This was done four years ago and here I am letting my TH-cam algorithm throw up château diary episodes at will. And this one is one of my very favorites. There's so much wisdom and so much humanity in this. Aside from a tumultuous childhood on a family of four, I have never lived with more than one other person at a time! It's just how my life has worked out. But life in the Southern California suburban neighborhood is so different than the château life of which I dream. You have made and continue to make the most extraordinary life! You are so blessed.
Dear Stefanie, interviews with members of your such a diverse community is so important to understand your life more. Could you please introduce them as a regular part of your stunning TH-cam channel? People, please, like who agree!
Love is patient,love is kind.It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered,it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trusts,always hopes,always perseveres. Love never fails. Love how you keep it real Stephanie! 👩🌾🥰👍🏻
Isabelle has a ton of wisdom. She has worked so hard all her life as a nurse, I'm sure she has seen all types of people and learned to interact with them accordingly. She and Stephanie (two lovely ladies) always show their appreciation for the volunteers.
Stephanie, you are an exceptional personality, positive, upbeat and make the best of it. Your closest circle of longtime friends prove that you attract good and are genuinely how you present yourself Your influence and atmosphere have created an opportunity for more of the same drawn to LaLande. Because of this your videos are magnetic and I, among many, look forward to each new installation on your channel
Stephanie I think you underestimate the affect you have on the people in your chateau. You show so much respect to each individual and treat them as if they're the most important person in the world to you at that moment. I'm sure that rubs off on everyone and you lead by example. I love watching your vlog bc it makes me feel good knowing there's people like and y'all out there in the world
This is a very substantial episode, and so even more gratifying than usual -- good people, honest humanity, excellent editing and production values. Well done. The only thing missing to make it perfect was visit to a brocante, lol.
Terrific insight. Marie looking particularly pretty here! I also think the ethos comes from the top down, i.e., you Stephanie set the happy tone for the entire chateau!💗💗💗
Stephanie, I think it works so well because of you. You are positive and like your mother says, “You spark one another.” Your positivity encourages positivity. You encourage growth in your friends. You build their confidence by always thanking them for their efforts and telling them what a great job they have done. By letting them do what they like and are good at gives them the confidence to try new things with people they trust, respect .and like. Kudos!!
I find myself smiling throughout this whole vlog. Such a sensitive subject turns into giggles and a deluge of delightful and wise moments. For those like me who live alone, I'm sure I write for many of how much fun it is to be part of the LaLande family. I have my own family but distance and circumstance limits our visits and physical closeness. Love and hugs to all.
Oh I liked this Vlog. I was only saying the other day, how we all don't seem to know our neighbours and help out like we used to do, years ago. Love the vibe at Lalande 💞
🦋 Beautiful Mummy is also a bit of a perfectionist. Isabel is clearly used to maintaining a certain standard of life, and she gets a little frustrated when ppl aren't performing quite up to her high expectations💋. (Something I can relate to at times.) I adore her air of general calmness, her absolute graciousness, her industry, & even her artistic flairs of temper. 🌱She is a wonder in the garden. 📲 I am thankful Stephanie is capturing some of her work there. I definitely need mentoring in that direction. Although I certainly don't aspire to her level of greatness😉. ~~~~~~~~~~ I don't have a green thumb. I tend to over or under water💦 any potted plants. I end up lost in a book, daydreaming, or tempted to try some other activity that takes me away from them. Thankfully, we have a completely drought tolerant yard. I baby some of the succulents a bit when they need it in the extreme temps🌡. I appreciate almost any hardy native plant that manages to grow here -- except poison oak & sumac. Kinda afraid of the former one -- saw my brother & father swell up repeatedly with ugly rashes. The latter one doesn't bother my skin, but it is highly🔥flammable so I try to keep it cut back. 🌸We have some beautiful flowers that return every Spring, but don't last long in the heat. I do yard trimming & maintenance through out the year for our annual Wildfire Brush Clearance. 🌳Once I am out there, I enjoy clipping bushes & trees🍃. The majority of the soil is pretty tough, so pulling weeds is not always easy. I love our bits of shade & the flatter sections of the lot. We're on an acre that has different levels & steep canyon rises.🐐 Play at being a mountain goat, & as a result spend a lot of time sliding down the hills on my backside. 🕶I go out in full protective gear to protect from sun, debris, insects, & snakes. Just at dusk the other day when temperatures rose to 109°F, I encountered a big hairy tarantula & a very long skinny🐍snake. 🦎Luckily, the lizards tend to dash away. Snakes can get lethargic in the heat, but can move amazingly fast when they are not over heated. They all blend in so well, so I always pray that I don't accidently kill anything while raking or something. 👀I was devastated when I accidently hit a lizard w/a weed wacker💧. ☀️Unfortunately, the coolest times of the day are when the blasted mosquitos are out. The darn things love my blood. Grew up traipsing around this territory w/o any mishaps, but now my skin & body seems far less hardy too all these various 🐜insect bites🕷. 🚜 My dad grew up on a farm wrangling all kinds of livestock, but I am more of a squeamish city girl. I admire ppl that are confidant about being caretakers of animals, the land, and those who are serious homesteaders. 💪It's all such hard, but wholly satisfying work. ☮Peace 💛Love 🌼Beauty from SoCalifornia.
Being a mono tasker I can appreciate Our lovely Marie wanting the kitchen to herself. Gerry you are so lovable & appreciative of everyone. Respect & tolerance is very beneficial in a community. Ah! the new knickers absolutely hilarious Beautiful vlog.❤️
I think everyone is doing extremely well. Showing respect, tolerance and kindness to address conflict in the community at La Lande is, as Isabelle mentioned, the key. Every link in the chain helps achieve a common goal through the trust generated between one another. This was a great Vlog Stephanie, thank you. 🙏🏻🙋♂️
My father always told me growing up walk in their shoes or look at it from there point of view. I'm from a family of 4 children. Grew up on a farm then when farming didnt work anymore we all moved 300 miles away (4 family's plus my parents so 5 families) we all work together at a family business. Now it's not all a bed of Rose's but I would say my dad was the negotiator when there was fall outs. But each one of us brings a different attribute and point of view to the job. I wouldn't change a thing. Even after my parents died we all made sure to discuss things with each other. No one was left out so their wouldn't be any hard feelings. People say we're not real. I say I'm very blessed.
Maybe laundry baskets with people's with people's names taped on them so if they come down with dirty laundry and is not there when it finished it can be put in their basket. A pad by each machine they right their name on it when their laundry is in that machine. Laundry hampers for Lalandes laundry in the laundry room marked dirty sheets, dirty towels for example. Mark an area TO BE IRONED with maybe a rack to hang clean sheets so they dont get wrinkled more waiting be ironed.
There are also nets that can be used to keep laundry together in the machine. Then you can wash different people's things in the same wash and they will stay separate making it easy to dry separately and they collect separately.
I also have separated piles of laundry, with different needs. It absolutely drives me nuts when people come into a situation, knowing nothing of what is going on and start moving things about.
I. appreciate your addressing life in community- I think this is what draws me to your channel. I would like to hear even more about what you have found and are finding. This could really be the world needs right now! Thanks again.
@@dinikars6844 Meals around a table are key. I agree with Stephanie that you can sometimes find your better self quicker in community. She has a real gift of hospitality.
I am sure it gets confusing: Paying guests, paying guests who want to volunteer, paying guests who want to join the fun but not necessarily volunteer, workaway volunteers, family members who are also partners, family members who are volunteers and are taking vacations. I love the dynamic; but I would need a lock on the door or a "do not disturb sign" to help establish a bit of privacy on occasion.
@@judygilleland9384 yes. Wow..a lot to keep up with and I agree with an occasional Do Not Disturb. I am a social person yet there is a limit to it when I require downtime after a. Of being social for at least a few hours or sometimes a day. Or on rare occasion, sometimes longer
Emotional Intelligence is a highly underrated glue to hold society together. Tolerance and understanding are becoming rarer in this Third Wave of Toffler. Hardly surprising given the modern communication tools. It would be a very different tale were you all walking around.using social media instead of face to face. As Isabelle says, spark off each other and find common ground. Good stuff. Blessings.
Having emotional intelligence isn’t as important as teaching ways of increasing awareness of empathy and expectations re direct and respectful communication and so-called active listening. Look at what a very public POTUS has created by failing to demonstrate empathy and fairness to all US citizens.
ralph stephan ohhh bug off libtard!! And look what the evil democrats have done to all of our cities that are being burned down, murders, looting, rioting, mobs, etc. I know firsthand, I live in Minneapolis, Mn! Thank God for our AMAZING president who cares about our country! Trump2020!! MAGA!
@@ralphstephan353 I put it to you that you are detailing components of what I consider emotional intelligence... We agree. I am not from the US but they clearly have massive social problems their government is not capable of dealing with. Might have something to do with somebody blowing his own TRUMPet too loudly.
@@mythos5809 You all might want to note that on a joint vlog some time ago, Michael and Stephanie voiced their support of the Black Lives Matter movement in response to a viewer asking them if they supported it. This led to numerous postings asking to avoid politics, which I agree with. We come here for the history, art, antiques and the colourful personalities at the chateau, not to engage in political mudslinging.
I’m so glad you raised this topic Stephanie... life at La Lande does appear blissful ... and it has reminded me of the benefits of communal multi-generational living, It’s vital to remember in those rare times of conflict that it too shall pass, and we just need to keep communicating and forgiving one another 😘
Ah isn't she lovely. Stephanie once again addresses our curiosities about chateau living. She is the glue that holds everything together and her fair attitude shines through everyone. 🌟😍💜
When you (Stephanie) lead by example everyone follows❤ You show respect, humour and leadership and it reflects in the people that are around you. Love to all❤
What a great installment! Watching team Lalande is a treat, but after working in many different environments, I KNOW it doesn't always go smoothly. Team Lalande, and Mummy truly touched on the essential elements to make things go smoothly. There will be bumps, but it is necessary to keep in mind personal perspectives, personal ideals, an open heart and mind and be willing to consider feelings. From what I've seen Team Lalande have all the perfect ingredients. Keep laughing and working together for the common goal. Love to all at Lalande!
Her interview was beautifully set up. However "in charge" Isabelle seems, she is respected because she always shows by example and kindness. She is living in the most difficult circumstances with her beloved Percy locked down, but she is a true survivor and soldiers on. Virtual hugs.
This is the best, most honest and moving episode. It takes a village to create this magical place. If those are the biggest conflicts, everyone is amazing and sparkling. Stephanie has created the perfect home and village through true kindness and optimism. It’s intoxicating.
This is my favorite video so far. Your mother has the wisest words about what it means to live in real community. I do believe this is exactly how humans are supposed to live -- not alone. Not in tiny twos or threes. But allowing everyone the freedom to do what they love, and to do what they do best -- you, Stephanie, are the key to that. I think people living together, EATING together (as your brother says), working joyfully together in a beautiful place: this is truly what heaven will be like. I will never make it over to LaLande, but I'm so thankful to be able to share it via these videos :)
I simply love each person...& Scottman does help...give the strength laughter & joy of life to Strengthen what Stephanie & Mommy want it to achieve. I get tears everytime he leaves & laugh whenever he re-appears.
This is my favourite channel and I even commented on other channels about it. Thanks to Stephanie this channel is unique! She created a community of volunteers and produced videos that made many youtube viewers feel good. Although I never wanted to become a volunteer there or ever visit this chateau, I understand the reason many wanted to go there. For those who are lonely or unhappy, LaLande seems like a very happy place filled with only beautiful, happy people who have only fun all day long. To me, it's impossible. I appreciate just watching this channel. Good thing that in this video Stephanie and others told how it is to live in a community. Not to mention, that darn rooster... just ask Selmar about it.
It was so pleasant to have each person express their perspective about life at Lalande -- the nice elements of living, working and sharing together, the ever present laughter and the dancing -- they all balance out the various irritations caused by individual choices and personal quirks. Nicely coordinated assessment, Stephanie!
The goodness begins at the top with Stephanie. You set the energy and good vibes which are picked up by everyone around you. Please dont change lovely!
Great vlog. I grew up in a large family and there was alot of conflict but endless amounts of love. That experience helped to formulate skills that were very useful in my nursing career. Most of my nursing career was with seniors and the lessons and futher skills I acquired no money could buy! In my dining room I have my moto which is, life, love and laughter 😃 Keep well. All volunteers and guests should see this vlog! Everyone summated extremely well the values of LA Londe.
Beautifully done Stephanie! It is so good to know that people can work through conflicts or differences and come out just fine. Forgiveness to me is the key. Cheers, Rita
Great topic! I live alone, love people but don’t want a roommate living with me in my small studio. But chateau life needs so many people to keep the place running plus guest and volunteers. Thoroughly enjoyed. Can’t wait to hear Selmars thoughts.
Your mother is amazing. What a treasure of wisdom and love. I love the Scotsman too ! Everything you do at LaLande seems wrapped up in joy and laughter and fun ! That is a recipe for a very successful life.
Stephanie, your vlog is refreshing, funny, enlightening and educational. I appreciate the effort and being this dedicated and responsible with your vlog.
This was an appropriate topic to address but not an easy nor necessarily comfortable topic. Stephanie, you did a great job with your questions and your facilitation of the responses. It’s a special experience when you can be part of a high performing team. It is not easy to achieve one. Any team needs a leader. Stephanie, LaLande would not be the community it is without you and your leadership, intelligence, thirst for knowledge and your unique skills and talents. You are the heart of LaLande.
Thank you for this lovely video. Conflicts, yes, because life just includes conflicts. It’s finding a way to make them work within our lives. Some more difficult than others, but you’ve shown us a delightful way to handle the “little” ones. ❤️
Your are wonderful Stephanie ♡ I am glad you had such a beautiful unconventional childhood, that gave you such unusual skills to create such a loving community. You, your parents and Jery, this is only possible because you came into this world and became a unusual lovely team/family. Thank you to all for your beautiful, loving, kind, strong, existence in this world ♡
Ive mentioned before on here, the book Lost Connections by Johann Hari talks about this very thing, connecting to others and how it's been lost - leading to people being isolated and marginalised. They turn to drug use and alcohol to overcome their feelings of being lost. Different generations have differing values (Isobel with dryers being used when the sun is shining) - I have a thing about lights being on when no-one is in a room! It' does require work to meld the differing values, patience and kindness. This was a good thought provoking vlog. Thankyou.
Oh, I MUST read!! With social media (and worse still, with required social distancing), we no longer connect like we did when I was growing up. My parents and neighbors congregated almost never ghtky, had block parties and we children would knock on a child's door we seen but never met and ask them to come out and play. I don't see that happening these days. My daughter said she envies my childhood and young adult life - it WAS fun.
📚 Sounds like an interesting book. I grew up close to both sets of grandparents and my two uncles. One of those uncles was 10 years older than brother & 10 years younger than my mother. He sorta grew up with us. The closeness was a lovely experience. Yes, you do learn new things from different generations. I find it fascinating to see the differing facets and to learn what brought ppl to their conclusions Also can discover a lot from ppl from differing backgrounds & cultures. Sometimes it is tricky to identify your own sense of culture until you clash with someone else. Conflict can sometimes help distinguish things. The trick is to remember that all cultures have equally valid ideas, perspectives, & experiences. Some of us need to be pushed out of our comfort zones to experience it. Any generational or cultural gaps can be met & closed with patience, compassion, understanding, & humor. ☮💛🌼
Thank you got this dose of reality in the fairy tale.... You are so right that respecting each others differences...being able to laugh...and sharing that meal together goes a long way to appreciating and caring.
It is definitely not only a great business plan that makes a success, but especially the way you make people feel. A great team having the same goal and understanding for one another makes you stronger and will take you very far. And a great team starts with the leaders. Lalande has great leaders and team members. Well done!
Totally loved listening to Nati speaking spanish “no es que no puedo explicarlo” that happens to me when I’m trying to explain something to my speaking english friends🤣
What a great subject, in my work life I had a lot of staff who worked for me. It was mostly peaceful, however every now and then a personality would rear it's head in not a nice way...I found it interesting that humor usually helped most situations. I appreciated the honesty and laughter that was shown in this video ! Everyone be well !
@@sophiaw.7356 I assume SMG lives in one of those places where there is a neighbourhood organization that does not PERMIT laundry to be seen on a line! If she doesn't, she's lucky. I would never live in such a place unless I had no other choice..
What a special vlog Stephanie! One of the things I enjoy about life at the Chateau is the transparency & inclusiveness & I know that is a culture that you have fostered. Much love to you all from South Africa 💞🇿🇦
Oh Stephanie! I think this is the best video on the Internet, and you did a WONDERFUL job! Mummy is a truly wise woman. I did miss Selmar, Tomaz and mostly Percy's thoughts, but I'm sure you will catch them, and many others along the path.
Totally considering showing my work place this! Honestly you keep on surprising me with your diversity with content. I know it's not aimed at the work place but this could be such a valuable resource for managers, you speak from the heart and your experience within a community and how to resolve conflict in a healthy way really shows, even in the way you make the vlog, you are trying to draw in everyone to contribute to a healthy and happy reality that you all want to create, bravo lalande, bravo👌👌👌 ❤️❤️❤️
I could listen to Mummy's wisdom/stories all day. This video about community was needed at such a time as this. Thank you for so much Stephanie..you really are a delight 💜💐
If I visited there, as a guest I would ask to help each person in the jobs they do. I love each aspect of this rennovation & enjoyments. You have a unique way of looking at life, Stephanie and you are the light & engine that helps everyone see the best in others & a day! I learn soo much everytime I Watch it. We all love Mommy! lol I have a mommy just like her & she had 5 children. Hugs to you both. db
By far Stephanie one of your BEST broadcast ever! Totally appropriate for the times we are living , especially the part of everyone “ working towards a common goal “ , for me , this is especially important value since we are living with the dreaded COVID-19 threat. Stephanie, your mom’s values are exactly my parents and how I try to live my life As a general rule , finding common ground instead of differences neutralizes potential conflict as well as tolerance , which this generation somewhat lost , which is a pity. Bravo Stephanie, tres apprecie et merci pour vos videos , ca aide beaucoup la psychologie de la personne , plus que vous pouvez imaginer 🙂
This is a great topic Stephanie!! I loved hearing from each person and their thoughts. I think it's such a success because of how you set the tone from the begining. You include everyone as if they were a family member and bring love and laughter into every situation!! I especially love the laughter!! Loved how Gerald said no one is better than anyone..equals!! Even watching from a far you have made us all feel a part of it..like one big La Lande family!! Thanks to all of you for all you do!! One day I will hopefully be blessed enough to visit and meet all of you lovely humans!! ❤
I seriously loved this episode!!!!! The words spoken were so honest and true! My way of thinking and life motto is “to always do good without looking for who, while letting others live their lives and embrace each and everyone’s uniqueness!” Everyday I try to do so, even when it’s hard. Best of luck, wishes and blessings to all of you!
Lalande is so beautiful the atmosphere in and around the chateau makes all the people happy calm and joyous no need to make conflict with anyone.The people eat together and have fun laughing its fantastic.
I think this is my favorite vlog. Even though I have enjoyed beautiful art, architecture, and scenery and enjoyed the fun and laughter I feel this captures the warmth and heart of Lalande. Steph, you have created something very special. The world needs much more of this. Blessings!❤
So glad you have been honest and courageous enough to do this video, which you all articulated so beautifully - particularly Isobel. Successful, sustainable community requires compassion, communication, consideration, ego abnegation, an open mind, a kind heart, and a willing body.
STUNNING, why can’t the world be this open to communal living? I think we humans have much to learn, yet we hold ourselves back from fear because we feel it will take us into unfamiliar territory. GREAT JOB TEAM LALANDE!
You have success because people there are willing to humble themselves, work hard for the common goal, and look for joy in how they are alike rather than fight about how they are different. It’s encouraging and I love to watch. 💕🙏🏼
The real thing which brought me to follow you so much is not the castle but the fun and harmony, which is an absolute tribute to you as the leader, setting that atmosphere of joy and cooperation. I have lived in group housing in my university days (in the Olden Days!) and know the fun of it, as well as the compromises to be made. I so admire how you set this tone and make it work with such a diverse lot of people. 🇦🇺
I love listening to Gerry for he encapsulated all the benefits of people gaining from life’s experiences from other people, what shows enormously is the sharing of kindness and consideration plus respect for one another, the wisdom of Isabella but with her humour, it would drive me nuts also a dryer on for laundry when the sun was shining, the kettle was hilarious. My favourite biggie in the restaurant trade was staff had a hot water tap on with water going down the plug hole FOR no reason !!! waste. Marie looking better and beautiful , cooking with everyone around chatting , that is difficult ! Natalie is just a calming influence . Stephanie is absolutely amazing and an example of love, respect , talent , kindness , trust and giving, when people visit and leave Lalande they will have been effected in a good way. This was a wonderful Vlog.
Yes, this is probably your most important blog. I have been a part of many communities, including a Catholic worker community, even though I'm not Catholic, and it is very difficult to live in community, especially one where work is a part of the community. But you put the benefits so very well at the beginning. You summed it up beautifully. And then your questions about the difficulties and solutions was so well put by everyone. I have half a mind to ask my religious studies students to watch this. Community is an elemental part of every religion, and one doesn't have to be religious to see the benefits of this. Great vlog!
Very astute piece of psychology. I think the secret of success lies in creative people. When you are creative you like to find solutions (usually quirky and sometimes surprising) to problems.
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This was done four years ago and here I am letting my TH-cam algorithm throw up château diary episodes at will. And this one is one of my very favorites. There's so much wisdom and so much humanity in this. Aside from a tumultuous childhood on a family of four, I have never lived with more than one other person at a time! It's just how my life has worked out. But life in the Southern California suburban neighborhood is so different than the château life of which I dream. You have made and continue to make the most extraordinary life! You are so blessed.
Dear Stefanie, interviews with members of your such a diverse community is so important to understand your life more. Could you please introduce them as a regular part of your stunning TH-cam channel? People, please, like who agree!
Love is patient,love is kind.It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered,it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trusts,always hopes,always perseveres. Love never fails. Love how you keep it real Stephanie! 👩🌾🥰👍🏻
Isabelle has a ton of wisdom. She has worked so hard all her life as a nurse, I'm sure she has seen all types of people and learned to interact with them accordingly. She and Stephanie (two lovely ladies) always show their appreciation for the volunteers.
Has anyone noticed what a good listener Stephanie is. She makes people feel they are her number one person. Owning a B & B is a perfect life for her.
Stephanie, you are an exceptional personality, positive, upbeat and make the best of it. Your closest circle of longtime friends prove that you attract good and are genuinely how you present yourself
Your influence and atmosphere have created an opportunity for more of the same drawn to LaLande. Because of this your videos are magnetic and I, among many, look forward to each new installation on your channel
Stephanie I think you underestimate the affect you have on the people in your chateau. You show so much respect to each individual and treat them as if they're the most important person in the world to you at that moment. I'm sure that rubs off on everyone and you lead by example. I love watching your vlog bc it makes me feel good knowing there's people like and y'all out there in the world
Excellent observation. So true.
Absolutely spot on
She always compliments people that it rare these days. A few kind words go a long way.
Well said!
Of course she compliments! People do labor there for free. At least she can compliment.
This is a very substantial episode, and so even more gratifying than usual -- good people, honest humanity, excellent editing and production values. Well done. The only thing missing to make it perfect was visit to a brocante, lol.
Yes, I love the brocante visits.
Terrific insight. Marie looking particularly pretty here! I also think the ethos comes from the top down, i.e., you Stephanie set the happy tone for the entire chateau!💗💗💗
Sooooo true! 👍💗
I was thinking the exact same thing!
Stephanie, I think it works so well because of you. You are positive and like your mother says, “You spark one another.” Your positivity encourages positivity. You encourage growth in your friends. You build their confidence by always thanking them for their efforts and telling them what a great job they have done. By letting them do what they like and are good at gives them the confidence to try new things with people they trust, respect .and like. Kudos!!
Rebecca Stanevich So true. Well said.
I find myself smiling throughout this whole vlog. Such a sensitive subject turns into giggles and a deluge of delightful and wise moments. For those like me who live alone, I'm sure I write for many of how much fun it is to be part of the LaLande family. I have my own family but distance and circumstance limits our visits and physical closeness. Love and hugs to all.
I agree, Stephanie has brought the world into our lives!
This is an incredible group of special people.
Oh I liked this Vlog. I was only saying the other day, how we all don't seem to know our neighbours and help out like we used to do, years ago. Love the vibe at Lalande 💞
I can see it all now 'Murder in the Laundry Room' 😂😂 I have never laughed so hard in my life, thank you for the vlogs xx
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Liberté, égalité, fraternité, (liberty, equality, fraternity), the national motto of France and Chateau de Lalande!
Bingo well said
Isabella is so wise and full of wisdom xx
Jo Davidson you can tell she was in charge of people,she’s very thoughtful and incisive.
That is exactly what I was going to say. She also has the best accent ever!!!
🦋 Beautiful Mummy is also a bit of a perfectionist. Isabel is clearly used to maintaining a certain standard of life, and she gets a little frustrated when ppl aren't performing quite up to her high expectations💋. (Something I can relate to at times.) I adore her air of general calmness, her absolute graciousness, her industry, & even her artistic flairs of temper.
🌱She is a wonder in the garden. 📲 I am thankful Stephanie is capturing some of her work there. I definitely need mentoring in that direction. Although I certainly don't aspire to her level of greatness😉.
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I don't have a green thumb. I tend to over or under water💦 any potted plants. I end up lost in a book, daydreaming, or tempted to try some other activity that takes me away from them.
Thankfully, we have a completely drought tolerant yard. I baby some of the succulents a bit when they need it in the extreme temps🌡. I appreciate almost any hardy native plant that manages to grow here -- except poison oak & sumac. Kinda afraid of the former one -- saw my brother & father swell up repeatedly with ugly rashes. The latter one doesn't bother my skin, but it is highly🔥flammable so I try to keep it cut back.
🌸We have some beautiful flowers that return every Spring, but don't last long in the heat. I do yard trimming & maintenance through out the year for our annual Wildfire Brush Clearance.
🌳Once I am out there, I enjoy clipping bushes & trees🍃. The majority of the soil is pretty tough, so pulling weeds is not always easy. I love our bits of shade & the flatter sections of the lot. We're on an acre that has different levels & steep canyon rises.🐐 Play at being a mountain goat, & as a result spend a lot of time sliding down the hills on my backside.
🕶I go out in full protective gear to protect from sun, debris, insects, & snakes. Just at dusk the other day when temperatures rose to 109°F, I encountered a big hairy tarantula & a very long skinny🐍snake. 🦎Luckily, the lizards tend to dash away. Snakes can get lethargic in the heat, but can move amazingly fast when they are not over heated. They all blend in so well, so I always pray that I don't accidently kill anything while raking or something. 👀I was devastated when I accidently hit a lizard w/a weed wacker💧.
☀️Unfortunately, the coolest times of the day are when the blasted mosquitos are out. The darn things love my blood. Grew up traipsing around this territory w/o any mishaps, but now my skin & body seems far less hardy too all these various 🐜insect bites🕷.
🚜 My dad grew up on a farm wrangling all kinds of livestock, but I am more of a squeamish city girl. I admire ppl that are confidant about being caretakers of animals, the land, and those who are serious homesteaders. 💪It's all such hard, but wholly satisfying work.
☮Peace 💛Love 🌼Beauty from SoCalifornia.
Being a mono tasker I can appreciate Our lovely Marie wanting the kitchen to herself. Gerry you are so lovable & appreciative of everyone.
Respect & tolerance is very beneficial in a community.
Ah! the new knickers absolutely hilarious
Beautiful vlog.❤️
I think everyone is doing extremely well. Showing respect, tolerance and kindness to address conflict in the community at La Lande is, as Isabelle mentioned, the key. Every link in the chain helps achieve a common goal through the trust generated between one another. This was a great Vlog Stephanie, thank you. 🙏🏻🙋♂️
I appreciate that people are free to work in their strength zone
As a hopeful future volunteer, this is encouraging!
My father always told me growing up walk in their shoes or look at it from there point of view. I'm from a family of 4 children. Grew up on a farm then when farming didnt work anymore we all moved 300 miles away (4 family's plus my parents so 5 families) we all work together at a family business. Now it's not all a bed of Rose's but I would say my dad was the negotiator when there was fall outs. But each one of us brings a different attribute and point of view to the job. I wouldn't change a thing. Even after my parents died we all made sure to discuss things with each other. No one was left out so their wouldn't be any hard feelings. People say we're not real. I say I'm very blessed.
Maybe laundry baskets with people's with people's names taped on them so if they come down with dirty laundry and is not there when it finished it can be put in their basket. A pad by each machine they right their name on it when their laundry is in that machine. Laundry hampers for Lalandes laundry in the laundry room marked dirty sheets, dirty towels for example. Mark an area TO BE IRONED with maybe a rack to hang clean sheets so they dont get wrinkled more waiting be ironed.
There are also nets that can be used to keep laundry together in the machine. Then you can wash different people's things in the same wash and they will stay separate making it easy to dry separately and they collect separately.
@Deborah Shaw im the same but I grew up in a very orderly and tidy home. And I love chaos. It gives me something to do.🤣
SMitch machines are metal - use letter magnets to spell who’s stuff is in which machine.
@@LWNV that's an excellent idea.
I also have separated piles of laundry, with different needs. It absolutely drives me nuts when people come into a situation, knowing nothing of what is going on and start moving things about.
I. appreciate your addressing life in community- I think this is what draws me to your channel. I would like to hear even more about what you have found and are finding. This could really be the world needs right now! Thanks again.
I enjoyed todays vlog. The key to communal living or just with your family is trust, respect and sharing food and the end of the day.
@@dinikars6844 Meals around a table are key. I agree with Stephanie that you can sometimes find your better self quicker in community. She has a real gift of hospitality.
I am sure it gets confusing: Paying guests, paying guests who want to volunteer, paying guests who want to join the fun but not necessarily volunteer, workaway volunteers, family members who are also partners, family members who are volunteers and are taking vacations. I love the dynamic; but I would need a lock on the door or a "do not disturb sign" to help establish a bit of privacy on occasion.
@@judygilleland9384 yes. Wow..a lot to keep up with and I agree with an occasional Do Not Disturb. I am a social person yet there is a limit to it when I require downtime after a. Of being social for at least a few hours or sometimes a day. Or on rare occasion, sometimes longer
@@judygilleland9384 Even ex partners and current partners of ex partners get on amazingly well at La Lande!
We’re all fed up with the sheltering in but I am always amazed that you all try and come to the camera with good spirits. We understand.
Emotional Intelligence is a highly underrated glue to hold society together. Tolerance and understanding are becoming rarer in this Third Wave of Toffler. Hardly surprising given the modern communication tools. It would be a very different tale were you all walking around.using social media instead of face to face. As Isabelle says, spark off each other and find common ground. Good stuff. Blessings.
Having emotional intelligence isn’t as important as teaching ways of increasing awareness of empathy and expectations re direct and respectful communication and so-called active listening. Look at what a very public POTUS has created by failing to demonstrate empathy and fairness to all US citizens.
ralph stephan ohhh bug off libtard!! And look what the evil democrats have done to all of our cities that are being burned down, murders, looting, rioting, mobs, etc. I know firsthand, I live in Minneapolis, Mn! Thank God for our AMAZING president who cares about our country! Trump2020!! MAGA!
@@ralphstephan353 I put it to you that you are detailing components of what I consider emotional intelligence... We agree. I am not from the US but they clearly have massive social problems their government is not capable of dealing with. Might have something to do with somebody blowing his own TRUMPet too loudly.
@@mythos5809 You all might want to note that on a joint vlog some time ago, Michael and Stephanie voiced their support of the Black Lives Matter movement in response to a viewer asking them if they supported it. This led to numerous postings asking to avoid politics, which I agree with. We come here for the history, art, antiques and the colourful personalities at the chateau, not to engage in political mudslinging.
@@perolagrande Hardly pertinent.
It’s the same in any workplace a mutual respect, well put by Isabel her management experience is invaluable.💖x
This particular vlog should be required viewing in every school worldwide - it was excellent!
I’m so glad you raised this topic Stephanie... life at La Lande does appear blissful ... and it has reminded me of the benefits of communal multi-generational living, It’s vital to remember in those rare times of conflict that it too shall pass, and we just need to keep communicating and forgiving one another 😘
Ah isn't she lovely. Stephanie once again addresses our curiosities about chateau living. She is the glue that holds everything together and her fair attitude shines through everyone. 🌟😍💜
Hi Stephanie, when you edit and there’s new people, put their name underneath so people will know easily who they are 😊 just a small suggestion.
When you (Stephanie) lead by example everyone follows❤ You show respect, humour and leadership and it reflects in the people that are around you. Love to all❤
What a great installment! Watching team Lalande is a treat, but after working in many different environments, I KNOW it doesn't always go smoothly. Team Lalande, and Mummy truly touched on the essential elements to make things go smoothly. There will be bumps, but it is necessary to keep in mind personal perspectives, personal ideals, an open heart and mind and be willing to consider feelings. From what I've seen Team Lalande have all the perfect ingredients. Keep laughing and working together for the common goal.
Love to all at Lalande!
Thank you for showing that its not always unicorns an rainbows, that it is real life an that you all work together to make a great community.
One of my favourite episodes! You handled an uncomfortable topic with candor and well-balanced with humour.
I loved the snippets of mommy where she is so calm and collected, like the Queen. And then I notice the crown behind her!! 😂
Her interview was beautifully set up. However "in charge" Isabelle seems, she is respected because she always shows by example and kindness. She is living in the most difficult circumstances with her beloved Percy locked down, but she is a true survivor and soldiers on. Virtual hugs.
This is the best, most honest and moving episode. It takes a village to create this magical place. If those are the biggest conflicts, everyone is amazing and sparkling. Stephanie has created the perfect home and village through true kindness and optimism. It’s intoxicating.
This is my favorite video so far. Your mother has the wisest words about what it means to live in real community. I do believe this is exactly how humans are supposed to live -- not alone. Not in tiny twos or threes. But allowing everyone the freedom to do what they love, and to do what they do best -- you, Stephanie, are the key to that. I think people living together, EATING together (as your brother says), working joyfully together in a beautiful place: this is truly what heaven will be like. I will never make it over to LaLande, but I'm so thankful to be able to share it via these videos :)
I loved the saying...just do it....dont count the times ,the turns,,, the what s owed to me...just do it....
This was so fantastic. You keep it all so real and that is why I love watching.
Excellent subject choice this week. Really appreciate and agree with the message about communal living. All of you are an inspiring example of this.
Stephanie, you are truly something. Thank you for being you, and for sharing your self and your life with us.
I simply love each person...& Scottman does help...give the strength laughter & joy of life to Strengthen what Stephanie & Mommy want it to achieve. I get tears everytime he leaves & laugh whenever he re-appears.
What a show. Funniest ever. Mummy is not only extremely funny but very wise too. Mummy is a star!!!🤩
Teagate and chums on tap had me rolling on the floor! Loved it !
Dorothy W uh oh.... I put cold milk in my teacup, add a teabag and pour the boiling water in my cup over the bag..... 😳🤔😁🤣 TEAGATE!!!
87.1k subscribers, congratulations!❤️🌹 You deserve this you have worked so hard for this. Giving us all so much.
I thinks it's Important to Treat people in a way we like to be treated...
Mutual respect & good clear boundaries are Paramount...
What a thoughtful video! I wholeheartedly agree with the “Cosmic Karma of Pints” analogy! As soon as you start keeping score, you’ve already lost!
I see a book in your future ‘Leadership Secrets of a Chatelaine’ by Stephanie Jarvis. It’s a best seller.
Kim Matlock, I see it, too! 💖
📚 Yes! We all wanna know her leadership techniques. 🍽Along with a compilation of her recipes & the beloved dishes brought by her guests & volunteers.
You’re so on target. We are all measured by the people that we develop. I’d love to know where all these exceptional people will be in ten years.
@Sjaan sjaak
No one does anything alone. Life is a collaboration, somewhere.
This is my favourite channel and I even commented on other channels about it. Thanks to Stephanie this channel is unique! She created a community of volunteers and produced videos that made many youtube viewers feel good. Although I never wanted to become a volunteer there or ever visit this chateau, I understand the reason many wanted to go there. For those who are lonely or unhappy, LaLande seems like a very happy place filled with only beautiful, happy people who have only fun all day long. To me, it's impossible. I appreciate just watching this channel. Good thing that in this video Stephanie and others told how it is to live in a community. Not to mention, that darn rooster... just ask Selmar about it.
Sweet Victory my favorite as well.
It was so pleasant to have each person express their perspective about life at Lalande -- the nice elements of living, working and sharing together, the ever present laughter and the dancing -- they all balance out the various irritations caused by individual choices and personal quirks. Nicely coordinated assessment, Stephanie!
So glad to be learning about Aquinas’ Cosmic theory of Pints. Suspect it will serve us all well.
So great to see you at Lalande.
the theory of pints and chums on tap... the best. the very best.
🦉Yes, that was a hoot.
Thank you Stephanie and all the Lalanders, this has been one of my favorite episodes. 💗🦘
Wise words from everybody. How lucky you all are to live at lovely Lalande. X
What a wonderful episode. I love to re-watch episodes, and this one is worth watching, even more often, so full of wisdom it is.
Wow, I got so much from this Sunday at the Chateau! I think I’m going to watch it back and take notes! 🤪
Another vlog full of wisdom laughter respect and love.Thankyou for sharing.Mummy is such a wise beautiful sweetheart.Communal Living Love it.❤️❤️
The goodness begins at the top with Stephanie. You set the energy and good vibes which are picked up by everyone around you. Please dont change lovely!
Great vlog. I grew up in a large family and there was alot of conflict but endless amounts of love. That experience helped to formulate skills that were very useful in my nursing career. Most of my nursing career was with seniors and the lessons and futher skills I acquired no money could buy! In my dining room I have my moto which is, life, love and laughter 😃 Keep well. All volunteers and guests should see this vlog! Everyone summated extremely well the values of LA Londe.
Beautifully done Stephanie! It is so good to know that people can work through conflicts or differences and come out just fine. Forgiveness to me is the key. Cheers,
Rita
Lovely words of wisdom by many and so brave to expose a topic that many people don’t dare to talk about.
Stephanie you are a natural at teaching, and your enthusiasm is contagious, thank you
Great topic! I live alone, love people but don’t want a roommate living with me in my small studio. But chateau life needs so many people to keep the place running plus guest and volunteers. Thoroughly enjoyed. Can’t wait to hear Selmars thoughts.
Your mother is amazing. What a treasure of wisdom and love. I love the Scotsman too ! Everything you do at LaLande seems wrapped up in joy and laughter and fun ! That is a recipe for a very successful life.
Stephanie, your vlog is refreshing, funny, enlightening and educational. I appreciate the effort and being this dedicated and responsible with your vlog.
This was an appropriate topic to address but not an easy nor necessarily comfortable topic. Stephanie, you did a great job with your questions and your facilitation of the responses. It’s a special experience when you can be part of a high performing team. It is not easy to achieve one. Any team needs a leader. Stephanie, LaLande would not be the community it is without you and your leadership, intelligence, thirst for knowledge and your unique skills and talents. You are the heart of LaLande.
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Great video Stephanie, very grounding, thought provoking and so very true 🙂
Thank you for this lovely video. Conflicts, yes, because life just includes conflicts. It’s finding a way to make them work within our lives. Some more difficult than others, but you’ve shown us a delightful way to handle the “little” ones. ❤️
Your are wonderful Stephanie ♡ I am glad you had such a beautiful unconventional childhood, that gave you such unusual skills to create such a loving community. You, your parents and Jery, this is only possible because you came into this world and became a unusual lovely team/family. Thank you to all for your beautiful, loving, kind, strong, existence in this world ♡
Ive mentioned before on here, the book Lost Connections by Johann Hari talks about this very thing, connecting to others and how it's been lost - leading to people being isolated and marginalised. They turn to drug use and alcohol to overcome their feelings of being lost. Different generations have differing values (Isobel with dryers being used when the sun is shining) - I have a thing about lights being on when no-one is in a room! It' does require work to meld the differing values, patience and kindness. This was a good thought provoking vlog. Thankyou.
Oh, I MUST read!! With social media (and worse still, with required social distancing), we no longer connect like we did when I was growing up. My parents and neighbors congregated almost never ghtky, had block parties and we children would knock on a child's door we seen but never met and ask them to come out and play. I don't see that happening these days. My daughter said she envies my childhood and young adult life - it WAS fun.
Ah, Johann Hari is a wonderful thinker and writer. Thank you for bringing him into the conversation.
📚 Sounds like an interesting book. I grew up close to both sets of grandparents and my two uncles. One of those uncles was 10 years older than brother & 10 years younger than my mother. He sorta grew up with us. The closeness was a lovely experience.
Yes, you do learn new things from different generations. I find it fascinating to see the differing facets and to learn what brought ppl to their conclusions
Also can discover a lot from ppl from differing backgrounds & cultures. Sometimes it is tricky to identify your own sense of culture until you clash with someone else. Conflict can sometimes help distinguish things. The trick is to remember that all cultures have equally valid ideas, perspectives, & experiences. Some of us need to be pushed out of our comfort zones to experience it.
Any generational or cultural gaps can be met & closed with patience, compassion, understanding, & humor.
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Thank you got this dose of reality in the fairy tale.... You are so right that respecting each others differences...being able to laugh...and sharing that meal together goes a long way to appreciating and caring.
It is definitely not only a great business plan that makes a success, but especially the way you make people feel. A great team having the same goal and understanding for one another makes you stronger and will take you very far. And a great team starts with the leaders. Lalande has great leaders and team members. Well done!
Totally loved listening to Nati speaking spanish “no es que no puedo explicarlo” that happens to me when I’m trying to explain something to my speaking english friends🤣
What a great subject, in my work life I had a lot of staff who worked for me. It was mostly peaceful, however every now and then a personality would rear it's head in not a nice way...I found it interesting that humor usually helped most situations. I appreciated the honesty and laughter that was shown in this video ! Everyone be well !
I’m like Isabelle , dryer is a No Noon laundry day if it’s not raining. 👍🏻
I don't enjoy the task of hanging up on the line, but I LOVE taking them down and the smell, especially my bedclothes
@@Winton46 my man sees $ signs when the dryer is running but leaves his TV, stereo etc in the garage even when he's miles away, at work etc.. hmmm lol
There’s nothing better than towels that have been dried on a line.
sophia unless you live in the UK you’d be very grateful for a tumble dryer then, believe you me.
@@sophiaw.7356 I assume SMG lives in one of those places where there is a neighbourhood organization that does not PERMIT laundry to be seen on a line! If she doesn't, she's lucky. I would never live in such a place unless I had no other choice..
What a special vlog Stephanie! One of the things I enjoy about life at the Chateau is the transparency & inclusiveness & I know that is a culture that you have fostered. Much love to you all from South Africa 💞🇿🇦
Oh Stephanie! I think this is the best video on the Internet, and you did a WONDERFUL job! Mummy is a truly wise woman. I did miss Selmar, Tomaz and mostly Percy's thoughts, but I'm sure you will catch them, and many others along the path.
Totally considering showing my work place this! Honestly you keep on surprising me with your diversity with content. I know it's not aimed at the work place but this could be such a valuable resource for managers, you speak from the heart and your experience within a community and how to resolve conflict in a healthy way really shows, even in the way you make the vlog, you are trying to draw in everyone to contribute to a healthy and happy reality that you all want to create, bravo lalande, bravo👌👌👌 ❤️❤️❤️
I could listen to Mummy's wisdom/stories all day. This video about community was needed at such a time as this. Thank you for so much Stephanie..you really are a delight 💜💐
Enjoyed. Beautiful people! Wonderful interviews. Love to all ❤
If I visited there, as a guest I would ask to help each person in the jobs they do. I love each aspect of this rennovation & enjoyments. You have a unique way of looking at life, Stephanie and you are the light & engine that helps everyone see the best in others & a day! I learn soo much everytime I Watch it. We all love Mommy! lol I have a mommy just like her & she had 5 children. Hugs to you both. db
By far Stephanie one of your BEST broadcast ever!
Totally appropriate for the times we are living , especially the part of everyone “ working towards a common goal “ , for me , this is especially important value since we are living with the dreaded COVID-19 threat.
Stephanie, your mom’s values are exactly my parents and how I try to live my life
As a general rule , finding common ground instead of differences neutralizes potential conflict as well as tolerance , which this generation somewhat lost , which is a pity.
Bravo Stephanie, tres apprecie et merci pour vos videos , ca aide beaucoup la psychologie de la personne , plus que vous pouvez imaginer
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Michael is coming to LaLande again!!!! Yippppppeeeeeee!!!
You ALL ARE FANTASTIC!!! Such lovely people one and all!!!
This is a great topic Stephanie!! I loved hearing from each person and their thoughts. I think it's such a success because of how you set the tone from the begining. You include everyone as if they were a family member and bring love and laughter into every situation!! I especially love the laughter!! Loved how Gerald said no one is better than anyone..equals!! Even watching from a far you have made us all feel a part of it..like one big La Lande family!! Thanks to all of you for all you do!! One day I will hopefully be blessed enough to visit and meet all of you lovely humans!! ❤
Stephanie, Gerry is SUCH A TREASURE! I love him!
I love this episode...lot's of great ideas about resilience!
I seriously loved this episode!!!!! The words spoken were so honest and true! My way of thinking and life motto is “to always do good without looking for who, while letting others live their lives and embrace each and everyone’s uniqueness!” Everyday I try to do so, even when it’s hard. Best of luck, wishes and blessings to all of you!
So much wisdom shared here! People were honest and open and shared themselves. ❤️💙😍
The team effort reminds me of how a successful business or corporation works but with one extra thing - a sprinkling of LOVE.
Loved that! Thank you for sharing your live and your experiences with us! Hope to be able to visit some time 😊
Lalande is so beautiful the atmosphere in and around the chateau makes all the people happy calm and joyous no need to make conflict with anyone.The people eat together and have fun laughing its fantastic.
I think this is my favorite vlog. Even though I have enjoyed beautiful art, architecture, and scenery and enjoyed the fun and laughter I feel this captures the warmth and heart of Lalande. Steph, you have created something very special. The world needs much more of this. Blessings!❤
This is an amazing testament to the power of cooperation. We all need to see this.
So glad you have been honest and courageous enough to do this video, which you all articulated so beautifully - particularly Isobel. Successful, sustainable community requires compassion, communication, consideration, ego abnegation, an open mind, a kind heart, and a willing body.
Oh, forgot the absolute criteria - an endless sense of humor!
STUNNING, why can’t the world be this open to communal living? I think we humans have much to learn, yet we hold ourselves back from fear because we feel it will take us into unfamiliar territory. GREAT JOB TEAM LALANDE!
Wise words! Looking lovely in blue. Your skin is amazing!
You have success because people there are willing to humble themselves, work hard for the common goal, and look for joy in how they are alike rather than fight about how they are different. It’s encouraging and I love to watch. 💕🙏🏼
The real thing which brought me to follow you so much is not the castle but the fun and harmony, which is an absolute tribute to you as the leader, setting that atmosphere of joy and cooperation. I have lived in group housing in my university days (in the Olden Days!) and know the fun of it, as well as the compromises to be made. I so admire how you set this tone and make it work with such a diverse lot of people. 🇦🇺
I was SO impressed with Mummy's explanation of communal living! Well said!
I love listening to Gerry for he encapsulated all the benefits of people gaining from life’s experiences from other people, what shows enormously is the sharing of kindness and consideration plus respect for one another, the wisdom of Isabella but with her humour, it would drive me nuts also a dryer on for laundry when the sun was shining, the kettle was hilarious.
My favourite biggie in the restaurant trade was staff had a hot water tap on with water going down the plug hole FOR no reason !!! waste.
Marie looking better and beautiful , cooking with everyone around chatting , that is difficult ! Natalie is just a calming influence .
Stephanie is absolutely amazing and an example of love, respect , talent , kindness , trust and giving, when people visit and leave Lalande they will have been effected in a good way. This was a wonderful Vlog.
Yes, this is probably your most important blog. I have been a part of many communities, including a Catholic worker community, even though I'm not Catholic, and it is very difficult to live in community, especially one where work is a part of the community. But you put the benefits so very well at the beginning. You summed it up beautifully. And then your questions about the difficulties and solutions was so well put by everyone. I have half a mind to ask my religious studies students to watch this. Community is an elemental part of every religion, and one doesn't have to be religious to see the benefits of this. Great vlog!
Very astute piece of psychology. I think the secret of success lies in creative people. When you are creative you like to find solutions (usually quirky and sometimes surprising) to problems.