Most of the time it's unresolved psychological issues. Laura should have insisted on counseling for the family and should not have let the stepdad take over. Yelling at her, scolding her and trying to punish her did no good.
Parents, forget that by natural law, we need to allowed for our precious children to make their own mistakes, like the time, that they start crawling, standing, walking, running around in there walker, putting us on our tippy toe., It's heart breaking, but we need to update our parenting, co-parenting, communication, mentoring etc..,
In my opinion, the grandmother was right. Kelly was raised with absolutely no rules or discipline. And, it’s really late in the game to start now. You must start when they’re very young. It would have been nice if at the end of the movie, a scene showed Kelly telling her reckless boyfriend that she couldn’t see him anymore. Then, it would’ve showed that she had matured and learned something. There are 2 kinds of discipline: constructive, lessons learned discipline, OR abusive, crippling discipline. Kelly would’ve thrived under constructive discipline that promotes confidence and self-esteem. I am a Mother that practiced “alternative discipline” because of the abusive way my father had treated us. Because of his treatment, I had absolutely no self-esteem. When I became a Mother, I read every book I could get my hands on that taught discipline without being abusive. We had some rough times, but I stuck to my guidelines, and it was all worth it in the end. Now, my adult children are college educated and have the confidence that I had always lacked. God’s Blessings to everyone out there❣️🙏😇
Yes, tend to agree with the judge's decision to remove Kelly to a different environment - seperated from her mother. However, placing an already troubled girl together with a group of delinquents does not make much sense.
My son had to go to Juvi for a few days and a detention center two weeks, he came out a changed man were super close now. He came after me with a 🔪 while staying with my mom she allowed him to miss 21 days of school and play video games all day. I went to get bring his butt back home from grandmas and he became irate!
I really hated that floozy defense attorney that not only got the daughter's name wrong, but also mixed up the time for the hearing and the mother unknowingly came late because of that "mistake."
This mother has an issue of her own. If my child said that she wishes I was dead instead of her dad well I would let her stay in jail and wash my hands of her. That child of hers has some serious issues. If she hates her mother that bad that she hits her, I would be afraid of my life that she might kill me.
Feelings of shame and worthlessness, learned helplessness, detachment, suppression of emotions and memories, difficulty in maintaining relationships... These are some symptoms of Complex Trauma (CPTSD). In this mother's case also involving betrayal by her abusive spouse.
The fact, that Kelly's father committed suicide, should had been more than enough to request family therapy, individual therapy or in home arrest etc.., But not illicit tort wrongful incarceration.,
It's no excuse for her to break the law. She is just as guilty for stealing. If you sit in car while your friends Rob store and you drive away with them you are guilty.
Yes, that was a positive step towards working with, instead of against her mother. At least there was some personal growth during the time Kelly was forcefully seperated from her family. Being subjected to the harsh environment of the institution, as well as the period of isolation both played a role.
This movie is a lesson to parent when they try to take the easy way out in parenting. You raise your child to have everything even when it kills u and yet u will have ungrateful kids. Kelly was just making bad choices because she knew she has a good life and a weak mother.
Inefficient parental control and lack of guidance did play a role in Kelly's disrespectful behaviour. Yet, would you not agree there was more to it; taking into account Kelly's history of witnessing the domestic violence inflicted on her mother? Adjusting to family life, after her mother's second marriage, also was a difficult transition to make.
It was not only about his absence, but she was hurting and fearful also, because of knowing about/witnessing her father's violent, abusive behaviour towards her mother. Before and after his death suppressing those painful memories, though still loving and idolising him, while taking out her bottled-up feelings of anger and resentment on her detached mother, who was locked into a state of learned helplessness.
Both mother and daugther were suffering from complex (betrayal) trauma; resulting from the domestic violence endured while the husband/father was alive, and would have benefited from therapy. Symptoms of CPTSD include difficulty in maintaining reationships, detatchment, trouble in regulating emotions, anxiety&depression, suppression of memories with momentary flashbacks, learned helplessness, feelings of shame & worthlessness; besides for physical symptoms related to being locked into a sympathetic dominant state. Scary to imagine that such horrible, vindictive case workers are actually part of the system.
once she agreed to putting her in jail overnnight i knew it wasnt gonna be just 1 night. yes kids need to learn from their own mistakes but going from 1 night to up to 18m is insane i wouldnt ever let that happen to my children..
@@SteveC84 Agree... The journey was tough, yet in the end was the best what could have happened to her; not only to teach about the harsh consequences of delinquent behaviour, but also to make her aware of what she should be thankful for.
Remember her from a movie where she got married to a much older man, who had shamelessly groomed her beforehand, and then later - from jail - had conspired to have her killed.
Teenagers are the parent nowadays. Conflict with my wife due to she is a helicopter and I’m the lawnmower parent. Mine is 22 and has depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and paranoia. I’m 61 and these behaviors practically were nonexistent back then. Am I missing something?🙁
36:00 Paris Hilton's sentencing reenacted back in 2008-09 or whenever it was- Also, enough with that stupid annoying "music" playing throughout the movie!!
Omg I totally agree! I’m going to shut the movie off, the music is awful and so annoying! It’s so loud at times that you can’t even hear what the actors are saying at times.
@@cathymartin6085 the movie is actually worth watching. That noise doesn’t continue forever. I’m glad I watched it. It’s a good one for young girls and their moms. I’m not even a mom and I liked it.
Slowly it went, and painful to witness... Fortunately towards the end there was marked growth in both of them towards taking personal responsibility... Would you not agree the therapy helped them to deal with suppressed emotions, to re-connect, and work together as a team?
Therapy woulda been better then allowing the law to get involved.. individual and mother and daughter and then family so they can all get an idea where their at and meet somewhere in middle.. communicate with each other.. the girls a kid .. and going through puberty and I know I wasn’t a joy to deal with either that age.. but had someone just talked to me and tried to understand from my perspective things coulda been better Being a teen is hard. Really hard.
young lady you got cold you couldnt handle the changes and treated your parent bad because you had to handle a loss when you should have worked with your parent not hurt her she deserves to be happy too doesn't mean she doesn't love you others in her life doesn't mean her love left you even if other come in her life she still loves you
part 2,kelly gets back with her boyfriend and they plot to murder her family because they've said she cant see him anymore . seems to me kelly is a narcissist who does whatever she wants regardless of who might get hurt along the way and her mother was a weak woman who cant see the child she is raising is like that
This movie really tries hard to make you feel sorry for both the mom and the daughter. But the reality is that this whole mess was BOTH of their fault!
@vanessa2888 I agree. But that's why her daughter got caught up in that mess. What they say is true about how good parenting starts at home. It also shows how the legal system, at least in some areas, can be really screwed up,
They got messed up during the time of violent domestic abuse inflicted upon the mother. Unresolved trauma has long-lasting effects on behaviour. Trauma inflicted while growing up also impacts brain development.
@@maricamaas2326 Beautiful name you have, btw. And you're right. Even though they went to counseling by the beginning of the movie, it still wasn't enough to move them forward. But the mom really needed to be more of a mom rather than let her daughter start the same downhill slope that the father did.
Oh now the MOM is sorry because the kid is stuck in juvvy for her own bad behavior and now we're all in shock and horror over the big bad facilities instead of focusing on this girl's crappy behavior. Give me a break.
@@maricamaas2326 TRUE BUT AT FIRST I FIND SHE WAS CHOOSING HIM AND WHAT EVER HE SAID OVER THE DAUGHTER. BUT, IN THE END FINALLY THE MOTHER, AND HUSBAND WERE ON THE SAME PAGE; AND THINGS WERE OK.
oh my. This kid needs help. shes terrible. I wish shed be more disciplined. Therapy would actually be beneficial. great movie. You know its good when you get to really hate the characters
Raising kids with discipline helps keeping kids out of a crap system like this
Correct
Not always.
Sometimes I’ve seen some of the best parents end up with criminals for children. It’s more than just discipline. Wouldn’t you agree?
Most of the time it's unresolved psychological issues.
Laura should have insisted on counseling for the family and should not have let the stepdad take over.
Yelling at her, scolding her and trying to punish her did no good.
Most of the time, they grow out of it. If not, they end up in jail as frequent fliers!
If I spoke like that to my Mom I would be a time traveler because she would’ve knocked me into next Tuesday! I never dared test those waters.
That court scene was the definition of when being petty goes wrong.
The things kids say to their parents is just so sad, and it's still happening to 😢
Parents, forget that by natural law, we need to allowed for our precious children to make their own mistakes, like the time, that they start crawling, standing, walking, running around in there walker, putting us on our tippy toe., It's heart breaking, but we need to update our parenting, co-parenting, communication, mentoring etc..,
Kelly brought it on herself
YES,
I have to say if I'd spoken to my mum like that, when I was Kelly's age, i wouldn't be here now to write this comment. My mum was extremely strict
Probably not...but you probably would have been grounded to your room for the next year.
More like grounded for the next year.
Imagine hitting your mum! I would have been dead meat.
I would've been picking myself and teeth off the ground.
@@jennygabbard6421
Wow, a violent mum. Well, a healthy parent would have hauled their kid to a good psychologist.
In my opinion, the grandmother was right. Kelly was raised with absolutely no rules or discipline. And, it’s really late in the game to start now. You must start when they’re very young. It would have been nice if at the end of the movie, a scene showed Kelly telling her reckless boyfriend that she couldn’t see him anymore. Then, it would’ve showed that she had matured and learned something. There are 2 kinds of discipline: constructive, lessons learned discipline, OR abusive, crippling discipline. Kelly would’ve thrived under constructive discipline that promotes confidence and self-esteem. I am a Mother that practiced “alternative discipline” because of the abusive way my father had treated us. Because of his treatment, I had absolutely no self-esteem. When I became a Mother, I read every book I could get my hands on that taught discipline without being abusive. We had some rough times, but I stuck to my guidelines, and it was all worth it in the end. Now, my adult children are college educated and have the confidence that I had always lacked. God’s Blessings to everyone out there❣️🙏😇
Unless you had a daughter with ADHD that wasn't even known to the public yet and no behavioral therapy available and discipline doesn't do anything.😂❤
you reap what you sow!
Am a good mom thanks to God not out in the streets turned my life around I don't care what the enemy has to tell me
Kelly was out of control
Yes, tend to agree with the judge's decision to remove Kelly to a different environment - seperated from her mother. However, placing an already troubled girl together with a group of delinquents does not make much sense.
Mom: Was it awful in jail?
Daughter: No worse than living with you mom.
If I was the mom I'd take her back there
My son had to go to Juvi for a few days and a detention center two weeks, he came out a changed man were super close now. He came after me with a 🔪 while staying with my mom she allowed him to miss 21 days of school and play video games all day. I went to get bring his butt back home from grandmas and he became irate!
I really hated that floozy defense attorney that not only got the daughter's name wrong, but also mixed up the time for the hearing and the mother unknowingly came late because of that "mistake."
I hope kelly doesn't go back with that boyfriend.. He will alway wind up in trouble
This mother has an issue of her own. If my child said that she wishes I was dead instead of her dad well I would let her stay in jail and wash my hands of her. That child of hers has some serious issues. If she hates her mother that bad that she hits her, I would be afraid of my life that she might kill me.
I agree, this girl was horrible, I would have been washed my hands of her.
Indeed a sad reality life became tough we the parents are dis respected and we don’t know where to except dealing with it at the child’s pace
KOREK👍👍👍
Feelings of shame and worthlessness, learned helplessness, detachment, suppression of emotions and memories, difficulty in maintaining relationships... These are some symptoms of Complex Trauma (CPTSD). In this mother's case also involving betrayal by her abusive spouse.
The fact, that Kelly's father committed suicide, should had been more than enough to request family therapy, individual therapy or in home arrest etc.., But not illicit tort wrongful incarceration.,
It's no excuse for her to break the law. She is just as guilty for stealing. If you sit in car while your friends Rob store and you drive away with them you are guilty.
Mother's mother knows what she talking about
Good job for Kelly, for realizing the snake that the social worker is, for trying to convince her to betrayed her Moms attempt to get her free.,
Yes, that was a positive step towards working with, instead of against her mother. At least there was some personal growth during the time Kelly was forcefully seperated from her family. Being subjected to the harsh environment of the institution, as well as the period of isolation both played a role.
This isthe corect image of family , love and pain toghether .
Such systems destroy children and makes it worser than when they first go into it!! Imagine if you don't have anyone to fight for you🥹⁉️
This movie is a lesson to parent when they try to take the easy way out in parenting. You raise your child to have everything even when it kills u and yet u will have ungrateful kids. Kelly was just making bad choices because she knew she has a good life and a weak mother.
Inefficient parental control and lack of guidance did play a role in Kelly's disrespectful behaviour. Yet, would you not agree there was more to it; taking into account Kelly's history of witnessing the domestic violence inflicted on her mother? Adjusting to family life, after her mother's second marriage, also was a difficult transition to make.
She was hurting over dad.
Doesn't excuse being a brat.
It was not only about his absence, but she was hurting and fearful also, because of knowing about/witnessing her father's violent, abusive behaviour towards her mother. Before and after his death suppressing those painful memories, though still loving and idolising him, while taking out her bottled-up feelings of anger and resentment on her detached mother, who was locked into a state of learned helplessness.
❤❤❤nice 👍 movie
great movie
What comes around goes around 😢!!!+
Tough love❤
The girl was horrible, if she would have shut her mouth maybe they would have let her go home.
What kind of a daughter are you? Should be the title...leave her in jail..she'll learn.
The step brother had her back 😫
SO TRUE AMEN 🙏
That mum should have insisted on counseling for herself and her daughter as soon as the dad committed suicide.
The real question is, how was it when she got home? What about Jake?
good movie i have seen it 2 or 3 times a few times back in the day... the actor that plays kelly shes good
The music that keeps interrupting the movie is annoying
That mother totally clueless
Both mother and daugther were suffering from complex (betrayal) trauma; resulting from the domestic violence endured while the husband/father was alive, and would have benefited from therapy. Symptoms of CPTSD include difficulty in maintaining reationships, detatchment, trouble in regulating emotions, anxiety&depression, suppression of memories with momentary flashbacks, learned helplessness, feelings of shame & worthlessness; besides for physical symptoms related to being locked into a sympathetic dominant state.
Scary to imagine that such horrible, vindictive case workers are actually part of the system.
once she agreed to putting her in jail overnnight i knew it wasnt gonna be just 1 night. yes kids need to learn from their own mistakes but going from 1 night to up to 18m is insane i wouldnt ever let that happen to my children..
I would. Why be soft with your kids. They need to learn. The law is the law. Accountability
@@SteveC84
Agree... The journey was tough, yet in the end was the best what could have happened to her; not only to teach about the harsh consequences of delinquent behaviour, but also to make her aware of what she should be thankful for.
Girl that's plays n this is a good actress.
shes also on the movie where shes sleeping with her best friendds dad and shes on bethoven
Remember her from a movie where she got married to a much older man, who had shamelessly groomed her beforehand, and then later - from jail - had conspired to have her killed.
Teenagers are the parent nowadays. Conflict with my wife due to she is a helicopter and I’m the lawnmower parent. Mine is 22 and has depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and paranoia. I’m 61 and these behaviors practically were nonexistent back then. Am I missing something?🙁
22 is not a teenager. 22 is grown adult. Those are real treatable conditions. She needs to be willing to talk to her doctor.
This show is crap with mother ending up a hero when she is the one that created this mess
36:00 Paris Hilton's sentencing reenacted back in 2008-09 or whenever it was- Also, enough with that stupid annoying "music" playing throughout the movie!!
It’s noise to me too. 🙄
Very annoying...
Omg I totally agree! I’m going to shut the movie off, the music is awful and so annoying! It’s so loud at times that you can’t even hear what the actors are saying at times.
@@cathymartin6085 the movie is actually worth watching. That noise doesn’t continue forever. I’m glad I watched it. It’s a good one for young girls and their moms. I’m not even a mom and I liked it.
Neither the mother or daughter has taken any responablity for anything or learned anything from this
Slowly it went, and painful to witness... Fortunately towards the end there was marked growth in both of them towards taking personal responsibility... Would you not agree the therapy helped them to deal with suppressed emotions, to re-connect, and work together as a team?
“What kind of mother are you?”One that shouldn’t have kids….
Instead of jumping from one man to another ,look after your kids. Kids don't like broken marriages. Think of them, otherwise you lose everything.
Therapy woulda been better then allowing the law to get involved.. individual and mother and daughter and then family so they can all get an idea where their at and meet somewhere in middle.. communicate with each other..
the girls a kid .. and going through puberty and I know I wasn’t a joy to deal with either that age.. but had someone just talked to me and tried to understand from my perspective things coulda been better
Being a teen is hard. Really hard.
These parents need in jail with their Kids .they don't teach to mind ,then when they are older the cops have to deal with the brats
Thank you for uploading this video.
This movie reminds me of the movie in which Kellie Martin stars. I think it is called, "On The Edge of Innocence."
I would never allow my daughter to see that boyfriend anymore and do better than
Love what the black girl told her.
I know she is from that camp show from Nick..
Good movie
young lady you got cold you couldnt handle the changes and treated your parent bad because you had to handle a loss when you should have worked with your parent not hurt her she deserves to be happy too doesn't mean she doesn't love you others in her life doesn't mean her love left you even if other come in her life she still loves you
That slap! God
I would forbid to see that boy because the boy was trouble from the word go
Im pretty sure Kelly is in Beethoven with that dog
Megan as mom.here. Beauty Megan Megan we missed Megan talk to us Cher Sony broke up hurt us
part 2,kelly gets back with her boyfriend and they plot to murder her family because they've said she cant see him anymore . seems to me kelly is a narcissist who does whatever she wants regardless of who might get hurt along the way and her mother was a weak woman who cant see the child she is raising is like that
Our mom just doesn't want to see you happy is all
This movie really tries hard to make you feel sorry for both the mom and the daughter. But the reality is that this whole mess was BOTH of their fault!
The girl's grandmother was right. If her mom would have set boundaries and rules for her daughter, she probably wouldn't be in this situation.
@vanessa2888 I agree. But that's why her daughter got caught up in that mess. What they say is true about how good parenting starts at home. It also shows how the legal system, at least in some areas, can be really screwed up,
Like what the black girl told her.
They got messed up during the time of violent domestic abuse inflicted upon the mother. Unresolved trauma has long-lasting effects on behaviour. Trauma inflicted while growing up also impacts brain development.
@@maricamaas2326 Beautiful name you have, btw. And you're right. Even though they went to counseling by the beginning of the movie, it still wasn't enough to move them forward. But the mom really needed to be more of a mom rather than let her daughter start the same downhill slope that the father did.
Pattern there the mom's mom relationship. And her with own daughter smh..
❤❤ good / bad. ??????
Definitely not latina😂
22:57...That police officer didn't answer her question.
Why did the cops arrest the guy who did the actual crime.
the girl is being a brat you hit your parent and acting up you belong in jail
That is ryce from Beethoven....
Big. Bub
What type of daughter r u putting your hands on your mom. N some parents are not saints.
Why is it that every lifetime movie is a true story? Not buying it.
Oh now the MOM is sorry because the kid is stuck in juvvy for her own bad behavior and now we're all in shock and horror over the big bad facilities instead of focusing on this girl's crappy behavior. Give me a break.
Daughter didn't know th truth.
This mother is a poor mother she chooses her husband over her daughter.
Rather it was the hurting daughter who was selfish, and did not have empathy towards her mother. Kelly admitted to this towards the end.
@@maricamaas2326 TRUE BUT AT FIRST I FIND SHE WAS CHOOSING HIM AND WHAT EVER HE SAID OVER THE DAUGHTER. BUT, IN THE END FINALLY THE MOTHER, AND HUSBAND WERE ON THE SAME PAGE; AND THINGS WERE OK.
These shows are so fake though my son got charged with domestic violence felony and got two days.
This girls playing a good part because I can’t stand her! 😂
Mom is clueless
oh my. This kid needs help. shes terrible. I wish shed be more disciplined. Therapy would actually be beneficial. great movie. You know its good when you get to really hate the characters
Social worker did ner job. This kid is out of control. Stealing a shirt. Burglarizing a store. Running away.
There was something seriously wrong with that case worker assigned to Kelly 😮
That lady was just evil.
The teen ager need a GOD'S true religion so she can follow it.Then bring heŕ to a phschiatrist to evaluatè everything.
I don’t call them kids.
Babe I love you so
Much are my boyfriend mean two lol
11:36 he's no perfect angel, but at least he put a seatbelt on, the little hussy didn't.
Lol😂
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