@@he8535 no, my dad left me before I was even born and called 10 yrs later to ask about my younger siblings who are not even related to him in any way. He has not called since.
@@dantheplanner no. It's a key difference, by praising his effort you encourage your children to try, if you only praise success you raise a kid with an unhealthy attachment to success and kids who don't take any risks
Honestly, this book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ gave me the encouragement I needed to stay strong in raising my kids with Christian values, it’s comforting to know Im not alone on this journey
Growing up, from the age of about 5, I watched my dad fix everything. He always had me by his side so I could watch and learn and hand him tools he'd ask me to pass to him. Got to the point he didn't ask anymore, I just knew, he'd hold up his hand and I'd hand him whatever he needed, no words, just in sync with the motions from years of being his little helper. As an adult i fix everything myself because of him. Greatest teacher I ever had.
The fact that he didn't say something like 'see you can do it on your own'. Instead he said ' How did you do that?! That's wonderful!'. It brings so much encouragement for a kid to do things on their own without making them feel stupid or like they should never come to you. It's like a reminder to them that they are smart and can figure things out and you will support them emotionally by reminding them they can do awesome things on their own❤❤
It's not the praise. It's the fact that the kid struggled and accomplished something first, and earned the praise. That is what sticks with the kid in positive ways. He did something hard.
The key here too is the praise. Your child is literally just a person who is starting from 0. Getting mad or frustrated with a kid for not knowing something is stupid, you have to let them know that the things they are figuring out on their own are *hard* to learn for the first time! And that it is good that they are trying! Everyone forgets they were a child once they have one
I remind myself and the misses of this daily. They are learning everything for the first time. Experiencing everything for the first time. We HAVE to stay patient ans reassuring.
As a dad, I can appreciate the life lesson but the way it was taught was silly. Could’ve just as easily back fired and taught the kid to discard things as soon as they lose their value.
@@MiguelGarcia-gy6nb I agree. He must have had great interactions with his child beforehand, the child had trust in his dad and in himself, that's why it worked well for them
@MiguelGarcia-gy6nb So if it backfired, you face that situation when it occurs. He gave the child an opportunity from a problem, and the child responded. The way was not silly. It worked. If it didn't, who's to say that this man wouldn't have found another way? Your comment is silly for assuming things.
yes this dad is a great father. to let a child deal with a problem and not be sheltered all the time. then as they grow older they will become a better version of themselves. how many of the new generation can appreciate a father like these. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Its good that not only did he push the kid to solve the problem, but he also gave praise when the child figured it out. Pressure without encouragement might crush a child, but this level of support and praise makes the child want to succeed.
He didn’t really encourage him. He just gave him a reason to fix it himself. If anything he did the opposite. He said he’d buy him another one that doesn’t break . Don’t get me wrong tho I really liked the video. But tbh now a days if he did what he did, I feel like most kids would just be like “okay” and let it go and expected another toy. Personally I feel he should’ve encouraged him to fix it and if he’s unable to, show him how (and not just do it in front of him, but specifically show and make sure he understands how it is fixed )
@@VexingWeeb Idk most kids feel emotionally attached to their toys they've had for a while so even if the parent says that they will buy them another one the kid probably would prefer if they fixed it instead
Yea I’m tired of the life old attitude that you cannot fix these things when you get older. Probably the worst thing about modern society is that we seem to preach that we can’t change our situation. “Oh I’m not handy” “oh that’s not something id do” “I don’t like social events” “I can’t fix the tv” “I can’t workout alone” “I’m to old to fix my back swing in golf”. People need to stop locking themselves in these narratives. You can do exactly what you want.
@engelrivera-torres979 how does that take away from what @garchafpv said? You still learned so much from said elder before their mental health deteriorated.
@@inkedsin because their always should be limits to when and who to seek "wisdom" from, cause let's be honest we wouldn't have half the problem we do on a grander scale of society today if we didn't listen to every old person. Besides if the old dude in the video had to teach y'all something it is to figure your own shit out, which is genuinely good advice because the majority of people are and remain fools their whole lives, not very few elders are loving as well.
Beautiful advice. To often younger people dismiss elders as just old and feeble when in reality they are full of wisdom and have an amazing sense humor. ......
@@engelrivera-torres979 u must be a hit at parties 🎉, but since we are getting technical even when their mental health declines that itself is also a lesson. You reflect on the person's achievements, mistakes and then realize that you not only have 1 life to live but also that even though you can make it to old age there is still your health you need to keep in mind. See?
My dad didnt do it all for me, but he did help me, show me things and encourage me. When I was in the hospital when I was 4, had surgery for my hip, the doctors and women in my life made me feel like a victim, and some docs said I wouldnt walk again. One night my dad had bought me Incredibles the movie, and I saw dash, and I said I wanna run like him. My dad said then why dont you try. I was quick with the I cants and so on. But my dad, taught me how walk, encouraging me, ready to help. I am 23 now, I still got leg problems but I am strong because when I start thinking of the I cants. I remember that I could, and I just needed his voice in the back of my head saying you can. Just keep pushing keep trying. Im tearing up typing this.
He praised his effort his ambition his tenacity his pride and his accomplishment in both fixing his toy but building his own confidence in his ability to problem solve under uncertain real life conditions
This man makes a great point. My parents had me later in their age and they would always say to me, you better think for yourself because mommy and daddy won't always be around. So, I learned to figure things out for myself. Today, ideas and solutions come instantaneously to me. It's the best advice they could have given me.
That is admirable that you try to solve things on your own, i do too but even so, my parents are always ready to lend a hand if something is too difficult to handle it by yourself, heck i even ask my older brother's help sometimes. There is no shame on asking help, wheter you ask from your parent or not so you could sometimes try to ask their help or advices if neccesary.
Makes me feel good as a father because I do the same thing to my son. His mother and her family say things like “ he’s to young to understand”. It makes me so happy to see his face light up because of how proud he is of himself. My baby boy turning 5 this Sunday ☺️
@@guitarfloritough love is not terrible. If we had more of it maybe there wouldnt be so many people strung out on drugs ect. Instead of people enabling bad behavior.
A sad fact that this man's son died at the age of 23 for a reason, gone too soon and his daughter also died before him in 2010, it must be tough to see ur kids die before u
What are you talking about. This b00mer threw the toy away and ignored his kid. He made up this story so he didn't feel bad about being a garbage dad to his kids....
LMAO wtf damn you females were a holes frr LMAO no cap 🧢 wheeze!!! 😂😂😂😂 So you never appreciated and thanked him and you thought he was evil father LoLz! If you didn't show your father appreciate gratefulness love grace thanks. I highly doubt you loved him. Sounds like you should start regretting lotta things so much that it pains your little heart so you can know the *PAIN OF REGRET* and the pain of discipline. Smh you sound like saying bullwhit fr fr. I don't believe that for one second. Should've hugged him with he was alive.
Teaching kids independence and problem-solving skills is crucial for their development. Encouraging them to figure things out on their own builds confidence and resilience.
I don't see the importance of fatherhood. I always wondered what's the importance of fathers in a child's life. I can see why mothers are important. Women are socially and biologically programmed to be parents much more strongly than men are. Mothers are the ones that produce milk to feed to their babies. Also, mothers are the ones that are usually in charge of their babies, and they assume that role early on. Also, women have "maternal instinct", while men don't have anything like that. And also, children usually spend a lot more time with their mothers than they do with their fathers, and during that time, the mothers are usually taking care of the children. Mothers usually spend more time with the kids than fathers.
Also, most animals in this world are only taken care by their mothers and they don't have their fathers around at all. So why are human fathers important? It seems that a child can grow up without a father, and still turn out ok.
@@smokexsmoke99 A Father figure is imporant, because he protects the family, protects his (the) land, supply's the family, He is the man of the house. He ensures for disciplin, morality, rightouseness, honor e.c.t..
@@Eteller0135 Women are usually better at childcare than men are. It seems that women are a lot more important than men are when it comes to parenting. It seems that women usually do most of the work when it comes to raising children.
@@Eteller0135 Many people are raised by single moms, and they turn out perfectly ok. The bond between mothers and children are a lot stronger than the bond between fathers and children are. I heard that children who are raised by lesbian couples tend to turn out a lot better than children who are raised by heterosexual couples do. I heard that lesbian relationships are healthier because they understand each other. If both partners understand each other, they won’t want to break up with each other. I also heard that women have higher rates of depression when married (in straight relationships). Women have maternal instinct, while men don't have anything like that. Being fatherless doesn't affect children that badly. Men are not wired to be parents since a single man can father over 1000 of children, while a single woman can only mother about 10 children. Men make millions of sperm each day, while women make 1 egg per month. You get more DNA from your mother than your father. Also, your mom not only gave you more DNA (you’ve got her mitochondrial DNA too), but also provided you with every molecule that made up your body until birth. A man only contributes one cell to a baby. All the materials to make a baby are supplied by the woman. It seems that women are a lot more important than men are when it comes to parenting. Women seem to be a lot better at childcare than men are. It seems that women usually do most of the work when it comes to raising children.
Not only put things upon them. The key is what he said after the child had success. He praised the accomplishment in a way that would make the child swell with pride. That is the key ... but you must wait until the accomplishment is successful. The more you do that, the more success you'll see.
@@JACpotatos if you think that way, you'll be friends with your kid and they'll love you, but they'll never learn how to properly love themselves. As a verb.
@JACpotatos I get why you feel that way... but I'm gonna push back on you a little bit... true life-long growth and true learning in that stage of childhood is essentially a series of small, manageable, slightly traumatic events and when a parent facilitates opportunities for growth and problem-solving in the way this man did for his son, the child learns to be a problem solver and becomes a resilient, confident, capable, internally-happy human being. I think a few tears and a moment of emotional pain and a feeling of loss is a totally healthy way to empower a child when followed up with the love and attention of this father
This is important. My father never praised us. When we did something or had an accomplishment, my dad would always say “well that is what you are supposed to do.” He now understands that is wrong but the damage is done. I’m almost 30. Anytime I accomplish something I never think it is good or even an accomplishment. Just simply something I was supposed to do. And anytime I do not accomplish something I am a complete failure. Trying again is nearly impossible. I acknowledge this an I have been working on it, but many of my career goals I have had to give up because of the crippling effect of failure.
That's probably the best way someone could have told me how to teach a child, it may be common sense for some people but I'm always for learning and improving.
I raised my kids in a similar way. And I didn’t just buy them a new toy when something broke either. My kids learned to cherish what they have and to solve their problems without me as much as possible. Only when they were stumped did they come to me. They learned resilience, responsibility, and independence. And I’m so proud of them! ❤
I think the problem comes when parents scolds kids for messing up. I think it's important to teach kids how to fix their problems rather than not have problems.
It just depends on how bad they mess up like what if your kids started physically getting violent with somebody else and wouldn't stop no matter how much you scolded or praised them and you'd never talk them how to do that they just started doing it there would be an issue and it would deal with physical violence
@@tylermccandless925indeed. Took the words from me. There's a balance to parenting. Can't be too harsh, can't be too nice. But true love is real. Never had a dad or a son for that matter but.... This just got to real. Imma smoke
He could have shown his son how to fix it, but he wanted his son to figure it out on his own and be self reliant. Yes accepting and asking for help is ok, but sometimes you won’t have any help around and will need to solve problems on you own
He is a gem. I'm 30 years old no kids, but I get put into situations with kids where I have the same mentality as this lovely old man. Let them learn it, don't coddle them and let them come to you asking for kisses
Just wanted to share this. JESUS CHRIST died for you on a cross for our sins. 3 days after his death he resurrected and was, is, and will be The TRUE LIVING GOD. In a prayer repent from your sins and accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and also ask for the HOLY SPIRIT to come into you in that same prayer as well. Have FAITH in CHRIST. You could come to Jesus Christ as you are, but once you accept Him, you have to become new, change, and be born again, and turn away from all wicked ways. Jesus Christ is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. God Bless You. Praise only be to God. JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON.
@@norfolkdash9 Just wanted to share this. JESUS CHRIST died for you on a cross for our sins. 3 days after his death he resurrected and was, is, and will be The TRUE LIVING GOD. In a prayer repent from your sins and accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and also ask for the HOLY SPIRIT to come into you in that same prayer as well. Have FAITH in CHRIST. You could come to Jesus Christ as you are, but once you accept Him, you have to become new, change, and be born again, and turn away from all wicked ways. Jesus Christ is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. God Bless You. Praise only be to God. JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON.
I work at a children daycare for 20 years now, and I can tell you this: Praising your kid after he did it (solved the issue) himself is the most important ingredient here.
Not just kids but treating other people in general, unpraising them for what they have accomplished and expecting them to love you, is like making a milk chocolate but without the chocolate and expecting it to taste chocolaty.
Love your comment. What did your parents do, that you hated when you were young but come to truly appreciate and be thankful for as an adult? Would love to know.
@@HankiMauswell when your a teen you get up to mischief and they stop you so you hate them once you grow up you respect them for making you a better person
I'm a homemaker and 4th generation Idaho farmer, and this is exactly right!! We do this with our boys. Sometimes we don't have dinner ready and they are hungry but we are exhausted so we say make dinner then and they do. Same with laundry when they don't have clean clothes. They do them as part of their chores along with dishes and cleaning their own bathroom. I couldn't imagine having kids any other way! Kids need to be raised with good work ethic and I see a lot of lacking in the near by cities. My boys don't even enjoy conversations with those kids that just get everything handed to them and they can tell the difference. Our boys do not get big commercial presents at Christmas or for birthday. If they want something big they are to work for the money to buy it. Not sure why people don't see the character building way of raising kids. We are so close and we wouldn't have it any other way:)
They have to earn money for big commercial presents . From where ? Working on a farm you probably inherited. When you are too exhausted they have to cook , you were not to exhausted to lay down and have them . Cook your children dinner . And I’m sure you claim them on your tax return as well, earn this , earn that , that’s what your kids will have to do until they retire , you don’t have children you have tax write offs .
I like that he promotes encouraging and praising the good the kid did aswell, I couldn’t ask mom or dad to fix it as a kid. They’d just get mad. I learned how to solve it but I also learned that they didn’t care
He didn't promote or encourage the child to doit, he threw it in the bin and appeared like he was going to leave it there , the child took it upon himself to try fix it
@@Crazedmercenaryand he praised the child after he managed to figure it out on their own, which was the lesson he was teaching. Therefore praising the child for doing the correct thing instead of scolding them.
@@Crazedmercenary by doing that he knew the kid was going to want to fix it, you can tell by the way he does it (idk I had an emotionally unavailable dad who did acts of kindness in harsh ways) and when the child decides to fix it (feeling like it’s his idea and he’s doing something he wants to do) he kinda tricks the kid into enjoying it and then he tries to assist from a distance
I tell my kids it's not my job to remove adversity from them but rather to help guide them through it. The confidence and pride we get through overcoming a challenge is unmatched with anything else.
@redactedredacted6205 LOL but in all seriousness for a 2 year old it's allowing them to struggle with age appropriate challenges. Such as saying words correctly and being diligent in correcting their pronunciation versus allowing them to mis pronounce words and adapting to them; versus teaching them to adapt. Don't be overbearing about it of course but diligent and patience in enforcement.
My dad was career military, 31 years RAF pathfinder special forces, I always believed he was hard on me as a child, making me do things for myself, allowing me to fail and not letting me give up until I got it right, now I see he was preparing me to be a man, sadly he lost his battle with cancer 3 years ago, he will forever be my hero
I lost my military dad 11 years ago. I had to find a husband who lived up to his example. I knew I found one when my dad asked my now husband when he would finally propose. Now my husband raises our boys just like this, with honor, courage, and commitment.
My father always told me “You’ll thank me later” Now I’m thanking him. Sorry to hear of the loss of your father. A tough day for any son. He is still guiding and protecting you. 💪
My mom passed away 4 years ago and I miss her she was a single mother I never knew my dad my mom was the only good thing I had in life and she taught me how to take care of myself and she did the best for me I bought my first house and I don't have a mortgage I paid for the hole house it is a five bedroom two bathroom home and three garage and half acker back yard I paid 92 grand I have solar so I pay 83 dollars for utilities and don't have to pay a electric bill, all because my mom loved me and taught me how to be strong I miss her every day and I can't wait to see her again someday god bless everyone and stay strong.
Wow, I am so amazed. You know, in my religion, every time somebody does good for the sake of Allah, He will reward your parents in the grave by turning the grave into one of the gardens of Paradise
My dad only helped solve the problems, he'd always give the right push, and persuaded us to think logically for basically everything. Nearly every single thing I know from school, he'd re-taught it to me, in under half an hour. RIP love you Dad... I never gave you back enough, but I make it up to you someday
This just restored my faith in some parts of humanity. There are still people who know better than most, may god bless you with a long and happy life ✝️
Something I wish I had growing up, or even today. I make sure my daughter knows I do. I'm so proud of her. Her mother left us and she is 3 now. Such an intelligent little girl. Thrives on encouragement. Takes the sting away for not having any because I can see the benefit of my encouragement and confidence in her.
I love my mom but she never let me do anything as a kid and it was a rough wakeup call going Into the real world. I see her do it with my nieces now and sometimes I have to remind her they're capable too
Thank you. I try very hard. I taught a young man that I get to be grandpa to. At sixteen he has his own lawn service over thirty customers. He does so many different jobs. His neighbors love him. Six foot five. Big boy. He paints, cleans gutters. A guy is going to teach him to build fences. This fall, two years of welding.
So true. I pestered my Dad for a motorbike for my 14th birthday. I got one. It was in pieces. Took me 6 months to get it done. James frame with a 197 Villiers engine. Same thing at 17. Got 2 minis. Engine blown in one, shell right off on the other. What a man he was. Miss him every day. My hero ❤
@@ohyeahyeah1068me too but I give a fuck I had good time with my parents,enough I even cook since I'm 13 for myself and love to know to cook You can be more positive, I wish you luck in future for you and your family
Did you notice how we didn't get mad at the kid but he still showed him love that's something missing in a lot of families today only yelling and angry
I enjoy telling my daughter "let me show you how" then I show her step by step what to do, and how to do it. After it is fixed, I try to unfix it in the same manner so she can do it herself too. She has picked up how to just fix alot herself. It's amazing watching her grow😊
As she gets older I recommend getting her to experiment on solutions instead and only if she gives up do you show her, it's a great way to encourage growth and exploration (and find out how smart she really is)
I've been a nanny for 20 years. And he is absolutely correct. I wouldn't have thrown it in the trash can, but I would have played dumb and I would have asked the child "how can we fix this". And then we work on it together to resolve the problem. It teaches them they can always come to me when they have a problem. That we can work together to resolve the problem. And that there's an amazing amount of reward that comes from doing the work yourself. It's good to praise the A+ they got on the report card. But I think it's better to praise the hard work that it took to get that A.
My 5 year old asked me how can we solve the problem of rising rents, inflation and economic turmoil.. I told him to go away and figure it out. 6 months later he's running a successful business and supporting the whole family 😆👌🏽
This man speaks truth for miles ❤ I'm thankful my mom knew that for me It helped me build confidence and she knew I needed to figure it out myself at times
I’ve always been told a good parents is constantly testing their kid. Especially when talking about a father-son relationship. You either give your son problems to solve himself, or you see how reacts to the unavoidable. And you test him. If he fails, however, you teach him. You teach him to not give up when life gets touch. You teach him that sometimes he’ll be alone. Then, when the next situation arises, you watch and be proud when he passes your tests and the tests of life.
Big difference between not giving up and a battle of futility. I gave up on getting a wife because it was a battle of futility. When theres no point in trying when the result is always the same you prevent yourself from going down the path of insanity.
This is great!!! We adopted our 4 children who were already a little older when we got each of them. We basically had to re-teach them basic things like bathing and dressing, manners, etc. because no one had taken the time to properly teach them. Our oldest was nearly 12 when we took her in and our youngest son was 4. He didn't even know how to say a word, only made sounds, and was still in diapers. Now our kids are 19, 16, 15, & 10. They are all doing so well. I have been teaching the 3 girls a lot in the kitchen. One day I told one of them to put a pot of something in the fridge. She said it wouldn't fit, although I knew that if she rearranged some things it would fit. I didn't try to fix it for her, I just said to see if she could figure it out. After a few minutes I go to check on her and she not only got it to fit, but she had organized the entire fridge and threw out old leftovers or expired items. Now she loves to keep it organized and makes a fuss if anyone doesn't put things in its "home" 😂 I was so proud of her that day and was sure to let her know how much I appreciated her extra help in the kitchen. My son would get frustrated easily if he couldn't figure out how to fix a problem. He loves building Legos. One day he couldn't get something together properly, so he threw it and yelled. I asked him what was the matter. After he told me, I told him that the Legos were just pieces of plastic. They couldn't move or do anything without him doing it for them, so being mean to the Legos wouldn't fix his problem. I told him if he couldn't play nice them he couldn't play at all and that if he starts to feel frustrated he should just step away from the problem and take a deep breath and think about how to fix it. After his time out to breath, he was thinking more clearly and asked if he could try again. I told him yes and he picked up all his Legos and created the most awesome robot ever. I was sure to tell him how cool it was that he designed that all by himself. It's so important to give kids the space and time to figure things out and problem solve while still teaching them boundaries and praising them when they achieve their goals. I just love being a mom ❤❤❤❤
“Figure it out” most common phrase used in our household. It teaches responsibility, creativity, problem solving, and personal pride/confidence just to name a few. Now as an adult I can stand back and see the way to fix issues and am able to foresee potential problems when planning projects. Unfortunately kids don’t make anything with their hands anymore, and many have no idea how to be creative.
That's a fair point, but you shouldn't have kids learning or being online all the time. The internet is a plague. Drawing online makes you see things you shouldn't ever see as a kid. But hey, everything's a learning experience in a sense, but I say until your kids are old enough to be responsible on the internet, keep them drawing in notebooks and coloring books or whatever.
My parents kinda had the reverse problem. Their problem was trying to keep my brother and me from taking important machines apart. We had a habit of wanting to know how things worked and putting them back together. We also ran into a problem with the extra piece left over after we put it back together, which Dad had to take apart and fix what we had done and explain along the way how and why things work. Those were the days.
@@gzus1482 No, lawn mowers, clocks, toasters, kitchen mixers, really complicated machines with electronics and motors. For 6 and 5-year-olds I thought we did really well, of course none of them were broken before we started. Never had a problem fixing small things like toys, bikes, and nonelectrical things. Nor any problem "inventing" things like an improvised "hang glider" out of two umbrellas and some aluminum tubing and wire to hold it together. Mom was sure pissed about her umbrellas and the big knot on my brother's forehead, thou.
I didn’t get a lot of atta boys when I was young. I kinda find myself wanting that more and more now as an adult but here in the world as an adult you don’t really get a lot of praise. Give you’re kids a pat on the back every so often, keeps them well rounded
I am amazed to see this brilliant person in shorts. For whoever is interested, the name of this person was actually Jacque Fresco. He was a humanitarian above all, an innovator, architect and futurist. His work is brilliant and his contributions are foundational on child education, social structure and problem-solving culture. I strongly encourage to check out his lectures and his “Venus project”, an architectural project based on his utopia. A true humanitarian that every school in this planet should show its kids. Rest in peace Jacque❤
Yes - I borrowed a DVD - 'Future by Design' - from my library long time ago. Many medical instruments used today were invented by him also. Extending patents on his inventions (I recall) was problematic, so he missed out on great wealth.
You know what...I can see a human soul by the strong/love/effort way it shares a flame of another human knowledge that improves us all...hugs from Brazil 🎉🎉🎉
🍀 They are incredibly lucky to have you! I never experienced that growing up, not once. I’m not religious rather spiritual and I’d like to say bless you and your nieces and nephews 😊 💕
Yeah, I've got some "blob" baggage and habits I'm finally replacing with empowered and empowering ones. My parents tried to lead me more than I was willing to be led sometimes...
That's because your parents didn't know how to guide you. I'd much rather be remembered as the dad who - when my kid comes to me and asks me to fix something - instead of just tossing it in the garbage and hoping they figure it out, actually sits down with them and SHOWS them how to fix it. You know, by doing it together, guiding them through the process, and building a memory the kid will treasure: that their dad took time out of his day to sit down with them and teach them a valuable skill. I wish my dad had done stuff like this with me, instead of beating the shit out of me because he had anger management issues and making me want nothing to do with him.
He didn't force his child to repair the toy but let his child decide whether he wanted a new toy or to try and salvage the old one. Most often parents try to push a child to act in a certain way thinking it's encouraging but usually, it's what they deem is the right way. Making choices is important to build a child's analytical and decision-making skills.
Help me Help myself. Thats the best way to raise your Kids. I raised my Kids to be independant. It was hard, because i felt not much needed but it made me proud as well seeing them being great and doing for themselves. All my 4 boys left home knowing how to cook, do laundry, clean house and go after their job. Strong men who are raising great Kids themselves now. ❤
I agree with him 100%. So many kids today are given everything on a plate and their motto is, “do it for me”. It’s a contributing factor to kids behaviour and attitude.
I don't. He's trying to tell a tough love story, I guess, but to me, it looks ignorant. There's no need to throw the toy away or make the kid cry. He very simply could've shown him how to fix it without the dramatic life lesson. Personally I think his story is BS.
@@frednichols9851yeah but instead he figured it out himself and became more independent. He can’t have a problem and cry about it until someone else fixes it for him.
@@k9g241or the child will think, that their parents don't care. And wont seak help when they really need it. The biggest problems are ones you can't see.
This is a great lesson. I've grown up doing almost everything for myself fixing everything that i broke or anything my friends or family needed fixing, if i couldn't fix it i felt bad. I grew up trying to help anyone my best i could but in school i was told that i was "retarded", "wired wrong" or "broken" so i continued to try my best but couldnt understand where i was wrong and people wouldnt believe me when i said i dont understand failing at almost all my education i got all the way to university (doing art because i wasnt much good at anything else) and i found out i have several learning disabilities but it was a little late to this day i still feel "broken" but i still fix things for people. Remember "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" its a wrong saying they will and do hurt you if youre unlucky they destroy you to the core. Remember to always have kindness and a bit of heart when learning with and teaching kids. Much love from a man that can't be fixed
That right there is a dad. Supportive. Constructive. Respectful. He knew it was an easy fix but used it to make the kid grow. Thats true love. Helping someone be the best they can be.
Respectful? He just called the kid a baby and threw the fucking car into trash when he only asked for help. He could have said to the kid that it's fixable and that the kid can do it by himself if he just thinks a little.
I have become father recently, and this gentleman has just taught me a great lesson on how to raise my son. I wish I can seat with this man and learn more, as my father has past away to soon.
The fact that he praised his son, makes all the difference! Love this
Bro y'all's got dads?
@@he8535 My mom did this when I grew up. Don't think Dads are the only ones can raise a kid.
I think he was lying.
@@he8535yeah, one obsessed with toys.
@@he8535 no, my dad left me before I was even born and called 10 yrs later to ask about my younger siblings who are not even related to him in any way. He has not called since.
To me the key is not just praise, but what he praised. He praised his effort.
True 😀
No, he praised his accomplishment.
@@dantheplanner this whole fricking video video was about effort dummy
It's both.
@@dantheplanner no. It's a key difference, by praising his effort you encourage your children to try, if you only praise success you raise a kid with an unhealthy attachment to success and kids who don't take any risks
If it was something simple, my dad would say, you figure it out. If it was complex, he'd show me ONE time. 41 years and I still miss him.
Ditto. One human to another.
Rest in power dad
Lol you could show him once the first time not just chuck it away lol
❤❤❤
Nah man my dad didnt even trust me to rake the leaves from the driveway
Honestly, this book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ gave me the encouragement I needed to stay strong in raising my kids with Christian values, it’s comforting to know Im not alone on this journey
Where did you buy this book? Who is the author? Thanks for sharing
Fr. Benjamin Johnson
You are the scum of humanity
Growing up, from the age of about 5, I watched my dad fix everything. He always had me by his side so I could watch and learn and hand him tools he'd ask me to pass to him. Got to the point he didn't ask anymore, I just knew, he'd hold up his hand and I'd hand him whatever he needed, no words, just in sync with the motions from years of being his little helper. As an adult i fix everything myself because of him. Greatest teacher I ever had.
@@lanimalioat4395 no, what?
So happy for you! Your dad did a good job. How wonderfull to have these kind of childhood memories.
That s how you re pre trained for OR😂😉
I loved reading this, such a great childhood experience. Your dad was spot on. 😊
That's wonderful, made my day better reading that and also made me think and miss my Dad who's on the other side of the World 🥲
And making him feel like he accomplished something massive is the best part. Having your parents feel proud of you is one of the best feelings ever
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The fact that he didn't say something like 'see you can do it on your own'. Instead he said ' How did you do that?! That's wonderful!'. It brings so much encouragement for a kid to do things on their own without making them feel stupid or like they should never come to you. It's like a reminder to them that they are smart and can figure things out and you will support them emotionally by reminding them they can do awesome things on their own❤❤
He looks like Steve Harvey 😅
It's not the praise. It's the fact that the kid struggled and accomplished something first, and earned the praise. That is what sticks with the kid in positive ways. He did something hard.
The key here too is the praise. Your child is literally just a person who is starting from 0. Getting mad or frustrated with a kid for not knowing something is stupid, you have to let them know that the things they are figuring out on their own are *hard* to learn for the first time! And that it is good that they are trying! Everyone forgets they were a child once they have one
Your mindset is so beautiful
Also praising them for hard work makes them more likely to reproduce that behaviour, praising them for being clever can cause laziness. So be wise.
this is based asf
I remind myself and the misses of this daily. They are learning everything for the first time. Experiencing everything for the first time. We HAVE to stay patient ans reassuring.
@@jackwood107work harder not smarter
Kids need to learn how to deal with frustration and how to solve problems. This man is a great dad.
As a dad, I can appreciate the life lesson but the way it was taught was silly. Could’ve just as easily back fired and taught the kid to discard things as soon as they lose their value.
@@MiguelGarcia-gy6nb I agree. He must have had great interactions with his child beforehand, the child had trust in his dad and in himself, that's why it worked well for them
@MiguelGarcia-gy6nb So if it backfired, you face that situation when it occurs. He gave the child an opportunity from a problem, and the child responded. The way was not silly. It worked. If it didn't, who's to say that this man wouldn't have found another way? Your comment is silly for assuming things.
yes this dad is a great father.
to let a child deal with a problem and not be sheltered all the time.
then as they grow older they will become a better version of themselves.
how many of the new generation can appreciate a father like these.
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Well said. May be that's what we all need to learn even as adults.
Its good that not only did he push the kid to solve the problem, but he also gave praise when the child figured it out. Pressure without encouragement might crush a child, but this level of support and praise makes the child want to succeed.
He didn’t really encourage him. He just gave him a reason to fix it himself. If anything he did the opposite. He said he’d buy him another one that doesn’t break .
Don’t get me wrong tho I really liked the video. But tbh now a days if he did what he did, I feel like most kids would just be like “okay” and let it go and expected another toy. Personally I feel he should’ve encouraged him to fix it and if he’s unable to, show him how (and not just do it in front of him, but specifically show and make sure he understands how it is fixed )
@@VexingWeebok "vexing weeb"😂😂
@@h-pp9uo what? i'm not wrong. he literally did not encourage him to fix it ,if anything he told him he'd just buy him another one
@@VexingWeeb
Idk most kids feel emotionally attached to their toys they've had for a while so even if the parent says that they will buy them another one the kid probably would prefer if they fixed it instead
@@VexingWeeb
I'm not saying you are but your comment gives off privileged rich kid vibes
RIP Fresco. A great man to be missed. Light of your ideas should glow brighter.
Who is this guy ?? I seen him speak about the world on the zeitgeist documentaries,, very informational
What's his full name ?
What's his full name ,,
@@alleniverson3472 Jacque Fresco.
Learning to problem solve and shoulder responsibility/accountability for yourself are probably the biggest building blocks for a person at any age
Yea I’m tired of the life old attitude that you cannot fix these things when you get older. Probably the worst thing about modern society is that we seem to preach that we can’t change our situation. “Oh I’m not handy” “oh that’s not something id do” “I don’t like social events” “I can’t fix the tv” “I can’t workout alone” “I’m to old to fix my back swing in golf”. People need to stop locking themselves in these narratives. You can do exactly what you want.
Agreed 1000%
It's vital to survive
@@0hleg i agree,but sometimes when you have years "lost" idk man its too hard and most of the time impossible
Ur talking about small issues
The wisdom of a loving elder is worth a lifetime of lessons
Well until their mental health starts deteriorating
@engelrivera-torres979 how does that take away from what @garchafpv said? You still learned so much from said elder before their mental health deteriorated.
@@inkedsin because their always should be limits to when and who to seek "wisdom" from, cause let's be honest we wouldn't have half the problem we do on a grander scale of society today if we didn't listen to every old person.
Besides if the old dude in the video had to teach y'all something it is to figure your own shit out, which is genuinely good advice because the majority of people are and remain fools their whole lives, not very few elders are loving as well.
Beautiful advice. To often younger people dismiss elders as just old and feeble when in reality they are full of wisdom and have an amazing sense humor.
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@@engelrivera-torres979 u must be a hit at parties 🎉, but since we are getting technical even when their mental health declines that itself is also a lesson. You reflect on the person's achievements, mistakes and then realize that you not only have 1 life to live but also that even though you can make it to old age there is still your health you need to keep in mind. See?
My dad didnt do it all for me, but he did help me, show me things and encourage me. When I was in the hospital when I was 4, had surgery for my hip, the doctors and women in my life made me feel like a victim, and some docs said I wouldnt walk again. One night my dad had bought me Incredibles the movie, and I saw dash, and I said I wanna run like him. My dad said then why dont you try. I was quick with the I cants and so on. But my dad, taught me how walk, encouraging me, ready to help. I am 23 now, I still got leg problems but I am strong because when I start thinking of the I cants. I remember that I could, and I just needed his voice in the back of my head saying you can. Just keep pushing keep trying. Im tearing up typing this.
He praised his effort his ambition his tenacity his pride and his accomplishment in both fixing his toy but building his own confidence in his ability to problem solve under uncertain real life conditions
This man makes a great point. My parents had me later in their age and they would always say to me, you better think for yourself because mommy and daddy won't always be around. So, I learned to figure things out for myself. Today, ideas and solutions come instantaneously to me. It's the best advice they could have given me.
That is admirable that you try to solve things on your own, i do too but even so, my parents are always ready to lend a hand if something is too difficult to handle it by yourself, heck i even ask my older brother's help sometimes. There is no shame on asking help, wheter you ask from your parent or not so you could sometimes try to ask their help or advices if neccesary.
Makes me feel good as a father because I do the same thing to my son. His mother and her family say things like “ he’s to young to understand”. It makes me so happy to see his face light up because of how proud he is of himself. My baby boy turning 5 this Sunday ☺️
Happy birthday to your little boy :)
Congrats mine is 2 and I do the same cause that's how I learned alot
Happy bday glad your there for him
@@xerxesman1 thank you! 🙏🏼
@@robertparrinello1687 thank you! 🙏🏼
The most difficult part of giving tough love is knowing when to balance the tough part with the love part.
Nothing about this is tough love. It is just guidance. Tough love is terrible.
@@guitarfloritough love is not terrible. It forms you and gives you discipline.
TRUTH
@@guitarfloritough love is not terrible. If we had more of it maybe there wouldnt be so many people strung out on drugs ect. Instead of people enabling bad behavior.
@@guitarfloriThrowing the toy in the trash was the tough part.
This generation needs this kind of father in their lives.
DK❤
We also needed a father like that, but hes one in a billion
Doesn't everyone ever deserve a dad like this? Like not just this generation, everyone that ever existed.
We have to be it brother
i will become one
This is real tough love, there’s a clear purpose behind it and there’s real love to balance the toughness
I miss Jacques.
The world needed him
What is his full name?
I knew it like 10 years ago
It's driving me insane.
I'd like to know, too. I'll try to look him up, too.
Jacques Fresco. Awesome writer.
@phukyu1402 thank you so much. That was driving me insane
Still does 🙏
I’m 23 but content like this will 100% help me in the future when the first one is coming.
A sad fact that this man's son died at the age of 23 for a reason, gone too soon and his daughter also died before him in 2010, it must be tough to see ur kids die before u
@@zawarudo75dude when somebody says "I'm 23" you shouldn't proceed to say "his son died at 23.."...😂😂😂
@@geekypicky810 uh sorry about that 😅but I meant it as a coincidence
Somehow I think that might be worse lol
@@zawarudo75Yooo😂😂😂😂nah you're about to scare someone 😂
Tough love that isn’t just justified abuse. You made him figure it out but you supported and encouraged him.
I mean he definitely could have taught the same lesson without throwing the toy away, tricking the kid and making them almost cry...
THIS is how a child DISCOVERS themselves. And it’s fucking beautiful.
But it way past that time. And I doubt parent gonna change now. Well maybe for the better in the future or worse but it'll change somehow
Kids these days can't make up what's between their legs
@Drilight984 be the change don't have to be the Status quo
What are you talking about. This b00mer threw the toy away and ignored his kid. He made up this story so he didn't feel bad about being a garbage dad to his kids....
Why throw it in the garbage, though? That was just deliberate malice. He wanted to upset the kid.
My father used to parent us this way, and we never appreciated it or thanked him while he was alive, i hope he knows that we loved him everyday
LMAO wtf damn you females were a holes frr LMAO no cap 🧢 wheeze!!! 😂😂😂😂 So you never appreciated and thanked him and you thought he was evil father LoLz! If you didn't show your father appreciate gratefulness love grace thanks. I highly doubt you loved him. Sounds like you should start regretting lotta things so much that it pains your little heart so you can know the *PAIN OF REGRET* and the pain of discipline. Smh you sound like saying bullwhit fr fr. I don't believe that for one second. Should've hugged him with he was alive.
Jacque Fresco was/is an amazing human being and someone I hope more people can get inspired by. Miss you Jacque ❤
His son (Richard Fresco) died when he was 23. I don't know how and I don't know why. *Hint hint*
@@makhnothecossack4948 I had no idea. Thank you for the wormhole
I emailed him once and got a response, we chatted back and forth with ideas for the Venus Project of his. I still have the email thread in my inbox.
Yes, he was. He really behaved like he spoke. Each of his lectures and videos are informative like this. Please look him up!
@@makhnothecossack4948couldn't get the wheel back on his car and got trapped in a snowstorm. Froze to death.
Teaching kids independence and problem-solving skills is crucial for their development. Encouraging them to figure things out on their own builds confidence and resilience.
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Everyone should be blessed with a father like this 🙏❤️😇
I don't see the importance of fatherhood. I always wondered what's the importance of fathers in a child's life. I can see why mothers are important. Women are socially and biologically programmed to be parents much more strongly than men are. Mothers are the ones that produce milk to feed to their babies. Also, mothers are the ones that are usually in charge of their babies, and they assume that role early on. Also, women have "maternal instinct", while men don't have anything like that. And also, children usually spend a lot more time with their mothers than they do with their fathers, and during that time, the mothers are usually taking care of the children. Mothers usually spend more time with the kids than fathers.
Also, most animals in this world are only taken care by their mothers and they don't have their fathers around at all. So why are human fathers important? It seems that a child can grow up without a father, and still turn out ok.
@@smokexsmoke99I ain’t readin allat
@@smokexsmoke99 A Father figure is imporant, because he protects the family, protects his (the) land, supply's the family,
He is the man of the house.
He ensures for disciplin, morality, rightouseness, honor e.c.t..
@@Eteller0135 Women are usually better at childcare than men are. It seems that women are a lot more important than men are when it comes to parenting. It seems that women usually do most of the work when it comes to raising children.
@@Eteller0135 Many people are raised by single moms, and they turn out perfectly ok. The bond between mothers and children are a lot stronger than the bond between fathers and children are.
I heard that children who are raised by lesbian couples tend to turn out a lot better than children who are raised by heterosexual couples do. I heard that lesbian relationships are healthier because they understand each other. If both partners understand each other, they won’t want to break up with each other. I also heard that women have higher rates of depression when married (in straight relationships).
Women have maternal instinct, while men don't have anything like that. Being fatherless doesn't affect children that badly. Men are not wired to be parents since a single man can father over 1000 of children, while a single woman can only mother about 10 children. Men make millions of sperm each day, while women make 1 egg per month.
You get more DNA from your mother than your father. Also, your mom not only gave you more DNA (you’ve got her mitochondrial DNA too), but also provided you with every molecule that made up your body until birth. A man only contributes one cell to a baby. All the materials to make a baby are supplied by the woman.
It seems that women are a lot more important than men are when it comes to parenting. Women seem to be a lot better at childcare than men are.
It seems that women usually do most of the work when it comes to raising children.
thats how u raise a confident and happy child!!! And not a brat
Not only put things upon them. The key is what he said after the child had success. He praised the accomplishment in a way that would make the child swell with pride. That is the key ... but you must wait until the accomplishment is successful. The more you do that, the more success you'll see.
This is how you raise kids to hate you.... The dude is just randomly throwing their shit away
@Sin41255 seems like a great way to raise kids with victim mentalities if you're constantly making them feel like victims
@@JACpotatos if you think that way, you'll be friends with your kid and they'll love you, but they'll never learn how to properly love themselves. As a verb.
@@JACpotatosthis is why your parents hate you 😂
@JACpotatos I get why you feel that way... but I'm gonna push back on you a little bit... true life-long growth and true learning in that stage of childhood is essentially a series of small, manageable, slightly traumatic events and when a parent facilitates opportunities for growth and problem-solving in the way this man did for his son, the child learns to be a problem solver and becomes a resilient, confident, capable, internally-happy human being. I think a few tears and a moment of emotional pain and a feeling of loss is a totally healthy way to empower a child when followed up with the love and attention of this father
This is important. My father never praised us. When we did something or had an accomplishment, my dad would always say “well that is what you are supposed to do.” He now understands that is wrong but the damage is done. I’m almost 30. Anytime I accomplish something I never think it is good or even an accomplishment. Just simply something I was supposed to do. And anytime I do not accomplish something I am a complete failure. Trying again is nearly impossible. I acknowledge this an I have been working on it, but many of my career goals I have had to give up because of the crippling effect of failure.
Gentle encouragement. No yelling, cussing, or screaming required. Encourage them to problem solve, point them in the direction they need to go.
That's probably the best way someone could have told me how to teach a child, it may be common sense for some people but I'm always for learning and improving.
I raised my kids in a similar way. And I didn’t just buy them a new toy when something broke either. My kids learned to cherish what they have and to solve their problems without me as much as possible. Only when they were stumped did they come to me. They learned resilience, responsibility, and independence. And I’m so proud of them! ❤
You're right. This type of parenting does teach resilience and persistence. You work the problem until you find the solution.
... *and we're all proud of you. Sounds like you did a stellar job*
I'm sure they did, I would like to talk to their spouses. That's the biggest determination if you did a good job or not.
@@ASmith-jn7kfand biggest indicator of how she interacted with them
Great parenting♥️
Truer words were never spoken!!!! There ARE good people out there!
So right....good lessons learned...problem solving. Independence. And got praised for figuring it out.. self esteem....wonderful dad
I think the problem comes when parents scolds kids for messing up. I think it's important to teach kids how to fix their problems rather than not have problems.
Snowflake alert
It just depends on how bad they mess up like what if your kids started physically getting violent with somebody else and wouldn't stop no matter how much you scolded or praised them and you'd never talk them how to do that they just started doing it there would be an issue and it would deal with physical violence
@@tylermccandless925indeed. Took the words from me. There's a balance to parenting. Can't be too harsh, can't be too nice. But true love is real. Never had a dad or a son for that matter but.... This just got to real. Imma smoke
@@Hades.666 same
He could have shown his son how to fix it, but he wanted his son to figure it out on his own and be self reliant. Yes accepting and asking for help is ok, but sometimes you won’t have any help around and will need to solve problems on you own
He's teaching us while telling us about how he taught his son. A gem.
He is a gem. I'm 30 years old no kids, but I get put into situations with kids where I have the same mentality as this lovely old man. Let them learn it, don't coddle them and let them come to you asking for kisses
Im guilty of being the "let daddy do it" guess I like being needed, I'll have to change that.
Abit.
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@@norfolkdash9 Just wanted to share this. JESUS CHRIST died for you on a cross for our sins. 3 days after his death he resurrected and was, is, and will be The TRUE LIVING GOD. In a prayer repent from your sins and accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and also ask for the HOLY SPIRIT to come into you in that same prayer as well. Have FAITH in CHRIST. You could come to Jesus Christ as you are, but once you accept Him, you have to become new, change, and be born again, and turn away from all wicked ways. Jesus Christ is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. God Bless You. Praise only be to God. JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON.
I work at a children daycare for 20 years now, and I can tell you this:
Praising your kid after he did it (solved the issue) himself is the most important ingredient here.
Not just kids but treating other people in general, unpraising them for what they have accomplished and expecting them to love you, is like making a milk chocolate but without the chocolate and expecting it to taste chocolaty.
I’m so happy I was raised right, my parents always told me “hate me now, love me later” and to this day I love them for raising me the way they did.
Love your comment. What did your parents do, that you hated when you were young but come to truly appreciate and be thankful for as an adult? Would love to know.
That’s great; for you. I loved my parents throughout childhood and throughout my current young adult life.
@@HankiMauswell when your a teen you get up to mischief and they stop you so you hate them once you grow up you respect them for making you a better person
Nowadays people do not know how to raise their children.
My son told me “ok” when i tried this, might be screwed
I'm a homemaker and 4th generation Idaho farmer, and this is exactly right!! We do this with our boys. Sometimes we don't have dinner ready and they are hungry but we are exhausted so we say make dinner then and they do. Same with laundry when they don't have clean clothes. They do them as part of their chores along with dishes and cleaning their own bathroom. I couldn't imagine having kids any other way! Kids need to be raised with good work ethic and I see a lot of lacking in the near by cities. My boys don't even enjoy conversations with those kids that just get everything handed to them and they can tell the difference. Our boys do not get big commercial presents at Christmas or for birthday. If they want something big they are to work for the money to buy it. Not sure why people don't see the character building way of raising kids. We are so close and we wouldn't have it any other way:)
They have to earn money for big commercial presents . From where ? Working on a farm you probably inherited. When you are too exhausted they have to cook , you were not to exhausted to lay down and have them . Cook your children dinner . And I’m sure you claim them on your tax return as well, earn this , earn that , that’s what your kids will have to do until they retire , you don’t have children you have tax write offs .
@@adeteforevermore5900congratulations on sounding exactly like the spoiled city kids lacking work ethic he describes. 👍
Work ethic is important, but kids have to have time to think and be a kid
I guess it all comes down to balance really
Not only did he toughen Him up but also gave him praise. He did 2 very important lessons in one lesson. Props to him bro
I like that he promotes encouraging and praising the good the kid did aswell, I couldn’t ask mom or dad to fix it as a kid. They’d just get mad. I learned how to solve it but I also learned that they didn’t care
sorry, they didn't know. but you do.
He didn't promote or encourage the child to doit, he threw it in the bin and appeared like he was going to leave it there , the child took it upon himself to try fix it
@@Crazedmercenaryand he praised the child after he managed to figure it out on their own, which was the lesson he was teaching. Therefore praising the child for doing the correct thing instead of scolding them.
@@semrayildiz6970 lol yeah I’m coping with the abandonment issues 😭
@@Crazedmercenary by doing that he knew the kid was going to want to fix it, you can tell by the way he does it (idk I had an emotionally unavailable dad who did acts of kindness in harsh ways) and when the child decides to fix it (feeling like it’s his idea and he’s doing something he wants to do) he kinda tricks the kid into enjoying it and then he tries to assist from a distance
I tell my kids it's not my job to remove adversity from them but rather to help guide them through it. The confidence and pride we get through overcoming a challenge is unmatched with anything else.
Exactly 👍
2 year old wondering wtf adversity means
You’re a very wise person and this world could do with a lot more altruistic forward thinking people rather than selfish. So thank you.
@redactedredacted6205 LOL but in all seriousness for a 2 year old it's allowing them to struggle with age appropriate challenges. Such as saying words correctly and being diligent in correcting their pronunciation versus allowing them to mis pronounce words and adapting to them; versus teaching them to adapt. Don't be overbearing about it of course but diligent and patience in enforcement.
I'm sure they know all those big words
My dad was career military, 31 years RAF pathfinder special forces, I always believed he was hard on me as a child, making me do things for myself, allowing me to fail and not letting me give up until I got it right, now I see he was preparing me to be a man, sadly he lost his battle with cancer 3 years ago, he will forever be my hero
Real man ❤❤❤❤love for him
I’m a latchkey kid and couldn’t have had a different childhood
I lost my military dad 11 years ago. I had to find a husband who lived up to his example. I knew I found one when my dad asked my now husband when he would finally propose. Now my husband raises our boys just like this, with honor, courage, and commitment.
My father always told me “You’ll thank me later” Now I’m thanking him. Sorry to hear of the loss of your father. A tough day for any son. He is still guiding and protecting you. 💪
Sorry for your loss
My mom passed away 4 years ago and I miss her she was a single mother I never knew my dad my mom was the only good thing I had in life and she taught me how to take care of myself and she did the best for me I bought my first house and I don't have a mortgage I paid for the hole house it is a five bedroom two bathroom home and three garage and half acker back yard I paid 92 grand I have solar so I pay 83 dollars for utilities and don't have to pay a electric bill, all because my mom loved me and taught me how to be strong I miss her every day and I can't wait to see her again someday god bless everyone and stay strong.
Wow, I am so amazed. You know, in my religion, every time somebody does good for the sake of Allah, He will reward your parents in the grave by turning the grave into one of the gardens of Paradise
I wish u so much strength
R.I.P.🪦🕊️I'm sorry for your loss
Rest her soul and peace be on your heart
I miss my mom too it never stops
Critical, extended response question, asking his little boy "how" to explain his efforts and the patience to let the child explain.
❤ 🙏 ✌️ 🕊
Haven't seen this short in so long. Thank you for making me cry with a smile on my face.
Ditto. I'm female. And my dad did the same type of thing. Taught me skills and to be indepenedent.
Hah same here. I remember seeing this years ago, not sure why I haven’t seen this in so long
Great advice...instilling confidence in children by letting them try to solve their own problems with your loving guidance.
My dad only helped solve the problems, he'd always give the right push, and persuaded us to think logically for basically everything. Nearly every single thing I know from school, he'd re-taught it to me, in under half an hour. RIP love you Dad... I never gave you back enough, but I make it up to you someday
This just restored my faith in some parts of humanity. There are still people who know better than most, may god bless you with a long and happy life ✝️
JC
AMEN 🙏 ✝️🙏
You can never expect your children to have self confidence if you cannot show your confidence in them.
Something I wish I had growing up, or even today. I make sure my daughter knows I do. I'm so proud of her. Her mother left us and she is 3 now. Such an intelligent little girl. Thrives on encouragement. Takes the sting away for not having any because I can see the benefit of my encouragement and confidence in her.
I love my mom but she never let me do anything as a kid and it was a rough wakeup call going Into the real world. I see her do it with my nieces now and sometimes I have to remind her they're capable too
Wow! Great
@@johnnyhellsink6124 I salute you sir single dads don’t get enough praise as single mums do.
Well said. Indeed
Dads are SO important. Men are SO important.
Thank you. A lot.
Thank you. I try very hard. I taught a young man that I get to be grandpa to. At sixteen he has his own lawn service over thirty customers. He does so many different jobs. His neighbors love him. Six foot five. Big boy. He paints, cleans gutters. A guy is going to teach him to build fences. This fall, two years of welding.
The timing of the praise is key and what it’s for
Kids are smart and respond to incentives
That's a good man, who lived and grew wise, his teaching upon his children. I hope everyone lived that way
So true. I pestered my Dad for a motorbike for my 14th birthday. I got one. It was in pieces. Took me 6 months to get it done. James frame with a 197 Villiers engine. Same thing at 17. Got 2 minis. Engine blown in one, shell right off on the other. What a man he was. Miss him every day. My hero ❤
I didn’t get shit
@@ohyeahyeah1068no one cares. we’re all dealt different hands, go cry somewhere else.
@@ohyeahyeah1068me too but I give a fuck
I had good time with my parents,enough
I even cook since I'm 13 for myself and love to know to cook
You can be more positive, I wish you luck in future for you and your family
Awsome story thanks for sharing
Yeah nice, I got myself a Honda to ride it safe and enjoyably. And it works fine 😀
Wisdom which has been lost , he is from the good times. Love his attitude ❤️
Did you notice how we didn't get mad at the kid but he still showed him love that's something missing in a lot of families today only yelling and angry
Wonderful! I taught my children that they can't say, "I can't do that." They could only say, "I can't do it yet."
I LOVE love this ❤
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I'm stealing this 😂
Beautiful❤
Terrible parent you are
I enjoy telling my daughter "let me show you how" then I show her step by step what to do, and how to do it. After it is fixed, I try to unfix it in the same manner so she can do it herself too. She has picked up how to just fix alot herself. It's amazing watching her grow😊
Im gonna be a father one day man is that crazy
comments like this give me hope. sending love and blessings your way man
As she gets older I recommend getting her to experiment on solutions instead and only if she gives up do you show her, it's a great way to encourage growth and exploration (and find out how smart she really is)
u should try to let her try to figure it out herself, helps with critical thinking and when it doesn't go well u can always jump in and help
Thats the right way!!
FACT!!! I wish more parents did that.
no you dont
Whats the problem🤨
Sorry, but Gen z don't gonna have that kinda IQ..
confidence is the best gift you can give a child
Now, *this* is what true gentle parenting looks like! 💗💗
He didn't praise the child, he praised the work he did.
Underrated comment 💪🏾
whats the difference? ffs the the kid became a problem solver and got praised for it.
@raheemabdul1066 As he should've been. You're reading way too deeply Raheem.
gave his son something to feel proud of himself for while teaching him problem solving. love that
I've been a nanny for 20 years. And he is absolutely correct. I wouldn't have thrown it in the trash can, but I would have played dumb and I would have asked the child "how can we fix this". And then we work on it together to resolve the problem. It teaches them they can always come to me when they have a problem. That we can work together to resolve the problem. And that there's an amazing amount of reward that comes from doing the work yourself. It's good to praise the A+ they got on the report card. But I think it's better to praise the hard work that it took to get that A.
Miss my grand pa he was just like this man !! And I’m the man I am because of my grand pa . Miss him daily
Amen to that. Teach children responsibility, appreciation and belief in themselves! Always with love and kindness.
My 5 year old asked me how can we solve the problem of rising rents, inflation and economic turmoil..
I told him to go away and figure it out.
6 months later he's running a successful business and supporting the whole family 😆👌🏽
This man speaks truth for miles ❤ I'm thankful my mom knew that for me
It helped me build confidence and she knew I needed to figure it out myself at times
I’ve always been told a good parents is constantly testing their kid. Especially when talking about a father-son relationship. You either give your son problems to solve himself, or you see how reacts to the unavoidable. And you test him. If he fails, however, you teach him. You teach him to not give up when life gets touch. You teach him that sometimes he’ll be alone. Then, when the next situation arises, you watch and be proud when he passes your tests and the tests of life.
Big difference between not giving up and a battle of futility. I gave up on getting a wife because it was a battle of futility. When theres no point in trying when the result is always the same you prevent yourself from going down the path of insanity.
A great lesson learned. With age comes wisdom, collect it whenever possible.
A taste of how I grew up. I'm so grateful I had me grandparents there to help raise me. This is exactly how easy it is to fix this!!! Lovely video
Best lesson: learn how to do things for yourself. Very good💯✅👍🏻👍🏻
This is great!!! We adopted our 4 children who were already a little older when we got each of them. We basically had to re-teach them basic things like bathing and dressing, manners, etc. because no one had taken the time to properly teach them. Our oldest was nearly 12 when we took her in and our youngest son was 4. He didn't even know how to say a word, only made sounds, and was still in diapers. Now our kids are 19, 16, 15, & 10. They are all doing so well. I have been teaching the 3 girls a lot in the kitchen. One day I told one of them to put a pot of something in the fridge. She said it wouldn't fit, although I knew that if she rearranged some things it would fit. I didn't try to fix it for her, I just said to see if she could figure it out. After a few minutes I go to check on her and she not only got it to fit, but she had organized the entire fridge and threw out old leftovers or expired items. Now she loves to keep it organized and makes a fuss if anyone doesn't put things in its "home" 😂 I was so proud of her that day and was sure to let her know how much I appreciated her extra help in the kitchen. My son would get frustrated easily if he couldn't figure out how to fix a problem. He loves building Legos. One day he couldn't get something together properly, so he threw it and yelled. I asked him what was the matter. After he told me, I told him that the Legos were just pieces of plastic. They couldn't move or do anything without him doing it for them, so being mean to the Legos wouldn't fix his problem. I told him if he couldn't play nice them he couldn't play at all and that if he starts to feel frustrated he should just step away from the problem and take a deep breath and think about how to fix it. After his time out to breath, he was thinking more clearly and asked if he could try again. I told him yes and he picked up all his Legos and created the most awesome robot ever. I was sure to tell him how cool it was that he designed that all by himself. It's so important to give kids the space and time to figure things out and problem solve while still teaching them boundaries and praising them when they achieve their goals. I just love being a mom ❤❤❤❤
“Figure it out” most common phrase used in our household. It teaches responsibility, creativity, problem solving, and personal pride/confidence just to name a few. Now as an adult I can stand back and see the way to fix issues and am able to foresee potential problems when planning projects. Unfortunately kids don’t make anything with their hands anymore, and many have no idea how to be creative.
Aren't you generalizing a bit? Tons of kids/minors draw online. That's definitely a form of creativity
Very powerful I agree with this 100 percent
That's a fair point, but you shouldn't have kids learning or being online all the time.
The internet is a plague. Drawing online makes you see things you shouldn't ever see as a kid. But hey, everything's a learning experience in a sense, but I say until your kids are old enough to be responsible on the internet, keep them drawing in notebooks and coloring books or whatever.
My parents kinda had the reverse problem. Their problem was trying to keep my brother and me from taking important machines apart. We had a habit of wanting to know how things worked and putting them back together. We also ran into a problem with the extra piece left over after we put it back together, which Dad had to take apart and fix what we had done and explain along the way how and why things work. Those were the days.
So in the end, your dad fixed you broken wheel after all. 🤦♂️😂
@@gzus1482 No, lawn mowers, clocks, toasters, kitchen mixers, really complicated machines with electronics and motors. For 6 and 5-year-olds I thought we did really well, of course none of them were broken before we started. Never had a problem fixing small things like toys, bikes, and nonelectrical things. Nor any problem "inventing" things like an improvised "hang glider" out of two umbrellas and some aluminum tubing and wire to hold it together. Mom was sure pissed about her umbrellas and the big knot on my brother's forehead, thou.
@@Tempestan Sounds like some good times
I didn’t get a lot of atta boys when I was young. I kinda find myself wanting that more and more now as an adult but here in the world as an adult you don’t really get a lot of praise. Give you’re kids a pat on the back every so often, keeps them well rounded
I am amazed to see this brilliant person in shorts. For whoever is interested, the name of this person was actually Jacque Fresco. He was a humanitarian above all, an innovator, architect and futurist. His work is brilliant and his contributions are foundational on child education, social structure and problem-solving culture. I strongly encourage to check out his lectures and his “Venus project”, an architectural project based on his utopia. A true humanitarian that every school in this planet should show its kids. Rest in peace Jacque❤
Yes - I borrowed a DVD - 'Future by Design' - from my library long time ago.
Many medical instruments used today were invented by him also.
Extending patents on his inventions (I recall) was problematic, so he missed out on great wealth.
His vision of what our society should become is priceless.
You know what...I can see a human soul by the strong/love/effort way it shares a flame of another human knowledge that improves us all...hugs from Brazil 🎉🎉🎉
I got to meet him, visited him and his Venus project in Florida. My brother is an engineer and he was intrigued by Jacque. Great mind!
I dcswdon’t x xx
I spoke to my nephew and nieces like little adults...no dumbing down. No sugar coating. I never lied nor deceived them.
🍀 They are incredibly lucky to have you! I never experienced that growing up, not once. I’m not religious rather spiritual and I’d like to say bless you and your nieces and nephews 😊 💕
He is a great dad. He knows how to motivate the child and also gives the child a sense of satisfaction 🙏
Modern toys are usually not fixable. That is the problem.
😂😂
May God rest his soul, Jacque Fresco was such an inspiring and kind man.
I don't care how many times i see reposted content about good parenting, i will like it. The message needs to be spread
U can tell how proud he is, the way he reiterates it only took him a minute u can seem him beaming ❤❤
This confirms a lot of my history.
I am a blob.
Learning that I can still become a good parent someday.
Thank you for this video!!!
Yeah, I've got some "blob" baggage and habits I'm finally replacing with empowered and empowering ones. My parents tried to lead me more than I was willing to be led sometimes...
That's because your parents didn't know how to guide you. I'd much rather be remembered as the dad who - when my kid comes to me and asks me to fix something - instead of just tossing it in the garbage and hoping they figure it out, actually sits down with them and SHOWS them how to fix it. You know, by doing it together, guiding them through the process, and building a memory the kid will treasure: that their dad took time out of his day to sit down with them and teach them a valuable skill. I wish my dad had done stuff like this with me, instead of beating the shit out of me because he had anger management issues and making me want nothing to do with him.
He didn't force his child to repair the toy but let his child decide whether he wanted a new toy or to try and salvage the old one. Most often parents try to push a child to act in a certain way thinking it's encouraging but usually, it's what they deem is the right way. Making choices is important to build a child's analytical and decision-making skills.
This is amazing. We should all learn from this man.
Learn to lie and bs people?
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Jacque Fresco was one of the greatest minds of our time. RIP.
Yes he was. The Venus project was a good idea. Not many understand.
Way ahead of his time.
@@Whereempathsgatherunfortunately too idealistic, human nature would always get in the way. But he was a great mind
AMEN
His videos are great. Shame Venus project never took off..
Jacques Fresco ❤ Genius brain & futurist. Such a shame we lost him...
The old generation was about the future our or my generation is only focused on is the past. We are dying out like flies
No, just a random scammer
How was he a scammer? @@themodfather9382
Help me Help myself. Thats the best way to raise your Kids. I raised my Kids to be independant. It was hard, because i felt not much needed but it made me proud as well seeing them being great and doing for themselves. All my 4 boys left home knowing how to cook, do laundry, clean house and go after their job. Strong men who are raising great Kids themselves now. ❤
Praise is the key, reward accomplishment, dont punish incompetence
I agree with him 100%. So many kids today are given everything on a plate and their motto is, “do it for me”. It’s a contributing factor to kids behaviour and attitude.
Let me guess. You have ro beat your kids more, then they respect you.
Absolutely 💯
I don't. He's trying to tell a tough love story, I guess, but to me, it looks ignorant. There's no need to throw the toy away or make the kid cry. He very simply could've shown him how to fix it without the dramatic life lesson. Personally I think his story is BS.
@@frednichols9851yeah but instead he figured it out himself and became more independent. He can’t have a problem and cry about it until someone else fixes it for him.
@@k9g241or the child will think, that their parents don't care. And wont seak help when they really need it. The biggest problems are ones you can't see.
This is a great lesson. I've grown up doing almost everything for myself fixing everything that i broke or anything my friends or family needed fixing, if i couldn't fix it i felt bad. I grew up trying to help anyone my best i could but in school i was told that i was "retarded", "wired wrong" or "broken" so i continued to try my best but couldnt understand where i was wrong and people wouldnt believe me when i said i dont understand failing at almost all my education i got all the way to university (doing art because i wasnt much good at anything else) and i found out i have several learning disabilities but it was a little late to this day i still feel "broken" but i still fix things for people. Remember "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" its a wrong saying they will and do hurt you if youre unlucky they destroy you to the core. Remember to always have kindness and a bit of heart when learning with and teaching kids. Much love from a man that can't be fixed
That right there is a dad.
Supportive. Constructive. Respectful. He knew it was an easy fix but used it to make the kid grow. Thats true love. Helping someone be the best they can be.
Respectful? He just called the kid a baby and threw the fucking car into trash when he only asked for help. He could have said to the kid that it's fixable and that the kid can do it by himself if he just thinks a little.
Praise him and praise his effort it has big difference
At age 36 I'm fortunate enough to have my dad show me how to fix stuff thanks dad
I have become father recently, and this gentleman has just taught me a great lesson on how to raise my son.
I wish I can seat with this man and learn more, as my father has past away to soon.
I was worried at first but this came out to be one of the most important pieces of parenting advice someone should keep in mind
This guy gave a very important lesson to next gen parents