Feeling Neglected By My Husband
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ก.ย. 2024
- If you feel as though you are no longer a priority in your husbands life, then this is for you. It’s important that we define what type of neglect we are referring to. For this episode, we are talking about being neglected in the form of intimacy, lack of sex, or feeling like you are no longer a priority.
If you are being neglected in the form of feeling unsafe, not provided for, not fed, or abused then you need to call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline at this phone number: 800-799-7233
But if you are like one of the millions of women who feel as though your husband doesn’t love you anymore, and you’re desperately trying to get his attention in order to rebuild intimacy, passion and have a great marriage, then you need to take notes.
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I never thought you could feel lonely in a marriage, but I was wrong.
I was just thinking about this. I didn't know that marriage could be so lonely.
@@mabel9224 that’s sad 😔 Marriage should be a safe Haven
Yes, I meet his needs I cook all meals, clean, do all laundry and I give him time alone! He still will not talk to me!
Came here looking for answers to this…
Same here
He does all these activities with others but nothing but post office with me
I feel like a piece of furniture that waits to be useful
Your not good enough ha ha ha ha
Me too, my husband says he doesn't know what to say.
@@allaboutrap1 be a better wife.
how come before marriage they knew to bring flowers and gifts and hugs and after marriage we have to tell them?
Get with the nice guy that shows love in different ways not with gifts but gestures that never end that you feel loved sad times now days
Because they did it to get one thing. The one thing they always want and only thing they think about and ask for whether they meet your needs or not.
Because women change once they realize they have the man too
I have shared my needs and he is considerate for about a month then goes back to the neglectful ways of not checking up on me for many hours yet he says how he hates it when I’m alone when I’m not working. His family is also unloving to each other and no emotion. It robs my security to my core that he is so mindless.
Uhhh sounds like my Ex 😂
What if you tell him your needs and he doesn't listen.
Your feelings don't matter . They never did it's true.
I agree and I'm also in same situation don't know what to do. 🙄
Same situation. In my case, I think he just doesn’t care. It’s a look he wants, perfect family, but he doesn’t care. Your situation may well be different. God bless.
Or you tell him over and over and he does it once or twice then stops???
@@veebliss1266They do what want so twice and then stop. And then you have to have a saying conversation again. It's just like your feelings don't matter. But you want me to stop into? Just jump on anything. You say do if you wanna do something. It always benefits you.
I’ve tried talking to my husband and he doesn’t listen. He will say okay he will work on it but it never changes. I’ve asked him what he wants in return and I never get a clear answer. I’m at a loss
Sounds familiar
I'm a man and my wife is neglecting me. I feel lost. There is so little help for men.
I'm sorry. It is terrible.
I'm a year late but update😮 please...because I pray that your bond with your wife is solid now. Did you talk to her and resolve the issue? 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
10 years of marriage and no gifts from him not even from the street bins
Start getting attention from prettier females
Bro there are tons of videos for men, change ur search key words and add “for men”
My husband is not meeting my needs at all. I feel so broken.
Im sorry you are going through that. I am as well so I know how hurtful it is
Im sorry you are going through that. I am as well so I know how hurtful it is
Find someone that loves u and meets all those needs you
@@MyCatsChannel841 foolish take
Asked and asked,asked again specifically asked, waited waited waited, was considerate of his day and needs fulfilled his needs, waited some more still no needs got fulfilled and in fact by asking needs got met less, rejection set in and now I’m upset and I don’t even want my needs me nor do I even want to ask him because then I feel like I’m begging someone who claims to love me ! While he sits in his free time staring his phone . I’ve just come to a feeling of uselessness to him. I guess I choose to meet my own needs! I don’t think you should have to ask someone to love you when they said and say that they do, while they reduce you to feeling pathetic and like you are begging someone to want you.
100%, same here.
I’m so sorry you are going through that. It is not right. I kinda feel that too and I think it’s sad that we are the ones watching the videos and asking. They should try and when they don’t how c add n we ignore what that communicates.
I'm so sorry I know how you feel ❤
I get this more than I can put into words …. At a breaking point.
My husband just work, play video games, drink whisky and play with the child. I do all the house work and I have all in order and perfect plus I put money for rent and expenses. I was free and happier before. His priority are his martial arts and pals and the child and probably me. I am leaving for a month on vacations I cannot live like this anymore it is a mental torture.
Time for change 😂my gosh I could never stay believe me my child’s father was this way ridiculous we birth Childeren we deserve respect
In 2023 I feel like your husband can google tricks and tips on how to make you feel more appreciated/wanted… and if he doesn’t it does feel like he truly does not care about you… or maybe it’s just me lol but if my partner just sat on the couch and I had to always tell him what I need… that sounds exhausting like I need to twist his arm everytime!
I say this all of the time. They don’t care to learn.
I feel neglected and unwanted.
What happens it you ask for date night to your husband means just going out to eat somewhere and then coming home TV. If I don't come up with ideas for a fun date night that's all we do
lol 😂 am a homebody but my Husband sounds like your comment he’s like you never wanna go anywere am like we got food that’s somewhere 😂
Yep I’ve been telling him for 10 years…. It’s sad bc I love him, we’re good friends and enjoy his companionship but I need him to carry a little care and concern for the marriage and our relationship. I think after 29 years of marriage I’m about to join the “walk away wife club”
i have nothing left to give I cook half the time Itake care of the house kids pets etc
I am tired and have been ignored for so long I am used to it and dont want anything anymore it's sad
I feel the same way. I have lost all hope and I don't want to ask him anymore. I've decided to work on myself and spend time with friends and family.
That's a challenge when a husband says he won't give you his affection and love because he's no longer in love with you, but he only wants your intimacy on his terms, but he wont allow you to express your love and affection to him anymore.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with these games. This is your heartbreak your rules. That's just my opinion. But I'm sure marriage helper would agree but the best thing you can do for yourself which works in general for anything in life not just marriage problems, is work on your pies. I believe they had a very cheap course on pies and you think you may understand the concept but it gets into depth. It can apply to anyone in anything in life especially marriage. I've been through this and it really sucks and people can't have their cake and eat it too. That's just my opinion. You will feel so much more respect for yourself and he will also notice. Best wishes to you!
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Okay but what if you tell them the need and they just refuse to do it? Either say they will but never do. Or tell you their parents never did that to make you feel like your needs are unreasonable and they have a good reason for not doing what you ask. Flowers and date nights? That sounds like a fairy tale. I could beg for that all day long and never get it. I work a 10-hour day and then ask him to feed my kids so I can go see my mother in the hospital and he won’t even do it.
Hi i'm a man and my husband Is the same way He never wants to spend any time with me. I hate to give him the silent treatment because that's toxic.
What? That's the only way I can get him to spend time with me. Acknowledged that I'm there. I do everything around the house. I could clean. I have a job. He doesn't do anything but work and I work more hours😢😢
Leave bye bye 👋
I met them I went beyond. Now years later I'm in need n he is clueless and won't even try.
Thank you so much for putting this into words. As a husband who has given up a lot for his family's future (not a blind workaholic) its good for women to understand that as men we want to meet their needs but are human and limited. If I've put in multiple 12-14hr days between work and a home reno when she didnt want to join in, I just need a chamce to rest so I can be the best version of myself for her. Its not because we don't want to connect, it's because as men we have different needs in order to connect in a healthy state of mind and body. We're still learning and growing.
I wish my wife could listen to this
Unfortunately these days, alot of husbands are distracted by social media, TH-cam with their headphones on, and doesn't talk to their wives every evening.... so theres no communication, if theres no communication, then what???
You say tell him what you need and let him tell you what he needs, that doesn’t work for everyone. My husband is emotionally unavailable, and when I try to conversate with him, I get a one worded answers or nothing at all.
I understand what you are saying. I am a man in my husband is the same way. I just feel like do what is going on.
It's like almost who is this person.
Only after And we just got married haven't been married six months
He said he do not need my help. He do not need anything from me. Just leave him alone
Okay, what if you start meeting all the needs and it builds him, but everything you build he gives that attention and energy to other women.
So I guess when I’m needing my husband to be there when I’m crying over my hard life I have where I care for my adult daughter and grandchildren all day & he leaves right away because he’s getting HIS needs … I guess I’m supposed to just think to myself that he needs that time alone and forget about me. I say what I need and he kisses me son the cheek and leaves anyway … his needs met would mean him leaving and that’s and that’s up to him . I am being ignored and over meeting everyone else’s needs allllllllllllllll the time … sometimes people just don’t care
Why would I show up for my spouse when he won't show up for me?
I told him . He tried do it in short time but he is still do same
Yup they never change never will😂
I am dating a workaholic. I have been SO involved in his world and he has barely been involved in mine. Idk what to do...stay, leave, idk. This is so difficult. I never have any success (long term) in my relationships. I just wanna give up
Dude Im just really angry and sad at this point. And yes I truly feel that a real man should know that if his partner says I feel alone and sad(through tears), that he should just atleast say something and not just say "I don't want to deal with this and I don't have time for this". To really just say something like I'm here for you and I don't want you to feel alone or sad.
When I tell my wife what my needs are they go in one ear and out the other she acts like she doesn’t care.
This is my husband as well and Im very open, communicative- its like talkin to a brick wall. Its very frustruating and dissapointing.
Than why stay ?
Sorry but 25 years I'm telling him very simply and clearly what I need and ask him what he needs. It's over and over the same speech like a broken record. Whenever I asked him what does he need he always used to say "nothing stop with this it's getting boring".
Like I can text him a whole paragraph and he just texts back “ok.” Or leave me on read and say he didn’t know i texted him🙄
It is not what we say marriage should be, but what God (The originator of marriage) says that it should be.
What if your needs are opposite? And compromise just leaves both of you a bit disappointed?
If I ask him how can I help him or support him -he will declare I can never keep him happy or support him 😢 He uses this situation to hurt me even more.
Giving a thumb down because her husband doesn’t want to be married. Women cannot babysitter their men. Period
I know exactly how it feels. Before we separated, I spent the better part of last few years dealing with my husbands work and constant travel (and how easy it became for him to leave). He never expressed or said a word to me about his feelings-hence why were where we are now. And no I wasn’t meeting his needs because I became hurt and rude and offensive. And no I didn’t communicate my needs-I told him what he wasn’t doing right all the time. Him leaving didn’t tell me anything specific, he’s not still said a word about real specifics. I have taken this opportunity to dive deeply into myself to learn what I didn’t do right and to change. It’s not easy and I’ll say it again-it is unfair that when a man lacks the ability to tell you how he feels and shoves his own feelings down until he explodes-it will always be our job as women to set the tone because we’re far more capable of understanding our feelings and dealing with them. I hate it. And Kimberly is always on the mark with these things, especially for those of us who deal with anxiety and depression long before marriage crisis.
And this is always the woman's reason to start cheating. Women will use any perceived alight to start looking elsewhere.
This is an amazing comment and very insightful. I am the husband who was emotionally distant for the last two years... a walking zombie, until my wife FINALLY called me out on it and starting using words like "separation" and "divorce attorney". Lightening has struck! I am awake! I get it! I only hope it is not too late. My wife has graciously agreed to work on things and counseling starts this week.
I hope it is not too late!
Thanks Amy Bostic. I hope things work out for you.
@@footflash1 thank you. And be proud of yourself-it takes a lot to be self aware. I wish you the very best
Im going through the same thing? And it’s so frustrating.
I don’t see any information about your credentials on your TH-cam? Are you a licensed therapist or have an educational background in psychology?
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First comment ❤️
MH is SO incredibly helpful. I owe you all my sanity during this terrible time in my family’s life
As soon as she mentioned she had a degree in Marriage n Family counseling I was OUT!
Thank you! Very helpful!
What if you are asking what he needs and he says nothing and won’t tell you? But you do all the cleaning cooking etc then you tell him your needs and he does it once or twice then stops again? Or ruins all special holidays to me with grumpy attitude etc ? He’s ruined all Mother’s Day with breaking things if I said I didn’t like the gift etc
I told him what I needed he did not care. Why is it that they meet pur need before we married yet once we married they want to act like the single again.
Thats nice you tell him what you need...and he still cant 🙄
I know how it feels!
Thank you ❤🙏
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I've asked this question on this channel before. Why you and the doctor fixate on men cheating, when in reality women are more likely to and do cheat more often? This is why more men won't go to marriage counseling, we're guillty as soon as we walk into the mc office, when the wife's out cheating. It's always the man's fault.
I know how it feels
Good to see women getting a taste of their own medicine
Rude.
@@dannahcrump8229 not as rude and disrespectful as women are with men.
@@ez-g3090 I think it goes both ways. And men haven't it so bad.
I feel this way
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If a person is workinf 12-14 hours a day, then ofc theyre going to need a lot of alone time. If youre feeling neglected then the best thing to do is to take on working half of thwir shift.
Ya ooook no 😂
Am not my meet my needs because use to clean 🧼 and we use go go in to restaurants my husband dont don’t do that on my needs.. I tell him my needs he don’t do it like need a phone 📱 card…