Tus niam pog no tsis yog ib tug neeg zoo 100%. Why does she make herself sound so perfect? Nobody just hate you for no reason. I'm pretty sure there's a reason to the nyab's actions. Niam pog controlling tiag tiag.
As a mother I'd never expect my children to leave their husband/wife for me. If their spouses hate me so what I can live by myself and just let them live their lives. I don't want to be a burdens to them. No mother should baby their children. No mother or father have rights to tem their son/daughter to divorce their spouses. Leave the choice for them to make. Two wrongs don't make thing right.
Niam pog kuv xav tias koj Mas yog 1 tug niam pog phem tshaj plaws li o koj Mas yog tau tus nyab ruam xwb thiaj haum koj nawb yog tus nyab ntse li koj thiab ces neb sib Tua xwb vim koj yog cov niam pog xyoo 75 coj phem kawg nkaus li o koj piav koj zaj no xwb peb twb paub koj lub qe phem lawm o
Ua cas nej ho xav mloog tus nyab side na, ib tus neeg phem xav tau luag tus tub ho tsis hlub luaj niam es yog nws xa nws side os story ces yog dag xwb os. Kuv yeej ntseeg tus niam pog no nawb. Zoo kawg tus niam pog no ua taus niam es nws thiaj muab niag maum dev no xa kiag mus.
@@DinaMeYoung4797 Because this niam pog is not telling the entire truth. She is a narcissist who thinks she she has no fault and is a great loving person. She saw nothing wrong with breaking up her sons marriage. She saw nothing wrong with hurting and manipulating her son. She's not the good loving person she claims to be.
@@PNWniam kuv xav mas yog tus nyab coj zoo ces tus niam pog yeej tsis muaj problem li os. Tus niam pog no hais nws cov lus tsis muaj tsaug los yeej muaj ntau nawb. Yog tus nyab zoo ces niam pog yeej zoo xwb, tos niam pog muab nyab xa es tus tub ho tsis hais li cas los tej zaum yeej muaj tiag nawb. Peb cov ntxhais hmoob mus ua luag nyab lawm yog yus twb txawj Hlub yus niam yus txiv ne yus tus txiv los kuj muaj niam muaj txiv thiab es ua cas yus ua nyab hos phem ua luaj li.
@@hmoobxwb7119 kuv mloog mas tus niam pog no tsis phem os, yog koj mus tau ib niag nyab zoo li tus nyab hais no koj ho puas ua li tus niam pog no ua ma. Yog kuv ces kuv yeej muab nyab xa ib yam li tus niam pog no thiab nawb. Vim kuv twb mob mob plab yug kuv tus tub thiab kuv yeej tsis kam ib niag maum dev los tsim kuv tsev neeg li os. Poj niam muaj coob mam nrhiav dua rau yus tus tub nawb.tus zoo tseem muaj.
That’s doesn’t mean anything. She was willing to lose her own blood grandkids what makes you think she really cares about someone else’s? She only loves them bc the new DIL is still kissing her butt. Just wait for a disagreement and I guaranteed they will be the very first one she attacks.
I understand that this lady raised a son alone so her hope is that he’ll care for her when she’s old. But she also has to realize that once the wife marries that son, she is the head of the house now along with her husband. She has to allow them to build that life and wealth. Not just leech off her so she can control them. Sad on all parts.
Tus niam pog no mas ntshe twb tsis tsab ntse kiag, hos tej tug tub no los xyov puas yog tsheej txiv neej yawg li thiab as. Tseem xav ua niam tsev tswj txhua yam npaum koj es sij kom yus niag tub yuav nyab ua dabtsi nas los. Puas nkag siab tias, ntxim hlub thiaj tau kev hlub
Hmong parents expect too much. Why can’t they be independent like other race and live on their own? When I get old, I will not hold my sons prisoner to care for my husband and I. I told my husband we will check ourselves into a nursing home.
Omg, you took the words out of my mouth! Why do old Hmong parents burden their kids with that kind of responsibility? They are not obligated to take care of us but we are to them because we chose to bring them into this world. They didn’t chose us. I will not tell my kids who they can marry and not. They need to live for themselves, not for me. I already lived my life.
Yep! Our parents are still old fashioned. Don’t live together and don’t expect to be taken care of by your kids. Hmong parents have these kind of stories because they live by that rule for generations. It just needs to die out with our generation. I don’t expect my nyab to take care of my needs and hell no, no one is to clean my behind. If I’m at that point then it’s better to check myself into a nursing home. No one deserves to wipe your behind. That should be a paying professional’s job.
This woman sounds like the MIL from Hell. I don’t believe her story and how she made her ex-DIL out to be only then to beg her for forgiveness at the end. In her dreams maybe. I can’t believe she forced her son to get a divorce. A mama’s boy create spineless husbands - women, stay away from these!
This woman sound so means. If you are good niam pog you would never laughed at her you should feel sorry for her. Txawm tus nyab phem npaum cas los yog koj yog ib tus niam pog zoo. Koj yeej zam ntxim rau nws thaum nws twb nyoo koj lawm. Koj yog ib tus niam pog kav thiab khoo tus tub cuag li koj tus txiv. Tsis work os. Tus nyab phem niam pog tseem phem tshaj thiab rws li hais lus na.
Please keep in mind in some cases it's not just the mother in law that's bad or the daughter in law that is bad. It takes two. Her son doesn't know how to be a husband much less a man. He doesn't curb or discipline his wife. He allowed his wife to mistreated his mother. Especially when he's an only son and only child. She knew that before marrying him and agreed. But nope she thought she was gonna control him and get him to kicked his mother out of her own home.
The grandma sounds kinda controlling….but then again, the daughter in law married 4 more times after divorcing her son and it still didn’t work out, so I guess she could be really mean 🤷♀️
Is that what happened? I couldn’t listen to the whole story. Too much complaining and she sounds mean and controlling so I didn’t care to finish listening
Very true the way you say but the door swing both ways. If the parent is a manipulator...always poking into your life and marriage...that is a different story. If the parent states their plan to destroy your life and call you names...where is the respect then. Every case is different. Until you are living that life...don't judge!❤
Not on anyone's side... but.... How did it begin???? She skipped why her nyab disliked her in the beginning... all of a sudden, the nyab just hate her!
@@maryly09 I think so too, but she doesn't even mentioned her bad side at all. Because she did said in the story she doesnt see her wrong at all till this day. Meaning, she believed she was perfect.....🥴
I think she just wants respect and respect was not what she got so she acted on it. Some people can just dislike you and harbor resentment towards you without even bringing it to the table. Most women do that and that’s why we don’t get along. If you disagree on something you need to spit it out and I think in most case women are cowards to spiting out their dislikes/disagreements so they harbor resentment towards the person instead of being honest with them (even me 😅)
Yuav tub twm zeej ces yeej yuav tau nrog niam pog ua neej txij tog txij peg thiaj g mag nrauj mag xa rov qab .koj hmoov zoo es tau tub mloog lus thiaj xum xaiv koj tus ua niam instead of his ex wife .poor ex nyab too late to be good at the end
Peb hmoob txoj kev niam pog txiv yawg them nqi tshoob kos rau tub nyab yuav tau tsum. Nyias them nyias nqi tshoob kos. Ib tug thiaj tsis tshuav ib tug nqi. Nyab tsis hlub niam pog txiv yawg los thiaj tsis nkim nyiaj tsis tu siab. Story los zoo. Tus hais los hais tau zoo kawg. Thank you for sharing.
I honestly think the Niam Pog isn’t the greatest, or the hero for saving her son. He didn’t come to her and beg her to help. Because she has a bad relationship with her DNL, doesn’t mean that she should choose and decided for her son to get a divorced. Just because she made her own choices to stick with her son instead of remarrying when her husband was deceased, that doesn’t mean her son will do the same. I think as parents, please don’t choose your children’s life. Let them choose it themselves and allow them to learn through the consequences.
Sounds like the mom is the problem. The mom sounds controlling. I want to hear the Nyab's side of story. I'm sure there's a reason why the nyab act the way she do. The mom is motivating the son to divorce instead of trying to understand the stress he's going through. Just because you're "mom" doesn't mean you're right all the time. Sorry, not sorry.
Think she sound like that because she’s had enough. If she was so bad, why does the Nyab keep coming back. Some Nyab are just bad, doesn’t matter if you good mil or not.
I don't think the MIL is the problem...She made it really clear that whoever marries her son would have to accept her too because she has NO ONE ELSE! The DIL chose to act the way she does and now regrets it because Karma got to her. If the MIL was so bad, why would that thick face DIL keep on coming back & wants to reconnect with the family? 🤷♀️
Okay...to those Nyabs that claim their MIL has an old disease...Doesn't that mean that your Birth mother has it too...or you'll have it too when you become of old age?!!! If you're gonna marry into a family of an only son; you best to have a Big heart!!!
This mil is pretty strict. She wants to do everything with her son and dil… sometimes it’s better not to get involved in your kids marriages in certain situations. I’m sure the first nyab is bad like she mentions but sometimes she can break due to the mil attitude and strict rules. I don’t blame either one because there’s always two sides to the story…
Please don't generalize all mother in law's expectations of their nyab. Speak for yourself only. You think that koj zoo zoo es koj tu nyab thiaj li ua phem rau koj. It takes two to tangle. Learn to be independent, don't rely on anyone, and stop playing the victim. You didnt give your son and his wife any space or privacy. Expecting too much and demanding love will create resentment instead of unconditional love. It's not too late to change, I wish you the best.
Well, that’s what I thought at first but then the dil got jailed for letting the new dad beat the kid. So, I have to take the mil side. Not all mils are bad. They just stand up for their rights.
A mistake a Hmong woman makes is not to move on and remarry not to hang on to her sons or daughters after her dead husband… To the daughter-in-law. You will get old one day.,,karma will hit you hard as well…😩👍!
kuv mloog ma zoo li koj twb tsis hlub txog lwm tus li es kj hlub koj tu kheej xwb yog tus twg g ywj kj siab ce kj g au xwb es lawv pham lawm lo yus yeej pham thiab os vim laus lawm lo tseem tau sov tej me nyuam coob2 g tau zog noj ce yus yeej yog pham thiab ma nawb yus tu tub twb ua ntsuag lawm es txhob cia nw cov ua thiab os txua yam yog koj tu tub ua tsis tau txiv xwb nawb
Luag hais tias, yeej txhob quaj. Swb txhob luag. Everyone makes mistakes. There is also such a thing as forgiveness. That doesn't mean your ex-daughter in law needs to get back with your son, but forgive for your own good. And don't be too proud of yourself, that's all.
Zoo siab nrog koj uas koj yug tau ib tug tub uas siab zoo thiab mloog2 lus koj thiaj hais tau ua raws li koj ua niam hais xwb os cov tsis muaj hmoo ces tub tsis mloog hais thiaj tu2 siab ua tsis tau li koj ne thiaj quaj2 los mas
Niam tai koj hai yog lawm thiab tab si kuj yog tsi tag thiab yeej muaj cov niam pog ua phem2 thiab muaj tu zoo tu phem nawb koj txhob hai tia niam pog zoo txhua tu no nawb yeej muaj tu phem thiab
Cov ntxhais hmoob no más kuv yeej ntshai yuav ua nyab lawm nawb. Tus me niam pog no ua yog tshaj plaws li nawb, kuv los tej zaum kuv yuav ua li tus niam pog no thiab nawb, vim kuv yug tau ob tug xwb.
Tub nyab lawv nyiam li cas los koj yuav tau yoog ib nrab thiab. Koj nyiam li cas los tub nyab yuav tau ua raws li koj nyiam ib txhia thiab...mas sawv daws thiaj nyob tau ua ib tse.
Omg ib tug niam pog like this maum dev laus deserves a 🥊. Koj tus tub lub neej na why are you divorcing his wife? To the son, you are a looser a** coward. You cannot take charge of your life that is why your mom divorced your wife & not your decision. Koj los tsis yog niam pog pab koj tus tub lub cuab os koj tsho nws lub cuab thaib xwb os. You act like you are married to your own son! Sick maum dev
Your issue is that you only had one son and no husband, so you overcompensated your love to your son. No nyab would meet your expectations because your son is your whole life. What your first nyab had was BOUNDARIES - your living style wasn’t what she was used to. If a niam pos didn’t respect my boundaries, I would fight for them too. No nyab or niam pos would hate each other from the start unless there was a bad family history. She probably couldn’t even live a happy life with her family without you hovering over them, telling your son what to do, and judging her. I know so many stories like that. What she said about sleeping with your son was part true. It’s called EMOTIONAL INCEST. Look it up
Yes! THIS!!! The MIL gloated about how the ex-DIL's life spiraled and how the MIL did nothing wrong from day one. I strongly believe the MIL caused the nyab to go on a downward spiral.
@@PNWniam and she even admitted that for the second daughter in law, she had to tell her who’s boss. “You can’t be nice or they step over you, you have to show them you are the strong woman of the house.” & That it wasn’t her daughter in law and son’s life, but HERS. She only wanted a wife for her son for her benefit. Everyone should marry someone who loves their parents, but there’s a line here that has been crossed.
@@Faifferz Agreed. The mother crossed the entire border. She knows no boundaries. The only type of nyab that can make it in that household is one that is as dumb and spineless as the son. Every decision made for her son's life is for personal gain. She has shown that she doesn't care who's lives she destroys along the way... As long as it makes her happy. Heck, she destroyed her son's marriage and she was proud while he was hurt and guess heart was shattered. Definitely not a saint and not a niam pog anyone should strive to be.
I will be that kind of niam pog. You can find a wife but not a mother. When you have only one child and want the best for him before you leave this world I would do the same.
Tsis muaj tseeb tsis yog tim tus nyab tas2 yeej tim tus niam pog thiab. Yog koj mus tau tsev neeg los yog niam pog tsis nyiam koj thiab tus tub ua tsis tau txiv ces lub neej no tsis kav ntev koj tsuas uv kaum zaum ib zaug koj yeej uv tsis tau. Yeej muaj ib cov nyab phem los yeej muaj ib cov niam pog los yeej phem ib yam nkaus. Yog koj ncaj tus tus niam pog zoo ces yus yeej hlub. Tam li kuv mloog mas yog tus niam pog no phem thiab heev dhau lawm thiab tus tub ua tsis tau txiv. Thaum tus txiv ua momma boy lub neej yeej tsis kav ntev thiab lub neej lwj2 siab.
Xyov li os lawv aw nej mloog zoo li cas os. Cas kuv mloog mas zoo li tuas niam pog no phem tshaj qhov phem lawm thiaj xav nyab mloog mlog ib ntsis kuj zoo li nws kuj hais yog thiab xyov li lau. Tab sis tus niam pog no tsis dog dig li nawb.
Cas tus niam pog no yuav ua cuag li uas nws nrog tau nws tus tub ua neej. Yuav yuam kom tub muab nyab nrauj tub tsis kam es yus yuav muab nyab xa kiag os.
There's two sides to this story, but you sound like a controlling mother-in-law. There's no person who hates you unless you did something wrong and can't mind your own business. There needs to be mutual respect for each other because you can not be all good. We need to hear the ex daughter-in-law side of the story because this lady makes herself sound like a saint.
Well if the nyab is better than what the mil said, I don't think she'll come crawling back begging. Plus she's already a bad mom when she didn't side with her kids but rather her new man. The mil stood her ground and foresee that if she don't send the 1st wife to her parents, she's gonna suffer in her old age.
Oh sh*t! This is a kicka$$ mom/gma. She is absolutely right about not tolerating abuse and cruelty. Stand your ground especially when you know you are right.
I got something to say to this grandma. For your first daughter in law she had her karma’s. I’m sure she learned her mistakes. Forgiveness is always do. It’s best to tell her a nice way to moved on.
I’m interested in hearing the previous nyab’s side. There’s always 3 sides to a story. Your side, my side, and the truth. 😂 We’re all human after all and we must learn to treat others equally and as how we’d like to be treated. You have to find some middle ground somewhere if you’re all going to live with each other. It’s a love hate relationship living with your in laws or anyone other than your immediate family.
Tus niam pog no tsis yog ib tug neeg zoo 100%. Why does she make herself sound so perfect? Nobody just hate you for no reason. I'm pretty sure there's a reason to the nyab's actions. Niam pog controlling tiag tiag.
Phem tiag tiag niam pog no 😁😁😁
As a mother I'd never expect my children to leave their husband/wife for me. If their spouses hate me so what I can live by myself and just let them live their lives. I don't want to be a burdens to them. No mother should baby their children. No mother or father have rights to tem their son/daughter to divorce their spouses. Leave the choice for them to make.
Two wrongs don't make thing right.
Yog lawm. I agree
This mil only have one child she so wants to control her son’s live. There’s two sides of the stories to this story.
Niam pog kuv xav tias koj Mas yog 1 tug niam pog phem tshaj plaws li o koj Mas yog tau tus nyab ruam xwb thiaj haum koj nawb yog tus nyab ntse li koj thiab ces neb sib Tua xwb vim koj yog cov niam pog xyoo 75 coj phem kawg nkaus li o koj piav koj zaj no xwb peb twb paub koj lub qe phem lawm o
Ntxim aib pog laus no phem kawg thiab. Sib phim nkaus.
Nyab please send your story in, i don't believe it. There's 3 sides to a story 😅
Ua cas nej ho xav mloog tus nyab side na, ib tus neeg phem xav tau luag tus tub ho tsis hlub luaj niam es yog nws xa nws side os story ces yog dag xwb os. Kuv yeej ntseeg tus niam pog no nawb. Zoo kawg tus niam pog no ua taus niam es nws thiaj muab niag maum dev no xa kiag mus.
@@DinaMeYoung4797 this niampog sounded phem heev
@@DinaMeYoung4797 Because this niam pog is not telling the entire truth. She is a narcissist who thinks she she has no fault and is a great loving person. She saw nothing wrong with breaking up her sons marriage. She saw nothing wrong with hurting and manipulating her son. She's not the good loving person she claims to be.
@@PNWniam kuv xav mas yog tus nyab coj zoo ces tus niam pog yeej tsis muaj problem li os. Tus niam pog no hais nws cov lus tsis muaj tsaug los yeej muaj ntau nawb. Yog tus nyab zoo ces niam pog yeej zoo xwb, tos niam pog muab nyab xa es tus tub ho tsis hais li cas los tej zaum yeej muaj tiag nawb. Peb cov ntxhais hmoob mus ua luag nyab lawm yog yus twb txawj Hlub yus niam yus txiv ne yus tus txiv los kuj muaj niam muaj txiv thiab es ua cas yus ua nyab hos phem ua luaj li.
@@hmoobxwb7119 kuv mloog mas tus niam pog no tsis phem os, yog koj mus tau ib niag nyab zoo li tus nyab hais no koj ho puas ua li tus niam pog no ua ma. Yog kuv ces kuv yeej muab nyab xa ib yam li tus niam pog no thiab nawb. Vim kuv twb mob mob plab yug kuv tus tub thiab kuv yeej tsis kam ib niag maum dev los tsim kuv tsev neeg li os. Poj niam muaj coob mam nrhiav dua rau yus tus tub nawb.tus zoo tseem muaj.
Nyab los phem, niam pog los heev. Tos nyob tsis taus ua ke os.
This grandma has her point. She don’t tolerate disrespect. If she was so bad she wouldn’t love the step grand kids.
I agree
That’s doesn’t mean anything. She was willing to lose her own blood grandkids what makes you think she really cares about someone else’s? She only loves them bc the new DIL is still kissing her butt. Just wait for a disagreement and I guaranteed they will be the very first one she attacks.
Xav hnov sab tom.thiab .Vim nyias qhuas nyias zoo xwb
Niam pog los yeej tsi yog niam pog zoo o phem tshaj plaws tsi qhuas tus niam pog li o
Koj ua cas rau nws ho ntxub koj mas koj tsis hais koj qhov phem ne
The mil sounds too innocent 😂I’m sure she caused some of the strife. I’d love to hear the ex-daughter in laws point of view.
She actually made herself sound very controlling. She acts like her son is finding a wife for her. Weird!
Agree! She’s bold enough to tell her in-law all this she’s said enough to her daughter-in-law.
Lady,, you are controlling your son's life. You are not a good mil yourself. You are lucky that your son is a mama's boy😅😅
@@courtneysfoodtravel1269 I agree!!
She is never wrong, the mother in law sounds like a narcissist!
Ib tug niam pog zoo tshaj nplaws thiab muaj peev xwm tshaj nplaws koj koj nawb
I understand that this lady raised a son alone so her hope is that he’ll care for her when she’s old. But she also has to realize that once the wife marries that son, she is the head of the house now along with her husband. She has to allow them to build that life and wealth. Not just leech off her so she can control them. Sad on all parts.
Tus mi niam tai tsim nyog qhov koj zov koj tus tub lawm od 👏👏👏👏kuv qhua koj
If this lady was my mother in law I would move out. Not worth it.
Right?! I would be just like the Nyab too lol
I would like to hear the nyab side of the story too. It takes 2 to have conflicts.
Tus niam pog no mas ntshe twb tsis tsab ntse kiag, hos tej tug tub no los xyov puas yog tsheej txiv neej yawg li thiab as. Tseem xav ua niam tsev tswj txhua yam npaum koj es sij kom yus niag tub yuav nyab ua dabtsi nas los. Puas nkag siab tias, ntxim hlub thiaj tau kev hlub
Yog kawg tus niam pog no phem tiag li os . Tos nws tsis yuav txiv los txog niam hnub no tsis muaj txiv yuav los phem dhau lawm ne
Niam pog haib dhau lawm, yog kuv yog tus nyab mas kuv twb tsis tig ntsia niam pog lawm
Both MIL n DIL are at fault. Neither one is innocent.
This mil sounds picky and mean too
Cov me niam pog aw cas tsua hnov nej hai nej cov nyab phem nkau xwb nas kuv xav hai tias neb ce phem sib xw xwb os
For reals. This grandma loves guilt tripping her son. How toxic!
There can’t be two Queens in a house. PERIODT‼️💯
I agree!!!
Agree 100%❤
💯
Hmong parents expect too much. Why can’t they be independent like other race and live on their own? When I get old, I will not hold my sons prisoner to care for my husband and I. I told my husband we will check ourselves into a nursing home.
Omg, you took the words out of my mouth! Why do old Hmong parents burden their kids with that kind of responsibility? They are not obligated to take care of us but we are to them because we chose to bring them into this world. They didn’t chose us. I will not tell my kids who they can marry and not. They need to live for themselves, not for me. I already lived my life.
Because the parents paid bride prices, they expect nyab to cook and clean for them, do whatever parents need. Nyab has to do for niampog
Yep! Our parents are still old fashioned. Don’t live together and don’t expect to be taken care of by your kids. Hmong parents have these kind of stories because they live by that rule for generations. It just needs to die out with our generation. I don’t expect my nyab to take care of my needs and hell no, no one is to clean my behind. If I’m at that point then it’s better to check myself into a nursing home. No one deserves to wipe your behind. That should be a paying professional’s job.
This woman sounds like the MIL from Hell. I don’t believe her story and how she made her ex-DIL out to be only then to beg her for forgiveness at the end. In her dreams maybe. I can’t believe she forced her son to get a divorce. A mama’s boy create spineless husbands - women, stay away from these!
This woman sound so means. If you are good niam pog you would never laughed at her you should feel sorry for her.
Txawm tus nyab phem npaum cas los yog koj yog ib tus niam pog zoo. Koj yeej zam ntxim rau nws thaum nws twb nyoo koj lawm.
Koj yog ib tus niam pog kav thiab khoo tus tub cuag li koj tus txiv. Tsis work os. Tus nyab phem niam pog tseem phem tshaj thiab rws li hais lus na.
That’s what I hear in the words of this niampog…. Zoo li tus niampog hais mas Nws xav control thiab xav tus nyab ua haus nws siab na
Omg...ur dil left bcuz u r such a controlling mil! Koj tus nyab khiav vim koj ua niam pog zoo dhau lawm os! 😅😅
Please keep in mind in some cases it's not just the mother in law that's bad or the daughter in law that is bad. It takes two. Her son doesn't know how to be a husband much less a man. He doesn't curb or discipline his wife. He allowed his wife to mistreated his mother. Especially when he's an only son and only child. She knew that before marrying him and agreed. But nope she thought she was gonna control him and get him to kicked his mother out of her own home.
The grandma sounds kinda controlling….but then again, the daughter in law married 4 more times after divorcing her son and it still didn’t work out, so I guess she could be really mean 🤷♀️
Is that what happened? I couldn’t listen to the whole story. Too much complaining and she sounds mean and controlling so I didn’t care to finish listening
They were the recipe for disaster as MIL and DIL.
I agree with this mother in law...we should always respect the elders and love them as especially our parents.
Agree, we should respect our elders but they should also be respectful and good role models.
Very true the way you say but the door swing both ways. If the parent is a manipulator...always poking into your life and marriage...that is a different story. If the parent states their plan to destroy your life and call you names...where is the respect then. Every case is different. Until you are living that life...don't judge!❤
Give respect where respect is due…don’t respect blindly otherwise you will regret it.
Not on anyone's side... but....
How did it begin???? She skipped why her nyab disliked her in the beginning... all of a sudden, the nyab just hate her!
I honestly think she's too heev heev and controlling that the nyab prob grew to hate her.
@@maryly09 I think so too, but she doesn't even mentioned her bad side at all. Because she did said in the story she doesnt see her wrong at all till this day. Meaning, she believed she was perfect.....🥴
Exactly what I’m saying too! She literally went straight to her side . There’s always two sides and yunno OGs are always playing victims lol
I think she just wants respect and respect was not what she got so she acted on it. Some people can just dislike you and harbor resentment towards you without even bringing it to the table. Most women do that and that’s why we don’t get along. If you disagree on something you need to spit it out and I think in most case women are cowards to spiting out their dislikes/disagreements so they harbor resentment towards the person instead of being honest with them (even me 😅)
Yuav tub twm zeej ces yeej yuav tau nrog niam pog ua neej txij tog txij peg thiaj g mag nrauj mag xa rov qab .koj hmoov zoo es tau tub mloog lus thiaj xum xaiv koj tus ua niam instead of his ex wife .poor ex nyab too late to be good at the end
Peb hmoob txoj kev niam pog txiv yawg them nqi tshoob kos rau tub nyab yuav tau tsum. Nyias them nyias nqi tshoob kos. Ib tug thiaj tsis tshuav ib tug nqi. Nyab tsis hlub niam pog txiv yawg los thiaj tsis nkim nyiaj tsis tu siab. Story los zoo. Tus hais los hais tau zoo kawg. Thank you for sharing.
I honestly think the Niam Pog isn’t the greatest, or the hero for saving her son. He didn’t come to her and beg her to help. Because she has a bad relationship with her DNL, doesn’t mean that she should choose and decided for her son to get a divorced.
Just because she made her own choices to stick with her son instead of remarrying when her husband was deceased, that doesn’t mean her son will do the same. I think as parents, please don’t choose your children’s life. Let them choose it themselves and allow them to learn through the consequences.
Zoo kawg 😂
Sounds like the mom is the problem. The mom sounds controlling. I want to hear the Nyab's side of story. I'm sure there's a reason why the nyab act the way she do. The mom is motivating the son to divorce instead of trying to understand the stress he's going through. Just because you're "mom" doesn't mean you're right all the time. Sorry, not sorry.
Amen I was thinking the same too. Not all mil are nice and innocent. This mil sounds like, “I want it my way”.
Sound like the mom is control freak
Agreed! This mother is too much.
Think she sound like that because she’s had enough. If she was so bad, why does the Nyab keep coming back.
Some Nyab are just bad, doesn’t matter if you good mil or not.
I don't think the MIL is the problem...She made it really clear that whoever marries her son would have to accept her too because she has NO ONE ELSE! The DIL chose to act the way she does and now regrets it because Karma got to her. If the MIL was so bad, why would that thick face DIL keep on coming back & wants to reconnect with the family? 🤷♀️
Good!👍👍nyab phem limhiam ces xa kiag, txhob yuav 1 tug los tsim tag 1 tse neeg.
Okay...to those Nyabs that claim their MIL has an old disease...Doesn't that mean that your Birth mother has it too...or you'll have it too when you become of old age?!!! If you're gonna marry into a family of an only son; you best to have a Big heart!!!
Agreed. They always claim “old disease” and not let their mil/dil touch their kids, but it’s okay for their parents to do it.
This story sounds like it's missing alot of details. MIL sounds so controlling.
Xav hnov ntawm tus nyab sab seb zoo li cas ne
Wow.....zoo kawg, but I'm waiting to hear the other side of the story.
Niam pog los phem, nyab los phem.
Yep
I'm glad this MIL stepped up to her mean DIL. Yup. We all need to learn to set boundaries.
I feel this mnl is trying to live her life and desires through them. There are boundaries.
Yeah kick ass niam.poj!
Wow tus niam pog no tsis do dig kiag li...wonder things go so wrong 😅
Come out Nyab, let's hear your side of the story!! We know it isn't all your fault.
This mil is pretty strict. She wants to do everything with her son and dil… sometimes it’s better not to get involved in your kids marriages in certain situations. I’m sure the first nyab is bad like she mentions but sometimes she can break due to the mil attitude and strict rules. I don’t blame either one because there’s always two sides to the story…
niampog los yuav tau xyaum zamtxim thiab. Luag twb tuaj thov kev zamtxim. Luag yuav mus xyaum ua zoo.
Please don't generalize all mother in law's expectations of their nyab. Speak for yourself only. You think that koj zoo zoo es koj tu nyab thiaj li ua phem rau koj. It takes two to tangle. Learn to be independent, don't rely on anyone, and stop playing the victim. You didnt give your son and his wife any space or privacy. Expecting too much and demanding love will create resentment instead of unconditional love. It's not too late to change, I wish you the best.
Cov nyab no yeej tsis ntshai npam li
I need the Nyab's perspective
Tus niam pog no phem kawg
Well, that’s what I thought at first but then the dil got jailed for letting the new dad beat the kid. So, I have to take the mil side. Not all mils are bad. They just stand up for their rights.
? For me
@@nkaujhlivaj9930 who knows? Maybe she is not that good either
Koj mas ib tug niam Pog phem tshaj plaws
cov niam pog phem li no mas tuag txhob quaj kiag li nawb
niam ntsuab teem thov kj txhob los tham cov neej neeg niag pog siab phem li no tsi xav hnov
Nyab zoo li koj tus ces muab xa rov lawm zaj qhov thaum tseem ntxov.
Koj ua tau niam pog kawg tsis txhob UV.. li kuv niam es uv .. tuag kiag li kuv niam nawb . Koj tus tub los yeej mloog lus koj lus thiab .
Kwv tij twb tsis kam hais lawm es koj puas yog niam pog zoo tiag mas los????
Hmong people don’t know boundaries.
A mistake a Hmong woman makes is not to move on and remarry not to hang on to her sons or daughters after her dead husband…
To the daughter-in-law. You will get old one day.,,karma will hit you hard as well…😩👍!
I want the Nyab side of story
kuv mloog ma zoo li koj twb tsis hlub txog lwm tus li es kj hlub koj tu kheej xwb yog tus twg g ywj kj siab ce kj g au xwb es lawv pham lawm lo yus yeej pham thiab os vim laus lawm lo tseem tau sov tej me nyuam coob2 g tau zog noj ce yus yeej yog pham thiab ma nawb yus tu tub twb ua ntsuag lawm es txhob cia nw cov ua thiab os txua yam yog koj tu tub ua tsis tau txiv xwb nawb
Yeah 🙏🏻👍🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Luag hais tias, yeej txhob quaj. Swb txhob luag. Everyone makes mistakes. There is also such a thing as forgiveness. That doesn't mean your ex-daughter in law needs to get back with your son, but forgive for your own good. And don't be too proud of yourself, that's all.
We have good and bad mother and daughter in law.
Plauv koj tus kheej nawb niam tsham koj tub dai tuag lawm ces koj tsi muaj tub lawm thiab o
Zoo siab nrog koj uas koj yug tau ib tug tub uas siab zoo thiab mloog2 lus koj thiaj hais tau ua raws li koj ua niam hais xwb os cov tsis muaj hmoo ces tub tsis mloog hais thiaj tu2 siab ua tsis tau li koj ne thiaj quaj2 los mas
Xuab dhauv lawm niam pog thiab nyab
Too much pressure to be this lady’s nyab. She sounds so controlling.
Damn the mother in law ruined the son’s life and her grand kids. Selfish horrible lady.
Oh dag tag npaum os ca kuv ntshaw niam pog zoo ua luaj ho tsi tau ne😂
Niam tai koj hai yog lawm thiab tab si kuj yog tsi tag thiab yeej muaj cov niam pog ua phem2 thiab muaj tu zoo tu phem nawb koj txhob hai tia niam pog zoo txhua tu no nawb yeej muaj tu phem thiab
Mloog mas zoo li niag tub taj ua luaj tsis yog nyab phem kheej xwb...
Yog nej leej twg tseem mloog li niag pog laus no hais thiab ces yuav mag ua yawg nrauj li nws tus tub yhiab nawb.
Cov ntxhais hmoob no más kuv yeej ntshai yuav ua nyab lawm nawb. Tus me niam pog no ua yog tshaj plaws li nawb, kuv los tej zaum kuv yuav ua li tus niam pog no thiab nawb, vim kuv yug tau ob tug xwb.
Cov niam pog zoo li no xwb ntxim ntxub lawgs
Zoo kawg ua koj tus nyab tawm ntawm koj lawm, koj yog niam pog siab phem tshaj plaws, kuv pab koj tus nyab mob hlwb dhau lawm os
I don't believe this mil. Niam pog phem kawg.
Grandma you did a good job. Every grandma needs to learning my grandma!
Stupid lmao
Tub nyab lawv nyiam li cas los koj yuav tau yoog ib nrab thiab. Koj nyiam li cas los tub nyab yuav tau ua raws li koj nyiam ib txhia thiab...mas sawv daws thiaj nyob tau ua ib tse.
Omg ib tug niam pog like this maum dev laus deserves a 🥊. Koj tus tub lub neej na why are you divorcing his wife? To the son, you are a looser a** coward. You cannot take charge of your life that is why your mom divorced your wife & not your decision. Koj los tsis yog niam pog pab koj tus tub lub cuab os koj tsho nws lub cuab thaib xwb os. You act like you are married to your own son! Sick maum dev
Niam pog heev tiag tiag
Your issue is that you only had one son and no husband, so you overcompensated your love to your son.
No nyab would meet your expectations because your son is your whole life. What your first nyab had was BOUNDARIES - your living style wasn’t what she was used to. If a niam pos didn’t respect my boundaries, I would fight for them too. No nyab or niam pos would hate each other from the start unless there was a bad family history.
She probably couldn’t even live a happy life with her family without you hovering over them, telling your son what to do, and judging her. I know so many stories like that.
What she said about sleeping with your son was part true. It’s called EMOTIONAL INCEST. Look it up
Yes! THIS!!! The MIL gloated about how the ex-DIL's life spiraled and how the MIL did nothing wrong from day one. I strongly believe the MIL caused the nyab to go on a downward spiral.
@@PNWniam and she even admitted that for the second daughter in law, she had to tell her who’s boss. “You can’t be nice or they step over you, you have to show them you are the strong woman of the house.” & That it wasn’t her daughter in law and son’s life, but HERS. She only wanted a wife for her son for her benefit. Everyone should marry someone who loves their parents, but there’s a line here that has been crossed.
@@Faifferz Agreed. The mother crossed the entire border. She knows no boundaries. The only type of nyab that can make it in that household is one that is as dumb and spineless as the son. Every decision made for her son's life is for personal gain. She has shown that she doesn't care who's lives she destroys along the way... As long as it makes her happy. Heck, she destroyed her son's marriage and she was proud while he was hurt and guess heart was shattered. Definitely not a saint and not a niam pog anyone should strive to be.
This is a great message to all dead beat dil...mess around and find out. Haha. Go grandma. ❤
Ntuj aw tus niam tais no zaj neej no mas ua yuav zoo kais li kuv zaj li thiab os thov txawb koj lub zog nawb 👏🏻
Idk man, the mil sounds too perfect. Reminds me of my mom that I haven't talk to for 7 years lol
I will be that kind of niam pog. You can find a wife but not a mother. When you have only one child and want the best for him before you leave this world I would do the same.
Yikes! Your poor future DIL. So you want to decide who your son can marry? Remember he is marrying her for himself, not for you. 😂😂😂
Tsis muaj tseeb tsis yog tim tus nyab tas2 yeej tim tus niam pog thiab. Yog koj mus tau tsev neeg los yog niam pog tsis nyiam koj thiab tus tub ua tsis tau txiv ces lub neej no tsis kav ntev koj tsuas uv kaum zaum ib zaug koj yeej uv tsis tau. Yeej muaj ib cov nyab phem los yeej muaj ib cov niam pog los yeej phem ib yam nkaus. Yog koj ncaj tus tus niam pog zoo ces yus yeej hlub.
Tam li kuv mloog mas yog tus niam pog no phem thiab heev dhau lawm thiab tus tub ua tsis tau txiv. Thaum tus txiv ua momma boy lub neej yeej tsis kav ntev thiab lub neej lwj2 siab.
Ca niag niam pog no es dag loj cuag ko na mloog tag yeej paub tia koj dag thiab koj phem lawm o
Tus niam pog no ua tau tiag2 tsuas muaj tus puav tub li koj tus ko lawm xwb thiaj mloog koj hais koj muaj hmoo kawg os
Cov Nyab es phem2 ces ntxim tus Niam Pog li no xwb os. We need more Niam Pog like this. Too many mean Nyabs out there.
Xyov li os lawv aw nej mloog zoo li cas os. Cas kuv mloog mas zoo li tuas niam pog no phem tshaj qhov phem lawm thiaj xav nyab mloog mlog ib ntsis kuj zoo li nws kuj hais yog thiab xyov li lau.
Tab sis tus niam pog no tsis dog dig li nawb.
Tab tom sib phim xwb os neb na.
Cas tus niam pog no yuav ua cuag li uas nws nrog tau nws tus tub ua neej. Yuav yuam kom tub muab nyab nrauj tub tsis kam es yus yuav muab nyab xa kiag os.
There's two sides to this story, but you sound like a controlling mother-in-law. There's no person who hates you unless you did something wrong and can't mind your own business. There needs to be mutual respect for each other because you can not be all good. We need to hear the ex daughter-in-law side of the story because this lady makes herself sound like a saint.
LOl she made herself sound very petty
I was thinking the same thing. I would like to hear the daughter in law side too. I hope she hears this and responds
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Well if the nyab is better than what the mil said, I don't think she'll come crawling back begging. Plus she's already a bad mom when she didn't side with her kids but rather her new man. The mil stood her ground and foresee that if she don't send the 1st wife to her parents, she's gonna suffer in her old age.
Oh sh*t! This is a kicka$$ mom/gma. She is absolutely right about not tolerating abuse and cruelty. Stand your ground especially when you know you are right.
I got something to say to this grandma. For your first daughter in law she had her karma’s. I’m sure she learned her mistakes. Forgiveness is always do. It’s best to tell her a nice way to moved on.
I’m interested in hearing the previous nyab’s side. There’s always 3 sides to a story. Your side, my side, and the truth. 😂 We’re all human after all and we must learn to treat others equally and as how we’d like to be treated. You have to find some middle ground somewhere if you’re all going to live with each other. It’s a love hate relationship living with your in laws or anyone other than your immediate family.
Nrauj kiag xwb mas
This mil sound very evil too. She's sound very control her son.