My mental journey has come in waves, that often take several months. 2024 has been a big growth year for me. My latest improvement is truly not wanting to explain myself to anyone...because no one is listening anyway. The egotism of wanting to be "heard and seen" has completely gone away, as I have finally found peace and contentment.
Back in my twenties, a cousin of mine told me that I was flaky, and would never amount to much. At the time I was doing odd jobs, and backpacking all over the southwest/ San Juan mountains. Actually I think he was jealous. I wasn’t fitting the norm, and that threatened him. Sometimes I’d feel like I wasn’t fitting in, that I was somehow damaged. However, I would see how shallow, and superficial society was, and that would validate my beliefs. I don’t regret wasting my youth on backpacking, or being different. I’ve had a rich life, and continue to.
No challenges. No struggles. No downside for me. Don't need validation. Comfortable in my own skin. Quite friendly with warm people. Don't embrace large gatherings. Enduring SMALL/superficial TALK for any length of time is tiresome; No pleasure in it at all. Prefer conversations of substance( non-fiction, facts). Takes effort to "be a friend". I do know that I don't need to socialize, so I must put forth effort to connect more. Perfectionism is finally waning(at 74). Have always tried to show others that l (as moderate stature) am equal to or better than them. Don't like to depend on others. Stoic outlook on life seems to keep things in balance. Don't need to follow/ Don't need to lead. Truth-teller. Kind, honest. Very grateful for who I am.
The main reason I don’t ask for help, is because I feel that everyone already has their own load to carry. I refuse to be a burden, if there is a slight possibility of figuring out a way to make it happen on my own. The other reason is, with help from others potentially comes manipulation. At the end of the day, I’d rather eat dirt than ask for help.
Being mostly sigma, I find that letting go is key. You need to be comfortable in your own presence. It requires a fair degree of mental mastery. Don't take this lightly.
Being a sigma male might seem appealing on the surface-independence, self-sufficiency, and the ability to walk your own path. But this video does a great job of showing the other side that often gets overlooked. The isolation, the constant battle with self-doubt, and the pressure to stay detached from others can take a toll on your mental and emotional well-being. It's a reminder that no matter how independent you are, human connections and emotional vulnerability are important for a fulfilling life. I really appreciate how this video highlights these aspects. Definitely worth watching for anyone who’s fascinated by the sigma male mindset!
And I forgot to mention , for point 3 , self - reliance , be prepared for anything , mentally and materially , is seen as "insecure" these days . While back 40 years ago it was known as "well-prepared" and was a positive . Then again , do you get to "choose" to not be prepared when you already are ? like a toggle that you can just forget ?
I seem to fit the sigma empath closely,with the arrival of the net it became much easier to research why I have lead a different life than most people, I wouldn't change it at all, for example who wants to be stuck in a sham marriage,pretending to love someone you're stuck with,who wants pretend friends who bitch about you to fit in with a peer group, I have a few great friends, at 61 I never found the perfect woman, I need humour, intellect, and character, and to have real feelings in return(always open to possibilities) the same for me, nothing less will do, it's not a lonely path for me, it's just my life, and I love it
'I am' so a Sigma male. Very extreme independent, strong, confident in myself, while being shy and not wanting the limelight. The Sigma male who likes the shadows of life, (Never knew he existed) yet, observing everyone. I'm a ghost of sorts...
Happy solstice everyone. It’s really great to know that there are others like me. It is only through having gone thru it that power of hindsight confirms that this is the blessing I always believed I felt in life while wondering wtf is wrong me. Nothing. Hail the 6%ers. ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊😊
@ I suppose that I did too. I may have misspoke or had some sigma level of humility. I achieved awards when I was not competing and had great praise throughout my life for my wide range of skills I acquired just doing what wanted and enjoyed. Hindsight again does tell me it was them. I am still in contact with my high school group of friends and it is still the same. Onward and upward my friend.
I feel like this misses one thing about five minutes in. I can struggle with asking for help for the reasons mentioned. But it's much more an issue of trust for me these days. People I have to ask for help don't listen to the details in a question of a smaller piece of a problem and I get vague, dismissive, or boastful answers that miss the point of the question. If I ask for a salad fork, I'm getting a golf club.
Agreed. That's why asking for help is pointless. No one has the clarity of a sigma. Except the rare instance of running into one in real life.. That's one of the disappointments of being sigma, understanding most people are ignorant due to superficial nonsense.
Have you ever had it where you try to explain your needs to someone, and you know exactly what you're saying, but the other person simply doesn't get it? They just look at you like you're asking them to design a rocket to go to Mars?
@@chazzmccloud36 I think that's a fair struggle for people of any kind. Of course it makes sense in your head. It's fair if you don't understand what's going on in my head. Conveying it for the next person to understand wouldn't be so frustrating if the person you're talking to would be good enough to say they don't understand. I'd be happy to engage a side conversation where we could achieve a mutual understanding. I'm happy to work on the shortcomings of my own communication, but so many others won't. They're only fluent in small talk and won't step out of their comfort zone. They'll either become dismissive or uncomfortable while they try to find a way to back out of the dialogue.
@@chazzmccloud36 It's fair if somebody doesn't understand you the way you do. Conversely, I understand your frustration. I feel like I've dumbed down enough conversations we should have been able to move forward faster. In all fairness, it's fine if somebody doesn't understand me. Where I get frustrated is that instead of having the tougher conversation where we figure out how to understand each other, the other party becomes dismissive, stands their ground on a stupid assumption, or gets uncomfortable to the point even I have a hard time backing out of the conversation amicably. Most people prefer to remain fluent in small talk and just small talk.
The way I chose to deal with the incessant societal pressures in America, and the constant shame and dissappointment being heaped on me, was to leave and move to another country. It was like I died and went to heaven. Never been happier.
I spend almost 100% of my time in the wilderness, I live here and when I go somewhere else it's just more wilderness, I avoid people and yet am an influential figure in the comunity I'd rather sit under a rock and think rather than be at an "event" or something.
I disagree with #3 it's not that I see asking for help as a weakness or vulnerability. It's the fact that most times, I've asked for help in life, it's just a painful reminder how clouded people's perception is.. It's best just to solo the issue or ask God for help/guidance if you're into spirituality.
I donno about others but is "Sigma" really a choice ? You just feel uncomfortable as is and I doubt that can be a "choice" . The same way I asked many others , if you do the same thing 20 times , would you find ways to make it better , or be more efficient even if you got paid . The common answer is "I am already getting paid , there is no need to do any better ." To me they are weird , to them I am weird . Is that even a "choice" tho ?
No, sigmas are born this way. I know this fact because at 6 yo I was already wanting to do the opposite of everyone else, and mainstream ideas were weird and annoying.
i don't think asking for help is a weakness. i just don't like asking people that i otherwise don't care about or even annoy me. i only know one person i can ask to help me move house and he is a genuinely nice person who would like to help me but he's an annoying idiot who will most likely damage my stuff. also, i think a lot of things that other people would say you shouldn't do alone, i actually want to accomplish alone because it presents a challenge and i like challenges. the feeling of accomplishment is just unmatched. but there are a few things that are just not feasible alone, like moving house. i did that when i moved in here but it was very stressful and it took me too long so it cost too much money for the rental van.
So everyone is a sigma male now sharing details about themselves in comments seeking validation or likes. No you're not a sigma male if you're expressing yourself to total strangers online.
My mental journey has come in waves, that often take several months. 2024 has been a big growth year for me. My latest improvement is truly not wanting to explain myself to anyone...because no one is listening anyway. The egotism of wanting to be "heard and seen" has completely gone away, as I have finally found peace and contentment.
It sounds like you're in a position to enjoy life.
Be yourself.
People do not have to like you, and you don't have to care.
@@pavlospilakoutas That's great as long as you don't work for someone who pays you to be the person THEY want you to be.
Just ensure that the peace and contentment is both genuine and sustainable. Sit in your own truth and know it.
💯🫡. Me too. Me too.
Back in my twenties, a cousin of mine told me that I was flaky, and would never amount to much. At the time I was doing odd jobs, and backpacking all over the southwest/ San Juan mountains. Actually I think he was jealous. I wasn’t fitting the norm, and that threatened him.
Sometimes I’d feel like I wasn’t fitting in, that I was somehow damaged. However, I would see how shallow, and superficial society was, and that would validate my beliefs.
I don’t regret wasting my youth on backpacking, or being different. I’ve had a rich life, and continue to.
Had so many folks tear me down, but at the end of the day I've found so many of them just completely jealous as they are in a stuck situation.
No challenges. No struggles. No downside for me. Don't need validation. Comfortable in my own skin. Quite friendly with warm people. Don't embrace large gatherings. Enduring SMALL/superficial TALK for any length of time is tiresome; No pleasure in it at all. Prefer conversations of substance( non-fiction, facts). Takes effort to "be a friend". I do know that I don't need to socialize, so I must put forth effort to connect more. Perfectionism is finally waning(at 74). Have always tried to show others that l (as moderate stature) am equal to or better than them. Don't like to depend on others. Stoic outlook on life seems to keep things in balance. Don't need to follow/ Don't need to lead. Truth-teller. Kind, honest. Very grateful for who I am.
The main reason I don’t ask for help, is because I feel that everyone already has their own load to carry. I refuse to be a burden, if there is a slight possibility of figuring out a way to make it happen on my own. The other reason is, with help from others potentially comes manipulation. At the end of the day, I’d rather eat dirt than ask for help.
The road I walk is always a challenge.
If someone is not authentic and lacking self-awareness, they don't stay long on my radar.
There is no external struggle, only opportunities to learn and grow. The internal struggle is an illusion. Surrender to yourself.
Yes. "Problems" are just emotions you don't want to feel.
absolutely amazing and accurate!
People hate that you dont need their validation and dont care. Its that simple.
Enjoying my own is company is what I prefer ,
Yup.
Being mostly sigma, I find that letting go is key. You need to be comfortable in your own presence. It requires a fair degree of mental mastery. Don't take this lightly.
Self reflection and ego death are key..
_Whosoever is delighted in solitude, is either a wild beast or a god._ - Aristotle
If you are a sigma male and and a life path 7 like me, this life will seem perfect.
Any chance of a 65 year old sigma male finding a sigma female? Is that a good or bad connection?
I'm 20+ years alone. Very lonely
Being a sigma male might seem appealing on the surface-independence, self-sufficiency, and the ability to walk your own path. But this video does a great job of showing the other side that often gets overlooked. The isolation, the constant battle with self-doubt, and the pressure to stay detached from others can take a toll on your mental and emotional well-being. It's a reminder that no matter how independent you are, human connections and emotional vulnerability are important for a fulfilling life. I really appreciate how this video highlights these aspects. Definitely worth watching for anyone who’s fascinated by the sigma male mindset!
This is my natural inclination. I don’t realize I’m doing it until days later
Very informative
Thank you so much.
You're welcome!
Very interesting analysis as always
Well done
The psychologist behind this is genius. Wow
And I forgot to mention , for point 3 , self - reliance , be prepared for anything , mentally and materially , is seen as "insecure" these days . While back 40 years ago it was known as "well-prepared" and was a positive . Then again , do you get to "choose" to not be prepared when you already are ? like a toggle that you can just forget ?
When you tap into God's frequency you're never alone.Be still and know I AM God...
That’s what I tell people. God is with me
@coldchillin8382 don't tell them that,show them
I seem to fit the sigma empath closely,with the arrival of the net it became much easier to research why I have lead a different life than most people, I wouldn't change it at all, for example who wants to be stuck in a sham marriage,pretending to love someone you're stuck with,who wants pretend friends who bitch about you to fit in with a peer group, I have a few great friends, at 61 I never found the perfect woman, I need humour, intellect, and character, and to have real feelings in return(always open to possibilities) the same for me, nothing less will do, it's not a lonely path for me, it's just my life, and I love it
your commentary is very precise and true, but the cartoons are ridiculous and makes a mockery of this valuable information
'I am' so a Sigma male. Very extreme independent, strong, confident in myself, while being shy and not wanting the limelight. The Sigma male who likes the shadows of life, (Never knew he existed) yet, observing everyone. I'm a ghost of sorts...
Happy solstice everyone. It’s really great to know that there are others like me. It is only through having gone thru it that power of hindsight confirms that this is the blessing I always believed I felt in life while wondering wtf is wrong me. Nothing. Hail the 6%ers. ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊😊
I concur, only, I spent much of the earlier part of my life wondering wtf was wrong with everyone else.
@ I suppose that I did too. I may have misspoke or had some sigma level of humility. I achieved awards when I was not competing and had great praise throughout my life for my wide range of skills I acquired just doing what wanted and enjoyed. Hindsight again does tell me it was them. I am still in contact with my high school group of friends and it is still the same. Onward and upward my friend.
Hey TH-cam, please stop deleting my replies on my own comments. I have meaningful shit to say...for real.
I feel like this misses one thing about five minutes in. I can struggle with asking for help for the reasons mentioned. But it's much more an issue of trust for me these days. People I have to ask for help don't listen to the details in a question of a smaller piece of a problem and I get vague, dismissive, or boastful answers that miss the point of the question. If I ask for a salad fork, I'm getting a golf club.
Agreed. That's why asking for help is pointless. No one has the clarity of a sigma. Except the rare instance of running into one in real life.. That's one of the disappointments of being sigma, understanding most people are ignorant due to superficial nonsense.
Have you ever had it where you try to explain your needs to someone, and you know exactly what you're saying, but the other person simply doesn't get it? They just look at you like you're asking them to design a rocket to go to Mars?
@chazzmccloud36 Yes.. another key mentality trait is knowing when to remain silent. Some things are just better left unsaid.
@@chazzmccloud36 I think that's a fair struggle for people of any kind. Of course it makes sense in your head. It's fair if you don't understand what's going on in my head. Conveying it for the next person to understand wouldn't be so frustrating if the person you're talking to would be good enough to say they don't understand. I'd be happy to engage a side conversation where we could achieve a mutual understanding. I'm happy to work on the shortcomings of my own communication, but so many others won't. They're only fluent in small talk and won't step out of their comfort zone. They'll either become dismissive or uncomfortable while they try to find a way to back out of the dialogue.
@@chazzmccloud36 It's fair if somebody doesn't understand you the way you do. Conversely, I understand your frustration. I feel like I've dumbed down enough conversations we should have been able to move forward faster. In all fairness, it's fine if somebody doesn't understand me. Where I get frustrated is that instead of having the tougher conversation where we figure out how to understand each other, the other party becomes dismissive, stands their ground on a stupid assumption, or gets uncomfortable to the point even I have a hard time backing out of the conversation amicably. Most people prefer to remain fluent in small talk and just small talk.
There’s no overcoming who you are…
The way I chose to deal with the incessant societal pressures in America, and the constant shame and dissappointment being heaped on me, was to leave and move to another country. It was like I died and went to heaven. Never been happier.
We'll carry on doing our thing regardless of the sheer hatefulness and envy of the NPC's that surround us.
It's definitely a Catch 22
I spend almost 100% of my time in the wilderness, I live here and when I go somewhere else it's just more wilderness, I avoid people and yet am an
influential figure in the comunity I'd rather sit under a rock and think rather than be at an "event" or something.
I disagree with #3 it's not that I see asking for help as a weakness or vulnerability. It's the fact that most times, I've asked for help in life, it's just a painful reminder how clouded people's perception is.. It's best just to solo the issue or ask God for help/guidance if you're into spirituality.
Wow, its exciting like me! Its eeery that I'm hearing everything about my life!
Its exactly like me *
So true :(
Solitude from other people is easy, get a dog
You nailed me. Dad... is that you? lol
Yes, this is dad. Clean your room, son.
I donno about others but is "Sigma" really a choice ? You just feel uncomfortable as is and I doubt that can be a "choice" .
The same way I asked many others , if you do the same thing 20 times , would you find ways to make it better , or be more efficient even if you got paid . The common answer is "I am already getting paid , there is no need to do any better ." To me they are weird , to them I am weird . Is that even a "choice" tho ?
No, sigmas are born this way. I know this fact because at 6 yo I was already wanting to do the opposite of everyone else, and mainstream ideas were weird and annoying.
i don't think asking for help is a weakness. i just don't like asking people that i otherwise don't care about or even annoy me. i only know one person i can ask to help me move house and he is a genuinely nice person who would like to help me but he's an annoying idiot who will most likely damage my stuff.
also, i think a lot of things that other people would say you shouldn't do alone, i actually want to accomplish alone because it presents a challenge and i like challenges. the feeling of accomplishment is just unmatched. but there are a few things that are just not feasible alone, like moving house. i did that when i moved in here but it was very stressful and it took me too long so it cost too much money for the rental van.
needing people ain't a bitch (quote from movie ) and we all know the different ...
im identifying completely with all that been said. 100% accuracy to my life situation
''endure'' that is the ticket
So everyone is a sigma male now sharing details about themselves in comments seeking validation or likes. No you're not a sigma male if you're expressing yourself to total strangers online.
Yet here you are putting in your two cents worth 🙄
Couldn't take that one then eh? Weak. Shame on you. So stoic huh. 😂 🤏
piano is horrible
Interesting