Cia Koj Khib Kuv Txog Hnub Tuag. 3/31/2023

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  • @ywjpheej9116
    @ywjpheej9116 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    You are amazing woman. Proud of you 👏. Kuv yog ib tus txiv tsev thov qhuas koj thiab nrog koj zoo siab qhov koj tsi yuam kev rov mus rau lub neej qub. 🎉

  • @pajhnubhlimas3778
    @pajhnubhlimas3778 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Yog li koj hais lawm me viv ncaus nrog koj zoo siab tias koj rov tau lub neej zoo lawm👍👍❤👍👍

  • @houngm740
    @houngm740 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When you have money thete is no problem it's quite simple😂😂😂

  • @nkaujhnubvue1503
    @nkaujhnubvue1503 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Koj txoj neej neeg raug kuv siab kawg.
    At the end I love it.
    👍👍👍👍

  • @PM-oe5mk
    @PM-oe5mk ปีที่แล้ว +20

    YES! The best revenge against a cheating ex-spouse is to become happy again in a new marriage and just continue living your new life. Ignore the loser and let him stew in his own misery that was of his own making. Let him live in regrets for the rest of his life for f*cking up his marriage. Typical of a cheater to try to deflect the blame onto you for setting him up---if he were an honorable, loving husband, then he would not have fallen for any setup.

    • @ooinkssies1142
      @ooinkssies1142 ปีที่แล้ว

      Typical narcissistic hmong man 🙄

  • @vickykool6163
    @vickykool6163 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    A true friend will never hurt you no matter what situation you are in.

  • @tinachannita193
    @tinachannita193 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m glad you have a better life now. I wonder what happened to your traitor friend and her husband.

  • @nouxiong3620
    @nouxiong3620 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m 40 this yr and just learned that “you are their friend but they are not yours” not everyone you meet can be your friends those that speak kindly softly gives you hugs every time are the ones you should be cautious around.

  • @colleenchan9872
    @colleenchan9872 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pab koj tu siab ua koj siv koj tus friend pab koj tabsis thaum kawg koj lub neej liam sim tag.. nrog koj zoo siab koj rov los muaj lub neej zoo thiab os..

  • @lisvaj7375
    @lisvaj7375 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I am glad things worked out for you. Genuine love is what you wanted and now you have it.

  • @JK-hh6uc
    @JK-hh6uc 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Such sad story but at the same time inspiring too. :) so happy for this lady.

  • @evabhmongocadventure9831
    @evabhmongocadventure9831 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Never trust anyone as friend

  • @FhThj-eo6my
    @FhThj-eo6my 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😢😮 22:49 😮😮😢..
    ..
    ..
    L...
    😢😮😅

  • @poggersrus1802
    @poggersrus1802 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Kudos to you for not taking him back into your life ,sister!!!! A cheater will always be a cheater!!!!!

  • @SuaLauj-bk7px
    @SuaLauj-bk7px 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉😊😊

  • @DinaMeYoung4797
    @DinaMeYoung4797 ปีที่แล้ว

    There is no true best friend in this world. Phooj ywg tuag tsis muaj tabsis phooj noj mas coob heev. Peb tsis toob kaa ib tug phooj ywg qhov twg li os. Tus phooj ywg es yog tus true phooj ywg ces yog yus cov me nyuam xwb nawb

  • @sandyyang1244
    @sandyyang1244 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Maum DEV!!!!! Ntsej muag tuab tiag2 li os!!!!!

  • @cindyyang2011
    @cindyyang2011 ปีที่แล้ว

    Luag hais tias koj tus phooj ywg ua zoo tshaj yog tus ntxeev siab rau koj nas has. Txhob cia2 siab rau yus tus phooj ywg zoo nawb.

  • @caaspasvang7427
    @caaspasvang7427 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow never truth any friends around you😩😩

  • @WhoAmIy9
    @WhoAmIy9 ปีที่แล้ว

    nev nev nev txhob ua phooj ywg zoo zoo nawb phooj ywg ces yog yus cov me nyuam thiab yus tus txiv xwb o

  • @myself.kuvxwb8406
    @myself.kuvxwb8406 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Ok, I give it to you. You were stupid in the beginning. But you got smarter in the end. It is the progression of growth that made you smart and you deserve your happiness.

  • @hova6421
    @hova6421 ปีที่แล้ว

    Peb hmoob aw cag tug siab ưa luaj

  • @Christymxiong
    @Christymxiong ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lady looks like they both probably got the hots for each other when she first came married into the family.
    Always remember the meskas has a saying "your best friend is your best enemy". Never trust or share your personal life to anyone.

  • @NkaujSeeThojUaNyabKevDeb
    @NkaujSeeThojUaNyabKevDeb ปีที่แล้ว

    xob chim rau koj tu py niam txiv kiag twb tsi sib hlub tsi tham koj tu py los yeej yuav tham lwm tu

  • @npavdaj
    @npavdaj ปีที่แล้ว

    I can smell another white knight story from a galaxy 🌌 away 😅 you go girl hmong queen 👸 brave and independent sllllaaayyyy 💅

  • @FhThj-eo6my
    @FhThj-eo6my 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😅😮😅😮😮😮

  • @pataoxiong
    @pataoxiong ปีที่แล้ว +12

    My friend betrayed me with my ex too. They only lasted 2 and half months. He saw me at the club after they were together for 21/2 months and decided to dumped her that same night to chased me again. I never gave him a chance. After 4 yrs, he decided to get married with another hoe but till this day, he still called to ask me to take him back. Doesn't matter how many times I blocked him, he'll go get a new phone number and called me again. A cheater will always cheat. The bad thing is, I can't love another man just yet even after 8 yrs due to trust issues. Today, I might not be with anyone but I'm very happy and have all the freedom I want😊

    • @chouayang81
      @chouayang81 ปีที่แล้ว

      Proud of you sis. Enjoy being single while you still can. Love doesn't need to be rushed. Take your time. Use this time in getting to know yourself and taking care of yourself.

    • @pataoxiong
      @pataoxiong ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@chouayang81 Thank you

    • @myfilmingadventureswonders3457
      @myfilmingadventureswonders3457 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, I'm just like you. I love being a single with 2 adults daughters and I'm ok 👍

  • @isabellentxawm6773
    @isabellentxawm6773 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So proud of you for not taking your ex back. Remember, once a cheater, always a cheater. Everything happens for a reason. If your ex didn't cheat on you, you won't have the life you have now so consider it a blessing in disguise

  • @fuethao8872
    @fuethao8872 ปีที่แล้ว

    Txoj kev ua sib pauj ces leej twg ntse thiab xub ua ntej ces tus ntawd kawg yeej xwb os

  • @MyLifeRideorDie
    @MyLifeRideorDie ปีที่แล้ว

    Hais tau zoo kwg! 🍹

  • @douayang2163
    @douayang2163 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Zoo lawm ntag !! Muab 15-16 lub xyoo rau tus Poj niam xwb yuav mis kas thaum kawg raug hlawv.

    • @mayalor5081
      @mayalor5081 ปีที่แล้ว

      Doua I think you're just jealous.

  • @HaJa-i6r
    @HaJa-i6r 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😥😥😭😭

  • @meexiong9961
    @meexiong9961 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ua li koj Mas yog tshaj plaws li lawm o...tus neeg phem txawm nws yuav leej twg los yeej yuav phem mus li....vim kev Npam tiam no caum cuag ceev heev li....yus yog tus neeg zoo..muaj lub siab siab ..muaj txoj kev hlub nyob nrog nraim yus ...yus txawm yuav leej twg los yeej yuav zoo xwb...txiv hmoob siab phem dhau lawm yuav txiv Mikas los yeej yuav zoo tshaj li lawm thiab o

  • @JK-hh6uc
    @JK-hh6uc 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Desperate people would never work out.

  • @poggersrus1802
    @poggersrus1802 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You know cheated why do you need his admitting to cheating way. Just divorce him and file for child support . Once you have to chase him then get rid off him. Trust no one!!!! You were too trusting even after your husband cheating on, you were not too smart. That is why women get so easily fool is because they trusting and easily forgive and forget them after they have cheated on and married a second wife.

    • @ThePrincessWorrior
      @ThePrincessWorrior ปีที่แล้ว

      Right?
      Something about hmoob poj niam. They know and they know that the dudes dicking out, but they want to catch them dudes, they want to ask them why dudes’ cheating.
      Wouldn’t it be less headache, heartache, wasting effort, to just ditch them dudes, because at the end, cheating is cheating.

  • @ShouaTojsiab
    @ShouaTojsiab ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Sister, I’m so proud of you for getting rid of this dog for good! You are smart! Your backstabbing friend is a traitor and was never your friend to begin with. Your ex doesn’t deserve you. Let him badmouth you for he knows exactly what he did wrong. I’m happy you have a good husband who loves and treats you well now. Good luck.❤👍 👍

    • @nkauj.hmoob.hawj.
      @nkauj.hmoob.hawj. ปีที่แล้ว

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @nkauj.hmoob.hawj.
      @nkauj.hmoob.hawj. ปีที่แล้ว

      😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

  • @sengheu1875
    @sengheu1875 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nkauj hmoob zoo nkauj ntxim hlub cas tov hnav dub dua lawm thiab. Koj ma !!!

  • @moonchild0623
    @moonchild0623 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    So happy you loved yourself and moved on...we need our hmong women to be strong like you and be firm of your own decisions.

  • @YeeXiong-nh3de
    @YeeXiong-nh3de ปีที่แล้ว

    Nrog koj zoo siab kij yeej txhua yam lawm nkawd yog ob tug neeg traitor xwb os peb pojniam tsi ua lawd ua ntej lawd muab yus hais phem xwb tsi k os hlub koj tus husband tshuab xwb mog

  • @mayalor5081
    @mayalor5081 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That's why in crime and murder investigation starts with the people closest to you. Never trust the people closest to you.

  • @pajtawgtshiab1804
    @pajtawgtshiab1804 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hahaha....raum tshaj os yom koj na

  • @khouher5412
    @khouher5412 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nej mas siab zoo kawg li twb sib ceg lawm los tseem hais me koj txiv me koj txiv kuv mas sib ceg lawm ces ntsej muag xuaj xwb hos 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @myang1289
    @myang1289 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    First mistake was having your bff pretending to be a poj nrauj and talked to your husband. No mater how good of a bff NEVER let another woman get involved with your husband or marital life!

  • @whachamamacallit
    @whachamamacallit ปีที่แล้ว

    🐍 friend waiting to sneak in

  • @Zouavang1
    @Zouavang1 หลายเดือนก่อน

    is hi juicier 😅yh9o ok Pi

  • @kaxiong2252
    @kaxiong2252 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nrog koj zoo siab koj tau lub neej zoo lawm os

  • @Loves_GodSR
    @Loves_GodSR ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That was one crappy friend you had. I hope bad karma gets her for what she did to you. That was just wrong. So wrong of her.

  • @songvang1309
    @songvang1309 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is why hmong people always say friend eat friend die.

  • @MaiMai2389-m3q
    @MaiMai2389-m3q ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Not everyone will be your friend after their benefits is done from you! Never trust never tell anyone your personal problems. I myself as a mother had learn my own listen even family can betray you too.

  • @payang6882
    @payang6882 ปีที่แล้ว

    Viv ncaus Aw ib tug neeg xyob txhiaj li tej niag txiv dev no ces yeej khwv npaum twg Los nyiaj yeej tsis nrog nws Nyob lawm os

  • @touyang3403
    @touyang3403 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thaum pib, yog tim dab vaj dab tsev tso lus lawm. Thiaj yuam kev. Lub tshoob loj, zoo ib qho tshuav ib qho. Hos lub tshoob me, kuj zoo ib tshuav ib tuab yam. Cov niag tsis muaj tshoob noj, qee nkawv neej kuj nyob mus txog av quas thiab. Txhais tias, lub siab lub ntsws yog qhov tseem ceeb dua. Mus 9 tus 10 tug los, yog lub siab tsis ncaj ces ua neej xaus sai2 kawg twb yuav rov pib dua.

  • @blueberrysmilie1
    @blueberrysmilie1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Nope even if you gave your husbands number for your friend to help you, he has his own fault in not being faithful. Hate men that play victim and and try to throw their wrong on some one else.

  • @maiyang4381
    @maiyang4381 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Viv ncaus zoo kawg koj txiav txim siab yog,Thaum txiv neej vwm es xuam lub neej rau yus lawm khaws ceev22 ua ntej nws hloov siab.

  • @baylaoyang445
    @baylaoyang445 ปีที่แล้ว

    Txua yam yog tim tus poj niam xwb tus poj no nws tsis ntseeg nws tus txiv nws thiaj li ua txua yam kom tus txiv yuam kev es nws thiaj tau zoo los xyob lub neej poj niam zoo tus no tus txiv tsev txhob khuv xim man u got to on man never turn back to the same woman it gonna work.

  • @emilyherr5352
    @emilyherr5352 ปีที่แล้ว

    Shouldn't never trust another female friend in life. She will never be your friend. Nws twb xav tham koj tus txiv es nws lam ua txoj xav pab koj xwb. Qhov tseeb tiag nws twb xav tham koj tus txiv os.

  • @maiyang9034
    @maiyang9034 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    No matter what, your husband ain’t never turning back.. whether it was gonna be with your friend or someone else, he’s still Gonna be a cheating loser.. Good thing you found out both of them ain’t worth it

  • @yerlee5465
    @yerlee5465 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sister aw the idea you guys played was bad but is a listen to be learn n taught mog. Life goes on n God does have an eyes mog.

  • @okayyang5705
    @okayyang5705 ปีที่แล้ว

    Poj niam coj li koj ces lam muab Liam rau koj tus txiv xwb qhov tseeb tiag tus neeg Liam yog koj . Vim koj tus txiv yuav ua zoo npaum twg Los ntev mus koj yeej yuav deer American koj yog niag pog liam tshaj . Tiam si koj yuav tsi kav laus li koj txoj kev ntshaws os poj hmoob aws.

  • @7stars2love
    @7stars2love ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Omg another story friend and husband are cheating. Never offer your husband or wife to anyone to play games with.

  • @bliathao5878
    @bliathao5878 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ab qhov nov ce yog tim koj xwb leej twg kom koj muab koj tus txiv tus xov tooj thab kom tham koj tus txiv ne los

  • @kayvang3148
    @kayvang3148 ปีที่แล้ว

    Tus vivncaus, kuv zoo siab koj txoj kev txiav siab thiab tau tus hlub tiag rau koj. Good job and enjoy your life.

  • @tshuvkwmchannel4819
    @tshuvkwmchannel4819 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ngob zoo os

  • @maylee9765
    @maylee9765 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ppl say the true is face to face but not true she/he can easily lie face to faces

  • @pajlee3167
    @pajlee3167 ปีที่แล้ว

    Txob yuav lawm os me Viv ncaw aw
    Tu txiv kom tsi zoo yuav lawm os mog

  • @lotusvert7024
    @lotusvert7024 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wv.. Nyuam qhuav haum nkaus cov txiv dev nyiam txoj kev plees thiab ua laib na 😂😂😂😂😂 xamthub xwb 🙏🙏🙏

  • @hmongremark2686
    @hmongremark2686 ปีที่แล้ว

    Koj txheev rawm zoo siab tias koj tus txiv Meskas yuav hlub koj txog hnub kawg. Koj yuav tau tos txog hnub koj laus nkoos npaj mus nyob tsev laus mas koj mam tham tawm vim thaum no yog lub caij nyoog rau koj tham lawm.

  • @electricgenie966
    @electricgenie966 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are right. Hmong people just don't know, but it is a huge burden on the one who lend you money. If you are real cousins do not borrow money from them. That's what banks are for and if the banks deny you, you can only be mad at them. Never borrowed money to your close friends or family or anyone.

  • @JayLor411
    @JayLor411 ปีที่แล้ว

    Koj ces liam tib yam, tsis txawv nyias qhuas nyias qhov zoo... 😅

  • @douayang2163
    @douayang2163 ปีที่แล้ว

    Txiv tsev liam tseem nco thiab tag lawm lau !! Cov txiv dev liam qhov muab pub kas xwb ho tseem puas rau peb cov zoo thiab.

  • @mrshanglily5647
    @mrshanglily5647 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can’t catch him, that means he’s not cheating but you and your friend play your husband well….what you think lady? One trash is another man treasure so yea he’s gonna go after her until he realizes she’s trash🤪

  • @NYC.2019
    @NYC.2019 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That lady had always had eyes on your man!!! God damn, that lady is shady as hell!!

  • @sallyyane6174
    @sallyyane6174 ปีที่แล้ว

    May zaj dag neeg no zoo li kuv zaj tab si kuv tus txiv tau kho lawm

    • @wilaiwansaewang9780
      @wilaiwansaewang9780 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🎉คัะะ😂ืืถค😂ปุตภร 🎉😂😂ดยิ้ม😢ดตีำำคถ😮ถุงป😅😮นาึยจ

  • @sikamoua6760
    @sikamoua6760 ปีที่แล้ว

    First off. Never play that game of having your FRIEND call or having your CO-WORKER etc call your spouse. PERIOD!!! NEVERRRRR!!!

  • @nengthao1207
    @nengthao1207 ปีที่แล้ว

    (Gasp) I can’t believe your friend did that to you! You cannot trust a friend with your spouse: wife’s friend to her husband, or husband’s friend to his wife. You just never know!

  • @puaspaubkub1989
    @puaspaubkub1989 ปีที่แล้ว

    Vim koj lub tswv yim ne tsam no koj paub lawm po

  • @cheexiong1634
    @cheexiong1634 ปีที่แล้ว

    Come straight

  • @hl6615
    @hl6615 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It was your mistake to trust your friend too much. Even it’s a play you would never play with your friends in something like this.

  • @likely89appleJuice
    @likely89appleJuice ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I knew you're self called friend would betrayed you when she initiated to called your husband, pretending to court him. That was a stupid move , but take it as a lesson and teach other people not to do that.

    • @itsmaichee
      @itsmaichee ปีที่แล้ว

      Fr. I feel like friends should never do this.

    • @likely89appleJuice
      @likely89appleJuice ปีที่แล้ว

      @@itsmaichee yep. Those kind of friends just want to use that as an excuse to flirt with the husband. And she thought her friend was helping her . She fell for it.

  • @rainbowanimalsrainbowanima6743
    @rainbowanimalsrainbowanima6743 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yog koj tus txiv e koj twb tsis muaj peevxwm control tau nws soj nws qab taug nws lw . koj xav tias koj ua thaj ntse ntse hais kom koj tus niam ntxawm take care koj tus txiv seb koj puas hnov good news or bad news ntawd koj tus txiv
    tabsis koj lam ntse tus ntawv xwb
    lub tswvyim ces koj ruam heev
    Koj yog tus qhia kom koj tus niam ntxawm nrog koj rhuav neb lub neej puas tag xwb as, vim licas e yus ho muab yus tus txiv rau lawv tham nawd. cuab thaj ntse 2 dhau qhov ntse lawm thaum kawg
    ces tau lub bye.. bye..or good bye my love
    😭😭💔

  • @nkaujhmoob86jual72
    @nkaujhmoob86jual72 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your so called friend had bad intentions in the beginning lol

  • @MsVang-xm5et
    @MsVang-xm5et ปีที่แล้ว

    Sounds familiar. Ty for the advice.

  • @hnubzoovang9217
    @hnubzoovang9217 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Tej laus hais tseg tias "Tsev nqeeb tsis zoo sim taws. Txiv dev tsis zoo sim siab".

  • @joeycha7555
    @joeycha7555 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Stop calling her your friend she ain't your friend.

  • @brandonblaine7585
    @brandonblaine7585 ปีที่แล้ว

    good for you sister

  • @hlubvimkojusa2140
    @hlubvimkojusa2140 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dude your trash,but NOW Meskas Treasure!!….Amen

  • @xaiher9236
    @xaiher9236 ปีที่แล้ว

    niag poj ruam awd nyob hauv lub ntiaj teb no ce ntshe muab sau tag nrho rau koj ib leeg ruam koj yuav ntseeg koj niag phooj ywg maum dev meb cab ko npaum li ko naw ! koj tsi paub tia ib niag poj niam tseem muaj txiv es yuav lee lo ua hlua nkauj mu tham koj niag txiv dev ko li ntawm naj ?

  • @kevinyher5240
    @kevinyher5240 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yus tsuas nros yus muab phooj ywg thawb rau yus tus txiv ne, tim yus xwb mos.

  • @maryly09
    @maryly09 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm glad u found someone who loves u. May your new found love, happiness, and husband last forever. U deserve it after what u went thru. 💕

  • @Nyab1Dollar
    @Nyab1Dollar ปีที่แล้ว +57

    She was never your friend. Not everyone is your friend. Be careful of who you tell your problems to, some people are just waiting for the right time to insert themselves into you life.

  • @AnLaos-dz4lx
    @AnLaos-dz4lx ปีที่แล้ว

    Kuv xav xa kuv zaj tuaj rau koj hai thiab o , yuav sau tuaj rau qhov twg o

  • @Neegsiabzoo2024
    @Neegsiabzoo2024 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What I learned in life is never have best friends or be friends with other people. My ex did the same shit to me many years ago! For all you ladies out there keep your friends distant

  • @goodlife916
    @goodlife916 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why is this lady having her friend call her husband to trap him when she’s already caught him twice??? What more proof does this lady want/need??? I’m confused.

  • @Heartsdouna
    @Heartsdouna ปีที่แล้ว

    U did good job no point to go back to your ex. He is a cheater alway a cheater.

  • @maryly09
    @maryly09 ปีที่แล้ว

    What woman in her right mind would use her friend to flirt with her husband? That's a recipe for disaster.

  • @denamoua7262
    @denamoua7262 ปีที่แล้ว

    Not a true friend

  • @FhThj-eo6my
    @FhThj-eo6my 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😅 .
    🎉😮😮😅😅😮😮😮😮🎉😢

  • @onlygod5667
    @onlygod5667 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your own fault for having your friend calling your hubby 😆

  • @ChongLorVidz
    @ChongLorVidz ปีที่แล้ว

    May, your hair is getting thicker in these photoes. What hair products do you use?

  • @ouradventuresnspecialmoments
    @ouradventuresnspecialmoments ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yes, self-love! Wish you the Best, sister ❤

  • @leejntxhais
    @leejntxhais ปีที่แล้ว

    I don't understand this part where your very close friend pretends to be a pojnrauj and your husband doesn't know her voice?? Just very odd to me.