When A Woman KNOWS THIS, She's WIFE Material To A Man
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I love how well he's knows his audience. He says what he says and then proceeds to react like we are in front of him. That's golden
Exactly! And he reacts at the proper time😂😂❤
Sometimes I feel he can see my face 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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I agree with you 💯 ❤❤❤
And he does It with so much love Steph is so ADORABLE
I get it. Personally I appreciate a man that maintains his appearance.
I agree it’s very important to keep up your appearances men and women
Especially after marriage get this dude hooked on you only yeah!!!
Stephan, I don't understand why women would be defiant to this concept. It's not just for their man, but self-respect. However, when you've been blessed to meet your soul mate, everything comes naturally.
1000%
This goes both ways.
As a woman with thinning hair who recently started seeing a dermatologist to try to figure out what I can do, I was ready to jump at the intro. 😅 Thankfully, it didn’t go the way I feared. You’re right! It’s a matter of making him feel included in your inner world, not strictly about your outward appearance.
Sounds like more of an issue with your thyroid needing to rebalance not anything dermatological
I man told me he wanted me to dress "cute" on our first date. I told him "Make sure you look cute too". He was shocked. Then we both discussed what we would wear to make sure the other was good with it.
30 years ago, a co-worker told me her husband liked her hair short. I asked what did she want. She said it didn't matter to her either way, but he looks at her more often than she looks at herself, so why not. That was wisdom.
Later, I had a different co-worker who was drop dead beautiful. Dark skinned, but her hair was wavy, silky ( like Chili's hair frkm TLC). Her husband told her he liked her natural hair and face. He didn't care for the weaves, long lashes, fake nails , etc but she insisted on wearing them anyway. She kept trying to get me to do long lashes, long nails, etc, otherwise, how could I compete with the young girls? What?!?! If a man wants that, he won't want me.
My question was if your husband doesn't like all those add-ons, who are you doing it for? Why are you seeking attention from other men and validation from other women?
If I had a husband, I would have discussed with him before deciding not to relax my hair anymore and discussed styling alternatives
When you look at babies, they are shocked when their parent's appearance changes drastically, they aren't sure if it's the same person.
So there's definitely something nontrivial and instinctual there
My mother once told me that one day my grandma decided to chop 26 inches off her hair, my grandpa resented her for 3 months, did not speak a word to her. Back then people don't believe in divorces, however, nonetheless we found out that my grandpa was a "hair" guy. 😂 I will forever remember this lesson due to my mother's childhood trauma.
Guess he must have been, because that's a LOT of hair! 😂
Omg same with my grandmother! My grandfather didn’t speak to her for 3 days then bought a brush for her on the 4th day 😂
Nonsense
Great topic Stephan much thanks.
I would absolutely "feel some kind of way" because those locs and the confidence you carry with them.....🙌🏾Crown for a King 🙏🏽🙌🏾
Lol, I had to cover my eyes I knew something. Was coming when you started. Stephan, you always have this uh oh look. When your gonna say something some will take offensive. Well, growing up myself and my sister's. Were taught, if you do nothing else. As a woman you are to keep yourself up. Which I pride on, I feel good. When I look good and it's a beautiful sunny day. When the weather is warming up. I enjoy being outside so I can get some sun ❤ Thank you 🙏🏽 have an amazing rest of your day and week...
I told my bf that I was going to shave my head (as a joke) and he was like, no, please don’t. If you do, I’m gonna get a mullet (cuz I told him I don’t like mullets)…but I just said, “do it” 😂😂😂
Well, Stefan, I have to say that you have made a excellent point and have presented it in way that has changed my point of view concerning this matter. Actually, you owe it to yourself to bring the "best you" to the relationship. I get it. Thank you for your message delivery!
I think that if more women understood that her beauty inspired their man they would rethink the whole “my appearance is my biz” thing.
Love your locs and your beard. I totally agree with you on this..of course!❤😁
Its super important to keep up your physical attraction to your partner
After all its first to draw you both together ,yes its the way u look
And hair ,yes yes its very impulsive
Stephan your beards snd locks is do so cute😊
For me ,my man MUST have beards and moustache !😂😂
I agree with this 💯💝
Interesting clip! I do agree that women should have a conversation with their partner before doing anything drastic to their hair. After all communication, understanding and honesty is key for a great relationship. 🙏🏾
I think I’m going to cut my hair and stay single. 😂😂😂 geez it’s been fun these past five years. I don’t want to think that hard😂😂
this is awesome. I did a little video yesterday about hair and about how a former friend try to talk me out of wearing my hair a certain way because she basically didn’t want me looking that much better than her. I am an older woman I no longer want to admit my age, but we are talking a couple of old hens here😂.
This is one of those topics that really separates people's mindsets and what love means to them.
Love is not about the physical. Who you are is ultimately in your heart and what you do when no one is looking.
Now, there are people who don't place a high importance on that, and others who do.
If your attraction and mindset to someone is so superficial that something as frivolous as a change in hairstyle becomes an issue of respect, calls the entire relationship into question, then it's not real love.
There's a difference between changing temporary and superficial aspects of your appearance (clothing choices, hairstyles, etc) and changes in appearance that reflect lack of self-care and self-love (gaining weight, smoking, etc).
Being a free adult means having freedom in how you express yourself. I never put down or limited the way my partners wanted to express themselves, because my love for them extended to them doing as they pleased with their appearance if it made them happy and did not signify a larger/internal issue. This is because I was attracted to the aspects about them that money can't change or buy (character, personality traits).
Plus, women are visual creatures too. This video was not your best.
I agree with that. “What is attractive to him.”
If I’m single, I don’t care about my clothes and hair much, I don’t even brush my hair most of the time. I’d rather attract a guy looking like crap, then WOW him later. I almost always dress down, until I have a man to want to dress up for.
I am actually turned on by women with raggedy unbrushed hair most of the time.
In another video you said something that really helped me - "flow with him." simple - to the point - applies to so many situations. ty.
My man grew designer beard for me
So yes what you say is very true,both need to look good
This is not a surface-level respect issue, this is ultimately about compatibility. We should find someone that aligns with the things we care about.
This is really a conversation about effective communication and the level of consciousness of the individuals. Spirit over flesh.
I think it’s important regardless of being with a man! I know ladies it isn’t cheap BUT self care and to feel good is so important. You carry yourself differently as well. Just remain humble and don’t get too carried away.
Hair should not be important. In an Era where cancer is common.. a woman can lose her hair easily.
That's true but she can wear wigs. A man should love her whether she has hair or not.
That’s not what this video is about at all. Stephen is speaking on women who just randomly make drastic changes out of nowhere with their man out of the loop until she comes home with said change. Someone with cancer… the man is gonna know what’s going on and, if he’s a good man who actually LOVES her, it won’t matter to him. And, as the above comment mentioned, there are wigs also.
True. Idc, if you have an illness that on another level but if you are WELL, to keep up with your appearance please do. We you see a man there is an attraction first. The man sees you and he sees attraction first so you have to keep that going. That’s all he is saying.
Most Of Us, Older Women, We Are Working On Ourselves For A Comfortable, Healthy, Youthful Old Age, (Esp With Things Looking Like Aging Alone Is Inevitable) Husband Coming Into Our Lives Will Only Be Extra Inspiration Because Now You Also Have To Represent Someone. The Wish Is He Is Also Health Conscious
I love the way you say the things! Always wise words!!
Always love the whole person when one thing changes or gets damaged there are more things to the person or on the person that you can love.
I sure hate if I married a man and I ended up with alopecia or having hair loss because of kemo treatment. That shit is too superficial for me. I don’t agree with you on this topic. What does this have to do with being wife material? This guy is so off.
I agree with you 100%on this one. Hair don't have anything to do with her character. Smh. Long hair damn sure don't keep a marriage or relationship together.
Gotta say keeping up looks is much more difficult for women when children come, the body changes and energy is spent on the child, so there has to be some room for acceptance that appearance changes with time
Agreed. Thanks for saying it for brothers. As friends trying to advise female friends on the subject, were often met with resistance and dismissed. If it's important, MEN need to say it early and often. This way, sistas aren't shocked when they bounce, complain, or become disillusioned.
And do. It's not gone I just had it curled. But I still have lignth I just had tight curls 😂
This is a little ridiculous. I don’t need to discuss with my partner when I cut my hair or what it’s going to look like. Hair grows for heavens sake. It’s my hair and if I want to cut it, I’ll cut it. No discussion needed and same for him. If he wants to shave his beard off, go for it. I’m not with him for his facial hair and he’s not with me for my hair. Now, if either of us wanted to get a tattoo or piercing that is going to last or be permanent, that’s a different story. I know he would not like it if I got a tattoo and I’m not fond of them anyway, so no problem. If for some reason I did want a tattoo, I would discuss it with him. That would be courteous. My hair is my hair and my decision. As an adult woman, I don’t need anyone’s permission.
Why be in a marriage with that kind of attitude? You sound like an inconsiderate partner. You sound uncompromising and way too independent to be able to have a harmonious relationship with a masculine/feminine dynamic. I just read your comment and thought “wow, she sounds unpleasant”. Coming from a young woman. So, keep that in mind because a lot of men will think the same
Good talk but, maybe the man should at least go shopping with her for the "stuff" it takes to look fab so he is aware of the cost. I won't go into the time lol.
@PatriciaReyes-ui1fw As long as that comes about within the context of healthy attitude and agreement, I think that that is a good idea. For me, it wouldn't just be about the cost. I would find it interesting to learn about the practical application and science behind the choices of purchasing the different products as well as the social environments and opportunities provided by the quest for those products.
I love your hair and beard btw!😅🥰
It’s much easier to understand when you think about it the other way around.
Please help!!! I like this guy and he is really shy, am also really shy. He is reserved and quiet. My family invited him and his family over to our house and he is always quiet and reserved. But when we are in a different place he seems a little more talkative. I’ve seen him look at me a few times from far away and he looks away. The other day his mother told me that if I ever wanted to go to the movies to let him and his sister know so we can go together. Then he starts speaking and kind of stuttering, he said “yeah. You guys just let me know.” Some days I feel like he might be interested but other times not so much. I don’t know if he feels the same way I feel.
Subtlety won’t work with a guy like this. What I would do is say something along the lines of “I’m open to getting to know you better”
This will give him the green light that you won’t reject him if he asks you out and still gives him the power to pursue you.
I completely understand. Why wouldn't she want to look good for her man, and more importantly why wouldn't she want her man to find her attractive? You hit it right on the head, he wants to know you consider him in your actions and choices... just like us women want our men to do so.
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I fully agree! You are hilarious 😂 by the way..I love your hair and beard 👌🏾😁🙏🏽💚🙌🏾
It’s so interesting to hear you say the exact thing that other men have said to me….this is very accurate.
Agree.. strongly!!! My long hair is my glory!!! He loves it!!!
I get it about the hair...it makes sense. I did hear men speak about how they did not like their wives going natural or going bald. I'm just saying.
@alexiswhittier7119 I might be considered an oddball among the status quo of men, but, although I can date a woman regardless of hair length, I find myself primarily attracted to and turned on by women with shoulder-length hair and shorter, even to bald.
Hair... I'm feeling you S~ and I Do Love Your Hair & Beard😊. It is Spectacular❤❤❤; if we were married and you came home without that beard and the hair changed😮Oh Snap! I don't think it would necessarily be a deal breaker of sorts or that I might look at you differently, because you are good on the eyes regardless, but I would in some regard (and selfishly), highly encourage you to grow it all out again in rapid fashion and any length necessary to achieve that look again, only because I like the essence of it.
Hell maybe I'd take issue with it NOW if it got cut/shaved. Are you trying to prepare my eyes for something new? 😉
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In my circles it is for religious reasons that a married woman covers her hair in public. I have been married twice first husband seething that I wore a scarf on my head. Ex numero 2 was seething that I wore a wig.
Yes, it is important that a woman look good for her man. Controlling the details and not listening to her feelings can be crossing boundaries.
Great one
So True! Seeing a pouting man breaks my heart... Aka He knows who he married, but What is This?
It's not about hair .it's your love 💕 caring..hair can be changed later when truth has revealed..
👍 on hair ... But not everyone likes beards, or mustache...yes you are so right. I felt at one time he cut it just because I liked it
This is probably the first video that I've seen that I disagree with. A healthy and balanced woman's/person's appearance is their expression of themselves to the world. That includes hairstyles. And, people should feel comfortable with expressing themselves when they're in a marriage too (yes, with a heads up for drastic changes). But, that expression is going to change daily and over time. It is reasonable to want your spouse to work to maintain their health - if they're feeling good and supported they'll naturally do things that keep them attractive. But, many men's expectations of women's appearance (they never want it to change from what THEY view as attractive) is unrealistic and unhealthy on their part. Choose who is honest, mentally, and physically healthy and then give them the freedom to have the range of expression as they evolve in life. That's love and that maturity makes the man "marriage material".
I don't know why that's a major plus if she want to do it for herself sometime's or even him. I don't think that's necessary for a man to love you.
Yes, your locs are beautiful!
Thank you so much sir 🙏🏻🍀
Your Locks Are Beautiful just Gorgeous😍🤩 who ever your stylist is i want to sit in their chair and get blessed okay..... LOL.... i think for women we've spent alot of our lives being required (scrutinized) to follow what others said how we are suppose to be so much that when its something within your immediate control especially when other areas of our life are out of your control (taken from your control/ restricted) we will do what gives us Freedom to have what we can grasp and aint nothin no one can do about it so you sieze the chance to do it.... this goes for anyone in various situations/ circumstances
What if he asks you to do certain hairstyles but never want to give you money to do them?
Aren't you a modern woman with your own money??
That being said, if he tells what you he would like, you can choose to do that for him or not. If a woman loves her man and wants to make him happy then she would at some stage (maybe not right away)
You can just ask him😌
Are you talking about your husband? Because if he's not married to you, why would he pay for your hair? If he is married to you, that sounds like part of a family budget discussion. Maybe he knows what looks good to him, but is unaware of the cost or the effort required.
@@katrinab7657 that's true, my haircut costs me $30
I have no idea how many hundreds of dollars it costs for certain hair treatments but from what I've seen it's note than I've ever paid 😅
I'm not paying for something that is not my usual way of styling myself. He knew when we started dating that I don't ever or often do that style, so he can pay if he wants me to put myself through the extra cost, time, and often pain. I'm not stretching myself financially for a man who can't choose his woman correctly lol. Like if it's a visual Need for him to have a woman with straight hair, then he should've gotten with someone with that hair. or he can pay for the procedures to fake it.
I agree with you Stephan. 🙏🏽🙌🏽♥️
Hair is superficial… nobody is summed up by their hair alone; either the person is attracted to you or not. I would argue that if a change in hairstyle can shift the man’s or woman’s attraction that drastically it is because they were never physically attracted to the person in the 1st place - not physically, not emotionally, & definitely not spiritually…
Like if you realize you’re dating someone that is so barely attractive to you that if they were to change 1 aspect like hair, fashion/clothing, or something superficial like that - I guarantee you the attraction was already teetering beforehand
The only time I ever experienced a loss of attraction to a guy who changed his hair or clothing it was because I was already barely attracted to him…
Watch the video again but this time, listen. And listen to understand, not to respond/react.
@@someoneyoudontknow7705 lol
Hey Stephan,
In my experience I have had. To deal with this majorly with. My. Last ex I took care of. Myself. But. He. Did. Not. I often made suggestions and bought him jeans. And a shirt but it seems he couldn't take care of. Himself. Still. What to do?
It sucks because he grew a beard without grooming it and then left parts of it on the front of his face, leaving the sides bare. I keep my hair long and beautiful for him i know he loves it. But he knows how i like his grooming to be done and has gone against my desires. I’m majorly turned off. He’s stubborn and doesn’t care. I’m paying him no mind lol. I almost think it’s a respect thing not just an attraction thing. Like don’t deliberately do something against your partner that they won’t like
❤❤ great message
And women who go in public with a bonnet on 😖, I would NEVER embarrass myself or my man.
Sigh... hair in the black community is a deep topic. It's not as simple as this.
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If me changing my hair was all it took for you to stop being attracted to me then it wasn't nothin' to begin with. The only guarantee in life is that things change.
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This is not just a black community issue. I am black but I have a lot of white friends and I have been amazed by how many I have asked why don't you ever change your hair and the answer has been my husband (their white husband) doesn't want me to change it. They like it long like how I met him, or they like it short like how I met him etc.
This is definitely a man issue in general, and the point of listening to someone like Stephan is to hear the truth of how men really feel from a man in a tone where we can hear the message because of his compassionate delivery. If you don't want to be enlightened by the insight so be it.
It is this simple though. If you want to switch to natural hair and do a big chop, talk to your man about it first, so he is at least anticipating it. Don't be mad at him if you make a drastic change and didn't warn him and he is not attracted to you at first. I say get with a man who likes afro hair/your true hair to begin with, then you won't have this problem.
Aht Aht @stephan it’s a new day & the lace front community for men is popping. So they can change their look too.😂😂😂😂😂 all jokes I agree with you @Stephan❤
A man or men can be in my face once or twice a week but still god picked him for me to do life with. Yes I got to keep my appearance up for business and everyday errand's but not for no family event's etc. The girlfriend just there she don't fit in and she know it.
One of the blessings of being happily single is that you don't have to give a d*mn about what men like or want. I wear my hair natural, don't like it? Tough! Who cares?
The covenant husband I got have a girlfriend and I don't know why he still with her for. God promised me him so it shouldn't matter how she need to look or smell because he not supposed to have a girlfriend just like I don't need a boyfriend. I don't know why folk's think I'm sure what being a wife is.
My ex wanted me to get a hair cut like his mom..short boy but and not dyed. Nope.
So ture my ex never wanted me have bangs and love my hair straight but have my hair naturally curly but I can do it both ways. So while with him I didn’t cut my hair like that for a reason
I love a low cut fade. Ijs I don't like locs at all. Never have lol so I disagree with what he's saying. The hair thing goes both ways 😊
My ex grew locs and a beard and I wasn’t attracted to him no more. I left him it turned me off.
Yess I hate locks on men , it just looks dirty & low maintenance in my opinion.
I love asking my man if okay to cut or trim my hair and then ask his opinion about the ideal length. He loves it. 😅
Not just on your head the other parts needs shaving / trimming to 😅😅
Now that I've changed my behavior, I focus on myself. Really I continuously understand how important self awareness is. 🪮🥊🛡☮️ Amen Amen.
Ok I don’t care what my guy thinks about my hair I HATE his rugged beard! I like the beard he had when I first met him. So as long as he has that beard he can’t tell me a thing. I told him that too
Damn, reading some of these comments and realizing that a lot of women are way too stubborn and uncompromising to be in a relationship with a masculine man. It’s reading “I can see why you’re single”
If hair is all it takes to turn you off, then the woman is dodging a bullet and you don't deserve her in the first place.
I'd be happy if a close one like a husband care how I looked. If he had taste and were not authoritarian.
Okay I get it... As a woman I do this...but why do men out there forget this...why not men do this/maintain their body/hygiene/apperance for their partner????
If a man actually gets mad because she changed her hair, walk away. Your hair can grow out. This is just too ridiculous
Do something for a uni student!
Thanks
In my age category all I will get is bold and grey so I think in my age group it will not matter to someone but I won’t like it as I don’t like bold and grey ha ha
I would hope the sex in my marriage, isn't going to another person I don't know about
Beautiful thing about me being black, is I can wear my hair afro natural or switch it up into fun styles and it holds
What about women with Locs ???
He loves my curly wavy hair short. I hated it but I compromised and started to enjoy it.
Can you also address this about facial filler.. I think it’s important that a man address how they may or may not prefer such a huge change of the face, because it’s changed the way our children see beauty to where they think it’s normal for every woman to look the same. It’s absolutely NOT!
This man likes the way I look especially my hair is done . 🎉but it's been two weeks I miss him so much🎉
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My goodness, a woman has to change everything for a man. I rather stay single. I am free!
It takes a lot of money for women to keep up with their appearance… so in that case do you expect the men to pay for some of it?
I love your hair and your beard… you better not just shave it off like that 😂
so much BS and capping..
he hase to sugar code almost everything he hase to say..
if woman dont want hear it let them suffer..
like if men dont grow up let them suffer.. life will show them.
Thank you
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I totally agree but let me ask you, after the discussion, is in then okay to cut her hair although, we’re not in agreement? I was typing as you were talking. Not sure if you addressed this. 🙏❤️
Haha. I have that fear as a woman cuz I have a crazy high libido and aichave had men stop wanting to have sex with me in relationships.
Ok, fine. ILL LOOK HOT FOR MY MAN😂
It sounds exhausting keeping a man happy. We are alk going to age and look like shit anyway.