This is why I’m against moving in before marriage. Per judge Tohler “ Don’t do wifely duties at girlfriend prices” AND he’s cheating on her?! Girl move around!
I have to disagree on that one. You can move in before marriage to test how compatible you really are, but you are not his maid etc. That needs clear and crisp boundaries and good communication. Compatibility in everyday life is so so important, you should test it before marriage, because breaking up is way easier than divorcing... but moving in does not automatically mean that you do the chores and the "wifely duties".
He's using his nationality as an excuse for cheating. He might need to learn what the American saying is " When in Rome, do as the Roman's do ". There's no excuse for cheating no matter where you're from.
I am a Nigerian/togolese woman who married a Jamaican and the cultural differences are huge but very beautiful. And please not every AFRICAN who dates an AMERICAN is in need of a green card. Stop insulting us please. Some are but not everyone .
@@geminlove24 ignorant and divisive comments are made about BLACK Americans all the time by BLACK people from other countries so we ALL should stop stereotyping each other. No one is innocent.
I dated a man from African and he was very sneaky and a cheater. He accused me of cheating on him with my male cousin. I asked him was he serious? Boy he was lol talking about he slept with his cousin before. Then coming to find out he was cheating on me with a white woman. Then to show you how karma works, she broke up with his ass through an email. Then this fool had the nerves to try to get back together. I told his ass HELL TO THE NAH! LOL (In my my Whitney voice.)
@@sparklesp9304 yeah he would have moved on! Highly doubt he would have given her anymore especially no ring on it if she saved herself for him for the future 😏
Love, love, love Judge Star!!! Every time I see her she puts a smile on my face. She has so much wisdom and class. She is a beautiful person inside as well as outside. I can't say enough good things about her. I love her show!!! Thank you so much for posting. Blessings.
Baba is an African word. Are we still here generalising Africa as a country. There are more than 50 countries each with multiple languages. Is "ciao" a European word?
@@jaewill2283 The difference is that she knows where he's from. He is Nigerian. Africa is not a singular experience/language/culture. Its irritating, I know someone from Alabama and NY are uniquely different in regards to regional culture, why is it so difficult for folks to understand over 50 countries in Africa are uniquely different as well.
They also say Baba in Eastern Europe and in Asia (in E.Europe it means "old woman", in Asia "grandpa or dad"). I know there are different countries but some words/cultures mix and the same words can be shared.
@@pcarebear1 Oh lovely, I didn't know it was used in those countries as well. The point I was making is that she generalised the word and said it was African instead of Nigerian. It's like saying baba is an Asian word when not all Asain countries use the word.
Maybe she didn't want to identify the country out of respect and to prevent others from stereotyping Nigerians so she identified the continent instead of the country. So easy to get offended.
They should've discussed their expectations in the relationship before getting together. Kinda sounds like he should be with an African woman since he's so traditional culturally
It’s a case of cultural differences. I am Nigerian and he is too so I definitely understand the expectations he had. We love keeping in touch with each other, we don’t live isolated lives and to be honest it helps us with the needed support to help us cope with life’s struggles. Cultural differences can cause lots of cracks in relationships. Also, most Nigerians prefer to date and marry Nigerians to avoid cultural differences. If he didn’t want to date her anymore he should have just left her alone. We are even from the same tribe so I know how our men move. They are better apart.
It is highly likely that he has a wife in Nigeria. Woman be very cautious. Make sure he has his papers in order, many women and men are being used for that reason.
Women, don't ever let any man use their culture to disrespect you and insult your intelligence. When there are misogynist and narcissistic, they will do that on whoever tolerates it. Especially, when you are not first choice, they will never make their priority, and the same way they disrespect you, they open the door for anyone around to disrespect you. It doesn't matter if you are are from the culture. Wait until he gets the lady he really likes and love and willing to do anything with, the level of respect and consideration and communication will be different. And will not be a revolving door at his house, or at least the woman of the house will get a heads up. Thank you.
FYI - Africans always have lots of people over their house, that's their culture, togetherness. Americans live more isolated lives. I have African friends and going to their house seeing 20 pair of shoes at the door is normal and the ones I know look out for each other. African men are more dominating and I looked at his face when Judge Star chastise him. He's not use to this from women. Watch out green card alert.
knowing damn well women back at home will NOT do that!! They come here wanting traditional African woman values from an American woman but want to her to work like an American woman... 🤔TF
You can't tell her thay she can't go out if she "didn't tell you before hand" but you want her to "spend time with you" when you didn't tell her ahead of time!!
I think some of their disconnects may be due to cultural differences, but the bigger issue is that he is shady. I wouldn't be surprised if his "cousin" is really his wife or girlfriend.
It’s very true that cultural differences are part of the problem here. We all here the adage it takes a village to raise a child. Those of us from the African continent who have made it out here help quite a bit in our different communities. Yes people who just know you will call you and ask for help; and yes they will call you at all hours of the day. In this culture people are self-centered and don’t support each other. In the motherland we are part of the community and work to build that community with the little we make out here. We pay hospital bills, send children to school, support parents because there’s no safety net out there. I’ve seen a lot of American women who have traveled and experienced that. They have wonderful relationships with their African men or women. Ask anyone who has been on the Peace Corps. Let’s educate ourselves and steer away from stereotypes and generalizations. Peace
So it’s ok for him to have atleast 10 ppl at their house w/o telling her but when she gets ready to go out w/ her friends it’s a problem because she didn’t tell him.
She’s getting controlled because she’s putting up with it. That has to do with ppl in general. Ive dated at least 7 African men and have never been controlled. Ppl do what you allow.
African men are known for having a harem, so him having several side chicks ,would not be surprising to me, and should not be surprising to her either, it is just a cultural risk they both took in becoming a couple, Judge Star also knew he was untruthful, about that woman being his cousin 😁💯
Their HIV/AIDS statistics are not a surprise either. If it is cultural to be sexually irresponsible and kill your partner, by sleeping around, I want no parts of it. ✌️ Anyone with sense would want no part of it either.
Cultural differences is such a cop out my man Hawaiian and I'm American black with triniblood but trust issues are us issues like judge star Jones said no mutual respect hot sex can't leave your relationship with an longlasting foundation
Stop stereotyping people! Thank you. One person doesn’t represent a whole group. Not all African American men are the same, not all African men are the same.✌️
As a Haitian woman who's lived in USA for 27 years of my life every single black women coming from outside of US need to date an African-American men because you will appreciate the men of your culture a lot more especially when it comes to finance and you will appreciate African-American men for the way they just let their women be, let her use her options and things of that sort so it's our choice but just a lil heads-up about the expectations. To each her own
A family member of mine had relationship with a Nigerian man and had two kids. He went home for vacation and came back with a wife and 2 kids and just ignored her. Sorry to don’t trust Nigerian men 😢
I had a conversation yesterday with someone about this. They never had a feminist movement in their country so they don't think they have to respect women.
@@maureen9853 yeah, that's what I said ... and also the court( Judge ) should make sure to take time to get the right pronunciation of people's names especially when it's a foreign names
Ah beg. There are different countries in Africa. There are Ghanaian accents, Nigerian accents, Sierra Leonean accents etc ah beg!!! Please learn about Africa and it’s different countries before dealing with our men. Cultural differences is headache. He probably cheating and she seems more invested than he is. She seems like a good woman she gotta let him go.
@@Iamlindagraham no it’s not a huge difference because there’s still different groups of people and america is a continent dummy ! Africans make some pretty ignorant comments about america and other cultures go cry somewhere else
I didn't hear any cultural differences here. There are many American men who come on the show and expect and demand the same and even more of their American women. The cultural difference got exaggerated without any real evidence.
1:38 "You've lived together for two of those years." PAUSE! As someone who's married to an African, this would never fly. Shacking up is a sin and not traditional at all.
THATS WHY ME AND MY HUSBAND SEPARATED HE HAD TO HAVE COMPANY EVERY DAY, BUT THE STRAW THAT BROKE THE CAMELS BACK IS WHEN 1 DAY HE HAD COMPANY AND 1 OF HIS FEMALE FRIEND YES FEMALE FRIEND CAR GOT TOWED MY HUSBAND WAS SO UPSET THEY TOLD HER CAR YOU WOULD OF THOUGHT SHE WAS THE WIFE,HE IMMEDIATELY CALL THE TOW AND WROTE A CHECK OUT GOT MAD BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T EXPECT CHECKS,MY TAGS EXPIRED BECAUSE I BROUGHT MY CAR DOWN FROM OKLAHOMA SO I CAN HAVE MY OWN CAR,I ASK HIM 2 WEEKS PRIOR CAN HE GIVE ME MONEY FOR MY TAGS HE SAID NO,I CAN GIVE MY CAR UP AND DRIVE HIS CHRYSLER I DONT MIND DRIVING HIS CAR,BUT I STILL WANTED MY OWN TRANSPORTATION WE WERE STATIONED IN CHULA VISTA CALIFORNIA AT THE TIME,SO I WENT HOME HIS FRIENDS ALWAYS CAME 1ST HE DIDN'T EVEN WANT TO BUY FOOD FOR THE HOUSE UNLESS HIS HAVE A DINNER FOR HIS FRIENDS HE WAS A VERY SELFISH PERSON.
He thought he had her seated And planted Not knowing she a whole Private 👀.. green card maybe 😂😂😂😂 it didn't take her 2 years to figure out who he is girl stop playing yourself
This is what African men do. Come to your country, work, date your women and then marry a girl they were dating from Afirca all along. Nothing new... she better wise up
I learned at a early age, that I would never date an African man. Their first lesson from me would be African American History. I don't think that they wouldn't/couldn't relate. I'm truly about my Black People, decedent of my enslaved ancestors.
You're very right. No African man would want to date you as well,because of the reason you gave. It's a 50-50 thing. We don't play with our very deep African roots.
Damn, I ONLY date African men and even married one. Never been treated better in my case. There are so many countries in Africa, all the men and cultures don’t think the same. Many know a lot about African American culture and are willing to learn.
Yeah. It's challenging in various ways, the language, when they go home for 3-4 months vacation and you're not there, as someone who dated a Nigerian and a Burkina be I got stories for days
I agree and most LOVEEEEEE yt ppl. You see how MOST of them cried when their queen passed.... plus, a lot of them don't know enough about FBA history and I can say we don't know much about their history either but that's because they're history isn't easily known. Most of them were taught to not trust FBA anyway by the same people that enslaved us... go figure.
Did she really called him Mr M-B-A ? lol. It's not an acronym, it's a full word that should be pronounced in one go "embah". That was funny though, love Judge Star
If he knew that his culture and the like was so important to him than why didn't he just date someone from his country and a woman who shares his same views in the first place and avoid all this in the first place.
It's very hard for women, other than African women to adapt to African culture in the dating sector. The men feels It's ok to have multiple women whenever.
I didn't like how Judge Star didn't speak more on the cultural differences. Aquilla has every right to feel the way she feels about all that she spoke to and Gideon needs to know that he is with an American woman and not a Nigerian woman. He can't just push Nigerian views, values, etc... onto her and expect her to just go along with it as she wasn't raised with them. They need a hard sit down to talk and see if they can ACTUALLY make it work.
Yes, Judge Star! The young lady needs to move on. I noticed that Nigerian men love American women, but they want to change us to be like Nigerian women and that will never work! No disrespect to my sisters.
Their way of living is different. She isn't going to get her way with him. They don't tolerate disrespect. And they do expect home cooked meals not this microwave stuff we do here. And be prepared for the 6hr time difference.
You mean the women tolerate disrespect as respect is treating people how you want to be treated! If I'm cleaning, so will he! If I'm cooking, so will he! If he has multiple wives, that must mean I have multiple husbands as respect looks like treating people how you want to be treated, and America is established on the basis that all HUMAN beings are EQUAL, and therefore worthy of the same level of respect. If you don't like our values of equality and respect and NO hierarchy, don't come here. There are no kings in America, we're all equal and it needs to stay that way!
This is why I’m against moving in before marriage. Per judge Tohler “ Don’t do wifely duties at girlfriend prices” AND he’s cheating on her?! Girl move around!
Yeah, I'm with Judge Toler on that one too
AMEN… I learned my lesson from that.
I have to disagree on that one. You can move in before marriage to test how compatible you really are, but you are not his maid etc. That needs clear and crisp boundaries and good communication. Compatibility in everyday life is so so important, you should test it before marriage, because breaking up is way easier than divorcing... but moving in does not automatically mean that you do the chores and the "wifely duties".
So wait till your married with legal ties and it can still be the same things. Paper doesn’t change ppl
@@danielle9635 I’m speaking on the fact that, why act like a wife with no ring
He's using his nationality as an excuse for cheating. He might need to learn what the American saying is " When in Rome, do as the Roman's do ". There's no excuse for cheating no matter where you're from.
She is doing too many duties before he has even tried to marry her. She has already messed up.
SAY IT AGAIN FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK SIS!
SHE has messed up? I think he is not respectful or thankful. It is not a contest to win a prize. Stop making man the best thing there is
Amen!
@@Zeitics you apparently didn’t understand the comment…🤦🏾♀️
@@honeywest39j95 ignore me then
“And a hush fell over Jerusalem!” 😂😂😂
I love when Judge Star says that
I loved that line, too. 🤭🤭🤭
He didn't say a word
Yeeeeesss! This and “pack up your pictures and your plants”🤭🤭
I am a Nigerian/togolese woman who married a Jamaican and the cultural differences are huge but very beautiful.
And please not every AFRICAN who dates an AMERICAN is in need of a green card. Stop insulting us please. Some are but not everyone .
Thank you. Very ignorant and divissive comments
@@geminlove24 ignorant and divisive comments are made about BLACK Americans all the time by BLACK people from other countries so we ALL should stop stereotyping each other. No one is innocent.
EXACTLY!!! Thank you for saying this sis. Many of us do NOT require immigration sponsorship.
Hey hey my togolese sister 🇹🇬
She is very beautiful look good in the African dress
I've seen him in Dallas before. I'm 100% sure he is posted in a group that warns women about men like this. This is hilarious. 😂
🤣🤣🤣 typical
LMAO.
Oh Dang!😂😂😂
Jamaican-American married to a Nigerian and can relate to the unannounced company coming over....we had to set some boundaries
HE IS LYINGGGGGGG . Girl, run please run!
🏃🏽♀️ Run 🏃🏽♀️
I won’t be suprised if he has a family on the other side.
Sure right.most of them do..wife and children. SMH
I dated a man from African and he was very sneaky and a cheater. He accused me of cheating on him with my male cousin. I asked him was he serious? Boy he was lol talking about he slept with his cousin before. Then coming to find out he was cheating on me with a white woman. Then to show you how karma works, she broke up with his ass through an email. Then this fool had the nerves to try to get back together. I told his ass HELL TO THE NAH! LOL (In my my Whitney voice.)
He got his just deserts
😂
Yea they literally too much!
He cheated BEFORE marriage?! Girl bye! Relationship OVER🙅🏾♀️
He more than likely has a wife in his own country, girl you better run for your life.
@Nneka Iroegbu, you are probably right! I hadn't thought about that.
@@renaparker4579 Most of them do. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Most of them do Anyway smh
For real For real, he thinks he is in Nigeria where he can control his woman around...
Igbo men🥱🥱
“And a hush fell over Jerusalem…” 🤣🤣🤣😆😆😆😂😂😂😂😂 I died when Judge Starr said that!
Loved it, too! 🤭🤭🤭
The SILENCE after he said it was his cousin 😭
🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The hesitation before 😂😂
But it might be 😂😂😂
Star Jones shines in her new role!
So basically this is good test run for her to see what marraige with him would be like. Clearly they should end it.
No, it's not a good test run. They shacked up. If she would've demanded a ring from him before calling him baba, his true colors would've shown then.
@@MiguelDLewis He's cheating on his wife, though, smh, so the treatment wouldn't be any better.
@@sparklesp9304 yeah he would have moved on! Highly doubt he would have given her anymore especially no ring on it if she saved herself for him for the future 😏
He is the worst liar I have seen on divorce court!
Love, love, love Judge Star!!! Every time I see her she puts a smile on my face. She has so much wisdom and class. She is a beautiful person inside as well as outside. I can't say enough good things about her. I love her show!!! Thank you so much for posting. Blessings.
He looks uninterested while the judge is talking he clearly doesn't want the relationship
Baba is an African word. Are we still here generalising Africa as a country. There are more than 50 countries each with multiple languages.
Is "ciao" a European word?
I mean I don’t know which language that is but I know it’s European so yeah. People generalize when they don’t know specifics
@@jaewill2283 The difference is that she knows where he's from. He is Nigerian. Africa is not a singular experience/language/culture. Its irritating, I know someone from Alabama and NY are uniquely different in regards to regional culture, why is it so difficult for folks to understand over 50 countries in Africa are uniquely different as well.
They also say Baba in Eastern Europe and in Asia (in E.Europe it means "old woman", in Asia "grandpa or dad"). I know there are different countries but some words/cultures mix and the same words can be shared.
@@pcarebear1 Oh lovely, I didn't know it was used in those countries as well. The point I was making is that she generalised the word and said it was African instead of Nigerian. It's like saying baba is an Asian word when not all Asain countries use the word.
Maybe she didn't want to identify the country out of respect and to prevent others from stereotyping Nigerians so she identified the continent instead of the country. So easy to get offended.
The Judge is On point as usual. He is a liar and making a fool over her. Kick him out!
She should not have moved in with him that's where we as women go wrong let those men decide if they want to marry you with your own homes.
@@shirleyrussell7089 thank you
They should've discussed their expectations in the relationship before getting together. Kinda sounds like he should be with an African woman since he's so traditional culturally
As a Southern African woman on behalf of the others we kindly decline😂 maybe his own tribe in the west.
It’s a case of cultural differences. I am Nigerian and he is too so I definitely understand the expectations he had. We love keeping in touch with each other, we don’t live isolated lives and to be honest it helps us with the needed support to help us cope with life’s struggles. Cultural differences can cause lots of cracks in relationships. Also, most Nigerians prefer to date and marry Nigerians to avoid cultural differences. If he didn’t want to date her anymore he should have just left her alone. We are even from the same tribe so I know how our men move. They are better apart.
His foolishness cannot be blamed on "cultural differences". He's just an irresponsible and immature liar.
Like that Nigerian man who got stabbed by his snow bunny?
They are definitely better apart, but also he don't seem to be honest
It's not cultural differences. They shacked up in college. That's against both the major Nigerian and African American religions.
He is a JERK!!!
It is highly likely that he has a wife in Nigeria. Woman be very cautious. Make sure he has his papers in order, many women and men are being used for that reason.
Women, don't ever let any man use their culture to disrespect you and insult your intelligence. When there are misogynist and narcissistic, they will do that on whoever tolerates it. Especially, when you are not first choice, they will never make their priority, and the same way they disrespect you, they open the door for anyone around to disrespect you. It doesn't matter if you are are from the culture. Wait until he gets the lady he really likes and love and willing to do anything with, the level of respect and consideration and communication will be different. And will not be a revolving door at his house, or at least the woman of the house will get a heads up. Thank you.
FYI - Africans always have lots of people over their house, that's their culture, togetherness. Americans live more isolated lives. I have African friends and going to their house seeing 20 pair of shoes at the door is normal and the ones I know look out for each other. African men are more dominating and I looked at his face when Judge Star chastise him. He's not use to this from women. Watch out green card alert.
Truth
Why would he need her for a green card when he's a college educated man. Don't be ignorant.
@@geminlove24 same thought
He doesn't like her
Why do y’all assume that African people are illegal here? 😂
Don’t nobody wanna be bothered wit his cheating azz cuz ain’t nothing popular about him other than this show
"and a hush fell over Jerusalem"! Lord it took me all the way out! Judge Starr I love you!!!!!
Oooh, you can have, 10 friends cars in the driveway and she can't go out with friends🤔🤔#BOB
This guy is in her home living with her and he's inviting lots of his friends in her home when she is not there, disrespectful. Girl step
I am a Nigerian and this guy is NOT the standard... he is delusional
Girl! RUN‼️
This show really has turned into relationship advice instead of divorce court lol
Is that a bad thing ?
True, but alot of good advice folks need
I am sure to never believe any story when they say: "to be honest..."
It really means: "I need to revise my story."
I don't understand men who expect women to work outside the home AND hold the household down alone as well.
knowing damn well women back at home will NOT do that!! They come here wanting traditional African woman values from an American woman but want to her to work like an American woman... 🤔TF
@@justIvy98 exactly. What In the actual F!! You can’t have both
American men think that too though.
That’s most African men for you. They think of a woman as their made
He is married and raising kids in African.Its normal at his age.
Run girl 🏃🏾♀️
When Judge said Mr MBA, that cracked me up lol. That’s not how you pronounce his name 🤣🤣🤣
Yes 😂
More importantly why did he not choose to correct and teach them how to pronounce his name.
@@obimonye6706 I know right ! 🤣
Yes I was wondering why they didn’t correct it too.
Ngl that made me cringe I’m like is no one gonna say it? 😭🤣
You can't tell her thay she can't go out if she "didn't tell you before hand" but you want her to "spend time with you" when you didn't tell her ahead of time!!
This definitely sounds like cultural differences.
They don't have any business being together, he wants a woman from his village.
Fornbication is not a "cultural difference".
No, it doesn't. He is over her.
@@MiguelDLewis facts
I think some of their disconnects may be due to cultural differences, but the bigger issue is that he is shady. I wouldn't be surprised if his "cousin" is really his wife or girlfriend.
They all lies lol 😆 😂
It’s very true that cultural differences are part of the problem here. We all here the adage it takes a village to raise a child. Those of us from the African continent who have made it out here help quite a bit in our different communities. Yes people who just know you will call you and ask for help; and yes they will call you at all hours of the day. In this culture people are self-centered and don’t support each other. In the motherland we are part of the community and work to build that community with the little we make out here. We pay hospital bills, send children to school, support parents because there’s no safety net out there. I’ve seen a lot of American women who have traveled and experienced that. They have wonderful relationships with their African men or women. Ask anyone who has been on the Peace Corps.
Let’s educate ourselves and steer away from stereotypes and generalizations.
Peace
Education does not make ppl whole human beings.
*I would been loud in the phone “Mume is everything ok?!” 3 am is crazy*
So it’s ok for him to have atleast 10 ppl at their house w/o telling her but when she gets ready to go out w/ her friends it’s a problem because she didn’t tell him.
They would have been better as friends.
Yea
They love to have two and three different women
She is so Beautiful and Intelligent. He is a straight lying..Men are Men all over the world..
She's as beautiful and intelligent as she is unwise and hedonistic. They both got what they deserve.
I thought they should break up from the introduction alone.
Oh I ❤ how Judge Starr broke it all down in a way they could relate!!!
She’s getting controlled because she’s putting up with it. That has to do with ppl in general. Ive dated at least 7 African men and have never been controlled. Ppl do what you allow.
Lmaoooo he’s a true definition of a narcissist, sis better run 😂
American women like to use words like narcissistic! insecure! but your are the ones with all these terrible characters
African men are known for having a harem, so him having several side chicks ,would not be surprising to me, and should not be surprising to her either, it is just a cultural risk they both took in becoming a couple, Judge Star also knew he was untruthful, about that woman being his cousin 😁💯
Yeah that's my dad
I agree, with you.
@@urkelsaloneurkelbeatz5287 Stop it you sound like a fool 👀
My don’t know any African man with a harem. I am Cameroonian my dad did not have a harem
Their HIV/AIDS statistics are not a surprise either. If it is cultural to be sexually irresponsible and kill your partner, by sleeping around, I want no parts of it. ✌️ Anyone with sense would want no part of it either.
Unsafe to have relationship with someone that you cannot understand their language.
That part! African men are accustomed to more than one wife! It could be family as well!🤷🏽♀️
Cultural differences is such a cop out my man Hawaiian and I'm American black with triniblood but trust issues are us issues like judge star Jones said no mutual respect hot sex can't leave your relationship with an longlasting foundation
Lmao!!!!😂 CHANGED HIS NAME TO BOB! I can’t!!!!😂😂😂
I've learned my lesson for not doing too much for a man , he only expects more and more
It’s the hushes over Jerusalem for me 😅
She said I started looking delicious...lol
He’s a liar and a cheater. Girl run
I'm Nigerian, why should my cousin call me and ask for money? Brah is lying!🙃
Stop stereotyping people! Thank you. One person doesn’t represent a whole group. Not all African American men are the same, not all African men are the same.✌️
Tell them oo
Sorry but all African men are the same period
As a Haitian woman who's lived in USA for 27 years of my life every single black women coming from outside of US need to date an African-American men because you will appreciate the men of your culture a lot more especially when it comes to finance and you will appreciate African-American men for the way they just let their women be, let her use her options and things of that sort so it's our choice but just a lil heads-up about the expectations. To each her own
@@nathaliekapinga3255 I’m sorry you’ve only met bad ones 🤷🏽♀️
Star Jones, you are doing a great job. 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
A family member of mine had relationship with a Nigerian man and had two kids. He went home for vacation and came back with a wife and 2 kids and just ignored her. Sorry to don’t trust Nigerian men 😢
I had a conversation yesterday with someone about this. They never had a feminist movement in their country so they don't think they have to respect women.
If am going out with American woman we'll have to go to Africa for her to feel being part of my African family.
Don’t date American stop trying to change people date your people
I cringe each time Judge Star pronounces his last name as a spelling 😩
He could have corrected her
@@maureen9853 yeah, that's what I said ... and also the court( Judge ) should make sure to take time to get the right pronunciation of people's names especially when it's a foreign names
@@Lolo_NwanyiOma Absolutely 👍
The comment was looking for. 🙌🏽
Ah beg. There are different countries in Africa. There are Ghanaian accents, Nigerian accents, Sierra Leonean accents etc ah beg!!! Please learn about Africa and it’s different countries before dealing with our men.
Cultural differences is headache. He probably cheating and she seems more invested than he is. She seems like a good woman she gotta let him go.
Last last after coping her money, he will go and marry his village girl. She needs to drop him.
Good women don't shack up before marriage. They both need to repent.
There’s different trunks accents in America yet y’all say American accents 😒😒 as a whole
@@1thegreat841 from the same country… we are talking about a CONTINENT! Nowhere near the same!!
@@Iamlindagraham no it’s not a huge difference because there’s still different groups of people and america is a continent dummy ! Africans make some pretty ignorant comments about america and other cultures go cry somewhere else
They have two TOTALLY different personalities.
I can’t believe this man is letting them call him M.B.A and not mba
SHUNTAEEEE GIRL WHAT ARE U DOING IN DIVORCE COURT😄
DROPPP HIM!!!!!!!
Never be unevenly yoke in no situation..Set up for failure!
They both act like nonbelievers anyway. They are evenly yoked.
I didn't hear any cultural differences here. There are many American men who come on the show and expect and demand the same and even more of their American women. The cultural difference got exaggerated without any real evidence.
I could not finish the episode. The tapping of the bracelets on the podium was driving me crazy.
1:38 "You've lived together for two of those years."
PAUSE! As someone who's married to an African, this would never fly. Shacking up is a sin and not traditional at all.
He is telling lots of lies!!! Girl, move on! Don’t trust him!!
THATS WHY ME AND MY HUSBAND SEPARATED HE HAD TO HAVE COMPANY EVERY DAY, BUT THE STRAW THAT BROKE THE CAMELS BACK IS WHEN 1 DAY HE HAD COMPANY AND 1 OF HIS FEMALE FRIEND YES FEMALE FRIEND CAR GOT TOWED MY HUSBAND WAS SO UPSET THEY TOLD HER CAR YOU WOULD OF THOUGHT SHE WAS THE WIFE,HE IMMEDIATELY CALL THE TOW AND WROTE A CHECK OUT GOT MAD BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T EXPECT CHECKS,MY TAGS EXPIRED BECAUSE I BROUGHT MY CAR DOWN FROM OKLAHOMA SO I CAN HAVE MY OWN CAR,I ASK HIM 2 WEEKS PRIOR CAN HE GIVE ME MONEY FOR MY TAGS HE SAID NO,I CAN GIVE MY CAR UP AND DRIVE HIS CHRYSLER I DONT MIND DRIVING HIS CAR,BUT I STILL WANTED MY OWN TRANSPORTATION WE WERE STATIONED IN CHULA VISTA CALIFORNIA AT THE TIME,SO I WENT HOME HIS FRIENDS ALWAYS CAME 1ST HE DIDN'T EVEN WANT TO BUY FOOD FOR THE HOUSE UNLESS HIS HAVE A DINNER FOR HIS FRIENDS HE WAS A VERY SELFISH PERSON.
It's the audience member "Are you married".LOL
I just heard it😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Girl, go your way
EXPEDITIOUSLY!!!!
Hahaha. Judge Star and her “And a hush fell over Jerusalem.” 😂😂😂
MY COUSIN 😂😂😂😂… that one… LIES LIES LIES…
Boyfriend?? Why they on divorce court 🙄
Social degradation.
And that's the african man for ya...smh...who said are you married in the audience 🤣🤣🤣
I think the woman in red😂
And a hush fell over Jerusalem😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😊
He thought he had her seated And planted
Not knowing she a whole Private 👀.. green card maybe 😂😂😂😂 it didn't take her 2 years to figure out who he is girl stop playing yourself
This is what African men do. Come to your country, work, date your women and then marry a girl they were dating from Afirca all along. Nothing new... she better wise up
These men have to stop expecting things that they not giving in return
She’s so Beautiful😍😍😍
I learned at a early age, that I would never date an African man. Their first lesson from me would be African American History. I don't think that they wouldn't/couldn't relate. I'm truly about my Black People, decedent of my enslaved ancestors.
No🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽🙅🏽♂️🤦🏽♀️
You're very right. No African man would want to date you as well,because of the reason you gave. It's a 50-50 thing. We don't play with our very deep African roots.
Damn, I ONLY date African men and even married one. Never been treated better in my case. There are so many countries in Africa, all the men and cultures don’t think the same. Many know a lot about African American culture and are willing to learn.
Yeah. It's challenging in various ways, the language, when they go home for 3-4 months vacation and you're not there, as someone who dated a Nigerian and a Burkina be I got stories for days
I agree and most LOVEEEEEE yt ppl. You see how MOST of them cried when their queen passed.... plus, a lot of them don't know enough about FBA history and I can say we don't know much about their history either but that's because they're history isn't easily known. Most of them were taught to not trust FBA anyway by the same people that enslaved us... go figure.
1 minute in..it’s Mba, like “Zumba”…. “Mba”. Not M.B.A 😂🤣
Love her lime green dress tooo cute !!!
Lolll the judge call the guy mister M.B.A ohhh lord American its Mbaaa 😂😂😂
Did she really called him Mr M-B-A ? lol. It's not an acronym, it's a full word that should be pronounced in one go "embah".
That was funny though, love Judge Star
She’s saying “embah” listen carefully
How long have they been dating and she doesn’t say the name of the country he is from? Instead she says Africa. That’s a red flag.
If he knew that his culture and the like was so important to him than why didn't he just date someone from his country and a woman who shares his same views in the first place and avoid all this in the first place.
It's very hard for women, other than African women to adapt to African culture in the dating sector. The men feels It's ok to have multiple women whenever.
That's why HIV/AIDS and STDs are so high in Africa.
@@gapeach14 😏
@@gapeach14 And they're immigrating to the US with the same mindset.
I didn't like how Judge Star didn't speak more on the cultural differences. Aquilla has every right to feel the way she feels about all that she spoke to and Gideon needs to know that he is with an American woman and not a Nigerian woman. He can't just push Nigerian views, values, etc... onto her and expect her to just go along with it as she wasn't raised with them. They need a hard sit down to talk and see if they can ACTUALLY make it work.
This girl is wasting her time AND her youth. Runnnnn and don’t look back. He doesn’t want you and at this point you are allowing the hurt.
No one is like judge Lynn cross examination, filter for BS, and on point advice
Judge Lynn is the freaking best!!!
Why post that here?! So rude. Toler's videos are on YT, comment there.
Run Miss Kennedy, Run!!!!! Proud of you 👏
If I hear “Mr. MBA” again, I’m gonna lose it! Why didn’t they ask him how he pronounces his name? It’s pronounced “em-ba”. Very simple…sheesh!!
😂😂😂😂 I hear you!
Not MBA it's a Biafran name pronounced as Mmmm ba
Thats what I thought. Mmba
Correct
I'm from SA and I know African names,I knew there was no way the man's name was MBA🙄
Igbo kwenu.......!!!
@@shannondonnelly7985 u thought but u are wrong
Yes, Judge Star! The young lady needs to move on. I noticed that Nigerian men love American women, but they want to change us to be like Nigerian women and that will never work! No disrespect to my sisters.
I didn't want to be a nigerian women I love begin me
Yep! We love our own culture!!!
Thank goodness she has no children with him. And if he had respect for her, he wouldn't be living under a woman.
Their way of living is different. She isn't going to get her way with him. They don't tolerate disrespect. And they do expect home cooked meals not this microwave stuff we do here. And be prepared for the 6hr time difference.
He needs to marry a girl from his own country/ village.
Yea dey need to stick to the women who are already fit for they culture den.
@@MzQueen028 I tire oooh.
@@nnekairoegbu2360 PERIODT!!!
You mean the women tolerate disrespect as respect is treating people how you want to be treated! If I'm cleaning, so will he! If I'm cooking, so will he! If he has multiple wives, that must mean I have multiple husbands as respect looks like treating people how you want to be treated, and America is established on the basis that all HUMAN beings are EQUAL, and therefore worthy of the same level of respect. If you don't like our values of equality and respect and NO hierarchy, don't come here. There are no kings in America, we're all equal and it needs to stay that way!