I just found out about the second cheating event with another nameless stranger. I packed his stuff for him. I’m over it but he won’t go. I’m done. I gave him an ultimatum with a whole host of things I want to reestablish trust. Including turning on his location and he still hasn’t done it. We will talk tonight. I’m seriously done. I deserve better and more respect. I don’t think he is bad but he obviously has a problem with his morals and values and they don’t align with mine.
It's an honesty and selfishness issue with him. You're right, you deserve better. Still acknowledge your hurt and then forgive. For YOU.
Forgiveness is the path to healing
I agree that it won’t work being one sided
Hopefully he will also address his faults and save your marriage
Who told you that you deserve bettter?
I have no needs for vengeance. I’m better than that and that is giving the situation more energy than it deserves.
you can forgive and even if they make amends, you're never going to forget, no matter how much inventory you write down
If you give it to Jesus & put your marriage in Jesus hands he can restore your marriage if you have faith.
@angelopiton jesus cant replace the hugs that i used to feel!
@@mjperfume1523 Yeah. It feels like if you already lost that wonderful feeling.
Yes and amen. That is why Christ is supposed to be in the center of your marriage. You can get through the pains. If you are still thinking about the feelings of not being the same or you won't forget, that means you haven't forgiven and got over it properly. Means you haven't repented to God and given him the burden. If you had, then you would be able to accept what happened, doesn't make it right or okay. It means you accept and move on in God's name and with him. That is why it is important to have a partner who shares faith and trusts God and puts God in the centre or you don't have much of a chance getting through adultery or other sin. @@BobbyKrupka
I’m in Gods word daily several times a day to help me forgive and help me heal.
Same
Amen and Hallelujah
Leave him. God has no problem with leaving someone who betrayed you. He does not love you like you love him. You're probably addicted to him. You need to break the addiction and move on.
@@mygirldarby I hope your husband or wife would stay with you if you were lied to and fell into addiction. God talks about separating to be at peace, then forgiveness and reconciliation. One flesh means one flesh. If one is hurt so is the other so it is best to go to the Bible together as one and figure it out.
Thank you
The book of Psalms has helped me through this too.
Your videos always have so much compassion for the cheater. I have even heard you say that the person who was betrayed should not talk bad about the affair partner with their spouse. Lol smh
It's because the old guy is an admitted cheater.
Nope, idc what anybody says. If my spouse cheats, she goes
Smart man.
Thank you for this video
Well you didn’t tell us how. I have no need to forgive. To forgive they have to be sorry and I’m not going to beg for that. I’ve let it go. This sure is some Pollyanna non-advice …all fluff with no substance.
They don't have to be sorry for you to forgive them. Forgiveness is for you, just like he said.
I have offered forgiveness. But forgiveness requires repentance to have any effect. I told her i forgave her for the lies and hiding of things and all the rest, but if she doesn't stop doing it theres nothing i can do.
Someone once told me that forgiveness is a one way street, and reconciliation takes two.
The point of the video is in opposition to your offer- that you don’t wait for the opportunity to make it happen, you do it anyways. Their repentance is a separate ordeal, but forgiving starts from your end. You can’t for-GIVE by HOLDING onto those things that happened to you.
“That doesn’t sound fair & they should know what they did wrong.” Its not just for them, its for YOU. Forgiveness is for you and it’s effect for them is mercy.
Condemnation is not the spirit of God. John 3:17 shows how His heart for us even when we were the cheating spouse.
So with that said, you have the right to feel the way you do, but you’re not obligated to hold onto that pain nor them if they want to continue. That’s the power of free will.
I dont feel your advice is apt, being faithful in long marriage and suddenly finding out you have been betrayed hurts a lot, the whole narrative of your explanation is more labouring point on how the one who has been betrayed should do more, they deserve sympathy and support and not a justification for the cheating, i think you are cashing on weakness and making them more weak in a relationship journey, not sure your philosophy will ever work, always good to move on take up new challenges in life rather than trying to fix broken things, broken things wont last despite anyones best efforts.
I pray to the Lord to help me see my husband through His eyes and help me love him the way the Lord loves him. I’m extending Grace daily.
That's the way tp go dear sis
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Enjoy tour content and points of view.
They are making me think about my feelings and my repsonses to my marriage and how to address my issues and my marriage. 😊
That will NEVER hapoen!!!!
I'm all up for forgiveness. I just gave her one simple condition: "give me back those 3.5 years of my life I wasted on you"
Seems you tell us why to forgive, but no method to forgive
Forgiving is shown intergenerationally with example. Just eant to tell women don't wait 30 to 40 years waiting for forgiveness is already passed and its better to redo uour life. If you see in 57years of divorce and your partner remarried don't wait till death to re do your life. Is not gonna happen even old couples i'd seen they rather end their 75 and 85 solo and die alone rather than reunite
My wife cheated on me and I'm through this difficult process. With all the pain I'm getting through, I don't hate woman and I will advice the same you're mentioning in your comment. I don't know if I ever going to forgive my wife but still i will never wish her any bad.
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He doesnt give a sh. about me. He keeps hurting me physically
You need to get out if it's physical.
@@mikebarrett1819 it’s more verbal than physical , although he tried to choke me. I called the police to have him removed, they did nothing! A judge would have to make that decision and they did not want to do that! She he stayed
I forgive on a daily bases
You are not the same as a cheater. Flawed??? Yes we all are. But the cheater chose to react that way.
How are you talking about the belief and value systems ONLY with regard to the person who was cheating on if they take vengeance?? I don’t hear you saying ANYTHING about belief and value systems of the cheater who chose to destroy their spouse with actions of unbearable betrayal smh.
Don't. i mean seriously. from experience. Just don't.
But these flawed people ARE evil
Easy answer: YOU DON'T FORGIVE CHEATING. YOU MOVE ON! Focus on yourself, take care of yourself, don't listen to psycho-bable. You all owe me a nickle. You're welcome!❤
Its a little confusing... Which one of the courses i need to take to try to forget an infidelity?
Hon...you will NEVER forget. You will always remember and still hurt from it...even if you forgive them for their choices.
None with him. SMH
I cannot forgive what he has done
Then you don't deserve to be forgiven as well
Please any woman who husband cheated and still staying wirh him for the children sake please send me your number I need help
@@Geraldine-Desilva how is it going? Same happened to me