Can we talk about the siblings that always gang up, gaslight, and make you feel so belittled, then treat you nicely minutes later like nothing happened?? Would it fall into the bully & victim category...?
I'm sorry to hear that this happens to you. I have an older sibling who would do this to me recently, and it really did a number on me :/ In my case, I don't think it was intended as bullying -- I think she mostly just reacted poorly to her emotions and . . . I don't know . . . couldn't afford to let herself see how much she was affecting me. We got along like two sides of a penny when we were younger; she was always the outgoing, aggressive one, and I was the quiet, supportive one. I thought we had each other's backs, but at some point I started making my own friends and forming my own identity, and she . . . was going through some stuff of her own. Things got pretty rough after that. Listen, if you're still here after all that, thanks for hearing me out. I don't have many people I can talk to about this, since I'd basically be trash talking her to her own friends/family without giving her a chance to defend herself, but . . . I really needed to get some of this off my chest.
I'm sorry to hear that this happens to you. I have an older sibling who would do this to me recently, and it really did a number on me :/ In my case, I don't think it was intended as bullying -- I think she mostly just reacted poorly to her emotions and . . . I don't know . . . couldn't afford to let herself see how much she was affecting me. We got along like two sides of a penny when we were younger; she was always the outgoing, aggressive one, and I was the quiet, supportive one. I thought we had each other's backs, but at some point I started making my own friends and forming my own identity, and she . . . was going through some stuff of her own. Things got pretty rough after that. Listen, if you're still here after all that, thanks for hearing me out. I don't have many people I can talk to about this, since I'd basically be trash talking her to her own friends/family without giving her a chance to defend herself, but . . . I really needed to get some of this off my chest.
I notice that too actually. However, I believe people don't give a lot of attention to it because it's normally based on the parents, since normally they create and encourage the environment to even foster. Therefore, they're the ones who are held accountable (to begin with at least).
the narcissist/addict manipulate the siblings against one another. My alcoholic mother tryied this for years. She even took us to see a therapist where she sat down and said nothing. When the whole conflict started because she made a conflict that in reality was about a narcissist who was not in the family to be about me and my sister. What eventualy happend is that me and my sister started to see therapist separetly on our own. and became aware of our mothers toxic ways and are today close. I have zero contact with my mother. Whats crazy is that my alcoholic/narcissistic mother works in mental health in the school system.
Sibling relationships also depend on how the parents raise their children Edit: "also". I'm NOT saying its ALL BECAUSE of how the parents raise their children, but that is a factor that can affect the sibling relationship.
Yep. That’s all the reasons to why I am the way I am towards my siblings. And why my siblings act they way they act. The thing is with these videos is that, if I’m not relating to it, it’s my siblings. I mostly feel bad for my lil sister. I feel like my brother is gonna turn out the finest. He has the least issues.
Same here. My sister is 3 years younger, and as we grew up, she has physically and verbally assaulted me numerous times to the point that I don't want to be around her now, even though we're grown. Complaining to Mom & Dad never worked, they just told me, she's going through a stage/phase. My sister has never, ever, apologized or acknowledged the things she said and did in the past, and acts like everything is just peachy dandy. That's why I have little or no contact with her now.
@@Quirky_Ventriloquist Makes you madder then hell, doesn't it? Sibling hurts/disrespects you in a big way, then they act like YOU'RE the one who's supposed to forgive and forget, and act like it never happened.
I don't have any disability i have leukemia but my older brother still wins and my parent abandon me tho kbye thanks mom and dad for not listening and making me a schziprenic .. and thanks tita gloria for everything !!
parents abusing their children is often talked about and is well known. But abuse from you siblings, i feel is often not talked about. And barely even recognized as a thing that happens. My own sister ignores the way she abused me when i was little. She can no longer abuse me the way she did, but does it in difficult ways now, with less intensity. My family refuses to recognize what happened and just wants me to get over it. I suffer from anxiety, ocd, and depression now because of my childhood, and no one in my family wants to see it.
awee i hope you’re doing well, i know it’s very difficult to let go of the past especially when everyone else pretends like it’s nothing, i wish you luck
I feel so much less alone now. I swear my sister is completely clueless with the way she treats me. And my depression and anxiety has been getting to me and I feel so done with living. My ocd thoughts have been getting stronger and I feel so out of control in this situation. I’m at a point where I don’t care anymore
I'm sorry you live(d) with that dynamic. Keep working on staying aware of your feelings and experiences around your sibling. Keep up the practice of advocating for yourself and establishing your boundary. In my experience with my sibling the toxic relationship does erupt and I do have to restablish boundary. I am in my fifties and tragically I still deal with this. My best to you 🌻 seek counseling
Damn just realized I'm kind of a bully and a ghost. I saw it coming but it still felt like a slap in the face. I needed it tho. I'ma try to be a better sibling now. I don't want my siblings and I to be disconnected from each other when were older. I don't want them to remember me as this horrible person.
Psych2Go: "If you're in a situation where you cannot leave your dysfunctional household just yet,..." Me: "DUDE. WE CAN'T EVEN LEAVE OUR *REGULAR* HOUSEHOLD"
I was bullied physically and verbally for years, more than 16 years by my elder siblings. The impact of those years are generalized anxiety, fearing to voice out my opinion, trust issues, self bullying, I don't trust my decisions, I don't have any friends. Dear content creator can you please make a video on how to overcome childhood bullying 🙏
My brother and I fight sometimes (and I may call him an idiot sometimes even though I don't mean it) we love each other and support each other. I haven't lost all my friends yet but I am hoping he won't react meanly.
My sister became the bully, I became the ghost, and my brother is normal af. It's like he took all of our good qualities and absorbed it into himself. Damn youngest siblings...
im the 2nd youngest and it feels like your older siblings dont care for you and act like your 2 but abusive while your parents dont care so uhhhh possibly kinda wrong??
"Me hatting my brother because he mentally and physicaly abuse me" People : your gonna love him when you guys getting older ! My parents : he's JUST playing with you ! Me : -_-
Not really, Elsa was forced into isolation by her parents, and when you say she could just leave her room, she was still conditioned to stay in her room. The ghost decides to be a ghost, I can’t explain why because there can be many different reasons. I’m a hungry child and my older sister is kinda a ghost, the most time we spend together is through video games.
I think I used to be the bully. I was mentally and physically abused as a child and bullying my little sister gave me a feeling of power and control, that I desperately needed. My sister and I are very close now, but I'll never stop feeling guilty about the things I've done to her...
I think it’s great that you can realise that and feel guilty, it shows that you’re not truly who you were and have moved on from that mindset. Please feel good that you have stopped bullying, and CAN feel guilty instead of not realising your actions instead of carrying on ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Same! Me and my little brother used to have a lot of psycial fights when I were little. I'd pick fights with him out of anger after my parents beat me.. When I got into my teenage years I realized that he was a victim aswell and became a bit over protective of him instead. We now have a good relationship and I feel horrible when thinking about the past
Just curious, how the hell did you manage to stop? Does it come with the maturity of age? Idk, you'd think I'd know better, yet I can't seem to control my anger around my sibling. But I always feel absolutely horrible after everything's said and done. I normally apologize to him afterward unless he like REALLY hurts my feelings. Idk, we're both just very similar people that know how to press each other's buttons... (Cause he's done the same shit to me, and maybe that's a different case altogether.) My situation is combined with the royal brat and wise owl. him generally being the royal brat, (I mean I'm not perfect either, I can be a terrible bitch sometimes but I can at least take no for an answer...) But the point was I want to learn how to stop, and I try (But every time I do my brother comes in and pokes me in just the wrong places, or maybe that's an excuse idk I'm rambling....) I wanna be a better person and grow, i guess... sorry for rambling
@@krystaltardif269 tbh it takes a lot of maturity to realize why you do things and how to stop. But that only happens when your ready to confront the flaws and negative characteristics of your personality, same for your sibling. Until you're both ready to confront that truth that is when change can finally happen.
i grew up with a bully brother, still kinda do. i’m so happy this video acknowledges that it’s not just “siblings fight”. a sibling can ABUSE their sibling.
My sister: *kicks me in the stomach and then tells me to jump off a bridge* Me: She literally just kicked me in the stomach and told me to commit suicide. My dad: you aren't any better *later* My sister: **bites herself** ow why did you do that?!?! Long story short, the sooner I get out of here, the better.
Your sister clearly needs therapy, tell your parents that, show them this video, perhaps you need family therapy, and emergency solution is still calling child protection services (even as an older child (teen)) they don't drag people right away like they do in the movies, they might just demand therapy for your family,... but honestly, what you said, that's just horrible and no one can suffer a sibling like that/the ignorance of a parent like that. Contact help. Your life might be endangered by your sister. That sounded like death threat implication if she told you to kill yourself. You need to call for help right now!
@@Valeartsy123 That's awful, I don't really know how to help, perhaps you take away some things from my experience? As someone who had been bullied in school as well, at a certain age say 13 or so it seems only grown ups or switching the school might help, in my case I didn't and regretted that because it went on for years. Around 17 that changed though, the people around me became more self aware of their actions (one of them confessed how guilty he felt about all the things he did to me in retrospective, but was so anxious and ashamed that I only know because he told it to my sister when he was drunk). There was however an attempt of a student of another class who started always making fun of me for being late (well I had problems at home, duh) and I noticed that this was growing into bullying again and this just pissed me of so much that one time when she said something stupid again and all her friends laughing, I gathered all the anger I had stored away for years and the dread that if it doesn't stop now I'll have to go throigh that all over again and yelled at her: "Is your ego so small that you need to make fun of me everytime?!? >>Oh look [my real name] is late again, haha!
@@Valeartsy123 I'm so sorry to hear that, but if it improved after changing the school at least you know that differences can be made even if they are small... Keep trying is all I can say, hit back, you know what hit them if they are just verbally abusing you, I never tried that, because I was afraid of getting into "trouble" with the headmaster, but it in retrospective it would have drawn more attention to the situation, maybe it would have made it too much of a bother for the bullies to continue if it meant talking to the headmaster afterwards, perhaps it would have helped gaining respect, but in the least it would have meant especially (if this occured more than once) that the grown ups would have had to take a serious closer look on the situation, so it would be of no use for the bullies in the long term trying to present the situation as if they were the victims... And you should write down everything they do to you and take pictures (best with dates somehow like a newspaper in the picture itself, dates of crimes are important), evidence is a good way to reveal liars. Will also hold against the police if you decide to call them. I heard that a boy at a school did that once call the police while he was under attack of his bullies... maybe look to things like that. Stay strong ♡
Everyone’s always saying the youngest is spoiled. I’m the youngest, and I’m always forgotten, left out, yelled at, and I’m basically a slave to my older siblings, *Just. Because. I’m. The. Youngest.* And the elders always think “You have to respect your elders” But do they respect their youngers? No. That’s when everyone starts thinking about why I’m antisocial or always wearing headphones. *Guys, what I’m saying is, not all families are the same, and you shouldn’t stereotype others. Cause trust me, when your younger siblings grow up, they’re gonna be a whole new mature person.*
You know, I don't know what my younger brother thinks of me. I mean we don't get along all the time. We always fight whenever one of us makes each other mad. Is it because I'm jealous of him so that's why we don't get along or his attitude is really unacceptable for my standards? I'm not a perfect brother or person and I'm really trying my best understand why my younger brother treats me disrespectfully. I'm harsh to him sometimes but the only reason I'm harsh to him is to teach him a lesson. I don't hit my brother anymore but I can't help but to say mean words to him and I know that's not right. But my brothers attitude and personality is very unacceptable and toxic. he's very spoiled and he yells back whenever I'm trying to say that what he's does is wrong. My parents try to understand him but even my parents never gets respect. He always think he's always right and he only thinks about thinks that will make him happy. I don't understand why my brother is like that. I mean we didn't grow up in an abusive family so is he like that? is it because he adapts to his toxic environment in school? makes sense. but that's not an excuse to be bad and disrespectful to your elders. I mean sure he wants my respect but he needs to learn to respect me too. This is not intended to all younger siblings out there okay. And I don't want to make an issue here. I just want to say my opinion and I know that not all younger siblings is bad and toxic. So don't take my comment as a message to all siblings because it's not. I wish someday that my brother and I can get along and I don't resent him at all. I just wish him to be more nicer to everyone around him and learn to know when he's wrong.
True. I'm the oldest anyway, but I'm always.... Being left out.... It's like I'm invisible Also, my younger siblings didn't respect me and always bullying me (I'm weak physically since childhood so...)
This ngl is making me cry because it’s true :( I can’t get along with my family and am always asked to do stuff for them since I’m the youngest... I had to mature faster because of my family dynamic and they expect me to be happy and cheerful because of stereotypes
I’m the scapegoat, my little brother (about 9 yrs.) is the bully, and my other little brother (about 7 yrs.) is the royal brat. Yes, you heard me right. The younger sibling is a bully towards the older sibling in my family.
sucks to be the oldest sometimes, can definitely relate to the being bullied by a younger sibling. In my case for a majority of the time my younger sibling would easily get a away with causing physical harm to me-even slamming a door right on my head once-and if I tried to push her or defend myself I would get reprimanded because "She is little your bigger." Hated that growing up, in addition to pretty much having to be a live in baby sitter to a kid that never behaved and then getting blamed if she ruins something in the house.
Since my younger brother left the family of his own dessision because he did bad stuff, my younger sister has been saying its all my fault and says that (im the mistake) of the family and yells at me at least 2-3 times a day. Found out about two weeks ago, my biological mum actually never wanted girls as her children. I always wondered why she always breaks promises for my whole life for what i know of. My Dad has been crying everyday since my brother left. Its been about 7-8 months now. Dad is getting me a councillor because i abuse myself and refuse to see anyone or go out and EVERYTHING thats been going on. Dad loves me very much and my step mum too. Shes been a better mum than my biological mum for sure. Im also getting bullied at my high school constantly about everything that is wrong with me and my family. Its hard when no one at my school knows that i have autism. I'm quite quiet and dont get along with others. Im now in a new school. I think i need to stop because this is the most ive ever said anything in a very long time and i really needed to let this out of my system. Im hoping if anyone that reads this wont feel bad for me so much or bad for themselves either. I just dont really ask for anything. I hope everyone is happy and feel good for themselves. Have a good day please and stay positive. Bye.
That moment when i realized i was the golden child....... but i've moved away to south korea, away from my abusive parents and on the road to healing, for anyone who's curious
I'm korean-- I hope you are feeling better soon. I am an only child and seeing all of these kind of comments makes me really sad. I know I'm just talking through the internet, but if you want to talk to me about your problems, I'd be more than happy to help.
@Hana Rose not all scapegoat situations are the same. My brother's moved out and i gave him some money to help with his new apartment. We keep in touch because we're the only siblings we both have and we've decided not to live in the past. Thanks for your comment
Carmen L if you haven’t told him to his face that you acknowledge he was the scapegoat and abused more severely it can still be kind of painful to him. My brother is hesitant to validate the fact that I was the scapegoat because my mom is so nice to him. Simply acknowledging someone else’s pain can go a long way.
Bully and Victim, the worst thing is I'm da older child and if I ever stood up for myself or tell my mom or other ppl dey think it's just "normal sibling bonding" T_T and great vid btw!
I really appreciate this channel because I just realised that I have been bullying my sisters because of my frustration with my dad.Thank you for helping me realise that
I'm really glad for you! Sometimes we don't even realize we do some of these things, and all it takes is recognition of the bad behavior. And then wanting to change it. Some people NEVER even recognize their bad behavior. So this is a good step in my eyes 👍
Me and my brother dont even talk and we hate each other it kinda hurts me how other older brothers look out for their younger but my brothers couldn't care less.
@Nina Sinjeri fun fact: we also have 7 year age gap and I see other old brother taking siblings somewhere,enjoying but for me its awkward and if I say back to him he will say you are younger keep calm or something like that I'll blame it on the age gap :((
Oldest child: younger siblings always get spoiled Youngest child: parents always choose older siblings side even when "they started it" Middle child: Edit: look people if you cannot anyway relate to this, then please do not bother replying that you can't.
Well goddamn. Have you tried telling her how all that makes you feel? I don't think it might work, but you probably should try anything you can to stop your sister.
"the hungry child searches for love elsewhere" wow, that just hit close to home... me and my older brother used to be close but now it's like I can't tell if he still cares for our family. There were times when he would totally ignore me or lash out suppressed emotion. I notice how I tend to spend more time with my friends than with my family. I have a younger brother tho and despite our 6 yr age gap, we get along a lot better than all of us siblings combined.
I feel terrible, I’m a host child in this case and my sibling keeps wanting to be around me and hug and everything but I just feel uncomfortable and now I feel like crap
Same here lol. We both get in trouble though sometimes it's not our fault. U would think we would get along, but it makes it worse and sometimes I want nothing to do with my brother :/
This is a major topic no one is ready to talk about fr... I'm so thankful for this video. I was emotionally and verbally abused as a child for basically 18 years and this has affect many areas of my life. Out here dealing with anxiety, ocd, fear of rejection, low self esteem, I sometimes feel like I'm never enough for everything so I tend to just stay away. Yet family comes at me and make me feel bad for staying away which helps me stay calm. I'm constantly fighting myself, worst part is, no one wants to hear my side of the story they all think something is wrong with me despite the fact that I question myself a lot and I'm willing to change... it's a lot. Glad to know I'm not alone in this
i’ve always been worried that i’m a bad big sister to my little sister. when i was younger i wasn’t a great sister and now i’m starting to worry about how i’ll affect her in the long run and how i’ll be remembered by her. i love her to death but sometimes my depression makes it hard for me to properly show it. i hope she knows just how much i love her, she’s so adorable and has a heart of gold.
sophia arthur Me too, m not good to myself and i cant be good to anyone else anymore, i cant make wonder and i cant be the parent for my siblings and that makes me sad, my parents are abusive and now all of us are suffering, but what my younger siblings dont know that i am as well not doing well, and all the things i did to them i did its because i found it the best at the time, now we are lacking love and empathy among us.. more grudges build up everyday, .. what can help us if we all saw how each is victimized and suffered and be kind and forgiving Hope your sister could understand your situation and get along with you
I can relate to your concern. I wasn't a good big sister either, I would even intentionally try to make my sister cry, which wasn't a good thing because she was born ill and her immune system was never the best. But I didn't really understand that at the time nor did I even care. Now we're both in our 20s and we get along well with each other, and I tend to wonder if how she behaves sometimes is because of me. I can also relate in terms of depression getting in the way of showing how much I care for my sister, or anyone else really. It's hard, but even little signs like giving a hug or even sending a nice text is enough to show that you love and care for your sibling. If you're able to have a healthy relationship with your sister, then you can definitely give yourself a pat on the back because there are people who go their entire lives just having nothing to do with their siblings and it's very sad. And I say that and yet my sister and I have nothing to do with our brother anymore, but that's a different story to maybe or maybe not be told.
@@mantisqueen964you are a terrible person. The trauma you have caused your younger sibling for your sadistic nature is so sad. Count your blessings if she is still talking to you. 🙂
Soooo, just figured out my brother’s the bully, and I’m the victim... Ever since we were young my brother would push me off swings and push me into walls. Now he just charges me with various objects and once threw me into a flower pot, causing the pot to break and me to have two small bruises to match my other bruises... Don’t you love toxic people :)
I’m so sorry you went through that. You don’t deserve that at all. Use the pain and anger you feel to make you stronger. That’s what I did and it worked.
I'm the older sibling and the bully, so I might be able to understand why your brother did that stuff to you. He either did it all out of pure anger about something entirely different and took it out on you, or he was frustrated and accidently was too rough with you.
Snööky 60 that’s something like my sister. One time she was sad and I came up to her and said what’s wrong and she just walked away like she didn’t want to be near me
I think the bully one is so hard to even recognize. It's always "oh, siblings fight all the time. It's normal." Well it shouldn't be normal. It's also very hard for the abused sibling(s) to get the help they need. The response I got was "It's just a phase. We have to be patient and loving to her. She'll grow out of it eventually, you'll see." Fast forward 10 years later and here we still are. I think most people realize that bullying is a problem., but when they think of bullying, they picture the stereotypical school bully. It's such a different ballpark when it's your own sibling who knows everything about you and uses that to maliciously torment you and your family. We have to tiptoe around her like she's a bomb waiting to go off. When my older siblings visit from college, I think they've forgotten (to an extent) what living with her is like because they mention it more and act like they are noticing it more. It's a contrast from what their lives are now. But me and my other siblings still have to deal with her in some way or another on daily basis. Whether it's the screaming match that inevitably explodes every 5 months or so from repressed resentment and other issues, or dealing with the silent treatment/alienation, or actively being picked on and criticized, my home is exhausting to be in most of the time. Over the years I've gone from being outspoken and furiously defending my self to now in my late teens being very depressed and withdrawn into myself. I just silently deal with it now. My parents are no help at all. They don't do much to correct or stop her behavior because she doesn't listen and we've all learned the hard way not to get on my sisters bad side. They definitely treat her differently. By that I mean more leniently. Unfortunately, there are countless ways to tick her off: disagreeing with her in any way, breaking one of her many unspoken (and often impossible to completely avoid) rules, and basically just displeasing her in any way. Nothing we do is ever good enough for her. We're always wrong and can't do anything right. If we try to give her some space she throws a fit because "we're excluding" her. But when we try to include her (not that we want to, she's utterly miserable to be around) she goes on a rant about how we never leave her alone and she just wants some space. She is a manipulative, narcissistic bully. She manipulates and abuses me emotionally and verbally. II can't wait for the day I can finally move out and hopefully start enjoying life because right now, I don't. I don't have any close relationships and worry that I never will. I have severe imposter syndrome and am constantly paranoid that no one truly cares about me specifically our friends (we are similar in age and have the same friend group). She tells me they only pretend to be my friend "just to be nice" and wish they didn't have to because I'm loud, awkward, and very annoying (this is one of my biggest insecurities). I don't want to believe it but they do inexplicably favor her over me. I don't really know how to deal with her anymore and I'm tired of doing so. I'm tired of doubting myself and being dismissed and invalidated by my parents. I can check all the boxes for depression and emotional trauma. There have been times were I was just so done. I wanted for it all to just end but I somehow managed to hang on. I want to do something with my life instead of the meaningless life I currently lead. I'd like to go to school and be a veterinarian or maybe a teacher (I love animals and I've always been really good with kids) so I can do something really meaningful with my life. I don't want to be a victim anymore. I want to get out into the world and make a difference.
Wow, I just realized I'm bullying my little sister. That's harsh, but I'll try to be a better sibling from now on. Edit: Omg thank you all so much for the support! You're all great! ♡♡♡
Y'all activists down in the comments are crazy. In asia pretty much everyone gets beaten by their parents, and we still appreciate them for actually raising us. I "abuse" my brother all the time by your loose definition of "abuse." all siblings fight, its such a normal thing. I have friends they say they beat up their brothers and their siblings get into fights with them every day. kinda funny at this point. Meanwhile here me and my autistic 7 yr old bro just ignore each other most time. But when he screws up I scold him and he just replies with something like "ur stupid" every time lmao. I feel like some comments are over exaggerated, just putting this out there.
He does. Even if he doesn't know english, he knows exactly what you're doing. people with autism aren't stupid. I'd say you're the stupid one. @@randomcat7246
My brother: **Mentally and physically abuses me** My parents: Oh, he’s just playing! Edit: I’m glad this comment could reach out to so many people! It makes me happy :)
All three comments need to get help. Call the police if you have to. Physical abuse isn't okay. If nothing else, fight back. Don't be their doormat!! If you show them you won't be pushed around, they'll hopefully leave you alone. Edit: I don't normally advocate violence, but sometimes words don't work, especially with siblings. They're supposed to love you unconditionally and should feel ashamed for treating you like that! These situations sound a lot worse than holding you down and spitting on you, that's why I was concerned.
Oh I’m the youngest out of three let me tell you my family favors the older ones for three Christmas in a row I’ve gotten something from the dollar store while my brother gets a drone and the other gets a iPhone 11
@@i_like_black_men_twerking_282 My family makes me and me other sister do favors for them and if we don't do them, they act like we are being ungreatful, a spoiled brat, they do things for us just so that they can bring it up when we say no, and they get mad at us.
Brother: Mentally abuses me Me: doesn't talk to him Brother : Why do you hate me so much? OMG this is the most likes ive ever gotten in my life :'D thank you everyone for agreeing with me
Brother: *holds a knife up me and threatens to kill me* Me: *starts running towards my mom* Mom: "he’s just playing around get over it" Yea sure mom he’s just playing with a knife and tell me that he’s gonna kill me :) Little by little me, my mom, and my brother have started to get along but it’s not that bad like it used to be before.😊
Your mother is source of his actions to you. She has a duty to, for one, not neglect her children, which is evident in that senario - she neglects both of you, him with corrective guidance because that is not acceptable impromptu play, and you by not protecting you. That is also abandonment, when you are left to fend for yourself against literal threats or even things that just feel like it.
This happened to me when I was younger. Now instead of physical abuse my sister hurts me with words and is quite often super mean and has no empathy. And then afterwards for a while acts like everythings fine and nothing just happened. Mom doesn’t care. I wanna get out of this family. But i still love all of them and it makes me kinda mad
Omg!! I always thought I was the only one whose brother use to thretend with a Knife, a cooking blade in my case to be specific. The thing with my brother is that he use to hit me and do that when my parents weren't at home, my father has always been a traveler for his job and my mom use to work during morning and afternoon. We have a babbysitter and she use to take hits for me. She is amazing, now a day she doesn't babysit us, but my father still pays her to help clean the house. I think its admirable that she never quit the job whe we were kids
Yeah he does evrything then I say I hate him or he makes evrything difficult them he says stuff like if I died right now you wouldn’t cry them. I think no stereotypes can be applied for sibling rivalry just two positions which can happen not based on age or birth order.
u know what really bothers me is that my sisters life is completely fine and she still mentally abuses me so much to the point where I want to kill myself and be found dead
(Oldest child - bully according to younger siblings) I’m the “bully” but I grew up a normal life until my sister came in, I hated her the moment I saw her, I blocked the doctors from seing her because i HATED her, I tried my best to leave her alone on the street, make her trip, or hurt her on purpose. Because she is the golden child, my parents are narcissistic so this is nothing new to older siblings
The same with my younger sister, she physically, emotionally and verbally abused me, she is violent which I am afraid, she mistreated calls me names, I turn to a angry, bitter, insane, cold and aggressive person, I suffers from depression sometimes Anxiety, Bipolar and PTSD.
Whoever has a good relationship with siblings are SO LUCKY. my brother doesn’t talk to me unless he’s grounded from his Xbox. I wish he could just maybe talk or play with me without me making me get up and come outside. Also, could you make a video about annoying people following you everywhere? In school a girl has not left me alone for four years. I’ve had it. She tries to do everything, buy me lunch and talk about things she thinks I like but no. She had done terrible things to me and my friends and when she played with us she took it too far, one time she pushed me on a brick wall and grabbed my collar and pulled it down, it was embarrassing 😿 I hate her and she keeps messing my life up
Wallie Talksalot I’m _trying_ to get away and I told her that I didn’t wanna be friends anymore but your right. I’ll try to tell a counselor about this, thank you.
I hate my sisters, really, my older sister Always beats me, is loud and very mean... My younger sister Always screams around, represents her life as the worst (older one too) and she is sooo annoying i Just completely hate them actually, but then Others Say "ugh, its just sibling love! In reality you love eachother!" We dont, i dont.
Patrick O'Shea ( Student ) Welp... she doesn’t have any friends xd so I kinda have given up by now but ill definitely take your advice seriously, I need it! Thank you
My brother: does nothing My parents to him: treating him good, are spoiling him and always say he does everything great Me: trying to be enough, perfect, always the best, and trynna make them feel proud My parents to me: why can’t you do anything ?! You’re worthless
@@EnaInTheInfirmary this is realy toxic. learning skills is great in itself, and not something you need to do to get " toxic praice". You are not created to be their " narcissistic fuel". Belive me in public they probably praise you as a fucking genius to friends and coleges at work. This is how two faced narcissits are. They want to manipulate the " public opinion" of them beeing the " good and perfect parent" and in this picture is also having " perfect children". They make you addicted to praice. But reality is that you dont need it.
Literally me. Whenever I get even 1 B I always get put down, made fun of and belittled. Meanwhile, she gets a C or a B and gets rewarded with the “I’m so proud of you.”
Note to some people, being the youngest child isnt always fun.its only fun when your small and everyone loves you but when you grows up thing isnt the same.
I wish my family was like yours. I'm usually mentally abused everyday by my brother and dad. The only reason I don't end myself is because of my mother and friends. My brother is the Golden child and I'm just the Scapegoat
Im the older, but my younger is a little asshole and gets what he wants when he wants it, hes been to truancy court, his best grade is a c- and hes always mad about everything and is always doing things with tools in the garage. Meamwhile, im an honor roll student who is nice to everyone and dosent ask nearly ever, i get blamed for his misdoings and repramqnded for what he does. And if I punch him (he kicks me in the balls all the time, and gets away with it) i get my shit takin away.
Here’s a long story.. My sister had ran out because she wanted to “come and go as she pleased”. She came to pick up her stuff she had left behind. She was told to leave. She walked back in and asked for her $100. My mom replied “I told you that you had 48 hours.” I wasn’t there, but I heard enough.. My sister cussed my mom out and the next thing I heard was my younger sister crying out in this desperate, terrified voice I knew all to well, screaming for our dad. At that point, I couldn’t help but cry. The next thing I heard was my mom yelling at my older sister “HIT ME AGAIN, B****!” And more cuss words. My dad called the police and came in to comfort me, as I was more sensitive when it came it fights, not to mention physical ones. I hear my older sister screaming in the same voice my little sister used saying “LET ME THE F*** GO!!!!” And we were told to go to our rooms. The only thing I saw was my mom, sitting on top of my sister and holding her in place. I heard the police arrive, i that desperate voice rang out again, “I DIDN’T HIT HER!!” It was terrifying. My sister - younger - had been in there and saw the start. My dad came in and I heard “I’ll get the 7-year-old, the 11-year-old won’t.” I had heard it before. I was always the one to cry and sit there and mutter “make it stop, make it stop..” whenever I heard that screech of a voice. My mom still has marks on her neck from the fight. We shun our grandma because our grandma told my mom “You failed 3 out of 5 kids.” And guess what? That’s exactly what my sister said. I wish I had some friends I could rant this to.. this is as close as I can get..
You are so strong to say something. You may want to consider therapy and I'm sure you've heard this before but, it really does help. Even if you just have someone to talk to makes it better. I don't know what it's like and I can't speak from experience but you are a fighter. Stay strong💕
I agree. My mother and my toxic ass culture. Where you have to respect the parents no matter what. Even if they punch you, even if they step on your neck, and hit you with a belt.
Im going to be honest. I'm the ghost sibling. I legit thought if I tried my best to avoid family members I wouldn't make any problems. That only seemed to make them more mad and started asking me if i had a problem. I was neglected my younger sibling cause I thought it would be the best for both of us but I was just apart of the problem.
Agree. I tried to not have conversations around my younger sibling cus he would always ease dropping on my conversations and never got in trouble for it. Then he started accusing of avoiding him. Ugh! You just can’t win either way. I wish I was an only child wouldn’t be under the pressure to be involved with others. I didn’t ask for this life☹️
@@lessismore8533 technically, as a sibling you aren't obligated to love your sibling because you didn't give birth to them. But some words of advice, if you see them struggling, you should at least confront an adult and get them help
@@rendeukie9212 this is great advice. Problem though? It had little to do with my comment. The younger sibling easedropping on my conversations is now 23 yrs old. A young adult. Still carting habits since childhood because his parents never corrected him. So yah they’re not struggling. They were spoiled and pampered their whole life. Parents fault. I’m the one who’s struggling actually. Bring a sibling sucks. Though I live my cousin. She’s not annoying and entitled. Wish she was my sibling.
im the hungry sibling. we're the most unrecognized type of siblings because everyone thinks our family is so perfect and we don't even fight when the truth is much worse
I was the Enabler :(. My older sister has BPD which makes her prone to very risky behavior. When we were young she would always rely on me when she would hit a wall. She was so fragile in my eyes and I was afraid she'd abandon me if I didn't always support her. This mix of perceptions caused a very unhealthy co-dependent relationship between us. She would do something bad and I would try to save her without judging her actions because I wanted her to feel like she could rely on me without consequences. One time I was teasing her about having a boyfriend and she got angry and punched me in the back of the head (I blacked-out for a few seconds and later found out she gave me a concussion). My parents were furious (now I understand they have a right to be) and my sister was crying and apologizing over and over again to me. In that moment I was disgusted with myself, I knew my sisters limits and I joked to hard and now she was upset and suffering and I had been such a F*ing idiot. My poor fragile sister was crying and it was all my fault. It felt like if I didn't protect her then she would die, and it would all be my fault that I couldn't save her. I was convinced that my whole reason for being born was to protect my older sister (even though my parents told me countless times that none of this was my responsibility). It took me years to understand that I was also a human and not just a puppet that could be used as a shield. Even now I struggle with knowing its ok to be mad at my sister, its ok to not always agree with her, and its ok to have emotions outside of the ones she wants me to have. I don't have to feel guilty for wanting to be my own person, but a part of me still does.
I relate very much except my sister is a narcissist and due to supporting her all those years I’ve developed a minor case of bpd that is getting worse and nobody looks after me so good for you but I understand the guilt part and I’m glad you’re more independent now
It sounds a bit like you've also got bpd or a dependant personality. Nothing wrong with that but also I can totally get why you felt the need to protect her. However you are right. You are your own person. You need your own life. And you definitely should value yourself more as you too need protecting just as much as anyone else. You're not inferior. You're not expendable. You sometimes have to detach yourself and find a healthy way of helping those you care about without enabling them. I had a friend with bpd and I would normally be the person they'd call to diffuse the situation if she was upset and violent. I'm not gentle and will always explain how her actions do effect other people because they care. In fact, explaining how they do have the ability to hurt someone does work. A lot of people with BPD think very little of themselves so do louder actions as if putting on an amplifier because they feel like they won't be heard or understood otherwise. So if they realize that they can deeply hurt someone by their actions, makes them become a bit more sensitive.
Everyone in the comments saying that the younger sibling gets spoiled and gets away with things........ Me being the younger sibling: ignored, yelled at, and forgotten(on multiple occasions) ....yeah totally Edit: I know this doesn't mean everyone. Everyone has there own experiences. Whether you're the younger, older, or middle child. Everyone can be neglected or abused. You ARE important❤. Take care.
キムステファニー I can relate honestly I did get a lot of attention and affection from my mom but got punished for it 10 fold by my jealous cunt sister......furthermore nobody respects me in that fkn house and now I try to be distant towards them(not so much my mom) and as cruel and horrible as it sounds trying to dehumanize my sister in my mind so I can maybe stop caring about her and just move on with life
ugh me too... and it's like my sister who is older than me is the one that's always spoiled. sometimes, when we fight, it's like my parents side with her (though she's the one who started it). then our mom will play the "you have to understand her because she's stressed etc etc". it sucks
Brother: *pulls my hair and hits me PURPOSELY* me: *grabs his arm* don’t do that again mom: don’t do that to him he didn’t do it on purpose Me: yes he did, you just think he is the perfect little kid. He did it on purpose and he did it before, this is why I hate him. You just don’t see through his disgusting little smile, and think he is an angel.
@@psychic-friend-toy-freddy don't you guys have humanity they are your siblings, another child of your parents, I agree that they are a bit annoying but they are humans too right
I have two older brothers, one five years older than me and one three years older. When I was little we.. seriously weren't on good terms. I'd get into arguments with them since I didn't want to back down (I was a stubborn kiddo) and those arguments would often turn physical. I'd scratch or push them and then they'd punch me and throw me to the ground. Since I'm the only girl they'd gang up on me, I never had someone on my side when we got into arguments. My second big brother would act like one of those sidekicks for the bullies in movies, he'd agree with anything my oldest brother said, but he was also the more physically abusive one. I remember times when I got so terrified of my brothers as they chased me around the house, that I'd end up taking my dog and hiding in the bathroom since it was the only door with a lock. There was also a time I remember very clearly when my second big brother whispered to me that he'd slice my throat with a knife once I fell asleep. I told my father about that since he was asking me why I wasn't going to bed, and he got really angry at my brother. That brings me to my parents. They *did* scold my brothers and me for fighting, but they also certainly didn't take these things as seriously as they should've. They would always use the "all siblings fight" excuse, but honestly, I don't think it's healthy for *anyone* to have siblings that physically and verbally abuse each other, saying things such as "You shouldn't have been born", "get your ugly face away", "Go back to hell" and more things that can *destroy* how you think of yourself. I'm incredibly jumpy and people simply raising their voice can send me into an anxiety attack. Even though they've matured a whole lot in the past few years (they've stopped the physical stuff, and I've learned not to get on their nerves) and our relationship is a lot better now, growing up with siblings like that really does leave a mark on you. I think it's a terrible excuse for parents to just say "All siblings fight" and act as though it's alright.
Never have I ever related so hard to a TH-cam comment. I hope your situation continues to better and all is well. thank you for making me feel less alone ❤️❤️
I'm always being put down by my older sister and it made me feel inferior most of the time. She loves to see me in pain but sometimes she's being sweet and kind too. Its hard to care and love her when i despise her so much ever since i was a child :(
Good one, at least I know that I have a healthy relationship with my brother, we can't identify ourselves with any of these, and is the person I personally trust more, however, thanks to this channel, I've realized that the relation I had with my parents was ugly, they made me a pleaser, but knowing that, I overcame my fears, and all thanks to this channel, now I have a healthy relationship with my parents, I love your work!
me: little brother please brush your teeth mom will get mad at you my brother: NO leave me alone! me: please? my brother:*hits me* I SAID LEAVE ME ALONE me:*cries* my mom: sweetie your the big sister why didnt you hit him back? me: because you would get mad at me my mom: no i wouldnt also he is a boy and he doesnt have any right to hit you my brother:*hits me* STOP me: OW THATS IT *hits back* my brother: AGH IM TELLING me: fine its not like im getting in trou--- mom: WHY DID YOU HIT HIM HES YOUR LITTLE BROTHER me: what---
To sucks to have a bully and victim relationship with your sibling, especially if you’re the older one being the victim . I mean the situation with my sister and I isn’t as bad as it used to be she does harm me emotionally and mentally and I can’t talk to anyone about it since they won’t believe me but this made me relax a tad bit Edit: thanks for telling your stories and I wish the best for y’all 💕
I always feel crushed when I’m told that I have to make a good example for my younger siblings. Like my mom things I don’t already know that and that I don’t try.
K A sigh sad, i dont think im able to tell my parents cus just like my sister, they will just ended up saying that i shouldnt have those negative thoughts and bad memories should be erased out of my mind. Nobody even understand what I’ve been through emotionally. I told my mom but she just brush it off and “praise” my sister for a badass she was when she’s young. Guess they only like the extrovert kid
I always felt that way, but I've never had a friend say they didnt believe me. They always seem so much more supportive than I think and always try to help! You should trust your friends to do the same
My half sister and I have a very bad relationship. She is always yelling at me for no reason, abusing me for no reason, and blaming me for no reason. I am always nice to her, but she isn't to me. I tried to talk to my dad and my stepmom, but they say it's just "sisterly love." plus they think I'm just making excuses when I tell them what she does to me. She will talk bad about me to her friends, but around MY friends she'll act like she ls an angel. I can't wait until I move out.
Oh I feel you as I lived the same situation. Hang in there, though, and please make sure you have a support system outside the home in case the abuse gets worse so that you have people you can turn to for help and defense.
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through that. You'll get where you need to be. In the meantime, you can talk to your school counselor about this if things intensify.
I have a brother very similar. He was cool when i was a kid but, in my teens he started being a real jerk off. 30+ years later and he's still a jerk and pitted our father against me the last few years he was alive. That way he got most of the inheritance
my older sister used to abuse me in horrible ways, she would mentally and physically and verbally abusive me in ways i have mostly blocked out but they were terrible. she did it to my mom too, and i never told anyone about the abuse she put me through until i was older and she was taken by CPS, i loved her though, even though she hurt me in unimaginable ways. i still miss the few good times we had:(
Marceline, this is to be expected. When I was younger, I used to argue with my brother a lot, but now he's like my best friend. :) I think as long as you make up in the end, it's okay. This is how you grow together. But if things start getting out of hand or abusive, that's when things can take a toxic turn. Just be on the lookout for that. I wish you and your siblings the best of luck.
I need some advice because I am losing my brother: earlier today, I played Minecraft with him for a while. i decided to take a break. I told him I may play later. If it's necessary, he is 8 and I am 14. an hour later he comes to me and says "When I finish this episode of my show, you are gonna play Minecraft with me." I told him "I don't really want to play right now." He leaves. When the show is over, he comes back in and says "In five minutes, you're gonna play!" I say that I don't feel like it. I told him I plan to play later. He says "At 1:30 then" I tell him no, he says yes and walks away. At 1:30 he begs me to play. I tell him I already played today, I will play later. He then throws a complete tantrum, runs to my dad and claims that I said I would play at 1:30. I tell Dad that is a lie, I did not. My brother says that we did say we would play at 1:30! I said, again, he made that decision, not me. He then screams that I'm mean everyday, that I don't love him. Yes, we bicker a lot but I never go out of my way to be mean. I just tease a tiny bit, and so does he! At this point my dad is glaring at me, telling me that I am mean, that he won't love me soon. My parents told me that soon he won't care about me. I'm trying so hard to be a good sister! I love him so much, I'd take a bullet for him! I don't know why I can't seem to be good. Could you tell me what to do??
Your brother is a little child, and he loves you so much that he wants all your attention. You're not doing anything wrong, just try to share happy moments with him everyday and make sure he knows you love him
my brother : *teases me* my mom : "hes a boy, thats what they do" "its because he's a teen, just cut him some slack." "hes treating you like he would treat his friends." "focus on yourself."
I live with a sister who always screams to get her way, uses excuses to not do work (a year after she had a concussion she's claiming she still has the concussion itself, not lingering symptoms, thus my parents defend her not doing any work), will have a breakdown over nothing (I asked for my water bottle back and she threw a tantrum about how I never used it and then punched me), has never cleaned a day in her life (she literally has moldly cups and ice cream in her room from m o n t h s ago), and gets basically whatever she wants. For the first few years of my life I tried to tolerate her (even though she'd throw phones, remotes, and shoes at us) but she's 16 now and I'm absolutely fed up with this, and my parents enable her. Say she has someone she doesn't like in her class (they don't bully her, she just doesn't like them), she'll complain and my parents will make the administration move her to a different class. Honestly at this point I'm between not caring what happens to her and trying to tell her to get her act together because she's going to be an adult in 2 years and can't act like a 3 year old.
My brother never even knows what im going through i almost did suicide cause of depression got bullied for 3 years i skipped school for 2 months I just wish i was adopted to another sweet loving caring family
Being adopted can get pretty tricky when there is lack of understanding, but stay strong as relationships need time to become healthy. Don't lose hope in your new family. Maybe talk with your new parents about your past experiences. Soon everyone will understand and be empathetic, but you'll need patience and tolerance. Stay strong❤!
I often tell my brother how I feel depressed, I hate myself stuff like that but all he does is make me feel more depressed. He'd often make fun of me poke fun of my situation. We used to be close but now I think I hate him
@@kimmykay733 Sounds like your brother started following the wrong group and has been badly influenced. Remember that he still loves you at heart, even though his actions say otherwise. Trust me, I'm a boy. I know how we work😉. Try talking to your parents about it.There's always someone to talk to. Stay Strong!💖
“Younger Siblings Are just spoiled” Me as the youngest: *physical ab*se, Can’t be understood, Middle sibling ab*se them, being laughed at my feelings, yelled at for no reason, ignored* Yeah definitely spoiled Not everyone deals with this but it happens to me.. YOU ARE LOVED :)❤️❤️❤️ Edit: feel free to talk about anything ❤️
I’m the middle child but my problem is the opposite to yours. My sister abuses me and is 2 years younger than me. I think everyone’s case is different.
My uncle: “WHY DONT YOU CALM DOWN YOUR BROTHER HIS CRYING?!” Me: “He said he wants to be left alone” My uncle: “SO HES STILL YOUR BROTHER?!” Me: *Tries to help my brother* My brother: “I HATE YOU” Me: okay.... *After everybody sleeps* Me: *Cries* I’m Okay....
Angelina Stevanovic not me I’m the weakest so they hurt me the most and every day I would tell my mom “I’m fine and put on a fake smile when I all I wanted to do was cry
Sometimes I just feel like I'm not a good sister! My relationship with my brothers is none of these but I still feel like I don't treat them the way I should. I really love them and care for them but I feel that they don't think that I really do. I'm always irritated and annoyed in front of them even when I don't want to. I'm trying really hard to not keep shouting and screaming on the littlest of things. And I just hope that they don't hate me!
I'm only on the second one but wow,, the Royal Brat and the Wise Owl sounds like my sister and I. I'll edit this and see if any of the rest of these apply to me. Edit: oh wow almost all of these apply to my relationship with my sister, but mostly the second one and fourth one. My sister and mom fight all the time and my sister gets what she wants while I have to work for what I want and I'm usually hiding away in the background. To my mom's friends, I'm known as the forgotten child :/
I haven't watched all the vid yet but it seems as if we are in the same situation here, with a horrific sibling and the favroute child situation. People are shocked at how my sister and dad treat me! My sister gets PAID to litteraly grab a few old b day cards and put them in the bin, we're I sort through the laundry, put in the washing machine, unload it and hang up the washing, load the washing machine again, repeat untill done, taking off the dry laundry, folding it and putting it ALL away, then I dust and clean, then make tea ect. Doing all the chors and cleaning up after everyone while my sister plays games. No wander I have sever depression!! But on the bright side, ask yourself these questions... Whos going to have a nice house when they move out? Who's going to have a lovely personality? Who's going to be successful? Life WILL get better. It has for everyone else, it can for us too.
lex yayeet same but i also can relate to the bully and the victim. im the wise owl and the victim. my younger brother always hits me whenever my parents doesn't give him things that he want
@@maisiemoby3119, I think the same way. I have depression too. But I know I'm gonna have a great life on my own. To be honest, I'm actually planning it out
"Usually it's the younger child that get's picked on" No it's not. A good chunk of the time the younger child is always favored by the adults, so while the older child gets talked down too the younger child goes and lies to the adults to get their way. This is how it works in my household at least.
Nope Evem though my parents favor me they still favor my elders and he always bullies me and gets away while i get the scoldings Im basically I am trying yo get out of royal brat and into scape goat cause i dont get loved or anything
Well it turned out the opposite for my family Im the youngest and my eldest bro was mostly favoured by my parents, he got everything he wanted while my second bro and I were always told to be understanding Till this day they still put up with him My second bro and I just want to get the hell out of the house
Its mostly like"you are older, you need to take responibilities and do chores" and my ten yo sister does nothing when I used to do laundry, dishes and garden and took care of four animals.
My sibling stuff is often changing but almost always a tiny bit toxic, but I think bully and victim is the most common one for me and my siblings, my theory is it started because of my noni(grandma) being the awful person she is and likely influencing the oldest, especially since they also complained to noni often which got mom in trouble(for things she shouldn't have gotten in trouble for ofc), but that's just a theory since I was too young to remember that stuff and I was usually busy playing with dolls and wouldn't pay attention to conversations, but whatever happened led to the oldest disliking our parents despite our parents being pretty good, and that likely lead them to become the main bully of the household, I think it might've started with them trying to distance themselves, but I was a bored and lonely kid so I kept trying to get them to play with me, and the few times they'd actually say yes they either didn't do a game I wanted or they'd completely mess up my game and be mean about it, so I started isolating myself, meanwhile they started bullying the youngest, and the youngest wasn't a people pleaser like me and actually fought back, and at some point the youngest also started antagonizing the oldest and they were basically bullying eachother, and while that was going on my mental health was really taking a toll, and all those emotions I bottled up so I could be the peacekeeper started boiling over and I basically had anger issues, and then both of them started teaming up and when they weren't fighting eachother they were pushing me to my limits until I snapped and started attacking, which I hated doing but they really deserved it, it also caused me to isolate myself even more to the point where I'd barely leave my room until they're asleep, sometimes I didn't even leave to get dinner until I hear them going back into their rooms, I think I also started putting stuff in front of my bedroom door sometimes just to keep them out, Eventually they stopped messing with me tho and just made their fights with eachother worse and worse, eventually they started fighting less tho, they still keep hating eachother, there's just less physical violence and they keep their arguments a bit quieter, now we all basically just ignore eachother, also through most of these things I was always trying to get their love, it kinda led me to a mental hospital due to the oldest's lies and victim complex and my anger issues and trust. Also I forgot to add my parents into this, but they couldn't do much since mom was always sick and dad was overworking himself and was always exhausted when he got home, but they tried to get them to stop fighting when they could, it's part of the reason why I became the peacekeeper and learned how to pin down two people at once, turns out it's pretty easy, and getting pinned down by me kinda shut them up for a couple hours!
You are so lucky... Siblings suck, EVEN IF THEY ACCOMPANY YOU THEY ARE ANNOYING AND I JUST COMPLETELY HATE MY SIBLINGS FOR SEVERAL REASONS! SURELY sometimes you are lonely, but in the end its better, they may be ganging up against you, beating you, insulting or humiliating you etc. i hate my siblings so much...i know it gets lonely but its way better in the end.
My brother sexually abuses me. He would always do it when we are alone and then blames me for it...I can't even talk about it without other people blaming it on me for lying. What should I do?
You need to tell someone elder who is reliable and can understand your emotions. Trust me,you do not deserve this behaviour from your brother and can't live your life in silence. You need to speak for your rights.
@@cherylsj8462 Alright. But I'm worried, my mother never believes me with anything. She always believes him so if I were to tell the authorities about it and come to question him. Mom will just blame it on me saying that she's lying. That's why I'm so scared of telling
There might be someone else in your family who may trust you. If you are a student then you can tell the situation to your teachers. Maybe they can help you.
I have an emotionally abusive sister. she would fall into bully and victim. i’m so tired of people telling me it’s normal sibling stuff. everything she gets mad about she takes out on me. she used to hit me all the time too. i’ve found it’s the reason I have a fear of loud noises and contributed to my fear of confrontation since she just yells and belittles me
Being seven years apart isn't easy, especially when my younger sibling is everything my parents ever wanted. It really hurts when you hear genuinely that your younger sibling is the favorite, even though you've been around longer.
but no one ever cares when it's an older sibling because younger siblings always have to be the underdog victims. There's no room for genuinely troubled older siblings in the stories except as the big bad bullies that their perfect angel younger siblings "will never amount to" in their parents eyes
i honestly thought i was the only one. my parents always say to grow up and just get along but my brother says things i don’t even wanna repeat. even if he’s 11 and i’m 17 he’s still really mean to me and leads me to cry sometimes. he’s seen as this big deal in my family because he plays sports and gets good grades and i’m over here more artistic and not the best in school.
I'm just tired of my mom telling me that I "Sometimes have to let it go" when my brother and I get into a fight but if I just give in to what he's saying/doing he won't learn anything. Like, he's throwing a tantrum over the smallest thing and screaming at me and acusing me of not loving him even though I didn't do anything that would imply that and I'm still only talking at a normal volume. Somehow, I'm the petty one. 😧
I was reminded that as the older one, it was up to me to be the BIGGER person. I could bore you to tears with the many ways it continued over the years. I decided on no contact, but would get guilted into Christmas, or Thanksgiving or whatever, so as not to ruin it for "Mother". End of the day, mother passed on, I didn't even stay for the funeral, self feeding sister sucking up sympathy, and freebies, then arranged for her ashes to go into a cardboard tube (they're cheaper). Point being, if your brother is a self feeder, it likely won't change. Over the years we had a few big dramas, actual apologies for how she's lied and taken advantage over the years, please forgive her and give her another chance. Chances given, which just provided another opportunity to find a way to take advantage of people. My advice, as the years go on, don't go into business together or lend money, he'll be looking for ways to rob you, and probably doesn't play by the normal rules. And avoid social gatherings, he'll be looking for ways to humiliate you. In business and social, having to have your guard up all the time is really stressful, and stress is poison. I am sure you aren't petty, and if I could corner your mother, I would ask her how she can justify teaching one of her children that it's their role in life to quietly accept abuse. I would ask her where is your soft place to land, who has your back, kids need and deserve those? When your actual parent tells you to be quiet and take it, really, what are they teaching? Why should your home be ruled by a little tyrant and why is your mother ok with you being a target of that tyrant? What is she trying to teach you? Or is she just doing what's easier for her? I'm so sorry you're going through this.
My mother is the opposite, one time when my sister had kicked and punched me I pushed her too hard and she started crying then my mom has got mad at both of us and said that we could kill each other for all she cares and it wouldn’t matter... :(
Me: Refuse to do something the sibling wants because he/she can easily do it for himself/herself an should do it himself/herself. Sibling: Wines, makes false claims about me, tries to guilt trip me, tries to black mail me Me: attempt to defend myself Parent: Yells at us for arguing, tells us to shut up, and doesn't try to find the trigger Sibling: Refuses to listen when I try to explain how I feel and tells me to shut up. Me: Continues in order to explain my frustrations and stand up for myself Sibling: Refuses to listen when I try to explain how I feel and tells me to shut up. Parent: Repeats previous actions
My sibling gaslights me and calls me annoying all the time. It really takes a toll on my mental health. I am sad for most of my time, and also have slight anger issues.
Can we talk about the siblings that always gang up, gaslight, and make you feel so belittled, then treat you nicely minutes later like nothing happened?? Would it fall into the bully & victim category...?
Yes ! ! ! !
I don't think it fits into any of these categories but it's still abuse...
Fuck, my little brother does this to me.
I'm sorry to hear that this happens to you. I have an older sibling who would do this to me recently, and it really did a number on me :/
In my case, I don't think it was intended as bullying -- I think she mostly just reacted poorly to her emotions and . . . I don't know . . . couldn't afford to let herself see how much she was affecting me. We got along like two sides of a penny when we were younger; she was always the outgoing, aggressive one, and I was the quiet, supportive one. I thought we had each other's backs, but at some point I started making my own friends and forming my own identity, and she . . . was going through some stuff of her own. Things got pretty rough after that.
Listen, if you're still here after all that, thanks for hearing me out. I don't have many people I can talk to about this, since I'd basically be trash talking her to her own friends/family without giving her a chance to defend herself, but . . . I really needed to get some of this off my chest.
I'm sorry to hear that this happens to you. I have an older sibling who would do this to me recently, and it really did a number on me :/
In my case, I don't think it was intended as bullying -- I think she mostly just reacted poorly to her emotions and . . . I don't know . . . couldn't afford to let herself see how much she was affecting me. We got along like two sides of a penny when we were younger; she was always the outgoing, aggressive one, and I was the quiet, supportive one. I thought we had each other's backs, but at some point I started making my own friends and forming my own identity, and she . . . was going through some stuff of her own. Things got pretty rough after that.
Listen, if you're still here after all that, thanks for hearing me out. I don't have many people I can talk to about this, since I'd basically be trash talking her to her own friends/family without giving her a chance to defend herself, but . . . I really needed to get some of this off my chest.
Sibling relationships are probably the most complicated type of relationship which exists. Yet, they receive little recognition.
I notice that too actually. However, I believe people don't give a lot of attention to it because it's normally based on the parents, since normally they create and encourage the environment to even foster. Therefore, they're the ones who are held accountable (to begin with at least).
the narcissist/addict manipulate the siblings against one another. My alcoholic mother tryied this for years. She even took us to see a therapist where she sat down and said nothing. When the whole conflict started because she made a conflict that in reality was about a narcissist who was not in the family to be about me and my sister. What eventualy happend is that me and my sister started to see therapist separetly on our own. and became aware of our mothers toxic ways and are today close. I have zero contact with my mother. Whats crazy is that my alcoholic/narcissistic mother works in mental health in the school system.
Yeah
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TBHH
Sibling relationships also depend on how the parents raise their children
Edit: "also". I'm NOT saying its ALL BECAUSE of how the parents raise their children, but that is a factor that can affect the sibling relationship.
Ehh
Exactly
Yep. That’s all the reasons to why I am the way I am towards my siblings. And why my siblings act they way they act.
The thing is with these videos is that, if I’m not relating to it, it’s my siblings.
I mostly feel bad for my lil sister. I feel like my brother is gonna turn out the finest. He has the least issues.
Mhm. My parents literally told mr, that they raised my bigger brother like a prince and that's why he's so selfish
Exactly. My mother turned me and my sister against each other and it ruined our relationship.
It's so hard bc you still love them so much, and sometimes they're actually really cool, but they're also really toxic the other half of the time😥
Tell me about it 😖
Story of my life
Me: I’m saying this because I care
Sister: It’s your fault for caring
Me: Ig it is my fault 😐
very true
@@appleblooms259 so relatable
Sister: *Mentally abuses me*
Me: says nothing
Sister: *Acts like nothing happened 2 mins later*
Same here. My sister is 3 years younger, and as we grew up, she has physically and verbally assaulted me numerous times to the point that I don't want to be around her now, even though we're grown. Complaining to Mom & Dad never worked, they just told me, she's going through a stage/phase.
My sister has never, ever, apologized or acknowledged the things she said and did in the past, and acts like everything is just peachy dandy. That's why I have little or no contact with her now.
Relatable
My brother does this 😠😠😠
@@Quirky_Ventriloquist Makes you madder then hell, doesn't it? Sibling hurts/disrespects you in a big way, then they act like YOU'RE the one who's supposed to forgive and forget, and act like it never happened.
same , but my brother. God i hate it. This is still happens btw, i'm 26, he's 28.....
I am blessed to have a good relationship with my siblings
Wanna change?
Ikr xd
You are
Same
Lucky
My brother: **Hits me**
Me: **Hits him back out of self defense**
My brother: I'm telling!
Me: **gets in trouble even though he hit first**
Happens all the time to me
that shit gets ramped up to elven when theres a decent age gap and the younger sibling is a girl and your a male
@@Remember_the_Time Parents: _YoU'rE tHe MoDeL cHiLd!_
@@Remember_the_Time In my household we have the rule "if they hit you, you can hit back twice as harder." Which usually ends up with me in tears...
My litle sister:straches my skin of (literary)
Me:does nothing an closes door
My sister:cries and screams
Me:dead
Another unhealthy sibling relationship is when the parents only care about their child with a disability and disregard their other children.
That's really sad
I don't have any disability i have leukemia but my older brother still wins and my parent abandon me tho kbye thanks mom and dad for not listening and making me a schziprenic .. and thanks tita gloria for everything !!
@@angeliquemaulit I’m in remission from aml and wish u the best!
Exactly I have a disability and I feel my sister resents me😨
my sister has all sort of mental and physical health problems so I always get pushed to the side and they don't relize I could be hurting too :/
parents abusing their children is often talked about and is well known. But abuse from you siblings, i feel is often not talked about. And barely even recognized as a thing that happens. My own sister ignores the way she abused me when i was little. She can no longer abuse me the way she did, but does it in difficult ways now, with less intensity. My family refuses to recognize what happened and just wants me to get over it. I suffer from anxiety, ocd, and depression now because of my childhood, and no one in my family wants to see it.
awee i hope you’re doing well, i know it’s very difficult to let go of the past especially when everyone else pretends like it’s nothing, i wish you luck
I feel so much less alone now. I swear my sister is completely clueless with the way she treats me. And my depression and anxiety has been getting to me and I feel so done with living. My ocd thoughts have been getting stronger and I feel so out of control in this situation. I’m at a point where I don’t care anymore
I wish they addressed the Cinderella treatment.
I'm sorry you live(d) with that dynamic. Keep working on staying aware of your feelings and experiences around your sibling. Keep up the practice of advocating for yourself and establishing your boundary. In my experience with my sibling the toxic relationship does erupt and I do have to restablish boundary. I am in my fifties and tragically I still deal with this. My best to you 🌻 seek counseling
I do suffer because of the bitch called my sister, she is a manipulative girl who could go in a killing spree and it'll be my fault
Damn just realized I'm kind of a bully and a ghost. I saw it coming but it still felt like a slap in the face. I needed it tho. I'ma try to be a better sibling now. I don't want my siblings and I to be disconnected from each other when were older. I don't want them to remember me as this horrible person.
Queen Slytherin too late
It's brave to accept and try to be better. I hope you can accomplish 🤗
@@thinkingofaname6233 Well I'll at least try to create new, better, memories. I'ma try to change while we are still young.
Queen Slytherin too late my friend. The damage has already been done
Thinking of A Name
If they’re young tho, she/he can still redeem themselves
Psych2Go: "If you're in a situation where you cannot leave your dysfunctional household just yet,..."
Me: "DUDE. WE CAN'T EVEN LEAVE OUR *REGULAR* HOUSEHOLD"
lol
@little astronomy how we cope? CORONA MEMES 24/7
Faeara Sahelangi this was made a year ago-
@@AEZAKM1 yeah... This thing didn't even exist during the making of the video...
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I was bullied physically and verbally for years, more than 16 years by my elder siblings. The impact of those years are generalized anxiety, fearing to voice out my opinion, trust issues, self bullying, I don't trust my decisions, I don't have any friends. Dear content creator can you please make a video on how to overcome childhood bullying 🙏
Learn to respect ur ego
Ignorence is golden
Cry in private, tears relaxes us
Practice spirituality, it helps
Have faith in the ultimate divine
My brother: *says something toxic like "this is why you have no friends"*
My mom: "He's just trying to protect you"
Omg, I just recently lost all of my friends and my sister often tells me "No wonder you're friends left you"
My brother and I fight sometimes (and I may call him an idiot sometimes even though I don't mean it) we love each other and support each other. I haven't lost all my friends yet but I am hoping he won't react meanly.
@@charnightt same
@@doggone1808 😭😭
Omg samee
My sister became the bully, I became the ghost, and my brother is normal af.
It's like he took all of our good qualities and absorbed it into himself. Damn youngest siblings...
Nuh I'm youngest
im the 2nd youngest and it feels like your older siblings dont care for you and act like your 2 but abusive while your parents dont care so uhhhh possibly kinda wrong??
To be honest some older siblings can be manipulative and annoying it all depends on their relationships so you can be a little wrong
Lenny The Hopeless
Then he’s not normal
Same me and my sister used to be soo close and I don’t know what happened after she came back from college
"Me hatting my brother because he mentally and physicaly abuse me"
People : your gonna love him when you guys getting older !
My parents : he's JUST playing with you !
Me : -_-
Mhmmm same... If you don't have a little brother also, imagine that happening everyday but ×2.
Ha that's so not true
It's easier to dismiss the problem than fix it. And people are naturally lazy, so 'easy' is the only way they take
MEE TOO it literally makes my life miserable
Bro I feel you
0:58 Golden Child & Scapegoat
2:10 Royal Brat & Wise Owl
3:11 Bully & Victim
3:50 Addict & Enabler
4:31 Ghost & Hungry Child
So the hungry and the ghost child's are, basically, Ana and Elsa?
True
Y e p
Not really, Elsa was forced into isolation by her parents, and when you say she could just leave her room, she was still conditioned to stay in her room. The ghost decides to be a ghost, I can’t explain why because there can be many different reasons. I’m a hungry child and my older sister is kinda a ghost, the most time we spend together is through video games.
DragonLurker Not completely. She did most of it while her parents tried to control her powers.
That is exactly what I was thinking of XD
My younger siblings beat me up but when I try to fight back everything is my fault acording to my mom.
Chloe Underwood samee
Everything is my fault accdng to my dad 💯💔
Call the police. I know it may seem scary but don’t worry. You will get help
Lebron James
Agreed, that’s basically abuse and shouldn’t be ignored
Releate
I think I used to be the bully. I was mentally and physically abused as a child and bullying my little sister gave me a feeling of power and control, that I desperately needed. My sister and I are very close now, but I'll never stop feeling guilty about the things I've done to her...
i am in the exact same situation as you. i still feel bad to this day too.
I think it’s great that you can realise that and feel guilty, it shows that you’re not truly who you were and have moved on from that mindset. Please feel good that you have stopped bullying, and CAN feel guilty instead of not realising your actions instead of carrying on ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Same! Me and my little brother used to have a lot of psycial fights when I were little. I'd pick fights with him out of anger after my parents beat me.. When I got into my teenage years I realized that he was a victim aswell and became a bit over protective of him instead. We now have a good relationship and I feel horrible when thinking about the past
Just curious, how the hell did you manage to stop? Does it come with the maturity of age? Idk, you'd think I'd know better, yet I can't seem to control my anger around my sibling. But I always feel absolutely horrible after everything's said and done. I normally apologize to him afterward unless he like REALLY hurts my feelings. Idk, we're both just very similar people that know how to press each other's buttons... (Cause he's done the same shit to me, and maybe that's a different case altogether.) My situation is combined with the royal brat and wise owl. him generally being the royal brat, (I mean I'm not perfect either, I can be a terrible bitch sometimes but I can at least take no for an answer...) But the point was I want to learn how to stop, and I try (But every time I do my brother comes in and pokes me in just the wrong places, or maybe that's an excuse idk I'm rambling....) I wanna be a better person and grow, i guess... sorry for rambling
@@krystaltardif269 tbh it takes a lot of maturity to realize why you do things and how to stop. But that only happens when your ready to confront the flaws and negative characteristics of your personality, same for your sibling. Until you're both ready to confront that truth that is when change can finally happen.
i grew up with a bully brother, still kinda do. i’m so happy this video acknowledges that it’s not just “siblings fight”. a sibling can ABUSE their sibling.
My sister: *kicks me in the stomach and then tells me to jump off a bridge*
Me: She literally just kicked me in the stomach and told me to commit suicide.
My dad: you aren't any better
*later*
My sister: **bites herself** ow why did you do that?!?!
Long story short, the sooner I get out of here, the better.
Your sister clearly needs therapy, tell your parents that, show them this video, perhaps you need family therapy, and emergency solution is still calling child protection services (even as an older child (teen)) they don't drag people right away like they do in the movies, they might just demand therapy for your family,... but honestly, what you said, that's just horrible and no one can suffer a sibling like that/the ignorance of a parent like that.
Contact help. Your life might be endangered by your sister. That sounded like death threat implication if she told you to kill yourself. You need to call for help right now!
My bully in a nutshell...
@@Valeartsy123 That's awful, I don't really know how to help, perhaps you take away some things from my experience? As someone who had been bullied in school as well, at a certain age say 13 or so it seems only grown ups or switching the school might help, in my case I didn't and regretted that because it went on for years. Around 17 that changed though, the people around me became more self aware of their actions (one of them confessed how guilty he felt about all the things he did to me in retrospective, but was so anxious and ashamed that I only know because he told it to my sister when he was drunk). There was however an attempt of a student of another class who started always making fun of me for being late (well I had problems at home, duh) and I noticed that this was growing into bullying again and this just pissed me of so much that one time when she said something stupid again and all her friends laughing, I gathered all the anger I had stored away for years and the dread that if it doesn't stop now I'll have to go throigh that all over again and yelled at her: "Is your ego so small that you need to make fun of me everytime?!? >>Oh look [my real name] is late again, haha!
@@icecreaminwinter6034 aww ok 🙂🇮🇹🇷🇺 i was bullied from the day i was Born to now QwQ
But changing school helped a lot
@@Valeartsy123 I'm so sorry to hear that, but if it improved after changing the school at least you know that differences can be made even if they are small... Keep trying is all I can say, hit back, you know what hit them if they are just verbally abusing you, I never tried that, because I was afraid of getting into "trouble" with the headmaster, but it in retrospective it would have drawn more attention to the situation, maybe it would have made it too much of a bother for the bullies to continue if it meant talking to the headmaster afterwards, perhaps it would have helped gaining respect, but in the least it would have meant especially (if this occured more than once) that the grown ups would have had to take a serious closer look on the situation, so it would be of no use for the bullies in the long term trying to present the situation as if they were the victims... And you should write down everything they do to you and take pictures (best with dates somehow like a newspaper in the picture itself, dates of crimes are important), evidence is a good way to reveal liars. Will also hold against the police if you decide to call them. I heard that a boy at a school did that once call the police while he was under attack of his bullies... maybe look to things like that.
Stay strong ♡
Everyone’s always saying the youngest is spoiled.
I’m the youngest, and I’m always
forgotten,
left out,
yelled at,
and I’m basically a slave to my older siblings,
*Just. Because. I’m. The. Youngest.*
And the elders always think “You have to respect your elders” But do they respect their youngers? No. That’s when everyone starts thinking about why I’m antisocial or always wearing headphones.
*Guys, what I’m saying is, not all families are the same, and you shouldn’t stereotype others. Cause trust me, when your younger siblings grow up, they’re gonna be a whole new mature person.*
I have the same situation AND my dad can’t even help cuz he doesn’t know
You know, I don't know what my younger brother thinks of me. I mean we don't get along all the time. We always fight whenever one of us makes each other mad. Is it because I'm jealous of him so that's why we don't get along or his attitude is really unacceptable for my standards? I'm not a perfect brother or person and I'm really trying my best understand why my younger brother treats me disrespectfully. I'm harsh to him sometimes but the only reason I'm harsh to him is to teach him a lesson. I don't hit my brother anymore but I can't help but to say mean words to him and I know that's not right. But my brothers attitude and personality is very unacceptable and toxic. he's very spoiled and he yells back whenever I'm trying to say that what he's does is wrong. My parents try to understand him but even my parents never gets respect. He always think he's always right and he only thinks about thinks that will make him happy. I don't understand why my brother is like that. I mean we didn't grow up in an abusive family so is he like that? is it because he adapts to his toxic environment in school? makes sense. but that's not an excuse to be bad and disrespectful to your elders. I mean sure he wants my respect but he needs to learn to respect me too.
This is not intended to all younger siblings out there okay. And I don't want to make an issue here. I just want to say my opinion and I know that not all younger siblings is bad and toxic. So don't take my comment as a message to all siblings because it's not. I wish someday that my brother and I can get along and I don't resent him at all. I just wish him to be more nicer to everyone around him and learn to know when he's wrong.
True. I'm the oldest anyway, but I'm always.... Being left out.... It's like I'm invisible
Also, my younger siblings didn't respect me and always bullying me (I'm weak physically since childhood so...)
@BALQIS ZAFIRAH BINTI NASRULHAKIM Moe oh! Someone who share the same pain as me! *high five*
This ngl is making me cry because it’s true :(
I can’t get along with my family and am always asked to do stuff for them since I’m the youngest...
I had to mature faster because of my family dynamic and they expect me to be happy and cheerful because of stereotypes
I’m the scapegoat, my little brother (about 9 yrs.) is the bully, and my other little brother (about 7 yrs.) is the royal brat. Yes, you heard me right. The younger sibling is a bully towards the older sibling in my family.
sucks to be the oldest sometimes, can definitely relate to the being bullied by a younger sibling. In my case for a majority of the time my younger sibling would easily get a away with causing physical harm to me-even slamming a door right on my head once-and if I tried to push her or defend myself I would get reprimanded because "She is little your bigger." Hated that growing up, in addition to pretty much having to be a live in baby sitter to a kid that never behaved and then getting blamed if she ruins something in the house.
Welp, can't say it's all bad since my younger sibling grew up to be a criminal and I didn't so...
In my family in younger but still the scapegoat. My brother is the golden child
In my family (three brothers and me) they just bully the youngest(me)
Whoa really?
Since my younger brother left the family of his own dessision because he did bad stuff, my younger sister has been saying its all my fault and says that (im the mistake) of the family and yells at me at least 2-3 times a day. Found out about two weeks ago, my biological mum actually never wanted girls as her children. I always wondered why she always breaks promises for my whole life for what i know of. My Dad has been crying everyday since my brother left. Its been about 7-8 months now. Dad is getting me a councillor because i abuse myself and refuse to see anyone or go out and EVERYTHING thats been going on. Dad loves me very much and my step mum too. Shes been a better mum than my biological mum for sure. Im also getting bullied at my high school constantly about everything that is wrong with me and my family. Its hard when no one at my school knows that i have autism. I'm quite quiet and dont get along with others. Im now in a new school.
I think i need to stop because this is the most ive ever said anything in a very long time and i really needed to let this out of my system.
Im hoping if anyone that reads this wont feel bad for me so much or bad for themselves either. I just dont really ask for anything. I hope everyone is happy and feel good for themselves. Have a good day please and stay positive. Bye.
My little sister has autism and is going through some tough things too. I hope it gets better with your family fellow Charlotte!
@@charlottecochran2337 i hope things get well for your family too
@@charlottecochran2337 thankyou
I only hope for you to get better. Nobody deserves to be treated badly. Everything will get better someday in future ☺️
@@nuralia5234 thankyou for your support
The golden child and scapegoat is basically every gacha life hated child thing
That's way too accurate
As a gacha life player- i agree-
I wanted to comment that too XD
It's really accurate
finally someone said it-
That moment when i realized i was the golden child.......
but i've moved away to south korea, away from my abusive parents and on the road to healing, for anyone who's curious
Glad you’re getting better ^^
I'm korean--
I hope you are feeling better soon. I am an only child and seeing all of these kind of comments makes me really sad. I know I'm just talking through the internet, but if you want to talk to me about your problems, I'd be more than happy to help.
@Hana Rose not all scapegoat situations are the same. My brother's moved out and i gave him some money to help with his new apartment. We keep in touch because we're the only siblings we both have and we've decided not to live in the past. Thanks for your comment
Carmen L if you haven’t told him to his face that you acknowledge he was the scapegoat and abused more severely it can still be kind of painful to him. My brother is hesitant to validate the fact that I was the scapegoat because my mom is so nice to him. Simply acknowledging someone else’s pain can go a long way.
Did you have a scapegoat sib?
Which toxic relationship do you relate to?
None at least...
Not the golden child for sure my parents made it very clear that they think of us equal and equal love
Bully and Victim, the worst thing is I'm da older child and if I ever stood up for myself or tell my mom or other ppl dey think it's just "normal sibling bonding" T_T and great vid btw!
Me and my brothers are a mix of these 😕
@@elizamarasigan1051 same with me and my sister..
I really appreciate this channel because I just realised that I have been bullying my sisters because of my frustration with my dad.Thank you for helping me realise that
I was gonna say as a younger sibling the pain that we feel and our parents say ItS FoR aTtIoN really hurts us but you got over it your a good person
I'm really glad for you! Sometimes we don't even realize we do some of these things, and all it takes is recognition of the bad behavior. And then wanting to change it. Some people NEVER even recognize their bad behavior. So this is a good step in my eyes 👍
1. Golden child / Scapegoat
Me: THe Hated ChilD TuRns Into A PRinCess GoddEss HyBrid
And royal brat and wise owl.
Ah yes even though we saw the “fake mom” give birth to her
tHe hAtEd chiLd
gaChA lIFE
oVerUsEd seRiEs
5 types of unhealthy siblings relationships :
1. The Golden Child & Scapegoat 0:59
2. Royal Brat & Wise Owl 2:10
3. Bully & Victim 3:12
4. Addict & Enabler 3:51
5. Ghost & Hungry Child 4:31
Thank you
@@David.d.d.d sure you're welcome!
My sister: Insults me and always takes my money
Me: I'm sick of this
My sister: you have no empathy!
Samantha Elliott
I call hypocrisy
SHE HAS NO FUCKING HEART! SHE TOOK YOUR MONEY AND INSULTED YOU! YOU WERE JUST DEFENDING YOURSELF
If I was you I would beat the heck out of your sister because that just makes me mad
That's my sister ALL THE TIME!
fuck people like her
Me and my brother dont even talk and we hate each other it kinda hurts me how other older brothers look out for their younger but my brothers couldn't care less.
😭mxmsksow same problem I am trying to get along but I'm introverted and it is going to be awkward because I don't even knoe
@Tai Xu but i know some people who care
@Tai Xu we don't fight or anything my brother and i have big age gap so its awkward and we are not that close
@Nina Sinjeri fun fact: we also have 7 year age gap and I see other old brother taking siblings somewhere,enjoying but for me its awkward and if I say back to him he will say you are younger keep calm or something like that I'll blame it on the age gap :((
@Nina Sinjeri I thought I was the only one! 😭
Oldest child: younger siblings always get spoiled
Youngest child: parents always choose older siblings side even when "they started it"
Middle child:
Edit: look people if you cannot anyway relate to this, then please do not bother replying that you can't.
relateable uwu
I was the middle child of 3 kids
Oof relatable
Yeah...
Oofffff
*blasts this in the living room
me:YOU HEAR DAT SISTER?
🤣👏
Heilon Iris tell your sister I said: YEAH!! YOU HEAR YOUR BROTHER??
if u have a dog tell him/her I said good boy/girl
lmaooo same
HUNEEEHH SAAAAAAME IM DOING THAT RN
Heilon Iris sane bro
3.
That’s me…………
My older sister is the bully…
I’m the victim………
But nobody believes me because she acts so sweet and kind in public…
I know what you mean. Stay strong.
Depressed Pie
Is that y ur depressed? :c
I’m sowee
I’m an older sister and me and my sis argue a lot but I don’t bully her.
Does she bully you, though?
Aztec Metalhead if punching and kicking and teasing and making lies about me to her friends for no apparent reason then yes she does.
Well goddamn. Have you tried telling her how all that makes you feel? I don't think it might work, but you probably should try anything you can to stop your sister.
"the hungry child searches for love elsewhere"
wow, that just hit close to home... me and my older brother used to be close but now it's like I can't tell if he still cares for our family. There were times when he would totally ignore me or lash out suppressed emotion. I notice how I tend to spend more time with my friends than with my family. I have a younger brother tho and despite our 6 yr age gap, we get along a lot better than all of us siblings combined.
I'm a ghost child with no hungry one
...sad day
Savage lol I’m a hungry child that has to many ghosts but will take another
I am too
I’m a ghost child but I think there’s different kinds cause some have one or two family members they are close to and some aren’t close to anyone
Hey if you need me i'll be here for you.
I feel terrible, I’m a host child in this case and my sibling keeps wanting to be around me and hug and everything but I just feel uncomfortable and now I feel like crap
I think my brothers and i have a whole new level of dysfunctional relationship, lol
jororc56 if you are saying that because they fight and bicker and hit each other that is a normal relationship.
@@hailthegummybears5638 no it is not. do NOT say that. you dont know the details
I get you my 7 yo brother told me to kill myself and he broke my arm I’m 11 😭
Hailthegummybears HITTING YOUR SIBLINGS IS NOT NORMAL YOU DUMBFUCK
Same here lol. We both get in trouble though sometimes it's not our fault. U would think we would get along, but it makes it worse and sometimes I want nothing to do with my brother :/
the "royal brat" and the "wise owl" reminds me of Dudley Dursley and Harry Potter. is that why Harry has a pet owl?
Danielle Pointer OML so true
While on R/entitled parents the Dursley’s are the entiltedmparents
Danielle Pointer o.0
Xd it is them tho xd
This is literally what I was thinking!!!
Yep
This is a major topic no one is ready to talk about fr... I'm so thankful for this video. I was emotionally and verbally abused as a child for basically 18 years and this has affect many areas of my life. Out here dealing with anxiety, ocd, fear of rejection, low self esteem, I sometimes feel like I'm never enough for everything so I tend to just stay away. Yet family comes at me and make me feel bad for staying away which helps me stay calm. I'm constantly fighting myself, worst part is, no one wants to hear my side of the story they all think something is wrong with me despite the fact that I question myself a lot and I'm willing to change... it's a lot. Glad to know I'm not alone in this
i’ve always been worried that i’m a bad big sister to my little sister. when i was younger i wasn’t a great sister and now i’m starting to worry about how i’ll affect her in the long run and how i’ll be remembered by her. i love her to death but sometimes my depression makes it hard for me to properly show it. i hope she knows just how much i love her, she’s so adorable and has a heart of gold.
sophia arthur
Me too, m not good to myself and i cant be good to anyone else anymore, i cant make wonder and i cant be the parent for my siblings and that makes me sad, my parents are abusive and now all of us are suffering, but what my younger siblings dont know that i am as well not doing well, and all the things i did to them i did its because i found it the best at the time, now we are lacking love and empathy among us..
more grudges build up everyday, .. what can help us if we all saw how each is victimized and suffered and be kind and forgiving
Hope your sister could understand your situation and get along with you
Me to
I can relate to your concern. I wasn't a good big sister either, I would even intentionally try to make my sister cry, which wasn't a good thing because she was born ill and her immune system was never the best. But I didn't really understand that at the time nor did I even care. Now we're both in our 20s and we get along well with each other, and I tend to wonder if how she behaves sometimes is because of me. I can also relate in terms of depression getting in the way of showing how much I care for my sister, or anyone else really. It's hard, but even little signs like giving a hug or even sending a nice text is enough to show that you love and care for your sibling. If you're able to have a healthy relationship with your sister, then you can definitely give yourself a pat on the back because there are people who go their entire lives just having nothing to do with their siblings and it's very sad. And I say that and yet my sister and I have nothing to do with our brother anymore, but that's a different story to maybe or maybe not be told.
You know you could just try and hanging out with her instead of hoping
@@mantisqueen964you are a terrible person. The trauma you have caused your younger sibling for your sadistic nature is so sad. Count your blessings if she is still talking to you. 🙂
Soooo, just figured out my brother’s the bully, and I’m the victim...
Ever since we were young my brother would push me off swings and push me into walls. Now he just charges me with various objects and once threw me into a flower pot, causing the pot to break and me to have two small bruises to match my other bruises...
Don’t you love toxic people :)
I’m so sorry you went through that. You don’t deserve that at all. Use the pain and anger you feel to make you stronger. That’s what I did and it worked.
Why does that give me flashbacks to the last few years?
Yeah, I have a Bully/Victim relationship. I'm the victim.
Jesus loves toxic people
I'm the older sibling and the bully, so I might be able to understand why your brother did that stuff to you. He either did it all out of pure anger about something entirely different and took it out on you, or he was frustrated and accidently was too rough with you.
Sister: is sad
Me: tries to comfort them
Sister: "What are you doing eww get away from me!"
Snööky 60 that’s something like my sister. One time she was sad and I came up to her and said what’s wrong and she just walked away like she didn’t want to be near me
@Joey 'Expect'?
That's strange. What sane person _wouldn't_ want to be comforted when they're sad??? It's an enate instinct.
@Joey Ok. Strange. What was it autocorrected _from,_ though?
Sun Jara I don’t want to be comforted because my little sister says I don’t deserve to be loved
I think the bully one is so hard to even recognize. It's always "oh, siblings fight all the time. It's normal."
Well it shouldn't be normal.
It's also very hard for the abused sibling(s) to get the help they need. The response I got was "It's just a phase. We have to be patient and loving to her. She'll grow out of it eventually, you'll see." Fast forward 10 years later and here we still are. I think most people realize that bullying is a problem., but when they think of bullying, they picture the stereotypical school bully. It's such a different ballpark when it's your own sibling who knows everything about you and uses that to maliciously torment you and your family. We have to tiptoe around her like she's a bomb waiting to go off. When my older siblings visit from college, I think they've forgotten (to an extent) what living with her is like because they mention it more and act like they are noticing it more. It's a contrast from what their lives are now.
But me and my other siblings still have to deal with her in some way or another on daily basis. Whether it's the screaming match that inevitably explodes every 5 months or so from repressed resentment and other issues, or dealing with the silent treatment/alienation, or actively being picked on and criticized, my home is exhausting to be in most of the time. Over the years I've gone from being outspoken and furiously defending my self to now in my late teens being very depressed and withdrawn into myself. I just silently deal with it now. My parents are no help at all. They don't do much to correct or stop her behavior because she doesn't listen and we've all learned the hard way not to get on my sisters bad side. They definitely treat her differently. By that I mean more leniently. Unfortunately, there are countless ways to tick her off: disagreeing with her in any way, breaking one of her many unspoken (and often impossible to completely avoid) rules, and basically just displeasing her in any way.
Nothing we do is ever good enough for her. We're always wrong and can't do anything right. If we try to give her some space she throws a fit because "we're excluding" her. But when we try to include her (not that we want to, she's utterly miserable to be around) she goes on a rant about how we never leave her alone and she just wants some space.
She is a manipulative, narcissistic bully. She manipulates and abuses me emotionally and verbally. II can't wait for the day I can finally move out and hopefully start enjoying life because right now, I don't.
I don't have any close relationships and worry that I never will. I have severe imposter syndrome and am constantly paranoid that no one truly cares about me specifically our friends (we are similar in age and have the same friend group). She tells me they only pretend to be my friend "just to be nice" and wish they didn't have to because I'm loud, awkward, and very annoying (this is one of my biggest insecurities). I don't want to believe it but they do inexplicably favor her over me.
I don't really know how to deal with her anymore and I'm tired of doing so. I'm tired of doubting myself and being dismissed and invalidated by my parents. I can check all the boxes for depression and emotional trauma. There have been times were I was just so done. I wanted for it all to just end but I somehow managed to hang on.
I want to do something with my life instead of the meaningless life I currently lead. I'd like to go to school and be a veterinarian or maybe a teacher (I love animals and I've always been really good with kids) so I can do something really meaningful with my life. I don't want to be a victim anymore. I want to get out into the world and make a difference.
Wow, I just realized I'm bullying my little sister. That's harsh, but I'll try to be a better sibling from now on.
Edit: Omg thank you all so much for the support! You're all great! ♡♡♡
Good on you seeing it and wanting to do better!!! Best of luck
Good luck!
Can be hard at the beginning but you be better
Y'all activists down in the comments are crazy.
In asia pretty much everyone gets beaten by their parents, and we still appreciate them for actually raising us.
I "abuse" my brother all the time by your loose definition of "abuse." all siblings fight, its such a normal thing.
I have friends they say they beat up their brothers and their siblings get into fights with them every day. kinda funny at this point.
Meanwhile here me and my autistic 7 yr old bro just ignore each other most time. But when he screws up I scold him and he just replies with something like "ur stupid" every time lmao. I feel like some comments are over exaggerated, just putting this out there.
ちゃんモナカ character 👏🏻 development 👏🏻
He does. Even if he doesn't know english, he knows exactly what you're doing. people with autism aren't stupid. I'd say you're the stupid one. @@randomcat7246
I have a good relationship with my older sister, she is very nice with me
*jealousy intensifies*
Wow mine hits me and makes fun of me all the time that's most likely why I have low self-esteem issues
Satan Is Here! Same
Cinder the fox me too
Are you sure she feels the same?
My brother: **Mentally and physically abuses me**
My parents: Oh, he’s just playing!
Edit: I’m glad this comment could reach out to so many people! It makes me happy :)
Story of my life
All three comments need to get help. Call the police if you have to. Physical abuse isn't okay. If nothing else, fight back. Don't be their doormat!! If you show them you won't be pushed around, they'll hopefully leave you alone. Edit: I don't normally advocate violence, but sometimes words don't work, especially with siblings. They're supposed to love you unconditionally and should feel ashamed for treating you like that! These situations sound a lot worse than holding you down and spitting on you, that's why I was concerned.
Fucking preach
Literally how it use to be with me and my cousin-
Same tho
Me: ghost
Sister: hungry child
Brother: *ultimate fusion*
Oh I’m the youngest out of three let me tell you my family favors the older ones for three Christmas in a row I’ve gotten something from the dollar store while my brother gets a drone and the other gets a iPhone 11
@@i_like_black_men_twerking_282 My family makes me and me other sister do favors for them and if we don't do them, they act like we are being ungreatful, a spoiled brat, they do things for us just so that they can bring it up when we say no, and they get mad at us.
Me:The younger and the dumber
My brother:The older and the Smarter
My mind:This is f*cked up.
Brother: Mentally abuses me
Me: doesn't talk to him
Brother : Why do you hate me so much?
OMG this is the most likes ive ever gotten in my life :'D thank you everyone for agreeing with me
Ikr
EXACTLY!!!
So true thou
So true
Relatable..
Brother: *holds a knife up me and threatens to kill me*
Me: *starts running towards my mom*
Mom: "he’s just playing around get over it"
Yea sure mom he’s just playing with a knife and tell me that he’s gonna kill me :)
Little by little me, my mom, and my brother have started to get along but it’s not that bad like it used to be before.😊
Your mother is source of his actions to you. She has a duty to, for one, not neglect her children, which is evident in that senario - she neglects both of you, him with corrective guidance because that is not acceptable impromptu play, and you by not protecting you. That is also abandonment, when you are left to fend for yourself against literal threats or even things that just feel like it.
My brother tried to suffocate me .when i went to my mother .she just said that must be mine mistake only so shut up 😞
This happened to me when I was younger. Now instead of physical abuse my sister hurts me with words and is quite often super mean and has no empathy. And then afterwards for a while acts like everythings fine and nothing just happened. Mom doesn’t care. I wanna get out of this family. But i still love all of them and it makes me kinda mad
I can relate to this...
Omg!! I always thought I was the only one whose brother use to thretend with a Knife, a cooking blade in my case to be specific.
The thing with my brother is that he use to hit me and do that when my parents weren't at home, my father has always been a traveler for his job and my mom use to work during morning and afternoon. We have a babbysitter and she use to take hits for me. She is amazing, now a day she doesn't babysit us, but my father still pays her to help clean the house. I think its admirable that she never quit the job whe we were kids
My older sister: Bothers me with everything I do, it's a pain in the ass
Her: Why don't you talk to me?
Same,but its the younger one for me😂
OMG YESSS
Yeah he does evrything then I say I hate him or he makes evrything difficult them he says stuff like if I died right now you wouldn’t cry them. I think no stereotypes can be applied for sibling rivalry just two positions which can happen not based on age or birth order.
Little did I know 2 days later I was going to be diagnosed with depression and anxiety
@@celebrityshowdown5126 oof bro, get well soon dude.
Usually “the bully” is struggling with something hard. Ofc this is most the time not all the time
It's true. Usually the bully is being bullied
My big brother bully went through that
u know what really bothers me is that my sisters life is completely fine and she still mentally abuses me so much to the point where I want to kill myself and be found dead
I think Im the bully
(Oldest child - bully according to younger siblings) I’m the “bully” but I grew up a normal life until my sister came in, I hated her the moment I saw her, I blocked the doctors from seing her because i HATED her, I tried my best to leave her alone on the street, make her trip, or hurt her on purpose. Because she is the golden child, my parents are narcissistic so this is nothing new to older siblings
My sister abused me for a solid six years, that’s why now when she wants to apologize, I ignore her. Cuz now I have trust issues..
The same with my younger sister, she physically, emotionally and verbally abused me, she is violent which I am afraid, she mistreated calls me names, I turn to a angry, bitter, insane, cold and aggressive person, I suffers from depression sometimes Anxiety, Bipolar and PTSD.
That is a lot of stuff hopefully the stuff you can recover from you recover from
Yo yo yo don't let anyone treats you like that💙
Oh please accept her apologies, you both will feel very awesome then
@@currentwork4353 actually let them feel how they feel until they're ready. Or it will continue to come back up.
Whoever has a good relationship with siblings are SO LUCKY. my brother doesn’t talk to me unless he’s grounded from his Xbox. I wish he could just maybe talk or play with me without me making me get up and come outside.
Also, could you make a video about annoying people following you everywhere? In school a girl has not left me alone for four years. I’ve had it. She tries to do everything, buy me lunch and talk about things she thinks I like but no. She had done terrible things to me and my friends and when she played with us she took it too far, one time she pushed me on a brick wall and grabbed my collar and pulled it down, it was embarrassing 😿 I hate her and she keeps messing my life up
Ditch her or go to a counselor about her
Wallie Talksalot
I’m _trying_ to get away and I told her that I didn’t wanna be friends anymore but your right. I’ll try to tell a counselor about this, thank you.
I hate my sisters, really, my older sister Always beats me, is loud and very mean...
My younger sister Always screams around, represents her life as the worst (older one too) and she is sooo annoying i Just completely hate them actually, but then Others Say "ugh, its just sibling love! In reality you love eachother!" We dont, i dont.
Bahira Al-Haddad
Very sorry to hear that. I would recommend playing outside more than usual. This way they can’t follow you.
Patrick O'Shea ( Student )
Welp... she doesn’t have any friends xd so I kinda have given up by now but ill definitely take your advice seriously, I need it! Thank you
My brother: does nothing
My parents to him: treating him good, are spoiling him and always say he does everything great
Me: trying to be enough, perfect, always the best, and trynna make them feel proud
My parents to me: why can’t you do anything ?! You’re worthless
I do that and when i get a extra b and my brother gets one A more then me
Im called a disappointment...
I relate to this
@@EnaInTheInfirmary this is realy toxic. learning skills is great in itself, and not something you need to do to get " toxic praice". You are not created to be their " narcissistic fuel". Belive me in public they probably praise you as a fucking genius to friends and coleges at work. This is how two faced narcissits are. They want to manipulate the " public opinion" of them beeing the " good and perfect parent" and in this picture is also having " perfect children". They make you addicted to praice. But reality is that you dont need it.
Literally me. Whenever I get even 1 B I always get put down, made fun of and belittled. Meanwhile, she gets a C or a B and gets rewarded with the “I’m so proud of you.”
Sad reality they did believe what i dud achieve sad but true !!
Note to some people,
being the youngest child isnt always fun.its only fun when your small and everyone loves you but when you grows up thing isnt the same.
when u realize that elsa and anna have an unhealthy relationship
Because Elsa do be a ghost.
XD
@@brookskirsch2744 lol 🤣 XD
How ¿?
(●)O(●) WHAAAA- ;-; i just realized.
Phew im blessed that my family r loving and caring especially my older bro. Doesn't abuse me.he cares for me
Same,seeing so much people relating to this vid makes me feel very sad,just now I realize how lucky I am
I'm jealous. I only wish for an hour of peace.
Idrk
I wish my family was like yours. I'm usually mentally abused everyday by my brother and dad. The only reason I don't end myself is because of my mother and friends. My brother is the Golden child and I'm just the Scapegoat
Im the older, but my younger is a little asshole and gets what he wants when he wants it, hes been to truancy court, his best grade is a c- and hes always mad about everything and is always doing things with tools in the garage. Meamwhile, im an honor roll student who is nice to everyone and dosent ask nearly ever, i get blamed for his misdoings and repramqnded for what he does. And if I punch him (he kicks me in the balls all the time, and gets away with it) i get my shit takin away.
Here’s a long story..
My sister had ran out because she wanted to “come and go as she pleased”. She came to pick up her stuff she had left behind. She was told to leave. She walked back in and asked for her $100. My mom replied “I told you that you had 48 hours.” I wasn’t there, but I heard enough.. My sister cussed my mom out and the next thing I heard was my younger sister crying out in this desperate, terrified voice I knew all to well, screaming for our dad. At that point, I couldn’t help but cry. The next thing I heard was my mom yelling at my older sister “HIT ME AGAIN, B****!” And more cuss words. My dad called the police and came in to comfort me, as I was more sensitive when it came it fights, not to mention physical ones. I hear my older sister screaming in the same voice my little sister used saying “LET ME THE F*** GO!!!!” And we were told to go to our rooms. The only thing I saw was my mom, sitting on top of my sister and holding her in place. I heard the police arrive, i that desperate voice rang out again, “I DIDN’T HIT HER!!” It was terrifying. My sister - younger - had been in there and saw the start. My dad came in and I heard “I’ll get the 7-year-old, the 11-year-old won’t.” I had heard it before. I was always the one to cry and sit there and mutter “make it stop, make it stop..” whenever I heard that screech of a voice. My mom still has marks on her neck from the fight. We shun our grandma because our grandma told my mom “You failed 3 out of 5 kids.” And guess what? That’s exactly what my sister said.
I wish I had some friends I could rant this to.. this is as close as I can get..
I would suggest that you get some counseling or therapy. Maybe one or more of your family members can go with you?
Your dads a bitch who calls the cops hes the man lile wtf your fucked wtf is wrong with your family if your own dad cant stop that
Please Dont say this on the internet..
@@zohriajani9338, what else does she have to do if she has nobody to talk to?
You are so strong to say something. You may want to consider therapy and I'm sure you've heard this before but, it really does help. Even if you just have someone to talk to makes it better. I don't know what it's like and I can't speak from experience but you are a fighter. Stay strong💕
Yes, I thank my mother for the problems I have with my siblings. It all came from her.
I agree. My mother and my toxic ass culture. Where you have to respect the parents no matter what. Even if they punch you, even if they step on your neck, and hit you with a belt.
Im going to be honest. I'm the ghost sibling. I legit thought if I tried my best to avoid family members I wouldn't make any problems. That only seemed to make them more mad and started asking me if i had a problem. I was neglected my younger sibling cause I thought it would be the best for both of us but I was just apart of the problem.
Agree. I tried to not have conversations around my younger sibling cus he would always ease dropping on my conversations and never got in trouble for it. Then he started accusing of avoiding him. Ugh! You just can’t win either way. I wish I was an only child wouldn’t be under the pressure to be involved with others. I didn’t ask for this life☹️
@@lessismore8533 technically, as a sibling you aren't obligated to love your sibling because you didn't give birth to them. But some words of advice, if you see them struggling, you should at least confront an adult and get them help
@@rendeukie9212 this is great advice. Problem though? It had little to do with my comment. The younger sibling easedropping on my conversations is now 23 yrs old. A young adult. Still carting habits since childhood because his parents never corrected him. So yah they’re not struggling. They were spoiled and pampered their whole life. Parents fault. I’m the one who’s struggling actually. Bring a sibling sucks. Though I live my cousin. She’s not annoying and entitled. Wish she was my sibling.
im the hungry sibling. we're the most unrecognized type of siblings because everyone thinks our family is so perfect and we don't even fight when the truth is much worse
That’s probably why children in your place don’t show up to family gatherings anymore as adults bc the enablers and that one will never change 💔
I was the Enabler :(. My older sister has BPD which makes her prone to very risky behavior. When we were young she would always rely on me when she would hit a wall. She was so fragile in my eyes and I was afraid she'd abandon me if I didn't always support her. This mix of perceptions caused a very unhealthy co-dependent relationship between us. She would do something bad and I would try to save her without judging her actions because I wanted her to feel like she could rely on me without consequences. One time I was teasing her about having a boyfriend and she got angry and punched me in the back of the head (I blacked-out for a few seconds and later found out she gave me a concussion). My parents were furious (now I understand they have a right to be) and my sister was crying and apologizing over and over again to me. In that moment I was disgusted with myself, I knew my sisters limits and I joked to hard and now she was upset and suffering and I had been such a F*ing idiot. My poor fragile sister was crying and it was all my fault. It felt like if I didn't protect her then she would die, and it would all be my fault that I couldn't save her. I was convinced that my whole reason for being born was to protect my older sister (even though my parents told me countless times that none of this was my responsibility). It took me years to understand that I was also a human and not just a puppet that could be used as a shield. Even now I struggle with knowing its ok to be mad at my sister, its ok to not always agree with her, and its ok to have emotions outside of the ones she wants me to have. I don't have to feel guilty for wanting to be my own person, but a part of me still does.
Holy molly this is probably the most surprising story I heard today
@@frostythesnowbob607 Why is it surprising? No judgment just curious.
I relate very much except my sister is a narcissist and due to supporting her all those years I’ve developed a minor case of bpd that is getting worse and nobody looks after me so good for you but I understand the guilt part and I’m glad you’re more independent now
@@meltingsnowflake2426 Thank you and I hope you are able to find the support you need.
It sounds a bit like you've also got bpd or a dependant personality. Nothing wrong with that but also I can totally get why you felt the need to protect her. However you are right. You are your own person. You need your own life. And you definitely should value yourself more as you too need protecting just as much as anyone else. You're not inferior. You're not expendable. You sometimes have to detach yourself and find a healthy way of helping those you care about without enabling them.
I had a friend with bpd and I would normally be the person they'd call to diffuse the situation if she was upset and violent. I'm not gentle and will always explain how her actions do effect other people because they care. In fact, explaining how they do have the ability to hurt someone does work. A lot of people with BPD think very little of themselves so do louder actions as if putting on an amplifier because they feel like they won't be heard or understood otherwise. So if they realize that they can deeply hurt someone by their actions, makes them become a bit more sensitive.
Everyone in the comments saying that the younger sibling gets spoiled and gets away with things........
Me being the younger sibling: ignored, yelled at, and forgotten(on multiple occasions)
....yeah totally
Edit: I know this doesn't mean everyone. Everyone has there own experiences. Whether you're the younger, older, or middle child. Everyone can be neglected or abused. You ARE important❤. Take care.
キムステファニー I can relate honestly I did get a lot of attention and affection from my mom but got punished for it 10 fold by my jealous cunt sister......furthermore nobody respects me in that fkn house and now I try to be distant towards them(not so much my mom) and as cruel and horrible as it sounds trying to dehumanize my sister in my mind so I can maybe stop caring about her and just move on with life
@@prometheusprometheus326 I can Sorta Agree
I was treated all special and stuff but then I turned 10 and now my mom treats me like a little ungrateful slave
Can we give an F for the middle children
ugh me too... and it's like my sister who is older than me is the one that's always spoiled. sometimes, when we fight, it's like my parents side with her (though she's the one who started it). then our mom will play the "you have to understand her because she's stressed etc etc". it sucks
Brother: *pulls my hair and hits me PURPOSELY*
me: *grabs his arm* don’t do that again
mom: don’t do that to him he didn’t do it on purpose
Me: yes he did, you just think he is the perfect little kid. He did it on purpose and he did it before, this is why I hate him. You just don’t see through his disgusting little smile, and think he is an angel.
Then kill him and lock his body away
@@psychic-friend-toy-freddy don't you guys have humanity they are your siblings, another child of your parents, I agree that they are a bit annoying but they are humans too right
@@potato.is.online3262 exactly I fr feel like most of these problems would be solved by having a serious disccussion with their siblings.
@@midnight_horizen8184 that's what I was saying
@@psychic-friend-toy-freddy Why does that comment have likes
I have two older brothers, one five years older than me and one three years older. When I was little we.. seriously weren't on good terms. I'd get into arguments with them since I didn't want to back down (I was a stubborn kiddo) and those arguments would often turn physical. I'd scratch or push them and then they'd punch me and throw me to the ground. Since I'm the only girl they'd gang up on me, I never had someone on my side when we got into arguments. My second big brother would act like one of those sidekicks for the bullies in movies, he'd agree with anything my oldest brother said, but he was also the more physically abusive one. I remember times when I got so terrified of my brothers as they chased me around the house, that I'd end up taking my dog and hiding in the bathroom since it was the only door with a lock. There was also a time I remember very clearly when my second big brother whispered to me that he'd slice my throat with a knife once I fell asleep. I told my father about that since he was asking me why I wasn't going to bed, and he got really angry at my brother. That brings me to my parents. They *did* scold my brothers and me for fighting, but they also certainly didn't take these things as seriously as they should've. They would always use the "all siblings fight" excuse, but honestly, I don't think it's healthy for *anyone* to have siblings that physically and verbally abuse each other, saying things such as "You shouldn't have been born", "get your ugly face away", "Go back to hell" and more things that can *destroy* how you think of yourself. I'm incredibly jumpy and people simply raising their voice can send me into an anxiety attack. Even though they've matured a whole lot in the past few years (they've stopped the physical stuff, and I've learned not to get on their nerves) and our relationship is a lot better now, growing up with siblings like that really does leave a mark on you. I think it's a terrible excuse for parents to just say "All siblings fight" and act as though it's alright.
That's toxic
I had a simerlar situations to my Toxic Families and in-Laws! especially almost when I only live with them ! ! !
True, "sibling love" or stuff like "No Matter what you say right now in reality you really love eachother!" No, we dont, i dont, i hate my sisters.
@@ちゃんりゅこ i almost feel the same way! Except I don't love or hate my Siblings! I just don't love them ! ! !
Never have I ever related so hard to a TH-cam comment. I hope your situation continues to better and all is well. thank you for making me feel less alone ❤️❤️
Is it possible if you’re the older sibling and the younger sibling is the bully?
May sibling constantly does this to me 😪
Time to even up the score !
A baseball bat should get the job done.
I understand but mines a little different, I barely touch them, grounded, they actually, scar me, who cares, how annoying can it get?
Yeah. My older sister and younger brother are bullying me
I’m suffering in the house
I hate my life (T_T)
Maya Grieves same.
@@ilovecheesecake325 tell your parents. and then try to find out a solution, together
I'm always being put down by my older sister and it made me feel inferior most of the time. She loves to see me in pain but sometimes she's being sweet and kind too. Its hard to care and love her when i despise her so much ever since i was a child :(
I was always the scapegoat,but I’m so happy I left!
Me too. I'm glad you got out!
• spacexghost I'm happy for you.
So does that make you escapegoat? This coming from other scapegoat. =)
Taistelukalkkuna Haha I love it!
Dartt Thank you!❤️
Dang.
This hits hard.
* flashbacks intensify *
Edit: how tf does this comment have over 100 likes?
Edit 2: wow over 420 likes
Edit 3: hecc
Same here mate
Same here as well
I'm sorry that you experienced something like this...
Not 100 its 227 now
Cos u legend
Good one, at least I know that I have a healthy relationship with my brother, we can't identify ourselves with any of these, and is the person I personally trust more, however, thanks to this channel, I've realized that the relation I had with my parents was ugly, they made me a pleaser, but knowing that, I overcame my fears, and all thanks to this channel, now I have a healthy relationship with my parents, I love your work!
Thank you! :) And I see, I'm so glad that you overcame your fears, that's what counts. :)
me: little brother please brush your teeth mom will get mad at you
my brother: NO leave me alone!
me: please?
my brother:*hits me* I SAID LEAVE ME ALONE
me:*cries*
my mom: sweetie your the big sister why didnt you hit him back?
me: because you would get mad at me
my mom: no i wouldnt also he is a boy and he doesnt have any right to hit you
my brother:*hits me* STOP
me: OW THATS IT *hits back*
my brother: AGH IM TELLING
me: fine its not like im getting in trou---
mom: WHY DID YOU HIT HIM HES YOUR LITTLE BROTHER
me: what---
I would just hit my brother back, idc
I would kill my little brother
........... Relatable
Just lie to your mom, simple
just, WHY
To sucks to have a bully and victim relationship with your sibling, especially if you’re the older one being the victim . I mean the situation with my sister and I isn’t as bad as it used to be she does harm me emotionally and mentally and I can’t talk to anyone about it since they won’t believe me but this made me relax a tad bit
Edit: thanks for telling your stories and I wish the best for y’all 💕
I always feel crushed when I’m told that I have to make a good example for my younger siblings. Like my mom things I don’t already know that and that I don’t try.
K A sigh sad, i dont think im able to tell my parents cus just like my sister, they will just ended up saying that i shouldnt have those negative thoughts and bad memories should be erased out of my mind. Nobody even understand what I’ve been through emotionally. I told my mom but she just brush it off and “praise” my sister for a badass she was when she’s young. Guess they only like the extrovert kid
I always felt that way, but I've never had a friend say they didnt believe me. They always seem so much more supportive than I think and always try to help! You should trust your friends to do the same
Or when you tell people they just say you have a sibling feud :\ I think that would imply we were equal aggressors, which is definitely not the case.
my sister also manipulates me and she is younger than me! I don't feel alone now oh my god, but it's horrible, thanks for sharing your story!
My half sister and I have a very bad relationship. She is always yelling at me for no reason, abusing me for no reason, and blaming me for no reason. I am always nice to her, but she isn't to me. I tried to talk to my dad and my stepmom, but they say it's just "sisterly love." plus they think I'm just making excuses when I tell them what she does to me. She will talk bad about me to her friends, but around MY friends she'll act like she ls an angel. I can't wait until I move out.
Oh I feel you as I lived the same situation. Hang in there, though, and please make sure you have a support system outside the home in case the abuse gets worse so that you have people you can turn to for help and defense.
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through that. You'll get where you need to be. In the meantime, you can talk to your school counselor about this if things intensify.
I wish I was your friend just so I could beat her ass up.
I have a brother very similar. He was cool when i was a kid but, in my teens he started being a real jerk off. 30+ years later and he's still a jerk and pitted our father against me the last few years he was alive. That way he got most of the inheritance
i clicked on this as soon as i got a notification you have no idea how much i needed thsi
#Relatable but internet crashed so i was a bit late ;-;
Thank you for watching, we hope this came in handy. Which dynamic can you relate to?
my older sister used to abuse me in horrible ways, she would mentally and physically and verbally abusive me in ways i have mostly blocked out but they were terrible. she did it to my mom too, and i never told anyone about the abuse she put me through until i was older and she was taken by CPS, i loved her though, even though she hurt me in unimaginable ways. i still miss the few good times we had:(
My siblings and I argue a lot
Dont worry that's normal. Just dont hold grudges for a long time
Actually fairly normal. I don't think there are any siblings who don't.
Me and my siblings fight a lot too but that's honestly fairly normal for any siblings
Marceline, this is to be expected. When I was younger, I used to argue with my brother a lot, but now he's like my best friend. :) I think as long as you make up in the end, it's okay. This is how you grow together. But if things start getting out of hand or abusive, that's when things can take a toxic turn. Just be on the lookout for that. I wish you and your siblings the best of luck.
I love your marceline and BMO picture. Forever Adventure Time!☺
I feel like I'm the ghost and my brother, I really hope isn't the hungry child...
I need some advice because I am losing my brother:
earlier today, I played Minecraft with him for a while. i decided to take a break. I told him I may play later. If it's necessary, he is 8 and I am 14. an hour later he comes to me and says "When I finish this episode of my show, you are gonna play Minecraft with me." I told him "I don't really want to play right now." He leaves. When the show is over, he comes back in and says "In five minutes, you're gonna play!" I say that I don't feel like it. I told him I plan to play later. He says "At 1:30 then" I tell him no, he says yes and walks away. At 1:30 he begs me to play. I tell him I already played today, I will play later. He then throws a complete tantrum, runs to my dad and claims that I said I would play at 1:30. I tell Dad that is a lie, I did not. My brother says that we did say we would play at 1:30! I said, again, he made that decision, not me. He then screams that I'm mean everyday, that I don't love him. Yes, we bicker a lot but I never go out of my way to be mean. I just tease a tiny bit, and so does he! At this point my dad is glaring at me, telling me that I am mean, that he won't love me soon. My parents told me that soon he won't care about me. I'm trying so hard to be a good sister! I love him so much, I'd take a bullet for him! I don't know why I can't seem to be good. Could you tell me what to do??
Your brother is a little child, and he loves you so much that he wants all your attention. You're not doing anything wrong, just try to share happy moments with him everyday and make sure he knows you love him
Well not being rude but, maybe play with him orrr be nicer?
I have these types of problems everyday with my brother! And I’m also 14, and he is 9.
I have this problem a lot with my brother and rn he wants me to play roblox with him even though I just did
lol 25.78, same 💀
my brother : *teases me*
my mom : "hes a boy, thats what they do" "its because he's a teen, just cut him some slack." "hes treating you like he would treat his friends." "focus on yourself."
Just threaten him with be nife
I hate when annoying younger ones are defended but you’re not if you did the same thing
@@lessismore8533 its the other way around for my family
The first one is basically every Gacha Life video in a nutshell.
Or, maybe, uhh, REAL LIFE??
Natalie Peach Gacha I don’t think most families in real life work like that...
@@coolchococassandra1641 specially when the "bad child" comes princess :D
lol true
Ikr
When you're the royal brat and the wise owl.
Then you see the Bully And The Victim
*aw sht here we go again*
same
my cousin is bullied by her younger sister...
My youngest sister is the royal brat and im the wise owl
I live with a sister who always screams to get her way, uses excuses to not do work (a year after she had a concussion she's claiming she still has the concussion itself, not lingering symptoms, thus my parents defend her not doing any work), will have a breakdown over nothing (I asked for my water bottle back and she threw a tantrum about how I never used it and then punched me), has never cleaned a day in her life (she literally has moldly cups and ice cream in her room from m o n t h s ago), and gets basically whatever she wants. For the first few years of my life I tried to tolerate her (even though she'd throw phones, remotes, and shoes at us) but she's 16 now and I'm absolutely fed up with this, and my parents enable her. Say she has someone she doesn't like in her class (they don't bully her, she just doesn't like them), she'll complain and my parents will make the administration move her to a different class. Honestly at this point I'm between not caring what happens to her and trying to tell her to get her act together because she's going to be an adult in 2 years and can't act like a 3 year old.
*me and my brother having an argument*
My brother: *hits me*
Me: *hits him back*
My parents: *WhY wOuLd YoU hIt hIm!1!!1!!*
Story of my shitty life.
My brother never even knows what im going through i almost did suicide cause of depression got bullied for 3 years i skipped school for 2 months
I just wish i was adopted to another sweet loving caring family
Being adopted can get pretty tricky when there is lack of understanding, but stay strong as relationships need time to become healthy. Don't lose hope in your new family. Maybe talk with your new parents about your past experiences. Soon everyone will understand and be empathetic, but you'll need patience and tolerance. Stay strong❤!
I often tell my brother how I feel depressed, I hate myself stuff like that but all he does is make me feel more depressed. He'd often make fun of me poke fun of my situation. We used to be close but now I think I hate him
aww, i really hope things have gotten better or start getting better, u deserve love and care and u should never let anyone tell u otherwise!
@@kimmykay733 Sounds like your brother started following the wrong group and has been badly influenced. Remember that he still loves you at heart, even though his actions say otherwise. Trust me, I'm a boy. I know how we work😉.
Try talking to your parents about it.There's always someone to talk to.
Stay Strong!💖
me to
“Younger Siblings Are just spoiled”
Me as the youngest: *physical ab*se, Can’t be understood, Middle sibling ab*se them, being laughed at my feelings, yelled at for no reason, ignored*
Yeah definitely spoiled
Not everyone deals with this but it happens to me.. YOU ARE LOVED :)❤️❤️❤️
Edit: feel free to talk about anything ❤️
Yeah.....Sure I guess
I’m the middle child but my problem is the opposite to yours. My sister abuses me and is 2 years younger than me. I think everyone’s case is different.
Same
Yea...this is kinda true
I’m youngest and I feel you I’m always getting told I’m the spoiled one when in reality I’m not and don’t want to be.
My uncle: “WHY DONT YOU CALM DOWN YOUR BROTHER HIS CRYING?!”
Me: “He said he wants to be left alone”
My uncle: “SO HES STILL YOUR BROTHER?!”
Me: *Tries to help my brother*
My brother: “I HATE YOU”
Me: okay....
*After everybody sleeps*
Me: *Cries* I’m Okay....
One time my brother hurt me so bad I ended up spilling put 1/3 of my emotions.
When somone is sad their emotions and all of that aren’t in the right place, and they aren’t thinking properly. It isn’t your fault
Its realy rare for my siblins to hurt me bc i am the strongest one,i got super strong from drawing,doing sports and reading memes
Angelina Stevanovic not me I’m the weakest so they hurt me the most and every day I would tell my mom “I’m fine and put on a fake smile when I all I wanted to do was cry
Bella Hillis I’m sorry
Sometimes I just feel like I'm not a good sister!
My relationship with my brothers is none of these but I still feel like I don't treat them the way I should.
I really love them and care for them but I feel that they don't think that I really do.
I'm always irritated and annoyed in front of them even when I don't want to.
I'm trying really hard to not keep shouting and screaming on the littlest of things.
And I just hope that they don't hate me!
I'm only on the second one but wow,, the Royal Brat and the Wise Owl sounds like my sister and I. I'll edit this and see if any of the rest of these apply to me.
Edit: oh wow almost all of these apply to my relationship with my sister, but mostly the second one and fourth one. My sister and mom fight all the time and my sister gets what she wants while I have to work for what I want and I'm usually hiding away in the background. To my mom's friends, I'm known as the forgotten child :/
I haven't watched all the vid yet but it seems as if we are in the same situation here, with a horrific sibling and the favroute child situation. People are shocked at how my sister and dad treat me! My sister gets PAID to litteraly grab a few old b day cards and put them in the bin, we're I sort through the laundry, put in the washing machine, unload it and hang up the washing, load the washing machine again, repeat untill done, taking off the dry laundry, folding it and putting it ALL away, then I dust and clean, then make tea ect. Doing all the chors and cleaning up after everyone while my sister plays games. No wander I have sever depression!!
But on the bright side, ask yourself these questions...
Whos going to have a nice house when they move out?
Who's going to have a lovely personality?
Who's going to be successful?
Life WILL get better. It has for everyone else, it can for us too.
lex yayeet play your people at their own game then, just pretend to forget who they are or just ignore them.
oof i can relate: this is exactly the same situation i’m in, only with the mixture of #3. i still love my sister though.
lex yayeet same but i also can relate to the bully and the victim. im the wise owl and the victim. my younger brother always hits me whenever my parents doesn't give him things that he want
@@maisiemoby3119, I think the same way. I have depression too. But I know I'm gonna have a great life on my own. To be honest, I'm actually planning it out
"Usually it's the younger child that get's picked on"
No it's not. A good chunk of the time the younger child is always favored by the adults, so while the older child gets talked down too the younger child goes and lies to the adults to get their way. This is how it works in my household at least.
Nope Evem though my parents favor me they still favor my elders and he always bullies me and gets away while i get the scoldings Im basically I am trying yo get out of royal brat and into scape goat cause i dont get loved or anything
Just because it works different in your household, then it does in yours, not literally everyone
Well it turned out the opposite for my family
Im the youngest and my eldest bro was mostly favoured by my parents, he got everything he wanted while my second bro and I were always told to be understanding
Till this day they still put up with him
My second bro and I just want to get the hell out of the house
Its mostly like"you are older, you need to take responibilities and do chores" and my ten yo sister does nothing when I used to do laundry, dishes and garden and took care of four animals.
Exactlyyyy
*HA* sis you got exposed 😤😤
What happened
jaywaffle my sister always seems to make fun of me or act like I'm invisible
My sibling stuff is often changing but almost always a tiny bit toxic, but I think bully and victim is the most common one for me and my siblings, my theory is it started because of my noni(grandma) being the awful person she is and likely influencing the oldest, especially since they also complained to noni often which got mom in trouble(for things she shouldn't have gotten in trouble for ofc), but that's just a theory since I was too young to remember that stuff and I was usually busy playing with dolls and wouldn't pay attention to conversations, but whatever happened led to the oldest disliking our parents despite our parents being pretty good, and that likely lead them to become the main bully of the household, I think it might've started with them trying to distance themselves, but I was a bored and lonely kid so I kept trying to get them to play with me, and the few times they'd actually say yes they either didn't do a game I wanted or they'd completely mess up my game and be mean about it, so I started isolating myself, meanwhile they started bullying the youngest, and the youngest wasn't a people pleaser like me and actually fought back, and at some point the youngest also started antagonizing the oldest and they were basically bullying eachother, and while that was going on my mental health was really taking a toll, and all those emotions I bottled up so I could be the peacekeeper started boiling over and I basically had anger issues, and then both of them started teaming up and when they weren't fighting eachother they were pushing me to my limits until I snapped and started attacking, which I hated doing but they really deserved it, it also caused me to isolate myself even more to the point where I'd barely leave my room until they're asleep, sometimes I didn't even leave to get dinner until I hear them going back into their rooms, I think I also started putting stuff in front of my bedroom door sometimes just to keep them out, Eventually they stopped messing with me tho and just made their fights with eachother worse and worse, eventually they started fighting less tho, they still keep hating eachother, there's just less physical violence and they keep their arguments a bit quieter, now we all basically just ignore eachother, also through most of these things I was always trying to get their love, it kinda led me to a mental hospital due to the oldest's lies and victim complex and my anger issues and trust. Also I forgot to add my parents into this, but they couldn't do much since mom was always sick and dad was overworking himself and was always exhausted when he got home, but they tried to get them to stop fighting when they could, it's part of the reason why I became the peacekeeper and learned how to pin down two people at once, turns out it's pretty easy, and getting pinned down by me kinda shut them up for a couple hours!
Me and my sibling: fights
5 minutes later: laugh.
15 seconds later; *OBLITERATE*
IKRRR LOLL, I HOPE THAT ISNT BAD
Never happens
Same except just my brother laughs
IKR
Well I have nothing to worry about
I'm an only child
checker board || yeah but it can get really lonely at times
I wish I could be an only child, I have 2 younger siblings who always gangs up on me.
lonely vibes || but I does get lonely
Sometimes I wish I had a sibling so I won't be so lonely
You are so lucky... Siblings suck, EVEN IF THEY ACCOMPANY YOU THEY ARE ANNOYING AND I JUST COMPLETELY HATE MY SIBLINGS FOR SEVERAL REASONS!
SURELY sometimes you are lonely, but in the end its better, they may be ganging up against you, beating you, insulting or humiliating you etc. i hate my siblings so much...i know it gets lonely but its way better in the end.
Bahira Al-Haddad || ok
My brother sexually abuses me. He would always do it when we are alone and then blames me for it...I can't even talk about it without other people blaming it on me for lying. What should I do?
You need to tell someone elder who is reliable and can understand your emotions. Trust me,you do not deserve this behaviour from your brother and can't live your life in silence. You need to speak for your rights.
@@cherylsj8462 Alright. But I'm worried, my mother never believes me with anything. She always believes him so if I were to tell the authorities about it and come to question him. Mom will just blame it on me saying that she's lying. That's why I'm so scared of telling
There might be someone else in your family who may trust you. If you are a student then you can tell the situation to your teachers. Maybe they can help you.
@@cherylsj8462 Well, there is no one else besides us three (me, my brother and mom) and maybe I will tell my teachers. I really hope they can help
Yes! Go for it. Tell your teachers. I am sure they will help you. I pray for you
I have an emotionally abusive sister. she would fall into bully and victim. i’m so tired of people telling me it’s normal sibling stuff. everything she gets mad about she takes out on me. she used to hit me all the time too. i’ve found it’s the reason I have a fear of loud noises and contributed to my fear of confrontation since she just yells and belittles me
Being seven years apart isn't easy, especially when my younger sibling is everything my parents ever wanted. It really hurts when you hear genuinely that your younger sibling is the favorite, even though you've been around longer.
It is isn’t it. It just breaks you up and you feel so worthless and helpless that everything you tried to be they found in someone else
but no one ever cares when it's an older sibling because younger siblings always have to be the underdog victims. There's no room for genuinely troubled older siblings in the stories except as the big bad bullies that their perfect angel younger siblings "will never amount to" in their parents eyes
i honestly thought i was the only one. my parents always say to grow up and just get along but my brother says things i don’t even wanna repeat. even if he’s 11 and i’m 17 he’s still really mean to me and leads me to cry sometimes. he’s seen as this big deal in my family because he plays sports and gets good grades and i’m over here more artistic and not the best in school.
I'm just tired of my mom telling me that I "Sometimes have to let it go" when my brother and I get into a fight but if I just give in to what he's saying/doing he won't learn anything. Like, he's throwing a tantrum over the smallest thing and screaming at me and acusing me of not loving him even though I didn't do anything that would imply that and I'm still only talking at a normal volume. Somehow, I'm the petty one. 😧
I was reminded that as the older one, it was up to me to be the BIGGER person. I could bore you to tears with the many ways it continued over the years. I decided on no contact, but would get guilted into Christmas, or Thanksgiving or whatever, so as not to ruin it for "Mother". End of the day, mother passed on, I didn't even stay for the funeral, self feeding sister sucking up sympathy, and freebies, then arranged for her ashes to go into a cardboard tube (they're cheaper). Point being, if your brother is a self feeder, it likely won't change. Over the years we had a few big dramas, actual apologies for how she's lied and taken advantage over the years, please forgive her and give her another chance. Chances given, which just provided another opportunity to find a way to take advantage of people.
My advice, as the years go on, don't go into business together or lend money, he'll be looking for ways to rob you, and probably doesn't play by the normal rules. And avoid social gatherings, he'll be looking for ways to humiliate you. In business and social, having to have your guard up all the time is really stressful, and stress is poison.
I am sure you aren't petty, and if I could corner your mother, I would ask her how she can justify teaching one of her children that it's their role in life to quietly accept abuse. I would ask her where is your soft place to land, who has your back, kids need and deserve those? When your actual parent tells you to be quiet and take it, really, what are they teaching? Why should your home be ruled by a little tyrant and why is your mother ok with you being a target of that tyrant? What is she trying to teach you? Or is she just doing what's easier for her? I'm so sorry you're going through this.
Same with my sister, but now my parents are FINALLY starting to do something about it!!!
Same😯😧
My mother is the opposite, one time when my sister had kicked and punched me I pushed her too hard and she started crying then my mom has got mad at both of us and said that we could kill each other for all she cares and it wouldn’t matter... :(
Me: Refuse to do something the sibling wants because he/she can easily do it for himself/herself an should do it himself/herself.
Sibling: Wines, makes false claims about me, tries to guilt trip me, tries to black mail me
Me: attempt to defend myself
Parent: Yells at us for arguing, tells us to shut up, and doesn't try to find the trigger
Sibling: Refuses to listen when I try to explain how I feel and tells me to shut up.
Me: Continues in order to explain my frustrations and stand up for myself
Sibling: Refuses to listen when I try to explain how I feel and tells me to shut up.
Parent: Repeats previous actions
This the first time I feel happy that I am lucky to be an only child!
i wish i was an only child
yea me too gurl but its kinda lonely sometimes
Ommg you are very lucky that your life is not ruined and you dont have to cry Every night and dont have to get bruises from you doing nothing
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same ^^
My sibling gaslights me and calls me annoying all the time. It really takes a toll on my mental health. I am sad for most of my time, and also have slight anger issues.
Why
Yo lala