My mom got married as a 14 year old. Her husband was a senior, so 18 I believe. She had a really hard time breaking free from him. Thankfully she didn’t have any kids and could split from him cleanly. He was a horrible, awful person but my mom is the strongest person I know.
I just want to say that, that mom was the true MVP of this story. If I was divorced and my child went to visit her father and he allowed all of those things to happen behind my back I would be LIVID.
My parents had a shotgun wedding, my mom was 17, they were happily married until my dad's death in 2015. I think it depends on culture. American culture is too Luke warm and you're treated like infants until you're 30 so of course a 15 year old woman from America shouldn't get married. Even though that was the norm all over the world until about 60 years ago. And I'm saying 15 year old woman because in nature there is adult and child no middle. If she gets pregnant she's biologically a woman and no longer a girl.
I remember a girl from my psychology class during college. She was heavily pregnant but still attending classes. One time, we had a game in class where we pick a piece of paper from the glass bowl and read the question and answer it in front of the class. She got the question of 'If you can turn back time, what event you want to change from your past? ' then she answered when she got married. She told us she's adopted and her adopted parents forced her to marry. She begged them not to but they never felt pity on her. That's when she realized her adopted parents never love her. In a shaky voice and teary eyes, she told us that if she could turn back time she will escape and do everything in her power not to be married. I feel so sorry for her. That is when I realized how she was always look sad and quiet. She just got married and got pregnant right away.
prob cuz not all of them are horror stories like in the vid and most end bc they're just using it to being someone into the US i don't think it needs to be outlawed, just reworked
Because there are societies within the US it is accepted by their entire culture, even children, as a way of life and I feel we have no right to interfere. However, I do believe that there should be restrictions on why. It makes sense if it is there cultural but as in instances such as this, there is no cultural or even religious reason why a marriage makes sense. It was simply a child predator and should have been prevented. Now, is there room for error? Yes. Absolutely. And we should work hard to make sure it happens as little times as possible...or never.
@@volzaac Regardless of "culture" child marriage needs to be outlawed. There's being respectful to a religious belief but the need to protect children should always be paramount. There can't be one rule for children in a secular society and one rule for children in a "religious" or "culturally different" one. Child marriage just stinks of child abuse.
I remember i was helping this 15yo pregnant girl with some paper work and I asked for the baby fathers DOB... This man was in his 40s. Apparently, this young girl had just arrived from Mexico at 13/14yo. The father of her baby was her dad's boss and her parents had a written letter how they are aware and give the responsibility to the 40yo sicko. It sickened me. Parents are supposed to protect you and these parents just gave her away. I'm sure to benefit themselves in some way.
Child marriage isnt all that bad , it mainly depends on how well the parents are idk if islam allows it im pretty sure it dose basically it depends how it all goes
@@godsofourland95 And in addition to that, the victims of serial killers only suffer untill the killers had their fix and that's it. Here the victims suffer for many many years, and depending on the culture they're married in, even many years after a divorce.
If 'your' argument is, that its easier to control a girl when shes a teen, 'you're' a predator and 'you' should not be allowed around other people. Thats my take..
Disagree with that. I support marriage at age 10, people have too much rights nowadays, and stuff like jobs and education should not be a given. People should have the opportunity to opt out of school and live off the land at any age and not have to suffer from pressures of living a modern life.
Oh no, a relationship between a minor and a adult didn't work out, who could have seen this coming(sarcasm) If you aren't old enough to drive, drink, or have a stable job, you have no real business getting married
Welp the age of drinking is 21 so the drinking argument made more sense 30-40 years ago because the ago of drinking was 18 which is the age of majority aka the age of which a person is considered an adult Note: I'm not defending weird stuff I just believe that more 18 years should get married
@@simonpetrikov3992 I know you aren't defending child marriage, if you were then that'll make you my enemy. I disagree, people shouldn't be allowed to marry at the age of 18 or 19(key word "teen") because they're either in high school or just freshly out, they are barely starting their lives as adults. The earliest age someone should marry is at the age of 20 but if it where up to me people should marry at the age of 24-30 because by then the individuals are already fully formed adults with their own lives in order. Answer me this, would you marry someone who is unemployed, bad with money, immature and has no real skills? That most people at 18-23, don't marry a mess, marry the final product 24-30
@@quaktoons331 no I wouldn't also I tried coming up with an age of consent within my intelligence and somehow had a line of reasoning justifying why the age of consent should be 20 years old I guess we're on a Similar wavelength to that
I had a child at 16 and the father was 19 my parents wanted me to get married and his parents did as well but I was going through with it for their sake and not my own luckily for me my dad had just gotten married to my wonderful step mom and she was the only one who bothered to ask me how I actually felt about it and when I told her I didn’t want to she told everyone I should wait until after I turned 18. We never got married he left before then
I hope his name was on the birth certificate, and you sued for child support. Teen pregnancy is wrong. If I had had a daughter, she would have been put on the birth control implant, whether she wanted it or not, and if she was still living under my roof. However, I never had kids. Too much of a hassle. Horses are much better. (Jan Griffiths).
@@jensenmathews3979 While I'm definitely pro-choice, abortion is a stressful and dangerous procedure, and a lot of people's personal beliefs don't align with having the practice themselves. While safe abortions should be available, it's better if the approach to this topic is making contraceptives and protection more widespread to prevent unwanted pregnancies in the first place!
@@douglasgriffiths3534 brith control hurts the female body and when using it for a long time, could make getting pregnant very difficult so i don’t think you should “make her” take it, just make her be careful
@@BewareTheLilyOfTheValley it's usually about control, that feeling, over someones life "because i said so"...i know from personal experience about my fam not letting even be friends with people i chose.
@@KadenceSuna i never said it was ok? i was just correcting them they got the stories mixed up which could confuse some ppl it confused me why are u putting words in my mouth?
thank you so much for covering this. like you said, lots of people think this only happens in third world countries, but it happens in the us quite a bit. hopefully some people learned something from this video.
Agreed, thank you for mentioning that Christians/conservative in America are the ones perpetuating child marriage. Please do more to highlight this without being so concerned the conservatives will cancel you, it's very obvious that there was careful editing of the script to take special care not to offend them.
It’s crazy to think that contracts signed by minors are invalid no exception, but can marry under certain circumstances, which is a lifetime commitment, especially with kids involved.
As an American, I knew that marriage is legal for 16 year olds but I had no idea it was this deep and shady. I always had the impression that that law only affects consenting 16 year olds and no adults. This story of Heather and Aaron is why young teen girls shouldn't be allowed to get married. This is shocking to hear how common this is in the U.S...
you do realize that she did consent to everything that happened to her though.. she said yes when under the influence she said yes to her parents she said yes the town hall she said yes to the priest yes what happened was unfortunate and iffy but she did consent. next time you find yourself in a relationship with a 25 year old guy as a 15 yr old girl dont say. "what kind of girl dates 25 yr old boys" ask "what kind of guy dates 15 yr old girls"
When you knock up someone underage so you have to get married to them because you don’t wanna go to jail. Hmm I wonder how this situation could’ve been avoided?
When I was 18 I thought I was so mature I even wanted to marry my partner at that time. I was actually super childish & irresponsible. 18 year old are not adults yet mentally, so while people will argue 18 means you're an adult, I say no lol 😆
I agree. At age 18 I was VERY much still a child. And yet look at all these dudes in the comments, arguing that girls )and it's always girls, never boys) should be allowed to marry older men at 18 or younger. I'm disgusted, but not surprised.
Finally someone sane. A human brain isnt even fully developed by the age of 18. Yet many these days take it as some miraculous age where a person becomes enlightened and knows the correct from the wrong and is absolutely responsible
@@Anonymous-md2qp Believe it or not, but even in Western European countries they make exceptions. In certain Western European countries (I think Sweden, Netherlands, and the UK) if foreigners come in with 12 year old brides, the marriage stands.
I grew up in the Kingston group centred in Utah and Idaho. this video doesn't even scratch the surface of what is really going on. Everything this video speaks of is true.
Had a classmate forced into marriage by her mother , she did not wanna be married and was already dating a guy in his early 20s .. she was never pregnant, her parents parents forced it on her . I heard their still together .. but I remember she wasn't happy about it.
I think I'm reading this wrong cause it makes perfect sense for parents to only let their kids date if they are mature enough...I don't get why they'd let them date if they aren't.
@@blazestar4747 I wouldn't even bother engaging with them..just by the few statements they made its obvious that u can't have any kind of reasonable or informed conversation with people like that
@terminallyCapricious oop, read it wrong lol. Still, there are quite a few decently smart Republicans, and there are no statistics (that I know of) saying they are more okay with underage marriage. Tho you do you ^^
Aaand this is why I hate arranged marriages in general, ESPECIALLY if it involves a minor. It really says a lot about a parent if they're seriously willing to pressure their child into it
Arranged marriage, if I was in one, I would just stare at the girl and be really confused. Won’t marry until stable in life, but I’ll just stare in pure confusion
I am so shy, it's probably going to have to be arranged marriage for me but it's not that bad really I would rather have a not so good marriage compared to never being married.
Most of people age 20+ act childish and even can't get a hold of their responsibility... How do you expect those under 20 have the responsibility for marriage?! Please... Married when you're ready, not because of a pressure!
@@ASA-yo9iz even if 15 can be responsible... They CANNOT be responsible for something they shouldn't how hard you wanted to make it acceptable 15 is still teens, most of the time their actions based on their feelings. People wanted everyone under their age to become responsible but forgot the main problem that there are certain ages you can't entrust that kind of resposibility and expect people to have the same mindset of responsibility regardless of their way of thinking, behaviour and types of people
Adli, I think you are correct. Previous generations. Our grandparents would mature faster and get married at younger ages. It's the current generation that thinks they are still underdeveloped babies at 18..
Thank you for sharing this. My ex-fiance tried to marry me when I was 17. Thank goodness my parents said no, and I was able to get out of the siutation. He tried to get me to elope, and I only escaped because I went to college two states away.
I was a child bride. But I was escaping physical and mental abuse that I regularly endured at the hands of my mother . And my husband wasn't a bad man so it was better than staying at home.
I'm gald you got out of an abusive situation. So happy that the guy you ended up with was kind to you. CPS should have stepped in so that you didn't need to runaway. Wishing you well. Hope that your are healing from your experience
Why do I feel like he roofied(idk how it’s spelled) the poor girl in the beginning. Idk why but she didn’t remember anything at all. As far as we know, she drank one beer. If she had more then that would make sense. Even still you would remember through flashbacks. I’m a bit uneducated on this sort of thing, but I’m just getting vibes of this.
My mother was a child bride. My siblings and I are the result of that horrific marriage. The amount of rage I feel knowing that this is still happening. That parents still have the right to essentially sell their children off.
@@mythicalmining7999 Sigh. Another childish mind that doesn't understand anything about what's going on. Lemme guess. You think that what happened to her was "no big deal", too?
Well thank goodness Heather's mom had better sense than the father.. ffs.. I also feel like if both parents are present in the person's life, it should take consent from both before anything goes ahead..
Only responsible people who actually care about the child have any rights to say anything in this. Blood does not matter. Also the last word is always the person's who owns that life(does not matter the age). They know deep inside that they are uncomfortable with this/it is unnatural but children unfortunately sometimes desperately trying to please others(especially adults) around them for approval. This is why adult should know better and should show a good example instead to further protect them(as what their duty is) instead of trying to use them. It is so disappointing and disgusting. One of the worst kinds of betrayals.
As a libertarian myself I am 100% AGAINST child marriage I honestly think that the legal age to marry should be 20-21 so that adults have life experience before they marry
Also we should thrive to show a good example ourselves to others so they are motivated to actually do the right thing/do what they really want. A lot marriages happen because of nonsense social pressures instead of free will. We should help people realize what they actually want and need in their lives not forcing our believes(respect for the ones who never did this to others) on them!
I agree. My parents married when my mom was eighteen. It was only a day or two after both her b-day and high school graduation. When she told me that I remember thinking "Where the heck was your mother?" The sad thing was my mom had the opportunity to receive a higher education due to grandpa's military service. I just don't understand my grandma not trying to talk sense into my mom.
If someone tells you that you’re‘mature for your age’- run. You might be competent, mature, interested, able to handle yourself-they don’t like you for your maturity. Quite the opposite
Instead of prosecuting the predators the law rewards them with marriage licenses, disgusting. I'm proud of the survivors that have spoken out against it.
My relatives told me I was going to get married while underage. (We are actually white Americans.) The minimum age should be 18, 19, 20, 21, maybe 22, or even 25. I'm an adult now, and I'm sometimes afraid they'll force into into a forced/arranged marriage.
I got married at 19, and 15 years later looking back on it, it was very dumb and I was WAYYY to young. I cannot imagine being married as a literal child.
Tbh im not surpised alot of things you think would only happen in third world countries are surpisingly more than common here in the states. Its just i wanna say pushed under the rug here cause idk America?
A little tip to the voiceover artist from elementary school - the word Chaste ends with a "silent/bossy e", meaning that the previous vowel is pronounced with the long vowel sound rather than short. Ergo, the word is not pronounced "Chast" but, rather, pronounced like the word "chased". This has been your educational moment for the day.
My godmother got married 12 years old My godfather was 30 years old Domestic violence Hit her and puncher slap her Cheats on her with 20 woman He does not work. My grandmother has two jobs She prays for rent PG&E water bill She has three little girls
I just looked it up and where I live you can get married at 17 with parental consent. But the minimum is 12 for girls and 14 for boys with the approval by a judge. That made me physically nauseous.
"If all child marriage are banned it can restricts some ib the military from getting certain benefits...." Excuse me, are you letting children join the army!?
@@gerrymandarin6388 I've heard that, too. I don't think it's common (any more) and may have to do with someone graduating from a military school before they are 18.
I have a friend who told me how her in her family they don’t let a girl live in her dads house after the age of 18 (they get a girl married before the age of 18 or at the age). Her cousin got married at 15. It’s disgusting how common it is in my country
This just goes to show how biased Western media can be. Every time when I had heard of child brides it was always about Yemenis. Come on US even my country India had outlawed child marriages despite it being part of thousands of years in our culture.
As a Registered "Constitution Party" Member, it pains me to say that America has become Hypocritical about MANY THINGS. Our Founders are so Ashamed at This Point.
Under old English law which was around when the US was founded, children as young as 12 could get married. Other countries had similar or no laws. Standards were really different back then around the world, but nowadays those standards would be abusive
@@josh_final My grandfather is trying to wrestle the cognitive dissonance in his head that historically Mary from the Bible would have likely been around 13.
My grandmother was 15 when she married my grandfather, who was 29. They were married for 24 years and had five children before he was killed in an accident. When she had been a widow for 50 years, someone asked her why she had never remarried. Without missing a beat, she replied, 'I got the best on the first try. There was no sense in trying again'. She survived him by 57 years, and is buried next to him.
So none of these participatory judges have heard of parental pressure or being too immature to make a huge decision like this? "Is this what you want, girl with two entire families standing right behind you?"
My mom was 15 when she got married, my dad was 21. This was in 1999. All of my grandparents were ok with it. It was a normal thing for my culture back in the day. But now most of the grandkids are young adults 18-23. My parents are happy together, but often fight which is normal
parents that often fight isn't normal in every culture, especially if you look at the rules of engagement, when some fight is it just a discussion, for others it's yelling, insulting, violent, deadly etc. I'll bet you accept way worse treatment from men than women in my culture, I hope I'm wrong though
the amount of people in this comment section who have pedophiles for fathers is genuinely heartbreaking. fighting often is not normal, the occasional argument is normal, but fighting is not.
Yeah can you imagine helping a couple to switch a flat tire in a undeveloped country and them offering their daughter to you as a bride in payment!? (Honestly I think I would just take her and legally adopt her i always wanted a little sister).
80% of comments: "end it, a child can't consent." 20% of comments: *incoherent rambling and nonsensical arguments defending child marriage*. I'm honestly shocked how many people in the comments are actually trying to defend child marriage.
My classmates always talk about marrying already in a young age" and I always had to tell them to finish school first, They never listen but this video just proven my point
As a child who was groomed myself, I fully agree with the 18 and up policy. It was very difficult as a single mom. I worked menial jobs often two at once while getting a degree. And even after my degree, life still didn’t get any better. Only once I married my now husband. Society isn’t set up for minors and women. Just rich old white men with land. That’s it.
I think they should add a warning before they go for marriage They should add a warning "Are you sure that you want your partner with you right now to be married with you? If you want to Are you sure? Are you prepared for challenges and hard obstacles? Then if you think you are Then let's proceed to the discussion"
I mean there kindof is when the wedding happens, its not exactly a warning but more or less covering the bases making sure you understand what you're getting into, most people just don't take the whole, "in sickness and in health, for better and for worse" part that seriously
@@XenosImplyer well idk I said "something like that" -w-' People may ignore it tho But atleast they tried warning them more atleast XD Maybe might lessen it? Idk depends
@@XenosImplyer yes it might pressure the wedding But mostly when your taking a wedding It also means when you have married to someone that means you will take any obstacles and any problems with them and even live your life with them But the reason why their should be more of a proper warnings is the fact that They ignored sometimes the promises on marriages Its oky to pressure someone tho Atleast it's not too much I was thinking more like this warning "Listen carefully sir and mam Are you both sure that you talked about this?, Are you willing to take any obstacles with them and to be with each other for the rest of your life? If you are then let's proceed with the discussion" It might be strict and mean tho when you think of it the warning is just trying to protect you and to give you a 2nd chance to think about it more than ever
The fact that this sort of thing can exist/ happen is just so weird and disgusting. No one below the age of 18 should get married especially if the significant other is way older than said 18 year old.
it makes no difference age wise, a 14 year old shouldn't marry a 14 year old. Marriage is a legal contract that is usually the result of conservative and religious pressure. Nobody is mature enough to make a lifelong legal contract
A lot of these kids are forced against their will to get married to men much older than them, (mostly young girls), and forced to stay married and do things they don't want to do. Isn't that kidnapping and false imprisonment?
Sounds like marriage is used as legal protection for the man involved when they abuse a young girl. We should just call it what it is and not allow them to marry to avoid being called a predator.
My Mother had an Indian friend when she was young. It was during the 70s. Nina was her name, and she was forcibly married off to a man twice her age... The Husband was abusive and locks her into her room so she can't escape, she took her own life. My mother often recounts on how beautiful Nina was, so young ~ not even 17. Dowry talks....
Western world: The Third World needs to ban child marriage. Also Western world: *allows child marriage* It’s embarrassing when ZIMBABWE of all countries is actually a step ahead. That judge that said Keith should spend the same amount of days in prison as Heather was married was cool tho.
There have been many instances in Western countries where minors get married to adults. Also, there's a religious group known as the Mormons that marries young girls to older men in polygamous marriages.
This is very true. Also the judge that sentenced Keith was awesome. Though to be honest, prison is probably better than the situation Heather was in when she was married
I know a couple they got married she was 14 he was 19. they got married because she got pregnant. They stayed married for 30 years and had a total of three wonderful children. I am the oldest of those children.
I heard from my mother that her grandmother had married at the age of 10 or something to a good charactered and handsome male (I do not know the age of grandfather). I heard they had a happy life but I never saw my mother's grandfather since he died before I was born and my mom's grandmother died when I was 9 or something I don't remember.
I’ve seen a 14 yr old married to a man in his 40’s in America. Apparently it was legal because they married in an Asian country then moved to the USA... Don’t know if it is still legal.
Want to combat this atrocity? Teach children that the point of dating is to find a spouse. Teach children that if you don't want to become a parent then don't do the things that'll make you a parent. Teach the truth about the hardships of being a single parent. Educate them in unconditional love and respect. Give them "the reasons why or why not". It works!
My grandmother got married when she was 15 to a man who was 34 years old, later having my dad at age 17, his siblings probably a bit later. Neither her nor my grandfather had any say in this since, in Iran, the family goes up to another family and sets the two up, at least from my understanding of what was going on at the time. My grandma split up with him after she moved to America, I’m pretty sure. My dad told me that, since she had never dated prior to the marriage, and never really had that time to herself, she never really matured enough, which is why he distanced himself from her because they always get into fights.
I almost got married as a minor, I have been with my bf since I was 14 now I am 17. However we thought I was pregnant when I was 14, and in California when you turn 16 if you have parents consent you can get married so that was our plan. Looking back it’s insane and shouldn’t even be possible. To think I wanted something just because it’s allowed, and also the fact that it poses as a danger to many is so disturbing to me
That was the whole reason I started smoking, because it was allowed. I needed something that made me feel like an adult and something to help me self-medicate. If smoking wasn't legal, I never would have tried it.
my grandma got married at 15 and had my uncle when she was 16. however, they both were 15 and 16, and this took place in the late 50s… a very different time
My name is Aaron and my gf's name is Heather. The beginning of this video was very disturbing. Fortunately, she was 24 and I was 27 when we met. Still creepy.
"Better brides because they are more malleable." In better words, they are kids and kids are easier to manipulate. People never cease to suprise me...
Humanity is an infestation
This surprises you? Oh... guess I'm jaded now
that's so discussing
this is so sad
@@blackcopycat4967 *disgusting
100% agreed
My mom got married as a 14 year old. Her husband was a senior, so 18 I believe. She had a really hard time breaking free from him. Thankfully she didn’t have any kids and could split from him cleanly. He was a horrible, awful person but my mom is the strongest person I know.
A lot of respect for your mother
@Bacon Pancakes Obviously she got remarried (no hate just saying)
@@tarnishe-x7l but how does you know this no offence
@@tarnishe-x7l I thought you know him personally
@@multientertainers Not really no i just know the possibilities.
I just want to say that, that mom was the true MVP of this story. If I was divorced and my child went to visit her father and he allowed all of those things to happen behind my back I would be LIVID.
That mother really went above-and-beyond to protect her daughter.
I wouldn’t want to be married at freaking 16 though I am not emotionally ready for marriage
IKR that mom is a badass 😎
only problem with it being that she knowingly sent her child away to her husband who she knew was a cult member
I would even got the guts to beat him up
honestly as a minor myself, the fact that any parents would let their minor child get married is insane
Cps should be called on those parents
@@ShenaniganEntertainment I mean child protective services
My parents dont even want me dating at 16 marrying at 16 is just insane
Well as a fellow minor I agree but it depends on the belief of that parent
@@Goldeagleactual belief is Never an excuse for child abuse
I hate people who pressure their kids
To marry especially when they are under 18
Me too. These marriages are abomidable.
I feel like people should be able to get married at the age of 25+ and be adults at 22 instead of 18..
@K - Dot only if they're ready
My parents had a shotgun wedding, my mom was 17, they were happily married until my dad's death in 2015.
I think it depends on culture. American culture is too Luke warm and you're treated like infants until you're 30 so of course a 15 year old woman from America shouldn't get married.
Even though that was the norm all over the world until about 60 years ago.
And I'm saying 15 year old woman because in nature there is adult and child no middle. If she gets pregnant she's biologically a woman and no longer a girl.
I agree. But I perfer under 21.
I remember a girl from my psychology class during college. She was heavily pregnant but still attending classes. One time, we had a game in class where we pick a piece of paper from the glass bowl and read the question and answer it in front of the class. She got the question of 'If you can turn back time, what event you want to change from your past? ' then she answered when she got married. She told us she's adopted and her adopted parents forced her to marry. She begged them not to but they never felt pity on her. That's when she realized her adopted parents never love her. In a shaky voice and teary eyes, she told us that if she could turn back time she will escape and do everything in her power not to be married. I feel so sorry for her. That is when I realized how she was always look sad and quiet. She just got married and got pregnant right away.
Poor her,must be a hard life. 😨
so sad. so so sad.
Boul?
Por her I hope she has the best time rn
Poor
Religious significance or not, I'll never understand why this hasn't been outlawed yet.
prob cuz not all of them are horror stories like in the vid and most end bc they're just using it to being someone into the US
i don't think it needs to be outlawed, just reworked
@@theanimehomie9078 How is a child getting married to an adult ever not a horror story??
@@theanimehomie9078 they can just wait till their 18
Because there are societies within the US it is accepted by their entire culture, even children, as a way of life and I feel we have no right to interfere. However, I do believe that there should be restrictions on why. It makes sense if it is there cultural but as in instances such as this, there is no cultural or even religious reason why a marriage makes sense. It was simply a child predator and should have been prevented. Now, is there room for error? Yes. Absolutely. And we should work hard to make sure it happens as little times as possible...or never.
@@volzaac Regardless of "culture" child marriage needs to be outlawed. There's being respectful to a religious belief but the need to protect children should always be paramount. There can't be one rule for children in a secular society and one rule for children in a "religious" or "culturally different" one. Child marriage just stinks of child abuse.
So you can get married underage but can't file a divorce or seek protection against domestic violence underage ........Laws🙄
Precisely
It's cuz when you get married underage, your parents sign away their parental rights to your husband
@@NYD666 It's more terrifying
@@NYD666 So your husband is also your parent??? AMERICA STOPPP
@@nennejoh SWEET HOME ALABAMA
I remember i was helping this 15yo pregnant girl with some paper work and I asked for the baby fathers DOB... This man was in his 40s.
Apparently, this young girl had just arrived from Mexico at 13/14yo. The father of her baby was her dad's boss and her parents had a written letter how they are aware and give the responsibility to the 40yo sicko.
It sickened me. Parents are supposed to protect you and these parents just gave her away. I'm sure to benefit themselves in some way.
Obvious it arrange marriage for the parents so they can receive money from the boss. And some benefits
Cartel. Good old dad was probably afraid for his life.
Moral of the story hear kids don't ever go in a van with strangers it never ends well
And they rode in the same van for 17 hours to get married
Child marriage isnt all that bad , it mainly depends on how well the parents are idk if islam allows it im pretty sure it dose basically it depends how it all goes
@Jon Henry Darby 😑 bro I said it depends
Moral of the story: religion is abusive
Or come to USA border with strangers according to the news
This is somehow more disturbing than the serial killer videos
Nah, serial killer is more scary
Ntn disturbing about the serial killer videos
Because there are 0 groups agitating to make serial killings legal
this guys are weird as heck
@Bear Wilson yeah fair point
@@godsofourland95 And in addition to that, the victims of serial killers only suffer untill the killers had their fix and that's it. Here the victims suffer for many many years, and depending on the culture they're married in, even many years after a divorce.
If 'your' argument is, that its easier to control a girl when shes a teen, 'you're' a predator and 'you' should not be allowed around other people. Thats my take..
@March Reighly socyopaths
why are you putting you in quotes
@@gregory6619 I think he is trying to imply that they aren't even people anymore but I don't know for sure...
More people need to read this. When he said that some prefer mothers to be teenagers to mold them, it made me so disgusted and angry.
EXACLY
Child Marriage is something that should be made illegal, as it really adds unnecessary stress on an already stressful point in life.
Disagree with that. I support marriage at age 10, people have too much rights nowadays, and stuff like jobs and education should not be a given. People should have the opportunity to opt out of school and live off the land at any age and not have to suffer from pressures of living a modern life.
I agree.
@@1mol831 🧐? 2-3 things I get from this.
1.You’re either a male who enjoys them younger and “fruitful”
2. Seeking bad attention
3. 3rd world country
Yep yep
@@hirahiro2331 4. Trolling (perhaps falls under 2)
Me: *reads title*
every sane cell in my body: “I’M CALLING THE POLICE!!!”
Lol. Even if you do. They will do nothing about it.
U need to have a phone for each cell
Hold up does that mean you have insane cells as well
@@BioHazzarrd *perhaps.*
@Emanuelgamer 1313 hol up, what?
(•_•).....
"Teeage girls make better spouses as they are more malleable." WUT. I-- HOW DOES THAT NOT SCREAM "GROOMING"
Ikr 😭😭
@@nelofarazmat4829 :( :( T_T
@Cj C yeah that’s messed up
@Cj C i wanna move to Texas, NOW.
@Cj C do you have any examples of them if they are real?
Oh no, a relationship between a minor and a adult didn't work out, who could have seen this coming(sarcasm)
If you aren't old enough to drive, drink, or have a stable job, you have no real business getting married
Welp the age of drinking is 21 so the drinking argument made more sense 30-40 years ago because the ago of drinking was 18 which is the age of majority aka the age of which a person is considered an adult
Note: I'm not defending weird stuff I just believe that more 18 years should get married
@@simonpetrikov3992 I know you aren't defending child marriage, if you were then that'll make you my enemy.
I disagree, people shouldn't be allowed to marry at the age of 18 or 19(key word "teen") because they're either in high school or just freshly out, they are barely starting their lives as adults. The earliest age someone should marry is at the age of 20 but if it where up to me people should marry at the age of 24-30 because by then the individuals are already fully formed adults with their own lives in order.
Answer me this, would you marry someone who is unemployed, bad with money, immature and has no real skills?
That most people at 18-23, don't marry a mess, marry the final product 24-30
@@quaktoons331 no I wouldn't also I tried coming up with an age of consent within my intelligence and somehow had a line of reasoning justifying why the age of consent should be 20 years old
I guess we're on a Similar wavelength to that
@@quaktoons331 But aGe iS jUsT a nUmBErR!!a11
@@Mii.2.0 And a prison cell is just a room.
I had a child at 16 and the father was 19 my parents wanted me to get married and his parents did as well but I was going through with it for their sake and not my own luckily for me my dad had just gotten married to my wonderful step mom and she was the only one who bothered to ask me how I actually felt about it and when I told her I didn’t want to she told everyone I should wait until after I turned 18. We never got married he left before then
I hope his name was on the birth certificate, and you sued for child support. Teen pregnancy is wrong. If I had had a daughter, she would have been put on the birth control implant, whether she wanted it or not, and if she was still living under my roof. However, I never had kids. Too much of a hassle. Horses are much better. (Jan Griffiths).
@@douglasgriffiths3534 only go threw with pregnancy if u have a stable income and everything and also planned it, rather than it being a random thing
@@jensenmathews3979 While I'm definitely pro-choice, abortion is a stressful and dangerous procedure, and a lot of people's personal beliefs don't align with having the practice themselves. While safe abortions should be available, it's better if the approach to this topic is making contraceptives and protection more widespread to prevent unwanted pregnancies in the first place!
@@douglasgriffiths3534 brith control hurts the female body and when using it for a long time, could make getting pregnant very difficult so i don’t think you should “make her” take it, just make her be careful
@@douglasgriffiths3534 uh what?
Thank goodness that Heather had a responsible mother who fought for her and got her out of the mess that her father got her into.
What's worse is the father didn't want her dating the boy from school...but it's okay for her to MARRY a 28 year old?! 🤦🏾♀️
@@BewareTheLilyOfTheValley wasn't that the second story? the first guy was 24
@@BewareTheLilyOfTheValley it's usually about control, that feeling, over someones life "because i said so"...i know from personal experience about my fam not letting even be friends with people i chose.
@@tishaprnucedteasha that's still not okay 😃
@@KadenceSuna i never said it was ok? i was just correcting them they got the stories mixed up which could confuse some ppl it confused me why are u putting words in my mouth?
thank you so much for covering this. like you said, lots of people think this only happens in third world countries, but it happens in the us quite a bit. hopefully some people learned something from this video.
Agreed, thank you for mentioning that Christians/conservative in America are the ones perpetuating child marriage. Please do more to highlight this without being so concerned the conservatives will cancel you, it's very obvious that there was careful editing of the script to take special care not to offend them.
@@mythicalmining7999 ?
@@mythicalmining7999 ?
@@crystalcat1002 Child marriage laws are defended by Christian conservatives in America.
???
These videos are getting more and more odd... KEEP EM COMING!
Can I get some ramen
Plot twisted: the Ramen guy is the final boss.
@@mrbeanbigpeanus6875 That’s the top anime betrayal
L
This is gold
It’s crazy to think that contracts signed by minors are invalid no exception, but can marry under certain circumstances, which is a lifetime commitment, especially with kids involved.
Student loans are accepted contracts with a lifetime commitment as well. Both practices are predatory.
exactly.
As an American, I knew that marriage is legal for 16 year olds but I had no idea it was this deep and shady. I always had the impression that that law only affects consenting 16 year olds and no adults. This story of Heather and Aaron is why young teen girls shouldn't be allowed to get married. This is shocking to hear how common this is in the U.S...
You do realise 16 is legal in Britain right
@@SIGSEGV1337 It's about America, not Great Britain.
@@SIGSEGV1337 My dude, I think you misread the video's title.
Yeah same here.. I think that's about what I thought - that 2 young people could get married. Pretty messed up...
you do realize that she did consent to everything that happened to her though..
she said yes when under the influence
she said yes to her parents
she said yes the town hall
she said yes to the priest
yes what happened was unfortunate and iffy but she did consent. next time you find yourself in a relationship with a 25 year old guy as a 15 yr old girl dont say. "what kind of girl dates 25 yr old boys"
ask "what kind of guy dates 15 yr old girls"
When you knock up someone underage so you have to get married to them because you don’t wanna go to jail. Hmm I wonder how this situation could’ve been avoided?
Aborting the kid and making a police call
@@Diamondr11Blue or just don't drink at age 15.
@@KandyBoy69 What does drinking have to do with it?
@@KandyBoy69 or Aaron could’ve kept his hands to himself
The Rubber
Every adult in Heather’s situation apart from her mother failed her.
you don't know that
@@aprilgosa5779
Did you not watch the video?? It's clear they did- they even let her be in the presence of a predator for a good amount of her life.
I misread as “every adolf in hitler’s situation apart from her mother failed her”
@@cr0wythefirst. huh ?
@@cr0wythefirst. same
When I was 18 I thought I was so mature I even wanted to marry my partner at that time. I was actually super childish & irresponsible. 18 year old are not adults yet mentally, so while people will argue 18 means you're an adult, I say no lol 😆
I agree. At age 18 I was VERY much still a child. And yet look at all these dudes in the comments, arguing that girls )and it's always girls, never boys) should be allowed to marry older men at 18 or younger. I'm disgusted, but not surprised.
İ dont understand that rule youre 18 and you are all of the sudden mature you are mature when youre mentally ready in my opinion
Ah yes because you ONE person, was immature at the time means everyone at 18 is
Finally someone sane. A human brain isnt even fully developed by the age of 18.
Yet many these days take it as some miraculous age where a person becomes enlightened and knows the correct from the wrong and is absolutely responsible
You are speaking for yourself only.
It needs to become federal law that you have to be 18+ to get married with no exceptions.
Lol so it's not a law even after 2 centuries of nation building?
I'm not sure the federal government has that power under the tenth amendment.
It is the law in many countries on this planet. America is too slow and are lagging behind.
@@Anonymous-md2qp Believe it or not, but even in Western European countries they make exceptions. In certain Western European countries (I think Sweden, Netherlands, and the UK) if foreigners come in with 12 year old brides, the marriage stands.
@@akidmyself4053 That is devastating.
I grew up in the Kingston group centred in Utah and Idaho. this video doesn't even scratch the surface of what is really going on. Everything this video speaks of is true.
can you share more?
I like this only to bring this comment on to the top
These parents ruined these kids lives.
In some cases, the kids would probally died if they didn't
Fr tho
@@kamarulbahrain4869 I mean that tru too...
Yes that is very true
EXACTLY!!!!!
"BuT tHeY'rE MaRrRiED, It'S LeGaL ReEee!"
"Cool story bro, now please face the wall."
*loads gun* what’s that?
Nothing, keep your face on the wall!
Underrated comment.
@@sunsetanimator4187 ofc yeah why?
Had a classmate forced into marriage by her mother , she did not wanna be married and was already dating a guy in his early 20s .. she was never pregnant, her parents parents forced it on her . I heard their still together .. but I remember she wasn't happy about it.
which parent would let their child or children go out on the streets to look for dates, only if they were mature enough, WHOO!?
I think I'm reading this wrong cause it makes perfect sense for parents to only let their kids date if they are mature enough...I don't get why they'd let them date if they aren't.
@terminallyCapricious what's wrong with Republicans? 🤣 and why'd you have to bring politics into this?
@@blazestar4747 he's saying they do stuff like this u idiot
@@blazestar4747 I wouldn't even bother engaging with them..just by the few statements they made its obvious that u can't have any kind of reasonable or informed conversation with people like that
@terminallyCapricious oop, read it wrong lol. Still, there are quite a few decently smart Republicans, and there are no statistics (that I know of) saying they are more okay with underage marriage. Tho you do you ^^
Aaand this is why I hate arranged marriages in general, ESPECIALLY if it involves a minor. It really says a lot about a parent if they're seriously willing to pressure their child into it
Arranged marriage, if I was in one, I would just stare at the girl and be really confused. Won’t marry until stable in life, but I’ll just stare in pure confusion
I am so shy, it's probably going to have to be arranged marriage for me but it's not that bad really I would rather have a not so good marriage compared to never being married.
@@Hi-vo9ku Honestly, sometimes it's better not to be married than to be in a marriage that's not so good. Emotionally at least.
And so my faith in humanity continues to decrease with each passing day.
You still have faith i lost all my faith
@@pingilidamodarreedy813 Me too.
@pingili Damodarreedy me too
Currently it's negative
I feel sorry for all of you, I never had faith to begin with!
Most of people age 20+ act childish and even can't get a hold of their responsibility... How do you expect those under 20 have the responsibility for marriage?!
Please... Married when you're ready, not because of a pressure!
Well said
@@ASA-yo9iz even if 15 can be responsible... They CANNOT be responsible for something they shouldn't how hard you wanted to make it acceptable 15 is still teens, most of the time their actions based on their feelings. People wanted everyone under their age to become responsible but forgot the main problem that there are certain ages you can't entrust that kind of resposibility and expect people to have the same mindset of responsibility regardless of their way of thinking, behaviour and types of people
@@ASA-yo9iz exactly! But what can we do to fix, most of them just ignore and probably lash out if it doesn't fit their agenda lol
Adli, I think you are correct. Previous generations. Our grandparents would mature faster and get married at younger ages. It's the current generation that thinks they are still underdeveloped babies at 18..
@@natashalaurentia2763 Concept of 18 year old being legally adult is relatively new idea. Before that many societies didn't follow this rule....
"Early marriages can reduce children born out of wedlock. "
Well, yeah, but that doesn't mean that teen pregnancy itself is going down.
some conservative ideology. as long as it looks moral on paper!
Thank you for sharing this. My ex-fiance tried to marry me when I was 17. Thank goodness my parents said no, and I was able to get out of the siutation. He tried to get me to elope, and I only escaped because I went to college two states away.
Some children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children.
I was a child bride. But I was escaping physical and mental abuse that I regularly endured at the hands of my mother . And my husband wasn't a bad man so it was better than staying at home.
I'm gald you got out of an abusive situation. So happy that the guy you ended up with was kind to you.
CPS should have stepped in so that you didn't need to runaway. Wishing you well. Hope that your are healing from your experience
I can't believe you only got one comment from all the negativity losers.
@@amandam480
Because CPS workers somehow are special magical people 🤣
@@Most_Trustworthy_Weasel never claimed they were. Its a shame that so many fall through the system.
Do you mind me asking how old you guys were when you guys first got married
Why do I feel like he roofied(idk how it’s spelled) the poor girl in the beginning. Idk why but she didn’t remember anything at all. As far as we know, she drank one beer. If she had more then that would make sense. Even still you would remember through flashbacks. I’m a bit uneducated on this sort of thing, but I’m just getting vibes of this.
Agreed
He had to roofie her, unless she handles alcohol very terribly.
Even so, a 28 year old should not be giving alcohol to a minor
@@time2livelife I mean, that's what we have been saying.
Dude was in the wrong and deserves to be castrated and stay in jail forever.
If she was 15 then she probably hadn't drunken beer before and might just not have tolerance
I’m surprised that there wasn’t any cases stated in Alabama.
Well I think they try to avoid the SUPER obvious ones, just to keep us entertained, you know?
As far as I know they keep it in family.
@@hakimdiwan5101 SWEET HOME ALABAMA 😏😏
@@Shotos.Cottoncandy_ Hello fellow man of culture ;)
You can't marry your daughter.
My mother was a child bride. My siblings and I are the result of that horrific marriage. The amount of rage I feel knowing that this is still happening. That parents still have the right to essentially sell their children off.
Why was the 15 yo living with her dad when this was what he ended up doing. Like, what was the home life like up to that point.
lol bro stop projecting. What was your childhood like?
@@mythicalmining7999 I’m sure they didn’t get married at age 15
Do you not listen? She was only visiting for the summer
Because that was their custody agreement. The girl had no choice but to stay with him.
@@mythicalmining7999 Sigh. Another childish mind that doesn't understand anything about what's going on. Lemme guess. You think that what happened to her was "no big deal", too?
Well thank goodness Heather's mom had better sense than the father.. ffs.. I also feel like if both parents are present in the person's life, it should take consent from both before anything goes ahead..
Only responsible people who actually care about the child have any rights to say anything in this. Blood does not matter.
Also the last word is always the person's who owns that life(does not matter the age). They know deep inside that they are uncomfortable with this/it is unnatural but children unfortunately sometimes desperately trying to please others(especially adults) around them for approval.
This is why adult should know better and should show a good example instead to further protect them(as what their duty is) instead of trying to use them. It is so disappointing and disgusting. One of the worst kinds of betrayals.
As a libertarian myself I am 100% AGAINST child marriage
I honestly think that the legal age to marry should be 20-21 so that adults have life experience before they marry
As a fellow libertarian I agree. If someone wants to get married they should not only be old enough, but also mature enough to take it seriously.
Same thoughts here.
Also we should thrive to show a good example ourselves to others so they are motivated to actually do the right thing/do what they really want. A lot marriages happen because of nonsense social pressures instead of free will.
We should help people realize what they actually want and need in their lives not forcing our believes(respect for the ones who never did this to others) on them!
I agree. My parents married when my mom was eighteen. It was only a day or two after both her b-day and high school graduation. When she told me that I remember thinking "Where the heck was your mother?" The sad thing was my mom had the opportunity to receive a higher education due to grandpa's military service. I just don't understand my grandma not trying to talk sense into my mom.
Why not hike it up to 26?? Even better than life experience.. a fully formed brain!!
If someone tells you that you’re‘mature for your age’- run. You might be competent, mature, interested, able to handle yourself-they don’t like you for your maturity. Quite the opposite
Drake 🔔
Ah yes, basically the discord mods.
I think the only time it's okay to say that is when it's coming from a friend who's the same or at least a similar age
I honestly appreciate this channel for not staying quiet and telling the truth. You got a sub!!
Instead of prosecuting the predators the law rewards them with marriage licenses, disgusting. I'm proud of the survivors that have spoken out against it.
This is genuinely heartbreaking
My relatives told me I was going to get married while underage. (We are actually white Americans.) The minimum age should be 18, 19, 20, 21, maybe 22, or even 25. I'm an adult now, and I'm sometimes afraid they'll force into into a forced/arranged marriage.
Just don't sign anything and if they force you record yourself stating you don't consent.
This is sick and should come with a very harsh sentence for the adults involved.
I got married at 19, and 15 years later looking back on it, it was very dumb and I was WAYYY to young. I cannot imagine being married as a literal child.
40 and 50 year olds who marry never divorce and find other partners either.... idiot.
It’s weird that this is common in the States
Tbh im not surpised alot of things you think would only happen in third world countries are surpisingly more than common here in the states. Its just i wanna say pushed under the rug here cause idk America?
Happens in France too. The finger-pointing west is hypocritical as f#*$
Quite obviously not common and it doesnt happen only in the States. You should see what the gypsys in Europe do, from the age of 8! Oh lord.
Agreed. This really makes me sick.
As a 14 1/2 year old myself I guarantee you that no-one my age should get married.
I hope everything goes well with Heather. Thank you for the update, The Infographics Show..!!
Pov: you watched one vid and now you’re addicted to these vids
Happened years ago to me
@@cosmickeyboard9811 same
periodt
📠
Been addicted for years
A little tip to the voiceover artist from elementary school - the word Chaste ends with a "silent/bossy e", meaning that the previous vowel is pronounced with the long vowel sound rather than short. Ergo, the word is not pronounced "Chast" but, rather, pronounced like the word "chased".
This has been your educational moment for the day.
Yes, thank you, that was bugging me. I thought maybe I had been mispronouncing it for over 30 years. I've never heard 'Chast' before.
My godmother got married 12 years old
My godfather was 30 years old
Domestic violence
Hit her and puncher slap her
Cheats on her with 20 woman
He does not work.
My grandmother has two jobs
She prays for rent PG&E water bill
She has three little girls
She deserve a life that is a million times better!
Please protect the babies yall my heart was hurting this whole video my blood is boiling!!!!
I really think we need to outlaw marriage for any persons 18 years or under. No exceptions
I just looked it up and where I live you can get married at 17 with parental consent.
But the minimum is 12 for girls and 14 for boys with the approval by a judge.
That made me physically nauseous.
Why is it lower for girls though? To me it should be the other way around.
Where do you live?
👏WHERE👏DO👏YOU👏LIVE?!
@@Mii.2.0 I live in Washington state. I haven't been a fan my entire life, but this definitely cemented it.
@@octoberboiy that's exactly what I was wondering. Yeah girls mature faster than boys, but this is unacceptable.
"If all child marriage are banned it can restricts some ib the military from getting certain benefits...." Excuse me, are you letting children join the army!?
Lol exactly, a lot of these excuses to not ban it are flimsy AF. Change the Military too, while you are at it...
They are married to the minors
Yes, I've heard claims that in some cases 17 year olds can enlist, although I'm not certain as to the accuracy of that statement.
@@gerrymandarin6388 I've heard that, too. I don't think it's common (any more) and may have to do with someone graduating from a military school before they are 18.
its cool that although brief, you adressed the issues for underage men as well.
I have a friend who told me how her in her family they don’t let a girl live in her dads house after the age of 18 (they get a girl married before the age of 18 or at the age). Her cousin got married at 15. It’s disgusting how common it is in my country
Where are you from? It's very common where I live too
which country
@@philoslother4602 Sounds like in the middle east.
@@killertruth186 Nah sounds more like South Asia,Basically they marry them early because of economic reasons.
I’m from Pakistan
This just goes to show how biased Western media can be. Every time when I had heard of child brides it was always about Yemenis. Come on US even my country India had outlawed child marriages despite it being part of thousands of years in our culture.
I didn't know this still happends in the US, thanks infographics!
As a Registered "Constitution Party" Member, it pains me to say that America has become Hypocritical about MANY THINGS. Our Founders are so Ashamed at This Point.
child marriages were even more common back when the constitution was written
Under old English law which was around when the US was founded, children as young as 12 could get married. Other countries had similar or no laws. Standards were really different back then around the world, but nowadays those standards would be abusive
@@josh_final My grandfather is trying to wrestle the cognitive dissonance in his head that historically Mary from the Bible would have likely been around 13.
My grandmother was 15 when she married my grandfather, who was 29. They were married for 24 years and had five children before he was killed in an accident. When she had been a widow for 50 years, someone asked her why she had never remarried. Without missing a beat, she replied, 'I got the best on the first try. There was no sense in trying again'. She survived him by 57 years, and is buried next to him.
Ew
@@sdneytaco2226 bruh
Uhhhhh
❤️😭❤️
Grooming runs deep.
So none of these participatory judges have heard of parental pressure or being too immature to make a huge decision like this? "Is this what you want, girl with two entire families standing right behind you?"
My mom was 15 when she got married, my dad was 21. This was in 1999. All of my grandparents were ok with it. It was a normal thing for my culture back in the day. But now most of the grandkids are young adults 18-23. My parents are happy together, but often fight which is normal
parents that often fight isn't normal in every culture, especially if you look at the rules of engagement, when some fight is it just a discussion, for others it's yelling, insulting, violent, deadly etc. I'll bet you accept way worse treatment from men than women in my culture, I hope I'm wrong though
the amount of people in this comment section who have pedophiles for fathers is genuinely heartbreaking. fighting often is not normal, the occasional argument is normal, but fighting is not.
a victim
Uh....no.
I Was a Child Bride: The Untold Story is on Hulu. Worth a watch
Yeah can you imagine helping a couple to switch a flat tire in a undeveloped country and them offering their daughter to you as a bride in payment!? (Honestly I think I would just take her and legally adopt her i always wanted a little sister).
80% of comments: "end it, a child can't consent."
20% of comments: *incoherent rambling and nonsensical arguments defending child marriage*.
I'm honestly shocked how many people in the comments are actually trying to defend child marriage.
@Robloxxyyy1 D: some comments are supporting it.
@Robloxxyyy1 D: maybe you are right. I just saw some comments supporting it.
It’s not 20%
Age is irrelevant once both adults...
Who tf wears sneakers on their wedding.
6th like, this comment will have thousands of likes
@@soulsarchive60 p
If this comment gets at least a hundred likes, I'll have a baby with my sister
@@ghamdi7077 This comment smells sweet home Alabama...😳
Sneakers can be dressed with a suit
My classmates always talk about marrying already in a young age" and I always had to tell them to finish school first, They never listen but this video just proven my point
Yep. Finish school. Get a job and do it for a year, then decide if you want to go to college or trade school or just keep working.
Thank you for bringing attention to this issue and addressing it with such care and professionalism. Not enough Americans take this seriously
it's a start but they tip toed around the cause and solution to this. ppl that vote Republican are the cause
@@mythicalmining7999 Yeah.
"Keep blaming others and eventually you won't notice your own mistakes that has been building up for a long time".
As a child who was groomed myself, I fully agree with the 18 and up policy. It was very difficult as a single mom. I worked menial jobs often two at once while getting a degree. And even after my degree, life still didn’t get any better. Only once I married my now husband. Society isn’t set up for minors and women. Just rich old white men with land. That’s it.
I think they should add a warning before they go for marriage
They should add a warning
"Are you sure that you want your partner with you right now to be married with you? If you want to
Are you sure? Are you prepared for challenges and hard obstacles? Then if you think you are
Then let's proceed to the discussion"
Or something like that -w-
I mean there kindof is when the wedding happens, its not exactly a warning but more or less covering the bases making sure you understand what you're getting into, most people just don't take the whole, "in sickness and in health, for better and for worse" part that seriously
Those warnings mean nothing when the groom or the bride is underage and can be pressured into marriage.
@@XenosImplyer well idk
I said "something like that" -w-'
People may ignore it tho
But atleast they tried warning them more atleast XD
Maybe might lessen it?
Idk depends
@@XenosImplyer yes it might pressure the wedding
But mostly when your taking a wedding
It also means when you have married to someone that means you will take any obstacles and any problems with them and even live your life with them
But the reason why their should be more of a proper warnings is the fact that
They ignored sometimes the promises on marriages
Its oky to pressure someone tho
Atleast it's not too much
I was thinking more like this warning
"Listen carefully sir and mam
Are you both sure that you talked about this?, Are you willing to take any obstacles with them and to be with each other for the rest of your life? If you are then let's proceed with the discussion"
It might be strict and mean tho when you think of it the warning is just trying to protect you and to give you a 2nd chance to think about it more than ever
Heather’s mother is the real hero.
The fact that this sort of thing can exist/ happen is just so weird and disgusting. No one below the age of 18 should get married especially if the significant other is way older than said 18 year old.
it makes no difference age wise, a 14 year old shouldn't marry a 14 year old. Marriage is a legal contract that is usually the result of conservative and religious pressure. Nobody is mature enough to make a lifelong legal contract
A lot of these kids are forced against their will to get married to men much older than them, (mostly young girls), and forced to stay married and do things they don't want to do. Isn't that kidnapping and false imprisonment?
As a conservative I've never even heard of a conservative being okay with underage marriage.
I agree. It is disgusting
Not a conservative but I imagine most conservatives would be disgusted by It
@@Sarawarawara- Sure we're about marriage, but be in your 20- sheesh! This is like weird cult kind of stuff.
@@Ieatpaste23 I agree as a conservative
i'm pretty sure it's conservative politicians, not actual people
Sounds like marriage is used as legal protection for the man involved when they abuse a young girl. We should just call it what it is and not allow them to marry to avoid being called a predator.
Agreed also happens in religious conservative communities sigh... So sad 😢
My Mother had an Indian friend when she was young. It was during the 70s. Nina was her name, and she was forcibly married off to a man twice her age...
The Husband was abusive and locks her into her room so she can't escape, she took her own life. My mother often recounts on how beautiful Nina was, so young ~ not even 17. Dowry talks....
Eh...it's common here
@@cristinewithnoh840 common. Unfortunate. And DISGUSTING!
I hate that they treat these kids like property.
Western world: The Third World needs to ban child marriage.
Also Western world: *allows child marriage*
It’s embarrassing when ZIMBABWE of all countries is actually a step ahead.
That judge that said Keith should spend the same amount of days in prison as Heather was married was cool tho.
There have been many instances in Western countries where minors get married to adults. Also, there's a religious group known as the Mormons that marries young girls to older men in polygamous marriages.
I still feel like Keith should have spent a lot more time in prison for child abuse
This is very true. Also the judge that sentenced Keith was awesome. Though to be honest, prison is probably better than the situation Heather was in when she was married
Whats wrong with zimbabwe?
@@kazekagetoriyama861 terrifyingly high inflation, for one
I got married at 15 with my 27 yrs old neighbor. I really don't know how she manage to convince my parents to go along with it.
I know a couple they got married she was 14 he was 19. they got married because she got pregnant. They stayed married for 30 years and had a total of three wonderful children. I am the oldest of those children.
I heard from my mother that her grandmother had married at the age of 10 or something to a good charactered and handsome male (I do not know the age of grandfather).
I heard they had a happy life but I never saw my mother's grandfather since he died before I was born and my mom's grandmother died when I was 9 or something I don't remember.
have you called the police on your dad yet?
So?
Better to grow up with a caring father that is supportive mentally and financially then have him thrown in jail
You have a point...
I’ve seen a 14 yr old married to a man in his 40’s in America.
Apparently it was legal because they married in an Asian country then moved to the USA...
Don’t know if it is still legal.
Want to combat this atrocity? Teach children that the point of dating is to find a spouse. Teach children that if you don't want to become a parent then don't do the things that'll make you a parent. Teach the truth about the hardships of being a single parent. Educate them in unconditional love and respect. Give them "the reasons why or why not". It works!
Or there are people who date without wanting to marry. Teach them everything there is about contraceptives.
I click on these videos to gain knowledge but i end up losing brain cells because of these ads of people playing (iq level: cucumber) strategy games
My grandmother got married when she was 15 to a man who was 34 years old, later having my dad at age 17, his siblings probably a bit later. Neither her nor my grandfather had any say in this since, in Iran, the family goes up to another family and sets the two up, at least from my understanding of what was going on at the time. My grandma split up with him after she moved to America, I’m pretty sure. My dad told me that, since she had never dated prior to the marriage, and never really had that time to herself, she never really matured enough, which is why he distanced himself from her because they always get into fights.
I almost got married as a minor, I have been with my bf since I was 14 now I am 17. However we thought I was pregnant when I was 14, and in California when you turn 16 if you have parents consent you can get married so that was our plan. Looking back it’s insane and shouldn’t even be possible. To think I wanted something just because it’s allowed, and also the fact that it poses as a danger to many is so disturbing to me
That was the whole reason I started smoking, because it was allowed. I needed something that made me feel like an adult and something to help me self-medicate. If smoking wasn't legal, I never would have tried it.
I had my mouth open in shock for about a minute before clicking this video
Thanks for bringing awareness of this
my grandma got married at 15 and had my uncle when she was 16. however, they both were 15 and 16, and this took place in the late 50s… a very different time
@Rin Kagamine yeah, any age difference over 6 years is gross to me.
Me who is British:
“What monster have we created?”
I’m pretty sure this isn’t legal
Lol true
( I’m British to )
You created... freedom?
I’m not sure anymore
You created something much worse, my friend.
@@mr.wiggles7135 no we created a country that thinks child marriage counts as freedom
My name is Aaron and my gf's name is Heather. The beginning of this video was very disturbing. Fortunately, she was 24 and I was 27 when we met. Still creepy.
hey kids, don't let ANYONE ruin your life, even if they're your parents.
Once you said, Utah I was like, oh, yeah, Utah...lol 😆