I agree with Jeannie. She is promoting healthy relationships. She's just saying her husband contributes to her happiness but your happiness shouldn't solely depend on someone else.
See that's when she's my favorite. Love love love her. I do not want to be addicted to anything and anybody. independence and balance is key to a healthy and happy life.
I am too!! I DVR the show everyday so I can watch it once I get home from school nd these past two weeks I've missed them so much nd today I was just thinking like my GIRLS ARE BACK!! They are my girlfriends in my head. Lol love them so much.
It's not healthy to be addicted to another person - especially when your happiness depends on their happiness. I get what Jeannie was saying. People want to be all "you complete me" but in order to live your life to the fullest and be satisfied with yourself and your own choices there needs to be independence.
Call me old fashioned but I don't see anything wrong with Tamera. Yes women should get their own resources and have a sense of Independence. However some women do enjoy being a wife and mother. If that bring them happiness then have at it.
Jaymie Mangum I love your comment. I one thousand percent agree and as a man this may seem strange for me to say, but I love being with my woman. Lol. To the point I really don't care about hanging with my friends. A great panther is a friend and lover. Where's the problem? Lol. Just never lose your self in loving your lover.
Seriously though, we need to praise women because they know what they want and being single but if you want to be married it's now such a bad thing? Just because you love your husband and want them around doesn't mean you can't be by yourself or do things on your own. 😒
Tamera acts like she has no identity. With her it’s like I’m a wife and a mom and that’s it. Like I can see Jeanie and Tamar’s own true personalities besides them being wives and that doesn’t mean they don’t love their partners.
I love tamera and how she really loves her husband because God finally blessed her with someone who is equally yoked as her. Who shares the same values as her. With that being said I want to be at a point that even though I have someone like jeanie stated I want to also be okay even if I don't have them. I don't want my entire happiness based on a man. The man destined for me should be an added ingredient to my happiness not the only thing that makes me happy. Love all the girls input.
+Samantha Derrick Yup so that addiction can ruin you and you're okay with that huh... But you're not okay with a healthy relationship where you enjoy each other's company and therefore won't be on the verge of killing yourself IF it's over like so many of these "Love is an addiction" relationships. Don't try to use science unless you know fully of the details regarding brain interactions with commonalities like Love and know truly that those interactions are due to feel good aspects and can be attributed to many other things and not this cause and effect correlation of love and addiction within the brain.....btw know the real definition of what feminism is and not just what society is crapping out to you and if you still don't see the good in it then bless your soul.
Jeannie you have proven to us ONCE AGAIN you are a strong woman. Out of all the ladies, truth be told you are wise and you and your hubby deserve each other.
I am with Jeannie on that one!! You just cannot be addicted to a man and lose yourself. You CAN be in love with a man and love him tremendously, yet still keep your emotional independence and be healthy!
If anyone is shocked about what jeannie is the fact God is already enough for her, she doesn't go to her husband for completion but her relationship with her husband is so they both compliment eachother . They become one but also a strand of three as God is the centre of their relationship , this is the type of relationship you should strive for because when you start to idolise your partner trust me it won't be sweet for long xx
I have to agree with Jeannie I have seen many couples who are good partners but they rely too much on one another for happiness or you can tell one NEEDS the other and that's really sad. The only thing that can really break that cycle is experience and self-love.
+Deborah Adeyemi I agree, but in this case I don't think these ladies' happiness is dependent on their men, I think they just enhance it. And that's perfectly healthy because your partner should make you happier.
I agree with Jeannie. Be addicted to your strength and faith. No man or person comes before God in my life. As long as I have Him, I will be alright , no matter how much i love that person
Tamara i know you probably didn't mean to say it the way you did but dont let these women corrupt your mind making you think you don't need your husband because you do... and that's ok.... men love to know that they're needed not just wanted
I think they all agreed that they need their men to be everything that they are and contributes the the marriage and that they want them as well, but! their Independence is very important as well, and as they were saying Tamera seems like she don't have any indivuality without her man, which as a married woman (I found out the hard way in the beginning) you never! want to lose who you are and the things that makes you thrive alone, without kids and husband
+shashayaway bailey thank you I was just trying to find the right words to say this two become one in a marriage an you move as a unit BUT inside that marriage there are still two people
Lol @ the table calling Tamar and Tamera out. Tamar know she needs Vince around because he caters to her demands. And Tamera knows she needs Adam cause that's her bae all day. Both of their husbands are a very integral part of their family unit. I love Jeannie's perspective but her situation is different from Tamar and Tamera's.
Empressive exactly, Jeannie wasn’t meant for Freddie that’s probably why she felt this way and didn’t feel the need to have him around. They’re divorced now so it says a lot.
Josè Not in my opinion. They are all wise in their own way and all can give great advice on many situations. This team Jeanie mess has me scratching my head.
Psalms 118:8 - [It is] better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.Psalms 118:9-13 - [It is] better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in princes.. Men are humans. putting your complete dependency in your faith in God and the strength His Spirit gives you daily is better than to put your complete dependency in your lover, husband or any men. for just as you are trusting them, they can break that trust because at the end of the day they are not perfect, they are humans. They will make a promise to stay with you and never break your heart over and over again but the same person will be the one to hurt you. Of course, you need them and want them in the way that is stable and not addictive but to be complete addict to them. No---Believe in yourself first and your God and your faith before you believe in another person and gives yourself completely to the point you have no identity and in complete dependence of them.
Omg thank you so much for this. You are a million percent right! I needed to hear this. My boyfriend and I broke up. It's really tough. I've been so depressed. One thing I can say is I solely dependeded on him for my happiness. I was looking to fill that empty void via him. However he broke my heart and kept making false empty promises. I hope I can get through it and rely on god and not man to be happy. I don't love myself or value myself at all. I do need to start praying again. He has moved on and is with another woman. Men are so selfish they get over it so quickly while I'm just weeping away. I hope I can find a real man that knows how to treat me. The way I deserve to be treated and not like a doormat. I hope Karma catches up to him. Sorry for the rant but thank you for saying this statement it has helped me. I love the real Jeannie is a million percent correct. Hope I can be strong like her thank you once again I will ask god for help x
I was also addicted to my ex and when we broke up I felt like I was incomplete, it hurt so bad y'all. I relied on him to build my Self esteem. When it ended i felt like crap......... But then i spent some time single and realized, HEY..I'm freaking Awesome. never looked back
Poor Tamera. There is nothing with being in love and being addicted to your spouse...so long as you BOTH are equally in love and addicted to each other. Or the other person at least looks like it. The sad part is if the spouse breaks your hear or something beyond his/her control happens and he/she has to leave you. So a combination of Tamera's addiction and Jeannie's "independence" would be good. I can see Tamera being heart-broken if something happened to Adam.
Jeannie my God my God you have literally put into words what I have been trying to explain to people and my boyfriend for years. There is nothing wrong with a healthy great relationship full of love. But there is no one in this world that I can't live without. As long as I have my passion and my faith I will always survive. It's not saying that you love people any less it's just being an adult and realizing at the end of the day you have to love you, have faith in you, trust yourself to be alright. NO ONE else can give you that kind of peace. Thank you Jeannie, now I am certain I'm not crazy lol.
Listening to Jeannie’s perspective on love in 2016 and then see how she talks about marriage in 2022. Damn! I thought she was wise and smart when in reality she was hurt and going through a lot of trauma behind that shield she puts. Wish her the best🙏
no that is a healthy stable relationship. human being are not completely all trustworthy. yes you can trust them as some point but not completely to the point that they become your whole life like a worshiper with their idols. it's a husband, not God. When you trust fully in God, He alone will be the one to sustain you in your marriage, satisfy and complete you. many thoughts marriage will complete them but they still are unhappy, still look for their sense of purpose and the person the thought could help them broke them completely or help but when they are gone, they are lost and broken which it shouldn;t be like that. now I understand you should love, yes love your husband or wife but not to the point you adore them even before the Lord Jesus.
I understood what Jeannie meant, by addicted to your husband. Well, this is just my opinion, I lost my husband in 1995 by death and I almost lost my mind. He was my second husband and I didn't know that I loved him that much, but I prayed that God would never keep me from loving someone where I could not do without them. I became very faithful to my faith and then realized that you should not be addicted to no one but God. He is a jealous God and he comes first in my life. I am next when it comes to making myself happy, then my children, because without me being happy and loving myself, I can't love others. One thing that I realized is that God can give you family and he can take them away. I live by myself now and sometimes I get a little lonely, but I just pray and realize I still live. I do love family and they love me and I will continue to be independent until the day that I leave this earth.
They're all jealous or just don't know what kind of relationship Tay Tay has with Adam. It's special. Shout be loud and proud to be addicted to your man Tamera 😍
I don't think there's anything wrong with Tamera. She's a devoted wife and mother! She should not be shamed for that. Isn't it normal for parents to miss their baby(s) while they're at work? I babysit my nephew and when he's not here with me (even if it's for a couple days), I do take out my phone to look at his photos and videos. I believe Tamera when she says she's independent. She just enjoys her husband's company. Nothing wrong with that! I think that makes for a good marriage. I can understand Jeannie's view as well. She doesn't want to put herself in that position of feeling like death if a relationship is over. They're both strong ladies.
After I started dating, I went from one relationship to the next because it was hard to go back to being single, I feared being alone. But there comes a point where I realized if I have to depend on a man for me to be happy, something is not right. Now being single and not dating has made me see how strong I can be.
This segment has me on the floor rolling 😂😂😂😂😂. Now, idk if I'm addicted to my husband because I looovvveeee my "me time". But I can't picture my life without him. I want him AND I need him. He was made for me. 😌😌
I was waiting at da doe🚪 for these videos to upload, as soon as it hit 12am in the UK I was ready to press the refresh button It's been 2 weeks too long!!! 😫😂
Jeannie was so on point here and I aim to have more of what she has than Tamera bc I've learned with my husband that we both have to be responsible for our own happiness and not lose sight of who we are. As soon as we get lost in eachother we become miserable and completely unable to keep the other person happy. If you're addicted to your husband you have a rude awakening coming your way.
I'm with Jeannie on this. I had a relationship that the guy was so controling that it made me addicted like without even wanting to. I would get panic attacks not talking to him everyday, if he'd get angry for wtv stupide reason I'd go crazy thinking omg he's gonna leave me I'ma die right now. I got closer to my faith and in the end I put an end to the relationship of almost 3 years. I started the same patern with my husband at first cause I was so used to it, but he wasn't the controling type to make you feel guilty about every little thing and I slowly became more independant. We've been married for almost 6 years, we have kids together and we've had lots of ups and downs, but I've never had that feeling of omg he's gonna leave I'm gonna die. If he ever left I'd be sad for sure, but not to the point of not being able to live anymore or anything and God knows how much I love him.
I love this segment & I agree with Jeannie 100%. I'm currently in the state where she used to be. I'm going through the horrible break up and i've been feeling so broken up by it - but I realized that I never want to be here again. I don't need to cling that much or be addicted to my future partner .. because what happens when it is time to detach is so painful (emotion-wise).
Jeannie is my new favourite. You can tell out of all the girls, she is the is the kindest, smartest and most confident. She has truly lived and through her sharing her experiences; we can all learn.
Music and food is my addiction 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 I’m a cancer and cancers are just very big on domestic life. That’s Tamara’s one and only love and man. She has no one else to compare him too! That’s what she wanted. Once a cancer is married. Forget it, they are married for life and that’s a beautiful thing. I on the other hand, I don’t need marriage or kids… never wanted it…and I’m never addicted to anyone. I FEEL what Jeannie is saying. I know during the pandemic, Tamara said her husband and kids were getting on her nerves 😂😂… that’s because she didn’t have to be around them 24/7. Everyone felt like that. I crave solitude. That’s how I get recharged. I can’t be on all the time. I get drained. When I lived with my ex… I put him out my place. It was deceitful how he moved into my place and we didn’t even talk about it. He just came over like a stray cat one day and never left. Mind you he had his own place, job (he quit) and car and he turned in everything to leech off me. Grown ass 42 year old man. Please! He wanted someone to take care of him. He thought in his mind that if he moved in, no one else would be with me and it would make the relationship last. How? You ain’t bringing in no money. But anyway I really do hope Tamera and Adam have a long blessed marriage but there a real no Guarantees in life except death and one day we will all return home to God, no matter who goes first. Nobody is getting out here alive. 😁 Tamara being so in love with her husband and kids and life is just blissful, she makes others aspire to want to be married and have a family. On the reality show, Tamara was in therapy because she wanted what her sister had and her therapist told her not to covet that and that it will happen for her one day. She felt she needed these things to complete her. Marriage was the end goal for her and she got it eventually but not at first. She dumped Adam because he didn’t want to get married. Y’all know the story. But I’m so happy she got what she wanted, her husband, kids and dog, house… flourishing career, degree, money… no one is struggling. Isn’t that the blueprint society lays out? Some follow it, others don’t. I don’t and don’t care to 😁
I agree with what Jeannie said and for those making comments about her relationship with Freddie, need to remember just because it isn't how you think it should be, doesn't mean she's not happy and in love with her partner. The relationship is between her and her partner, everyone's relationship is different.
They hit the nail on the head at the ending..."You don't need him, you want him" That's exactly how I feel. I'll never be dependent on a man, even if I get married in the future. BUT, when I'm in a relationship, I crave my boo lol. Just being around him, cuddling, kissing, etc. I love that stuff. Who doesn't? I'll always want my partner, but I'll never need him. The only person I'm going to depend on is me.
Jeannie!!!!!!!!!!!! You better speak that truth b*tch!!!! I NEEDED THAT! Just went through that phase where I was so hurt over becoming addicted to a guy and having it not work out. That is such a hard pill to swallow...
I definitely agree with Jeanie!!! Being attached and obsessive can be very unhealthy in relationship because you just dependent on them for your happiness and like Jeanie said when they end up leaving you and you guys break up your so broken and lost. Pretty much it's good to get your individuality in a relationship.
I'm like Jeannie. I'm addicted to my independence. I love my man, but if I wouldn't drop dead if he wasn't around. As Jeannie said, I am NOT going to not be OK 👌 if he's not around.
Just because Jeannie is more into her phone than her husband doesn't mean Tamara has a problem. Jeannie found someone she can live with (barely since they're long-distance), not someone she can't live without. That was her choice, but some people want passionate real love instead of self-adulation.
+tbd You say that like, there is only one type of love or way to be passionate. There's not. Tamara's love for her husband, is NOT more valid, than Jeannie's, or vice versa, point, blank, period. And Jeannie clearly, said she values her independence. There is nothing wrong with wanting a person but not needing them. Tamera just said, she doesn't need her husband, but wants him. So she wasn't even fully disagreeing with Jeannie.
Go head Tamar! When she said to audience "dont clap" to Jeannie being addicted to her independence! My opinion is this..everyone do them! Jeannie always ready to give her opinion about being independent and probably give her girl friends more attention than the one who needs it most, her husband! Love Adrienne for ALWAYS keeping it real too! Tamera, keep doing you boo!
I think as with everything, there needs to be balance. It is okay to love your independence, and it is okay to love being with your partner. It can become problematic when there is too much of the one and not enough of the other.
I love it Tamera. It sounds like your version of love...and equally as healthy as Jeannie's version of love...because it works for you and your family and it brings you peace and therefore, I'm imagining that your way of loving brings both your husband's peace as well. And so, I love both of your approaches. :-)
You can love someone and still love your independence as well. Addictions aren’t healthy no matter what or who the addiction is to. Its always good to have a healthy balance. I love my man but I love and need my alone time too.
Webster Definition of addiction: a strong and HARMFUL need to regularly have something (such as a drug) or do something (such as gamble) Addiction isn't healthy. Period. Whether it's drugs, gambling, or a person. If you can't function without something, that means there's something wrong. Jeannie seems to be the only one to understand that. Love your spouse of course, but if you can't make it a few hours without their presence you should seek help. There's nothing normal about that. Marriage is a union between TWO people. Not one person being way too attached to the other. Never let one person dictate your happiness and peace of mind. Humans make mistakes. You need to be able to survive when your spouse inevitably makes a mistake. That doesn't mean you don't need them, it just means you are your own person who is self satisfied and doesn't need another person or thing to be happy.
Coming from a person with an addictive personality, balance is essential. It's beautiful to crave someone's company and presence but if it gets to the point where you can't function, survive or even be happy if that person is not around that's too much and leads to self-destructive behavior. On another note I think it's beautiful that Tamara feel so strongly about her husband it's nice to have someone to treat you in such a way where they're worthy of that type passion.
I agree with Jeannie. She is promoting healthy relationships. She's just saying her husband contributes to her happiness but your happiness shouldn't solely depend on someone else.
agreed
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agree agree agree agree !
+Ashley B I know I was addicted to a guy I dated, it sucked.
+Ashley B thats right.. u should be whole n complete before getting into a relationship so even without them, you're still whole
In Tamera's defense, she is a twin. She was born attached to someone else and spent her whole life attached.
+MsEMAJOR she's always trying to differentiate and separate herself from Tia as an individual though
maybe shes just transferring the addiction from tia to adam lol
^^^ *claps loudly Family Feud Style* Good answer, good answer!
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Very true!
IDC how many years later, I will always come back to these small clips. Always makes me smile and laugh !
Same !
Same
Ditto😊
Same!
Same ❤
Yesss Jeannie. You can tell she's been through a lot and it has made her who she is, a strong woman.
absolutely,.
See that's when she's my favorite. Love love love her.
I do not want to be addicted to anything and anybody. independence and balance is key to a healthy and happy life.
Yesssss!!! 💪💪💪
+ezshorty👏👏👏
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After this whole week i realize that I'm addicted to The Real lol. I was checking this channel EH-VER-EE DAY.
yasssssss! like where the new vids at
I am too!! I DVR the show everyday so I can watch it once I get home from school nd these past two weeks I've missed them so much nd today I was just thinking like my GIRLS ARE BACK!! They are my girlfriends in my head. Lol love them so much.
Same!
+essie fab yaassss me too, my 5 bff'ss
Yes! I've been missing girl chat.
Tamera: "She's 7 months years old"😂😂😂😂
Then Tamar Repeated it 😂😂😂
It's not healthy to be addicted to another person - especially when your happiness depends on their happiness. I get what Jeannie was saying. People want to be all "you complete me" but in order to live your life to the fullest and be satisfied with yourself and your own choices there needs to be independence.
ya i dont love nothing more than God then comes me
+Tia B AMEN!!
Exactly, I thought that was just weird
Yessssssssyessssss👏🏾
I agree 100%
Call me old fashioned but I don't see anything wrong with Tamera. Yes women should get their own resources and have a sense of Independence. However some women do enjoy being a wife and mother. If that bring them happiness then have at it.
Jaymie Mangum I love your comment. I one thousand percent agree and as a man this may seem strange for me to say, but I love being with my woman. Lol. To the point I really don't care about hanging with my friends. A great panther is a friend and lover. Where's the problem? Lol. Just never lose your self in loving your lover.
Totally agree and we need old fashion love back again and maybe the divorce rate would go down.
Seriously though, we need to praise women because they know what they want and being single but if you want to be married it's now such a bad thing? Just because you love your husband and want them around doesn't mean you can't be by yourself or do things on your own. 😒
Sounds like she’s not the one for you. When you really love someone, you won’t put your friends over her if you HAD to choose.
That's right!
She loves her husband. Nothing wrong with that. They've become one
forreal !
Exactly! There is nothing wrong with being in love with your partner! Every relationship is not the same.
Tamera acts like she has no identity. With her it’s like I’m a wife and a mom and that’s it. Like I can see Jeanie and Tamar’s own true personalities besides them being wives and that doesn’t mean they don’t love their partners.
MMah Cisse yes exactly
Jordan Scott does he love her tho?
I would honestly read a book written by Jeanie
Right!!! #Jeaniewhereyobookat ????
How to break up you marriage for a rapper.
@@ElizabethHome153 shut up Karen
@@ElizabethHome153 no .How to act get a rapper by acting like a black girl
Jeannie Mai if you're reading this... please, please, please write a book! You speak so well and your points come across to powerfully!
yes...her words are very powerful sometimes.
I fully agree Jeannie is the best on the show can sit and listen to her all day
She has a channel
Don't take advice from her becuz her marriage didn't work out
Amber Brown it was her mans fault. She is a powerful woman!
if they win the Emmy, it's gonna be because of Jeannie. she gives the best advice and is the best speaker by far.
#teamJeannie.
+roter13 agreed
It will be because of them ALL! People like you ruin shows like this. I wish you'd all crawl back under the rock from which you came. Demons!
tamera gives good advice not good great advice and Tamar sometimes
+OriginalMissTee shut up
I'm addicted to my #1 bae.....food
Abso-freakin-lutely!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
girl I have a taco bell app for a reason
yaaaaassss
+Johanne Saintelus yessss girl speak the truth!!!
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I love tamera and how she really loves her husband because God finally blessed her with someone who is equally yoked as her. Who shares the same values as her. With that being said I want to be at a point that even though I have someone like jeanie stated I want to also be okay even if I don't have them. I don't want my entire happiness based on a man. The man destined for me should be an added ingredient to my happiness not the only thing that makes me happy. Love all the girls input.
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so true! very well said. it takes a long time to learn that.
well said!!!
yes. well said
Yes to this comment !!!!
Reverend Jeannie Mai, she is always on with her preaching and today she was ON!
+Samantha Derrick wow you are a different type of stupid
+Samantha Derrick Yup so that addiction can ruin you and you're okay with that huh... But you're not okay with a healthy relationship where you enjoy each other's company and therefore won't be on the verge of killing yourself IF it's over like so many of these "Love is an addiction" relationships. Don't try to use science unless you know fully of the details regarding brain interactions with commonalities like Love and know truly that those interactions are due to feel good aspects and can be attributed to many other things and not this cause and effect correlation of love and addiction within the brain.....btw know the real definition of what feminism is and not just what society is crapping out to you and if you still don't see the good in it then bless your soul.
Jeannie you have proven to us ONCE AGAIN you are a strong woman. Out of all the ladies, truth be told you are wise and you and your hubby deserve each other.
+Samantha Derrick Jesus !,, whats wrong with you. Am just expressing my feelings,,, why are you insulting me.
+sharon oguta Don't listen to her, I tots agree. I'd rather have a relationship like that, it's healthy
+Patient Amethyst having such a relationship is definately one of my goals
SMFHH!!
ᵀʰʳᵉᵉ ᵒᶠ ᵃ ᴷⁱⁿᵈ lol I'm thinking the same thang. They aint even together now unfortunate
I am with Jeannie on that one!! You just cannot be addicted to a man and lose yourself. You CAN be in love with a man and love him tremendously, yet still keep your emotional independence and be healthy!
So tru I've lost mine emotional dependency I feel like I need him. Bin with him 10yrs prob y....
If anyone is shocked about what jeannie is the fact God is already enough for her, she doesn't go to her husband for completion but her relationship with her husband is so they both compliment eachother . They become one but also a strand of three as God is the centre of their relationship , this is the type of relationship you should strive for because when you start to idolise your partner trust me it won't be sweet for long xx
Molly Delfuego soooo true!
So true!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Nah she ain’t like that man. You can tell.
This Jeannie girl does read her Bible, she's not lying! SO MUCH wisdom coming out of her mouth in this show.
I have to agree with Jeannie I have seen many couples who are good partners but they rely too much on one another for happiness or you can tell one NEEDS the other and that's really sad. The only thing that can really break that cycle is experience and self-love.
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Truth.
that's right...at the end of the day experience is key...
that's right...at the end of the day experience is key...
And now they aren’t together 🤔
If you're addicted to someone and your happiness is dependent on them... Please reevaluate your life, something is wrong.
yeaap! couldn't agree more
+Deborah Adeyemi I agree, but in this case I don't think these ladies' happiness is dependent on their men, I think they just enhance it. And that's perfectly healthy because your partner should make you happier.
Yes exactly , I Find many women r that way. Women need to feel secure without a man to be good with one
means they could be a whole level up from you and both of you know it?
Exactly.
I agree with Jeannie. Be addicted to your strength and faith. No man or person comes before God in my life. As long as I have Him, I will be alright , no matter how much i love that person
no need to be rude and nasty
no need to be rude and nasty
Tamara i know you probably didn't mean to say it the way you did but dont let these women corrupt your mind making you think you don't need your husband because you do... and that's ok.... men love to know that they're needed not just wanted
Yea
+Lola Williams Hey girl hey (Adrienne's voice) lol
I think they all agreed that they need their men to be everything that they are and contributes the the marriage and that they want them as well, but! their Independence is very important as well, and as they were saying Tamera seems like she don't have any indivuality without her man, which as a married woman (I found out the hard way in the beginning) you never! want to lose who you are and the things that makes you thrive alone, without kids and husband
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+shashayaway bailey thank you I was just trying to find the right words to say this two become one in a marriage an you move as a unit BUT inside that marriage there are still two people
Lol @ the table calling Tamar and Tamera out. Tamar know she needs Vince around because he caters to her demands. And Tamera knows she needs Adam cause that's her bae all day. Both of their husbands are a very integral part of their family unit. I love Jeannie's perspective but her situation is different from Tamar and Tamera's.
+Empressive Which IS GREAT!
Empressive you have a great prescriptive on things. I will say this again. You need to be on TV. Please make it happen. I love your show!
@@NgataNare She wont she hide her persona for a reason plus she is fake
Diamond Baby agreed!
Empressive exactly, Jeannie wasn’t meant for Freddie that’s probably why she felt this way and didn’t feel the need to have him around. They’re divorced now so it says a lot.
I'm addicted to people i dnt even know or even in a relationship with
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+dance4life1208 My life.
Same😂
+dance4life1208 you would be a very interesting episode of my strange addiction.
+dance4life1208
How? You don't like being alone?
Jeannie is the smartest and most rational person on this show!!
Yes!😊
Josè Not in my opinion. They are all wise in their own way and all can give great advice on many situations. This team Jeanie mess has me scratching my head.
I like how jeanie reasons
Josè R that's your opinion.
Josè R they all contribute to that but I definitely say I favor Tamera and Jeannie....
Psalms 118:8 - [It is] better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.Psalms 118:9-13 - [It is] better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in princes.. Men are humans. putting your complete dependency in your faith in God and the strength His Spirit gives you daily is better than to put your complete dependency in your lover, husband or any men. for just as you are trusting them, they can break that trust because at the end of the day they are not perfect, they are humans. They will make a promise to stay with you and never break your heart over and over again but the same person will be the one to hurt you. Of course, you need them and want them in the way that is stable and not addictive but to be complete addict to them. No---Believe in yourself first and your God and your faith before you believe in another person and gives yourself completely to the point you have no identity and in complete dependence of them.
Yessss you're so right. God will never fail you, but man sure will!!!
Amen!
So true !
HEY YO!! Amen!!!!
Omg thank you so much for this. You are a million percent right! I needed to hear this. My boyfriend and I broke up. It's really tough. I've been so depressed. One thing I can say is I solely dependeded on him for my happiness. I was looking to fill that empty void via him. However he broke my heart and kept making false empty promises. I hope I can get through it and rely on god and not man to be happy. I don't love myself or value myself at all. I do need to start praying again. He has moved on and is with another woman. Men are so selfish they get over it so quickly while I'm just weeping away. I hope I can find a real man that knows how to treat me. The way I deserve to be treated and not like a doormat. I hope Karma catches up to him. Sorry for the rant but thank you for saying this statement it has helped me. I love the real Jeannie is a million percent correct. Hope I can be strong like her thank you once again I will ask god for help x
I was also addicted to my ex and when we broke up I felt like I was incomplete, it hurt so bad y'all. I relied on him to build my Self esteem. When it ended i felt like crap......... But then i spent some time single and realized, HEY..I'm freaking Awesome. never looked back
Congrats on the happy independent woman you have become keep going girl !
so happy for u girl. keep doin u
Leeya thompson 💕
"I realised hey I'm freaking awesome" loooll ur such a mood
💕
Jeannie's response is true definition of wisdom, experience, and self-reliance. You go girl, you owned this topic!
I'm tryna get on Jeannie's level.
+VONiiE8 SAME
+Samantha Derrick I am a feminist bitch tho
Facts !
So divorced!
JG divorced from a cheater, there’s nothing wrong with that! & now she’s happy and glowing!
Poor Tamera.
There is nothing with being in love and being addicted to your spouse...so long as you BOTH are equally in love and addicted to each other. Or the other person at least looks like it.
The sad part is if the spouse breaks your hear or something beyond his/her control happens and he/she has to leave you.
So a combination of Tamera's addiction and Jeannie's "independence" would be good.
I can see Tamera being heart-broken if something happened to Adam.
Jeannie my God my God you have literally put into words what I have been trying to explain to people and my boyfriend for years. There is nothing wrong with a healthy great relationship full of love. But there is no one in this world that I can't live without. As long as I have my passion and my faith I will always survive. It's not saying that you love people any less it's just being an adult and realizing at the end of the day you have to love you, have faith in you, trust yourself to be alright. NO ONE else can give you that kind of peace. Thank you Jeannie, now I am certain I'm not crazy lol.
Jeannie is preaching today again. Missed her! And the other ones too of course.
Ms Sunshine lol
Jeannie is so real, I appreciate that about her. Don't let the others suppress their opinions on you.
Have you ever missed them so much as soon as you leave you start crying ?
Tamar answered a straight "No" hahahahaha
Teresa Silva hahha
Listening to Jeannie’s perspective on love in 2016 and then see how she talks about marriage in 2022. Damn! I thought she was wise and smart when in reality she was hurt and going through a lot of trauma behind that shield she puts. Wish her the best🙏
Tamara look like she was going through intervention
peachpetals 😂
peachpetals For real 😄
I'm addicted to my MAN, my husband, my spiritual advisor, my lover, my friend, my boo!
+Jennifer Kindle Nothing wrong with that...coz as long as God is first in both of your lives...that's how it's supposed to be.
I agree with Jeannie 100% love her.
This is why i look up to Jeannie.
Jeannie Mai never seems to disappoint me! True role model
Jeannie... just *applause. She's so well spoken and I agree whole heartedly!
Jeanie is the most mature at that table
no she's the most non in love emotionless person.
agree
no that is a healthy stable relationship. human being are not completely all trustworthy. yes you can trust them as some point but not completely to the point that they become your whole life like a worshiper with their idols. it's a husband, not God. When you trust fully in God, He alone will be the one to sustain you in your marriage, satisfy and complete you. many thoughts marriage will complete them but they still are unhappy, still look for their sense of purpose and the person the thought could help them broke them completely or help but when they are gone, they are lost and broken which it shouldn;t be like that. now I understand you should love, yes love your husband or wife but not to the point you adore them even before the Lord Jesus.
thatkidd jennifer I know everything has a opinion but I think Tamara is the most mature
Some of you vote for Jeannie as most mature, some Tamera. It depends on your point of view.
Yes ma'am Miss Jeannie, very real. I appreciate that!
"I know how to change a lightbulb."
um.....alrighty then.
gigglyfitzgirl 😂
Jeannie is so right...tell em girl.
"7 months years old" 😂😂😂😂
yessss 😭😭😭
Shareef King omg hahahaha I didn’t even catch that
That part got me good 😂😂😂
Shareef King 😆😆😅😄😃😂😁
😂😂😂
I understood what Jeannie meant, by addicted to your husband. Well, this is just my opinion, I lost my husband in 1995 by death and I almost lost my mind. He was my second husband and I didn't know that I loved him that much, but I prayed that God would never keep me from loving someone where I could not do without them. I became very faithful to my faith and then realized that you should not be addicted to no one but God. He is a jealous God and he comes first in my life. I am next when it comes to making myself happy, then my children, because without me being happy and loving myself, I can't love others. One thing that I realized is that God can give you family and he can take them away. I live by myself now and sometimes I get a little lonely, but I just pray and realize I still live. I do love family and they love me and I will continue to be independent until the day that I leave this earth.
They're all jealous or just don't know what kind of relationship Tay Tay has with Adam. It's special. Shout be loud and proud to be addicted to your man Tamera 😍
what Jeannie said was so powerful. nothing but the truth
Wow, Jeannie's Hair Stylist IS Always On Point!!
Yassss Jeanie, you come first before anybodyyy, the only exception might be your children, but you can't be be relative to anyone
I love what Tamera said! I'm glad she's making loving without limits popular. I think a lot of people are scared to do that.
jeannie had this hairstlye like 2 months ago. So glad she did it again. THE CUTENESS. LOVE THE HAIR LADY
I don't think there's anything wrong with Tamera. She's a devoted wife and mother! She should not be shamed for that. Isn't it normal for parents to miss their baby(s) while they're at work? I babysit my nephew and when he's not here with me (even if it's for a couple days), I do take out my phone to look at his photos and videos. I believe Tamera when she says she's independent. She just enjoys her husband's company. Nothing wrong with that! I think that makes for a good marriage. I can understand Jeannie's view as well. She doesn't want to put herself in that position of feeling like death if a relationship is over. They're both strong ladies.
Yeeees Jeannie!! I agree with you. Have someone who contributes to your existing happiness not makes you happy.
After I started dating, I went from one relationship to the next because it was hard to go back to being single, I feared being alone. But there comes a point where I realized if I have to depend on a man for me to be happy, something is not right. Now being single and not dating has made me see how strong I can be.
This segment has me on the floor rolling 😂😂😂😂😂. Now, idk if I'm addicted to my husband because I looovvveeee my "me time". But I can't picture my life without him. I want him AND I need him. He was made for me. 😌😌
Jeanie is preaching tbh!
preach jeannie!! u can defo share ur happiness but u cant depend on them.
"Dont clap for that" lmaooo tamar. and the audience listened!!! that one girl stopped mid-clap, I'm dead 😭
I'm here for it Tamera!!!! Ain't nothing wrong with it when you got something worth being addicted to ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I was waiting at da doe🚪 for these videos to upload, as soon as it hit 12am in the UK I was ready to press the refresh button
It's been 2 weeks too long!!! 😫😂
😂😂😂
+gigglyfitzgirl 😂😂 I know I'm not the only one ?
Hey Susan
Ha-ha yes girl I couldn't wait!
I thought I was the only one who waits till 12
Jeannie was so on point here and I aim to have more of what she has than Tamera bc I've learned with my husband that we both have to be responsible for our own happiness and not lose sight of who we are. As soon as we get lost in eachother we become miserable and completely unable to keep the other person happy. If you're addicted to your husband you have a rude awakening coming your way.
they should put Jeanne in Loni chair cause clearly she's the wise one
yessss! i agree!
+dj_oldskool they put loni in the middle coz she's big so it can balance everyone out
True!!!
I'm with Jeannie on this. I had a relationship that the guy was so controling that it made me addicted like without even wanting to. I would get panic attacks not talking to him everyday, if he'd get angry for wtv stupide reason I'd go crazy thinking omg he's gonna leave me I'ma die right now. I got closer to my faith and in the end I put an end to the relationship of almost 3 years. I started the same patern with my husband at first cause I was so used to it, but he wasn't the controling type to make you feel guilty about every little thing and I slowly became more independant. We've been married for almost 6 years, we have kids together and we've had lots of ups and downs, but I've never had that feeling of omg he's gonna leave I'm gonna die. If he ever left I'd be sad for sure, but not to the point of not being able to live anymore or anything and God knows how much I love him.
I love this segment & I agree with Jeannie 100%. I'm currently in the state where she used to be. I'm going through the horrible break up and i've been feeling so broken up by it - but I realized that I never want to be here again. I don't need to cling that much or be addicted to my future partner .. because what happens when it is time to detach is so painful
(emotion-wise).
Right there with you 💪 it will get better! 👑
Love Jeannie - always swooping in, making the most sense!
Yes! Jeannie's preaching again! Needed that in my life again
Jeannie is speaking the truth👏🏾👏🏾✨
Adrienne looks so Beautiful! I LOVE the look!
Jeannie is my new favourite. You can tell out of all the girls, she is the is the kindest, smartest and most confident. She has truly lived and through her sharing her experiences; we can all learn.
+Grace Hun Yes!
Adrienne looks flawless every single day!! im living for this look!
Music and food is my addiction 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I’m a cancer and cancers are just very big on domestic life. That’s Tamara’s one and only love and man. She has no one else to compare him too! That’s what she wanted. Once a cancer is married. Forget it, they are married for life and that’s a beautiful thing. I on the other hand, I don’t need marriage or kids… never wanted it…and I’m never addicted to anyone.
I FEEL what Jeannie is saying. I know during the pandemic, Tamara said her husband and kids were getting on her nerves 😂😂… that’s because she didn’t have to be around them 24/7. Everyone felt like that. I crave solitude. That’s how I get recharged. I can’t be on all the time. I get drained.
When I lived with my ex… I put him out my place. It was deceitful how he moved into my place and we didn’t even talk about it. He just came over like a stray cat one day and never left. Mind you he had his own place, job (he quit) and car and he turned in everything to leech off me. Grown ass 42 year old man. Please!
He wanted someone to take care of him. He thought in his mind that if he moved in, no one else would be with me and it would make the relationship last. How? You ain’t bringing in no money. But anyway I really do hope Tamera and Adam have a long blessed marriage but there a real no Guarantees in life except death and one day we will all return home to God, no matter who goes first. Nobody is getting out here alive. 😁
Tamara being so in love with her husband and kids and life is just blissful, she makes others aspire to want to be married and have a family. On the reality show, Tamara was in therapy because she wanted what her sister had and her therapist told her not to covet that and that it will happen for her one day. She felt she needed these things to complete her.
Marriage was the end goal for her and she got it eventually but not at first. She dumped Adam because he didn’t want to get married. Y’all know the story. But I’m so happy she got what she wanted, her husband, kids and dog, house… flourishing career, degree, money… no one is struggling. Isn’t that the blueprint society lays out? Some follow it, others don’t. I don’t and don’t care to 😁
It's better to be addicted to your lover than to feel the exact opposite...So many people clinging on to dead passionless relationships.
Facts
I agree with what Jeannie said and for those making comments about her relationship with Freddie, need to remember just because it isn't how you think it should be, doesn't mean she's not happy and in love with her partner. The relationship is between her and her partner, everyone's relationship is different.
And she should remember the same before she dare call out a cast member for enjoying her marriage the way IT is....
+J Brown lol well call her up and tell her that. I'm referring to the comments about Jeannie's relationship
Adrienne is so real !!!!
Love her
7 months years old! hahaha
Tamar's not letting anything slide!
I'm with jeannie on this one. been there, felt that, not going down that path again. I love, love but Im okay alone too.
I'm so Tamara! Lol! I've been married for 10 years and people hate how I am about my husband but my husband so happen to be my BEST FRIEND. 😊
They hit the nail on the head at the ending..."You don't need him, you want him"
That's exactly how I feel. I'll never be dependent on a man, even if I get married in the future. BUT, when I'm in a relationship, I crave my boo lol. Just being around him, cuddling, kissing, etc. I love that stuff. Who doesn't?
I'll always want my partner, but I'll never need him. The only person I'm going to depend on is me.
COME THROUGH JEANNE MAI COME THROUGH. YASSSSSSS👑👏👏👏👏👏👏👏💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Tamar brought spice to this show. I really miss her.
COMPLETELY AGREE WITH JEANNIE! You gotta be sure to have your own if that man decides to up and leave
Jeannie!!!!!!!!!!!! You better speak that truth b*tch!!!! I NEEDED THAT! Just went through that phase where I was so hurt over becoming addicted to a guy and having it not work out. That is such a hard pill to swallow...
I definitely agree with Jeanie!!! Being attached and obsessive can be very unhealthy in relationship because you just dependent on them for your happiness and like Jeanie said when they end up leaving you and you guys break up your so broken and lost. Pretty much it's good to get your individuality in a relationship.
*It's good to keep your individuality in a relationship. .
Jeannie Mai PREACH gurrl what she said is so goals I need to be like that in my life she inspires me so much my fave gurl eva ❤❤❤
I'm like Jeannie. I'm addicted to my independence. I love my man, but if I wouldn't drop dead if he wasn't around. As Jeannie said, I am NOT going to not be OK 👌 if he's not around.
JEANNIE ALWAYS SPEAKS THE TRUTH
Amen and 🙏 amen to what jeannie said, i love my family but I'm so addicted to my independence and I have been married since 1997
Just because Jeannie is more into her phone than her husband doesn't mean Tamara has a problem. Jeannie found someone she can live with (barely since they're long-distance), not someone she can't live without. That was her choice, but some people want passionate real love instead of self-adulation.
Thank you
+tbd You say that like, there is only one type of love or way to be passionate. There's not. Tamara's love for her husband, is NOT more valid, than Jeannie's, or vice versa, point, blank, period. And Jeannie clearly, said she values her independence. There is nothing wrong with wanting a person but not needing them. Tamera just said, she doesn't need her husband, but wants him. So she wasn't even fully disagreeing with Jeannie.
Go head Tamar! When she said to audience "dont clap" to Jeannie being addicted to her independence! My opinion is this..everyone do them! Jeannie always ready to give her opinion about being independent and probably give her girl friends more attention than the one who needs it most, her husband! Love Adrienne for ALWAYS keeping it real too! Tamera, keep doing you boo!
I think as with everything, there needs to be balance. It is okay to love your independence, and it is okay to love being with your partner. It can become problematic when there is too much of the one and not enough of the other.
I love it Tamera. It sounds like your version of love...and equally as healthy as Jeannie's version of love...because it works for you and your family and it brings you peace and therefore, I'm imagining that your way of loving brings both your husband's peace as well. And so, I love both of your approaches. :-)
Can y’all ask Jeanie this question again now that she’s with Jeezy?
Yeah, her saying I'm addicted to my independence I was like 😶🤔 idk and her having dreams about him falling for another woman 😅😳 it's weird
You can love someone and still love your independence as well. Addictions aren’t healthy no matter what or who the addiction is to. Its always good to have a healthy balance. I love my man but I love and need my alone time too.
Webster Definition of addiction: a strong and HARMFUL need to regularly have something (such as a drug) or do something (such as gamble)
Addiction isn't healthy. Period. Whether it's drugs, gambling, or a person. If you can't function without something, that means there's something wrong. Jeannie seems to be the only one to understand that. Love your spouse of course, but if you can't make it a few hours without their presence you should seek help. There's nothing normal about that. Marriage is a union between TWO people. Not one person being way too attached to the other. Never let one person dictate your happiness and peace of mind. Humans make mistakes. You need to be able to survive when your spouse inevitably makes a mistake. That doesn't mean you don't need them, it just means you are your own person who is self satisfied and doesn't need another person or thing to be happy.
"You just wanted to call him! Girl sit down!" Lmao I love them! 💀😭
Jeannie never gets enough credit! Love her so much
When Tamar said “Don’t Clap” 😂😂😂😂😂 SHEEEEE IS A FOOOOLLLL!! I forgot how their dynamic was with her on the show 😂👏🏽
Coming from a person with an addictive personality, balance is essential. It's beautiful to crave someone's company and presence but if it gets to the point where you can't function, survive or even be happy if that person is not around that's too much and leads to self-destructive behavior. On another note I think it's beautiful that Tamara feel so strongly about her husband it's nice to have someone to treat you in such a way where they're worthy of that type passion.