Before I started watching your videos, I was totally burnt out. I so desperately wanted to love my children and enjoy them but I just wasn’t able to and I knew it was because they hadn’t been disciplined, I just had no idea how to do that without being angry. I blamed them for their bad behavior instead of taking responsibility for being the leader. I was yelling and angry at my kids and they would fight all the time and tell me no or fight and be mean to me when I tried to discipline them. (5, 4, 1.5) I was “disciplining” constantly in anger and no progress and felt hopeless. I had been having a hard time adjusting to our third kid but when I watched your videos I learned how to be accountable and accept the fact that a parent is supposed to be in charge and be accountable. I learned the difference between out of control emotions and behaviors and how to discipline the behaviors and talk with them and ignore the out of control emotions. I followed your instructions on how to be a leader and now I have the ENERGY and Time to be a mom. If I yelled, I got a consequence. I put my phone away and had to play with them for 10 mins. If they misbehaved, same thing. If they fought, I separated them and had one with me and the baby to talk or help me with something while the other played. I asked them more questions instead of getting angry with them when I separated them for arguing. I was more present with them without my phone and during meals because now they are actually sitting at the table. We bonded through talking and playing together and doing chores as a team. The only thing I try to look out for is our health and emotions related to that. I tracked our sleep, hydration, food and exercise. (10-30 jumping jack consequences + playing games w/ my kids as consequences for myself helped with that too) Without my phone, and my new ability to see my resentment as a lack of accountability, I was able to get a lot more done AND help my kids with the new tools I learned. I was able to prep meals ahead of time and that had been a huge changer as well. Thank you SOOO much for your work!! You have taught me something I was starting to feel hopeless without! Now I hope to share this information with those I know to help them too!! This has been life changing!
The first question mentioned the tatrums or episodes that make us late or set us back. I didn't hear that part addressed. What does a person do when the tatrum or episode they are experiencing can't run its course because we will be late for work? I've wrestled my half naked kid into car seats plenty of times, am i doing it right!?
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Before I started watching your videos, I was totally burnt out. I so desperately wanted to love my children and enjoy them but I just wasn’t able to and I knew it was because they hadn’t been disciplined, I just had no idea how to do that without being angry. I blamed them for their bad behavior instead of taking responsibility for being the leader. I was yelling and angry at my kids and they would fight all the time and tell me no or fight and be mean to me when I tried to discipline them. (5, 4, 1.5)
I was “disciplining” constantly in anger and no progress and felt hopeless.
I had been having a hard time adjusting to our third kid but when I watched your videos I learned how to be accountable and accept the fact that a parent is supposed to be in charge and be accountable. I learned the difference between out of control emotions and behaviors and how to discipline the behaviors and talk with them and ignore the out of control emotions. I followed your instructions on how to be a leader and now I have the ENERGY and Time to be a mom. If I yelled, I got a consequence. I put my phone away and had to play with them for 10 mins. If they misbehaved, same thing. If they fought, I separated them and had one with me and the baby to talk or help me with something while the other played.
I asked them more questions instead of getting angry with them when I separated them for arguing. I was more present with them without my phone and during meals because now they are actually sitting at the table. We bonded through talking and playing together and doing chores as a team.
The only thing I try to look out for is our health and emotions related to that. I tracked our sleep, hydration, food and exercise. (10-30 jumping jack consequences + playing games w/ my kids as consequences for myself helped with that too)
Without my phone, and my new ability to see my resentment as a lack of accountability, I was able to get a lot more done AND help my kids with the new tools I learned.
I was able to prep meals ahead of time and that had been a huge changer as well.
Thank you SOOO much for your work!! You have taught me something I was starting to feel hopeless without!
Now I hope to share this information with those I know to help them too!! This has been life changing!
The first question mentioned the tatrums or episodes that make us late or set us back. I didn't hear that part addressed. What does a person do when the tatrum or episode they are experiencing can't run its course because we will be late for work? I've wrestled my half naked kid into car seats plenty of times, am i doing it right!?