Happy Annversary for both of you🌸🌸 I have been married for 6 years and I remember the first year like it was yesterday. one thing I can say is: dont take everything personally and remember you two are on the same team. Also you dont have to agree on every single thing! you two are different people born and raised in seperate families. Marrige is good specially when both partners keep showing for eachother everyday
OMG at 12:20 when He said you have to be "READY TO COMPROMISE". I felt that in my spirit. It is the biggest thing I observed from those who are already married but not spoken about. A lot of people who are single are always saying they not going to settle, not going to compromise and its blows my mind because there is a difference in having standards or being selfish and thinking everything has to go your away. There is NO WINNER IN MARRIAGE. WIN TOGETHER .... those are some bars. SELFLESNESS.
I really love how you both spoke about how you manage finances. It really enlightened me. Keith is a wonderful partner to you! You both are radiating maturity. I love this video and I’m not even done yet😩 But I’m positively influenced by you both as a 21 year old that relates a lot to Adella. ❤️❤️ God bless your marriage ! Great representation of Christ! So transparent.
The two of you are such beautiful spirits! I have been blessed by watching this conversation. You have made me believe in love and marriage again. Thank you.
This video was very inspiring, you both to seem very level headed. Two very self-aware and emotionally intelligent people together. It was great to watch this cause I was sort of getting tired of the toxic gender war content. Especially the Love Language part.
I liked the part when he said how he allows you space to come to terms about how you're feeling and be able to communicate it later because I am the same exact way. I need that space! It just makes the process a whole lot better when you go back to your partner to translate what's going on with you.
I'm always intrigued by comments like "yes, a Black Christian couple. Yay!"What is unique about their relationship in comparison to others? I think Black Christian couples are a norm in our community. I'm not saying there's absolutely nothing to celebrate but why do the centers keep getting recentered rather than the margins.... Food for thought.
What can be inferred from this data is this argument: most men today including black men that can afford to marry in most cases don't want to marry black women. Kevin Samuels argues black women are looked down upon the most in modern society and this has shifted / translated into black women marrying the least of every other race. I don't really need to say it but you probably are aware of how black men are viewed as it relates to crime and violence. In other words if all a person sees is their people in negative light seeing this would obviously give them relief especially if they also share religious beliefs with this couple. Personally I agree with the person's comment. It looks good and feels good. It looks sincere and healthy. Short Answer: I feel like black people just have a lot of love for each other dispite differences because of shared burden of race. That makes us a community still...hopefully? lol ❤ and often our community is shown in negative light to the world so I could see why this would be a relief to that person.
Marriage is worth it, if you’re someone who’s interested in building a family, in my opinion. The current economic state of the country is on the bridge of recession & collapse constantly. I’ve realized most couples STILL financially struggle while married bc of inflation. In my mind, if I’m going to still be struggling, struggling to “have a better life & freedom,” but still have to be responsible for another human being(besides a child) then I might as well do this life of a circus as a single person. Emotional & mental companionship is nice, but it sadly doesn’t pay the bills & the cost of living just KEEPS Going up. We spend more time working, than we do actually fostering relationships☹️
Happy Anniversary and Congratulations to you both 🎉🍾🥳🎊. Adella’s ability to see different perspectives, plus to use reason and logic, among other things….. #Powerful
When you talked about the different ways you show each other love I related so much! My husband is similar to keith: His love language is definitely acts of service and he is not quick to show love through words or physical affection, which is what I crave. In the first two years of our relationship is was a journey for both of us, for him to slowly integrate more verbal and physical affection, but also for me to recognize the many many things he does for me that show his love and care! it was a two way process :)
Marriage is a curse in my family so I'm gonna stay faaaaar away, but love other people's experiences about it. Always wishing you both all the love in the world :)
@@fa9183 it's used by my family to subordinate women or use the marriage as a means of lifting up the socioeconomic status of the family. There's not a single happy marriage in my parents' generation - they've all divorced, or are having affairs and have accepted the end of their marriage. That kind of thing. People aren't given the resources to make marriage work, or given a healthy and amicable way out of marriage. And in the country I live in, and in most countries, marriage is a legal contract two people sign to be bound together by the state which the two people have no control over the terms of. No thank you. I'll stay single on paper, even if I end up having a long term monogamous partnership.
Oh my goodness, I can't believe ir I knew I recognised Keith from a funny video but then looked at my favourites and it was your video from 4 years ago asking abo ut men about black women's hair and terminology.
Pole? Are you guys Kenyan or Tanzanian? I was surprised when i heard that. I've lived in Tanzania for some time now, so i recognized pole meaning sorry. Either that, or i heard it wrong 😅
The views on this video says a lot! Black men don't want to get married anymore. They'd rather watch videos where men bash women. They should be watching videos like this if they are interested in marriage. I guess not.
a young black Christian couple!? yes im happily following.
That's all it takes? 😂
@@ninuola. IKR..so empty
RIGHTTTTT
Bro I feel like this guy doesn’t have the ability to get mad at anything😂… real positive guy for sure
Absolutely beautiful 🎉❤
"Marriage is a mirror." Love that expression!
Us too 🪞
Excellent 🎉❤
"Is marriage worth it?"
If you want it and you and your partner are both good for each other, yes
True. Both of you should want it.
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Excellent
Happy Annversary for both of you🌸🌸 I have been married for 6 years and I remember the first year like it was yesterday. one thing I can say is: dont take everything personally and remember you two are on the same team. Also you dont have to agree on every single thing! you two are different people born and raised in seperate families. Marrige is good specially when both partners keep showing for eachother everyday
Thank you for this! 💕
And congratulations! 🎊
Thank you! And thank you again for this piece of wisdom 🙌🏾
I was thinking this b4 I saw ur comment
I just got married this year! It’s cool that videos like this are actually relevant to me now. It’s a whole new world ❤️. Love your content Adella!
Congratulations 🎊🎉 to you and your husband 😊
@@ashleyhenna6201 Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Congratulations 🥳❤️ and thank you ✌🏾✌🏽
🎉CONGRATULATIONS!🎊😁
@@TheAfadis thank you so much 💕💕
skinnnnnnn Adella. You've got to give us a routine. I'm in love.
OMG at 12:20 when He said you have to be "READY TO COMPROMISE". I felt that in my spirit. It is the biggest thing I observed from those who are already married but not spoken about. A lot of people who are single are always saying they not going to settle, not going to compromise and its blows my mind because there is a difference in having standards or being selfish and thinking everything has to go your away. There is NO WINNER IN MARRIAGE. WIN TOGETHER .... those are some bars. SELFLESNESS.
"His pay rise is my pay rise, my pay rise is my pay rise" 😅😭 That cracked me up!!
Such an informative video. Thanks y'all 👏🏿💙
Love the vibe of you two! Definitely love seeing a British Christian couple. Giving them REAL answers on marriage
Girl I feel the constant communication thing 😭
By 2030, you should be living next door to us too 🤓
Haha we’ll see 👀👀
I really love how you both spoke about how you manage finances. It really enlightened me. Keith is a wonderful partner to you! You both are radiating maturity. I love this video and I’m not even done yet😩 But I’m positively influenced by you both as a 21 year old that relates a lot to Adella. ❤️❤️ God bless your marriage ! Great representation of Christ! So transparent.
I think Adella was about to say ‘Nigeria’ in that list of countries to visit but the way she cut off quick 😂 😂 😆
was about to make this comment! looool!!!
Happy anniversary to the Afadi's,your union is blessed and a blessing to us. much love from South Africa 🇿🇦
Thank you & amen 🙌🏾🥳
The two of you are such beautiful spirits! I have been blessed by watching this conversation. You have made me believe in love and marriage again. Thank you.
This video was very inspiring, you both to seem very level headed. Two very self-aware and emotionally intelligent people together. It was great to watch this cause I was sort of getting tired of the toxic gender war content. Especially the Love Language part.
Thank you & yep, so were we haha ✌🏾✌🏽
Happy anniversary to the Afadi's!!!! From South Africa
Thank you 🥳🇿🇦
Noooo I love you guys 😭🤎 Happy Anniversary, may God continue to bless your union❤️
Thank you and amen🥳❤️
I just got married last month so I really enjoyed this video. Happy anniversary to you two!
Happy Anniversary! May God continue to bless your union.
Thank you and amen ❤️🥳
I liked the part when he said how he allows you space to come to terms about how you're feeling and be able to communicate it later because I am the same exact way. I need that space! It just makes the process a whole lot better when you go back to your partner to translate what's going on with you.
What a solid, sober set of answers 🔥 I love how the both of you tackle marriage life thank you for sharing ❤️
I'm always intrigued by comments like "yes, a Black Christian couple. Yay!"What is unique about their relationship in comparison to others? I think Black Christian couples are a norm in our community. I'm not saying there's absolutely nothing to celebrate but why do the centers keep getting recentered rather than the margins.... Food for thought.
1/4 black women get married - Kevin Samuels
What can be inferred from this data is this argument: most men today including black men that can afford to marry in most cases don't want to marry black women. Kevin Samuels argues black women are looked down upon the most in modern society and this has shifted / translated into black women marrying the least of every other race. I don't really need to say it but you probably are aware of how black men are viewed as it relates to crime and violence. In other words if all a person sees is their people in negative light seeing this would obviously give them relief especially if they also share religious beliefs with this couple. Personally I agree with the person's comment. It looks good and feels good. It looks sincere and healthy.
Short Answer: I feel like black people just have a lot of love for each other dispite differences because of shared burden of race. That makes us a community still...hopefully? lol ❤ and often our community is shown in negative light to the world so I could see why this would be a relief to that person.
@@keythegeek3497 that's not even true for American American 75% of women are married by the time they are 35
Happy Anniversary 🎉🙏🏾! God bless your union. We celebrated our 3 years yesterday! I surely relate to certain things you’ve shared!
Amazing! Congratulations and Happy Anniversary 🥳🥳
Love this! ❤️ We will be married 3 years next month.
Congratulations in advance 🥳❤️🙌🏾
@@TheAfadis Thank You 🤗
Loooool that man is from Zimbabwe “if you don’t see me there ” his embarrassment to us is much at times
😂😂
Happy Anniversary you two!🥳😍
Thank you 🥳🥳
Good day, this is one of the BEST vids produced on the topic! Thank you
Marriage is worth it, if you’re someone who’s interested in building a family, in my opinion. The current economic state of the country is on the bridge of recession & collapse constantly.
I’ve realized most couples STILL financially struggle while married bc of inflation. In my mind, if I’m going to still be struggling, struggling to “have a better life & freedom,” but still have to be responsible for another human being(besides a child) then I might as well do this life of a circus as a single person. Emotional & mental companionship is nice, but it sadly doesn’t pay the bills & the cost of living just KEEPS
Going up. We spend more time working, than we do actually fostering relationships☹️
Happy Anniversary and Congratulations to you both 🎉🍾🥳🎊.
Adella’s ability to see different perspectives, plus to use reason and logic, among other things….. #Powerful
Thank you🥳
I love this because you have answered so many common questions. But have also still kept your privacy.
When you talked about the different ways you show each other love I related so much! My husband is similar to keith: His love language is definitely acts of service and he is not quick to show love through words or physical affection, which is what I crave. In the first two years of our relationship is was a journey for both of us, for him to slowly integrate more verbal and physical affection, but also for me to recognize the many many things he does for me that show his love and care! it was a two way process :)
Beautiful black couple. Definitely great energy. Continue to be blessed in life and love💘
Keith seems shy
And adella bold
Nah G, it’s likely to be his natural disposition(not that I know him). But, he seems like a chill broda though.
Not shy, i’m just chill
I love and respect how you both handle your finances. I admire how your Husband justified both accounts! Definitely looking out for that video! ☺️
Oh my gosh! So excited about the couples channel 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽 happy anniversary 😊😊😊
Thank you 🥳❤️
On the question about being ready for marriage, I thought of this quote “If God calls you to it, he’ll equip you for it”.. be blessed!
This is a good quality video, I have been dating my boyfriend for three years and we are at a point where we need this video. Thanks, Adella and Keith
Happy anniversary! Making sure you are aligned and keep having those conversations over the years because things change.
Thank you & we will 😊🥳
you guys are so cute and mature! goals for sure. i didnt even know u were married before this video 😭😅
Happy anniversary! 💯💯💪🏾
Hey Stacie! Thank you 🥳
Beautiful couple!!! Far off from marriage, but I love ur advice
Thank you 😊🎈
Your skin complexion is entrancing 🥰💫
You guys are so fun to watch!! I was laughing along with you both lmao
Happy Anniversary!💕 May God bless and keep your union in the shadow of His wings always!❤️
Thank you & amen 🥳❤️
I just appreciate you guys. You guys are so refreshing to watch. Thank you for your transparency ❤️🤗.
Both of you are sweet one’s still(even though you’re opposites).
Thank you ✌🏾✌🏽
Happy anniversary y’all! More blessings!🎊🎉
Thank you 🥳🥳
Great video! I think the two of you make a great couples. I wish the two of you well & eternal prosperity.
We appreciate Keith 👏 he does a great job editing your videos 👍
The advice in this video is timeless. Thanks for this.
May God continue to bless your union 🙏
More love, success and abundance to you both!🎊🎊
Congratulations guys you got married on my birthday, this is such a good video blessings to you two ❤️❤️
Congratulations on your anniversary!
Thank you 🙌🏾🎈
You are absolutely gorgeous Adella. Love the video.
Happy anniversary:D i was really glad when i saw it was above 30 minutes. One question: will there be scenario videos in the future?
Thanks a lot for that❤️❤️ from Brussels 🥰
Happy anniversary guys!!! Love your content!
Thank you 😊
I.. just you two are so🥺
🥺🥺
I love your content. So real and encouraging.
Can you let me know what the marriage course you did is called?
Happy Anniversary btw 💕
Thank you ❤️
Such a GREAT video! Thank you!! Xxx
I love your necklace Adella. Where’s it from please?
The "Listen to Kanye" line got me... 😄
Marriage is a curse in my family so I'm gonna stay faaaaar away, but love other people's experiences about it. Always wishing you both all the love in the world :)
No don't stay away, prayer to God and the experiences others face so also be your experience🥰
@@malkiafuraha9694 sorry, I'm atheist, but I appreciate your sentiment :) wishing you well
What do you mean by curse
@@fa9183 it's used by my family to subordinate women or use the marriage as a means of lifting up the socioeconomic status of the family. There's not a single happy marriage in my parents' generation - they've all divorced, or are having affairs and have accepted the end of their marriage. That kind of thing. People aren't given the resources to make marriage work, or given a healthy and amicable way out of marriage. And in the country I live in, and in most countries, marriage is a legal contract two people sign to be bound together by the state which the two people have no control over the terms of. No thank you. I'll stay single on paper, even if I end up having a long term monogamous partnership.
8:10 i saw u stop halfway through nigeria!! 😭😭
😂 😂 😂 😂
Me too!
😂 whoops! We love Nigeria! Adella is half Nigerian
Am a huge fan ,,I hope to bump into u guys one day 😍.Happy Anniversary
Marriage is a mirror!!! Year 2 for me & my hubby. It is werrkk baby lol but I love it.
Yo love and greetings from U.S. I just subscribed....
Happy anniversary fam!
Thank you 🥳
Happy Anniversary! ☺️
Thank you 😊🥳
So good. Well done
Remarkable couple.
Love from Toronto 🇨🇦
Love this video so much!!!
Black love black excellence ❤️🖤♥️🖤
❤️🖤
This is so helpful and the finance questions
You guys are so cool and remind me of my bf and I
I love your relationship ❤️
❤️
Love y'all.
❤️❤️
Oh my goodness, I can't believe ir I knew I recognised Keith from a funny video but then looked at my favourites and it was your video from 4 years ago asking abo ut men about black women's hair and terminology.
Happy Anniversary guys 🎉
Off topic but your name is beautiful 💗
You have a pretty complexion.
Happy anniversary 🎉 💗 💗💗
Thank you 🥳❤️
communication and comprehension
Happy Anniversary🎊
Great money advise
You seem v well matched
My folkes divorced when I was 3, I knew I would not go down that route.
Great video guys
Thank you🎈😊
HER SKIIIINNNNNNNNNNN
I really want to get married! 🥺🙏🏽
Happy anniversary 🎉
Love your videos
Adella is super beautiful 😍
Pole? Are you guys Kenyan or Tanzanian? I was surprised when i heard that. I've lived in Tanzania for some time now, so i recognized pole meaning sorry. Either that, or i heard it wrong 😅
Adella is half Tanzanian 😌
@@LifewithBarbie Oooh that explains it.. I had to play it back a few times to see if i heard it right
The views on this video says a lot! Black men don't want to get married anymore. They'd rather watch videos where men bash women. They should be watching videos like this if they are interested in marriage. I guess not.