Out of Time: The Horrors of Adulthood
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I am a 35 year-old, which is probably amongst the oldest people in this audience. The sense of dread of seeing your life pass by, while you want to do something more meaningful, that actually has a good impact on others is really a thing. I am caught in my daily routine, having to work to enrich whoever owns the company I work for, wasting the traces of creativity and energy I have. There is a book I want to write, there are songs I want to record, there are people I want to help... but finding time for the things I really appreciate is not easy.
I (28m) came to two realizations surrounding issues related to this recently.
1. When I was saying "I don't have time for this" what it actually meant was "I don't want to do it." There are SOMETIMES days where I'm wall-to-wall busy, but they're rare exception to the norm. Most of the time it's more like "I chose to spend my time doing something else," which is a completely different concept. This brought me a ton of clarity on what I needed to prioritize and stop waiting on, like addressing my mental health and making the two-hour bi-daily commitment to going to the gym, which was an intense inconvenience but something I need to do anyway.
2. When I was growing up I always had these fantasies of sleeping in late and, like, buying myself LEGO sets and video games whenever I wanted, and eating candy close to bedtime. Only to enter my 20s and find out that you're supposed to be "mature." Except I came to realize that maturity is completely subjective. It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission, and the time that I've taken for myself, to write, to exercise, to make 3 meals a day instead of 1, has been a theoretical conflict because a lot of it's done on the clock, but has practically resulted in 0 conflict, because that time was mostly being wasted anyway - I've just made the time that I DO actively spend working more meaningful, to make room for time in other places.
There are exceptions to this, like having kids or a needy SO, or an abusive low-paying workplace, and I don't have any of those things anymore, which is an overall win. But it feels like we were all raised with this implicit expectation that we give ourselves to our work or family so we can retire and live for ourselves. And I'm finding that to be complete bullshit. Living for yourself is a choice, and doing everything else is a function of that. If you choose to make the function your goal, nobody's going to stand up and STOP you from doing that, but neither is it gonna be necessary, most of the time. Clock in when you need to, and ignore the rest of it. If it causes conflict, that's not your fault or your problem.
I just turned 35. I feel you.
I just started a small business and I don't have enough time to human anymore. I keep telling myself, I wanted this so badly for years. It's exhausting.
this makes me so depressed. i've been feeling very pessimistic about life since 16 , i'm only in my early 20s now and already i experience not having enough time to do things i genuinely love. i've listened to a lot of adults saying they lose their passion, life drained them away, them not knowing who they are and i am very conscious i'm in the beginning of all that. i'm so scared
@@HashSl1ng1ngSlasher I agree to a large amount with what you wrote, but I also disagree in some instances. I sense an amount of "grind culture" and "productivity" directed towards the things one wants to do and I find it not to be a solution per se - it seems more of the same poison that got us here. The idea that if I really wanted to do those things I'd find a way ignores the material reality and the fact that there is a physical and intellectual limit to what one can do with their time. If I am required to, in the bare minimum, dedicate a third of my time to work, another third to sleep, and some other good 15% to subsistence (food, cleaning, groceries, repairs, etc, etc), the fact that I am not able to use the remaining 10 to 15% to achieve the things that I want seems predictable. It is also predictable that the impact, quality and fulfilment coming from these things being done with 10% of my time will be lower if compared to me using, say, 30% of it.
Our systems do not work. We are overworking and overproducing to enrich a tiny minority and sacrificing our humanity in the process. No amount of time management and self-reflection will eliminate this issue. Sure, we should do our best to alleviate it in our current context, but I'd argue we need to change these systems.
@@crookedprojects If it helps by any means, I haven't "lost my passion" :) The things that I love are still loved - it is just a matter of not having the energy and time to dedicate to them. Some of us are lucky and privileged to be able to reconcile things better, or to earn a living somehow involving things we love. I hope that becomes the case for you.
As someone who just graduate college, I am VERY interested in initiatives in the US for the work week to be shortened. I feel like our generation wants to work less so desperately that we could effect change to at least make things a little easier for us. And while it’s nuanced and it might not be the end goal, i would be so stoked to work even 30 hours instead of 40.
it will never be changed unfortunately
Then Europe is fits you just right in.. they got plenty of holidays and high pay also govt free insurance
Try third world countries, then you'll come to appreciate more of what you have
@@marcelsyarif2723 So lemme get this straight: because other places have it worse, we can’t have improvements - ever?
@@marcelsyarif2723you do realize that developed countries are stealing from third world countries right? we should be aiming to improve the quality of living for all, not letting people starve and appreciating the fact that we aren’t.
literally had a breakdown about adulthood today. thank you so much for this.
Harriyanna what u doin here???
I love seeing my faves interact with my other faves ❤️
@@HugoslaviaYugoslaviaWhat?
@@HugoslaviaYugoslavia It's your* and who will?
As someone who has Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy I’ve had to deal with the fact I have a much reduced life span when compared to the average human lifespan. The fact I have little time when compared to others has made my goals more simple. My goals include graduate from college and get a good job (which I have completed). My most important goal is having a partner who loves me for who I am and maybe experience marriage if we decide to. My “career” really isn’t all that important to me. It’s only as important to me as it allows me to experience what I want in life. Any money I have after I've passed I want to be used to make peoples lives better.
A reduced lifespan "on average". Wishing you all the best with what you have ~ As I do for everyone 🌹🇦🇺
I admire your clarity when it comes to goals and values in life- its something I’m really trying to dig into at the age of 30 after over a decade of ‘experience seeking’. This is good food for thought ❤️
I beleive in live fast die young thing.. you are fortunate to do it..
You have a beautiful life ahead of you
Wants someone to love him for who he is. Wow. So unique.
I'll turn 30 in 23 days. For the last month I've never had more severe anxiety and it's getting even worse with every day.
I feel like a failure - the more I do, the more I feel like falling behind. No girlfriend, still living with parents who are the most toxic people I've met in my life. Cannot move out due to rent costs. Cannot follow any passions - when I start something I simply cannot book another outing. I'm isolated at work and I'm constantly reminded what other people enjoy.
The only thing in life I want is to have someone who loves me, no matter what. Sharing with that person the good moments, the bad moments and those ordinary - everyday life. I'm feel like nothing makes me joyful, cannot have fun. Friends from previous years have families, careers and all I have is my bitterness.
I felt the exact same way. It sucks because I am in the military now because it is the only thing I can depend on in order to establish my independence even though it means losing my individuality and what makes me who I am as a person. I want to explore my creative and imaginative sides of myself, but also want love and romance and can't stop thinking about it, it's honestly a mental prison for myself at this point in my life.
That's seriously rough.
Hugs
I think the best course of action is to be that person that you want to love you unconditionally
What I’m saying is all you truly need is yourself all the other things enrich life sure but you can become happy with what you have
And if you cannot get rid of it !! Maybe you have to save up a bit maybe you don’t but get yourself out of that toxic environment!
I truly believe you can create your own reality and a great one at that
Good luck and love sent your way
i know how hard that is. I chose to be homeless and pursue buying raw land and building from adobe and focusing on credit cards. credit cards lighten the intensity of inflation (5% default discount at no cost for some cards) and as your income increases, your opportunities to spend money on assets increases and then your score increases because you're spending well within your means and your limit goes up and then it gets easier and then you find you're still scrounging bread left in carts with $10k in your bank so you think about getting a motorcycle so you can move closer to your land and chew through some of those trees on your off days, clear the floor that you laid out in your building plan, get the concrete laid down, etc all while you're working from a laptop in your backpack on creative endeavors
why is it so normal for adulthood to suck
Capitalism
Capitalism
THE OVER GLORIFICATION OF EXTREME YOUTH CAUSED THIS!
At 31 going 32, I KNOW that I'm a YOUNG woman. How do I know this? If I drop dead right now THE 1ST THING people will say is "omg SHE DIED SO YOUNG"! So we as a society know that we're kids but we don't value/acknowledge it until we're dead.
In my opinion at least... As an adolescent (15 to 25) I used to find it strange that as soon as persons hit 25 it was like their lives were over, like adulthood = imminent DEATH and by 28, I found it outrignt TOXIC. I don't blame the people who do it tho because that's what our parents taught us and what our parents' parents taught them and so on.
It makes me really sad is that the majority of comments here are from young people and even KIDS or I like to call them "baby" adults (age 24 and below). Society WORSHIPS extreme youth and has so many ridged "life goals" (buy a house by this age, have kids by that age, etc) that I'm convinced that its legitimately making ACTUAL YOUNG PEOPLE MENTALLY ILL (anxiety/depression/etc).
This is why I like the fact that our generation is redefining what it means to be an "adult" with those so called "childish hobbies" like gaming, have teddy bears and cosplaying. I don't consider those things as childish by the way... Never have and never will. Its just what our generation grew up with and so gravitate to... its a comfort. Like the silent generation and their radio shows 🤷🏾♀️.
Adulthood is just quite literally, a physical state of maturity, meaning all PHYSICAL GROWTH has completed. Everything else is in terms of life goals and whatever is fluid. I am so glad that we've begun to seriously look at this problem.
Wow... never have I read a comment like this before and everything you described has a lot of sentimental meaning to it - because whether we as 'human beings' want to believe it or not; we are all a collective species that need to do what's necessary to survive - and it might not always have to with 'death' like you mentioned... but at some point we all realize (at least most of us) are just little specs in this gigantic universe... and believe me; I don't consider myself any more important than anyone else. As for what you described about today's youth: yes - there are a lot of entitled kids and adult babies in this ever changing world of ours - but I'm certain not all youth is like that - and to whoever reads this whether it's you natnat or someone else; we all have to remember that we have a voice, and it's really just a matter of how we use it to our avail and realizing that it's ok to be vulnerable even when our 'self regard' and 'self focus' can manifest in who - we feel we should be - I'm sort of paraphrasing Sigmund Freud. We are not always going to be perfect either, but we can at - least - be excellent if perfection is a priority.
Alot if my depression and anxiety is from fear of aging. I feel so old and worthless even tho I'm 23
@jenevieve7814 I am so sorry :( . Feeling like that is horrible, especially when one is just a child in the gra d scheme of things.
Remember that it's society that brainwashed you to think like this. You are extremely young with decades and decades of life ahead ❤️
im a woman the same age as you and you expressed my entire experience of my teens/20s and also i have had the exact same thought about the wording of my my inevitable obituary (admittedly because ive nearly died three times in the last 2 yrs, not by my own hand, i'm sick-- it gives me a lot of time to think too much)
Well said
I'm 38 and was diagnosed with ADHD months ago. My resume is a nightmare and finding a job that is not entry level is... exhausting.
Ugh. Ain't it the truth. I stuck with a terrible job before because I thought getting another job was just too much trouble. Selling yourself is a nightmare.
@@HomesickFaery It is such a nightmare especially when you come to the realization this is how life was set up for you the day you were born, smfh.
I can relate. Hanging in there isn't a good answer, I'd say plan for the future when you are calm and collected. You aren't the only one.
I’m 26. I feel so stuck and like my brain has finished developing so I’m just stuck fucked up and traumatized. I’m trying so hard to unlearn all the hurtful things I’d tell myself growing up but I’ve been doing it for so long it feels almost impossible to escape. I feel so disconnected from other people, I know my perception of myself has to be warped because I really don’t like myself very much. I wish I could have a do-over button or be somebody else almost everyday that I’m alive.
I felt the exact same way for so many years and can't seem to get away from it at all, it sucks really.
Brains have incredible neuroplasticity, but depression will convince you otherwise. Be wary of identifying with your feelings and trauma, the self is more than the accumulation of neurons and memories. You limit yourself with your own beliefs about yourself.
I know exactly how you feel, but the brain has never finished developing. You are never stuck. Recognising your perception is warped is the first step to changing it. Change is a gradual process and sometimes you cannot see it till you look from afar. I imagine if you look back on your younger self now, you will realise that you have changed after all, you are not the same person, and you can be proud of this. In 5 years time, you'll look back on yourself now and feel so much pride and love for past you the achievements you've made.
Look up neuroplastocity! It ain’t over for as long as you’re breathing.
Up untill 26 my life was just one long series of depression and trauma but afterwards, I stared to heal and now at 30, I am 99% good. Your personality might've finished forming but your brain is still capable of great change in terms of how it operates. Learning new skills becomes harder but you can still reprogram your thought patterns and start feeling good about life.
I'm not afraid of dying.
I'm afraid of living a life that's a decision or two (and not necessarily mine) away from being a nightmare.
"We are all born original, but many die as photocopies": Carlo Acutis.
I'm 19. after a couple of failed attempts at continuing education and working adult jobs after graduating highschool i now work in the service industry. i hate it. im so lost. i have no clue what to do. everything is a mess. i have no sense of direction or plan. i have an intense fear of driving making me pretty dependent on my parents and my boyfriend. i hate being an adult. i feel like I can't do anything right. life feels so bleak. i don't know what im doing and no one else does either. i feel terrible.
Hugs
Just keep practicing driving over and over again. I had a similar fear when I was learning how to drive but I pushed through and now I’m much less afraid cause I kept trying even if my nerves were getting to me.
i think about this all the time and then i think i am ONLY 19. the only thing we really can control is what we do right now. we can control the past cuz it already happened and we can’t control the future because it is waiting to happen. i want to try to start taking those little steps. even if it is a little uncomfy now. and i promise i driving is really really easy like really easy. u have to sort of go into it with a “nothing can ever hurt me” mindset is it the best no but it works.
wait.. why is your situation SO similar to mine? that's crazy. makes me feel less alone lol
Ain't it fun
I'm turning 24 in a couple months, but I won't graduate until I'm 26/27. I feel like the pressure to make something of myself has been so great, yet unattainable it's instead turned to hopelessness. The fact that the interviewees were creatives or content creators (no shade, it's obvious why that is) really made it hit harder for me that: even these people who can touch millions of others and make a living through creative expression still feel that pressure and lack of purpose. I feel like my life is on pause working on a terminal degree, and by the end of it I'll still be resigned to a life of corporate servitude.
And all that for what. I'm from western Canada so those apocalyptic scenes Olivia referred to have been my reality for the last 5 years (that's 20% of my life good god...). Although I will be lucky enough to have the means to raise a child, it feels almost unethical to bring a life into a dying world (that's also a source of a lack of purpose). Even if I manage to get my life together, how long is that going to last? I feel like our version of the emperor having no clothes is climate change's impact on society. No one seems to want to admit that things are only going to get worse and worse. Even if we get our political shit show together, the effects of climate change are locked in for several human generations. I'm not sure my doctorate will mean anything in a crumbling society (which I'm lucky to be a part of as a part of a wealthy western nation nonetheless. People in less fortunate countries have not been able to ignore the consequences of late-stage capitalism for as long as I have).
I'm 26 and probably won't be graduating until I'm 28-30 the way things are looking.
Life shit got in the way and made going to school harder, so I had to keep going part time since I was 20 or so.
I graduated with an associate's degree in general studies this year (very worthwhile I know) but I just didn't know what I wanted to do with my life. Many people don't. And I don't blame them because this world is unpredictable. People go through terrible things and there's very little help, and sometimes the help makes it worse.
I'm not sure where I'm getting at but I just want everyone to know to not blame yourself. This shit sucks and it's made that way on purpose.
hey as someone turning 24 and isnt gonna be done with my degree til im 26 too felt :( esp bc im going for an ecology degree so im gonna learn exactly how screwed we are
I feel this. I’m only 22 but that pressure and hopelessness is very real and I’ve struggled with that since I was a teenager, even as a creative who pours my heart & soul into music & wants to make a career out of it - that latter point is my only consolation at the moment, that somehow I can touch the hearts of others and maybe give people hope somehow.
It doesn’t matter how many people in my life might be disappointed with me in some way for not pursuing a more conventional career path, music is basically the only thing that still gives me hope so if I can have an impact on people in some way however small I feel like I’ve met my own goals at least
Yeah I feel you, this comment is a bit too close to home for me. I'm 24 (turning 25) and just finished a Bachelor's I spent six years on. Life got hard and a three year degree became a six year degree, but hey, at least I did it... I guess. But now I'm struggling to put together my portfolio and find a job in the first place. So I feel like my degree is prolonged even more. Even if I get a job, I'm still working 9-5 and living in the second most expensive state in the world (Sydney, Australia) so it is not like I can even afford property and have stability. I also feel fortunate to live in a developing country where I can get some government subsidies to survive this unemployment. It is hard though, because things really are hard. I live in a toxic household and am going through a really terrible break up, which makes me feel like my life isn't progressing at all (on top of the jobs). I hope things get better for all of us here.
Doomer cringe 😢
I have discovered the art of cooking terribly which has improved my mental health considerably.
You are a better cook than most people, by virtue of you attempting to cook. Most people do not start learning how.
@@CFlandreyes indeed
I can make scrambled eggs 🥚 🪺 😋 😌 😏 🤪 🥚
@@CFlandre this applies to life
Most people don't even try AT ANYTHING
In the past 3 years of my life:
Lost my dad to cancer, barely knew him
Chronic unemployment
Gained 100 lbs from stress
Became estranged from my family
Lost my abusive mother
C-section
Postpartum depression
Now my marriage is failing
My health is failing
I'm running out of time.
I too gained 100lbs due to depression and unemployment
Stress must translate into action. Even just exercise. Otherwise it's going to degrade your health.
Honey it can only get better for you from here; you've been to hell and back
May you be free from suffering! I recommend trying metta meditation for yourself. You've been through literal hell. It's essential you have some love for yourself ❤️
Love this vid! At 29, I am genuinely feeling more like an adult in a sense that I'm more willing to accept things about myself and my priorities. For the most part, I know who I am and I'm not trying to put metrics on my growth the way I did even a few years ago. I'm past my "self-help content" phase, and past trying to project a specific (or even "authentic") social media presence. I often still feel "behind" and even totally lost, but being comfortable with myself helps a lot with the discomforts of adulthood.
I agree, I just turned 30 a couple of months ago so I’m right there w ya. It’s come with so much growth, but my favorite part is how much Idgaf anymore about the useless stuff, and I understand better what I value - that’s what my f**ks go towards now. I haven’t been on social media for almost 4 years and now I get to decipher my values in a way that the algorithm of ig wasn’t allowing me to. That’s what’s actually helped me feel the most comfortable in myself - becoming more private.
i turn 20 this year and struggle a lot with what you described, so this is a really reassuring comment
We’re all going to die with a “To-Do” list that hasn’t had all the items crossed off yet.
Sheesh........
@pauldsheppard126 I mean have you even seen what is even going on today, lol.
@@pauldsheppard126 Um, Ok.....
@@pauldsheppard126 Life for most people that don’t have internet access is pretty bleak. You have no access to info to accelerate your life beyond what you’re surrounded with and have available. I’d wager life is a colder, brutal bitch to more people than it is kind to because we only hear from the success stories and not the people who tried say 35 times “all-in” and failed, and then lived a life of poverty and misfortune where they died in abysmally depressing ways. Think, this failure story happens every single day.
@@pauldsheppard126 It’s not a negative fatalistic view of life to highlight that anyone leaving TH-cam comments is better off than those I mentioned. Brushing the bad examples under the rug to only highlight the good is some toxic positivity, hyper-optimistic crap that simplifies the struggles of others as if they aren’t a common thing and mimics that always be positive corporate culture that caters to first world cultures people who are privileged beyond a metric to measure it. It’s realism versus idealism like your thinking.
I resonated with your comment on not being the main character's in our novels. I see an increasing number of people on social media frame their life in things like 'villain arc, redemption arc' etc. and I feel like it's a way for them to express what they would like their life to be: eventful and meaningful to themselves and other people through non-stop growth and hardship. However, that's not what life is like. It's not like the stories told in Vinland Saga, Berserk or Vagabond (from which most of these sentiments come from), it's rather monotone or unfulfilling.
I'm curious about your thoughts on that, since imo it's been a relatively big social media trend.
It almost makes one think that maybe fulfilling goals shouldn't be the thing to be alive for. I mean, sure, if what you like to do results in accomplishment, that's great, but I don't really see the necessity of pressuring yourself like that, and for what? To say that you did?
When you're on your deathbed are you even going to be lucid enough to recall all of this? Is it even going to matter?
Beautiful comment and amazing perspective a video should be made about this !
Just BE. Life is all about being, not working yourself to worry and death.
Exactly
The South Park episode called “You’re getting old” is a very good interpretation of growing up and things changing all around you.
Getting old is all a part of life, we live, we learn, we grow, we pass on knowledge, we leave an impact on others around us in so many ways, and lastly, we pass away.
A lot of people as kids wished that time would speed up so they can grow up and have the freedom and wisdom of an adult, but once those kids actually become adults, they reminisce about their childhood and wish that they could go back to it, or wish they had enjoyed their childhood and not rushed to grow up.
There is two things human beings cannot conquer & those two things are Time and Death.
Just enjoy the ride while you are here and try to make the best of it.
It’s not always perfect, but that’s life, we can’t always get what we want or win all the battles, but we can work hard to make our lives better, be humble to everyone & you may meet great people who will genuinely help you and make your journey a little easier.
No one can move forward by just staying in the same spot waiting for miracles to fall upon them, they have to get up and move forward to make those miracles happen with their progress.
Never give up 🙂👍🏼
I don't really feel a lack of time. Through analysis of society and history, I have realised that class society has corrupted everything so completely that nothing really has any real purpose, and that the power structure is so stable that it can only be destroyed by a critical mass of material conditions leading to its complete disintegration. Consequently, I can not actually accomplish anything particularly meaningful, and thus have no shortage of time. I feel as if I am in a sort of cosmic waiting room. Perhaps, at some point in the future, the power structure will disintegrate and I will be able to aid in the construction of a new, better social structure, but until that occurs, if it ever does, I have nothing to do but hone my skills and keep myself somewhat entertained.
Real
A very fair perspective, especially considering how failed revolutions usually turn out.
In the past, what would a life that “has real purpose” have looked like, in comparison to now?
@@handitover. I guess family and community oriented, serving others in very specific ways. Later on serving one's lord ir serving one's nation.
@@invidusspectator3920
No, they were working trying to survive. Most people throughout history did the same thing everyday until they died. They didn’t think in terms of life being “fulfilling”. Now we have the options to do whatever we want (so we think) but that doesn’t mean we have the time to do everything or that we even should do everything. Better to keep things simple and work on 1 or two things that you truly enjoy vs putting over the top expectations on yourself. Most people throughout history have failed. There is peace in that.
The most radical and powerful actions we can make individually is giving others more time which we often have given up to work.
I really like how you put Marx and adulthood in conversation here. I think a lot about how childhood and adult power (I actually went to your video when I was looking for sources about brain development for a section in my thesis, so thank you for that list) and so I'm quite used to the theory behind how children are alienated by being boxed out of public participation by institutionalisation and containment within school or liminal legal statuses, but comparing that with the way adults are alienated from their time and public particpation by labour is a really good comparison and it sort of puts a lie to the essentialism of a lot of adulthood or childhood.The thing changing here isn't the person, it's the way that the system is trying to manage you into a box so that you can fit as a part in wider assemblages and structures.
I highly recommend this video from the perspective of this channel intersecting disability rights and Marx. This one in particular discusses how inequalities in education can lead to the alienation you mention children feeling.
th-cam.com/video/lwExQU3aljk/w-d-xo.html
this is really insightful
this was an incredible collaboration! really appreciated the paramore insert as well as a long time fan! hope to see more videos in this style, the editing was also v cool, thank you all for your efforts in articulating the thoughts and feelings we are all sharing entering (or well into!) the spooky time that is adulthood!
Ever since I was a young child I’ve always been present oriented and afraid of adulthood. I absolutely embraced my angst as a child, teenager and young adult. I’m now 38 with no real direction but I honestly don’t care. I’ll never regret the fun and freedom I took advantage of as a young person. If that means having a lame adulthood so be it. Marriage has never appealed to me and I have no desire to have children. I respect future oriented people but just remember life is short and tomorrow is never promised.
I'm only 16, and it already feels too late for me. It's so stupid, my life hasn't even begun but I can't imagine that it will. I've already made too many mistakes and wasted too much time and so I'll just roll over and die. I think I'm just speedrunning life.
Hell, I was only idealistic for about 5 years before I jumpstarted to middle school second year syndrome at 6 and decided I was the smartest person in the world and no one would understand. By 8 I was an angsty moody "teen" and by 12 I'd grown out of that and started stressing about how scary the world was. At 14 I settled down and got back to work (well, school) and now at 16 I'm having a midlife crisis wondering where all the years have gone. I'm hoping that this all was for something and I end up a mature and self assured adult by the ripe old age of 18 and can spend whatever life I have left as a wise old sage.
i know exactly how you feel. it sucks. you know, logically, that this feeling is silly and makes no sense--it's not "too late" for 60 year olds, much less 16 year olds--so i'll spare you that kind of response. instead, i just want you to know that, first of all, what you're going through is unique to you, but tons of people have gone through similar things and moved on to live happy lives. the likelihood of you doing the same is very high. i also want you to know that you control very little in this life as an individual human being. and it is unwise to stress yourself out over things you cannot control. the key is to truly incorporate that wisdom. it's hard. all of this life shit is super hard, there's no getting around it. you'll never be too smart for life. it'll always outsmart you. the pursuit of "smart" is a miserable one; try to always be curious, instead. and not in a skeptical "i know better than you" way, but in an openminded way. you can't know everything or control everything, but there's always something to learn, always something to do.
let him cook (im 17)
The best advice I can give you is to take advantage of the fact that you're still so young and the freedoms that come along with that. Now that I'm 23 (which is still very young, but I'm struggling with the fact that I wasted my free youth), my biggest regret is trying to act like a responsible adult from such a young age. I didn't allow myself to go out and make friends, to go out on dates before committing to one person, to go to fun events, to take advantage of the fact that I don't have bills to pay, to take advantage of the fact that it's much more acceptable to make mistakes, etc. I had extreme social anxiety and was almost fully nonverbal, which really held myself back too. Taking advantage of your youth wont fix your problems or the dread of aging and full time work, but it will at least allow you to have less regrets.
My college years were during covid, so I missed out on a college experience, and I did literally nothing but focus on my grades during both high school and college, thinking it would make my adulthood better. It's only now that I realize that school and the grades you get have so little influence on your adult life, but I was sold the lie by older generations that school and grades are everything. Now that I'm an adult, though, I see that it mostly wasted effort (at least for the amount of time and effort I put in). I had a 4.3 GPA in highschool and 3.86 GPA in college, and even though that's considered extremely high performance I can say it hasn't done much for me. Don't sweat school, and instead focus on making memories and having fun experiences when possible.
fuck this is too relatable....
felt like I've lived 100 years but haven't done anything 😢
You need to satisfy the iron in your blood with iron in your hands (weight training)
Human life expectancy is about 80 years now, but we are trying to have life figured out in 1/4 of that time. Idk about some of the elite gamer demons, but ive never been able to beat the final boss on a game when im only 1/4 way through the game.
i'm 21, since 5yo after i discovered the truth about this universe and my mortality and lack of meaning/point in everything and how hard and unfair this life is, i just living in endless escapism from the existential dread from my inevitable death which i can't dodge by any means (even if you were immortal, the universe itself is going to die sooner or later, no matter what, everything comes to an end in this reality), also i were born in a third world country (and still living here) with very inadequate government and society, we lacking any human rights here and any kind of freedom and safety, you can be injured or killed by anyone at any moment anywhere or being arrested and tortured for nothing just because you were unlucky to cross the paths with police (they got you while they needed to help their target escape the jail so they're gonna make you claim that it's you who did something to take away someone's crimes on yourself), people can't even protect themselves because you're gonna be the one who will get arrested for self-defense (we already have thousands of people in jails who were arrested for self-defense), we don't have any opportunities in jobs here but even if we had, i'm mentally disabled and can't sustain myself and can't do almost anything, just a living corpse, i'm too weak for this world in every terms, socially, physically and mentally, i'm a hyper-sensitive person, i'm an empath and i can't bear any slightest amount of stress and my brain is not able to cope with stress at all, which causing me to not being able to bear this existence at all, every single day some crimes against humans/animals/nature/whatever else happens over the world and we just can't live in an ideal world where everyone is happy and safe and no one doing anything bad, we can't have that kind of world and we don't have a right to live if we can't work, also my government probably going to mobilize me into Ukraine soon (i'm from Russia) and they don't care about my health condition, they need a cannon meat, and since i'm unable to sustain myself and escape to other country, it's obvious that my days are ended. But the problem is, it doesn't matter, even if i lived in first world country with a lot of money and best food and medicine and quality of life, i still would suffer and having an existential crisis and dread with despair and hopelessness, i can't find myself in this life, i just don't want to exist but i don't want to die.
Not wanting to exist but not wanting to die is such an apt sentiment. I’ve seen many people reiterate a similar statement these past few years. I guess we’re all feeling it; we don’t want to exist this way. I don’t really know what to say apart from that…but I feel you and I sincerely wish you the best
Love you friend I wish I could help you and all of us make this world a more bearable place to exist. Like you said its madness that you have to pay just for the right to live that is an unalienable right we are born too. Captilaaim and governments are modern day slavers. It's not right. We're in the most advanced time and yet we're struggling to survive just to eat, have clean water, and shelter. All of us should be able to have these necessities regardless of Financials. Humans are more than a fucking dollar sign we're more than money and a piece of fucking paper. I hope that we can break free and make a change to this planet. I know somewhere in my soul as a celestial being was meant for more than to work oursleves to death. I love you all. Whether this world or the next. May we be able to find the peace and love we yearn for. I just want us all to be able to enjoy the life that we were given. May Peace Be Upon us all. 🙏 🌙🖤💜💜🥀❤️🥀💜🖤🌙🙏
@@thefridge7335 you literally said you're not from here yet you are claiming something about the country you're not living in, seems smart
I'm 25, slowly trying to come out of the dark place I was in a year ago. I visited that dark place because I was stuck in a framework that led me to see everything as already over. I looked at my art and music as meaningless, and the people around me, including myself, as people who were already dead.
Like in your video, time was running out, but it reaches a point where you become totally immobilised, as though time has finally run out, and all there's left to do is die. That's what I had planned to do, but I was saved. But although I was saved, I was not saved from the framework that led me there, and I'm scared of falling back into it. There isn't a single position in the class hierarchy which can escape that framework of time, and the society we've built, the promises we were fed as kids, are incompatible with it.
I'm well educated and recognise my skills, but still feel inadequate because I struggle to see the value in them, since my skills don't end up producing anything that outlasts the horror of losing it. I'm afraid of losing my value, my creations, and losing my friends and family, and that fear prevents me from enjoying it in the first place.
I was already socially anxious, but as I stopped reaching out and believing in my own enjoyment, I began to stop leaving my house. I'm only now getting used to going outside again after a few years, but I'm very afraid of other people. When I have to be somewhere I fake being a foreigner to get out of conversations.
I know these things shouldn't get in the way of creating things I want to create, and I know logically I should focus on enjoying things in the present, but my heart disagrees, and my emotions take control.
anyway your video was probably making me think about the right things and I hope in my journey i can find my way into a better framework some day
thanks
Maybe it'll help to hear but I'll pray for you even if you don't believe in anything.
Yeah, but being a child sucks too, especially when you're surrounded by abusive adults.
Agree
Honestly I struggled so much in my 20s I thought I’d be dead for sure before I reached 30. But here I am healing and finding love for myself and putting myself first and when I started doing that I started having the ability to love others. I think that’s the issue we are told to hate ourselves and prove our worth for society to give a shit bc of how hypercapitalism has plagued our reality. I don’t have a solution for happiness but I hope everyone finds that path towards that and that should be our number one priority and once we do we could improve as a society. It starts with yourself then u can move to helping others see that as well by living that example
"accept your limits" what if all that you're capable of is not enough to survive, or even get out of poverty or complete dependence on others? How do you accept your limits when it's not enough? I want nothing more than to be strong enough to handle adulthood, for survival.
I don't know your personal situation and I don't know how helpful this will be, but I think there's always the possibility to learn to accept that human beings need to depend on each other for survival and that, sometimes, the best we can do is try to be as helpful as possible towards each other.
This video is why Soul is a great movie in my mind still
Wonderful job, I loved the collaboration and all the points you went over. It's good how you didn't sugarcoat stuff or fail to mention how content creators and online freelancers who talk about issues with capitalism are still reliant on (and are usually aware of being so) the system they criticize. But you also didn't make the whole thing totally doom and gloom, which feels valid to do but doesn't help anyone. And that's what most of us, want I think: to help others (including ourselves) live without the stress of a system that makes surviving and living more difficult on purpose.
As someone who avoids the news, I haven't noticed any negative treatment for being "uninformed". Usually someone might bring up a recent event I don't know about and I just say, "Oh, I haven't read anything about that yet," and the people I care about and talk to on a regular basis never get upset or anything. They just inform me. And whether or not I look into it more on my own time is a choice and not an obligation. Making news-absorption a daily obligation to "stay informed" makes reading all the crappy events all the more awful.
The only question I have left is how we can resist and make a better world, to at least minimize our own suffering and help change things for our descendants.
@@ThepissheadmanI have minimized the pain and suffering of my descendants to zero by not having descendants
As a 32 year old 'This is why' felt so personal to me and Running Out of Time was embarrassingly so relateable lol and just from the simple interpretaiton of I'm late everywhere all the time. And I struggle with ti so much. The whole album does hit me extisentially but we ain't got the time for me to break that down just to have a break down
It sounds like she has ADHD. People with ADHD don't see time the same as others. It also makes it hard to stay on top of things. Your mind basically erases things. It literally just dissappear from your existence. Cognitive therapy helps. There is a rule that as soon as you get info about something you need to do, you have 21 seconds to do something about it until you forget. Sometimes, all it takes is putting a reminder on your phone. Women are often underdiagnosed, so it wouldn't surprise me if she just didn't know she had it.
Ive been thinking about my inevitable death since i was conscious or aware, which was too young tbh.
I used to regularly have existential an existential crisis and be like 'im on a rock, in a vast universe, i am a speck. I was born and i will die'. I mean i was thinking this shit at 9.
Then my dad passed away when i was 16 and i was forced to confront how scary it is up close.
Now im 25 and my view is, there is no time limit, or right way to do things, there isnt one path that suits, things change constantly for good and for bad, the one thing we have from birth until death is ourselves. Through all the bad times and all the good, we are with ourselves. So the relationship and view you have on/with yourself should be a life priority. If you have a solid foundation in yourself, then you can do anything.
Simply existing, observing, being, is enough. Society wants you caught up in a rat race and waste your time, it gives you arbitrary limits and rules, but you dont have to abide.
I use a meditation, where i imagine myself at the end of my life. What id have wanted for myself, what would really matter to me if it were the end of my journey. What wouldnt matter at all. It helps me function and has helped me figure out what matters the most to me and what doesnt matter. I think theres a similar Buddhist meditation, which is really great too.
I say to people (and often they freak out a little) to think of conversations theyve had with old people. Do you ever hear an 89 year old, sit there and say 'GOD i just wish i could live forever! Woohoo!'? No. You hear them say 'dear God im tired, my body hurts' and ive heard way way too many literally say 'dear God i hope i dont have another birthday!!' especially when they start reaching 90 and upwards. Humans werent made to go on forever. By the time death comes, i promise, we will see it as a big rest. As peace and as freedom. Whatever your spiritual views are. Its natural and part of being human.
Sorry if my views are unsettling, where i live, if i bring this up, people freak out 😂
It's all true. So many caught up in the rat race, the crazy expectations of this money society. I like the Alan Watts lecture where he says that people make money so they can survive. Why survive? So they can go on living a life they don't like because they "have" to make money. Makes no sense! I hope more people break free from all that and just find themselves. Be simple.
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@@Purfadingu Yup, realising that money does rule the world but that you don't need to be swept up in it as if it's a deity in itself is life changing. The system is indeed rigged, on every level, and life isn't a smooth road, so your happiness or at least your peace has to come from you. There's no money or material gain from death so in the end was money worth it?
I think far too much hahaha
I've had a similar experience in regards to existential thoughts from childhood to adulthood (I'm 22 now) and I completely agree with this philosophy. Being present is one thing I think a lot of humans take for granted. I feel like people are constantly being in a state thinking of the future or reminiscing about the past so often, that they forget about the "here and now". The future will come, the present becomes past the second you leave it. And I've learned to be okay with this. And others should too. You don't have to wait until you're middle aged or older to appreciate life for what it is, but I know it easier said than done.
Anyway I just really liked you're comment and felt like sharing my thoughts too :)
Well Said. Agree. I am 70 years old and am treasuring my remaining time, but am not afraid of dying. Lots of Near Death stories have this same message. It's ok to just be. I love making things and art and stuff but if someone does not, it's fine. I am just satisfied that my children turned out to be good hearted, ethical, and funny people.
This was great; I’m gonna share this with my sister who turned 20 this year and I hope it resonates
Imagine being 42 years old watching this video 30 mins before your shift starts in a call center 💀.
Call centers are almost as bad as going to jail
I'm so sorry :(
Don't look down on yourself. Call center is stay better then no job. As long as not forcing you to take the vaccine be greatfull
I feel you bro.
I tried so hard and got so far
In the end it doesn’t even matter
That song hits hard for me almost a decade later personally.
I def hate work and I’m one of the fortunate ones who only has to work 40 hrs a week. I think it’s a crime against humanity that we have to work a 3rd of our life away. I’d be happy to settle for a 30 hr 4 day. But dear lord it should be much less.
I’m 34 and struggle with just being. My calendar for august is already packed. Fortunately packed with fun things. But I can’t sit still and feel guilty if I do.
I also hate how at the beginning of work I’m caffeinated and awake, allowing me to have all these ideas and it’s WASTED on something I don’t care about. Then when I get out, all I want to do is COUCH.
I also have this weird kind of laziness. Like I want to join a choir but I don’t want to practice or prepare. I want to get involved in my community or local politics but don’t want to get my hands dirty. I’m willing to admit I’m a lazy baby lol.
Overall, I’m starting to come to the conclusion I might have to start letting go of a lot of who I once was. I’m fortunate to have a lot of friends, but I can’t juggle them anymore plus they’re having families. I used to love all types of art like, guitar, singing, and acting. But my ego or pride gets in the way of me trying them again, Or anything for that matter, because I’m afraid I’ll fail and suck at it.
All this to say, I’m probably the happiest I’ve been. I’m in a relationship again and I want to give her my world. So I guess that’s where my focus is.
But it’s hard. I’ve contemplated deleting my youtube account entirely. Cause the news is just DEPRESSING. Our owners don’t seem to give a damn about the climate apocalypse. 2024 is going to be an INSANE political ride. It all just seems out of my control but I still can’t help but feel I should do something.
Sorry for the rant. Thanks for listening. I hope you all are doing well. ☮️ ❤️
Wow, I relate to your comment SO much. Even the point about wanting to join choir or pick up artistic passions again. Just wanted to let you know I felt seen and empathized with you
@@SusannahGraceMusic Thanks so much! I see you have a channel, that is so awesome! I always thought about creating a channel or something. Kind of goes with what I was saying earlier! I hope you find what you are looking for.
@@nathanpellow4428 I hope all the best for you as well. This life can beat us down. Today is my 23rd birthday. I think I'm going to reset my life and just go for what makes me happy! This channel attached to this account is a remnant from my childhood. I don't want to delete it but I do want to make a new channel that aligns more with my adult life and interests. You should definitely make a channel! You have nothing to lose!
While I'm not a communist, I'm definitely more on the socialist side when it comes to economics. I'm just glad that a majority of young people reject the libertarian idea of "free markets should rule everything" and the philosophy that we NEED to work ourselves to death.
i don't and can't drive for a diverse set of reasons. I also live in a place with no public transit.
I can't tell you how much it feels that if I were just more mobile, with a car, on my own schedule, many of my problems would go away. My core group of dependable people keeps shifting as people move, have their own problems, or honestly, they just get tired. And I don't blame them.
The truth is--it would only amplify my insecurities; sometimes, the more you have, the more unhappy you are with yourself because you SHOULD be more happier with all the more opportunities you can now employ.
Until our society restructures to more organic communities, where people have each other, where you don't have to actively look online to find someone to grieve with you, or hear your problems, or even worse--pay for someone to do these things, until then, I don't think any amount of other solutions will ever make us more emotionally stable until we have smaller, more stable, dependable communities. But this would require a lot of sacrifice against Capitalism hyper-independence. It would mean some people would own cars, some wouldn't, some people would cook and share, some would help their neighbors with bills. It would really, really require a radical transformation of our own values as "Freedom" seeking individuals, at least in America.
I just... want things to be different, I want my life back, my childhood was saturated with school and religion, I had a single year of actual freedom, and then I began working and now I have even less of my life and I just can't keep doing this, the pitiful time I'm allowed to have I have to sacrifice to sleeping, chores and errands. My free time is spent using the hobbies I love as an escape from it all and the thing that always returns to my mind, that destroys any semblance of positivity, is that it's not going to change by time I die.
never knew olisunnia was from ontario but it makes so much sense, i can very specifically relate to and understand a lot of the things she says through the context of my life and people i know who coincidentally, live in ontario
Your shirt is so fire and the thumbnail is SLAYING.
Ready for the video ngl
really reflects a lot of my thoughts recently as some who is also turning 20 next year. at the same time time is passing quickly how is almost september but then seeing my grandparents and how they age like they are pensioners in the last part of their life . When I was born they were like 60-70 now they are 80-90 but before this they have had a whole life time and makes me realise that I still have an eternity.
if any of yall liked the last interview the most, read 'the rebel' by albert camus. its about the nature of rebellion and revolt.
good work as always elliot!
Camus my beloved ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I feel like many in this comment section would benefit from some absurdism
Imagine Sisyphus getting what he freakin' deserves.
I haven't caught all the videos on infantilization yet, but this feels like a refreshing take that is needed in the proverbial boomer-zillennial discourse. Much like dealing with stress and trauma, we can't actually "grow up" without facing what growing up actually means.
I hope to see more about the charge of youthful naivety perennially aimed at leftist movements and ideology. ♥🌱
For me it feels like the problem of being unseen more than anything else regardless of how hard I try or how many tough things I accomplish, nobody SEES it. This has somewhat caused a level of envy of other creators who ARE seen (sorry about that I've ever cast shade your way to anyone who sees this) I've never really had a problem knowing what I want to do, The Opus is somewhat of a thing for me that inspires everything else I do, but that's neither here nor there for the moment. But what I do understand is that we all suffer the same problems no matter how its perceived from person to person. And that's why at the end of the day, the one thing any of us can aspire to is to at least make this world even an IOTA less shitty than it is now, instead of the opposite, like we see so much of that makes money these days...
I'm someone who's just getting into adulthood and this video really resonated with me... What has been working for me is trying to stay away from social media and any type of meaningless dopamine addiction as much as I can and focus on the things that I actually like. It is hard since I've spend most of my childhood and teenage years "wasting" my life away in these platforms. It's obviously not a permanent solution for a problem that is only getting worse, but it gives me a tiny sense of control of the little time that doesn't belong to my boss... If anyone has any tips or wants to talk about it...
I relate to this. It sucks a lot
I'm just worried that I've become so jaded by social media, by bad experiences, by all the things we have to worry and deal with that I sometimes genuinely wonder if I am growing too out of touch with my reality. I am constantly trying to escape through my own mind, my art, my enjoyments, but I'm aware of the possibility that I am also letting life fly by me. I just can't bring myself to want or care enough to invest in things, or to want to change my stagnation. How is it even possible to maintain what makes you good, to grow and try to evolve to be better, and not lose your mind in the process?
Hey, thanks for the recent video essays covering a broad range of topics but still quite relatable to me as a 23-year-old guy with his own crisises! A lot of food for thought and each one does contribute in getting my life in shape. Adulthood is like practising patience while staring at your clock tick away and continuing to be at peace with that ticking motion. You would probably have to replicate that state of being with anything you do afterwards and notice the ticking motion (metaphorical) in all other aspects of life to be ok with the totality of it all.
I despise the artificial push or pull that manifests out of despair and fear since it's not something I internally brewed up. Those were functions imbibed into me through the societal structures and norms. Carrying that sort of energy muddies the water and blinds me to my own energy. Perhaps, there is a higher level philosophical and spiritual discussion to be had on how I don't own any energy and I am simply a boundaryless vessel that lets all energy flow. In that regard, the societal anomalies are also me but I would continue to deny them only to play the role of ego. This is a train of thought I discovered in Alan Watts's discussion about the duality of everything and it has been a soothing philosophical pacifier. Would be very interested to see any future essays on this subject!
Look into Fr. Seraphim Rose. He studied under Alan Watts.
I like your shirt that you bought with wage labor years ago!
It is indeed a very fancy and good looking shirt
I've been following you since about 2,000 followers. The comments section of your videos is the best out here.
And your topics always seem to be about something I've been thinking about.
Cheering you on, as we all move towards, into, through adulthood.
I'm reminded of the songs "Slave to the Grind" and "I'm In a Hurry (and Don't Know Why)" in how our world has gotten so busy.
I didn't expect this to turn into a Paramore video, but I'm so glad it did.
I can't watch this video all the way through due to my own mental struggles, but the little bit I could make it through was incredibly well done
I hope your day got better. NNTR
happy to see more Sisyphus55 appreciation, he's brilliant. ggwp nice video.
20 year old adhd autistic nonbinary person, I’ve spent a good chunk of my life just figuring out my traumas and what I want my goal to be. After realizing I didn’t like the bureaucracy of university I’ve had this internal struggle about self worth due to an argument I had with my mom regarding what I’m doing with my life. I’ve never worked a job but as I educate myself on the cruelty of capitalism I feel less and less capable of finding and holding one down or even wanting to since it would take time away from artistic and educational pursuits. I’m lucky enough to have an education fund to pursue education with but not everyone is born having that choice. So when I do have that choice I’m just expected to go to university because it’s the most career assuring route supposedly which doesn’t feel enriching it just feels hollow and soulless. A means to an end. I genuinely don’t see the point in micromanaging and to be constantly doing something every minute of every day just to show I’m worth keeping alive. It’s all very existential.
As i was listening to this i noticed a few familiar voices but hearing Bens voice made me realize how much i appreciate it and his soothing tone of voice. Great topic and great discussion Elliot
always love your videos so much - it helps a lot for my 17 year old angst (also i did love your shirt)
@@thefridge7335 feeling like there's nothing worth living for , feeling like I'm going in a downward spiral in life and not being able to live by the philosophies i believe in yk ? Just feeling lost but at the same time very sure that wherever I am is very behind than other people . But the upside to mY angst is that it comes and goes sometimes everyday sometimes every week so all these emotions are like the peanut butter to the jelly of feeling like I'm capable of making a real difference in this world and that I've got a kind head on my shoulders atleast if not a smart one
@@thefridge7335 sorry if I took your question too seriously but welp the rant is already done
@@thefridge7335 Aw thanks man I've been trying to stay out of that negative mindset by trying new things and I've been better than before ! Hope you're doing good too - wish u well 🍓
I'm only 30 so take what I say with a grain of salt, but I've been getting a strong feeling for a while just listening to people. The thing is, I think a lot of us are trying to logic our way out of this tangled mass, and I don't think that's going to work. As useful as guys like Marx and Hegel are at getting us to the front door, if we want to go anywhere and feel like that tension is slowly loosening, we need to experience things and go through the subjective life cycle of a human. Failing at things, failing at being more compassionate, failing at being more understanding or more charitable, are not indelible marks on your soul that nothing can wash away, they are experiences.
And eventually, I think after I get my fill of failing and getting comfortable with failing all the time and that's brought me a lot of progress and depth as a human, maybe I can let go of that too. One day I'll have to let go of being a human too, and I'll have to be comfortable with the idea of only being a memory. Or maybe my deepest part is an immortal solar consciousness and I can reincarnate myself as something cool, who knows?
The thumbnail art looks gorgeous 🔥🔥🔥
That's going to be me in Germany.
Subscribing just because you quoted Aesop Rock. The actual GOAT. The King. It's nice to see someone else recognizing him. Great video! Definitely worthy of re-watching.
paramore, aesop rock, and labor exploitation/millennial burnout in one video? extremely my kind of video
Truth.
when you started mentioning ‘This Is Why’ I immediately thought of ROOT
Paramore is my favorite bans as well 😅
It saddens and angers me that it's considered radical and extremist to believe that food, water and housing are human rights that should be free, we need food sovereignty, free water and housing for all, and honestly abolish currency while we're at it, switch to a mutual aid society of many small communities taking care of each other and people diversifying their skill sets, learning basic healthcare and permaculture
I’m 23, and I’ve been taking care of myself since I was 14. I was a street dealer and then I worked a bunch of part time shitty restaurant jobs. I remember being in highschool and having daily breakdowns because I was so busy all the time I never had the time for real rest or just relaxing and being a kid. And I don’t even have real money to show for all this work. My savings is pathetic, any time I have tried to set aside money there is an emergency and it’s all gone again. I’ve been working so long already I’m exhausted. And it only feels worse when I look to my future and wonder if I’ll be able to retire, or own a house, or have children like I’ve always wanted. I doubt those will be options, I hope, but I doubt.
Hugs
@@nacmegfeegle2310 Thanks- Back at you pal
great video, gives me a bit more hope about the hopelessness of it all
I really enjoyed this
Speaking of time, are you going to make a video about that tiktoker who's been getting ridiculed for ranting about time-blindness? A lot of us ADHD'ers would like to hear your thoughts!
Amazing, with a really professional format too! Great work :D
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my TH-cam channel 6 months ago about self development. Now I have 345 subs and > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
(talking about time costs) "These are things you don't necessarily have to worry about when you're younger and you sort of just live and things are provided for you. And then when you go into adulthood you have to start providing for yourself and while that can be empowering in a sense, you lose that sense of innocence and naivety" (and then you start worrying about time costs)
I like that this puts into words what I've been experiencing for a while. The way modern life is centered around earning a livelihood forms a sort of vicious cycle where because you have to provide for yourself and do all these activities required for providing for yourself (work, household chores, commuting, taxes, organising and time keeping of these activities, etc etc), you are left with less time to just live or enjoy the things you're passionate about (if your passions doesn't align w/ your work). It's this race just to ...live.
The end was just amazing. Thank you.
Thank you so much for making this video 🥺 I’ve been thinking about adulthood capitalism and climate change a lot lately. Especially since the wildfires and smog warnings that have been happening here in Canada. I’m 26 and ever since the pandemic hit its been really hard to dream about the future and have drive or just basic goals. I know my friends also feel this way but I feel like not enough of us talk openly about it or we stop talking about it as soon as it starts to feel a little uncomfortable, then veer straight into optimism/ it’s gonna be okay 🙃But I’ve REALLY been craving having this conversation with people my age because the depression, anxiety and hopelessness around it just get worse if I can’t talk about it within community… I was starting to feel like I was a bit alone in feeling this way… so thank you 💕 and thanks to everyone in the comments to. I think that the more I reason through this and confront the uncomfortable doomsday thoughts the easier it gets to live with them and still choose hope + joy as a discipline while also doing the work I know I can do
I'm idealistic to a delusional degree so I genuinely dismiss those doomsday thoughts by thinking "but I'm here so we chilling" 😂. Seriously though I do think we have far more power than we realize, both in terms of our potential as individuals, and the infrastructure we have available to us through which to actualize that potential. Perhaps that's another delusion as well, but it's a hopeful one capable of igniting change.
This is the first time in a long time that ive sat down and taken an inventory of all the things that ive been through and have learned over the past few years. Growing up is hard. I'm 27, im still learning and dreaming and nothing happens as fast or as clean as id like to. And its easy to blame myself for that. But when i put where i am now into the context of the last five years of my life, I just feel proud and assured. I'm happy that I'm not the only one feeling these things. I've felt a bit crazy.
Great video! thank you so much for your work :D
Great, would watch it again
my mother developed early onset dementia about when I graduated high school. this went super fast and she deteriorated until she passed away in a nursing home when I was 23 during my last semester of college. This really fucked me up obviously and I don't even remember graduating college because I just went into some sort of autopilot mode because I couldn't drop out at that point, when I was like a month away from getting my degree. afterwards, I just stayed stuck in my part time job for a while, had terrible stomach aches and heart burn all the time, smoked a ton of weed to try and get away. I wanted to go teach English abroad but I knew I wasn't ready to do that. I didn't finally get out of it until maybe around 25, and then I did my dream of teaching English in South Korea for many years. where I was also stuck there during Covid even though I wanted to come back haha. now I'm back in the US, and people are miserable here. I don't get why... because there's still so many things we have so much better and take for granted (at least if you are in a lower middle class slipping into working class like myself and many are here since you are on the internet with time to watch videos like this I'd assume haha) in a way, my mother passing was the worst and also maybe a good thing for my life. I used to feel "depressed" when I was a teenager (maybe that's just called being a teenager lol) and thought I had to go the pill route and yadda yadda... after making it through the complicated grief fog, and South Korean work culture which is way worse than US kicking my ass into adulthood... now I've never felt depressed again. why would I feel depressed and hate my life when I have the blessing of actually being alive and healthy? my most important person in the world didn't get that. I have to live my life for my mother. I don't need meaning. I just need life. life in and of itself is meaningful. because, what is the alternative? it's almost hard for me now to understand why everyone is so fucking miserable. we don't really have it THAT bad in the large scheme of things in human history..... I mean come on...
I now work at an office in a hospital, and it does feel like an important job and like I'm important to my community even if it gets stressful and is understaffed and I definitely should be paid more haha. also it disgusts me how US healthcare is... I'd say this is the absolute worst problem our nation faces. I don't even care about student loans, sure they suck, but it's not going to end the world or kill people. but our healthcare is really something to be ashamed about. living life is good... but yes, we still must fight to improve the unfairness we see going on.
Lmao. Yes good explanation on how Americans feel depressed for having it too easy
I'm a 21 immigrant on the US, I didn't went to collage becuse there wasn't a career I was passionate about, why do I even need to be passionate about it? I did a bootcamp on design, now I'm looking for entry level jobs and they require minimum 3-5 years of experience to be a JUNIOR designer. I wonder if i should go to college but i don't want to drown on debt and then be struggling to find a job like almost everyone in the design industry. I feel like everything I do is in vane.
Community College and government grants and state grants is how I did it. You can too. Go community it's cheaper then state or city university.
omgg I LOVE olisunvia!! ❤
Yo, you should do a commentary on the anime Welcome to the N.H.K... I think it will fit this theme you got going for the past couple months.
Before I even start the video, I can say that at 40, every birthday seems to bring me closer to the end. When I was a child, every birthday was progress towards growing up.
That being said, I've learned and grown a lot in my adult years, even if it leaves me wishing that my life could have been different in various ways.
I already know what I am going to do tomorrow
Watching this on my 30th birthday trying to ward off anxiety
I am only 22 years old and feel like I kind of wasted my primary years in solitude. I am an introvert and I want love and connection outside of my country, but due to the way I am towards life it might bring about some complications, idk. 🤷♂️
Outside of your country? Where do you live? Despite what the internet would have us believe, most people will find there companion with the social circles they were born into. The internet has given us a glorious delusion of options. The problem is how we perceive those options. We have more creative freedom then we ever did in the past but too many high expectations on ourselves as a result.
@StarGaze725 I am from California but at the time of sending that comment, I was in Virginia and now I am in Germany at my unit trying to expand my horizons.
I have to work in order to afford my passions and adulting to me is just taking personal responsibility and making your own rules.
Even at 22 (15 years ago) i quickly realized partying and over indulging in entertainment is going to get boring and stale super fast and i need to figure out what i want in life and i felt like not striving to pursue my goals of being a better artist would be a squandering of everyone that helped me over life. So i sacrificed time with friends, events, video games and movies, and have few but super close relationships. I dont get much a break having to work a full time job still. Cant complain cause i dont hate my job, i just like anyone else, would choose what i like to do as a living any day.
My mother used play riot/Brand new Eyes in the car when I was growing up. After laughter came out when I was in sixth grade, Next week I start college. I really have grown up listening to this band. This summer I was supposed to see them live, unfortunately the show was canceled. The last time they toured was in 2017/2018. The thought of having to wait 5ish years to see them saddens me. So much can change in 5 years.
idk if anyone here has watched Digimon Adventure Last Evolution Kizuna (2020), but I feel like it really explores this well, but you kinda need general knowledge of Digimon/ Digimon Adventure to get it, but I think Sisyphus' comment about retaining the inner child by growing up is basically just a summary of the movie lol
Though the movie ended with the digimon vanishing from the kid's lives. I dunno, to me it felt a lot like the movie was telling me as a long-time fan to finally "let go of childish things" like, well, digimon, and it doesn't sit right with me until this day.
There's some argument to be made that the things we liked as kids still being interests of ours as adults is the desperate attempt to hold on to childhood or "simpler times", but at the same time those children who are now grown up and have disposable income are endlessly catered to with rebooted shows, movies, new merchandise coming out etc. etc.
And that in turn feels like my own childhood interest has been turned against me somehow. Like the plan worked out just as intended. Get them hooked young and bleed them dry once they're old enough to pay.
Sorry for the negativity, I carried these thoughts around a lot the past weeks. Hope my points make sense and that anyone reading has a nice day!
I used to feel this but I magically stopped caring whatsoever when I lost my job and went survival mode lol
27:08 How? Read more children’s lit. No, seriously.
And I don’t mean the Disney versions-I mean collections of folktales meant to prepare kids for adulthood.
Also, turn your neighbors into friends (if they seem okay with the idea).
Yooo i had no idea u n olivia knew each other! loved the discussion today
Being an adult is looking at all the things and hobbies you picked your in your 20s and thinking "I'll get to those one day."
Aesop has been my favorite musician since 2001. Not many people know about him. You referencing him put a huge smile on my face. His most recent album Integrated Tech Solutions touches on a lot of political issues if you haven’t checked it out you should.
Having to age and come to the realisation that you have to move on in life and shit makes me consider death as an option. At some point the uncertainty of death seems more appealing then the uncertainty of the future. It may be just me but honestly I dont want to grow up,be an adult and have to deal with life.Its not like I can do anything about it so might as well just accept it but I cant.I simply cant
@@thegodplace7887 I may be in a bad place spiritually because I cant seem to not feel like I messed up existence
When I was 23 I thought it was too late for me I was wrong. Now I'm 33 and I've thought it's too late for me and I'm certain that I'm wrong. This life is over when it's over. Some people get two years some people get ninety. It's beautiful either way. Risk is just a part of it and there's no success without failure. You'll get there.
@@glgmanWhat makes you feel like you messed up your life?
@@TheGoldenPlatoon757 I guess its the fact that I feel hopeless and with no direction for the future plus its the factor of what other people think and expect of me
Saw my band in the thumbnail and clicked so quickly LOL. But damn I’m here for how deeply this was analysed haha.
I really love your videos. Not only do I think you are smart, but I feel like you're making me smarter.
Thank you for including Aesop, he's incredible
Great job to everyone who participated in this video! Living in a capitalist country… Well world is not easy, but at least we’re trying to discuss these matters😅