Sister of teen who was tortured, murdered by their mother shares victim impact statement
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- "I want the world to know that Timothy was wanted. If not by her, then by me. He was loved by me," Millie Ferguson said at Shanda Vander Ark's sentencing hearing.
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Good on her addressing her as “the woman” rather than mother. Separation and detachment 👏
She gave birth, she's not a mother. I'm glad her daughter was able to speak her peace.
Really nasty comments here. Please show compassion
@@jjr1728Personally,I’ll save my compassion for Timmy,mostly,but very much,also,for his siblings.What Timothy went through,the pain and horror,of it,is devastating to even think about.Your compassion is misplaced,on an epic level.
@@eh-i1841 don't be rude to others. Sure, you can be nasty about Timothy, but the poor guy died. And at what cost to humanity? Hu-man-a-tei .. did you ever think about that? No. No, you didn't. A giraffes coffee is cold by the time it reaches its throat. No, you didn't. Because you only care about your self
What the hell are you babbling about?
Millie, I’m an older mom. Can I be your mom for just a moment?
I am so proud of you. I’m proud of the young woman that you are, for the amazing sister that you have always been, and for everything that you will do in the future. You are strong, beautiful, and priceless. I’m hugging you in my heart right now sweet girl.
This made me cry. ❤
This made me cry too.. beautiful comment ♥️
❤❤🏵️❤❤
I'm hugging you back, dear mother
Katherine, your comment is so lovely. I hope life is treating you well. We need people like you in the world.
Katherine, I have to say thank you to you. Thank you for being a true mom, and when I say true mom, I mean the kind of natural mom that is mentally and emotionally able to step up and give that motherly hug to someone who isn't your own biological child. I'm one of the lucky women who grew up severely abused but now that I'm grown, I was lucky enough to find an "adopted" mom, like you. I say that to say I wish there were more moms like you and my Mama. I truly hope you're doing well and that you never lose your beautiful spirit.
That final "He was loved by me." was so final and so heartwrenching. This poor girl will never be the same.
She should have checked on her brother knowing that her mother was beyond mentally ill.
I don't feel bad for her or his other siblings. When you love someone you don't go MONTHS without checking on them.
"Shondra" was known for being a horrible parent. So sad that the people who spoke at the trial never found time to just go check on Timothy. Heck they could have called the cops for a welfare check 😢 but nope. They sat on their hands and did nothing 😢
@@PinkyakaAyannaj Oh shut up. You don't know the circumstances....what an absolute DICK move to blame this on the innocent siblings. WTF is wrong with you?
You do when you're still a child and you've been abused by that same person. Grow up.@@PinkyakaAyannaj
People heal, but it will always affect her. Its a very horrible thing for all of them. I hope she can just learn to live and have some happiness in the future. I typed case histories for corrections and have seen how incredibly strong some people are.
@@PinkyakaAyannaj😮😮😮😮
This so called mother destroyed an entire family.
True, but I think she destroyed the family long before she killed Timothy.
@@jgjg3848 agree 100%
Yet, that could have been prevented IF those in positions of authority did NOT turn a blind eye ! Dereliction of Duty, Negligence and Malfeasance !!
@@JenGable-Justeson vote for funding social services.
@@JenGable-Justesonyes and the so called father!
Wow!!! Millie, you and your brother gave two of the most powerful witness statements I have ever listened to. I could feel your love for your brother through the TV. Your siblings deserved so much better than the mother you had. But the world needs powerful voices, such as yours to be advocates. I wish that you know nothing but love for the rest of your life. That memories of Timothy bring you nothing but smiles on the days you miss him most.
Why they didn't check him in 6 months why nobody wants to see him. Why he was literally in that small closet? Why they loved him but didn't try to reach out?????
Beautifully expressed. I pray the same for her. What sweet words of love she spoke.
@@LifeinCalifornia2003Why can't people write coherent sentences?
More to the point, why did a mother kill such a beautiful boy?.....Maybe because she gaslit her family into thinking she was a good mother when she was evil.
@@LifeinCalifornia2003
@LifeinCalifornia2003 Both siblings impact statements allude that they were estranged from their mother prior to her murdering Timothy. Just because they didn't want to be around the mom doesn't diminish any of the love they have for their baby brother. I'm sure if they were to have caught wind of their brothers mistreatment, they would have definitely tried to establish contact with him.
CPS failed Timothy as well!
The police in Oklahoma need to charge that father for breaching the court order and allowing those two children to live with that woman.
Agreed
The father should also be held accountable .He shouldn't have given him over to his mother .She wasntkhave been in her care
You did great, girl. You spoke beautifully. Nothing was your fault. U were a victim,too. Ur brother knew u loved him. He still knows. Good luck healing,we all love you.
And yet ignorant people have blamed her for what happened to dear Timothy, insensitive, rude people..she deserves sympathy, love and support.
God Bless you!!❤
Timothy's siblings have my deepest sympathies. They were soo traumatized and abused by that momster that they did everything they could to avoid her. Unfortunately, it meant not seeing Timothy as much as they wanted. I guess they were hoping she was not abusive towards him like she was with them. His father should be facing neglect charges since he did not care to check on his own child. He had parental responsibility to make sure he was okay.
Between these two wonderful siblings of little Tim (iyw) and the judge, it couldn't have been more heartfelt.
I'm blown away that they're somehow of the same family as the defendant. She doesn't deserve to be called anyone's mother.
Judge is outstanding!!
iyw??????
@@Fee212 'if you will'...I couldn't remember what exactly they called the little guy.
It never makes sense to me how things like this can go on for so long . How did noone notice? How did noone see ? Or hear? Any of it? Every time something this evil happens i pray that it makes extended family members more diligent about their family members,and neighbors will start getting more involved when they see something that doesn't seem right. RIP beautiful boy !
Have you watched the whole trial? She was a 16/17 year old abused girl living in a different state when her 15 year old abused sibling died. The boy was in the father’s responsibility! The mother was a know abuser who lost custody. The father had the legal duty to inform the authorities that he had send Timothy back. Either he would have been monitored at his mother’s home or put in foster care. Or maybe the CPS would have taken a hold on the older siblings to say what was going on. He would be alive. The father played dice by deciding to ignore the law and the facts. And the siblings went no contact, I hope you continue to live a sheltered life and never know the pain it takes to make you need to go no contact with family.
@healthycathy9782 it's not only family that has a responsibility to report abuse they see. I've heard people say " but what if I was wrong" . I'd rather be wrong then find out a child was killed because I did do anyway. I live a far from sheltered life lmao. Neighbors, teachers,family even strangers don't want to get involved so they end up doing nothing and this is always the result.
My brother protected me as much as he could. There is only so much siblings can do because child abusers isolate them from each other. My mother abused and tortured me but I survived barely. God bless his sister who spoke up for him and all the people along the way who prayed. ❤
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Praying for Nolan and Millie .
This is on the dad he gave Tim to the woman who lost custody of her kids . He up and left Oklahoma to live his new life in Florida he won’t even come to do a victims statement
There is no way the dad would even conceive that that woman would torture and kill her son.
Yes the dad knew ahe was an abuser.
@@roseeckstein6534 Clearly he wasn't checking up on his son. Seems no one was.
@@nadinewhite993 sad but true!
Dad was a POS but it is not “on” him. Satan Shandra did this
Millie,
If by some strange chance you ever read this, I wanted to tell you that did Timothy such justice here. I know it’s been months since you had to stand and deliver this speech, but I came back to it today because you are still on my mind. You spoke so beautifully I was moved to tears. Your love for Timothy is evident, and I know he is smiling down on you from heaven- of that I am absolutely sure.
I know you’ve gotten so much unasked for advice from strangers, but if you can stomach just a little bit more, I need to say this: As your life continues- in the coming months, years, and decades- please remember that you don’t always have to be strong. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to admit when you are hurting and “just not okay.” Don’t let yourself become numb to your emotions or unable to have deep feelings, like Paul. The world doesn’t need anymore of him; but we do desperately need more people just like you.
Much love and support,
An internet strangers whose heart you deeply touched
As I listened to Timothy's older sister and brother I cried. I'm so heartbroken 💔 😥 and then hearing the judges powerful words to the evil mother, I cried. Wept. And not once did I see a single tear from that evil mother throughout this entire case. I'm so sad that such a beautiful child had to endure such torture from their mother. My own mother abused me so this is very painful and personal to me. This evil woman has an ugly past but for her attorney to have the audacity to use it as an excuse is unfathomable. How he was able to say those things I will never understand. I'm so happy justice for Timothy has been prevailed and his sweet soul can now rest in peace for all eternity ❤️ and his evil mother can now feel what its like to live in a small room and be tortured every single day for the rest of her life.
All she could do is pretend to throw up! What a evil bytch 👹👹👹👹
Yes, Timothy is now free and surrounded by love and peace. I am very sorry for what Timothy endured at the hands of a monster, and I am also sorry for what you endured in your life.
These lawyers know exactly what they’ll say and use as a defense before trials even begin. This court appointed lawyer knew he wasn’t going to get her off , he has a job to do and that’s what he did. He was paid to make it look like he’s defending her, however….in reality he is probably wanting to put his hands around her neck himself. This judge did a wonderful job.
@@user-wl1hx8rh9g you are absolutely right. The lawyer was interviewed after the trial and he said himself that the outcome was the best outcome for this case(even if they lost). He had a job to do, he had to defend her, and he did.
That last part of the last sentence. Perfect! "...and his evil mother can now feel what its like to live in a small room and be tortured every single day for the rest of her life." I have watched multiple videos of this trial, and she shows no remorse whatsoever.
This poor family. Their mother destroyed such a sweet boy. My heart breaks for Millie, Timothy and his brother.
Imagine knowing being born from such a horrible mother.. poor kids.😢😢😢😢
Listening to the impact statement made by timothy's sister almost had me in tears, Its a shame his mother didn't have the same love, instead of hatred in her heart. God bless you , young man.
This was a beautiful speech in honor of her little brother.
Millie, I am so proud of you for the caring, loving person you are. Please know that my prayers are with you- and know that today, you and your brother Nolan broke open hearts and touched minds across this world. The power of the love and strength you both possess is beyond this earthly realm, and it is the answer to what has happened.Your love is healing and I promise, it has reached Timothy
Millie, that was truly an open, honest, impactful and much appreciated statement made on behalf of Timothy. Thank you for doing what you could. It's sad that you even had this role in the first place. I know the LORD will heal you from all your pain because you have expressed your sorrow for something you didn't do. We mourn with you and we will rejoice when you experience the peace that passes all understanding❤🙏!
Very well said, Millie did such a wonderful job in showing love and support for her little brother, rest in peace, Timothy, you were loved and you were here for a reason and now free from any harm or heartache.❤️🙏
What a brave young woman finding herself in an impossible situation. To know Timothy was loved by her is a solace to us all and we are grateful to Millie. May she find healing and health in her journey.
Why didn’t Timothy’s father give a victim impact statement?
Because I don't think Timothy's father was a victim. A lot of people want to see him charged as well.
He knew shandra wasn't allowed to have him. She was banned from ever getting custody of him, and I believe could only legally ever have supervised visits. I think we can guess why.
I wish we knew more about his father. We know he said shandra would have to take Timothy or he was going to turn him over to the courts. And we know Timothy was tortured and starved to death without being checked on by his father after all that. And that's really all we know. It's not a good look so far.
@@mirzamay I listened to parts of the trial but didn’t know all of that. Timothy really did lose the parent lottery. I hope the father is held responsible too!!
If the law is coming to condemn Paul, Timothy’s father NEEDS to be held accountable too. He set Timothy’s slow murder in motion 💔
Bc he is a giant piece of crap who deserves to sit in prison with Shanda, he delivered Timothy over to that ghoul and didn’t care at all
He is the one who released Timothy to her care knowing her history with CPS and obviously he wasn't in contact with his son after he moved in with his mother.
Wow, I didn't even know there was another sibling. Powerful statement
I think he has 3 other siblings total. His other older brother Paul was involved in his torture pleaded guilty to his part in it.😢
There are were 6 children in total. Shanda and Eric had 4 and another 1 each. Her a younger son and him a daughter older than the 4 he had with Shanda.
Yeah me neither where they not in any contact meant been
She looks mature as mother what age is daughter
Millie, I’m so relieved to see Timothy was loved by family. I’m so sorry for the loss of your little brother, Timothy. 🤍🕊️
A terrible situation and an awful tragedy, yet such an eloquent speech. 🧡
That was so eloquent and so heartfelt. I sit here with tears streaming down my face and I weep for you, Millie, as you speak for your baby brother. In less than 3 minutes, you have spoken in powerful stead for your Timmy, who can speak no more
G-d grant you grace to sustain this irreparable loss.
Wasnt there any one at all that knew this was going on that could have helped Timothy get away from this evil monster....anyone????
You took the words right out of my mouth!
The impact statements, though they sound good, are surely too little too late.
The actual VICTIM is gone....After going through so much in his short and painful life....
What would have been IMPACTFUL would have been someone (especially someone in his family) stepping up to remove the boy from harm's way!
That child suffered at the hands of those/the one who should have protected, nurtured, and loved him.
@@user-tc2lk2bj9p you are a bully
They were literally her victims too. You're literally blaming victims. God help you@@user-tc2lk2bj9p
pretty sure they said it all started up a year or two ago@@user-tc2lk2bj9p
@@user-tc2lk2bj9pI highly doubt the sister 2 years older than him could do anything, their mom wasn't even supposed to have them but their dad let her have them. And they are victims as well, they were also abused at some point from her, you should be looking at the killer mom and the dad who didn't care that she legally was not allowed to be with the kids but still let her
Oh Millie… thank you for flying there, for being there, for sharing stories of Timothy, for loving him. He deserved that. I have tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat from your speech. You are all brave and wonderful kids who deserved so much better. I hope you know the community feels, albeit a tiny fraction, of your pain. Timothy was so much a cute kid from the picture the judge put up. You, your brother Nolan and that judge showed so much respect and love for your brother. The love that sweet boy deserved. I’m proud of you for seeking therapy and getting help. I can’t imagine how you feel or what you endured but please know we are all so proud of you.
This is so heartbreaking. Well done Millie ❤️
Sweet Millie, you did an incredible job honoring your little brothers life! I’m so sorry that you and your siblings had to endure such pain and trauma because of evil Shonda. But you should be so proud of yourself for being able to speak so eloquently with the monster in the courtroom and cameras. You are right. There are people all over the world who are grieving with you and love your baby brother. May you always be blessed! 🙏💜
I still can’t comprehend being born into evil. How do you have a chance? This is traumatizing. Poor, poor little boy
That was so beautiful!! I pray that she doesn’t live her life in constant pain, regret, and blame because NONE of this is anyone’s fault but the one on trial!! NO ONE thinks that a parent is capable of these sort of actions so I pray she doesn’t blame herself for her brother’s death!!! And hope she continues to live a life of peace for Timothy. I know he wouldn’t want anything less for his big sister!!
This was such a beautiful statement. I'm crying, this is just incomprehensible to me.
I don't feel sympathy for this girl. If she loved him so much, how is that she didn't check on him, for years? Not even a visit or a call in all that time? Reality is she didn't care that much about Timothy. Sometimes family don't care enough, they live their lives and left siblings and even parents behind.
He was 15 when he died, she's two years older. She was underage and her parents decided to hand him over to his mother (in another state), how on earth is that her fault?
She was a 17 year old abused girl when her 15 year old abused sibling died. You should be ashamed of yourself. The boy was in the father’s responsibility! The mother was a know abuser who lost custody. The father had the legal duty to inform the authorities that he had send Timothy back. Either he would have been monitored at his mother’s home or put in foster care. Or maybe the CPS would have taken a hold on the older siblings to say what was going on. He would be alive. The father played dice by deciding to ignore the law and the facts. And the siblings went no contact, I hope you continue to life a sheltered life and never know the pain it takes to make you need to go no contact with family.
Where was CPS when they were still problems within their family and elsewhere ?!??
The boy was in the father’s responsibility! The mother was a know abuser who lost custody. The father had the legal duty to inform the authorities that he had send Timothy back. Either he would have been monitored at his mother’s home or put in foster care. Or maybe the CPS would have taken a hold on the older siblings to say what was going on. He would be alive. The father played dice by deciding to ignore the law and the facts. And the siblings went no contact, I hope you continue to live a sheltered life and never know the pain it takes to make you need to go no contact with family.
@@healthycathy9782 YOU HAVE NO CLUE WHAT I HAVE BEEN THROUGH, AND CONTINUE TO GO THROUGH ! GROW UP AND STOP TROLLING FOR A REACTION...
Thank you Millie. I'm very glad that you're spreading information about him and talking about him and sharing with others because again I was so worried that nobody ever cared about him.
We are so sorry for your loss, thank you for speaking for your brother, big sister. May his love comfort you
That was amazing! You are quite the young lady! You have done all you can for your brother my dear one! Now more then ever just know there is a whole world here praying and hoping for your future!
I think the siblings need to have a massive chat with there dad who had no issues giving his son to the person who seemed to hate him the most.
Their.
Some of them are no contact with their parents. I hope you never experience the abuse it takes to make you need to go no contact with a parent.
Imagine a woman who is horrible enough to lose her children to cps, puts in enough effort to graduate number two in her class and pass the bar exam, and still manages to torture them when she gets them back.
No one was checking on Timothy's welfare. Where were the rest of his family? Relatives? Why was he literally isolated to death? Did anyone step forward and care in the final years of his life?
His eldest brother and sister were both in transitional periods of life (a newlywed and fresh college student) and not on close terms with Shanda (though he was allegedly a normal weight at the wedding a few months before his passing). I haven't seen it mentioned whether Timothy ever had social media or a phone, but it's clear that the isolation was part of the abuse as it escalated. She went to great lengths to make sure the relatives who lived close by never came into the house in the months leading up to his death, tracking phone locations when she knew they were coming to the house to pick up her youngest child. While this doesn't change how Timothy probably felt abandoned and how no one (especially Paul or Timothy's biological father) stood up to protect him, I understand how blindsided his loved ones were. She had him in her "care" for little over a year (~14 months) before he died. This entire situation is sickening but the timeline especially hurts, that she was able to do so much damage in that time.
Have you watched the whole trial? She was a 16/17 year old abused girl living in a different state when her 15 year old abused sibling died. You should be ashamed of yourself. The boy was in the father’s responsibility! The mother was a know abuser who lost custody. The father had the legal duty to inform the authorities that he had send Timothy back. Either he would have been monitored at his mother’s home or put in foster care. Or maybe the CPS would have taken a hold on the older siblings to say what was going on. He would be alive. The father played dice by deciding to ignore the law and the facts. And the siblings went no contact, I hope you continue to live a sheltered life and never know the pain it takes to make you need to go no contact with family.
God bless you, dear big sister. I am so sorry for this brutal loss and for the sorrow that will be with you forever. Be strong, beautiful soul.
Both his older brother and sister have made brief references to problems with their mothers parenting during their impact statements… in the car being taken by CPS? Thought she had changed for the better? Obviously she’s had a lot of issues being a good mother for a long time. and instead of getting better she just got better at being a bad one. I had a brother like this, that’s why the story has impacted me so much. He is also gone. Died at the age of 18. Because my mother couldn’t handle his “behavior“ and kicked him out of the house on the streets to fend for himself, he didn’t last two weeks.
And dad?
I'm sorry for your loss and for your brother 😢🥺
The mother's parental rights were terminated and she agreed to remove herself from the household and moved to Michigan. Timothy should never have been released to her. The father obviously knew this knowing that she was not fit to care for him.
@@patriciadellenbach9591 That is awful… Didn’t know about the dad
@@sherrilynnnelson703 Thank you very much, I miss him❤️
I'm crying over a kid I never even knew
A family member should have called the police for a welfare check!
People don't check in because they don't care.
The father definitely has some responsibility here.
@@anthonyrowland9072yes. They were safe and away from that women themselves. That's what they cared about. They didn't care about the other victim they left behind.
@@patriciadellenbach9591stop blaming the husband omg ,SHE killed the child
The boy was in the father’s responsibility! The mother was a know abuser who lost custody. The father had the legal duty to inform the authorities that he had send Timothy back. Either he would have been monitored at his mothers know or put in foster care. He would be alive. The father played dice by deciding to ignore the law and the facts. And the siblings went no contact, I hope you continue to life a sheltered life and never know the pain it takes to make you need to go no contact with family.
These siblings are so intent in their hatred of Shanda. I'm so sorry they had to go through this. Their love of each other and Timothy is beyond words. I wish them peace and love from here on out.
In so glad that unlike Nolan, she wants nothing to do with Paul.
Makes me cry, but was so glad to hear from someone that loved him.
I fail to understand why these brother and sister didn’t do anything for him. Didn’t denounce the abuse. Now everybody is saying they” loved him and that it was their job to protect him”
Well the brother lived over 900 miles away and was establishing his own life and career etc.. on the phone the mother would have just made Timothy say everything is okay. I missed where she was, but heck when I was older and had to move away from work I didn’t see my siblings for years. It’s not like they were living in the house with Timothy
Sometimes there’s only so much you can do. And you don’t know what you don’t know. They clearly said they weren’t aware of what was happening and Nolan specifically said he thought Shanda changed.
Have you watched the trial? She was a 16/17 year old abused girl living in a different state when her 15 year old abused sibling died. The boy was in the father’s responsibility! The mother was a know abuser who lost custody. The father had the legal duty to inform the authorities that he had send Timothy back. Either he would have been monitored at his mother’s home or put in foster care. Or maybe the CPS would have taken a hold on the older siblings to say what was going on. He would be alive. The father played dice by deciding to ignore the law and the facts. And the siblings went no contact, I hope you continue to live a sheltered life and never know the pain it takes to make you need to go no contact with family.
I'm so sorry for you and your Timothy. I lost a Timothy too. We will hold them again. ❤
You are so young Millie, and such a wonderful young lady and sister.
I am so sorry for you and your siblings and family.
Your Love is very apparent and we all can hear it in your sweet voice
Timothy is amazing. Thank you to both of these siblings for caring about him and telling us that there were people that cared about him and that he wasn't just treated so badly his whole life that makes me feel better I was so broken up not being able to find any pictures about him thinking there was never a picture taken and that nobody ever cared about him. I was going to start a candlelight vigil for goodness sakes because I didn't think anybody cared or he had a funeral or anything it was horrible. I know some children do suffer this fade but I'm very happy to know that there are a couple people that adore him and loved him.
So she was taken away from CPS and yet if she is this person's biological child then how on earth was another child put in her care...??? Where the hell is CPS? The dad also violated something if he put a child in her care knowing she wasn't allowed to have children in her care. I mean CPS wouldn't know unless they were actively had an open case with the father but I mean this child slip through the cracks because it seemed like nobody knew he was back in this mother's care.. of course she's not a mother and she didn't care but you know what I mean
Father dumped him w mom kno 3:49 wing mom was not supposed t have him per CPS. Mom kept moving across various states and CPS has no idea that dad relinquished him back to the abuser. Dad bears significant role
Have you watched the trial? She was a 16/17 year old abused girl living in a different state when her 15 year old abused sibling died. The boy was in the father’s responsibility! The mother was a know abuser who lost custody. The father had the legal duty to inform the authorities that he had send Timothy back. Either he would have been monitored at his mother’s home or put in foster care. Or maybe the CPS would have taken a hold on the older siblings to say what was going on. He would be alive. The father played dice by deciding to ignore the law and the facts. And the siblings went no contact, I hope you continue to live a sheltered life and never know the pain it takes to make you need to go no contact with family.
Have you watched the trial? She was a 16/17 year old abused girl living in a different state when her 15 year old abused sibling died. The boy was in the father’s responsibility! The mother was a know abuser who lost custody. The father had the legal duty to inform the authorities that he had send Timothy back. Either he would have been monitored at his mother’s home or put in foster care. Or maybe the CPS would have taken a hold on the older siblings to say what was going on. He would be alive. The father played dice by deciding to ignore the law and the facts.
That is a powerful impact statement for such a young girl. So sorry for you and your family, Millie.
Why do people kill kids...just walk away. Its soo horrible to think about. Just leave them. RIP TIMOTHY
Millie deserves top honors for her statement; in almost any other public platform, she would've undoubtedly received a standing O. Above all else my comment will include is this: Millie just delivered a full circle moment for me. Hollywood could not have scripted a more fitting way to end this trial. SHE just gave Timothy, his life and death and the looming shadow of unthinkable tragedy that all but engulfed the few brief glimpses we've been given to feel any connection to HIM .... I'm a little taken aback but in a good way. as in a way that made me feel Timothy's life has been properly recognized in court for the world to see, and her words and ONLY her words are the piece of the puzzle that eluded my sense of justice in this case. I'm so glad she spoke. Im even more in awe of her ability to give a SELFLESS statement that was all for TIMOTHY. She could've probably used that time to highlight more of her monstrosity of a mother and no doubt additional abuse she endured as well as her siblings. She could not have made a more beautiful, deserved statement about her little brother than this. She blew me away, and other than the judge who took a few moments before sentencing to let us know why he withheld some of the skeletal photos from the trial and opted to show one of the few in existence of Timothy before his mother slowly and systematically dismantled his entire being, I am always following a trial of some kind, but I don't follow them all. I've been a bit numbed to these awful acts humans seem to never stop committing against one another, so it really takes some unique circumstances to grab and hold my attention start to finish. The monsters law degree and seemingly rare intellectual gifts drew me in. It was quickly very clear that the only meaningful thing to The MOMster WAS her legal ambitions but in my opinion, this was a two bird, one stone deal for me. Any person with the capacity such as hers for inflicting boundless cruelty on the life her own body PRODUCED has no place ANYWHERE in a courtroom, or EVER representing vulnerable citizens who might have sought her services. If not for Timothy being the sacrificial lamb that thank god exposed her, who knows she herself may have even worn the robe and held the gavel. MILLIE, you were everything this case needed and you brought the most true sense of justice i've witnessed in any public trial of my lifetime. HOLD your head high always, you are not your mothers' daughter. No, no. YOU are TIMOTHYS SISTER, and you should regret nothing. You could not have honored your brother any better.
Sweet , intelligent Millie , you are the best sister any little brother could have wanted without a doubt. Your heart is pure and I am certain Timothy's was too. May the memories live on and let peace find the hearts of those who are kind and good !
No one...absolutely not one person was there to help Timothy until he WAS killed, until AFTER his torture. He cried alone, suffered alone, died alone...
NOW people want to say they loved him...👎😢
Have you watched the trial? She was a 16/17 year old abused girl living in a different state when her 15 year old abused sibling died. The boy was in the father’s responsibility! The mother was a know abuser who lost custody. The father had the legal duty to inform the authorities that he had send Timothy back. Either he would have been monitored at his mother’s home or put in foster care. Or maybe the CPS would have taken a hold on the older siblings to say what was going on. He would be alive. The father played dice by deciding to ignore the law and the facts. And the siblings went no contact, I hope you continue to live a sheltered life and never know the pain it takes to make you need to go no contact with family.
Those poor poor children. I wish them all the strength to survive the actions of their evil “mother”.
As soon as CPS gets involved and abuse/neglect is proven those children should NEVER be put back with those parents EVER again and both parents should be sterilized to prevent MORE children being put in danger by the abusive parents!
We don’t do forced sterilization in the United States; for one thing, that’s a slippery slope. While I hate to see abusers have more children, we can’t have forced sterilization. As for returning them to parents who have abused, I feel it should only be done in cases of mild neglect that has been rectified, not in cases of physical, extreme emotional or s@x abuse.
@@Catfluff521 obviously there's no forced sterilization, but I believe in cases of psyichal and s*xual abuse there SHOULD be, I'd prefer that than them being able to destroy MORE lives, in this case there's a history of abuse yet no lessons were learned, children were allowed to go back to abusive parents sge bever should've been allowed to have Timothy in her custody when she was a known abuser! If she had been strelized when her oldest child was removed it would've spared the awful suffering Timothy and his siblings went through and Timothy wouldn't be dead!
I hope she is able to find some comfort.
I don't
What a lovely, beautiful sister. ❤
Poor Timothy!. I hoped you are now at peace! X
I feel the heartache from the siblings
What heartfelt , beautiful yet tragic words. Timothy knows you love him . Please do not be hard on yourself. When you stood up for him at school says it all. ❤ I hope you and your family finds peace .
God Bless you Milli!!! Your LOVE for Timothy shown through your words. Timothy was wanted and Loved my many and he will live on through that Love through you and all who cherished him. May you and all who Loved Timothy be comforted by memories of times spent with him. And know that you have a special angel watching over you and smiling because he knows he was always LOVED.
The brother and sister would have been more than willing to help. But that woman did not want them to. I really hope the brother, sister, and the baby brother find peace through this immense trauma. And no it is not your fault! You could have never imagined the woman to do something so heinous. Sending you my love.
My anger is boiling where is the father!!!
Poor girl...my heart hurts for her. Praying for her. Rip Timothy. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Millie - I honour your bravery and depth in speaking from your heart for your brother. Your words for Timothy have touched the hearts of so many I am sure. And Timothy himself, now at peace in a blissful place of infinite love, will have heard your heartfelt words and be surrounding you with healing light-love. What you shared is a reminder to us all, to care for those around us fiercely, despite the impediments. You stood up and spoke up for Timothy today. And inspired all of us to stand up for those we love who are in challenging times, and reminding them that they are loved and that we are there for them. blessings.
These poor children deserved better parents than they got. The pain is so deep. Shandra destroyed the people she created. What a vile person she is!
I’m thankful we got to hear about Timothy from people who loved him
This is heartbreaking❤. How many children did this awful woman bring into the world????
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I hope that father is charged for his role in this!!!
Father had a stroke, was basically paralyzed, and was living a thousand miles away when all of this occurred. You're an idiot.
Charged with what? Divorcing Shander?
@@rebeccapugh2297child neglect. He handed Timothy over to her when he knew she was court ordered to not have custody! He has some responsibility in this too!
@@tamlynn786 Don't you think he's paid enough of a price too. I dunno, I just don't want to scapegoat her actions. This rests on her.
@@rebeccapugh2297I agree, being a single parent isn't easy, if the father truly was a part of it I'm sure his sister and brother wouldve said something.
Beautiful words from a big sister.
Where was Timothy's father????
Where was this sister while her brother was being abused? Where was she living? Why didn't she report it to the school, a neighbor, the police? Nobody lives in a vacuum, without any family, friends, acquaintances, co-workers, neighbors. Not one person was able to speak up?
She had no contact with them, knowing her mother was evil. She had no idea what was going on, it seems like chaos and a lot of lies.
She would have been 17 when he died and it seems like they were split up at a certain point
The boy was in the father’s responsibility! The mother was a know abuser who lost custody. The father had the legal duty to inform the authorities that he had send Timothy back. Either he would have been monitored at his mother’s home or put in foster care. Or maybe the CPS would have taken a hold on the older siblings to say what was going on. He would be alive. The father played dice by deciding to ignore the law and the facts. And the siblings went no contact, I hope you continue to life a sheltered life and never know the pain it takes to make you need to go no contact with family.
😢😭😭❤❤to this young woman having the courage and strength to be speaking out on this.
Would the father be tried too..... He sent the kid to the monster though she had no rights....
Oh Millie, I am so very sorry for the loss of your little brother. I to pray his killer is held to the fullest extent of the law. I pray she never see's the light of day again. Just know your little brother is always with you. Sending love and prayers to you and your other siblings.
I feel sorry for the abuse these children endured at the hands of their supposed protector(mother) RIP Timothy🥀🕊️🙏❤️
May GOD truly bless Millie💖
I feel so so bad for her and brother that they are feeling this way. It's natural but it's still brutal to think they are going through all this pain while their mother is in protection whilst in prison and she doesn't feel anything. This breaks my heart! Stay strong and remember your little brother for who he was x
So basically this woman is evil to the core and has been so her whole adult life, if not longer.
Hearing her daughter say they were removed from her custody by CPS, and hearing her son say that he had hoped she had changed, tells me that this kind of behavior was a pattern and certainly not the isolated phenomenon she would have had everybody believe.
Thank goodness nobody bought that crock of baloney.
Why has Timothy’s father not said nor done anything?
Thank you, Millie, for sharing with us. You are a great big sister.
Well Done Millie! So beautifully said, I pray you go forward in life to live a great life and honour Timothy yourself precious brother!
♥️hugs&prayers♥️
This made me cry 😢 i've been following the whole trial since 23/12/'23 here on youtube from Belgium 🇧🇪
I shouldn't be watching this. My 8 year old son is non verbal autistic and I can't imagine ever even slapping his hand for doing something bad...and hearing this story for the first time, i just know its going to give me nightmares... I just can't wrap my head around how a parent can do this to their own child. All I can do I guess is love and take care of my only child to the best of my abilities... But still, I wish so damn bad someone was there to save that boy before it was too late...
I feel for the 2 siblings. The only 2 people in that family that cared for him...
Rest in eternal peace, Timothy.
I cannot imagine the angst this dear girl feels..What kind of beast could torture a child the way Timothy was ? She was evil through and through..I pray that boy is running through fields of butterflies in heaven with all the food anyone could want!
Beautiful, I sincerely hope you find a way to continue on with a broken heart, and to always keep Timothy alive and never forgotten.
Millie- Your little brother is so very proud of you. He will always be by your side just look for the signs. Blessings to you and your family.
All the siblings had the chance to help this boy. SMH 😢
How? She was a child and was taken by CPS, so I'm assuming she was in some kind of foster care. Shandra was not legally supposed to have custody.
Have you watched the whole trial? She was a 16/17 year old abused girl living in a different state when her 15 year old abused sibling died. You should be ashamed of yourself. The boy was in the father’s responsibility! The mother was a know abuser who lost custody. The father had the legal duty to inform the authorities that he had send Timothy back. Either he would have been monitored at his mother’s home or put in foster care. Or maybe the CPS would have taken a hold on the older siblings to say what was going on. He would be alive. The father played dice by deciding to ignore the law and the facts. And the siblings went no contact, I hope you continue to live a sheltered life and never know the pain it takes to make you need to go no contact with family.
So tragic...thank you big sister for being brave and standing up for your brother. God bless you as you heal and live now a different way without him.
Who did the kids live with for CPS to take them away?
The kids were taken away in 2010 after allegations from a member of the family's church. Timothy was 2, Millie 4 Paul 6 and Logan 8.
The 3 eldest went to live relatives and Timothy went into care. The parents had regular supervised contact. In 2012 the case was settled. The kids were returned to their dad believe it or not only if Shanda moved out. If she refused or the dad refused to leave her both their rights would be terminated.
He was seen as the good one basically.
From then on she was allowed supervised contact once a month.
And looks like Logan and Millie see her as scum.
Aww, a very sweet statement and lovely bravery.
How did everyone in that courtroom hold it together? Tears flowed uncontrollably down my cheeks, listening to the words of Millie.