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  • @shawnwashington1778
    @shawnwashington1778 4 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    As woman who struggled with pornography for YEARS by the grace of God I’m 6 years clean. I feel y’all 100% Hey this episode was super dope. Thanks y’all for being so transparent ❤️

    • @gl0hen
      @gl0hen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      the fact that you’re 6 years clean is so encouraging 🥺🙏🏿 proud of you! God is so great

    • @shawnwashington1778
      @shawnwashington1778 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ebony Ohen oh wow amen thank you! I’m very grateful & glad it encouraged you

    • @carlfrancis4704
      @carlfrancis4704 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      6 years?!! That’s amazing!!! Stay focused and keep moving forward

    • @nunu4evaaa
      @nunu4evaaa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Such courage to open up God bless you on your journey.

  • @Thedragonwithin
    @Thedragonwithin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    The thing about porn is that it kills your drive and motivation. On a spiritual level- you attach your sexual energy to that which is on the screen. A lot of times the people you see in porn are there bc of trauma, so you attach your energy to that of trauma. And which results in a disconnection with god consciousness.
    When you watch porn you lose intimacy with yourself and the world around you. You develop apathy and have little desire to reach your potential.
    There is a reason why porn is so free and accessible. Think about it. Whenever something is free, you become the product.
    Sexual energy is the most powerful energy we have besides love. Utilize it wisely. Respect your body, your mind, your consciousness.
    The world needs you to be great. Too many people wanna be mediocre these days. You’ve got one life, don’t waste it looking at a screen wasting all your precious life force energy. Go out there and make something of yourself. You can be great. I believe that everyone can be great so as long as they believe and cut out the bs distractions.
    Love 💗

    • @alfaisaac024
      @alfaisaac024 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I've said exactly what you've said but aimed at Masculinity, and the value of the Seed
      Men are especially designed for love over lust because they have valuable Life to give.
      The power is not in the screen so much as it is in the Life you meaninglessly aborted to fulfill that high. Instead retain and transmute that high into life and purpose holistically, and you will attract things rather than illicitly chase them.

    • @patricksargent5718
      @patricksargent5718 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That's wassup

    • @expedowl
      @expedowl 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Well said

    • @kidano5317
      @kidano5317 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      “Wow, wow, WOW! 🤩✨So much potent truth in each paragraph! Couldn’t have said it better! Fuel for my soul! Thank you for this!👏🏽

    • @marcusdoyle2061
      @marcusdoyle2061 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      As a divine masculine it has been my mission to enter into darkness and transmute it into light. I use the energy of desire and channel it to my heart while masturbating to porn, While receiving the energy of the Devine feminine into my heart as well. So, right there you got the energy from the sacral connecting to the heart as well as the divine feminine energy from the women onscreen passing through the heart, so the heart receives power from two sources at once giving it extra power. Also this trains your heart chakras muscle memory to be able to receive divine feminine energy in your heart in a sexual setting, whether you’re in love or not, as well as in non-sexual settings. Because the energy is being filtered through the heart, any trauma attached to the actresses is canceled out, but only if done correctly. Jesus said, “Drink good wine and have good sex, just make sure whatever you do comes from the heart.” And that is NOT in the Bible

  • @ErnThaGAWD
    @ErnThaGAWD 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Great podcast! I'm 23 and I quit porn 1 year and 3 months ago. My life changed! I'm never going back!

  • @mohamoudamin
    @mohamoudamin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I am a Muslim man and I love you brothers for having us on this and really talk to a lot of us brothers need. And I’m so thankful for your church brothers for trying to giving advice to save us from this pornographic filth

  • @ScaryToRemarry
    @ScaryToRemarry 4 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    First time I seen porn, I was 11. Then lost my virginity at 16. It’s crazy to think all the info we have about sex today, people are still scared to have a healthy conversation about it (especially when it comes to our kids).

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So many people have a similar story. The conversation needs to continue

    • @SkipOnDEEZ
      @SkipOnDEEZ 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Its crazy to think, that at some point in human history, it became normal to have a talk about sex with 'kids' smh. Vile, evil, or both.

  • @TheThirtyJourney
    @TheThirtyJourney 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Such an authentic and powerful episode.
    I felt like Chris showed a lot of his heart in this one. Shout out to you man b/c I know so many women and men that needed to hear what you shared. Thank you!

  • @SarahsDalyLife
    @SarahsDalyLife 4 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    You guys need Mike Todd, Pastor of Transformation Church on this! Im speaking it into being!!!! That would be ground breaking!!!!

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      We have tried to reach out and he declined

    • @pamelam6827
      @pamelam6827 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      What about RC Blakes!! He needs to be on your show!!!

    • @magneticaims
      @magneticaims 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@TheRoommatesPodcast oh. Okay. That surprises me though. I wonder why he declined.

    • @SarahsDalyLife
      @SarahsDalyLife 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@magneticaims I dont think he does non- church speaking engagements or doesnt believe in all the values this podcast portrays. Maybe he's seen a few episodes and doesnt like what he saw and maybe doesnt wanna have his church's brand tied to it. Its all about representation at the end of the day... valid though 👏🏽 I get it

    • @magneticaims
      @magneticaims 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@SarahsDalyLife that makes a lot of sense. Plus as the senior pastor that's a critical role and though The Roommates are Christians, I can see how one might hesitate to be part of it.

  • @bushidobrown9996
    @bushidobrown9996 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Everything you said in this video was so true. I quit porn after I saw the impact it was having on my self life and daily functions.

  • @itstheengineersdaughter1296
    @itstheengineersdaughter1296 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    porn × religion + being raised by grandmother × guilt = disaster. It's sad that so many men are affected by this dynamic, this podcast allows us to change for the next gen and understand causes.

  • @KiairaJordan
    @KiairaJordan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    The big issues with having sex compared to other sins is now he’s bringing soul ties with him into the relationship. So not only are you dealing with him, you are dealing with his past partners as well which makes things much more difficult.

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you for sharing

    • @angelinac3747
      @angelinac3747 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Soul ties don’t exist

    • @KiairaJordan
      @KiairaJordan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Curlmarie thats fine if you think that but I believe there is and there is plenty of evidence to back it up.

    • @helyce5303
      @helyce5303 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@KiairaJordan on a Christian level they don't exist the bible says nothing about it. Nor implies it. Infact the only person you can be tied with is your spouse and God

  • @NiquazWorld
    @NiquazWorld 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    This was a very dynamic discussion. You taught me more about the male minds and sexuality...I have a lot of empathy. I have so much respect for men who have managed to master the sexual battle in this overly sexualized society. For those who are working towards the mastery, I pray for your success. Thanks again guys for the discussion.

    • @liabw05
      @liabw05 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      th-cam.com/video/1U0IySpyCsE/w-d-xo.html

  • @educationalporpoises9592
    @educationalporpoises9592 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I've heard Ben Shapiro, Roaming Millenial, and like 10 other podcasters talk about porn and this is the best podcast I have heard about it. It feels like it hit home, and hopefully it did. Thanks for finally doing this one.

  • @izu874
    @izu874 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This was so damn good. I'm in the same boat regarding how porn decide the women you're attracted to body wise. I found a way around mine by watching different types lol. It's not easy being a man in this generation. Summer as a whole is highly challenging. Also, I really believe in dating multiple women once you're at a certain age.

  • @Lcmrockets
    @Lcmrockets 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You'll never be able to get rid of this on your own if you are truly addicted. Spending time with God will get rid of the desire to do it. Mike Wells with Abiding Life said it best "there is nothing that the nearness of Christ cannot fix" all you really have to do is get with God more.

  • @uchejordy3255
    @uchejordy3255 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Brothers ignore the negative comments people will come over here with, sure you're so smart you're doing that already. You're doing what even leaders of democracies and faiths don't have the guts to do, to speak the truth and transform. Thank you.

  • @gl0hen
    @gl0hen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    MAN!!! as a Christian woman who watches (and enjoys) this podcast, this has easily become one of my favorite episodes from you two. i really appreciate the honesty in this conversation, and i wish more men would be transparent with their battles watching pornography. i think it’s an important conversation to have, especially between men and women because it’s a common demon we deal with. the more it’s left in the dark, the more power it has on our lives. conversations like this start the chain breaking process for next generations!!! and thank you for the plug about the covenant eyes app, definitely downloading it like today today.

    • @educationalporpoises9592
      @educationalporpoises9592 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm starting to notice that for a lot of guys, being open about it can lead to complacency. It's like the whole "I went to confession and now I'm good and it shows I'm putting in work to improve" but it's not nearly enough. I'm in a couple groups, and admittedly notice that I adopt this attitude sometimes, and a lot of guys continual open up about it with no results. I think the issue is that a lot of guys are willing to open it up to people who can't help them, instead of guys who can. Sometimes this is because there isn't anyone available to help them, or at least no one they're comfortable with helping them... I dunno, it's discouraging. I dunno if it's a shame thing, but it's still a garbage thing that we're afraid of, ya know?

    • @gl0hen
      @gl0hen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@educationalporpoises9592 thank you for sharing this! that’s an interesting come to reality. i do want to commend them for taking the first step of acknowledgment at the very least. however i see how that dynamic of remaining complacent in the struggle exists and that’s disappointing. understandable, but disappointing. better role models are needed, men who are overcomers. no point in confessing to someone who is only going to endorse the magnitude of your struggle

    • @educationalporpoises9592
      @educationalporpoises9592 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@gl0hen agreed. It's mostly frustrating because I'm starting to realize that that's where I'm at, but with social distancing accountability partners that aren't mom or dad are hard to come by. But yeah, I think that they're better off than guys who don't admit they have a porn problem, for the most part.

    • @gl0hen
      @gl0hen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@educationalporpoises9592 whew i felt that! but you’re realization alone deserves to be honored. i get your frustration because i recently slipped from my purity promise to myself too and i realized it’s because i got way too comfortable. this is the type of warfare we gotta stay vigilant about and having proper accountability is essential

    • @educationalporpoises9592
      @educationalporpoises9592 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@gl0hen yeah, it takes work. I'm sorry to hear that. Purity is good to pursue. I do think purity CULTURE is harmful, though. A lot of shame can come with it in Christian circles and it can damage relationships. So I guess pursue purity, but remember it's not a stain on your value if you mess up. It's a mistake, not a characteristic (usually)

  • @domeretaylor4437
    @domeretaylor4437 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Great episode fellas, love the show! I have a few points!
    -I feel guys would suffer less with no porn because there would be less of an expectation and appetite for sex. Romance and porn, distort men's ideas of sex.
    -Men who are in the middle or on the bottom of the dating hierarchy will be with women in the middle or on the bottom once the women decide to prioritize marriage and commitment over short term satisfaction. This happens much sooner in life for women than for men. If we encouraged men to prepare for this rather then be resentful of it, there would be less entitlement and dissatisfaction among men.
    -Also we have to distinguish if we are talking about sex between men and women or marriage between men and women. Only marriage is sustainable and fulfilling long term so men and women should be encouraged to prioritize marriage over sex.
    Seems like Christian women are catching onto this faster than the men!
    -A man who is a virgin would not miss what he never had as much as a man who has already fornicated. That 31 year old man would be much worse off if he had sex within that time frame vs if he didn't.
    -How can Feez say he has more sexual discipline than 99% of men when he admits to having pre marital sex and watching pornography when he knows its wrong? Lol. And say it proud too, come on bro! Lol
    -Finally, if men want to be leaders we have to lead! The priority in our life should not be satisfying our urges, it should be to follow God. I don't blame Christian women who don't want to follow men who can't overcome or aren't even willing to fight with their sexual urges. That tells you where his heart is! A man who does not love God above all else will not know how to love a woman of God properly anyway, whether they have sex or not. A so called "good-guy" would not make himself to be comfortable with sin, if he truly believes that it is sin. That is to say, if he is truly a Christian.

    • @magneticaims
      @magneticaims 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Now this comment is very well balanced. I'm impressed more cause it's coming from a man.
      On the Hafeez point though, I get where you are coming from. Especially when it seems his sexual exploits have been several BUT perhaps what he means is that he's Now more disciplined and was very disciplined before. He mentioned 4 years at some point...

    • @brianna3239
      @brianna3239 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I was born and raised Christian and no longer am but when I was a Christian I never tested people’s standing in their walk with God. That was their business. I I will still never understand why people come at people that create open conversations like this to try and prove where someone is wrong, God forbid if they or anyone even mentions that they have a belief in God because then that belief is immediately tested to the degree that you practice your religion on., which isn’t just at all. They on the other hand aren’t testing it on any level or degree, simply just being open and having a good conversation, really being authentic (something I know a lot of Christians cannot do because they are so busy checking off a list to do certain things to make God keep “loving them”) God will never stop loving us. A lot of Christian’s have something good to say about content but always have to end it with trying to correct or make the person second guess their own journey with God. Even if they are wrong in any way, the judgment is merely in Gods hands because everyone has a unique spiritual relationship they choose to come to God with, We decide. God makes this clear in the Bible, the book of Ecclesiastes is slightly compatible with that. God is truly a gentle God and he is a thoughtful God, when I started to question my religion it brought me closer to God because I was so used to everyone else’s idea of God that I didn’t get to know him in the pure form he created me in. Why waste a life and pretend to be perfect or try to be. He is not so concerned with me being perfect, he wants me to spread his word and love to the truth of that so that his name is never in vain . God is God regardless and that’s why he’s says “ I am, that I am”

    • @domeretaylor4437
      @domeretaylor4437 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@brianna3239
      -I'm sorry to hear you fell away from the faith. You know in the end the scripture tells us of a falling away of many people in the faith because they deny the power of faith and only have a form of Godliness.
      -Also, I was not trying to prove anyone was wrong. I too am being a part of an open and honest conversation.
      Those are my genuine thoughts but also I relate to them in many ways. This is why I enjoy the show!
      -Based on your understanding and what you say of your experience with faith, I can see why you may have walked away but you seem to have a fundamental misunderstanding about what a personal relationship with God entails.
      -I love this show, I watch nearly every episode and just because I may hold my brothers accountable to what they say does not mean I am not being authentic. On the contrary, that means I am.
      -The truth that Christians believe is that if we love one another, we don't want to see each other fail or fall or misunderstand. The purpose is not to shame our brothers and sisters, but to exhort them in ways that we would want them to look out for us! That's Jesus' commandment to love your neighbor as yourself.
      -Furthermore there were other aspects of the conversation that I don't agree with 100% so if that's okay to talk about then the spiritual part is too, right?
      -I agree that questioning your faith can lead you to dive deeper but it saddens me to hear you now say that you don't practice your faith any longer. How is it that denouncing your faith Christ makes you closer to God?
      -Finally, I hope you don't misunderstand faith. We obey God because we love him, not because we are perfect. We are not all at the same level of faith or obedience but it is like any close personal relationship you have. You do not intentionally do things to hurt someone you love! And if they love you, they know you will not be perfect in this but your actions do matter to them. It is only faith, genuine faith in Christ that saves us and not just an association with, or knowledge of the savior. I hope you don't mind, but I will pray for you in hopes that something I have said has resonated with you and you will open your heart back up to a sincere, personal, intimate relationship with Jesus, through the Holy Spirit of Truth. God bless and I hope I have not offended you.

    • @brianna3239
      @brianna3239 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Domere Taylor I did not denounce my faith, I denounced a label. And I still practice my faith, just not under the label of Christianity so do not be sad for me, although I am understanding as to why you say that, I am happy and have been the happiest that I have ever been in my life, and God is still here, teaching me, guiding me and speaking to me. You can believe in God and not want to have anything to do with religion. The Bible is still something I heavily utilize because it his truth, I just think the church has destroyed the nature of our relationship with God. It is about having a genuine personal relationship with Him and being able to understand his name without religion attached to his glory. I get to lean on him more here without other people telling me what “God spoke to them about me”, i get to worship without the expectation of leaving it at only singing, I get to pray without people telling me that God told them something else. I trust that even if I am on a winding path he is hearing my prayers to still guide me into his promises to those who believe in him. As of right now I feel his love more right here. With his word, and the access Jesus gave us to God through him, Through the spirit. Maybe I do have more on my path, who knows. I am not ashamed or saddened by it though brother, know that God is always who he says he is and when I submit my doubts, fears and worries to him, he never goes “well gee I won’t answer your prayers today Brianna because you are no longer Christian” he still speaks to me through the wind and grass and I am still his daughter . I will not be offended if you pray for me, I wouldn’t refuse a considerate gesture like that.

    • @magneticaims
      @magneticaims 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@brianna3239 I was concerned about your comment on having been a Christian but know that I realise that you still rely on God and most importantly the role of Jesus in our faith walk, I know that we are still in the same family.
      I too pray that your journey will be fulfilling and continue with the Almighty God. 💜

  • @his2serverb
    @his2serverb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Fellow Christian here. Thank you for tackling this topic. Thank you for your authenticity and courage. Run the good race ❤️

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much

    • @brianna3239
      @brianna3239 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Right, but I recently just walked away from Christianity , The religious aspect of it at least. I think a lot of Christian’s try to be proper or appropriate and as I have been away from religious thoughts or opinions , I have actually found God more and do not hold shame. It’s better to be authentic because he really does love us (let me clarify that I’m not excusing sin). God really is God no matter what and his rules will always be his rules. I really appreciate the vulnerability and uncomfortable conversations, it is relieving to hear male perspectives as a lady and really embrace how the male mind thinks, I am intrigued , you guys should make some episodes with “hey bitch” they do lady versions it’s funny too the way you guys are!

    • @itsmike9227
      @itsmike9227 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@brianna3239 love your neighbour & God that's it

    • @uncledrew7633
      @uncledrew7633 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@brianna3239 yea I’m a Christian but I really dislike how it has become more of a “Genre” or some type of label and people get caught up with what a Christian looks like and sounds like.

  • @educationalporpoises9592
    @educationalporpoises9592 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Oh hey you guys should do a video on physical fitness, where people's heads are at when they pursue it and what not.

  • @hellcat3586
    @hellcat3586 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Insightful discussions as always. Love these podcasts 😎

  • @angeldavis2156
    @angeldavis2156 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I wonder how many of these "sexually disciplined " people are really just people with low sex drives. I hate the idea that people are judging guys that hard. It's harder for some people more than others.

    • @survive678
      @survive678 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Its definitely an interesting question. Hopefully more studies are done to fill the gaps. Im tired of all the bias and misunderstanding of pornography. People dont know how damaging it can be

    • @GoldenGraham25
      @GoldenGraham25 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Angel: Good question.... that must be tough. I personally have a fairly low sex drive compared to most. My first time was late in my 20’s and I go years in between. It’s just trash overall and sex is so overrated. Anyway, this is a good question and it’s got me thinking about myself. 🤔

    • @angeldavis2156
      @angeldavis2156 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @the LOGICian - theBeofox sexuality is so different for different people I have a really high sex drive but if I dont mentally connect with someone it won't satisfy me. I'm been accused of cheating- which I'd never do. Because my past boyfriends felt insecure if I wanted to do it all the time. Alot of men have low sex drives and I had to figure that out. The assumption is men want sex all the time and women dont and it's simply not true. Its different for people.

    • @angeldavis2156
      @angeldavis2156 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@survive678 honestly I'm pro- pornography I think it's a great way to explore different kinds of sex. But I know I'm the minority here.

    • @cutema101
      @cutema101 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Wisdom4Life LoveIsTheWay Could it also be that the sex you experienced was more so unfulfilling due to a bad sex partner and lack of emotional connection vs having a low sex drive?

  • @Nou75
    @Nou75 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That's a great comparison @ 18:56. I always enjoy hearing y'all perspectives on unorthodox topics such as this! As a female, I too was addicted. And it took alot of self-discipline & praying to come out of it. Thanks for the vulnerability guys

  • @lacortneyfinch
    @lacortneyfinch 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I really feel for the people who this happens too. I can watch porn and not lose my grasp on reality. I enjoy it, but I never take away expectations from it. It never made me feel like I was competing...it just turned me on and taught me a few things.
    But mixing Porn with a person who already is emotionally unstable, someone who cant form positive relationships platonic or sexual. This mix is a bowl of disaster

  • @patricksargent5718
    @patricksargent5718 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    One of the issues theory I noticed is that church gurls expectations are wayy too high and they overlook the serious men in the church. So it's harder for us guys in the faith

    • @angeldavis2156
      @angeldavis2156 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was a church girl but I never felt that. But I always think if people as people. I'm strange I didn't "straighten up" around church people. People have always just been people to me.

  • @samirahlouis9108
    @samirahlouis9108 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    To add to the point of women dealing with guys that have sexual struggles. I think we should also talk about the degree and gravity of the situation. Because let’s be honest it will be hard to have a relationship where a man or a woman has a lack of self control

  • @SuzieQ871
    @SuzieQ871 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Y’all always have me crackin’ up! 😂 but thank you for talking about such a serious topic.

    • @ScaryToRemarry
      @ScaryToRemarry 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      SuzieQ871 I was literally laughing out loud while at work listening

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you

  • @loveflowsfromife
    @loveflowsfromife 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This episode was everything!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @2damecuteUK
    @2damecuteUK 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    That was a good discussion, definitely enjoyed it

  • @masterl14
    @masterl14 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Y'all preaching preaching from 50:00 onwards!! Its harddddddd!!! Its something that is an ongoing battle in singleness and some in marriage (sexual disipline) times have changed from short courtships and young marriage, its not wise to do such in todays society. And perfectly said regarding following a man who may fall in certain areas but try and see the God in him through it! This life is hard boi but its good to know we're not in it alone and have better understanding

  • @RAPierce
    @RAPierce 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh. My. Gosh. 🤯🤯🤯 This was sooo powerful for me!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I'm a new listener, but y'all keep killing it!!🔥🔥🔥
    This conversation is soooo needed, so thank you!!🖤

  • @SunnyLady8925
    @SunnyLady8925 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Not mad at this at all gentlemen 👏🏿 great convo

  • @DonBrownII
    @DonBrownII 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    powerful episode. this will change so many ppl's lives.

  • @donavino11
    @donavino11 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Changing my life this year. It used to be so bad, that even after I have sex with a woman I go watch porn. That's when I realized what I was doing was not healthy. Hard to maintain that intamcy if you're not being present.

  • @isabellaimade2388
    @isabellaimade2388 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The big problem with porn is the fantasy that comes with these videos/images which a partner/ sig other cannot fulfill for you in your mind. So it creates a barrier when it comes to a true relationship/ interaction.

    • @GoldenGraham25
      @GoldenGraham25 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      It definitely kills the romance and intimacy.

  • @pamelam6827
    @pamelam6827 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was so good!! I would love to see you guys chop it up with Pastor RC Blakes. He could really teach some things about sexuality and dating. He’s on TH-cam.

  • @tiffanyRN504
    @tiffanyRN504 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I needed some of these laughs today yall

  • @OneWay4D73
    @OneWay4D73 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Pastor recalled one counseling session on porn addiction:
    -Pastor, I'm trying to stop watching porn
    -How do you usually view it?
    -On my phone
    -Where's your phone?
    -In my pocket
    -I'm sorry, I thought you said you were trying to stop
    Better to enter heaven without a hand or eye than your entire body go to hell.
    What are you truly willing to do to not give in?
    In Christianity, the line is drawn at lust.

  • @deathmetalinyourface
    @deathmetalinyourface 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    It literally took me YEARS to shake off my porn addiction and get into recovery. I still slip up sometimes, but I have way more discipline. It feels great having a mind not always focused on pornography.

  • @kendallrackley1308
    @kendallrackley1308 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I remember having that in my house too Hafeez! That's actually how I seen it for the first time too lol

  • @Brother_mar
    @Brother_mar 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    What a podcast, extremely beneficial and enlightening! Thank you guys for your efforts.

  • @marcleon1513
    @marcleon1513 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    These guys are Christians but they're real. That is such a hard combination to find when it comes to porn/sex talks with a Christian. Typically they'll talk at you, give you a scripture, slap you on the arse and send you out the door. You guys give me hope that I can get free. At the height of my porn addiction I used to watch porn 6 hours a day while, maintaining a social life , work etc.

  • @Islander2000
    @Islander2000 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This episode has lots of gems and open conversation archs. We defs need to be talking a whole lot more about sex nd where we're at in relation to that. I'm defs sharing this on twitter nd gtting some people talking. I'm a Muslim and let's just say, there's a lot we also need to talk more about. For anyone struggling with porn: if you can, Fast. works for lots of people. its also a plus if you're trynna lose weight, lol. Also, hope everyone's staying safe during these Rona times. Hafeez nd Chris, we appreciate.

  • @nanagyambibi7426
    @nanagyambibi7426 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yall hit on some goat points man

  • @andrewclarke2865
    @andrewclarke2865 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Ok i get the facts that porn destroys ur brain but constantly being rejected and turn down even by the so call low hanging fruit is just as damaging of the psychological mindset also.
    Along with the fact of being in social areas with the same kind of people that have been socially shunned only creates a ether of me and women that end up hating the other group due to the fact that there is so may of us. Please expand on this if this is seen.

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for sharing

    • @alfaisaac024
      @alfaisaac024 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Work on yourself, your physique and on your Masculinity, being content in your self having a greater meaning and purpose for your life. We have to operate out of a state of abundance and attract out of Love not chase out of a state of lack and low self perception which is Lust. And women of course are hyper sensitive to this.
      The world operates off of yin and yang. The existence of a Man implies that of a Women, and implies eventual procreation. We should not have to chase whom we were designed for and to give life to.
      It's all Perspective and Disciplining yourself to your purpose.
      Sacredly Value and Transmute the energy of the Seed into yourself. Because you're worth it as a life giving Man. Become sexy and purposeful yourself.
      Not saying this because I've achieved this. I've just recently kicked this bs to the curb. But because I believe this is the best practical and metaphysical way forward for me and everyone else on this path.

    • @andrewclarke2865
      @andrewclarke2865 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@alfaisaac024 thank you im going to try to kick the bs too its just very difficult especially when u get hyper sensitive when it comes to not have any interaction with women if u get what i mean.

    • @alfaisaac024
      @alfaisaac024 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@andrewclarke2865 yeah. I'm currently at small communal grad school where there are nice girls. Not necessarily attracted to them but it's good practice just interacting with as humans with similar interests. I also enjoy being independent of them. Feeling myself on my purpose, working on my other side passion in music expression knowing that it will only attract better things and put me in better cultured social places.

  • @w.d.2154
    @w.d.2154 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    How can men expect women to be sexualy conservative to consider her a wife, but yet harp on why its unfair that they are judged or excluded from relationships for the same expectation? Make it make sense 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @martinmutuna6641
      @martinmutuna6641 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ego. Men's ego, sex is highly at the center of their ego if that doesn't make sense ask your partner

    • @zaraahmedov3456
      @zaraahmedov3456 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@martinmutuna6641 Men should work on their ego then.. Because it doesn't work that way.
      What is your advice to a woman who lived sexually conservative, married a man who preffered her to be so but then expects all his sexual wishes to be fulfilled and it seems to be going well and she is happy about that, but then she discoveres that he has a full on porn addiction. Of course her heart will be broken, she waited for so long to be with someone, than had to try hard in order to feel like she is enough for him and then she discoveres sex and porn are actually central in his life. It is very hard to deal with this situation from a woman's perspective. A woman like that deserves better.
      Men need to do better, or else they deserve cheating wives. For real.

    • @martinmutuna6641
      @martinmutuna6641 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@zaraahmedov3456 I couldn't agree more.

  • @reefic8194
    @reefic8194 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This episode right here 👏🏽

  • @micaiahbrown5873
    @micaiahbrown5873 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I wonder if being taught sex education at earlier ages (ie in middle school, etc.) have any connection to porn.

    • @Gina-ko3tr
      @Gina-ko3tr 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I will say propably. I'm mean, in my country we do have sex education class when we are in our last year of middle school and some classes in high school and they encourage people to watch porn and to masturbate for learning about their body (excuse my english)

  • @tipsy09
    @tipsy09 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I always thought that if I ever went to a slaughterhouse that it would deter me from ever eating meat again. It didn’t. But I remember when I first saw the shit women go through in the porn industry and the pure sleaziness of it all, I’m like damn how can I continue to support this nonsense

  • @expedowl
    @expedowl 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for having such an open and honest discussion.

  • @SkipOnDEEZ
    @SkipOnDEEZ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The strip club is different cause you HAVE to be an adult to get in. Porn and OF are easily accessible to children and young adults. Half the links are on instagram. You might not even be interested in a strip club by the time youre of age if you were never introduced to porn. Itll be weird to you.

  • @ludakkris
    @ludakkris 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Could ya'll make a video on you views of how these days women don't want to be looked at as sexual tools by men but sexualize themselves by wear less clothing, snapchat premium & onlyfans

  • @davidnsa9462
    @davidnsa9462 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks so much guys

  • @angelsaywhat
    @angelsaywhat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Yahoo messenger 😂 aol messenger was like 4th-6th grade for me

  • @SHKBAK31
    @SHKBAK31 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Podcast: Do you want to take this podcast to another level?
    Me waiting on a story: let me get my snacks!

  • @MsJay0913
    @MsJay0913 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Man... I remember those AOL chat rooms! And asl!!! 😫😅

  • @stephanieawuah
    @stephanieawuah 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good talk. Great read to consider: "Pornography and the Christian Girl" book by Alberta Darku

  • @flawns
    @flawns 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    that laugh! What cartoon character had that similar laugh?

  • @angelsaywhat
    @angelsaywhat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It was the girls gone wild infomercials for me 😂

    • @lacortneyfinch
      @lacortneyfinch 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Angel Say What?! Lol I lived for those boob filed infomercials lol

    • @angelsaywhat
      @angelsaywhat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      lacortney finch it was at that point I knew I might like women cuz I never looked at men with the same admiration 😂

    • @lacortneyfinch
      @lacortneyfinch 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Angel Say What?! I mean I was about to stay up until 1am to watch some penises flapping. Smh that’s just scary lol

    • @angelsaywhat
      @angelsaywhat 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      lacortney finch 😂😂😂💀💀💀 I like both but flapping penis just doesn’t sound sexy at all

  • @winninempire8269
    @winninempire8269 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Facts and I love it and this is what guys need to here keep up the inspiration and we all are Christians who love God but it’s time for the Christian people to take charge and express the truth like Jesus did keep thriving because this is hurting people worst than obesity

  • @donavino11
    @donavino11 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Chris bro same here. My friend had the "PSP" too lmaooo

  • @russellrobinson7036
    @russellrobinson7036 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    We had to watch the same channel too. I remember the chat room. I used yahoo. I was in my 20s back then.

  • @brianna3239
    @brianna3239 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    You guys should make a video with “Hey bitch” check them out on here.

  • @accrualworld318
    @accrualworld318 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So do you agree that Christian women should dress more modestly? I had a guy in my church say that to me once but not directly at me. He said that women are making it hard for brothers in the church to remain faithful by our tight fitting dresses. Do you agree?

    • @TuffLuv1984
      @TuffLuv1984 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Accrual World if your eye 👁 causes you to sin... pluck it out... what other people do should have no bearing on your actions/sin

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Naw. Freedom of expression

    • @nameless592
      @nameless592 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Lol men will always find a way to blame women for the short comings. They just don’t want to take accountability

    • @samirahlouis9108
      @samirahlouis9108 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yes, women should dress modestly. They should do their best to wear appropriate clothing to church or to go anywhere. However, we live in a society where women can do their best to wear appropriate clothes and men will always find a way to make an inappropriate situation out of it.

    • @KINGRODP
      @KINGRODP 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      1 Tim 2:9

  • @5u54
    @5u54 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was about 8 when i was exposed to porn....crazy right! Been watching ever since...take breaks tho

    • @artemijsstefanovs3465
      @artemijsstefanovs3465 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      5u54 Quit now, or regret later
      Believe me you can do this!

  • @kingjj1372
    @kingjj1372 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Put more volume on your audio! Its real low

  • @jayivy2999
    @jayivy2999 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    28:06 - how about the women that are geared like that aka strippers & more nympho like people?

    • @Thedragonwithin
      @Thedragonwithin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Jay Ivy a lot of times it’s bc of trauma

  • @sondramyles1120
    @sondramyles1120 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Interesting!

  • @lifatukwayi
    @lifatukwayi 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Crazy how you said 2017, the same year I lost my virginity 🤣😭

  • @jermainegrays
    @jermainegrays 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    that hot latinas xxx got me weak! Rofl!

  • @18milton1
    @18milton1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am curious about you all thoughts on women that used sex toys and if any what implication it has on women.

  • @edunchained
    @edunchained 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Porn doesnt ruin anything for anybody...its just entertainment.Going off .the extreme minority who cant handle it is not a good representation. It doesnt kill sex drive or motivation to get women at all... obviously women dont want you whether you watch porn or not

  • @jayg3189
    @jayg3189 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hafeez, your a better man than me. Leaving a room with a naked woman there. Lmaoooooooooooooooooooo

  • @JordensCadet
    @JordensCadet 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Who can find a virtuous woman?

  • @anosh88
    @anosh88 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Women struggle with porn too. If they don't, then they're fornicating. Lust is not just a man issue, but a woman one as well. I hope people understand that. No such thing as men's sins and women's sins. Sin doesn't discriminate.

  • @accrualworld318
    @accrualworld318 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Chris please stop using the Lord’s name in vain. You say, “God d***” a lot. Too much

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I will try my best

    • @akwesiboachie9913
      @akwesiboachie9913 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      What is God's name lol. All he said was God damn he didn't mention a name

  • @tipsy09
    @tipsy09 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    51:10
    That’s why many believe we are in the end times or a few generations away from the end because the sin and debauchery is everywhere.
    Paul washer

  • @famousatiley971
    @famousatiley971 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You got one on homosexuality???

  • @davidbuffer4815
    @davidbuffer4815 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    People should make their relationships open, simple. Everybody is naturally sexual. So throw away monogamy

  • @toramiller5055
    @toramiller5055 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    That is such an unfair statement to say how can my husband lead me if he cannot control his sexual desires. That’s arrogant on the wife’s part , she is not perfect and what about her shortcomings ? A man can ask the same question will you be a good mother or a good wife because of your flaws ?

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      all really good questions

    • @magneticaims
      @magneticaims 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Mate, you are clearly not married. This is a thing.
      It's not about fair statements or even expecting perfection. If it were me, I'd be holding my husband accountable. I expect him to do the same for me on my shortcomings

    • @Thedragonwithin
      @Thedragonwithin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      magneticaims facts

    • @samirahlouis9108
      @samirahlouis9108 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It’s all about self control

  • @ChrisPolo95
    @ChrisPolo95 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don’t understand this movement of women who said that masturbation is good for your immune system. Can someone please explain why people, especially women think so ?

    • @Pxndoraxhoneycomb
      @Pxndoraxhoneycomb 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Search for Kim Anami on TH-cam.

    • @lacortneyfinch
      @lacortneyfinch 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s definitely good for your mental health. I think it’s important for a woman to know her body, be able to please herself, and connect with herself. Masturbation is also good for manifestation, the power of an Orgasm can be healing.

  • @zero1188
    @zero1188 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Most men dont get the girls because of game thats all. If you arean average guy work on game and you will be good

    • @TheRoommatesPodcast
      @TheRoommatesPodcast  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      True

    • @alfaisaac024
      @alfaisaac024 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Also work on your value purpose and sense of self worth, to sustain game or the relationship

  • @zadkovichraj3246
    @zadkovichraj3246 ปีที่แล้ว

    Is Hafeez Christian or Muslim?

  • @loveafrica97
    @loveafrica97 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    If a man is still hiding his porn addiction, as a believer, I’d be concerned. It’s not something that isn’t talked about anymore.. why hide? It would make me wonder.. what kind of porn are you watching? It’s concerning

  • @stephanemugisha6276
    @stephanemugisha6276 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    39:26 yooo you good

  • @itaekumba33
    @itaekumba33 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ma guys are fools.. LMAO

  • @edono_thegaijin
    @edono_thegaijin 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    The spice channel. Illegal cable. 😎

  • @edunchained
    @edunchained 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Porn doesnt give you a sex drive...the dude already had the sex drive...its the tiger woods thing where we are going to act like him wanting to have sex is an illness lol..no he had a normal sex drive and he is tigerwoods so he has access to get what he wants

  • @Fredleea77
    @Fredleea77 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Do the right thing to do the right Thing-CHARACTER 🙌🏼♥️♥️ Hallelujahhhh......

  • @КлюевСергей-э5с
    @КлюевСергей-э5с 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    4:12 Uh.. if you make pornography illegal, you gotta make heroine illegal.... oops it is already illegal. Porn causes not much less damage.

  • @FalaqX
    @FalaqX 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    They too young to know about A/S/L Lol

  • @roshanepalmer7412
    @roshanepalmer7412 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I HATE that I can’t see them in 1 frame. It’s giving me anxiety

  • @Jjsr3
    @Jjsr3 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @jjtherock4190
    @jjtherock4190 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Make that joint illegal it does no good for no body

  • @Hbsmooth
    @Hbsmooth 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    😂😂😂😂

  • @PubzG
    @PubzG 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I memba

  • @AGAM601
    @AGAM601 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    You

  • @seantryce7402
    @seantryce7402 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️✨🙌🤘

  • @duhut5476
    @duhut5476 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Maaf ya allah hamba liat ini.