My social anxiety is not cured (what happened in Daytona)
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I debated whether or not to share this footage with you guys, but here is a little motovlog getting real about what goes on in my head. Thank you for watching!
thanks for sharing, Meghan ♥♥
Thank you for sharing. Think about all the people looking up to you that might be too hesitant to say anything. I think everyone has their own people out there, and there's nothing wrong with being introverted. I started making videos myself, and I'd be lying if I said I don't care what people think. But then I realize I can't relate to everyone, but there are many out there that will relate with me and those people become your real audience. You never know how many people were bullied as a kid. It's probably more than we can imagine. And not just by other kids but by adults also. I'm not sure what I'm trying to say here except that you're not alone. I've only come across your vids a few times. But I've watched all the way through each time. Your videos are great, and they're not cookie cutter like the rest. Your topic today was very relatable to me and for that I'm a bigger fan today than i was yesterday.
You can share whatever you want to share. My support will always be with you.
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Hey Miss Megan can I recommend a song that might help your awareness of anxiety? It is a youtube vid called 'Ren - Hi Ren' a little over 9 mins long with more than 8 million views in under 100 days.
It's nice to hear someone struggle with the same issue and overcome it. It feels great to venture out and enjoy social activities. On the other hand, I feel like we are pressured to be social all the time and some of us just aren't wired for it. I try not to feel guilty for my time alone.
I definitely feel like social media (and fictional entertainment media) make it seem like people socialize much more than they do! I suppose that's when the drama and suspense happens, but I'd venture to guess that most people indulge in more solitude than what we see, or would like to if they can't!
@@MeghanStark that’s a great point! Most of what we see on social media is people having a great time at group events or parties. We don’t see the mundane tasks and hard work that is the majority of life.
Stop drinking and volunteer. Please god and you will be saved.
Please keep making content. Imposter syndrome and anxiety are natural for everyone. I'm betting your videos are inspiring for many many people.
I agree.
I know there’s a large group of us that generally either hate ourselves or hate what we do, or never feel like it’s good enough, but at the end of the day, we really are just trying to improve ourselves. Your content is great, obviously tons of us enjoy it, so never stop. You are worth it.
Well, I hope you keep fighting your social anxiety. I know what it's like, at least for me. But one thing I'll share with you: the older I've gotten the less I feel that anxiety. Of course I'm 70 now, so maybe I should be all the way over it (I'm not).
I hope you keep going with TH-cam. I really enjoy your vlogs. I like hearing the random thoughts you have while riding. I like seeing Milwaukee from your perspective. The last time I was there was 1972 while I was in bootcamp at Great Lakes. The funny thing about being older, (I won't say "old") is that; in my head I still feel like I'm maybe 30, but man, my knees don't feel like that!
Take care and keep on.
yes Bob S. I am 71 and my knees keep telling me I not a kid any more also.
Thanks so much for creating your content. I totally relate to having social anxiety and being bullied growing up. There are times when you feel like you've outgrown the bullying but it really does stick with us. As a private person myself, I know how hard it is to put yourself out there into the inter-ether-net lol so I really do appreciate your videos. You're awesome and definitely not a loser. 💜
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Great video Lady! Don't pressure yourself to be extra social. Just be your Wonderful self and have fun. I Love your chill videos. Remember the relaxing video you made climbing the watch tower overlooking the lake with the woodpeckers sounding off? That is the Meghan I like. Just doing anything you want. I am not really a social creature either. I ride to relax. It's quiet time to gather thoughts. NEVER stop making your videos!!
Ride SAFE and BE safe Meghan!
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If sometimes things get cloudy always remember I want you here and appreciate all the effort you put into your videos and your company
As someone that struggles with imposter syndrome in the motorcycling community your thoughts are SO appreciated. Pls don’t stop making videos! Take all the time you need but keep creating and taking up this space
I'm glad to see you back on a bike in videos. I've missed it and you riding.
Thank you for the honesty and openness, it shows that although things appear great on the surface, everyone struggles at times, we just get better at hiding it.
You got invited, because you deserved it, it really is that simple.
We really do give a shit, because of who you are. You bring lots of light to people's lives.
Respect to a nice lady
Over the past few months I’ve discontinued following many of popular motorcycle channels. If not for you Ms Stark and Itchy Boots my list would be empty of motorcycle channels oh I forgot Doodle and Matt Ladlaw . You guys are real people I like that . I’ve bought your coffee and wear one of your stickers on my helmet . You are a champion.
I hope you continue to make videos. A lot of us are on the same journey when it comes to social anxiety and it's very helpful to see and hear successes from someone farther down the path. Subscribed.
One thing I've learned recently with lots of therapy and self awareness is that being "introverted" for me was based on many years of bullying and rejection from my peers in grade school. Over this past year i've realized once I've changed my circles away from people who were damaging to me, in the past I was forced to become an introvert as self preservation. Now that i'm surrounded with others who value me not only for my skills and assets but my personality and heart and also reciprocate those traits, I've learned that wanting to recluse and hide wasn't who I really was. The older I get, and the more secure I become in my worth as a person I realize that I am truly an extrovert when i'm surrounded by people who love me for who I am. That being said, the more you recognize these things in yourself, the more you will be able to separate what is social anxiety because you are truly uncomfortable with your surroundings and feeling rejected because you were trained from a young age to be that way. Knowing these cue's will help you to come out of your shell because you are surrounded by who you want to be with which in turn makes you become who you truly are, being secure enough to recognize that if someone doesn't like you, thats ok, because YOU like who you are!. This is the first time i've seen your channel, I was suggested to watch it because I ride a Honda Rebel 500 and TH-cam knows my search history lol. I'm going to continue to watch your journey and hopefully you will continue to make more content. Ride safe!
I’m glad you keep making videos. One of my favorite channels to watch so keep them coming! Great video 👍🏼
Please keep up the videos. You have a huge impact on the motorcycle community. The info is always great. You inspire me and I’m certain you inspire others as well.
I can relate having a similar anxiety. That’s why I ride. I think you opening up on this subject makes it more meaningful that you are still sharing your content. I always enjoyed it. Ride safe out there!
Great video. People under estimate how debilitating social anxiety can be. Great job putting yourself out there. Keep the channel going!!
Don't let your mind do that to you! You do belong, love watching your content! Besides the crazy traffic here in Florida, enjoy the beach and weather! It's a great getaway! Keep up with your Vblog, you rock!
Hey, Meghan. Thanks for sharing your struggles. Many of us identify with you in that way and take strength seeing you tackle them head-on. You rock!Please keep the videos coming.
This is the first video of yours I've watched. As someone else who struggles with anxiety and social anxiety, keep doing your thing. Some days are easier than others I'm sure. You've earned a new subscriber.
I've been watching your channel for a few years now. I wouldn't keep coming back if it wasn't interesting and worth my while. Hope you keep creating more content. Great channel, cool bike, great info, and a fun person.
Don't stop Vloging! I also live in Milwaukee and my backyard is full of snow plus the street has tons of salt. Looking forward to spring (soon?) after seeing you ride around Daytona.
This is the 3rd or 4th video in the past couple of day where people are struggling with their channel/content. Existential questions ABOUND!! I like what you do. Keep it up and ride On! 🌹🌹
Yes please keep making content! Your videos are NOT pointless, they are entertaining and I like they might be on anything. Ignore the trolls and morons out there in comment-land. People, like you give me hope for the future of motorcycling.
Hello from across the pond! Fellow programmer and Ducati rider here in northern michigan. TH-cam suggested one of your videos this morning and it's cool to find someone on here that does a lot of the same stuff I do. Keep the videos rolling, you're doing a great job!
Motorcyclist, scooterist, & introvert here. You have EVERY right to be here. It's always a comfort to see other women on the road riding their own bikes, especially those who are articulate, thoughtful, and introspective. We are allowed to take up space, and the diversity we bring to the riding community is NEEDED. ❤ Let's keep showing up as our real selves, imperfectly perfect, so the next generation of riders can know that they belong, too.
TH-cam randomly me this video, never seen your content before, i have seen you in Jess's video though, im glad you made it, and im glad YT showed me it. imposter syndrome is so prevalent in every industry for content creators, I'm glad to see you talking openly and honestly about it! imma go check some of your other vids out now because of how you presented in this one. thanks for sharing!
What you said resonated with me. I have ridden bikes for over 30 years and have never owned a car. I started going to bike rallies in the early 90s and although, at that time, I was riding an average of 4-500 miles per week, I always questioned whether I 'belonged' there. I read about the brotherhood of bikers and yet experienced complete loneliness at some events. I accept that some of this was my shyness and my self doubt. Later on I joined the Honda Shadow Owners Club and found a group of people who offered the friendship that I had been lacking. Now in my 60s, I still ride but don't attend events ( can't bear the idea of camping anymore!) and feel that I am much happier with myself.
I just found your channel looking for Ducati Scrambler info. No need to quit! So far your channel is great, plus it's always nice finding and supporting a fellow Wisconsinite on here!
Well for a little encouragement from Australia, I have enjoyed your videos over the years, I started watching as I was interested in the ducati cafe racer and was madly watching everything I could find on them!
I think you have good and real content and enjoy that you are not paid to give a good review and make people think that every new bike is the best.
Being real is a good sell point to a lot of people in a over commercialised world - so thanks for being genuine even when it makes you a little vulnerable.
Please keep going with your videos. Your videos stand out more to me than most just because I go through the same withdrawals in winter as you as I am also from WI. I always look forward to your new videos and the different places you visit in Milwaukee. Don’t give up, your viewers are always behind you!
This channel is not pointless, your work is not pointless. Keep making the content you want to make. It is important to always be your authentic self, which is something that I am working on. You are valued and appreciated! You were the first channel I discovered as I was getting into motorcycling and encouraged me to take the MSF course and get my license.
I love watching your channel. Hoping to ride with you around brew town sometime. Don't stop, you inspire us to get out there and face our anxieties and social fears
My social anxiety is a daily struggle for me. But I find it so comforting to watch your videos and know that I’m not alone. I got my first bike 2 weeks ago since then I’ve left the house practically every day to ride. Before that, I was indoors all day doing my own thing (which is still acceptable to some extent) except for leaving for my afternoon shift. I want to try and meet some biker friends, I think that would be nice. Anyways, I absolutely love your videos and hope that you continue
I just found your channel, liked and subscribes. I was bullied as a kid and it DOES stay with you. I look forward to checking out your other videos. Good Luck, stay safe and God Bless
We’re always our own worst enemies. I felt total imposter syndrome the entire time we were there too. It was my first trip like that and everyone else has bigger channels and blahblahblah. But sometimes you just gotta remind yourself…I’m not the chubby four-eyed middle schooler that got picked on anymore, I’m a badass biker that does shit on the internet that’s cool enough for a global brand to want to invite me to bike week. Easier said than done of course. BUT with that said, none of your doubts or introversion showed through on the trip. We all loved spending time with you and I think it’s awesome that you’re able to be as introspective as this, and also have the courage to post it here for other people who may feel the same. Keep making videos! Even if you don’t see it, there are people being inspired by what you’re doing ✌🏻
As others have commented, I can also relate to dealing with social anxiety and being bullied as a teenager and my anxiety is still with me at the young age of almost 62. I love your work Megan , both the motorcycle content and your gear content , for me it all works great ! Kia kaha (stay strong ) from New Zealand and continue to be true to your self and take care 🤙
Meghan I hope you continue your channel. Your videos are a breath of reality where many of the motorcycle channels have become more about the channel and less about riding our bikes. thanks
Found your channel through your Thorogood tour video and took a peek around, look forward to checking out more videos soon!
I’m 54 and still deal with those type issues but, I keep pushing on. I just recently found your channel and love it. I’m in a northern climate so, I live vicariously through you until I can get back on my bike. 😎
Whatever is going on in your head, you are doing a fine job, putting videos out and visit events like these. It'll might help you with being less anxious.
Female riders inspire other female or even male riders to ride as well, Plus your company helps people gear up and be more safe on the road as well.
Always good to hear about others having the same headspace issues, trying to break my own issues this year !
Your presence is appreciated, never forget that. Those of like mind find their kind! You are a blessing to more people than you know.
This video was so relatable. Thank you for your vulnerability and for keeping on keepin on. Love your videos. The best things in life are on the other side of fear
Honestly, Meghan, you're a huge inspiration for me and your videos are what gets me motivated to keep riding. I dropped my brand new Ninja 400 the first day I rode it and I felt like maybe I shouldn't be riding, but then you uploaded a video and it gave me the confidence to get back on and keep practicing! Even your non-motorcycle related vlogs have introduced me to new music and other interesting things! If you uploaded a 2 second clip of a rock, I'd still stan and support 😂 Keep doing you!
I get knocked down but I get up again, that's the secret to living!
Well I subscribed to your channel, because YT recommended it and I liked the content. This is the first video I have watched, I’ll come back. So don’t give up on this, keep going at it!
New subscriber here. Gotta tell ya as a combat vet with severe PTSD I can't do these social events in person because my anxiety goes through the roof and I become non functional. So I really appreciate folks like you creating content that I can see without having to put myself into those types of situations.
Im new on this channel and i can relate to the things you said about anxiety
I've seen two other videos and I've enjoyed them. I think you are good in what you're doing, keep going 🎉
OK, this is the second video I've seen of yours & I need to tell you, I'm not only a subscriber, I'm going to recommend your channel to a friend's daughter whom I am currently teaching the gentle art of motorcycling.
Your honesty & openness is refreshing to say the least. As a 60 year old who has ridden on the roads as long as legally possible, I can tell you "imposter syndrome" isn't as rare as you might think. Feeling out of step with the rest of humanity is kind of common place & feeling like the odd one out among our peers is probably much more common than anyone would ever imagine or admit.
And that is a lesson I want to teach my "student", as well as how to survive as a motorcyclist in traffic. Be your true self & to Hell with what other people think of you! March to your own drum & stand tall because nobody knows where you've come from or where you're going.
Be safe, ride hard & thanks for another interesting video.
I like these motovlogs where you think aloud. It's like the viewer is havng a conversation with himself and with you too. Thanks for sharing.
Please don't stop. You're channel is the only one like it. I love it!
Yo I do feel like that almost all the time. I recently traveled 200 km back to back to visit a moto themed bakery to attent a moto get together. I knew nobody, there wasnt too many people but I just casualy ordered a slice of pie and a cup of coffee, ate, drank, acknowledged the fact that I was there, threw some smiles to the local bikers and off I went to enjoy my ride back home. It's the journey and the experience that counts, not the social aspect. Do not worry too much about it. Connections will be formed at random. Love your ride, CMX1100 is one of my all time fav. Keep up the good work Love!
Im glad you are still making videos. I dont comment every time, but I am here cheering you on. Much love from Korea :)
I have severe social anxiety too that I battle everyday. Learning how to ride is helping me boost my confidence and meet like-minded people. I think sharing your adventures online can help you keep track of progress your making and help meet even more people that have similar adversities and even inspire them to fight through them. ❤
Great video. Very relatable. I subscribed because you are just being so real and that’s great.
That’s awesome you were invited down by Honda, what a huge deal. Keep up the good work.
It's nice to see someone from my hometown making motorcycle content. Keep it up!
Social anxiety is a struggle. I suffer from ptsd and even though I've been an entertainer for years now, i still can't do huge crowds, or i have to be way back in the back corner hiding in the shadows but i really enjoy the motorcycle community and that has helped me find ways to participate in in activities that may involve large crowds. I get lost in the bikes and just dont think about all the things that normally trigger my pts, and of course, regular visits to my therapist help a lot.
Just found you and your channel. Subscribed! You definitely belong. You are as good as or better than a lot of the other channels. And you ain't no f'n loser. that tiramisu looked awesome
I can totally relate to you, I have the same thoughts running in my head every single day ! Anyway, I love your videos, hope you continue making them
It can be so hard to silence the inner critic!
Miss your content. I'll show you social anxiety. Last year I saw you at a small chopper gathering where you had a booth. I went past it but couldn't bring myself to say hello even though there was no one else talking to you at the moment.😂
You must say hello next time!
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Thank you so much for sharing this! Am going through similar - stay calm and strong 🙏💪😊
Thank you. As a biker and traveler I enjoy seeing the road through others eyes. God bless and be safe.
And that's why we ride, you keep posting and I'll keep watching:-)
I really appreciate this video. You should absolutely be on this platform and 'keep on keeping on'. I feel the same way you feel every day. Its really nice to see where you've come and hear that you go through what many of us go through. Be kind to yourself :) Sending so much respect for your content and absolutely respect your entrepreneurial sprit. I too am looking to build an Ecom biz and ride as much as i can! you inspire people like me!
Hi Meghan, this is the first vid of yours I’ve seen, so I’ll watch more, but I know how you feel. I’ve been riding for 52 years. Being the king of introverts, I’m still uncomfortable at big gatherings. You would think at bike rallies I’d be in my element. So keep on living your best life. Larry in Fort Worth
Please keep on keepin' on! You'te a great inspiration! By sharing the rough times, you've helped me to understand that when my own rough times arrive, it happens to another female rider as well. Too many youtube channels show these artificially perfect female touring riders who never really seem to struggle at any point. They don't give an accurate, empathetic picture. You'te very talented snd you're helping woman have the courage to ride--even if we're not perfect. Thanks!
Thanks for being so HONEST ! Keep rocking it
Meghan what you do is totally worth it. I love your laid back vibe and enjoy all of the content I see. If it makes you happy keep making videos and we'll keep enjoying watching them. Thank you for the content you create 🙏💜😃
Thanks for sharing that, Meghan. It was good to hear from you - especially on a bike (even if it's not a tour of Milwaukee).
Thanks for the video, Meghan! I used to live in South Florida many moons back (1998-2001). I really enjoy vloggers' vids that brings back good memories. I have been back to Florida a few times, and really do miss it. Can't go back coz the US Fed Gove won't allow it, not now at least. One day I'd like to be able to go and explore more on 2 wheels. Ride safe.
I enjoy the videos and think you bring a unique and perhaps more intellectual approach to not just motorcycles but the concept of making content for TH-cam
I’m so sorry you have to work through such issues. I have two granddaughters and I see the issues that have from having to interact with their cruel “friends”. Please be assured I’ve enjoyed your work and find you to be a “worthy” person. Please continue to work on your soul and that brain.
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Hi! Not sure why this showed up in my recommendations, as I'm not into motorsports, but I clicked bc of the title.
Just wanted to say I'm glad you're challenging yourself to expand your boundaries and overcome your trauma. I hope I can do the same one day. 😊
a less than famous song said "it's easier so love someone else than it is to be kind to yourself" and it rings so true... but also gives me some perspective on the idea that I can't always be hard on myself for not being great... I work an ok job that doesn't pay much to make sure I have a place and home for my cats and kid... and that's all that really matters. Do what you love and not what you think you should do.
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You are not alone. Anyone who creates content (or does anything with an external impact) sometimes doubts what they're doing and if it matters. Thank you for the transparency and honesty. Stay real and true to yourself (like you've said). That is what matters. Ride safe!
Really nice share, thank you! It's natural to question one's path but please don't question your worth because you rock and we love you! The haters are a dime a dozen and don't get a second thought in my world. Look forward to future episodes...PLEASE!
I hope you don't ditch the channel but you do what is right for you, always. I hope the coffee company and other endeavors are going well. I'm sure we could trade stories about childhood and anxieties.
Love what you try to do with your company and videos. Keep on keeping on. ❤
i was a chef for many years the constant pressure to perform at 100% nightly during high volume service reared its ugly conclusion in the form anxiety. i self medicated with alcohol for years through a health scare i quit drinking. i started meditating it changed my life. my anxiety is almost down to 0. It's all about rewiring the brain and making connections that keep your emotions at peace. I hope this helps you and everyone else who reads this.
MEGHAN WE LOVE YOU PLEASE DONT QUIT, YOURE THE COOLEST CHICK ON TH-cam
My anti social habits held me back alot in life. It's still there, Im just more aware of it. Keep on, going on!
I want to see more of you Meghan. I have really liked your past moto vlogs and your stylish vibes. I went to visit an old friend in Milwaukee years ago and coming from California it was other worldly to me coming from California mid winter. He always raved about summerfest down by the lake. I'd like to see more of your cool town.
I miss your vlogs
Keep doing your TH-cam channel. I just set up my new sound system that you recommended. I'll be trying it out today. I have a small channel, too. I ride solo most trips, I hate formation riding, just not my thing. I enjoy your channel.... don't stop!
Meghan you can't stop making these videos. I can relate to what you are saying. That is why I keep keep on watching them.
Please keep your content (no pressure!). I could relate a lot with what you expressed ❤
I never miss your videos! Keep on keeping on.
I hope you get more opportunity to do more motorcycle demo rides and rides to local coffee shops I enjoy your videos so don't stop.
Luckily enough I have another big exciting moto trip at the beginning of April!
You are not alone Meghan, anxiety takes away part of your life due to struggles. When you get older the anxiety fight within gets much better. Experience diminishes this feeling. You will tell yourself, what was the big deal?
Hi from north central Wisconsin. At least the snow MIGHT be starting to melt. I was bullied a bit too when I was growing up. I have been riding a cycle since the mid 70s. I started martial arts then too. When I got a Black belt I found out people thought I was a great instructor, so I stuck with it until now. Still don't get a thrill from gatherings or parties but I realize self worth. If you like vlogging then do it. Don't do it for the approval of others though. I have watched your channel off and on for several years. Keep up the good work.
I've cut out most of the coffee recently, not all but I only have one or two cups jn the morning now. Quite by chance I noticed that anxious feelings seemed to coincide with a lot of afternoon coffee.
you have 21,000 subscribers! you need to tell your brain to "do one" you are worthy and you make a bloody good vlog, keep em coming x
There's a great book that talks about the issues you raised, it's called 'Quiet-The hidden Power Of introverts In A World That Can't Stop Talking'.
1st time watching, hey I'm a nobody but your doing it ...I mean have you any idea how many would love to be able to do what your doing...but girl your doing it....take care, be careful and have fun...BTW. I'm an old man, trust me your not worthless, your so valuable you have not got a clue, and your probably inspiring others because you doing this.. .keep it up and enjoy
Hi Meghan, honestly the videos your create are inspiring and show that anyone can enjoy riding! Having said that, take your time and make new videos for your enjoyment.
Keep going! I've enjoyed your out and about in Milwaukee vids since I'm new to the area.
this is the first time watching your channel you seem to be really good on that bike and i can relate to evay thing you are talking about i love to ride and for me it's the best way to get along with life keep doing what you are doing and keep following
Suffer from Social Anxiety, the only thing that has helped me even short term is , and not necessarily in this order. Therapist, Psychiatrist, Medicine, being honest with myself, and working through the hard questions what ever it takes. Best Wishes! Learn from the past but don't let it dictate the future.
Got bullied a lot as a kid as well, and going through some things right now, guess it's just life lol. Thanks for the video!
Thank you for being so open ❤️