Why My Wife's Past Wasn't An Issue | Joe Bonifacio
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- White Knighting: this is a common term among young people nowadays to describe a specific set of transactional behavior. It’s the opposite of unconditional love. And it’s unconditional love that explains why my wife’s past wasn’t an issue to me. First, God’s unconditional love to her that he let me have for her as well.
This is what I talk about on the vlog - why my wife's past wasn't an issue.
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A good friend of mine fell in love with a prostitute. Most of our friends made fun of him, and the awkwardness when he brings his then gf in our events was irritating. I've always been open-minded, so I welcomed her warmly in our group. I had a lot of heart to heart talks with both my friend and her, which made me believe in their love more. I also trusted she changed her old ways completely. He proposed, she accepted but none of our friends wanted to attend their wedding. His parents weren't sure at first as well, but it took some convincing and bucket of tears from us all, as well as prayers to accept the situation. They had a nice intimate wedding, no friends showed up except myself from his side. Their 15th wedding anniversary is coming this December, and their 3 kulits who call me ninang are growing up fast in front of my eyes. Sometimes, we really need to open our minds and hearts for people like my kumare. I saw her sincerity of changing from the first time we had a heart to heart talk, and I know she needed someone other than my friend to trust her. To judge is easy, but to understand is stronger🙏❤️
Your "friends'" loss, not the happy couple's ;)
They obviously weren't friends of at all.
My takeaway: Love is not transactional. You give your all, just like how Jesus gave Himself for us.
Thank you, Pastor! ❤️🙏🏻
Yeah! And that's when we enjoy the relationship the most.
@@joebonifacio it's true
I pray every woman who thinks that their past disqualifies them from marrying a godly man would find someone who’d accept her whole being and love her as Jesus does. Like how Ptr. Joe loves Ms. Carla ❤️✨🙏🏻
Amen po🙏
Di ba Rica?
Thank you... This is my prayer too being a single mom...🙏💝
Drama queen
@@tinkerbelle2271 Her real name po is Regina Carla 😊
So much relate pastor but I'm on the other side. I'm the one with a dark past and secret sins. I had the courage to tell her my past, and the words that I heard was "I'm so proud of you of what you are right now. Your life itself is a wonderful testimony of God's amazing grace". I said to God, " Lord what did I do to deserve a woman like her." All i can think, is napakabuti ng ating Panginoon.
He's not just the Author and Perfecter of our faith, but He writes the best love story we could ever ask for🙂
Ps. Soon we're gonna marry pala😄❤
Wow! Congrats po ❤️ Praise God
@@gillianeazuro5570 thank you po. God is really good
Wow. So POGI! Congrats 👏
@@MiriamandArdy thank you Ma'am Miriam❤
i'm sure she knew. anlakas kaya ng amoy 😁🤘
I really like how practical and attainable Pastor Joe is.. sad that sometimes, leaders in the church, are the one judging our pasts, or actions - just because you wear a bathing suit on the beach, or openly airing out your dismay in the government..
As long as you don’t air your dismay while wearing a bathing suit, you’re fine. Jk
The best thing you can do to your spouse is to be the number one believer in the work of God in their life 😇💙
When we encounter God. God didn't look us in our Past. He look us Like His own Children 😊💖
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
2 Corinthians 5:17 🙂
Some people are quick to take the 'moral highground' and never look into oneself. Life is a journey, not everyone treads the same path. Some paths are straight forward, while some can be bumpy and even treacherous. But what's really important is the future, and the commitment to make that future together for the better.
Your love story Ptr. Joe and Ate Carla gives us a dive on finding real love by living in our singlehood that our full security and complete assurance are found only in Christ. That's the game changer. So much love!
feels like i’m having a deep conversation with a friend, so effortless and straight to the point! keep em coming ptr. joe!
Thanks! I like this treatment also because I can wear simple clothes. Haha
I love this vlog. Ive been a christian since birth, pero gaya ng sabi mo life happens and now i am married to someone who is not a christian and everyday is a struggle. Thankful for your wisdom, i will try to see God's work in my husband everyday and start from there. Thank you..
I am really looking forward for everyone to have the same mindset. Stereotyping is really common now a days.
Such a good example of God's servant. Full of God's wisdom. Stay blessed Pastor Joe .
Full of wisdom insights. Truly you listened to the Lord for you to perfectly articulate this all. It's lifting Jesus, honoring your wife and elevating men who has mindset like you in edifying way. God bless the works of your hands even more Pastor.
Wow. Very powerful! Your past don't define you once you encounter God. You're a new creation! Praise God!
God brought me here to hear this. You're a blessing sir. Keep on enlightening people. May our Lord keep on blessing you the wisdom of His truth.
The last part deeply touched me (and convicted me).
"God, show me how and where You are working in his life.."
Indeed, probably the saddest thing that we could do in our marriage is to doubt that God is at work in each other's lives, or to just simply give up hope on that person.
Godbless Ptr Joe!
I watch your wife’s vlogs because I can get some insightful ideas at lagi incorporate yun situation na May wisdom kaya nakikita ko sya as a mom and wife. Even I’m a bit older than her, she can inspire me as a mom and wife.
Thank you, Pastor Joe! This is a really timely video as I've recently just learned about this girl's past that's different than mine. I've been looking forward to making things serious with her and you've taught me all the right things to prepare myself for that. God bless you and your wife Pastor Joe!
wow people can be so judgmental! thank you for this video. Gods grace is more than sufficient to cover all our past. Marriage is a committment not about our past but our now. God bless your ministry Pastor Joe!
Another powerful verse. "But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord." (2 Corinthians 3:18)
Someday, may I found the number one believer in the work of God in my life. 🥺❤
Thank you for this, Ps. Joe!
Hearing these things.. made me feel confident 💕 and made me realize a lot of things..
Man of principles you are. Shows a lot why you are happy and satisfied with your life. Thanks for sharing.
The best thing that you can do to your spouse is the be the number one believer in the work of God in their life.
This is exactly what I need to hear in my spirit today. this is very healing. thank you Pastor!
Thank you ptr.joe.
1. I love the format of the video
2. I love the simple topic
3. I love the biblical points
4. Continue to do this pastor.
5. God blesses you and your
family.
Thanks for the encouragement!
You’re such a true person. Sana mas madami pang katulad mo sa mundong ito. I am really amazed how understanding you are. Your perspective really had an impact on me. Today’s world is really scary wd all those hurtful judgments. Putting a person down just because of her/his mistakes in d past. Stigma n po un. At nkkaapekto s mental health. Was & am a victim. You’re such an inspiration. Sobrang lucky ni ms rica for having you sir.
He experienced Gods grace and make it so alive in his life, thanks Pastor 😍
I agree with everything that you said Sir Joe. Everything is on point. A person's past shouldn't matter at all. You are a great child of God. May God bless you and your family more.
Thank you Pastor for using this medium as way of sharing God's words, God bless and please continue doing so.
I met my wife at a bakery store...she works as a tindera i a 5th dental student and we were vanished from my relatives..after 37 beautiful years of hardwork we are blessed with 5 successful sons and daughters and my prayers were answered.. praise the lord Jesus
Thanks for sharing this Pastor! 💕🙏🏼 It’s a blessing!
I just went to YT to search for Carla's vlog but then this appeared. Never thought I'll hear exactly what I needed.
"one of the best things you can do for your spouse is to be the number one believer in the work of God in their life. To be someone who will say: 'I see it. I see evidence of the Holy Spirit."
I used to be like this, having that idea that I did and I was expecting he would do the same towards me, but after all I realized if the thing is about comparing, he did much better than me. However, this mindset was not truly good. In love, you are partners in Christ. We love and we give. We can add that loving the person means also accepting his past, regardless how good or bad it is. After all, each of us has broken past that receives underserved Grace from God! Thank you Pastor Joe! Every Thursday is like a late night Devo + mentoring. 😁💓
Nice!
Thank you so much! I'm out of words, but again thank you so much. My 3rd subscription from thousand TH-camrs.
I am inspired with what you have shared!! Thank you so much! I do pray that someone will come and stay with me for life and that person will accept and love also my 4 teenagers!
New subs here. Went here after watching Ms. Rica and Ms. Cheska collab vlog. Wise words from a believer of God's intervention to anyone's life. Literally, our past doesn't define our future. 🙏❤
I like it when Pastor calls Rica her real name. A very insightful vlog. God bless you Pastor
Tama! Her past doesn't define her nor her present or future. Our identity is in Christ and that's what makes it really special. I love how you put it together.
Everyone has a past.
Failing in school, being involved in street rumbles, being stubborn as a kid, telling lies, gossiping, and a lot more.
If you have a past, that means you've changed.
Thank you for loving her unconditionally
Thank you Pastor Joe for this word of wisdom. Keep them coming…..God bless
I love a man like this who's Godly
Thank you for that. It really helps us to look at the person we love with so much love and grace coming from Jesus. Waking up each morning and lying down at night seeing the person beside you, thinking "Grabe Lord, this person is really a blessing in my life and I cant thank you enough for bringing him into my life'. As I always pray, "Lord, I hope I meet someone that when I look at him, I'm just so blessed to have him in my life regardless of his flaws."
Aha.. again, Im watching a real MAN here! More wisdom and love sir Joe.
8:00 That's a very strong and important point, what's discussed here. The idea is treading along 'self rightiousness' which is a veeery dangerous, even distructive, path to take. I like your insights. First time to watch your videos. Good content.
thank you for this message Joe! Indeed fear of God and faith brings wisdom
Thank you Pastor Joe. I definitely agree on everything that you discussed. God bless you
Thank you po sa life nyo at ms Rica Peralejo. Inspiration po kayo for young people like us. 🙏❤
Love the way you explain this matter and I will say you are on point.
Thank you 🥺
I should be listening to you Pastor. so much wisdom
Love these conversations!
Very well said, thank you for educating us.
Praise God 🙏. Bless you and your entire family.
Thankyou po for this pastor. Marami po ako natutunan
A vlog full of wisdom. Thank you, pastor
More of this pastor Joe!
Ur past does not define Ur future.. and we can't judge people past... God will be our judge... Very inspiring.. GOd bless po
pinatawad na siya ng panginoon same way na pinatawad din ako sa pag papantasya sa kanya noon grade school ako. Buhay ang Diyos Ama. Salamat pastor Joe. God bless po
I admire Pastor Bonifacio..so transparent and really make sense. God bless you both...Tess from Honolulu, Hi...
This is the first time i get a chance to watch and hear from you and really it struck me.Ang sarap po makinig sa inyo, sa lhat ng cnsbi nyo.God bless you more and your family.
Parang indirect preaching lang talaga... so practical Ptr. Joe...keep it coming po... The world need to hear this po...both of you Ms. Rica are being a blessing po to a lot of people...
Jesus is the answer po talaga...
Excellent word Brother!
Salamat po pastor for your videos. God really bless you! 💕🙏
Thank you Pastor Joseph...
You're an inspiration to many.
Godbless 🙏
You have a blessed perspective. Amazing man. 🙏
Thank you for made my day great 👍 with the word of GOD. Have a good day..
Kakabless po kayo Ptr and Miss Rica!!!! Glory to God!!!!❤️❤️❤️
Grabe ang wisdom!😍
Thank you for these Pt Joe.
Grabeeeee Pastor, thank you for this po. 🥺💛 Praise GOD!
2 Corinthians 5:17 - wonderful promise 🙏 & this vlog is on point
thanks Ptr.Joe 🙌
Wow this is full of wisdom ..how i wish some men will watch this.
Thank you for this Ptr. Joe. My views were very different before watching this video. Praise God for using you in correcting me. I will align my views and beliefs with yours because I believe you have aligned them with God's Word. Praise the Lord.
Also, I believe godly character, servant leadership and self sacrifice are definitely what we are looking for! @3:35
Every bit u said was true. God bless you and team Bonifacio.
Grabeh pastor! More more! ❤️❤️❤️
I dont think Rica had bad past. It Was Part of her career. sunod sa handler manager at nang karamihan or influences at naki bagay sa mundong kanyang kinalalagyan noon. And She needed to work for her family. Glad You found Each Other.
Amen to this, ptr. Jo! It's not about his/her past but who she/he now and how God sees he/she now. It's us seeing the person's beauty through God's lense :) God indeed transforms lives :)
Glad this video appeared on my recommended feed. Now subscribing.
"Your past isn't even going to be the biggest issue. Your present and your future is." :)
Sinple yet full of wisdom, Pastor. Thank you for vlogging. Keep it up. God Bless you and your family.
No matter how bad your past... whats important is to improve and remove it from your present and future.
Pastor joe can you do a masterclass hahaha but seriously thank you for being an instrument of giving your opinions on stuffs that are not so explained or talk about in public..
Real life talk!
Thank you Pastor Joe 🥺🥺🥺❤️
Thanks Pr Joe for the very biblical, very wisdomful and very encouraging respond to many questions. I have nothing against those who questioned you that way. I could guess where their points are coming from too. Many people thought Christians are perfect and should do this and do that to act holy. But many people don't understand that Christians are forgiven sinners. We became holy not because we do the right thing but what Christ has done for us.
This vlog is very informative and reflective. I am inspired by you and Ms Rica. It only shows and reveals more the grace of Jesus in your family and the work of the Holy Spirit in each of your life. Thanks sir for proclaiming the Gospel and the main and only point is that everyone needs Jesus regardless of our past and present, and Jesus will make a big difference in our future, the assurance everybody should hope for. Praise God and God bless your family sir!✝️😀🙏
Thank you! Yeah... okay lang na may mga ganong tanong. O kahit yung ibang mga kumokontra sa comments dito o sa ibang vlogs. Lahat naman tayo may process eh. Hehe
God bless you more Pastor! 🙏🙏🙏
This is the best thing I ever heard today
Very well said Sir.. Past is past. What is important is the present and the future .. What is important is we have Jesus in our hearts.. Happy blessed Sunday !
The amazing thing about our Lord Jesus is that He always make and bring back the beauty and perfection of every individual, and back to how He originally created them, especially to those who love Him.💕
Truly God is working in and through our lives❤️. Thank you Pastor Joseph for sharing the Word view. 🙏 Praying for more great blessings for you, Carla and the children. May our Lord continue to enable you and your family share His Love.🙏💕
I remember Rica perelejo as a co-student in Ateneo. I’m not sure what year she was in, but i was a freshman or a sophomore that time. I felt bad because she would be in the cafeteria alone, and of course as a celebrity, people would look at you randomly. I wanted to sit with her but obviously as a guy and with her celebrity status, that would be a weird thing to do. I didn’t know much about her beyond the movies she made, but she did seem a lot different that what she was when she was still active in showbiz. Anyway, that was a long time ago. I hope rica peralejo was able to finish her studies there. God bless
Thanks for your kind thoughts. She graduated in 2012.
So much wisdom...I like your vlogs and Rica's also because they of the substance and content..Hindi puro superficial lang..thank u...
Thank you po. I'm praying na maging ganito din mindset ko from now on. To make things smooth. God bless po.😇💖
Unconditional Love!
Sadly most men forget, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, AND GAVE HIMSELF FOR IT!" (Ephesians 5:25) Total sacrifice!
13:03 made me cry. That would be my prayer from now on. These past few years its getting harder to see God's work in him and in me as well because of the rejections, betrayal, disappointment and hurts that I'm going thru. Thank you for that advice, Pastor.
Hahaha. I like that pastor.
"some of you know me, but not my wife"
True accept someone from day one till you get grays hair ended love you the most God is the center every relatinship thanks pastor