To me, boundaries are informed by my relationship with God and my core values. As a Christian, God has boundaries and I’m not willing to step outside those boundaries for anyone/anything.
From a different perspective I don't see boundaries as walls but rather I see them as gates. Walls are fixed and immovable whereas gates are still a measure of protection but have controlled access. With responsible access controls you're able to assess each situation and/or relationship and determine how to still ensure you're protected without making the next person feel unwelcome
The more I consume Thato's content, the more I relate with him. But with Lebo's analogy of his mom calling and him not answering in mind, I get to question what's the difference between boundaries and principles?🤔
I feel like it’s not necessarily principles but rather can be deemed as a useless boundary or an unfair boundary depending on how you choose to look at it. His reasoning is understandable, don’t be upset if he doesn’t answer his phone and reasons for that were provided. That shouldn’t upset you or make you uncomfortable. As a person you’re not always available to pick up your phone and now imagine someone getting upset at the fact that you didn’t answer their call. That’s them even dismissing your reasons. Also we’re just a generation that genuinely doesn’t like phone calls, prefers texting over calls and more than anything prefers their own space. There are days where you don’t feel like talking and 9/10 when your mom calls, you already know why they’re calling and it could basically just to have a chat or check up on you. Once your pms ice has melted (that’s if you weren’t in the mood) or you’re done with what you were busy with, you’ll get back to them.
People spoke and asked that you go back to appearing on the same screen at the same time like before, after the previous episode, and you heard them and did as they had asked. We see you, thank you for listening to your viewers and putting them first❤🏆🏆
I am growing fond of these deep conversations. This is a breath of fresh air with all this generic content on our threads. This will prove useful to people in existential crisis
Thato is like my boyfriend lol and his name is Thato too. Puts everyone else before himself and has suuuuch a soft spot for people close to him. I hope he finds a way to balance or better yet, watch this!😅
So I'm a millennial in my early 30s right and can i tell you , your podcast is refreshing and fascinating to me. I thoroughly enjoy your guys perspective on things and life in general , I sometimes might not relate cause you broers are from the burbs and I from a kasi but over the years my social circle has incorporated both worlds. The episode prior to this one caught my attention and i wanted more, did i not spend the whole of last week and this week binge watching from Season 1 with the other 2 broers, watched all of it! Fire podcast gents, respect! 🔥 🔥
Thato, on the topic of boundaries and relationships, my suggestion is getting a guest who's very well educated on this topic so that we can understand it from every perspective and relate it us because we try to relate from our own understanding and experiences and they can be very misleading as to what the truth may really be.
I understand Lebo’s pain cause I too wonder the same thing but as Thatho said it’s a journey because he has so muchpotential it’s just a matter of time ❤️.
To the Rampedi brothers like listening to your chat's and your experiences.. Just wanted to highlight "There's a Time for Everything" my king's keep doing you an elevation ain't gana be that far
Saw the title and I was like yaaah I need to listen to this one …. You guys are so relatable it’s like you live in my mind in most cases 😂😂😂 … continue with the good work guys , you are healing us and validating our emotions and also teaching us so much about navigating our 20s…. I am in my late 20s and I find you guys so therapeutic .. during my work breaks I have to find a way to squeeze in listening to you guys .
The last part of the perspective topic??Real! I don't waste my time on proving the truth no more. If a person wants to know or is willing to believe they'd live that space. It's not your job to build their maturity of understanding other people or respecting the other persons truth.
Love you guys. Yhooo I’ve never disagreed with you guys as much as I did in this episode (not everything obviously) but it’s cool. Love hearing your ideas and opinions.
I just finished watching this episode and as a creative, who is trying to find themselves in this digital space, I truly relate to how Lebo is feeling and just want Lebo to know that he is not alone man. you are definitely on the right path, just hold on a little tighter because some viewers like me would def be crushed if you don't carry on. Thank you for this podcast episode, thoroughly enjoyed it!!
It's easy to tell that you gents have been burning both ends of the candle. Thanks!💪🏽 Keep y'all's heads-up rest and get some sleep every. Health first!
Love your point on perception and perspective I think we would all be happier if we could accept that we cannot control how people see us what we can control is how we see ourselves
Whenever u guys ask a question I pose, answer it myself first then play Nd hear ur response. 😂😂 Thato is a male version of m (not financial stable though)🤣🤣 I fully agree with wat Lebo said about perception being taught @skul, to think that I thought it was weird of m to want ppl to consider other ppls feelings Nd action before thy judge. He JC proved that the world will be a better place if we HV empathy.
31:31 - We get so defensive about dating - always on guard against evil, always fighting against temptation. But what if the boundaries we keep were really meant to help us fight for something? What if, instead of fence-building, they were acts of war in love?
Can we talk about sexual boundaries. Dive deep into it and including how it relates to our spiritual, emotional, mental and physical aspects. Do we do things for u want what you have seen in the movies or what is overrated by the culture whether be our friends or the media or we do things because we want to or we are obliged to not do it whether be by the scriptures or studies yet we do it out of being rebellious a d out of curiosity
Thato you like my brother and his son. Don't beat yourself about being mr nice guy. i know people take advantage yea but you wouldn't be happy if you try be something you not so just embrace that about yourself.That is just one unique quality about you .If it makes you happy to be there for others do it.And im praying things work out with you and Kamo.
I absolutely love this podcast of you both! Lebo, some of us would hate to see you quit social media. I personally enjoy your conversational content, and the effortless humour you bring to conversations more than the overthought comic content. Keep up the good work! We see you and we rate you 🙏🏾
on setting boundaries on helping people come on a platform , it may seem or come across as gatekeeping oppurtunities you are able to provide simply becuase ofnot wanting them toleave you or the channel when they are big and are able to stand on their own as a brand, i think you would have more impact on helping and bring them onto the show or indulging in whatever they proposed to you, be selfless with what you have achieved and the tools you have and are able to utilise for another creator becuase the end goal is gonna be growing the youtube space in the country , and being part of their journey or story of upbringing will encourage them to do the same for other creators....thats just how i see it
The relationship boundary of not meeting your partner’s friends i get it but Lebo is right when he says your not the only two people in the world…they are things your partner might go through in life that will require you to break such a boundary I’d like to believe most of us would like all our loved ones to be around to celebrate the different milestone in our life’s Boundaries are their to protect yourself but as time goes defending on the boundary it can be broken Let’s take a house for example, you visit a house your the guest as a guest you would usually be welcomed into the sitting/dining room and maybe a guest bath/toilet but the other rooms to the house are not accessible to you but you know they are there you know that they is a kitchen, bedroom etc…but they are not rooms you are welcomed in to as a guest.
This is the most therapeutic channel in this space🥺 one can literally click anything on this channel and you're edified. Also this new setting looks so wholesome. Bless your hearts❤.
I think boundaries derived from trauma aren’t problematic because sifunda ngokubona. Seems like Thato himself the views he has of boundaries come from trauma of past relationships. (Trauma might be a bit of a strong word but y’all get it😂)
Okay but what about boundaries that are formed because of religious conviction , when one grows in their faith they may Get convicted of alote of stuff that seem normal in relationships (note not everyone gets the same convictions at the same time/had the same conviction ) would you think of those boundaries as unreasonable if they interfere with physical intimacy ?
Hey, I was struggling with the same thing. From outside looking in, it was never unessesary because you need to be equally yoked in a relationship. What that means is working in alignment together towards one goal. Maybe you need to reasses if you guys are working towards the same future within your relationship.
I'm Christian, and for me I'm learning so many different things about intimacy and being convicted about certain things regarding it. God tells us to abstain from sex before marriage, and sex can mean different things to different people right. But sex is sex at the end of the day and anything that tempts you into the feeling of lust or a sexual desire, is probably something you should consider setting as a boundary, as it is compromising your progress in your spiritual journey. This is so much easier when you are equally yoked with your partner though.
@@_snakho9717I'm Christian too ,I have had the same convictions and I've set such boundaries, I just need to pick into someone else's pov cause when I explain it to certain people around me it sounds like I'm too much of a Christian but I'm glad to also hear it from a fellow Christian
@@Miss.Zvinodavanhu At this point I'm you and you're me😂 cuz same. I have learnt not to pay attention to such comments, as God has a standard of life that He has already set for us, all we have to do is follow it. There's no such thing as being too Christian, all one can do is be patient and pray for those who have not realised it yet.
About having a finsta I think its sometimes because people have accounts and they take them as their workplace and also for me personally I am conscious on posting certain things because of company policies. If I post about where I work, any mistake I make they will associate with work.
Lebo if you see this I just wanted to let you know that you're funny!!! First time I saw you was in Season 1 ya Looking For Mjolo. If you quit nna ketlaho Jaja😏 you are amazing and I pray that one day you're confident enough to see it. Things will fall into place... so long as you work towards it🥂
Honesty is being true to one’s actual convictions. But one’s actual convictions might not be true. It is possible for us to be honest and wrong at the same time.
In fact, the relief of finally being honest, even if what we are being honest about is wrong, can feel emancipating. We’ve all experienced or witnessed this. When someone who has been secretly struggling with homosexuality finally comes out and embraces it, it often feels wonderful and freeing. Or when someone who has professed faith in Christ secretly stops believing the reality of Christianity, it can be a great relief to finally admit it and stop pretending. Or when a spouse has secretly been committing adultery, it can feel liberating to bring it out into the open, even if they are not repentant. What each of these people experiences is a sense of being true to themselves, even if what they actually believe isn’t true and right.
Lol now you're lactose intolerant? 🤣 Mxm. I think boundaries derived from trauma aren't about do's and don'ts. It's about shielding yourself from enabling certain things over and over. And also, we have to differentiate between projecting and setting a boundaries. There's a thin line. Boundaries are meant to make things better in a sense that they enable you to be your true self without people pleasing. They deepen relationships.
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Lebo is definitely the biggest comedian in the making. He's so funny, ridiculous & hilarious too 🤣😅 I love him.
Yoh y'all should bring the whole asMajita gang as guest so we watch a real mans conference 🔥
Nah
To me, boundaries are informed by my relationship with God and my core values. As a Christian, God has boundaries and I’m not willing to step outside those boundaries for anyone/anything.
Took the words straight from mouth. My morals and values are what makes me ME and they are what germinates
my boundaries
the more I hear Thato, the more I admire his honesty, genuineness and mind 😊🤍
From a different perspective I don't see boundaries as walls but rather I see them as gates. Walls are fixed and immovable whereas gates are still a measure of protection but have controlled access. With responsible access controls you're able to assess each situation and/or relationship and determine how to still ensure you're protected without making the next person feel unwelcome
The more I consume Thato's content, the more I relate with him. But with Lebo's analogy of his mom calling and him not answering in mind, I get to question what's the difference between boundaries and principles?🤔
I’m glad you’re enjoying the conversations ✨
I feel like it’s not necessarily principles but rather can be deemed as a useless boundary or an unfair boundary depending on how you choose to look at it. His reasoning is understandable, don’t be upset if he doesn’t answer his phone and reasons for that were provided. That shouldn’t upset you or make you uncomfortable. As a person you’re not always available to pick up your phone and now imagine someone getting upset at the fact that you didn’t answer their call. That’s them even dismissing your reasons. Also we’re just a generation that genuinely doesn’t like phone calls, prefers texting over calls and more than anything prefers their own space. There are days where you don’t feel like talking and 9/10 when your mom calls, you already know why they’re calling and it could basically just to have a chat or check up on you. Once your pms ice has melted (that’s if you weren’t in the mood) or you’re done with what you were busy with, you’ll get back to them.
People spoke and asked that you go back to appearing on the same screen at the same time like before, after the previous episode, and you heard them and did as they had asked. We see you, thank you for listening to your viewers and putting them first❤🏆🏆
I am growing fond of these deep conversations. This is a breath of fresh air with all this generic content on our threads. This will prove useful to people in existential crisis
Lebo is just naturally so funny😂❤
What a thought-provoking conversation!
Thato is like my boyfriend lol and his name is Thato too. Puts everyone else before himself and has suuuuch a soft spot for people close to him. I hope he finds a way to balance or better yet, watch this!😅
So I'm a millennial in my early 30s right and can i tell you , your podcast is refreshing and fascinating to me. I thoroughly enjoy your guys perspective on things and life in general , I sometimes might not relate cause you broers are from the burbs and I from a kasi but over the years my social circle has incorporated both worlds. The episode prior to this one caught my attention and i wanted more, did i not spend the whole of last week and this week binge watching from Season 1 with the other 2 broers, watched all of it! Fire podcast gents, respect! 🔥 🔥
the last episode really changed my life thank you so much gents 🙏🏾❤️🇳🇦
I’m so glad 🔥
Kanti the conversations are this SERIOUS 😮😮
i’m finally happy! FINALLY MY LIFE IS ROSEY😍
Real😂😍!
Girll😂😂 the jumping I just did!!❤
😂😂
Therapy session 🫵🏾🧸🔥🔥
Thato, on the topic of boundaries and relationships, my suggestion is getting a guest who's very well educated on this topic so that we can understand it from every perspective and relate it us because we try to relate from our own understanding and experiences and they can be very misleading as to what the truth may really be.
I agree
Always a treat listening and watching the podcast 🌟the Rampedi brothers
Y'all just made me realize that most of the boundaries I've set are derived from past experiences 😢
I understand Lebo’s pain cause I too wonder the same thing but as Thatho said it’s a journey because he has so muchpotential it’s just a matter of time ❤️.
Am I the only one who doesn’t have finsta? 🥴 I be posting personal content on my WhatsApp, that’s where my close friends are.
Same!
real
1 thing we keep on learning about this podcast is taking conversations that are mostly viewed as simple but when provoked and engaged they are deep❤❤
I just love your guys’ chemistry, humour and openess
It’s easy listening to yall ❤
Thato is a creative gentleman
God bless you Malome TH-cam 🙏🙌
Thank you so much
To the Rampedi brothers like listening to your chat's and your experiences.. Just wanted to highlight "There's a Time for Everything" my king's keep doing you an elevation ain't gana be that far
Saw the title and I was like yaaah I need to listen to this one …. You guys are so relatable it’s like you live in my mind in most cases 😂😂😂 … continue with the good work guys , you are healing us and validating our emotions and also teaching us so much about navigating our 20s…. I am in my late 20s and I find you guys so therapeutic .. during my work breaks I have to find a way to squeeze in listening to you guys .
The last part of the perspective topic??Real!
I don't waste my time on proving the truth no more. If a person wants to know or is willing to believe they'd live that space. It's not your job to build their maturity of understanding other people or respecting the other persons truth.
I would like for your guys to discuss boundaries at the workplace
This topic was very personal for the both of y’all 🥹
Checking in 📍
Helllluuuu✨
The conversation is high level today DAMN 😭
You guys were so tired here, it was evident. I hope you'll find time to relax, you need it. Keep well and thank you for the therapy session 😊
I always watch this podcast with a whisky on the rocks 😤😭😭😭
Love you guys. Yhooo I’ve never disagreed with you guys as much as I did in this episode (not everything obviously) but it’s cool. Love hearing your ideas and opinions.
Thank you Seated is a response from a happy heart❤
This is one of my favourite episodes❤
I just finished watching this episode and as a creative, who is trying to find themselves in this digital space, I truly relate to how Lebo is feeling and just want Lebo to know that he is not alone man. you are definitely on the right path, just hold on a little tighter because some viewers like me would def be crushed if you don't carry on. Thank you for this podcast episode, thoroughly enjoyed it!!
It's easy to tell that you gents have been burning both ends of the candle. Thanks!💪🏽 Keep y'all's heads-up rest and get some sleep every. Health first!
Never expected this🔥🔥❤️
Y’all are so relatable.
Therapy.🤞🏾
This podcast is therapy for me, this conversation healed me😭
Love your point on perception and perspective
I think we would all be happier if we could accept that we cannot control how people see us what we can control is how we see ourselves
Whenever u guys ask a question I pose, answer it myself first then play Nd hear ur response. 😂😂 Thato is a male version of m (not financial stable though)🤣🤣 I fully agree with wat Lebo said about perception being taught @skul, to think that I thought it was weird of m to want ppl to consider other ppls feelings Nd action before thy judge. He JC proved that the world will be a better place if we HV empathy.
31:31 - We get so defensive about dating - always on guard against evil, always fighting against temptation. But what if the boundaries we keep were really meant to help us fight for something? What if, instead of fence-building, they were acts of war in love?
Can we talk about sexual boundaries. Dive deep into it and including how it relates to our spiritual, emotional, mental and physical aspects. Do we do things for u want what you have seen in the movies or what is overrated by the culture whether be our friends or the media or we do things because we want to or we are obliged to not do it whether be by the scriptures or studies yet we do it out of being rebellious a d out of curiosity
Thato you like my brother and his son. Don't beat yourself about being mr nice guy. i know people take advantage yea but you wouldn't be happy if you try be something you not so just embrace that about yourself.That is just one unique quality about you .If it makes you happy to be there for others do it.And im praying things work out with you and Kamo.
Listening to you guys is sooo therapeutic!
Damn realest conversations majimbos👌🏿 niphekile🚀
Loving it
I absolutely love this podcast of you both! Lebo, some of us would hate to see you quit social media. I personally enjoy your conversational content, and the effortless humour you bring to conversations more than the overthought comic content. Keep up the good work! We see you and we rate you 🙏🏾
on setting boundaries on helping people come on a platform , it may seem or come across as gatekeeping oppurtunities you are able to provide simply becuase ofnot wanting them toleave you or the channel when they are big and are able to stand on their own as a brand, i think you would have more impact on helping and bring them onto the show or indulging in whatever they proposed to you, be selfless with what you have achieved and the tools you have and are able to utilise for another creator becuase the end goal is gonna be growing the youtube space in the country , and being part of their journey or story of upbringing will encourage them to do the same for other creators....thats just how i see it
Y’all are so healing . I love it over here❤️
I was actually thinking of yall today morning🤭 thanks for the upload you guys.
Hope you enjoyed it!
Loved this conversation ❤️🤞🏽
The relationship boundary of not meeting your partner’s friends i get it but Lebo is right when he says your not the only two people in the world…they are things your partner might go through in life that will require you to break such a boundary I’d like to believe most of us would like all our loved ones to be around to celebrate the different milestone in our life’s
Boundaries are their to protect yourself but as time goes defending on the boundary it can be broken
Let’s take a house for example, you visit a house your the guest as a guest you would usually be welcomed into the sitting/dining room and maybe a guest bath/toilet but the other rooms to the house are not accessible to you but you know they are there you know that they is a kitchen, bedroom etc…but they are not rooms you are welcomed in to as a guest.
This is the most therapeutic channel in this space🥺 one can literally click anything on this channel and you're edified. Also this new setting looks so wholesome. Bless your hearts❤.
Now you're lactose intolerant 😭😭😂😂😂😂😂🔥
Love these conversations big ups to you Rampedi Brothers 😎
I do watch the recs. Most of them turn out to be pretty good. So yeah do continue.
House of the Dragon is a banger. I'm all caught up on it to season 2 currently. I've even gone back to watch Game of Thrones to make the connection.
Lebo, I think the email you should send is the corporate one.
"So u date models"? Siblings are wholesome man 😂❤
My recommendation is Outer Banks on Netflix, it has 3 seasons. It's too good!!
These are life changing ❤
Can't wait to watch ❤
House of Dragons lets gooo! Loved this chat. Chat some more! Thx
Lovely content put out 😢❤️
"Dude, you are a real guy. The rest of you are NPCs!"😂 I UNDERSTAND
I think boundaries derived from trauma aren’t problematic because sifunda ngokubona.
Seems like Thato himself the views he has of boundaries come from trauma of past relationships. (Trauma might be a bit of a strong word but y’all get it😂)
Okay but what about boundaries that are formed because of religious conviction , when one grows in their faith they may Get convicted of alote of stuff that seem normal in relationships (note not everyone gets the same convictions at the same time/had the same conviction ) would you think of those boundaries as unreasonable if they interfere with physical intimacy ?
Hey, I was struggling with the same thing. From outside looking in, it was never unessesary because you need to be equally yoked in a relationship. What that means is working in alignment together towards one goal. Maybe you need to reasses if you guys are working towards the same future within your relationship.
I'm Christian, and for me I'm learning so many different things about intimacy and being convicted about certain things regarding it. God tells us to abstain from sex before marriage, and sex can mean different things to different people right. But sex is sex at the end of the day and anything that tempts you into the feeling of lust or a sexual desire, is probably something you should consider setting as a boundary, as it is compromising your progress in your spiritual journey. This is so much easier when you are equally yoked with your partner though.
@@_snakho9717I'm Christian too ,I have had the same convictions and I've set such boundaries, I just need to pick into someone else's pov cause when I explain it to certain people around me it sounds like I'm too much of a Christian but I'm glad to also hear it from a fellow Christian
@@Miss.Zvinodavanhu At this point I'm you and you're me😂 cuz same. I have learnt not to pay attention to such comments, as God has a standard of life that He has already set for us, all we have to do is follow it. There's no such thing as being too Christian, all one can do is be patient and pray for those who have not realised it yet.
you guys are doing great!🤍
I second the Bones and All watch 🤞 I'd advise when you watch the movie don't have any expectations let it be a journey to you too
My fave duo ❤❤
Thato is keeping it real 🤝
Thato is really adorable,"our EQ on certain things are low..."
Love this episode and angles
About having a finsta I think its sometimes because people have accounts and they take them as their workplace and also for me personally I am conscious on posting certain things because of company policies. If I post about where I work, any mistake I make they will associate with work.
Lebo if you see this I just wanted to let you know that you're funny!!! First time I saw you was in Season 1 ya Looking For Mjolo. If you quit nna ketlaho Jaja😏 you are amazing and I pray that one day you're confident enough to see it. Things will fall into place... so long as you work towards it🥂
I loved the episode gents… 👊🏾✊🏾😅
What does one do when their own parent has a wrong perception of who you are and what you have done and the parent is refuses to ear them out.
This is so good ❤
The joke from 28:08 to 28:23 😭😭😭😭😭 that was a comedy special
Mjolo everyday
We watch
Malume TH-cam love this my favs❤❤❤❤
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
oeeee! i love this new angle😍😍😍
In life you need to be aware of your weaknesses so nobody can make you feel bad
Yup
Please bring Gugulethu as a guest
38:00 - Pride tries to control and manipulate someone else’s perception of us for our own selfish interests.
Honesty is being true to one’s actual convictions. But one’s actual convictions might not be true. It is possible for us to be honest and wrong at the same time.
In fact, the relief of finally being honest, even if what we are being honest about is wrong, can feel emancipating. We’ve all experienced or witnessed this. When someone who has been secretly struggling with homosexuality finally comes out and embraces it, it often feels wonderful and freeing. Or when someone who has professed faith in Christ secretly stops believing the reality of Christianity, it can be a great relief to finally admit it and stop pretending. Or when a spouse has secretly been committing adultery, it can feel liberating to bring it out into the open, even if they are not repentant. What each of these people experiences is a sense of being true to themselves, even if what they actually believe isn’t true and right.
My favs!❤️❤️
I started watching the wife because you suggested it
That social media chat
okay but how do i know if i'm being more flexible with my 'boundaries' or i'm letting go of my boundaries for the next person?
How does one subscribe to the “close friends “ 😭 I am struggling
Thato❤
❤️❤️
Seated with Lebo and Thato Ramopedi😢?
Lol now you're lactose intolerant? 🤣 Mxm.
I think boundaries derived from trauma aren't about do's and don'ts. It's about shielding yourself from enabling certain things over and over. And also, we have to differentiate between projecting and setting a boundaries. There's a thin line. Boundaries are meant to make things better in a sense that they enable you to be your true self without people pleasing. They deepen relationships.
Yes we watch❤😅
"Is she a boundary or a secret" Lmaooooo
Lol, we do watch the recommendations😂