Great video! Thank you so much for posting. You explained so much that’s helping me to understand why my son has such irrational thinking. I honestly thought it could be a mental disorder. He’s been hiding his alcoholism from our family for a very long time now and I had no idea this is what his problem is. So, again, thank you so much for clarifying so many details and signs I just did not understand. I’m hoping to be able to help my 30 yr old son with alcoholism. I just need to learn how to get him to that point of realizing he needs help. I’m hoping for the best for your brother and god bless you for remaining strong enough to help him.
My Mom is in some shitty detox right now and I know she needs an inpatient detox and I'm not sure if she is gonna go. This helped. It's also my birthday today. Yay.
@@joycewills734 Thank you! I appreciate that!!🤗 My birthday and my Mom's 1 YEAR SOBER ANNIVERSARY will BOTH be on October 16th!!! Hope you are well! Take care!! 😎✌💖🤗😁
You keep talking about having a conversation with your loved one- my loved one is never sober enough to have that conversation . She’s always defensive when I try to talk to her about getting her help.
So Marcus...... I am surprised that no one has asked you about your sobriety through out all of that. And how would you handle it if you found your sobriety was at risk? Great video.
good video mate.everybody rejected my baby and that is why we love eachother so much. i always looked at him not at the content. hes my life im his life
My dad knows he needs help and has been to treatment 3 times so far but as soon as he gets out he drinks and it feels like hes just going just to get us off of his back. I don't think that he really wants to stop drinking.
The difference is your brother wants to do it.. but if the alcoholic does not want to do it.. than what?? She is very stubborn and doesn’t want to do nothing for herself.
What happens if they went thru detox and the. Rehab for 3 weeks and came right back home and started the same thing? The rehab he went to wasn’t strict it seems and I feel they were able to sneak liquor in there. Appreciate all of your helpful advice. Your helping to save tons of people I’m sure. God bless you.
The scapegoat wants to resolve issues. The chief control freak wants to keep certain people divided or in their rigid role. Huge egos. And keep people hating the scapegoat. The scapegoat gets blamed fir wanting to resolve issues. Because alcoholics are in a double bind. With fear, obligation, and guilt. They look for confirmation bias for their induced psychosis in our family. My one cousin keeps screwing up and his dad does all this rescue stuff. He loves to play the maha. They've been doing the triangulation since he was little. Dad plays the big protector. But they don't talk about it. They keep acting out the drama without using words. Over and over again. My exhusbands family is in complete denial. They keep him in the rigid role. Surrogate spouse of his sister. I left my family but they are used to the cycle of abuse. They seem to need it to function. The chief control freaks really feed off drama I'm telling you! They're all addicts. Food addicts. Drama addicts. Sadism addicts. But total denial. They just talk like they're the happiest people on earth. Very shady. Very enmeshed entitled family. I stay the hell away.
U really really just explained my situation with my family and i’m the alcoholic. Ive explained multiple times i HAVE to go to inpatient but, if they cant support themselves i cant go. Whats the solution?! Cuz i been the only solution...thank u tho
Weep no more my dear, I can recommend you to a powerful man of God who once help me out of alcoholic habit and i believe he can help you also, via his WhatsApp number +2349041640320, goodluck dear.
They know now it helps to talk through issues. With psychosocial education. People use them to supply drama and attention and take sides and sabotage their recovery and make up the scapegoats the problem. They feed off drama. Those thoughts that go round and round are going to be dealt with at some point. You can make sense of the senseless. It takes time.
This is a great channel. I'm guessing I came from a similar background as you....fundamentalist, evangelical... which I had to let go of so I could function in the world and be happy.
My husband is supposed to go to rehab today. He already missed the first flight. I’m trying to get him to go and it’s hell. I don’t know what to do. He’s just not responding to my begging, rationale or anything. He just keeps saying leave me alone
They have to decide for themselves or they won't do it. I live with an active alcoholic. Begging, pleading, etc will come across to them as judgmental, spying on them, constantly watching them, etc. The best thing you can do is stop focusing on him and focus on yourself, do what you need to do , and move forward. Him watching you will possibly inspire him to be a better man. At least this is my experience. Mine hasn't quit yet but in year's time, he's gone from heavy binge drinking for days on end constantly blacking out to maintaining a job, doing what needs to be done, and is now opening up his AA books to read passages. He says he's almost to the point where he's ready to stop. HE decided that though, not me. I always let him know it's not alright when he drinks and then I leave him alone. They start reflecting and seeing it for themselves. Mine says rehab doesn't help him because they rotate them like fast food workers... in the door, clean, and right back out. He refuses to do it that way. Not everyone is helped by rehab which is why they end up yo-yo'ing with it... in and out, in and out, in and out, etc. When you force them, they will relapse and fall back off again eventually. If they do not want help, they won't absorb the help. Period.
By the way, Therapy is an excellent way for you to get yourself on track as to stop focusing on him. I started several months ago and it really does help to be able to vent. My Therapist has dealt with alcoholic families, etc and so she knows what I'm going through. She started out rather worried about me and now she's proud that I'm doing what is right and listening to the progress that has been made with me STOPPING being co-dependent.
I don't get it you talk about context and toxic family surrounding poor alcoholic. Whom, no matter how you try and how many promoises he makes, he only disappoints you every day. Is my life, my misery, loneliness and my son traumatised childhood only a context? Are we some kind of second class citizens in this situation? I have been in this sh... for years, is it my fault? I believe the best way is just quit and let them hit a rock bottom and there you hav e it - your awakening moment. Maybe they will put thair life back together. But without you, so you can either shut up and put up with it or walk away.
I can recommend you to a powerful man of God who once help me out alcoholic habit and i believe he can help you too, via his WhatsApp number +2349041640320, goodluck dear.
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Your brother is lucky to have you.
Spot on Marcus. So many people call any form of help 'enabling' and don't know how to be relevant. Of course we can help.
Such a helpful video, thank you. You sound like the best brother in the world he's very lucky to have you.
Great video! Thank you so much for posting. You explained so much that’s helping me to understand why my son has such irrational thinking. I honestly thought it could be a mental disorder. He’s been hiding his alcoholism from our family for a very long time now and I had no idea this is what his problem is. So, again, thank you so much for clarifying so many details and signs I just did not understand. I’m hoping to be able to help my 30 yr old son with alcoholism. I just need to learn how to get him to that point of realizing he needs help. I’m hoping for the best for your brother and god bless you for remaining strong enough to help him.
Melissa McCune hello, I wish you and your family the best
I’ve been making every alcoholic I know watch this and having them send it to their family members.
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I just love how you are soo honest
Another great video, Marcus! I'm looking forward to your videos in the next 30 days! God bless and a speedy recovery to your brother
Love this! 🔥 🔥 🔥 I 💯agree with everything you said! You hit the nail on the head👍🏼
My Mom is in some shitty detox right now and I know she needs an inpatient detox and I'm not sure if she is gonna go. This helped.
It's also my birthday today. Yay.
Late Happy Birthday
@@joycewills734 Thank you! I appreciate that!!🤗 My birthday and my Mom's 1 YEAR SOBER ANNIVERSARY will BOTH be on October 16th!!!
Hope you are well! Take care!! 😎✌💖🤗😁
@@RavenStar16 yap I’m late but we have the same birthday🙀
Great reality check/ inspiration video Marcus! Thank you!
You are a beautiful human.
Great video. Your brother is lucky to have you!
I love your videos. Al-Anon has been a great resource for me. It teaches me to change my behavior around the problem drinker.
You are fucking AMAZING DUDE! This helped me so much!!! I needed to hear his cuz I'm just angry right now. I started therapy today for MYSELF.
You keep talking about having a conversation with your loved one- my loved one is never sober enough to have that conversation . She’s always defensive when I try to talk to her about getting her help.
You‘re amazing!
I really appreciate this!
Thank you so much. I needed this.
So Marcus...... I am surprised that no one has asked you about your sobriety through out all of that. And how would you handle it if you found your sobriety was at risk? Great video.
good video mate.everybody rejected my baby and that is why we love eachother so much. i always looked at him not at the content. hes my life im his life
This guy is the man
My dad knows he needs help and has been to treatment 3 times so far but as soon as he gets out he drinks and it feels like hes just going just to get us off of his back. I don't think that he really wants to stop drinking.
thanks for posting . I needed an ego check
Great video! Thank you!
It's hard to imagine someone listening to a video like this about myself
Brilliant information thank you so much
The difference is your brother wants to do it.. but if the alcoholic does not want to do it.. than what?? She is very stubborn and doesn’t want to do nothing for herself.
Some states have the Casey's law. Involuntary treatment. Check it out
What happens if they went thru detox and the. Rehab for 3 weeks and came right back home and started the same thing? The rehab he went to wasn’t strict it seems and I feel they were able to sneak liquor in there. Appreciate all of your helpful advice. Your helping to save tons of people I’m sure. God bless you.
So helpful man, thank you 🙏
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Thank you so much 💕 very good advice
Wow ty so much!! Subscribed:)
In our family it was good to identify the jealous ladies who feed off drama. They think they have to be number one. Like a surrogate spouse.
The scapegoat wants to resolve issues. The chief control freak wants to keep certain people divided or in their rigid role. Huge egos. And keep people hating the scapegoat. The scapegoat gets blamed fir wanting to resolve issues. Because alcoholics are in a double bind. With fear, obligation, and guilt. They look for confirmation bias for their induced psychosis in our family. My one cousin keeps screwing up and his dad does all this rescue stuff. He loves to play the maha. They've been doing the triangulation since he was little. Dad plays the big protector. But they don't talk about it. They keep acting out the drama without using words. Over and over again. My exhusbands family is in complete denial. They keep him in the rigid role. Surrogate spouse of his sister. I left my family but they are used to the cycle of abuse. They seem to need it to function. The chief control freaks really feed off drama I'm telling you! They're all addicts. Food addicts. Drama addicts. Sadism addicts. But total denial. They just talk like they're the happiest people on earth. Very shady. Very enmeshed entitled family. I stay the hell away.
You are doing the right thing
Since you were smart enough to leave you are miles ahead of people stuck with addicts
I am happy for you
Great info. Meeting my son for this Saturday. Not get in the content!
U really really just explained my situation with my family and i’m the alcoholic. Ive explained multiple times i HAVE to go to inpatient but, if they cant support themselves i cant go. Whats the solution?! Cuz i been the only solution...thank u tho
My Dad is an alcoholic and when he drinks he gets angry basically he’s an angry drinker
My husband is the same I am sorry you are not alone
Weep no more my dear, I can recommend you to a powerful man of God who once help me out of alcoholic habit and i believe he can help you also, via his WhatsApp number +2349041640320, goodluck dear.
Powerful!!
They know now it helps to talk through issues. With psychosocial education. People use them to supply drama and attention and take sides and sabotage their recovery and make up the scapegoats the problem. They feed off drama. Those thoughts that go round and round are going to be dealt with at some point. You can make sense of the senseless. It takes time.
Thank you
What about if they know but they are happy like that?
Do they get to keep their cell phones in in patient care? I hope not
What if the person doesn’t want to stop drinking?
This is a great channel. I'm guessing I came from a similar background as you....fundamentalist, evangelical... which I had to let go of so I could function in the world and be happy.
My husband is supposed to go to rehab today. He already missed the first flight. I’m trying to get him to go and it’s hell. I don’t know what to do. He’s just not responding to my begging, rationale or anything. He just keeps saying leave me alone
They have to decide for themselves or they won't do it. I live with an active alcoholic. Begging, pleading, etc will come across to them as judgmental, spying on them, constantly watching them, etc. The best thing you can do is stop focusing on him and focus on yourself, do what you need to do , and move forward. Him watching you will possibly inspire him to be a better man. At least this is my experience. Mine hasn't quit yet but in year's time, he's gone from heavy binge drinking for days on end constantly blacking out to maintaining a job, doing what needs to be done, and is now opening up his AA books to read passages. He says he's almost to the point where he's ready to stop. HE decided that though, not me. I always let him know it's not alright when he drinks and then I leave him alone. They start reflecting and seeing it for themselves. Mine says rehab doesn't help him because they rotate them like fast food workers... in the door, clean, and right back out. He refuses to do it that way. Not everyone is helped by rehab which is why they end up yo-yo'ing with it... in and out, in and out, in and out, etc. When you force them, they will relapse and fall back off again eventually. If they do not want help, they won't absorb the help. Period.
By the way, Therapy is an excellent way for you to get yourself on track as to stop focusing on him. I started several months ago and it really does help to be able to vent. My Therapist has dealt with alcoholic families, etc and so she knows what I'm going through. She started out rather worried about me and now she's proud that I'm doing what is right and listening to the progress that has been made with me STOPPING being co-dependent.
great advice you keepin helpin much appreciated. How can i speak with you.
To stop people from dying in the top left corner of the screen, please pause the video.
Love it.
I don't get it you talk about context and toxic family surrounding poor alcoholic. Whom, no matter how you try and how many promoises he makes, he only disappoints you every day. Is my life, my misery, loneliness and my son traumatised childhood only a context? Are we some kind of second class citizens in this situation? I have been in this sh... for years, is it my fault? I believe the best way is just quit and let them hit a rock bottom and there you hav e it - your awakening moment. Maybe they will put thair life back together. But without you, so you can either shut up and put up with it or walk away.
I need to help him! Bcoz I love him, so God help me !
I can recommend you to a powerful man of God who once help me out alcoholic habit and i believe he can help you too, via his WhatsApp number +2349041640320, goodluck dear.
Hey the link doesn't work..
Hi. I tried to go to talksober.com/loved1 and it doesn’t lead anywhere. Is it no longer online?
Very helpful information, though it's concerning that you use offensive foul language when you talk. Huge thumbs down from me.
Thank you